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Deliberately Unbound

Deliberately Unbound

By Deliberately Unbound
Join me, Sher, while I explore and discuss the tools, practices, lessons and views of Authors, Advocates, and Survivors who have Become Unbound from the impact of sexual assault and domestic violence.
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What's At Stake?
It's up to us. Now more than ever we must be exquisitely vigilant, aware, and act before we all lose. I invite you to listen to my take away on the overturning of Roe v Wade.
12:03
June 27, 2022
Assigning Meanings for Acceptance
How much of what we understand is because of the meaning we have assigned. What meaning do we assign to traumatic anniversaries?
07:32
June 25, 2022
Evolving Declaration of Truth
Acknowledging our truths isn't easy. It takes a massive amount of courage, not strength, to look at the beliefs that we hold about ourselves based on experiences in our lives.
10:12
June 10, 2022
I Am Sher Unbound
In one moment, with one statement, I staked my claim on the present. I AM. The only thing I must be is enough for myself.
06:02
June 03, 2022
Integration of Love With Awareness
With so many not allowing themselves to acknowledge and embrace their value (hidden behind unhealed wounds), it is of no surprise to me why it is so much of a struggle to feel our authentic selves and share our gifts. It's also of no surprise why survivors struggle to free themselves of their past and thrive with Awareness of Self-Love.
05:33
May 29, 2022
Courage to Feel
My intent is to feel, not simply exist with the unconscious survival mechanisms. I invite you to share this major win with me!!
05:37
May 11, 2022
Why Are We Allowing This?
My personal opinion is rarely shared. I share a passionate opinion concerning the deeper outcome of what will happen to women's choices if Roe v Wade is overturned.
07:03
May 04, 2022
Shaping the Energy of Conception
Being able to describe who I am, not what I am, with feeling is critical to the development of my self-awareness, confidence, and self-worth. Please join me on this episode as I share with you developing self-conception from victim to Unbound.
07:25
April 29, 2022
Surrender to Feeling
Viewing energy as a life force isn't as difficult as FEELING it. I invite you to listen in on this episode about the vulnerable experience of learning to surrender to feeling.
06:54
April 22, 2022
Attunement
Attunement may be described as a Knowing without Knowing, something deeper than intuitive. Please join me as I share with you a recent experience with my energy and attunement.
07:21
April 19, 2022
My Emotional Hotline
In a moment when your hotline is triggered, the worst thing you can do is nothing. The best thing you can do is what is appropriate for you.
06:10
April 08, 2022
Sharing The Truths of Dreams
"Facing our truths through writing heals us in so many ways. We learn what is important to us as we pen our pain and turn the page." I invite you to join me on this episode as I explore acceptance and sharing our truths for recovery from trauma.
08:47
March 17, 2022
Positive Transformation of Trauma
Do you think the following statement is true or false? "Trauma can transform in positive ways." Feel free to explore your answer in your journaling today after a brief explanation of my answer, on this episode of Deliberately Unbound.
04:48
March 09, 2022
International Women's Day
Journaling Inspiration: March 8
00:56
March 08, 2022
Aftershocks of Assumptions
Even seasoned, self-aware and informed trauma survivors may not recognize we are unconsciously accessing dormant or hidden assumptions about ourselves following a trauma reminder (trigger). Can we prevent these self assumptions?
05:37
February 25, 2022
Journaling Inspiration #9: The Aftershocks of Triggers
A new journaling prompt to draw awareness to our view of self after a trigger.
01:40
February 25, 2022
Dragons can be an Ally
Though I choose to Live Deliberately in the present, I can only do this with the concession there's no winner or loser in the battle between my ego and present self. There's only an Alliance.
06:49
February 19, 2022
What Made You Decide?
Please join me this week as I explore with fresh perspective what made me decide to Living Deliberately after resolving the traumatic experience of sexual assault and domestic violence.
05:42
February 11, 2022
Journaling Inspiration #8- Living Deliberately
What is Deliberately Living to YOU?
01:14
February 09, 2022
Journaling Inspiration #7: Simplifying Life
Sometimes we are trapped in our own bubbles of unawareness or inappropriate dismissive attitude towards our worth. This journaling prompt may inspire you to explore simplifying life.
01:35
January 25, 2022
Journaling Inspiration #6
Do you worry about what you "should" do with your time?
02:58
January 20, 2022
Journal Inspiration #5
Today's inspirational prompt comes from a hidden part of my heart I am Unlocking -- slowly.
00:56
January 16, 2022
Journaling Inspiration #4 -- Parts of Self
Another journaling prompt for your trauma recovery experience. This episode focuses on parts of self.
03:16
January 11, 2022
Journaling Inspiration #3
Explore the healing power of journaling with this and other prompts on your trauma recovery path.
00:39
December 26, 2021
What Do We Need to Be Aware Of?
There are over 2.7 million wounded grandparents parenting their grandchildren in the US today. This episode will share with you how we can become aware of what we need to be aware of as grandparents raising our grandchildren.
12:04
December 23, 2021
Journaling Inspiration: Abandonment Wounds
Journaling Inspiration #2
00:47
December 21, 2021
Journaling Inspiration
Short inspirational journaling prompts, delivered to you for your healing journey.
00:34
December 18, 2021
Trusting Our Ability to Self-Trust
How can we live the life we desire if we cannot trust ourselves? Join me on this episode and share with me a bit of the background process of what it takes for a survivor to lean in and trust the ability to self-trust.
19:32
December 17, 2021
Unhooking From Should
An informative conversation with guests, Erica Jayne Parker and Syl Sabastian, covering ways to unhook from should and the importance of unrelenting positivity when learning to become aware of what we are unaware of. How does this figure into trauma recovery? Listen in for the answer to that question and more! 
02:10:35
December 11, 2021
Unhooking from Should Audio ONLY
Join my guests and I in a conversation focusing on what we can do to unhook from "should" -- a word that perpetuates low self-worth and a lack of believing in ourselves. Video option available on Spotify. * Guests: Erica Jayne and Syl Sabastian.
02:15:09
December 11, 2021
Self-Proving Independence of Being
Recently, I experienced several social situations which allowed me the opportunity to explore self-proving my abilities with the management of subtle red flags with the intent to control. I invite you to join me on this episode as I explore self-proving my Independence of Being.
10:41
December 03, 2021
Journey of Love
I was gifted the honor of speaking with Michelle C. Lee, author, singer, creator, composer and one of the most authentic people I have the privilege of being acquainted with. Join me in welcoming this amazing woman share her insights of her personal journey to love on her recovery path. 
47:30
December 01, 2021
Spiritual Samurai - Keith Villanueva
Author Keith Villanueva shares tools for healthier living and highlights from his book, Spiritual Samurai. 
01:13:36
November 17, 2021
Part 2 Conversations That Heal: Leon Walker, Jr
It's not often we get an opportunity to have a conversation of substance with the intent to understand. The conversation with Leon continues in this episode: Part 2.
55:12
November 12, 2021
Conversations That Heal: Leon R. Walker, Jr. Author, "Broken."
I had the opportunity recently to listen and seek understanding of Leon R Walker Jr -- an author, veteran, creator, public speaker, and a Narcissist. I invite you to listen with an open mind, as I did, As Leon shared vulnerable memories and raw truths about his life and losses as a Narcissist.
58:37
November 12, 2021
Intent to Unbind (Part 2 of 2)
We may not be able to choose when something prompts a trauma reminder, but we CAN set an intent then choose awareness, discernment, and understanding to leverage the powerlessness that's often felt during and after the episode.
52:08
November 06, 2021
Intent to Unbind (Part 1 of 2)
Exclusive reading from Unbound 100 Days of Intent, discussion with author and program creator, Syl Sabastian, and other guest Q&A. Fun, intriguing, and always fresh.
40:50
November 06, 2021
Announcement for IGTV Live
An invitation to join me Friday November 5, 2021 for an exclusive reading from Unbound and question and answers about the process in real time of Becoming Unbound.
01:14
November 03, 2021
Lost Rites of Passage
Listen in to my chat with friend and fellow inner work journey traveler, Marvin Hitson, Jr., as we raise awareness to the impact and recovery from Lost Teen Rites of Passage.
52:58
October 29, 2021
Shame Unbound
What if we took a different approach and rather than ask WHY, we seek to UNDERSTAND WHAT we CAN DO to release what was never ours to carry? Email sherunbound@gmail.com for info
05:45
October 22, 2021
Minimizing the BS
Listen in to excerpts from a conversation with Author, Syl Sabastian (Out BS!). Syl shares excellent points on how we get pulled into narcissistic relationships and a practical method of discernment you can apply now for self-protection. Email sherunbound@gmail.com for more info.
46:36
October 15, 2021
Preposterous Beliefs
When we are aware, we are empowered to "out the preposterousness of BS", and develop our personal beliefs with deliberate intent. Join me for a brief excerpt from a conversation (Zoom) with author, philosopher, and elucidator, Syl Sabastian.
15:35
October 09, 2021
Unbinding "What If."
What if we found out what we believed about ourselves wasn't true? Join me on this very special anniversary edition of UNBOUND.
16:18
October 01, 2021
Being Unbound
Whether you see yourself as victim or survivor, we can become unintentionally immersed in our own stories of victimization and subsequent survival. This is especially true if our focus is our purpose (coaching, therapist, etc.). Join me on this episode of Unbound and listen in on what Being Unbound means.
06:50
September 27, 2021
Justified
Can we justify cutting people off without speaking our truth? Join me in this episode of Unbound about a controversial move to protect yourself in the dating world.
06:53
September 25, 2021
Why I Stayed
Confirmation Bias holds us prisoner to our false beliefs we are unworthy of respect, live and a better way of life. Perhaps you share some of these same beliefs? Please join me on this brief episode of Unbound.
06:35
September 25, 2021
Creative Healing
Listen in on a candid conversation with Soren Perdition, a dynamic creator on TikTok, who uses a creative platform to share his thoughts about his trauma recovery journey.
24:07
September 07, 2021
Disarming the Ego
The job of the ego is to keep us safe. Sometimes its efforts can be more unhealthy, or harmful to us, than good. Join me this episode, while I share helpful examples of how to gently disarm your ego.
07:17
August 27, 2021
Reclaiming Self
We can choose to explore or ignore our wounds for which all the justice in the world will never bring conciliation. We cannot reclaim what we never had, nor erase what was. But, we are not without choices.
07:11
August 22, 2021
Mindfulness & Perspectives
"Mindfulness allows us to see in the present moment what we couldn't see yesterday." Sher Unbound
04:17
August 16, 2021
Survivor's Guilt
Special: A moment of encouragement.
00:59
August 05, 2021
The Right (way) to Rage
You have the right to be angry. But, if we combine anger management with awareness, acknowledgment, and acceptance, the energy this creates can be harnessed and used strategically for good purposes.
08:25
August 03, 2021
Shame is an Anchor
When we fear open dialogues because our story may hurt someone or it hurts too much to tell, we are carrying shame as an anchor. This anchor prevents us from exploring the abundance of life that is available to everyone.
04:48
July 29, 2021
Acknowledge Your Emotions
People living with difficult situations or recovery from trauma tend to minimize deeper emotions, such as grief, shame, and anger. We suppress our emotions instead of validating and allowing the body to convert them to much needed energy in the moment. Join me on this episode of Unbound as we explore minimizing our emotions surrounding our stories.
07:04
July 10, 2021
When In Doubt...
As a trauma survivor, it can be challenging to choose based on "possible" red flags giving other people the benefit of the doubt is the preferred course; however, I fully understand the necessity of being cautious based on our histories. Join me on this episode of Unbound, where I highlight the importance of trusting your perception and embodiment.
07:31
July 05, 2021
Why We Struggle to Break Free
Your abuser exploited your insecurities, primarily your need to feel safe. Your best defense against returning to old patterns is awareness and understanding of your need for inner safety.
06:51
June 17, 2021
Nurturing Inner Safety
I invite you to join me today on Unbound, as I share a valuable and proven methods for learning how to become attuned to, and in control of our bodies, all of which I use regularly. These methods are beneficial to long-term sustainability of our overall emotional and physical well-being.
11:37
June 02, 2021
The Weight of Trauma
Sexual violence not only affects us long-term emotionally, but for many it also affects us physically. I'm referring to the weight of shame we carry -- the visible weight. It's a sensitive topic, even for me; but it's a topic I feel called to speak about. Please, join me on this sensitive but important episode of Unbound.
09:15
May 29, 2021
The Stories We Tell Ourselves
If you recognize that you are consistently being drawn to the same type of people, fawning over them, and then experiencing the same feelings of rejection each time, perhaps it's time to recognize it's not about you, but it's about your past. Join me on this episode of Unbound as I share a hard truth about a result of the abandonment wound.
08:19
May 17, 2021
I Can Learn
Repeated experiences of traumatic events can cause memory and cognitive abilities to seem impaired. Join me in this episode as I discuss the role somatic energy healing can play in your recovery from psychological trauma.
08:06
May 12, 2021
Proof
Comparing ourselves to others only deepens the wound of body image. We convince ourselves we are the only ones who could hold this much body shame or shame for who we are or our past. I want to offer you proof that you are not who you believe yourself to be if you're committed to doing the work. Listen in for bonus material on this episode of Unbound.
09:15
April 28, 2021
Emotional Triggers
We can wake up and have the best of intentions to start our day off right with breathwork, meditation, a full glass of water before we gulp our coffee...and in a flash, we are triggered. Automatically we step into our survival program (fight, flight, freeze, fawn), leaving those around us bewildered as to what they just witnessed.
08:05
April 13, 2021
Finding Home
Is home really where are heart is, or is it a feeling;  a place within us? After all, wherever you go there you are. I think we find home within us when we have truly accepted ourselves. When we choose to stop finding fault with everything about us, we find there is no longer a desire to keep running. We have finally come home to who we really are. Tune in to this episode of Unbound and discover 3 ways to find your way home to YOU. 
07:52
April 12, 2021
Investing in Yourself
Ask me, Sher, what investing in yourself delivers. I'll show you proof that any investment in ourselves is choosing to live as the highest version of us for our future. Join me today on this episode of Unbound is I share a few of the reasons we resist our journey to trauma recovery.
07:55
April 06, 2021
Your Body Won't Lie to You.
When situations arise which bring us to sense a familiarity, IF we are mindful of the cues our bodies send us and recall they are signals to us something is needing our attention, and WHY WE MUST LISTEN TO OUR BODY, we have an increased chance of saving ourselves from a barrage of unnecessary painful emotions and days of recovery.
07:49
March 31, 2021
Connecting Heart to Home
Connection is more than fellowships, friendships, intimate relationships. Genuine connection is about unconditional acceptance and love. While we can provide that for ourselves, we also need that level of connection with others. The first place that we experience this level of connection is through our mother.
12:05
March 22, 2021
Upholding the Standard of Showing Up
Consider the possibility you aren't less than in any way. Rather you are unconsciously using comparative judgment. We seem to be quite good with empowering others, but when it comes to giving back to ourselves, there is a tendency to minimize our strengths and worth by disempowerment. Join me today on this helpful episode of Unbound.
06:24
March 18, 2021
Special Edition: Inner Child Safety Meditation
Enjoy this special edition of Unbound, as I guide you through a brief meditation focusing on the love and safety of your inner child.
13:09
February 26, 2021
Claim Your Worth
When we place value of people, places, and things as having more value than we hold for ourselves, it becomes more challenging to attend to tasks that bring real value to ourselves and our inner child. Join me in this special episode dedicated to all survivors of sexual assault and domestic violence.
17:12
February 16, 2021
The Relationship with a Narcissist
Please join me in welcoming Blogger, Creator, Coach and Advocate, Carla Wright as she courageously shares her story of life with a narcissist. Carla provides extra insight on how to love again after trauma. This is an episode you won't want to miss!
45:41
February 09, 2021
Unmet Expectations
There is a hard lesson in recognizing you have been holding others responsible for your happiness. The lesson feels much like a broken heart, and you may even experience feelings of shame for allowing yourself to be human. Listen into this episode of Unbound about connecting to tour heart space.
06:34
February 06, 2021
Listen to Your Body
There comes a time that a "need" to allow the emotions to come through presents itself. For the sake of our health and relationship with ourselves, we must choose to do the work and release then from our bodies or face genuine hardships ranging from physical injury to internal illness.
08:26
February 03, 2021
Patience and Time Find Solutions
Essentially, when we are safe, the answers come. Inner work requires patience and deliberate focus. It's not easy for somebody who's a fearful-avoidant to "relax" and allow the answers to unfold. We want answers. We want solutions, and we want them now. Join me on this episode as we unlock the answer to the question, "Will I ever feel better?"
08:56
January 28, 2021
Intent to Love Myself
When we open the heart to the self, we reconnect to what we need most - the love of self. Join me this episode as I read an excerpt from my book, "Unbound 100 Days of Intent."
09:53
January 27, 2021
A Conversation: Body Shaming & Image
Join me this episode as Kristina Kubala, Support Coach, shares her story of the struggle many of us are too familiar with - body shaming. We go deep in this conversation, revealing some of where our shame originates and how to free ourselves of that deep, sometimes disabling emotion.
51:44
January 24, 2021
A Conversation About Shame with Marvin Hitson, Jr.
Shame is a barrier to living the life we dream of, the life we were meant to live. Join me on this episode as Marvin Hitson, Jr. shares with me his vulnerable truth about how shame showed up in his life and the steps he took to release it.
01:02:53
January 18, 2021
Gaslighting
Gaslighting is the fog you live with and can't seem to walk far enough to get out of. Join me for this episode of Unbound as I unlock the door to this mysterious emotional abuse.
08:52
January 09, 2021
A Conversation with Myles Scott
Today is a special broadcast of a conversation between me and Relationship Coach, Mentor, and friend, Myles Scott. My healing journaling began with Myles more than a year ago as a group facilitator, then my Coach, and now a close and valued friend. Join us as we go into a deep and stirring conversation of emotional resilience, our survival programs, and more. Myles shares the key to healing, in this special episode of Unbound.
01:05:58
December 20, 2020
Don't Let Your Triggers Write Your Future
Join me this week as I explore Somatic Awareness and the important role body awareness plays in our trauma recovery.
09:45
December 17, 2020
SAFE
What do you need to feel safe? Before we were wounded, we were dreamers who were going to change the world. As wounded children, we created and adapted survival programs, eventually forgetting who we are so we could survive. This episode explores SAFE, my own "safe word" for restoring my sense of inner safety.
08:23
December 07, 2020
Surrender to Truth
When we surrender to the truth of who we are, and not the identity we created, we can begin to release the pain of our trauma.
12:03
December 03, 2020
What's the Real Story?
As trauma survivors, it’s hard to trust our intuition. If we go with the premise intuition is based on experience, and our beliefs are knowledge, then what we think we have intuited to be true is not valid.
10:12
November 11, 2020
Giving Grace
Unlearning the survival skill of hiding behind perfectionism has been one tough habit to break. When survivors learn to give themselves grace, notable changes happen.
10:45
November 02, 2020
Courage to Change
I've been through a lot of changes since beginning my journey to release my past. This last week I moved just under 900 miles SW.... While I know and feel I am different, set my boundaries and what my intentions are for dating, I have been afraid to put myself out there on an app or in person. The next few episodes I will explore our fear of change and different perspectives that surround entering the dating scene after trauma. My friend and collaborator, Christine Fedorchenko, is with me tonight to speak about her experience in building relationships after trauma.
31:03
October 04, 2020
You Are Not a Mistake
Many survivors believe they are a mistake, especially when they begin digging into inner work. Sharing another essay from the book, "Unbound - 100 Days of Intent" , Sher brings loving awareness to disconfirm that belief.
11:39
September 23, 2020
Releasing Triggers
This week I am joined by a special guest and soul sister, Ilyse Sugar. Our topic is acknowledging and releasing triggers, something many survivors of trauma live with in an above-average presence in our lives. Listen in as we share and discuss how disconfirmation of the beliefs we carry of who we are and are not.
24:17
September 17, 2020
Sharing Our Story of Sexual Abuse
How do we tell? Who do we tell? Sher Unbound talks about her awareness of sexual abuse and her first attempt to tell someone about the sexual abuse abuse she had been experiencing. *Trigger warning: Sexual Abuse.*
21:11
September 10, 2020
Holding Space: Safe and Loved
Two stories and life has come full circle when I recognize the ability to unbind from pain of the last comes when we create and hold space for others.
20:48
September 02, 2020
Intent to Feel
Welcome to the first episode of Unbound - 100 Days of Intent. I invite you to join me on the journey of sharing my story as a survivor of sexual abuse, domestic violence and psychological abuse. While I did not hide my story, I was not healing because I was not allowing the feelings.
17:25
August 26, 2020