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Shoulda! Coulda! Woulda!

Shoulda! Coulda! Woulda!

By Dwight Allen ONeal

Have you ever wondered "What SHOULD have?" "What COULD have?" or "What WOULD have happened?" if you knew certain things before attempting or actually doing something? Well you can learn from me and my guests as we walk down memory lane on some of our biggest accomplishments and major life mistakes. Send your own "SCW Moment" or a comment to: YouShouldaCouldaWoulda@gmail.com Support Me: Become a Patron!
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Chose Motivation over Procrastination
Chose Motivation over Procrastination
Why do I keep putting things off?! I knew I should have ordered those shoes sooner. Why am I still working on this project. So many times I should have chosen motivation over procrastination. Well now we will unpack how to procrastinate no more (or try not to), and what it looks like to motivate ourselves.
27:08
August 24, 2022
Blocked My Blessings
Blocked My Blessings
Have you been there? Preventing yourself from receiving what is meant for you? Instead of going after the blessings God has prepared for us, sometimes we keep pursuing those things not meant for us. Join me as I share 12 tips on how to “unblock” your blessings.
31:14
August 17, 2022
Wait on God
Wait on God
How many times have you made God laugh? By telling him your plan. My recent life lesson was seeing that I things have shifted in my life from waiting on him. I also chat about God sending the right people into your life as you continue to radiate your greatness. In the words of Jenifer Lewis. “Get you an astronaut!”
33:20
July 20, 2022
Work Bestie
Work Bestie
Your work bestie is the one you spend all your breaks with and get into trouble with too. Going to work can be boring, unless you have a work bestie. Whether or not you admit it, and no matter how much of a boss you might be when it comes to work, everyone needs someone to chat with and more importantly, have your back at the 9-5.
34:47
July 06, 2022
Sneaky Link
Sneaky Link
Well now the kids out here nicknaming they side pieces sneaky links. Have you ever had one? Or is it not your thing. Well today I break down the do’s and don’ts of your sneaky link.
33:14
June 29, 2022
Superstitiously Me
Superstitiously Me
Have you heard that you shouldn’t step on a crack? Or do you fear Friday the 13th? A a widely held but unjustified belief in supernatural causation leading to certain consequences of an action or event, or a practice based on such a belief, is a superstition. Whether you admit to it or not, I am sure you believe in them. But what are their origins… let’s discuss!
29:11
June 22, 2022
Friend Zone
Friend Zone
Is there a such thing as the Friend Zone? The Friend Zone is a situation in which a friendship exists between two people, one of whom has an unreciprocated romantic or sexual interest in the other. Who puts the friend in the zone? And if you get in the zone how do you get out? We dive into that zone today!
34:04
June 15, 2022
Giving them their Flowers
Giving them their Flowers
While flowers are widely given, it is a form of expression that shows the people in your life that you love, appreciate, honor and cherish them while they're still living. For the most part, we all desire human connection and to make a meaningful impact on the lives of others. Today I reflect on a moment I wittiness flowers being delivered at someone’s funeral vs given to them….
30:15
June 08, 2022
Real-life Fairytale!
Real-life Fairytale!
In this EPISODE I discuss real-life fairytales. Think of people that you see who are living incredible lives that they have created. How did they create these wonderful lives? In life we create the life that we want and don’t forget it.
30:43
June 01, 2022
Charming A**hole
Charming A**hole
Everyone has a type. Or do they? Sometimes the type of person we date is based off of the trauma that we are attracting. On today’s episode we discuss the charming a**hole! Are they really your type? Or are you still healing?
37:00
May 25, 2022
No Season Finale
No Season Finale
So we kinda missed our Season 2 finale. You know life got the best of me. But some of our favorite tv shows, movies, books, or experiences didn’t really have a finale. Lets chat about what happened (Jussie Smollett Trial) and laugh our way into Season 3.
31:58
May 25, 2022
Fight for Your Fairytale
Fight for Your Fairytale
In this EPISODE of Shoulda! Coulda! Woulda! We put a stop to finding a Happy Ending, but learning to Fight for Your Fairytale.
31:27
September 08, 2021
Forgiveness
Forgiveness
In this EPISODE of Shoulda! Coulda! Woulda! Do you easily forgive? Do you forgive or forget? Is there anyone you need to forgive? Learn the 7 steps I have had to learn to forgive my ex and how I’m still working on forgiving a parent and how that parent needs to forgive me.
36:37
September 01, 2021
Spirit Air (ULCC Airline)
Spirit Air (ULCC Airline)
In this EPISODE of Shoulda! Coulda! Woulda! I talk about Spirit Airlines! Have you ever flown Spirit? Well if you have it you definitely wanna listen to this episode, but if you have this episode too. From charges on everything. Canceled flights AND SOOO MUCH MORE.
31:42
August 11, 2021
The "K" Response (Text Etiquette)
The "K" Response (Text Etiquette)
In this EPISODE of Shoulda! Coulda! Woulda! I talk about texting "K" in text messages. When is it rude, polite, or given way too much thought? We also dive into proper text message etiquette in general. SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENT Collar Confessions The Series coming soon on HERE TV www.HERETV.com! Subscribe to HERE TV today and ORDER THE NEW BOOK: Collar Confessions (www.ONealAppeal.com/shop)
39:26
August 04, 2021
Urban Social Status
Urban Social Status
In this EPISODE of Shoulda! Coulda! Woulda! I talk about URBAN SOCIAL STATUS. Are you a hood rat ghetto bunny? Clatchet? Sadity? Hood? Well, today I unpack and explore with the handy "Urban Dictionary." SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENT Collar Confessions The Series coming soon on HERE TV www.HERETV.com! Subscribe to HERE TV today and ORDER THE NEW BOOK: Collar Confessions (www.ONealAppeal.com/shop)
39:09
July 28, 2021
DL vs Trade
DL vs Trade
In this EPISODE of Shoulda! Coulda! Woulda! I talk DL vs TRADE. What is the difference?  Are some of these men thinking they are TRADE when they are TRISH??? Also what about gay curious, bi-curious, or event BOTTOM curious .... SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENT Collar Confessions The Series coming soon on HERE TV www.HERETV.com! Subscribe to HERE TV today and ORDER THE NEW BOOK: Collar Confessions (www.ONealAppeal.com/shop)
42:00
July 21, 2021
Disrespectful Side-Piece
Disrespectful Side-Piece
In this EPISODE of Shoulda! Coulda! Woulda! I talk The disrespectful side piece. And I share tips on how the side piece and side chicks can actually thrive.... SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENT Collar Confessions The Series coming soon on HERE TV www.HERETV.com! ORDER THE NEW BOOK: Collar Confessions (www.ONealAppeal.com/shop)
33:54
July 14, 2021
Royalty
Royalty
In this EPISODE of Shoulda! Coulda! Woulda! I talk about the Royal Family and the fact that WE (USA) Don't have one.  I also name a few peeps in the USA who would make a incredible royalty... SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENT Collar Confessions The Series coming soon! ORDER THE NEW BOOK: Collar Confessions (www.ONealAppeal.com/shop)
34:22
July 07, 2021
Sexting Nudies
Sexting Nudies
In this EPISODE of Shoulda! Coulda! Woulda! I discuss SEXTING... or sending XXX images. Is this appropriate? Or Not? Who does it more Men or Women? Also, we chat about a Shoulda! Coulda! Woulda... Titanic moment. Preorder my book "Collar Confessions" on Amazon.com and visit my website www.OnealAppeal.com for more info.
25:27
June 30, 2021
Shoot your Shot
Shoot your Shot
In this EPISODE of Shoulda! Coulda! Woulda! We discuss SHOOTING YOUR SHOT... telling them you like them in 2021. I also make a very special announcement about my new project with DeAngelo Jackson, "Being Black in Porn" documentary. And we can't forget we rip into Trick Daddy for coming for Beyoncé's voice! Preorder my book "Collar Confessions" on Amazon.com and Visit my website www.OnealAppeal.com for more info.
36:52
June 23, 2021
Happy Pride
Happy Pride
In this EPISODE of Shoulda! Coulda! Woulda! We celebrate PRIDE and I give you a  LGBTTQQIAAP history lesson. In addition, I celebrate Marsha P. Johnson and her contribution toward creating PRIDE. I also make a very special announcement about my new project with DeAngelo Jackson. Also join me this Friday on Bigo.Live for a very special PRIDE Panel with Jason Lee, Tiffany Haddish, and Tiffany "Miss New York" Pollard! Preorder my book "Collar Confessions" on Amazon.com and Visit my website www.OnealAppeal.com for more info.
30:55
June 16, 2021
Battle of the Sexes (Masculine vs Feminine)
Battle of the Sexes (Masculine vs Feminine)
In this EPISODE of Shoulda! Coulda! Woulda! I bring on my sister Awaka and my good friend The Master Oracle (https://www.instagram.com/themasteroracle/). We discuss BATTLE OF THE SEXES... Masc vs Fem... Flirting and Being Flirted with. Do Prince Charming still exist?  What do you consider an innapportiate way to approach a love interest in public?  Be sure to visit my website to pre-order my new book: Collar Confessions (www.ONealAppeal.com/shop)
39:54
June 09, 2021
Revenge of the Villains
Revenge of the Villains
In this EPISODE of Shoulda! Coulda! Woulda! I talk about getting revenge... Spoiler Alert I do talk a little about Disney's Cruella, but not in a way that will ruin it for you.  Take a listen and learn the best way to seek your own revenge.  Also find out healthy revenge tactics. Be sure to visit my website to pre-order my new book: Collar Confessions (www.ONealAppeal.com/shop)
30:19
June 02, 2021
Worn A Diaper
Worn A Diaper
In this EPISODE of Shoulda! Coulda! Woulda! I talk about moments grown folks needed a diaper.  Have you ever spent the night at someone's house and NOT know where the bathroom was... so you kinda had an accident? Ohhh Only just me??? And yes I was drunk (insert shame face). I also have a very special guest with me today.... My good judy Flash!   Be sure to visit my website to pre-order my new book: Collar Confessions (www.ONealAppeal.com/shop)
34:58
May 26, 2021
Split the Check (Bill)
Split the Check (Bill)
In this EPISODE of Shoulda! Coulda! Woulda! I talk about dining out, and splitting the check. How often have you gone to or even hosted a celebratory dinner only to have that akward moment when the check arrives? We all know it... we have all experienced it at least once. Well who is wrong?  Is it the person for picking the expensive eatery? Or the person who didn't have the coin to dine? Or perhaps even the person who only had water? You don't want to miss this! I also have a very special guest...  Be sure to visit my website to pre-order my new book: Collar Confessions (www.ONealAppeal.com/shop)
38:42
May 19, 2021
Dated My Friends Ex!
Dated My Friends Ex!
In this EPISODE of Shoulda! Coulda! Woulda! I talk about Dating My Friends Ex: Yes I am trifling I know... but I can explain! With all this chatter around RHOA Star Porsha Williams new fiance, why not air my own dirty laundry.  I also get my hatters together on my extended show break. I AM BACK!  And excited to have you listen... I dropped this episode on you like Beyonce drops albums.  Be sure to visit my website to pre-order my new book: Collar Confessions (www.ONealAppeal.com/shop) 
24:59
May 12, 2021
Summer Vacay with Covid-19
Summer Vacay with Covid-19
In the SEASON FINALE of Shoulda! Coulda! Woulda! I talk about going on vacay during Covid:19!! I also offer suggestions on ways to get some R&R during the pandemic. Order my book "Shoulda! Coulda! Woulda on Amazon.com and Visit my website www.OnealAppeal.com for more info.
37:22
June 24, 2020
Choose Between the Two
Choose Between the Two
In this EPISODE of Shoulda! Coulda! Woulda! I talk about choosing between two dates. We have all been seeing two men (or women) and you have to make a choice. How do you decide? Find out in this episode.
37:40
June 18, 2020
Me As A Child
Me As A Child
In this EPISODE of Shoulda! Coulda! Woulda! I talk about my childhood and coming to terms with being gay. I discuss playing college vs house, my first love, and my imaginary friend Sheila. Warning I do get a bit emotional.
37:00
June 10, 2020
Black Lives Matter
Black Lives Matter
In this short EPISODE of Shoulda! Coulda! Woulda! I get real about Black Lives Matter! Why does everyone care now? What more could I have done? What about black queer lives? Do companies really care? Let's get real with each other... WE ALL NEED TO STAND!
10:59
June 03, 2020
Kept My Keys
Kept My Keys
In this EPISODE of Shoulda! Coulda! Woulda! I talk about letting a partner/friend move in vs keeping your keys. I also share some helpful tips if you do decide to take that leap of sharing an address. Preorder my book "Shoulda! Coulda! Woulda on Amazon.com and Visit my website www.OnealAppeal.com for more info.
44:18
May 27, 2020
Cut Off Fake Friends
Cut Off Fake Friends
In this EPISODE of Shoulda! Coulda! Woulda! I talk about cutting off FAKE, TOXIC friends or let's just say people because they aren't your friends!! I also share a tip on how to breakup with them. Preorder my book "Shoulda! Coulda! Woulda on Amazon.com and Visit my website www.OnealAppeal.com for more info.
42:07
May 20, 2020
Barbershop vs Locker Room
Barbershop vs Locker Room
In this EPISODE of Shoulda! Coulda! Woulda! I talk about the barbershop experience: relationship with barber, where to get the best cut, and what it's like as a gay man of color going into this locker room--- I mean Barber Shop. Visit my website www.OnealAppeal.com for more info. And to purchase my new book: Shoulda! Coulda! Woulda!
37:06
May 13, 2020
Wrote a Book
Wrote a Book
In this EPISODE of Shoulda! Coulda! Woulda! I talk about my BRAND NEW BOOK... "Shoulda! Coulda! Woulda!- Inspirational Mistakes that Made Me... ME! " (sound familiar???).  I am over the moon as I walk you through the experience.  I also share a chapter or maybe TWO... and I spill the beans on a hidden secret.  You can pre-order the book on Amazon:   https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0877BLVL5 and other details at www.ONealAppeal.com 
29:05
May 06, 2020
Been a Celebrity
Been a Celebrity
In this EPISODE of Shoulda! Coulda! Woulda! I talk about my celebrity encounters- if they were nice, how I interacted with them, or embarrassed myself. Also I let you know which famous person calls me his nephew... I will give you a hint... HE IS A NBA BASKETBALL STAR!! Remember to visit my online shop to support- A Million Masks: Coronavirus Support Fund. Visit my website www.OnealAppeal.com for more info.
38:20
April 29, 2020
Umm... Netflix and Chillax
Umm... Netflix and Chillax
In this EPISODE of Shoulda! Coulda! Woulda! I talk about binge-watching some new favorite Ummm... Netflix shows. I also give my opinion on some pretty crappy ones too. Can you also help me break my bad habit of saying "ummm?" Remember to visit my online shop to support- A Million Masks: Coronavirus Support Fund. Visit my website www.OnealAppeal.com for more info.
35:35
April 22, 2020
Dated Men!
Dated Men!
In this EPISODE of Shoulda! Coulda! Woulda! I talk about dating or being in a relationship with a man! Wonder why men do what they do in the relationship? Are all men dogs? Who is more emotional women or men? What's the difference in men/women dating vs men/men dating? This episode will definitely ruffle some feathers! I also catch you up in my career updates! Remember to visit my online shop to support- A Million Masks: Coronavirus Support Fund. Visit my website www.OnealAppeal.com for more info.
39:49
April 15, 2020
Been on Reality TV
Been on Reality TV
In this EPISODE of Shoulda! Coulda! Woulda! I finally have a guest host! I dish with my little sister Awaka and we discuss our experience on reality tv, favorite reality shows, and reality cast members. Remember to visit my online shop to support- A Million Masks: Coronavirus Support Fund. Visit my website www.OnealAppeal.com for more info.
33:18
April 08, 2020
Yes! My a** Drunk (SMH)
Yes! My a** Drunk (SMH)
In this EPISODE of Shoulda! Coulda! Woulda! I celebrate coming off of my drinking sabbatical! I talk about my favorite drinks, tips on how to drink healthier, and share my hangover secrets. I also announce my new online shop, debut my new product that will support- A Million Masks: Coronavirus Support Fund. Visit my websites www.OnealAppeal.com to support!
36:56
April 01, 2020
Coronavirus is REAL!
Coronavirus is REAL!
In this EPISODE of Shoulda! Coulda! Woulda! we talk about "Coronavirus is REAL". I REALLY didn't want to discuss this pandemic, however it is the reality of the world. So because I love my listeners I want to empower you... The reality of it is... most likely you have to be home... And there are things you can do to make your situation better... let's explore those opportunities together. Also find out about my new reality show that I'm a cast member on... What better time to watch a new series that delivers drama.
37:09
March 25, 2020
Vacation with Friends!
Vacation with Friends!
In this EPISODE of Shoulda! Coulda! Woulda!  we explore taking "Vacations with Friends". Chiillleee, talk about a risk! I love a great vacation and in the spirit of Spring Break what better time to discuss taking a little turn up trip with your crew?! Learn some amazing tips planning, questions you should ask prior to planning, and some other fun stuff to plan the best trip! We all love to travel but vacation planning can make or break up a friendship....
46:05
March 25, 2020
Eat My Groceries
Eat My Groceries
In this EPISODE of Shoulda! Coulda! Woulda!  we explore grocery shopping (or lack of grocery shopping).  Grocery shopping is something my fridge never experiences, however I am trying to do better at the task.  Learn some amazing tips, proper grocery store etiquette, and some other fun stuff to keep your fridge stocked. 
24:20
March 11, 2020
Yes! I left My JOB!
Yes! I left My JOB!
In THE THIRD EPISODE of Shoulda! Coulda! Woulda!  I let the cat out of the bag!  I quit my last job of only 6 months.  I chat about reasons people leave jobs, when do you know it's time, and what to do??? You don't want to miss this!!!  NOTE: This episode in no way bashes any establishment I have worked, however speaks to when it's time to move on.
28:09
March 04, 2020
I LOVE NYC?
I LOVE NYC?
In THE SECOND FIRST EPISODE of Shoulda! Coulda! Woulda!  we explore my life in New York City... But most just say NYC! I walk down memory lane as I move to a new city and started a brand new life.  So many SWC moments... but I share my favorite 9 lessons.  Listen, learn, and share yours too! 
28:33
February 26, 2020
My Housekeeper found my "insert eggplant emoji"
My Housekeeper found my "insert eggplant emoji"
In THE FIRST EPISODE of Shoulda! Coulda! Woulda!  we explore having a housekeeper and what to do when she finds your (insert eggplant emoji)... DILDO!!!  Also some great tips for hiring, managing, and maintaining an excellent housekeeper...  Please don't judge me AND I hope my housekeepers comes back--- LOL
21:35
February 19, 2020