Welcome to Mindset Managed with me, author S. R. Crawford. Here on my podcast, we will be bringing you weekly inspiration every Monday to nurture your mind and conquer your world! We’re talking holistic health, mindsets, and personal growth. We believe that if you are aware of your inner world, you can understand it; and if you understand it, you can conquer it! So, let’s grow together…
Memento Mori = "Remember you must die..."
This podcast episode was quickly recorded the day Chadwick Boseman passed away. May he rest in eternal peace.
Today we are reflecting on our mortality and the shortness and fragility of life; not so that we become depressed from that reality, but so that we can refocus on what truly matters.
Adulting is hard and nothing like we expected as kids. But we're here, we're adults, and it's something we have to try to succeed at! So what do we do? I have a number of key things that can help us to navigate adulthood a little better to ensure a healthy, happy experience.
Today's podcast is talking about focusing on who you are and what you choose to do today. Not big goals and to-dos, but who and what you choose in each moment.
I'm covering habits and consistency, while reflecting on the fact that who we become and what we do in life always comes back to choosing health and happiness first.
It's about cultivating a vision of who you want to be, then choosing a part of that to be and do right now and every day of your life.
Most of us who care about self-development or who are ambitious and have big goals will have an image of who we want to be. Of what we want to do and what our ideal future will look like.
But how do we get from here to there?
In today's podcast, I'm considering this idea and talking about how to get serious about your goals, while focusing in on your WHY.
Ask yourself: What energy am I bringing into this? Why am I really doing this?
A weak reason why makes for a fragile foundation for going after your goals in life.
Instead, we must find our resolve. Find our inner reason why which drives us forwards, keeps us going, and never lets us stop.
Do you know where you're at in life? Does it matter? Can you define the current stage you're in and what it demands of you?
What're your intentions right now? What's your purpose? What's the point of/ reason for this stage? What do you need to learn? What do you need to do? Who do you need to be? What's your focus in this stage of life?
"You can't be somewhere that you're not."
We all yearn for things in life. The longing is what drives us forwards. This fantasy, this idea, it steals our attention and motivates us...or consumes us. What happens when the yearning takes over? When we believe more in the fantasy than reality?
"Keep your feet on the ground as your daydream"
We all experience fluctuations in our moods and our motivations, where one minute we feel good and productive, and the next we can't bring ourselves to do anything. I've felt high highs and low lows lately, feeling like I'm on a rollercoaster that I can't get off.
Today, I'm discussing why our moods and motivation changes, and what to do with the highs and what to do with the lows.
So, I'm moving out of my family home for the first time and therefore this massive transition is forcing me to grow and evolve. There will be moments like this throughout all of our lives, where we're called to grow and learn.
We only have one choice to make: evolve or remain the same.
I'm talking about choosing to level up, gaining new experiences and lessons along the way; new obstacles and challenges for growth; and reflecting on how comfortable "comfort" is anyway?
What are your goals for the rest of 2020? What are your goals for next year? What are your life goals?
I don't know about you, but I have a tendency to freak myself out or get overwhelmed and disheartened by a long-term goal or big life choice. Why? Because focusing on that goal too much, only further outlines how far you have left to go.
What's the solution? I have an idea...
Today I’m doing a rambly philosophical chat inspired by the idea of balance, spectrums, and not being all this or all that. How we are all on a continuum, shifting up and down, never fixed…unless we decide to be.
Going ten levels deep on:
Awareness of our eternal subjectivity and our perception of life
Opening our minds and our hearts
Seeking balance and spectrums of truth and being
Empathy and understanding of ourselves and others
Constant lessons from the school of life
Finding hope through opening your mind
Adopting a Growth Mindset
Want to open your mind and heart to see, feel and experience more in life? Here’s how to open your mind and go further…
Today I just wanted to reflect on it being the end of June and therefore we have finished 6 months of the year! How did that happen? And we've had most of that time taken away from us, derailing our goals, our plans, and our lives.
So, what do we do now, with another uncertain 6 months left of 2020? Let's discuss...
Adapting and Resilience
What matters most
Do your best
Today's podcast episode is about why you might be unhappy in life and in general (current awful climate of the world notwithstanding!). I will walk you through 6 ways we make ourselves unhappy, alongside a recognition of the dystopian nightmare we're living in right now and how I am sending so much love your way.
Right now we are in hard times. 2020 feels like a dystopian novel that just won’t end. It is hitting all of us and I wanted to take a moment to push for self-compassion and to warn you of emotional exhaustion and the very real dangers that come with not looking after yourself right now.
We all have insecurities, that much has always been clear; but what if I said we all have the same ones in common, it's just they manifest in different ways?
Today I'm rambling and ranting about insecurities, emotional triggers, and our fear that we don't stake up. I'll be tackling the big three:
Have you ever been called selfish by someone you care about, and then questioned if it was true? I have. Or at least, I've been made to feel selfish for choosing myself. And this isn't uncommon, which is why I also did a post about guilt not long ago.
But I give you permission to shed that guilt and get clear on what selfishness really is, so that you can see the difference between self-care (choosing the self) and selfishness.
Today’s episode is a two-parter because I merged two shorter episodes that both explored the same concept: inner peace. More importantly, choosing peace for yourself, your life, and in each moment.
We always have a choice. We get to choose reaction, hurt, hate, disconnection, or worthiness, clarity, beauty, love, and peace.
I choose peace.
This episode explores the following:
Power of the Pause
Seeking Peace over the life goal of Happiness
Unconditional love and belonging
Self-care has become super popular and perhaps that means the word has lost its effect now. But there are so many forms of self-care and what we need person to person, moment to moment will differ.
Self-care practices aside, here are some self-care mindsets to remember for a healthier life. For caring for and prioritising your own wellness.
We're not children anymore, we no longer have to look to our parents to give us permission to do or be what we want. Take your power back; stop seeking outside validation and permission. Give yourself permission...
Here are some "permission slip" ideas to undo negative beliefs and lack of self-worth or self-power...
We can't turn back the clock, and we shouldn't aim to. Living in the past or regretting the past does us no favours whatsoever. However, at the ripe old age of 25, I have been thinking over my past and who I am now and who I am becoming. Doing so sparked some ideas of advice I would give to my younger self, and advice I should still follow now.
Plus, anyone out there who may benefit from these ideas, this is for you...
When we feel low or off, we often panic that something big is wrong with us. However, I think a lot of the time, it comes down to our basic needs not being met. Inspired by playing The Sims (lol), I am talking about our basic needs and how they can affect us in life when they're in the red rather than in the green.
It's my birthday and so I thought I'd do some thinking and share all the thoughts and feelings I'm having now that I'm a quarter of a century years old!
Topics covered in the ramble:
How things change so quickly
Intentions and taking steps
Transformation and Evolving
The state of the world is uncertain right now. Our livelihoods have been completely changed. It's hard. It's sad. It's worrying. However, there are still some positives to see and seek right now in the world's current situation. Here are some of those that I've found for myself...
As of the time of recording this, I have just finished my first week at my new job! And so, I wanted to give you a life update and talk about how I have been getting on. All with the theme of doing things before you're ready (like a boss!)...
I've been thinking about how I see myself and the negative things that I have been identifying with. We all create our own reality with the narrative we tell ourselves. So, be careful with what you are identifying with (consciously or not)...
All things come to an end, but that ending also means a new beginning. We often focus on the negatives with endings and scary beginnings, but there is so much beauty in a fresh start and a prosperous new chapter.
With Spring on its way, new beginnings and rebirth are things we should embrace more than ever...
I am about to become a learner again (not a student, but a learner). I'm starting a new job, and so I will be in a stage of learning new things, new environments and from new people. And that's okay! Being a beginner can be scary, but the act of learning should be exciting and fun and never something that we stop doing.
Here's why you should always be a learner...
“Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.”
In today's podcast, we're talking about how to gain the wisdom to know the difference between what you should and shouldn't do in life...
At some point in life, we will have to step into the unknown...which is a hellah scary thing to do! I'm doing just that right now, starting something completely new and terrifying. And so, here are 4 ways I've wrapped my head around the idea, to be able to cope and take that step with less fear...
At this juncture in my life, I'm in a questioning stage. Who am I? What am I meant to do? What's the right way? Many philosophers have agonised over these same concepts for their entire lives (I hope I don't!), but this period is usually down to an Existential Crisis of self.
Here in today's podcast, I'm talking about what we're meant to do and how to settle your mind in times of confusion.
Once again I'm talking about doing things your way! I think there's a pattern here...I have an unconventional spirit, what can I say?! But today is some quick rambly advice about dismissing the rules set by others and doing whatever you need to do for you.
These days we are breaking our necks by looking over all the fences around us. Looking at his garden and her garden; at what they're doing compared to us. But all it causes is pain, confusion, dizziness and paralysis.
Comparison and choice are sending us mad, but I have a simple tool for hopefully kicking it to the kerb...
In this ever-changing modern world that we live in, we feel pulled and pushed in many directions all at once. Our attention has become divided. We face comparisons and the Fear of Missing Out on a regular basis. And of course, with all this, we find ourselves sprinting to keep up or to make it to some imagined finished line.
But we must stop.
“There needs to be a space between the doing…”
We all want to take steps towards lasting change in the new year and the new decade, but we often fall short when we’re doing it for the wrong reasons. Today I’m talking about the important areas for changing your life, with a focus on doing it your way!
This year I'm realising that my journey, my focus, my mindset is all about self-exploration. My content, therefore, will also be around this idea. Not self-development or self-help, per se, but exploring the self, the world, and life as we know it from all angles...
It's January and now that it's the first Monday of the new year, it's time to get down to business! Here are 8 things that I think will set the right tone for the year if you get started on them straight away in January...
It's nearly the New Year, thus a new decade! Here are the lessons that I've learned over ten years (from 14 years old to 24 years old!) and what I'm bringing with me into 2020 and a new wonderful decade...
It’s Christmas week for those of us who celebrate and so I’m talking about what’s on my Christmas list: what I want and need to be a better version of myself in the new year. What’s on your Christmas list?
There's just over two weeks left of the year, which I believe is still plenty of time to do 5 more things to end the year in the right way. Here are 5 things to do before next year, as well as a sneak peek into my own personal intentions for 2020...
The New Year (and New Decade) is on its way, and so I’ve been thinking about what energy I want to bring into 2020. What to do I want to be the focus of my year? How will I do better than before? How will I be happy and healthy next year? I think I have my answer, my motto, my guiding idea for the new year…
“See things clearly…”
We're in the last month of 2019 and a new year (and a new decade!) is on its way. This means that we should begin to pay attention to ourselves and our lives. No, I'm not talking about the ever-popular "New Year, New Me" rhetoric, but instead about remembering who you are...
Sometimes in life, we can become used to fighting. Fighting against others, fighting against our circumstances, fighting against ourselves. But when we step back, put down our weapons, and take a deep breath, we might just realise there’s nothing for us to fight at all…
We need other people in order to do this life thing. Life can be hard at times, but if we let people, they can really help us to get through it. We need all kinds of people for all kinds of things in life. But there's one thing I know for sure, we can't do it alone.
"A stranger is just a friend we haven't yet met..."
It's Halloween this week so let's talk about fear! I wanted to be honest about my own fears, alongside talking about how fear shows up in our lives, the truth about fear, and how to feel the fear but do the thing anyway...
I want to always be honest with you guys and so, to be honest, I've not been too great lately. With anxiety, regular low moods, and confusion about my circumstances, I haven't been myself. And so, I wanted to explain why and also share my thoughts about the decline in mental health, empathy, and honesty in general...
I've been thinking lately about life and how some people are living such cool ones. I think we can get caught up being too strict and serious about life and our decisions, but by stepping back we can take it less seriously and actually enjoy it.
Here are some ideas about how to make life interesting, treat it as an experiment, and have some fun damn it!
Learned behaviours, habits, defaults, emotional reactions, schemas, they are all patterns. A string of connected things that come together to form what you do and who you are. Day to day, we are choosing things for ourselves, consciously or subconsciously.
Today I've briefly covered the topic of the patterns in our lives and what we may be allowing to happen due to poor self-awareness and not taking action to break negative patterns.
There are so many times in life when we are given the same information over and over again. I believe this is life trying to teach us the same lessons so that we truly understand what they mean. As we go through these lessons, we are on our Hero's Journey and the lessons are helping us find and accept our personal NEED. Here are my thoughts on this...
There comes a time in all of our lives when we face a difficult situation or problem that feels too big to tackle. We obsess and worry and drive ourselves crazy, so much so, the problem grows bigger and feels worse.
Here are some ideas on how you can deal with these moments/times better and move forwards.
No matter where you are or who you are, things will change. It's the only guarantee in life. Having the right mindset around changes and transitions is the only way to find happiness in new beginnings...
We all have insecurities that crop up to tell us that we're not good enough, we're broken, we're not worthy. Society comes along to make this worse by displaying an image of perfection that we just can't reach.
Today in the Confidence Challenge, we're talking about how to deal with insecurities and push society's view aside.
Are you someone who cares too much about what other people think of you? Do other people hold power over your emotions, your worth, and your confidence? Here’s how to stop caring what other people think and how to build your self-confidence.
This is the first podcast episode in the Confidence Challenge. Check out the previous challenges on my blog and my YouTube to not miss a day of the Confidence Building Challenge this August!
Today’s topic is how fear can cloud confidence and what to do about it…
The Confidence Building Challenge for August is here! For the whole of August, I will be posting something related to confidence everyday alongside a challenge for you all to complete to help boost your confidence levels! Are you in? Let's do it!
“Right now, you’re just planting seeds. It may not look like much, people might look and not understand what you’re doing, but one day you’ll look over that field and realise that a beautiful rose garden has bloomed. And it was all worth it in the end for that wonderful view.”
In life, we all go through periods where we are forced into a transition or when we feel ready for one. This time of reinvention can be hard to navigate when you’re uncomfortable and unsure. Here are some of my thoughts and tips about how to reinvent yourself in times of transition…
We are a product of our environment. If you are suffering or something is wrong, look to your environment. In order for a flower to grow, it must be planted into the right environment and nurtured correctly - the same goes for us...
Your thoughts and feelings come from your deep-rooted beliefs. Knowing what these beliefs are can change your life, for you are what you believe. You see through the lens of your beliefs about yourself, your life, and your world. Get some perspective and widen your view through a change in your beliefs. Here's how...
Journaling can change your life! It is a brilliant life tool to have at the ready for introspection and awareness. Here at Mindset Managed, we believe that there is a three-step process to emotional freedom: self-awareness, self-knowledge, self-management.
Journaling helps us to accomplish this.
I think that we all have a bad habit of making our lives harder than they need to be. With perspective, present-ness, and awareness, we can see things as they really are, though. We can begin to see what really matters...
Why do our emotions matter? Are they something to be controlled and suppressed, or used and understood? Are you emotionally intelligent? Emotionally resilient? Emotionally aware? Do you even know what these terms mean? If not, give this podcast episode a listen…
I hate the words "life-changing" but spirituality really is CHANGING MY LIFE! It is changing me and my experiences on a deep level... Here is how spirituality helps and heals, what it is, and how it is changing my mindset, relationships, and sense of Self...
It can be tough to have different views about life and the world compared to someone else's. We can often fight for a long time when trying to find who's right and who's wrong. But there is only one definite truth: we all see the world differently...
This Mental Health Awareness month (and week specifically), I wanted to share how we all need to get into the habit of caring about our mental health as a normal, routine part of our lives. How we can all be stronger and healthier and fitter mentally, if we only paid more attention to it...
This is a poem I wrote today for Halloween about the real horrors in our world today. It was also inspired by The Hate U Give which I watched yesterday and read earlier this year. Please, go watch, go read...
You can read the poem instead on my website: www.thewriteway.me
There is usually a reason why we feel recurring negative emotions, and it is your job to find out what those reasons are if you ever want to stop them in their tracks. Here's a few ideas of where to start...
We all have to go through changes in our lives and when we are better equipped to deal with it, we can help our resilience and overall happiness. Here are a few ways you can better deal with inevitable change...
Sadly, Life is Hard & Unfair. It just is. There's nothing we can do and there's no escaping it. But there are many ways that we can cope, manage troubles, and change our perspectives or lives for the better. I wanted to talk about those things and how important they are...
In this episode, I'm sharing some tips on how you can Be a Better Person to and for Others. This is important for you to have a happier life, as well as for others to be happier with you, too. It's easier to do these things than go around full of judgment, jealousy, anger, anxiety, or hate...
Here are some behaviours, attitudes, thoughts, and feelings that I think are poisonous for our mind and our lives in general. If we can stop these things, be mindful of these things, and work past these things, then we will have a much happier and healthier mind and life!
We all need to give ourselves a break every once in a while. These days, we're all so busy trying to be productive and put our best lives on display. But, we all need to recharge and reset every now and then if we want to live healthy, happy, successful lives.
There is so much to see in this world, and anyone who doesn't step out of their comfort zone in order to see it, is only robbing themselves of those wonderful sights and experiences. This is why you need to travel, for your own good...
I want to urge you, whilst we're still at the start of this podcast, to live your best life. To strive for the very best from yourself and your life. Live with intention; create your masterpiece. Not a basic color-by-numbers...
I wanted to take a moment to appreciate TIME. Time does so much for us, and in just a year, I have progressed so much and changed in so many ways. And so have you, I bet, if only you take the time to appreciate it...