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Single You "The Podcast"

Single You "The Podcast"

By Reka Robinson
In September of 2020, after 18 years in radio, I stepped down from my full time job— to focus on what God is calling me to do in this season. I’m called to guide women who need to hear that singleness is not a punishment and you are worthy regardless of your relationship status. I’m the Founder of Single You Academy & the host of this Podcast! I help the loyal frustrated woman who is tired of giving 2nd chances and trusting he will change stop that cycle by teaching her how to set and KEEP her boundaries.
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63. Bryan on: creating a safe space for his wife, even before she was his wife (Part 2).
More information on Single You Academy Here. ---- If you haven't listen to Part 1 with Bryan, I suggest you do that first. It would just make more sense sis. Go here.  In this episode with Bryan we pick right up where he was discussing how he should have never gotten revenge on is first wife. Which made his now wife (then girlfriend) question his character and ask a lot of deep ass discerning questions of him... 3:47 Bryan explains, It's ok to talk about your ex and that experience in your new budding relationship but there is a limit.  12:36 Handling phone triggers and those conversations. 18:45 Approaching new relationships with hard conversations **Spoiler Alerts** for The Ultimatum Season 1 and Temptation Island Season 6 25:21 'The Ultimatum' (Netflix) and our take on the relationship between Ray and Zay 36:25 Kendall and Erica of 'Temptation Island' (Peacock) and our take on the relationship. ---- Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area, unlearn bad Christian dating theology, learn how to set and KEEP boundaries and you know you have nothing else to lose. In, that case, I invite you to apply and join the wait list to Single You Academy. Doors Close June 5, 2022 Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help. DM me *boundaries* or Click here to complete your application now! My DM is always open! Find me on IG here. (the fake TikTok account, I'd love for you to report = @justmeRekaa) Twitter here. Facebook here. TikTok here. Email = Reka@justmeReka.com Single You the Pillow Collection; Shop Here.  Xo 💕𝘠𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘊𝘦𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘪𝘦𝘥 𝘕𝘓𝘗 𝘓𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘊𝘰𝘢𝘤𝘩, 𝘙𝘦𝘬a
52:16
May 19, 2022
62.2 {Bonus} Single You Academy is Open + Monday Motivation: Are you good at setting boundaries with men or nah?
More information on Single You Academy Here. ---- Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area, unlearn bad Christian dating theology, learn how to set and KEEP boundaries and you know you have nothing else to lose. In, that case, I invite you to apply and join the wait list to Single You Academy. Doors Close June 5, 2022 Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help. DM me *boundaries* or Click here to complete your application now! My DM is always open! Find me on IG here. (the fake TikTok account, I'd love for you to report = @justmeRekaa) Twitter here. Facebook here. TikTok here. Email = Reka@justmeReka.com Single You the Pillow Collection; Shop Here.  Xo 💕𝘠𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘊𝘦𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘪𝘦𝘥 𝘕𝘓𝘗 𝘓𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘊𝘰𝘢𝘤𝘩, 𝘙𝘦𝘬a
20:43
May 16, 2022
62. Bryan on: creating a safe space for his wife, even before she was his wife (Part 1).
More information on Single You Academy Here. ----- You can connect with Bryan here. The conversation I had with Dai here.  Intro. 1:05 There isn't enough Good men talking about their healthy relationships (with their wife). 4:15 How were you thinking about dating and marriage leading up to meeting Dai... at Starbucks 15:11 What was said and/or what was the vibe for you to even think Dai was your wife?  20:54 Men should speed up and women slow down when it comes to dating.  25:41 What kinds of question did you ask Dai to get to know her and show her interest?  27:04 Why is masculine energy bad for women?  32:05 Was Bryan ever intimidated by Dai?  35:40 Did Dai help him start his healing journey?  40:25 Men don't operate from the emotional space (especially if they don't do the work) but we grown now and I'll never take that excuse again. 41:43 Dai asked the questions that made Bryan become. What was those hard questions?  ... to be continued to next week!  ---- Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area, unlearn bad Christian dating theology, learn how to set and KEEP boundaries and you know you have nothing else to lose. In, that case, I invite you to apply and join the wait list to Single You Academy. Doors Close June 5, 2022 Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help. DM me *boundaries* or Click here to complete your application now! My DM is always open! Find me on IG here. (the fake TikTok account, I'd love for you to report = @justmeRekaa) Twitter here. Facebook here. TikTok here. Email = Reka@justmeReka.com Single You the Pillow Collection; Shop Here.  Xo 💕𝘠𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘊𝘦𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘪𝘦𝘥 𝘕𝘓𝘗 𝘓𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘊𝘰𝘢𝘤𝘩, 𝘙𝘦𝘬a
55:20
May 12, 2022
{Bonus} Monday motivation and what's coming on Thursday...
Next week we'll talk to Bryan, my friend Dai's husband. She's been on the show before you can listen here. Bryan will be discussing how he created a safe space for Dai even before she was his wife. :-) ------ More information on Single You Academy Here. Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area, unlearn bad Christian dating theology, learn how to set and KEEP boundaries and you know you have nothing else to lose. In, that case, I invite you to apply and join the wait list to Single You Academy. Doors Close June 5, 2022 Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help. DM me *boundaries* or Click here to complete your application now! My DM is always open! Find me on IG here. (the fake TikTok account, I'd love for you to report = @justmeRekaa) Twitter here. Facebook here. TikTok here. Email = Reka@justmeReka.com Single You the Pillow Collection; Shop Here.  Xo 💕𝘠𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘊𝘦𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘪𝘦𝘥 𝘕𝘓𝘗 𝘓𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘊𝘰𝘢𝘤𝘩, 𝘙𝘦𝘬a
08:31
May 09, 2022
61. Lu'Cretia On: Handling ghosting and the nights you feel lonely (Part 2)
More information on Single You Academy Here. In Part 2 of my conversation with Lu'Cretia we talk about ghosting, the times of feeling lonely and how we stay on that path of not fumbling our boundaries.  00:00 How do you handle ghosting? 4:00 Is Russell really corny?  8:25 What did Lu'Cretia do to transform her mind?  10:15 Stop taking advice from people who aren't living how you actually want to live.  12:25 How is Lu'Cretia to stay on the path of not fumbling her boundaries?  15:00 How we're quick with cutting me off.  19:07 How is Lu'Cretia handling the nights of feeling lonely?  ---- Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area, unlearn bad Christian dating theology, learn how to set and KEEP boundaries and you know you have nothing else to lose. In, that case, I invite you to apply and join the wait list to Single You Academy. Doors Close June 5, 2022 Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help. DM me *boundaries* or Click here to complete your application now! My DM is always open! Find me on IG here. (the fake TikTok account, I'd love for you to report = @justmeRekaa) Twitter here. Facebook here. TikTok here. Email = Reka@justmeReka.com Single You the Pillow Collection; Shop Here.  Xo 💕𝘠𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘊𝘦𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘪𝘦𝘥 𝘕𝘓𝘗 𝘓𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘊𝘰𝘢𝘤𝘩, 𝘙𝘦𝘬a  
35:05
May 05, 2022
60. Lu'Cretia on: I thought that if I did girlfriend things then 'he' who I dated would eventually choose to be with me. (Part 1)
More information on Single You Academy Here. ---- New to me? I suggest starting here:  57. From back-to-back dysfunctional relationships, to my solo trip to Mexico... to finally becoming the woman I said I wanted to be! How'd I do it? (Conference) 49. How can we be so confident in our professional life but not in the lane of relationship? (Kasia Interviews Reka)  50. If you were raised to be a daughter and not a woman, then re-parenting yourself is necessary for your healing. ----- Can you relate to Lu'Cretia's truth (title of this episode) ?? Today we go deeper on what Lu'Cretia's journey has been to her beautiful awakening and self love path. Intro 1:00: Lu'Cretia says that her Dad (more so) would tell her about the bad things that men can/will do.  3:00 Men weren't necessary and option.  4:30 Doing girlfriend things hoping he'll pick me.  6:00 I knew my value but I went about it the wrong way of tying to get a man to see it.  8:20 Having walls up to protect myself but it attracted emotionally unavailable men.  11:00 Not being able to admit "I want a man" which is causing dysfunction in your dating life.  14:16 We focus on professional development so much but don't focus on personal development 14:50 It's not bitterness, it's hopelessness. "he's not even out there".  18:10 How is Lu'Cretia dating today?  ... to be continued next week!  ---- Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area, unlearn bad Christian dating theology, learn how to set and KEEP boundaries and you know you have nothing else to lose. In, that case, I invite you to apply and join the wait list to Single You Academy. Doors Close June 5, 2022 Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help. DM me *boundaries* or Click here to complete your application now! My DM is always open! Find me on IG here. (the fake TikTok account, I'd love for you to report = @justmeRekaa) Twitter here. Facebook here. TikTok here. Email = Reka@justmeReka.com Single You the Pillow Collection; Shop Here.  Xo 💕𝘠𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘊𝘦𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘪𝘦𝘥 𝘕𝘓𝘗 𝘓𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘊𝘰𝘢𝘤𝘩, 𝘙𝘦𝘬a
40:18
April 28, 2022
59. I don't believe a lot of Women Of Faith know what love truly is....
Cause the way you (old me) be dishing out love, I can tell you have zero idea what it means! Not in the way Jesus wants us to love and be loved.  ---- Single You the Pillow Collection; Shop Here.  Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area and you know you have nothing else to lose. You're ready to work on you. You need help to get rid of the shame you have in this area of your life, you want peace and you want to feel like you can trust yourself again. In, that case, I invite you to apply to and join the wait list to Single You Academy. How will you end 2022? Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help. DM me *boundaries* or Click here to complete your application now! My DM is always open! Find me on IG here. (the fake IG account, I'd love for you to report = @justmeRekaa) Twitter here. Facebook here. TikTok here. Email = Reka@justmeReka.com Xo 💕𝘠𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘊𝘦𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘪𝘦𝘥 𝘕𝘓𝘗 𝘓𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘊𝘰𝘢𝘤𝘩, 𝘙𝘦𝘬a
15:11
April 07, 2022
58. Who is the woman you want to be on Jan 1, 2023?
You will either have a year of excuses or a year of.... I DID THAT!!!!!!  Single You the Pillow Collection; Shop Here.  Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area and you know you have nothing else to lose. You're ready to work on you. You need help to get rid of the shame you have in this area of your life, you want peace and you want to feel like you can trust yourself again. In, that case, I invite you to apply to and join the wait list to Single You Academy. How will you end 2022? Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help. DM me *boundaries* or Click here to complete your application now! My DM is always open! Find me on IG here. (the fake IG account, I'd love for you to report = @justmeRekaa) Twitter here. Facebook here. TikTok here. Email = Reka@justmeReka.com Xo 💕𝘠𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘊𝘦𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘪𝘦𝘥 𝘕𝘓𝘗 𝘓𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘊𝘰𝘢𝘤𝘩, 𝘙𝘦𝘬a
16:12
March 31, 2022
57. From back-to-back dysfunctional relationships, to my solo trip to Mexico... to finally becoming the woman I said I wanted to be! How'd I do it? (Conference)
For those of you who are just finding me and you haven't been able to hear my full story yet. Well here it is, I did this speech in 2019 at a conference called; Inspired. It was a woman empowerment event and I asked the audience full of women, who's your mirror? Society? Men? Your kids? Your parents? I challenge you to make YOU your only mirror..  The Reka I was was in 2017 and before: my issue was thinking that how men saw me (mirror) was correct. You see I thought, I couldn’t see myself and only other people could see how I was coming off. God forbid I come off as a cheater and I wasn’t.... or a 'bad' girlfriend and I wasn't. I was looking in the wrong mirror. Instead of questioning ‘why do they always think I’m in the wrong’ (projection) I always blamed me.. for them not being happy or cheating. Unfortunately, I was a target for insecure men and didn't know it. I had no idea what I was doing in these dating streets. So passed up a lot of red flags (when you know better you do better) and dating insecure men is the opposite of guarding your heart. Insecure men will do 1 of 2 things; abuse you or leave you.  Single You the Pillow Collection; Shop Here.  Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area and you know you have nothing else to lose. You're ready to work on you. You need help to get rid of the shame you have in this area of your life, you want peace and you want to feel like you can trust yourself again. In, that case, I invite you to apply to and join the wait list to Single You Academy. How will you end 2022? Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help. DM me *boundaries* or Click here to complete your application now! My DM is always open! Find me on IG here. (the fake IG account, I'd love for you to report = @justmeRekaa) Twitter here. Facebook here. TikTok here. Email = Reka@justmeReka.com Xo 💕𝘠𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘊𝘦𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘪𝘦𝘥 𝘕𝘓𝘗 𝘓𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘊𝘰𝘢𝘤𝘩, 𝘙𝘦𝘬a
25:02
March 24, 2022
56. {Bonus} Why do we not talk about all the unanswered prayers? Specifically around women being told to pray for her husband...and now she's 45 and never been married?
If you’re new to me. Here is what you need to know… I’m REALLY good at helping women shift their mindset around being single. I also need you to know that I’m not an expert in God. I just know what I’m experiencing in my relationship with God. So I hope that this conversation I have with my friend Cameo encourages you to lean into your relationship with God. My constant goal is to figure out ways to introduce relationship with God differently to the woman of faith, who knows that the 'church' failed her... which in the end caused you to see yourself as 'less than' because you're single. To the woman who has a lot of frustration around men and dating... we have got to get away from the ways of society and religion and get into figuring out who we actually are.  00:00 I'm not here to tell you want you're doing is right or wrong. I'm just here to make you think and I pray he leads you to having a deeper relationship with God.  8:00 Do you just know Jesus? Or do you believe in Jesus? (Do you believe in Jesus vs. Do you actually BELIEVE Jesus) 14:46 Praise breaks are cute but that's not gonna heal your trauma. Correction = suppressing your trauma through praise breaks does not equate to healing. Posted by Jay Barnett. 15:14 How come we don't talk about unanswered prayers? What about the girl who was told at 12 to pray for your husband and she's 45 and still not married?  16:48 Not cultivating a relationship with God.  18:40 How we feel when people just say 'pray about it'.  21:15 Is there a such thing as unanswered prayers?  31:05 Why do we want a husband?  35:35 Do you hear God say no? What does God saying no look like to you? 50:00 Is God still good to you if you don't get the husband?  57:20 "she" said her biggest fear is that she'd be a woman who is not married and with out kids. Listen to part 2 over on The Good Girl Podcast.  What does it mean to say I want Gods will.  When we say we want a husband... I bet we mean more of 'this' we're just not honest. Our thoughts on Devon Franklin & Megan Good Single You the Pillow Collection; Shop Here.  Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area and you know you have nothing else to lose. You're ready to work on you. You need help to get rid of the shame you have in this area of your life, you want peace and you want to feel like you can trust yourself again. In, that case, I invite you to apply to and join the wait list to Single You Academy. How will you end 2022? Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help. DM me *boundaries* or Click here to complete your application now! My DM is always open! Find me on IG here. (the fake IG account, I'd love for you to report = @justmeRekaa) Twitter here. Facebook here. TikTok here. Email = Reka@justmeReka.com Xo 💕𝘠𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘊𝘦𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘪𝘦𝘥 𝘕𝘓𝘗 𝘓𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘊𝘰𝘢𝘤𝘩, 𝘙𝘦𝘬a
01:29:06
March 21, 2022
55. Why all the commentary on the 'Tinder-Swindler' is all about how stupid the women were and NOT about how evil the man was... (Part 2 with Skyy)
Let's talk the tinder-swindler (on Netflix) What I wrote on Facebook....  "I wonder why all the commentary I see on the “Tinder-Swindler” is all about how stupid the girls are/were and NOT about how evil the man was? Rhetorical. Ps. Some of you want your girls to be married so badly but give her ZERO schooling on what love actually is. She’s out here already believing at 12 that when a boy says “I love you” … he means it." What Skyy B. wrote on Facebook... "My thing is on most days the rhetoric is that todays women don't know how to support a man, too independent, etc. However extremely naive these women were they also believed that this man who had shown them a nice time was in danger and they tried to help. Extremely naive, foolish, etc. I realize not everyone has the same life experiences that we do that make us ultra on alert and can smell bs immediately upon arrival. There's A LOT of women, hell even us, they may not have been swindled out of cash directly but definitely swindled out of time, love, panties, you name it for men we thought we really took real time to know!! They definitely gotta take the L tho because I think they did it not only because they thought he had it to return but also because they wanted to be chosen by this billionaire. They fell for the dream of the lifestyle. So there's that truth too." So let's discuss... in this episode. Reach Skyy here.  ----- Single You the Pillow Collection; Shop Here.  Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area and you know you have nothing else to lose. You're ready to work on you. You need help to get rid of the shame you have in this area of your life, you want peace and you want to feel like you can trust yourself again. In, that case, I invite you to apply to and join the wait list to Single You Academy. How will you end 2022? Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help. DM me *boundaries* or Click here to complete your application now! My DM is always open! Find me on IG here. (the fake IG account, I'd love for you to report = @justmeRekaa) Twitter here. Facebook here. TikTok here. Email = Reka@justmeReka.com Xo 💕𝘠𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘊𝘦𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘪𝘦𝘥 𝘕𝘓𝘗 𝘓𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘊𝘰𝘢𝘤𝘩, 𝘙𝘦𝘬a
45:16
March 17, 2022
54.2. {Bonus} How not knowing who you are is (negatively) affecting your life… what’s on the other side of doing the work?
Listen... we get so bitter and upset about being treated poorly and we don’t realize once we stop fumbling our boundaries being treated poorly significantly minimizes. So really what’s on the other side of doing the work? Knowing exactly who you are Showing up as you in every room Having the audacity to believe you can get what you want. Which equals you being able to walk away from a man who isn’t right for you. The first time you feel that. Can you honestly say with a straight face that you are that woman? The woman you actually want to be, are you her?  If you're saying; I know that I need the change but I need direction on that... that's my constant prayer for direction on how to change. Then let's get you signed up for Single You Academy.  Cause now you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area and you know you have nothing else to lose. You're ready to work on you. You need help to get rid of the shame you have in this area of your life, you want peace and you want to feel like you can trust yourself again. In, that case, I invite you to apply to Single You Academy. How will you end 2022? Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help. DM me *boundaries* or Click here to complete your application now! My DM is always open! Find me on IG here. (the fake IG account, I'd love for you to report = @justmeRekaa) Twitter here. Facebook here. TikTok here. Email = Reka@justmeReka.com Single You the Pillow Collection; Shop Here.  Xo 💕𝘠𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘊𝘦𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘪𝘦𝘥 𝘕𝘓𝘗 𝘓𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘊𝘰𝘢𝘤𝘩, 𝘙𝘦𝘬a
25:58
March 14, 2022
54. Skyy B.E. on: Her 7 year abstinence journey (2x) and is that the true key to cutting off dysfunctional relationship?
I speak to faith based women, especially Black women who grew up in church. So I absolutely suggest that you listen to this episode before or after this episode about abstinence.  In this episode Skyy B. (my friend and Howard sister) speaks on her journey with abstinence.... twice... 7 years... twice and how the first time didn't really change her behaviors with men or stop the frustration or pain. She explains why. On your journey think about; the woman that you want to be, how can she show up in your behaviors? We also discuss; our grandparents before us got married in their teens... do we have to? The sex shame... 'God is mad at me' because I didn't wait.... plus Valentine's has passed, did you 'slip' up? If you did... we discuss why. Reach Skyy here.  Single You the Pillow Collection; Shop Here.  Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area and you know you have nothing else to lose. You're ready to work on you. You need help to get rid of the shame you have in this area of your life, you want peace and you want to feel like you can trust yourself again. In, that case, I invite you to apply to and join the wait list to Single You Academy. How will you end 2022? Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help. DM me *boundaries* or Click here to complete your application now! My DM is always open! Find me on IG here. (the fake IG account, I'd love for you to report = @justmeRekaa) Twitter here. Facebook here. TikTok here. Email = Reka@justmeReka.com Xo 💕𝘠𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘊𝘦𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘪𝘦𝘥 𝘕𝘓𝘗 𝘓𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘊𝘰𝘢𝘤𝘩, 𝘙𝘦𝘬a
33:14
March 10, 2022
53. Ce (licensed therapist) on: How we emasculate men (yes we have work to do sis)... what is he gaining by being with you?
The continued discussion on... do men say "there are no good women out there". What is their frustration with women? 1:40 Men say "she won't let me be the man". 2:20 Explaining what emasculating him looks like. 8:42 Men are sensitive... human... 12:58 What is a husband... what do you want?  14:14 Is there a level of seeing 'where is this going' with him? Or is that wasting time... 19:00 The narcissism word... and is he truly one just because he got angry?  22:50 Not judging the situation so much. His character and your actions.  23:45 Adjusting his level of access to me (you). 26:10 Giving men grace but not to my (your) detriment anymore.  Single You the Pillow Collection; Shop Here.  Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area and you know you have nothing else to lose. You're ready to work on you. You need help to get rid of the shame you have in this area of your life, you want peace and you want to feel like you can trust yourself again. In, that case, I invite you to apply to and join the wait list to Single You Academy. How will you end 2022? Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help. DM me *boundaries* or Click here to complete your application now! My DM is always open! Find me on IG here. (the fake IG account, I'd love for you to report = @justmeRekaa) Twitter here. Facebook here. TikTok here. Email = Reka@justmeReka.com Xo 💕𝘠𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘊𝘦𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘪𝘦𝘥 𝘕𝘓𝘗 𝘓𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘊𝘰𝘢𝘤𝘩, 𝘙𝘦𝘬a
35:21
March 03, 2022
52.2 {Bonus} You know the root cause of WHY you've allowed yourself to be disrespected by men but... HOW do you stop that cycle? (Listener question)
Today in this bonus episode I tackle a question I got via this TikTok video.. "I know the root cause but how do I stop now that I know?" Great question and I answer it today on this episode and the visual from TikTok is here.  Plus I tackle this question I got due to that same video... "How can I help someone who does this (consistently choose men who aren't interested in them)? The visual of this answer from TikTok is here.  Notes on my last answer...  There is no universal "right way" to "do" a relationship. Your blueprint to a healthy relationship lies in you. Make the investment of time and money to figure YOU out. I reference episode 50 here and 39 here in this episode.  ------- Single You the Pillow Collection; Shop Here.  Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area and you know you have nothing else to lose. You're ready to work on you. You need help to get rid of the shame you have in this area of your life, you want peace and you want to feel like you can trust yourself again. In, that case, I invite you to apply to and join the wait list to Single You Academy. How will you end 2022? Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help. DM me *boundaries* or Click here to complete your application now! My DM is always open! Find me on IG here. (the fake IG account, I'd love for you to report = @justmeRekaa) Twitter here. Facebook here. TikTok here. Email = Reka@justmeReka.com Xo 💕𝘠𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘊𝘦𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘪𝘦𝘥 𝘕𝘓𝘗 𝘓𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘊𝘰𝘢𝘤𝘩, 𝘙𝘦𝘬a
15:32
February 27, 2022
52. Ce (Licensed Therapist) on: Are there really no good men out there or is it us sis?
So I had to bring my Bison sister back to discuss the #1 thing I see/hear women say. Ce Anderson is a Licensed therapist, wellness & trauma recovery expert. You can check her practice out here.  Did we really miss out on a good man? Are they gone... or do we have some growing up and re-evaluating to do?  1:29 Are there really no good men? And why do we say that?  4:08 Who am I attracting and how are they different from what I say I want?  5:05 Not allowing the desires and the fantasy to diminish what you're seeing (for said man). 6:49 Are we even mentally ready to date?  8:35 How should men be maneuvering in dating. What does Ce tell her male clients?  12:27 We will say "well yea, he said he didn't want a girl but he treated me as such...". Holding ourselves accountable and having our own standards. 14:23 Scenarios with men 1. He says he doesn't want a girl | 2. He says that but also treats you as his girl. How do we handle this, especially when 2 happens? Do men say, "there are no good women out there."  15:20 Discussion on scenario 1. What level of access should we give him?  21:30 Why do we ignore that gut feeling?  23:16 Discussion on scenario 2. Dealing with ghosting, especially after you were really feeling him.  26:00 A break up is not a loss. Mentioned Meagan Good and Devon Franklin.  35:20 Discussion on "do men say "there are no good women out there". What is their frustration with women?  ...... cont. to next week!!   Single You the Pillow Collection; Shop Here.  Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area and you know you have nothing else to lose. You're ready to work on you. You need help to get rid of the shame you have in this area of your life, you want peace and you want to feel like you can trust yourself again. In, that case, I invite you to apply to and join the wait list to Single You Academy. How will you end 2022? Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help. DM me *boundaries* or Click here to complete your application now! My DM is always open! Find me on IG here. (the fake IG account, I'd love for you to report = @justmeRekaa) Twitter here. Facebook here. TikTok here. Email = Reka@justmeReka.com Xo 💕𝘠𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘊𝘦𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘪𝘦𝘥 𝘕𝘓𝘗 𝘓𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘊𝘰𝘢𝘤𝘩, 𝘙𝘦𝘬a
49:09
February 24, 2022
51.2 {Bonus} My message to you (I need your help) and thank you for 4 million views on TikTok
Seriously, I guess I 'made it' whatever that means but I have an imposter. Will the "real Reka please stand up" and that's ME! NOT @justmeRekaa (with the double aa) on instagram. please go REPORT that person. I don't do readings, nor do I say things like "grand rising" in real life!! :-)  Plus on this bonus episode...  Why you can say you want to stop being mishandled by men, know why you allow it (root cause) and yet you're still in that cycle.  Who I am as a coach, who I coach and a snapshot of what Single You Academy is.  Please leave a review.  Here is the TikTok video that went viral.  Listen to episode 41. Titled; Stacey on: A cautionary-tale for women. What can happen if your money mindset and actions aren't right before dating. Single You the Pillow Collection; Shop Here.  Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area and you know you have nothing else to lose. You're ready to work on you. You need help to get rid of the shame you have in this area of your life, you want peace and you want to feel like you can trust yourself again. In, that case, I invite you to apply to and join the wait list to Single You Academy. How will you end 2022? Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help. DM me *boundaries* or Click here to complete your application now! My DM is always open! Find me on IG here. Twitter here. Facebook here. TikTok here. Email = Reka@justmeReka.com Xo 💕𝘠𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘊𝘦𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘪𝘦𝘥 𝘕𝘓𝘗 𝘓𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘊𝘰𝘢𝘤𝘩, 𝘙𝘦𝘬a
18:10
February 19, 2022
51: Anwar on: Love overachieving and how that is effecting your life in a negative way.
This episode is Part 2 of last week's episode with Anwar. I recommend listening to that episode first and then come back to this one.  So let's talk... is not being in a relationship a failure? Why do we see a single woman and automatically think... what's wrong with her?  0:00 Love overachieving, Anwar's definition. Is love a game or not? (Listen to his full episode here) 4:35 Most people are not themselves when they are dating. Love is not an audition. 6:00 How the awards we get as a little affect how we view relationships.  11:45 How the scarcity mindset in love is affecting you your life. Are you truly never going to find your man? 19:58 Are you the nice girl, hard girl or hurt girl? (Listen to Anwar's full episode here) Single You the Pillow Collection; Shop Here.  Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area and you know you have nothing else to lose. You're ready to work on you. You need help to get rid of the shame you have in this area of your life, you want peace and you want to feel like you can trust yourself again. In, that case, I invite you to apply to and join the wait list to Single You Academy. How will you end 2022? Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help. DM me *boundaries* or Click here to complete your application now! My DM is always open! Find me on IG here. Twitter here. Facebook here. TikTok here. Email = Reka@justmeReka.com Xo 💕𝘠𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘊𝘦𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘪𝘦𝘥 𝘕𝘓𝘗 𝘓𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘊𝘰𝘢𝘤𝘩, 𝘙𝘦𝘬a
46:60
February 17, 2022
50. Anwar on: If you were raised to be a daughter instead of a woman, then re-parenting yourself is a necessary step to your healing and love journey!
A discussion with Dating & Relationship coach, Anwar White. 0:00 Introduction of Anwar and how he became a coach.  4:34 Why are we failing in this lane of relationships? #1 reason 7:23 How we judge men and don't accept. Unfortunately it causes us to put 'him' on a pedestal.   14:00 How our parents didn't teach us how to be a woman and emotional available to our 'men'.  17:11 Being passive aggressive is at our detriment.  19:00 What I had to re-parent for myself. With men and my parents.  22:00 How loyalty as a child affects our loyalty to men who don't deserve it.  25:11 Not having the audacity to believe we can actually get a loving, fruitful, flourishing and fulfilling relationships 25:30 How no one asks you what you want and need as a daughter. You're just asked to do... 'manage the household'.  28:22 Getting into love over acheiving and the SYA waitlist.  End; becoming a wise woman to re-parent yourself and to stop this cycle of dysfunction with men. Single You the Pillow Collection; Shop Here.  Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area and you know you have nothing else to lose. You're ready to work on you. You need help to get rid of the shame you have in this area of your life, you want peace and you want to feel like you can trust yourself again. In, that case, I invite you to apply to and join the wait list to Single You Academy. How will you end 2022? Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help. DM me *boundaries* or Click here to complete your application now! My DM is always open! Find me on IG here. Twitter here. Facebook here. TikTok here. Email = Reka@justmeReka.com Xo 💕𝘠𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘊𝘦𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘪𝘦𝘥 𝘕𝘓𝘗 𝘓𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘊𝘰𝘢𝘤𝘩, 𝘙𝘦𝘬a
49:53
February 10, 2022
49. How can we be so confident in our professional life but not in the lane of relationship? (Kasia Interviews Reka)
Single You the Pillow Collection; Shop Here.  In this episode the tables have been turned and I get interviewed. We tackle....  0:00 From her series titled; from timid to confidence. Kasia Brandford (find her here) has asked me to share my story and how/why I become the "single girls life coach". 6:45 How easy or difficult is it to know that you're in an emotionally abusive relationship when you're in a long-distance relationship?  If you already heard my story skip to.... 9:45 Professional confidence. How can we be so confident in one area and not in others? 12:54 Performing Happy. What happens to our confidence when we're in performance mode?  14:35 When you went to Mexico (solo trip) and you started doing 'the work'. What was some of the first things you came to realize about yourself?  17:13 How we're actually creating all the dysfunction in our lives with men... we have more control than we think or know how to execute.  18:35 What are some of the first things (self care) you started to do after your Mexico trip?   21:20 Is your relationship with God ...is that work part of your coming back to your relationship with you? Or is a relationship with God and a relationship with yourself the same?  23:15 What are some things you recommend for people to do to get over shame?  26:55 How do we develop the confidence to set and keep a boundary?  34:16 Mental gymnastic and getting discouraged because of negative thoughts.  37:06 What is the biggest lie that you once believed?  Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area and you know you have nothing else to lose. You're ready to work on you. You need help to get rid of the shame you have in this area of your life, you want peace and you want to feel like you can trust yourself again. In, that case, I invite you to apply to and join the wait list to Single You Academy. How will you end 2022? Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help. DM me *boundaries* or Click here to complete your application now! My DM is always open! Find me on IG here.  Twitter here.  Facebook here.  TikTok here.  Email = Reka@justmeReka.com Xo 💕𝘠𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘊𝘦𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘪𝘦𝘥 𝘕𝘓𝘗 𝘓𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘊𝘰𝘢𝘤𝘩, 𝘙𝘦𝘬a
50:49
February 03, 2022
48. Cameo on: slowing down the dating process and dating in fear because we're faith based women.
Single You the Pillow Collection; Shop Here.  In this episode we tackle... 00:00 Ugh I had covid and intro of Cameo King. Host of the "Good Girl Podcast". 5:00 How do we slow down the dating process. Question... Yeah -one thing I’m like really battling with.. when it comes to dating... is being able to separate my heart from it. Because I be taking men way too deeply sometimes. Any tips when it comes to that I guess? 6:03 It's not about your heart, it's about the men you're dealing with.  10:35 We're looking for a magic bullet to fix our relationship life that doesn't exist. 16:13 Why sex is off the table for me.  18:43 How we date with our heart or not.  21:31 We only allow disrespect with men we like.  32:57 This prescribed version of a good woman we're falling for. 35:12 Men who shy away from questions are hiding something. 36:12 How can 'he' actually love and care for me if he's not... 37:49 I want to be loved correctly and here is how.  39:00 Working through that fear that he'll leave.  43:38 Words vs. actions vs. having both.  46:21 There is a difference in dating a man who wants a relationship and wants to be married vs. a man that doesn't.  48:00 The pressure to get it right because we're women of faith.  54:30 Yes God hates divorce which is why there are steps we have to stop skipping before we get married.  59:00 We all need help. Therapy. A mentor and/or a coach.  1:02:20 Dating without fear and what that looks like.  Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area and you know you have nothing else to lose. You're ready to work on you. You need help to get rid of the shame you have in this area of your life, you want peace and you want to feel like you can trust yourself again. In, that case, I invite you to apply to and join the wait list to Single You Academy. How will you end 2022? Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help. DM me *boundaries* or Click here to complete your application now! My DM is always open! Find me on IG here. Twitter here. Facebook here. Email = Reka@justmeReka.com Xo 💕𝘠𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘊𝘦𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘪𝘦𝘥 𝘕𝘓𝘗 𝘓𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘊𝘰𝘢𝘤𝘩, 𝘙𝘦𝘬a
01:24:02
January 27, 2022
47. Tapping in deeper on your self love journey (and my thoughts on the Insecure series finale).
Single You the Pillow Collection; Shop Here.  In this episode we tackle... How did you feel about Issa ending up with Lawrence? My thoughts...  Review Shout out. I didn’t just let time pass (because it wouldn't have transformed me)... here is what I mean.  I didn’t just use my insight to change (because it wouldn't have transformed me)... here is what I didn't instead.  The Power of Now. Poem. Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area and you know you have nothing else to lose. You're ready to work on you. You need help to get rid of the shame you have in this area of your life, you want peace and you want to feel like you can trust yourself again. In, that case, I invite you to apply to and join the wait list to Single You Academy. How will you end 2022? Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help. DM me *boundaries* or Click here to complete your application now! My DM is always open! Find me on IG here. Twitter here. Facebook here. Email = Reka@justmeReka.com  Xo 💕𝘠𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘊𝘦𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘪𝘦𝘥 𝘕𝘓𝘗 𝘓𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘊𝘰𝘢𝘤𝘩, 𝘙𝘦𝘬𝘢
44:11
January 13, 2022
46. Keetra on: what happens when we have the ..."at least he isn't"... excuse and we settle... (her testimonial of SYA)
Just in time for that New Year Resolution; Single You the Pillow Collection; Shop Here.  :00 Introducing Keetra 3:58 Did your (pastor) parents have a conversation with her about what makes a healthy relationship?  9:46 Why she stayed in her 15 year marriage.  10:57 How 'church' and 'church folk' didn't help. 14:00 After her divorce the fog cleared and here's why. 18:15 Why Keetra signed up for Single You Academy (SYA). 28:04 How reading before you're ready won't help you.  31:02 How SYA is actually helping her son as well. 37:27 Did you know Maya Angelou's quote but still allowed a man to treat you like trash?  46:30 How the tools she got from SYA is still showing up in her life, after she completed the program.  51:59 Setting boundaries and more on what SYA will teach you.  Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area and you know you have nothing else to lose. You're ready to work on you. You need help to get rid of the shame you have in this area of your life, you want peace and you want to feel like you can trust yourself again. In, that case, I invite you to apply to Single You Academy. Applications for SYA will be open until we fill our 5 open spots.  How will you be going into 2022. We will review applicants on a first come, first serve basis. So if you want this, go after it. Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help. DM me *boundaries* or Click here to complete your application now! My DM is always open! Find me on IG here. Twitter here. Facebook here. Email = Reka@justmeReka.com || My DM is always open! Xo 💕𝘠𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘊𝘦𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘪𝘦𝘥 𝘕𝘓𝘗 𝘓𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘊𝘰𝘢𝘤𝘩, 𝘙𝘦𝘬𝘢
01:06:04
January 06, 2022
45. Lanaya on: We can also ruin good men if we don't hold true to our values and boundaries sis.
Just in time for that New Year Resolution; Single You the Pillow Collection; Shop Here.  0:00 "We can also ruin good men if we don't hold true to our values and boundaries" - What does Lanaya mean by that?  0:50 If you (women) have the power to help (men) we also have the power to hinder. 3:10 How we ruin me (Lanaya on possibly ruining her boyfriend before he become her husband). 4:00 He can only be helped by us, not changed.  8:50 How my little cousin met her husband and he had to rise to her standards.  13:50 Not every 'good man' is for you.  17:55 do you want to be divided in your devotion to God and you vs God and your husband/kids. Where does that leave you sis?  20:38 I don't need someone to teach me how to be single. 24:25 Getting out the speak in your eye and clearly seeing yourself.  Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area and you know you have nothing else to lose. You're ready to work on you. You need help to get rid of the shame you have in this area of your life, you want peace and you want to feel like you can trust yourself again. In, that case, I invite you to apply to Single You Academy. Applications for SYA will be open until we fill our 5 open spots.  How will you be going into 2022. We will review applicants on a first come, first serve basis. So if you want this, go after it. Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help. DM me *boundaries* or Click here to complete your application now! My DM is always open! Find me on IG here. Twitter here. Facebook here. Email = Reka@justmeReka.com || My DM is always open! Xo 💕𝘠𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘊𝘦𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘪𝘦𝘥 𝘕𝘓𝘗 𝘓𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘊𝘰𝘢𝘤𝘩, 𝘙𝘦𝘬𝘢
35:13
December 30, 2021
44. Lanaya on: Is self love biblical or selfish? And how it applies to you setting boundaries.
Just in time for that New Year Resolution; Single You the Pillow Collection; Shop Here.  0:00 Is self love biblical and what is the definition of self love?  4:30 Scripture to bak up self love.  If the home is worthy, let your peace rest on it; but if it is not, let your peace return to you. And if anyone will not welcome you or head your words, shake the dust off your feet when you leave that home. - Mathew 10:13 & 14 5:39 Jesus knew who he was but do you?  8:23 A man won't full-fill your loneliness but purpose will.  10:13 Marriage does not kill loneliness. "Marriage is a result of your purpose but not your purpose". 17:30 What discipline are you? It may help with your purpose.  23:20 How Jesus definitely 'self cared' and wasn't hanging out with all 12 disciples.   Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area and you know you have nothing else to lose. You're ready to work on you. You need help to get rid of the shame you have in this area of your life, you want peace and you want to feel like you can trust yourself again. In, that case, I invite you to apply to Single You Academy. Applications for SYA will be open until we fill our 5 open spots.  How will you be going into 2022. We will review applicants on a first come, first serve basis. So if you want this, go after it. Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help. DM me *boundaries* or Click here to complete your application now! My DM is always open! Find me on IG here. Twitter here. Facebook here. Email = Reka@justmeReka.com || My DM is always open! Xo 💕𝘠𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘊𝘦𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘪𝘦𝘥 𝘕𝘓𝘗 𝘓𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘊𝘰𝘢𝘤𝘩, 𝘙𝘦𝘬𝘢
38:48
December 23, 2021
43.2. {Bonus} Becoming her; a woman who holds herself accountable to future you... the woman you say you want to be!
The full interview with Zee is here.  Single You the Pillow Collection; Shop Here.  --- I know this lane of relationships has caused you a lot of frustration and pain. And right now you’re at your wits-end and have promised yourself that you will never again allow a man to disrespect you, mishandle you –nor will you give your heart that fast. You’ve professed that 2022 is the year of you in the name of ‘self love’. There are so many dreams in your life that lay dormant. I remember when I was where you were and I thought “damn I’d probably be so much further in life if I didn’t put so much energy in men”. The money, time and years I spent with men that actually didn’t love me. Sometimes it still makes me cry. So I want to encourage you sis. You can do it but you’re gonna need to use 2022 intentionally. Don’t let time pass without the courage and confidence to face yourself. Hold you accountable and recognize your fear… shame, and anxiety around being single. Because you’re the common denominator. Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area and you know you have nothing else to lose. You're ready to work on you. You need help to get rid of the shame you have in this area of your life, you want peace and you want to feel like you can trust yourself again. In, that case, I invite you to apply to Single You Academy. Applications for SYA will be open until we fill our 5 open spots.  How will you be going into 2022. We will review applicants on a first come, first serve basis. So if you want this, go after it. Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help. DM me *boundaries* or Click here to complete your application now! My DM is always open! Find me on IG here. Twitter here. Facebook here. Email = Reka@justmeReka.com || My DM is always open! Xo 💕𝘠𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘊𝘦𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘪𝘦𝘥 𝘕𝘓𝘗 𝘓𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘊𝘰𝘢𝘤𝘩, 𝘙𝘦𝘬𝘢
38:40
December 21, 2021
43. Lanaya on: What does a God fearing man even mean... look like? Plus how it may be causing you to be mishandled by men consistently.
Just in time for Christmas; Single You the Pillow Collection; Shop Here.  She was also on Episode 5 of Season 2. Here is her last episode, titled; Lanaya on: her happy marriage, waiting until 'he' becomes something and staying after he cheats.. Lanaya is happily married, holds a lot of wisdom on dating and she’s a coach inside of Single You Academy. 0:00 Who is Lanaya and how long she's been happy and beautifully married. 2:03 Ministry for 22 years and being a preachers kid. 2:40 What do we mean when we say "I want a God fearing man"... it's surface level.  3:11 Defining the word fear aka "God fearing" and "fearing the Lord". 4:05 Reading the bible in harmony.  5:25 Him not worshipping God the way we do as women; "Principals don't change but methods do". 7:30 What past me thought "God fearing" meant and salvation. 11:42 Proverbs 31 woman... what does that mean? Why do we call ourselves that? Or want to be that? (Proverbs 14:26) 17:12 Do we want to be married for all of the accolades and praise that come with it? 19:23 What did Lanaya write out for what she wanted in a man? Here are top 3.  22:03 Look for the answer to your standards or the counterfeit to those standards. Instead of passing up red flags. "We can ruin a good man by not allowing God to finish making him".  27:00 Fighting a man to wait to have sex with you.  30:25 How well has dating to society's standards and pressures been working out for you?  Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area and you know you have nothing else to lose. You're ready to work on you. You need help to get rid of the shame you have in this area of your life, you want peace and you want to feel like you can trust yourself again. In, that case, I invite you to apply to Single You Academy. Applications for SYA will be open until we fill our 5 open spots.  How will you be going into 2022. We will review applicants on a first come, first serve basis. So if you want this, go after it. Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help. DM me *boundaries* or Click here to complete your application now! My DM is always open! Find me on IG here. Twitter here. Facebook here. Email = Reka@justmeReka.com || My DM is always open! Xo 💕𝘠𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘊𝘦𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘪𝘦𝘥 𝘕𝘓𝘗 𝘓𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘊𝘰𝘢𝘤𝘩, 𝘙𝘦𝘬𝘢
41:23
December 16, 2021
42.2 {Bonus} Recycling, Yes. Recycling men, no. Let's talk about getting back to trusting yourself to stop the cycle of being mishandled by men.
Bonus episode because I wanted to tell you 5 things. Tapping into yourself trust. Mindset > behaviors > frustration with men. Can I help you? I'd like to BUT you say: "Surely I don’t need to talk to anyone about being single because I’ve been doing it for a while” – yet look at your track record with men sis? Plus you have a call on your spirit that something needs to change. Plus how SYA helps you get to the root and change your mindset on being single, faith and dating.  Thank you to my new listener(s). I love you. Leave a review I have a goal of 100 reviews in 2022. Coming up on Thursday, it’ll kick off a 3 part series with my cousin Lanaya. Here is her last episode, titled; Lanaya on: her happy marriage, waiting until 'he' becomes something and staying after he cheats.. Lanaya is happily married, holds a lot of wisdom on dating and she’s a coach inside of Single You Academy. December 16th = God fearing  December 23rd = is self love biblical?  December 30th = We can also ruin good men if we don’t hold true to our values and boundaries. 5. If you ever have a question– DM me. Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area and you know you have nothing else to lose. You're ready to work on you. You need help to get rid of the shame you have in this area of your life, you want peace and you want to feel like you can trust yourself again. In, that case, I invite you to apply to Single You Academy. Applications for SYA will be open until we fill our 5 open spots.  How will you be going into 2022. We will review applicants on a first come, first serve basis. So if you want this, go after it. Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help. DM me *boundaries* or Click here to complete your application now! My DM is always open! Find me on IG here. Twitter here. Facebook here. Email = Reka@justmeReka.com || My DM is always open! Xo 💕𝘠𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘊𝘦𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘪𝘦𝘥 𝘕𝘓𝘗 𝘓𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘊𝘰𝘢𝘤𝘩, 𝘙𝘦𝘬𝘢
25:10
December 14, 2021
42. Nikita on: Having shame as a professional Black woman who's single and constantly being mishandled by men (her testimonial of SYA).
Just in time for Christmas; Single You the Pillow Collection; Shop Here.  Nikita on: What Single You Academy gave her that advice from friends couldn't! She's a former client and this is her testimony.  Today I'm so honored to have another client of mine discuss her journey through Single You Academy. Watching a clients growth will never get old. I'm so in love with her story.  Who is Nikita; 7:40 What she was saying to herself to not hire me (the thing a lot of us Black women say).  8:34 Why Nikita hired me. 12:36 Paul's biblical teachings about singleness | Black Church toxicity.  14:10 What parents didn't teach us.  15:43 Having shame as a professional Black woman who's single and constantly being mishandled.  19:10 Being a high achieving Black Woman and constantly being mishandled.  20:32 What does Nikita means by; you said SYA taught you to unlearn, to relearn.  22:52 Women of Faith falling into the trap of being 'kind'.  25:53 I want a man with good Character! What does that look like for Nikita?  29:40 Her pattern with men (which is yours too).  33:29 The love scripture, what does it actually mean? Especially love is patient?  44:44 My purpose with abstinence.  43:30 If sex was the thing to 'keep a man' then... 47:52 Why you need to drop the shame and hire a coach aka join SYA. Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area and you know you have nothing else to lose. You're ready to work on you. You need help to get rid of the shame you have in this area of your life, you want peace and you want to feel like you can trust yourself again. In, that case, I invite you to apply to Single You Academy. Applications for SYA will be open until we fill our 5 open spots.  How will you be going into 2022. We will review applicants on a first come, first serve basis. So if you want this, go after it. Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help. DM me *boundaries* or Click here to complete your application now! My DM is always open! Find me on IG here. Twitter here. Facebook here. Email = Reka@justmeReka.com || My DM is always open! Xo 💕𝘠𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘊𝘦𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘪𝘦𝘥 𝘕𝘓𝘗 𝘓𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘊𝘰𝘢𝘤𝘩, 𝘙𝘦𝘬𝘢
01:10:11
December 09, 2021
41. Stacey on: A cautionary-tale for women. What can happen if your money mindset and actions aren't right before dating.
Single You the Pillow Collection; Shop Here.  Stacey is a 54 year old woman passionate about educating women in money. Throughout her life she has always stood up for what she believes in and questioned everything. As she weaves her own unique tapestry of life she has overcome many struggles and learned valuable lessons. She is excited to share those lessons with you today, around both relationships and money confidence. Intro; who Stacey is? From her Husband > Boyfriend > Husband all who have left her financially struggling.  7:50 prince charming isn't coming. Snag the book here. 12:56 what submit means. 22:13 would a conversation have helped you stop this cycle of relationships? 23:30 the shame of being single.  31:23 why you shouldn't move in together. 37:00 staying because we feel bad. 39:33 not falling for his sob story. 45:06 hitting rock bottom in life and relationships. 45:55 do we really know what love is?  56:26 whatever area you're ignorant in you will suffer in. You can email Stacey here: wealthandwomen@gmail.com "Single You Academy helped me fall in love with myself by doing the work in this particular area. This has been an area of my life that caused me a lot of frustration and pain. Now I feel like I can confidently say that I love myself and show up in that in fullness." - Nikita Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area and you know you have nothing else to lose. You're ready to work on you. You need help to get rid of the shame you have in this area of your life, you want peace and you want to feel like you can trust yourself again. In, that case, I invite you to apply to Single You Academy. Applications for SYA will be open until we fill our 5 open spots.  How will you be going into 2022. We will review applicants on a first come, first serve basis. So if you want this, go after it. Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help. DM me *boundaries* or Click here to complete your application now! My DM is always open! Find me on IG here. Twitter here. Facebook here. Email = Reka@justmeReka.com || My DM is always open! Xo 💕𝘠𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘊𝘦𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘪𝘦𝘥 𝘕𝘓𝘗 𝘓𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘊𝘰𝘢𝘤𝘩, 𝘙𝘦𝘬𝘢
01:10:33
December 02, 2021
40. Ce (Licensed therapist) on: Who is the woman you need to become to get your Russell Wilson? Plus what we can learn from Will/Jada. Happy Thanksgiving!
Single You the Pillow Collection; Shop Here.  Happy Thanksgiving!! Decided to drop a day early. Enjoy!!  Today's Guest: Candyce (Ce) Anderson, LPC Licensed therapist. She can be reached here: https://ceandersonlive.com 4:57: Prepare yourself for that which you hope to manifest (a Russell Wilson type). Why? So you can honor, grow it and keep it. How do we prepare? 10:17 break down Future and Russell as alpha and beta.  12:30 How Black women were raised that could affect your dating. 14:06 When you're desiring a man to take charge, who you need to be 16:11 Things we need to work on to get the love Russell (we assume)  has for Ciara? 23:53 How we get hurt in dating? By abandoning yourself.  28:33 Breaking is actually a win not a failure.  30:16 Dating insecure men and what I learned from myself because of it.  35:12 What abandoning myself for your man looked like for me.  35:48 How women can be toxic.  37:38 Cheating. 43:30 When you address the elephant in your relationship, the skeletons in your closet and your deepest fears Jada and Will will trigger you less. What we can learn from Will & Jada. 1:08:10 Finding it difficult to date, what can you do? 1:10:10 Mother's that raise 'these' men.  1:11:27 Generational curses we put on ourselves.  1:13:48 What can you do to heal? What does doing 'the work' look like? "Single You Academy helped me fall in love with myself by doing the work in this particular area. This has been an area of my life that caused me a lot of frustration and pain. Now I feel like I can confidently say that I love myself and show up in that in fullness." - Nikita Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area and you know you have nothing else to lose. You're ready to work on you. You need help to get rid of the shame you have in this area of your life, you want peace and you want to feel like you can trust yourself again. In, that case, I invite you to apply to Single You Academy. Applications for SYA will be open until we fill our 5 open spots.  How will you be going into 2022. We will review applicants on a first come, first serve basis. So if you want this, go after it. Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help. DM me *boundaries* or Click here to complete your application now! My DM is always open! Find me on IG here. Twitter here. Facebook here. Email = Reka@justmeReka.com My DM is always open! Xo 💕𝘠𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘊𝘦𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘪𝘦𝘥 𝘕𝘓𝘗 𝘓𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘊𝘰𝘢𝘤𝘩, 𝘙𝘦𝘬𝘢
01:26:14
November 24, 2021
39. DJ on: How to Give Love & Loyalty More to You & Less to Him!
FYI; in this episode we cuss. :-) Single You the Pillow Collection; Shop Here.  Love & Loyalty. What it means to do the 'work' and finally be happy single. Plus we'll mention what we can learn from DaniLeigh and DaBaby. Let's talk... a conversation with my cousin DJ! "Single You Academy helped me fall in love with myself by doing the work in this particular area. This has been an area of my life that caused me a lot of frustration and pain. Now I feel like I can confidently say that I love myself and show up in that in fullness." - Nikita Now, suppose you are ready to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area and you know you have nothing else to lose. You're ready to work on you. You need help to get rid of the shame you have in this area of your life, you want peace and you want to feel like you can trust yourself again. In, that case, I invite you to apply to Single You Academy. Applications for SYA will be open until we fill our 5 open spots.  How will you be going into 2022. We will review applicants on a first come, first serve basis. So if you want this, go after it. Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help. DM me *boundaries* or Click here to complete your application now! My DM is always open! Find me on IG here. Twitter here. Facebook here. Email = Reka@justmeReka.com My DM is always open! Xo 💕𝘠𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘊𝘦𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘪𝘦𝘥 𝘕𝘓𝘗 𝘓𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘊𝘰𝘢𝘤𝘩, 𝘙𝘦𝘬𝘢
01:05:56
November 18, 2021
38. My Thoughts on Ciara's Prayer & Why did Keetra + Nikita join Single You Academy and what did they gain? (which you can too)
Could your view of love/relationships be underdeveloped, over fantasized, over spiritualized and toxic?? God is not going to gift you, show you, provide you a man just cause you prayed for him. It's like the woman with the issue of blood. She wanted to be healed so she did the work of finding Jesus and knowing all she had to do was touch the hem of his garment and she would be healed. There is work you have to do amongst having faith. It's "both and".... have faith but faith without works is dead... so what work on your doing on yourself to get the man you pray for? Where is your wise council, what books are you reading and what is it about you that got into a relationship you had no business being in? We can not be trying to make a Future into a Russell. We have to start with a Russell as the foundation. Men, people are who they are not who you want or pray them to be.  Ciara did work. Russell did work. See here: Red Table Talk Last conversation I had about Will & Jada.  Single You merch. available now; www.SingleYou.Shop ------ So who am I? ⁣ ⁣ Hi 🙋🏽‍♀️ I’m Reka the founder of Single You the Podcast and creator of Single You Academy. ⁣ ⁣ 𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗜 𝗱𝗼? I empower the frustrated loyal woman who is TIRED of settling and SICK of giving 2nd chances, stop that cycle by helping you learn how to keep boundaries and feel confident about being single. ⁣ ⁣    ⁣ If you want to learn more about how I can support you… check out Single You Academy here or DM me and I’ll send you more details. ⁣ Find me on IG here. Twitter here. Facebook here. Email = Reka@justmeReka.com ⁣|| Wait list to Single You Academy is open now.⁣ My DM is always open!  XO Reka
31:59
November 11, 2021
37. WHY therapy may not have worked for you... HOW coaching is different!
I have a lot of clients who have a therapist while working with me and/or before they worked with me. I always ask why and here are a few of their answers. There is a difference, not better or worse and I define it on this episode.  Single You merch. available now; www.SingleYou.Shop Let's talk... So who am I? ⁣ ⁣ Hi 🙋🏽‍♀️ I’m Reka the founder of Single You the Podcast and creator of Single You Academy. ⁣ ⁣ 𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗜 𝗱𝗼? I empower the frustrated loyal woman who is TIRED of settling and SICK of giving 2nd chances, stop that cycle by helping you learn how to keep boundaries and feel confident about being single. ⁣ ⁣    ⁣ If you want to learn more about how I can support you… check out Single You Academy here or DM me and I’ll send you more details. ⁣ Find me on IG here. Twitter here. Facebook here. Email = Reka@justmeReka.com ⁣ I’m accepting applications into Single You Academy until November 7th. ⁣⁣ My DM is always open! XO Reka
20:56
November 04, 2021
36. Will relationships with men ever get better for you? Here is how to make sure*
When I asked this question on Facebook a woman left me a comment saying "well my motto is don't date and you'll never be hurt" ... I cringe at that motto. I also have empathy because I know it's coming from a place of pain. For those that still desire a husband (my clients) - for me, it’s beyond the bitterness and the pain men left behind for me to crawl out of. Now, I’m looking more and more at my fruit and how my learnings are executing in my life. I moved past just being inspired.  Sis. The moment I realized that confidence had to show up in my actions. Everything with men changed for me. We collectively HAVE got to stop running around trying to BE in a relationship. So blindly and violently failing at being single and then in relationships. “Some people are with people because they don't like themselves enough". - Pastor Dharius Daniels So how will you make your singleness better? Side effect; making your relationship with a man better! Single You merch. available now; www.SingleYou.Shop Let's talk... So who am I? ⁣ ⁣ Hi 🙋🏽‍♀️ I’m Reka the founder of Single You the Podcast and creator of Single You Academy. ⁣ ⁣ 𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗜 𝗱𝗼? I empower the frustrated loyal woman who is TIRED of settling and SICK of giving 2nd chances, stop that cycle by helping you learn how to keep boundaries and feel confident about being single. ⁣ ⁣    ⁣ If you want to learn more about how I can support you… check out Single You Academy here or DM me and I’ll send you more details. ⁣ Find me on IG here. Twitter here. Facebook here. Email = Reka@justmeReka.com ⁣ I’m accepting applications into Single You Academy until November 7th. ⁣⁣ My DM is always open! XO Reka
34:07
October 28, 2021
35. How to stay firm in what you want so you can stop bending the rules to please him.
TODAY WE will touch on;  Why My Clients Made the Investment and joined Single You Academy (I'll share testimonials). How to get over him?  How do I know when to leave him?  What it's costing you to stay/be in dysfunctional relationships. Let's talk... So who am I? ⁣ ⁣ Hi 🙋🏽‍♀️ I’m Reka the founder of Single You the Podcast and creator of Single You Academy. ⁣ ⁣ 𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗜 𝗱𝗼? I empower the frustrated loyal woman who is TIRED of settling and SICK of giving 2nd chances, stop that cycle by helping you learn how to keep boundaries and feel confident about being single. ⁣ ⁣    ⁣ If you want to learn more about how I can support you… check out Single You Academy here or DM me and I’ll send you more details. ⁣ Find me on IG here. Twitter here. Facebook here. Email = Reka@justmeReka.com ⁣ I’m accepting applications into Single You Academy until November 7th. ⁣⁣ My DM is always open! XO Reka
30:54
October 21, 2021
34. If I were to ask you "do you know your worth" ...while you're allowing a man to treat you like trash... here is what I know you would say...
If I were ta ask you "do you know you worth" while you're allowing a man to treat you like trash... you would say ...YES! This episode is why you'd say yes. Here is why that doesn't make sense. Think about it; in THAT situation-ship, marriage or some dude you're dealing with... you're so good at Masking... Sweeping things under the rug... Believing that this is the 'hard' of relationships so it's 'normal' This to shall pass... Going to brunches with your girlfriends and performing happy... Because no one wants to be the girl that isn't happy in her relationship.... so instead you perform happy and confident. How well is that working out for you?  So who am I? ⁣ ⁣ Hi 🙋🏽‍♀️ I’m Reka the founder of Single You the Podcast and creator of Single You Academy. ⁣ ⁣ 𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗜 𝗱𝗼? I empower the frustrated loyal woman who is TIRED of settling and SICK of giving 2nd chances, stop that cycle by helping you learn how to keep boundaries and feel confident about being single. ⁣ ⁣    ⁣ If you want to learn more about how I can support you… check out Single You Academy here or DM me and I’ll send you more details. ⁣ Find me on IG here. Twitter here. Facebook here. Email = Reka@justmeReka.com ⁣ I’m accepting applications into Single You Academy until November 7th. ⁣⁣ My DM is always open! XO Reka
33:02
October 18, 2021
33. Great you got out of that toxic relationship-- now you're trying to heal. Here are 4 things I learned on my journey that will help you.
The cycle of dating I was in was; we meet, it's "wonderful" ...I pass up red flags and start day dreaming on how great we could be. Then 2 years later it ends in disaster because I passed up red flags... THAT IS OVER FOR ME!! That was hard. That’s what I describe as hard.  I’d much rather be doing what I’m doing now when it comes to ‘dating’... it's easy for me. This what I learned on my real true journey of self love... self actualization. My strategy moving forward is building on a solid foundation.  If you need support on ☝🏽all of the above… then I know that I can help you!⁣ ⁣  Single You merch. available now; www.SingleYou.Shop So who am I? ⁣ ⁣  Hi 🙋🏽‍♀️ I’m Reka the founder of Single You the Podcast and creator of Single You Academy. ⁣ ⁣  𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗜 𝗱𝗼? I empower the frustrated loyal woman who is TIRED of settling and SICK of giving 2nd chances, stop that cycle by helping you learn how to keep boundaries and feel confident about being single. ⁣ ⁣    ⁣  If you want to learn more about how I can support you… check out Single You Academy here or DM me and I’ll send you more details. ⁣ Find me on IG here. Twitter here. Facebook here. Email = Reka@justmeReka.com ⁣ I’m accepting applications into Single You Academy until November 7th. ⁣⁣  My DM is always open! XO Reka
27:26
October 14, 2021
32. So what about this 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩 no one is talking about??
Nah but the real flex is when you can walk away from a man who "looks good on paper" but your gut is telling you "he ain't for you sis." ⁣ ⁣ You’re gonna have to start trusting yourself and believing that your gut feeling is future you, God, trying to stop you from some BS that you’ll regret 3 months from now. ⁣ ⁣ If you need support on ☝🏽all of the above… then I know that I can help you!⁣ ⁣ So who am I? ⁣ ⁣ Hi 🙋🏽‍♀️ I’m Reka the founder of Single You the Podcast and creator of Single You Academy. ⁣ ⁣ 𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗜 𝗱𝗼? I empower the frustrated loyal woman who is TIRED of settling and SICK of giving 2nd chances, stop that cycle by helping you learn how to keep boundaries and feel confident about being single. ⁣ ⁣    ⁣ If you want to learn more about how I can support you… check out Single You Academy here or DM me and I’ll send you more details. ⁣ Find me on IG here. Twitter here. Facebook here. Email = Reka@justmeReka.com ⁣ I’m accepting applications into Single You Academy until November 7th. ⁣⁣ My DM is always open! XO Reka
11:02
October 14, 2021
31. Why praying hasn't gotten you a good man (yet). ⁣
Bold statement I know. So let's talk... ⁣ Yes I believe that a lot of your praying over that man— is null and void sis. ⁣ ⁣ God can become the center of your relationship but it does require that HE also wants that. Is God at the center of his character and identity? (Think of his behavior sis)⁣. If no-- then your prayers are putting the cart before the horse. ⁣ This message is for you if; ⁣ ⁣You’re so loyal to him….which leaves you frustrated. ⁣ You’re tired of giving 2nd chances.⁣ You’re ready to be confident in your singleness and slow down the dating process. ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ If you need support on ☝🏽all of the above… then I know that I can help you!⁣ ⁣ So who am I? ⁣ ⁣ Hi 🙋🏽‍♀️ I’m Reka the founder of Single You the Podcast and creator of Single You Academy. ⁣ ⁣ 𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗜 𝗱𝗼? I empower the frustrated loyal woman who is TIRED of settling and SICK of giving 2nd chances, stop that cycle by helping you learn how to keep boundaries and feel confident about being single. ⁣ ⁣    ⁣ If you want to learn more about how I can support you… check out Single You Academy here or DM me and I’ll send you more details. ⁣ Find me on IG here. Twitter here. Facebook here. Email = Reka@justmeReka.com ⁣ I’m accepting applications into Single You Academy until November 7th. ⁣ ⁣ My DM is always open! XO Reka
39:10
October 11, 2021
30. Does dating get harder or easier as you get older? I say easier*... here's why.
I know most of you will say harder but what was the 'easier' about relationships when you were younger? The ignorance?  Plus what is a self love journey? What does it actually do/look like and what I've learned about dating from my self love journey!   questions for you; who do you think it is harder for you? Why do you think crying over a man is bad?  Let's talk...  Find me on IG here. Twitter here. Facebook here. Email = Reka@justmeReka.com My DM is always open! XO Reka
29:59
October 07, 2021
[ Fear Series; Day 5 ] I've had too many sexual partners... so I'm gonna just stick it out with him
You're a faith based woman and you're career is together. However you desire marriage and kids. You're dealing (or have dealt) with men longer than you should have. Let me offer you a new perspective ... it's probably because you have a lot of shame around sex and you don't want another body, so here you are... settling. Who gave you education on faith based relationship intelligence? Let's talk... Question; What do you think you put so much pressure on yourself to get married? Find me on IG here. Twitter here. Facebook here. Email = Reka@justmeReka.com My DM is always open! XO Reka
23:16
October 05, 2021
[ Fear Series; Day 3 & 4 ] I don’t want to start all over (history) & I’m a failure if I break up with him... not a good mindset to be dating from.
When I did this live on FB, I got the following message; It was a godsend that I happened upon this conversation!! Such the message I need. I hope it does the same for you.  The problem is you don’t trust yourself because when you trust yourself you will take clear, definitive action the moment you feel an inkling or see a sign that something is off. - Iyanla Vanzant Question; Why do you think a break up is a failure? Why do you feel like history means he’ll change for you? Find me on IG here. Twitter here. Facebook here. Email = Reka@justmeReka.com My DM is always open! XO Reka
24:40
September 30, 2021
[ Fear Series; Day 2 ] I will never find another man like him is problematic sis
I won’t find another one like him (fears that are holding you back in getting the relationship you actually want). The problem is you don’t know who you are. You don’t understand how to have a relationship with yourself or relationships. Especially with men. Especially when it comes to getting the relationship you want…. So you settle sis. Cause God forbid you be single. Single feels like a stain to you. Let's talk... Question; Why do you think he’s it for you? Is he God's best for you?  Find me on IG here. Twitter here. Facebook here. Email = Reka@justmeReka.com My DM is always open! XO Reka
22:16
September 28, 2021
[ Fear Series; Day 1 ] But I don't want to die alone... how that fear is holding you hostage
What does that even mean? Doesn’t everyone die alone? Kids and/or a husband are not a guarantee you’ll be taken care of in your older years. So why are you only scared of ‘dying alone’ because you’re single? You have all these feelings about being a failure and that’s the reason why you want a man? You have got to think differently about your singleness so you can move different. I want a co-committed relationship. Not co-dependency based on trauma bonds. I don’t want a relationship with someone who chooses me purely based on their feelings instead of logic and practicality. I want an easy life and will not endure hardship or inconvenience just because I love you. I want love without a trauma bond or unhealthy attachment, I want to love a man knowing joy comes from God and myself. Question; What is your definition of dying alone? Why does it scare you? Why do you feel like you will die alone? Find me on IG here. Twitter here. Facebook here. Email = Reka@justmeReka.com My DM is always open! XO Reka
21:53
September 27, 2021
[ Series; Day 5 ] Treat others as you want to be treated and yet you still don't have a man
This episode explains why I think this saying is problematic.  Be a good person is for you and your character. Not to get people to be who you want them to be. Life is still a will of choice. We have free will! Men have free will and can choose to treat you any way they want. Where we mess up? By thinking we can change him.  Question for you > Why do you think that you bypass red flags? Why do you feel that you should bypass red flags? Find me on IG here. Twitter here. Facebook here. Email = Reka@justmeReka.com My DM is always open! XO Reka
19:02
September 24, 2021
[ Series; Day 4 } Thinking he’ll just know how to treat you sis, is problematic (also see; happy wife happy life).
You want a man to treat you with respect, be loyal and show you love. You need to be seen/heard and valued. What you’ve tired to that is following advice that says; don’t tell him how to treat you. 'I don’t want to go through another stage in my life where I’m telling someone how they should treat me.’ How sway? That’s passive aggressive. Is that how we are with your family and friends? How well is that working out for you?  Cliché’s in dating that are holding us back (a series). Day 4 of 5; he'll just know how to treat me (also see; happy wife happy life). How sway? Sometimes I think women just want the D, to be able to say they have a man and not feel bad about having sex. Let's talk... Question for you > Why do you think he’ll just know? Why do you feel like his feelings don’t matter? Find me on IG here. Twitter here. Facebook here. Email = Reka@justmeReka.com My DM is always open! XO Reka
21:54
September 24, 2021
[ Series; Day 3 ] Behind every good man is a good woman... what does that even mean?
The mind of a woman who is asking this question is sitting somewhere thinking that she is bad (a failure) because she doesn’t have a man. You want to be called the good woman behind the man, no matter what. You not having a man doesn’t mean you’re intrinsically bad or a failure. I wish you would stop seeing single as a punishment, or that it's a waiting period for something greater than the life you have now. You just are. You’re just being and the sooner you see the blessing in singleness the sooner your joy will arise. When you’re confident in your singleness that’s how you will think. And trust I know what it is like to be a ‘good woman’ -- to believe I am-- to hear that all the time and yet and still I have zero man. Up until 2017 that use to bother me and made me lower my standards, trying to prove ‘see I’m a good woman’ -- now I am a good woman period and my actions shows that I believe it. Yes sometimes I still have those thoughts but now that I’ve gone on a true self love journey I stop myself well before I play out that tired 'ride-or-die' narrative. Question for you; Why do you think where you are in life right now is bad? Why do you feel where you are right now is bad? Did you take anything away from this episode? Do you want me to go deeper on something? Please send me a DM, don't hesitate. ⁣ IG here. Facebook here. Email = Reka@justmeReka.com XO Reka
22:12
September 23, 2021
[ Series; Day 2 ] Does love really conquer all? Here is why I think it doesn't
Does love really conquer all? Here why I think it doesn't....  Is it true... that if he loves you, he'll change for you? Here is why thinking that keeps you in a relationship that's an emotional roller coaster... Sometimes we’re too spiritual for our own good. Which causes us to take the responsibility out of dating. Did you take anything away from this episode? Do you want me to go deeper on something? Please send me a DM, don't hesitate. ⁣ IG here. Facebook here. Email = Reka@justmeReka.com XO Reka
25:48
September 21, 2021
[ Series; Day 1 ] Just because he hasn't found you yet, doesn't mean you aren't a good woman (or a failure)
Series; Cliché’s in dating that are holding us back.⁣ Day 1 of 5: Just because he hasn't found you, doesn't mean you aren't a good woman (or a failure) ⁣Let me encourage you to be confident in your singleness; ⁣ ⁣Be comfortable in your decision making as a single woman.⁣ Not swayed by social media (men) on what other people think relationships should be like.. ⁣ Be able to set and keep boundaries instead of breaking them for him. ⁣ ⁣ Did you take anything away from this episode? Do you want me to go deeper on something? Please send me a DM, don't hesitate. ⁣ IG here. Facebook here. Email = Reka@justmeReka.com XO Reka
28:20
September 20, 2021
29. Theresa on: waiting until marriage to have sex is that the ONLY way I can get a lasting marriage? Does Jesus teach that?
I’m so nervous to have this conversation. I’m preparing to ignore the religious/judgmental comments I will get. From “False prophet” to “that’s why I don’t believe.” So let me be clear, that’s what's wrong with religion and society. We’re not allowed to ask questions or have conversations without judgement. Especially when it comes to sex. So if you are super religious then this episode is not for you. This is not for atheists who want to judge my beliefs. Jesus is my homeboy and I don’t have a problem with my belief in him, I have a problem with religion and the messages I believe women receive around sex that has brought on so much shame. Jesus had a problem with religion which is why he was flipping tables in the Bible. So this is only for people with open ears and those who want to hear with open ears about women trying to heal from sexual shame. I started my journey 3-4 years ago. I started reading, praying, reading and praying some more about where I stood. Let’s be clear again; I’m abstinent and I promised myself that in my season of abstinence I would use it to heal and truly seek God, so I could hear from God. Not Society and certainly not religion. The shame I used to have, let's say it was about 100lbs and now I’ve got about 25lbs left. This conversation is about my healing way more than it is about yelling at purity culture. This conversation is for my clients and the women, Christian women who feel so judged and trapped in shame around sex. This conversation is because the church seems to be embarrassed about having real conversations about sex. The only thing we’re told is wait until you’re married. There is no room for; “it’s going to be hard” “Your body will betray you” “why you should wait” let alone “how to wait.” My goal is to answer my questions, many of the same questions you may have as a Christian woman who grew up in church but also my goal is to encourage you to study the bible for yourself don’t listen and act according to me. I’m just trying to heal and talking about my ish for the last 3-4 years has helped me tremendously. So in all my nervousness let’s talk. I hope it frees at least one woman. My guest today… The Rev. Dr. Theresa S. Thames and she can be reach on IG here.  -------- So who am I? I’𝙢 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙁𝙤𝙪𝙣𝙙𝙚𝙧 𝙤𝙛 𝙎𝙞𝙣𝙜𝙡𝙚 𝙔𝙤𝙪 𝘼𝙘𝙖𝙙𝙚𝙢𝙮 & 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙝𝙤𝙨𝙩 𝙤𝙛 𝙎𝙞𝙣𝙜𝙡𝙚 𝙔𝙤𝙪 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩.⁣ 𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗜 𝗱𝗼? I help the professional frustrated loyal woman who is TIRED of giving 2nd chances stop the cycle of trusting he will change by helping her learn how to set and KEEP boundaries with herself and men.⁣ I’m looking for 5 frustrated loyal women who are TIRED of giving 2nd chances (over & over) and you want to stop the cycle of trusting he will change (he never does). So now you're ready to actually know your worth, plus learn how to set and KEEP boundaries with yourself and men.⁣ You have to stop asking for tips, you have to actually transform the way you think. Step by step, I’ll show you exactly what to do for a transformation. ⁣I have room for ONLY 5 new clients and if you believe you’re one of my clients. If you want better for yourself — apply here or send me a DM! Don’t hesitate. Doors close Sunday: September 12, 2021 and ONLY 5 spots available. XO Reka
01:09:55
September 09, 2021
28. 3 Reasons why you stay in a situationship that you don't want to be in (Bonus)
You’re here: Frustrated and in a situationship you don’t want to be in. You’re constantly thinking there is something wrong with you. You want to be here: Confident in your decision making and in your singleness. You don’t want to be swayed by social media (or men) on what relationships are like. You want to be able to set and keep boundaries instead of breaking them for him. You think: I’m single and I'm being punished. You feel like you're paying for something you did in the past. Sex. You had sex with him so now "I have to ride this out because I don’t want another body". It'll get better. He’ll change (hope). Everyone else has a man and you deserve one too (so you stay with boo-boo the fool) how well is that working out for you?  Here is what is in your way: You haven’t learned your lesson and you don’t have guidance. Guidance is right in front of you. I’m a Certified Life Coach and I'm here to help you sis. So who am I? I’𝙢 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙁𝙤𝙪𝙣𝙙𝙚𝙧 𝙤𝙛 𝙎𝙞𝙣𝙜𝙡𝙚 𝙔𝙤𝙪 𝘼𝙘𝙖𝙙𝙚𝙢𝙮 & 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙝𝙤𝙨𝙩 𝙤𝙛 𝙎𝙞𝙣𝙜𝙡𝙚 𝙔𝙤𝙪 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩.⁣ 𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗜 𝗱𝗼? I help the professional frustrated loyal woman who is TIRED of giving 2nd chances stop the cycle of trusting he will change by helping her learn how to set and KEEP boundaries with herself and men.⁣ I’m looking for 5 frustrated loyal women who are TIRED of giving 2nd chances (over & over) and you want to stop the cycle of trusting he will change (he never does). So now you're ready to actually know your worth, plus learn how to set and KEEP boundaries with yourself and men.⁣ You have to stop asking for tips, you have to actually transform the way you think. Step by step, I’ll show you exactly what to do for a transformation. ⁣I have room for ONLY 5 new clients and if you believe you’re one of my clients. If you want better for yourself — apply here or send me a DM! Don’t hesitate. Doors close Sunday: September 12, 2021 and ONLY 5 spots available. XO Reka
21:35
September 07, 2021
27. Kierra on: The mindset single women should have about marriage.
⁣Today's guest is Kierra D, founder of the Wive's Club Group (on FB and Clubhouse) and host of The Love Factor Podcast. ⁣What mindset should single women have about marriage? What is the mindset that is going to set us up for greatness? ⁣ What was her personal philosophy on dating and/or relationships?  ⁣𝘚𝘩𝘦 𝘸𝘳𝘪𝘵𝘦𝘴...⁣ ⁣"I felt like (use to) oftentimes men were cheaters and women often settle. I knew I didn’t want that for me. I had opportunities to be with high profile guys or popular guys, but didn’t trust them." ⁣ ⁣ Let's talk... So who am I? I’𝙢 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙁𝙤𝙪𝙣𝙙𝙚𝙧 𝙤𝙛 𝙎𝙞𝙣𝙜𝙡𝙚 𝙔𝙤𝙪 𝘼𝙘𝙖𝙙𝙚𝙢𝙮 & 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙝𝙤𝙨𝙩 𝙤𝙛 𝙎𝙞𝙣𝙜𝙡𝙚 𝙔𝙤𝙪 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩.⁣ 𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗜 𝗱𝗼? I help the professional frustrated loyal woman who is TIRED of giving 2nd chances stop the cycle of trusting he will change by helping her learn how to set and KEEP boundaries with herself and men.⁣ I’m looking for 5 frustrated loyal women who are TIRED of giving 2nd chances (over & over) and you want to stop the cycle of trusting he will change (he never does). So now you're ready to actually know your worth, plus learn how to set and KEEP boundaries with yourself and men.⁣ You have to stop asking for tips, you have to actually transform the way you think. Step by step, I’ll show you exactly what to do for a transformation. ⁣I have room for ONLY 5 new clients and if you believe you’re one of my clients. If you want better for yourself — apply here or send me a DM! Don’t hesitate. Doors close Sunday: September 12, 2021 and ONLY 5 spots available. XO Reka
01:07:22
September 02, 2021
26. 4 Reason Why You Keep Putting Yourself in the Same Situation With Him (and it's not healthy)
You have done several things to leave the situation you have with him. You tried blocking his number, maybe even moving on with someone else, blocked him on all social media just to be manipulated and then you let him back in. How well did that work out for you? I bet the same cycle of hurt continues to happen with him. Aren't you sick of that?   So who am I? I’𝙢 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙁𝙤𝙪𝙣𝙙𝙚𝙧 𝙤𝙛 𝙎𝙞𝙣𝙜𝙡𝙚 𝙔𝙤𝙪 𝘼𝙘𝙖𝙙𝙚𝙢𝙮 & 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙝𝙤𝙨𝙩 𝙤𝙛 𝙎𝙞𝙣𝙜𝙡𝙚 𝙔𝙤𝙪 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩.⁣ 𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗜 𝗱𝗼? I help the professional frustrated loyal woman who is TIRED of giving 2nd chances stop the cycle of trusting he will change by helping her learn how to set and KEEP boundaries with herself and men.⁣ I’m looking for 5 frustrated loyal women who are TIRED of giving 2nd chances (over & over) and you want to stop the cycle of trusting he will change (he never does). So now you're ready to actually know your worth, plus learn how to set and KEEP boundaries with yourself and men.⁣ You have to stop asking for tips, you have to actually transform the way you think. Step by step, I’ll show you exactly what to do for a transformation. ⁣I have room for ONLY 5 new clients and if you believe you’re one of my clients. If you want better for yourself — apply here or send me a DM! Don’t hesitate. Doors close Sunday: September 12, 2021 and ONLY 5 spots available. XO Reka
19:41
September 01, 2021
25. Consistently trusting he will change, he doesn’t, which then leaves you constantly frustrated? Here's how to stop that cycle
Has your love life been a cycle of consistently trusting he will change, he doesn’t, which then leaves you constantly frustrated? Here’s how to stop that.. So who am I? I’𝙢 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙁𝙤𝙪𝙣𝙙𝙚𝙧 𝙤𝙛 𝙎𝙞𝙣𝙜𝙡𝙚 𝙔𝙤𝙪 𝘼𝙘𝙖𝙙𝙚𝙢𝙮 & 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙝𝙤𝙨𝙩 𝙤𝙛 𝙎𝙞𝙣𝙜𝙡𝙚 𝙔𝙤𝙪 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩.⁣ 𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗜 𝗱𝗼? I help the professional frustrated loyal woman who is TIRED of giving 2nd chances stop the cycle of trusting he will change by helping her learn how to set and KEEP boundaries with herself and men.⁣ I’m looking for 5 frustrated loyal women who are TIRED of giving 2nd chances (over & over) and you want to stop the cycle of trusting he will change (he never does). So now you're ready to actually know your worth, plus learn how to set and KEEP boundaries with yourself and men.⁣ You have to stop asking for tips, you have to actually transform the way you think. Step by step, I’ll show you exactly what to do for a transformation. ⁣I have room for ONLY 5 new clients and if you believe you’re one of my clients. If you want better for yourself — apply here or send me a DM! Don’t hesitate. Doors close Sunday: September 12, 2021 and ONLY 5 spots available. ⁣ XO Reka
46:54
August 26, 2021
24. Deseree Rose on: Why you'll never get what you deserve from him, no matter how much you love him
Sis yes, you're a good woman and you deserve a good man but today's discuss will tell you why you haven’t achieved that. You're good at taking care of yourself, especially when it comes to your career. You know you're a smart woman so you don't understand why you keep getting into those types of relationships. You say: I’m a good woman so I deserve a good man. I would say yes BUT how you're executing that now is; “because I’m a good woman, I feel like I can create a good man, he'll change for me."  He won't and you should instead wait, be patience, set boundaries and discern that good man GOD HAS CREATED FOR YOU. The other voice you hear is my best friend Deseree Rose.  She can be found on IG and TikTok as @deseree_rose  ------ So who am (Reka) I? 🙋🏽‍♀️ 𝙄’𝙢 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙁𝙤𝙪𝙣𝙙𝙚𝙧 𝙤𝙛 𝙎𝙞𝙣𝙜𝙡𝙚 𝙔𝙤𝙪 𝘼𝙘𝙖𝙙𝙚𝙢𝙮 & 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙝𝙤𝙨𝙩 𝙤𝙛 𝙎𝙞𝙣𝙜𝙡𝙚 𝙔𝙤𝙪 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩.⁣ My mission is to empower the frustrated loyal woman who is TIRED of settling and SICK of giving 2nd chances to that emotionally unavailable man learn how to set and keep boundaries and feel confident about being single. I can be found on IG here and my DM is open to you.  www.SingleYouAcademy.com XO Reka
51:04
August 19, 2021
23. How Social Media is Destroying Your Life (and making you feel bad about being single)
How much do you scroll? Who are you following? Do you think about that? How is it affecting you because Regardless if you know it or not... you're being affected. It may be the reason why you hate being single, why you want the wedding and do not know how to be married. Without knowing, you need to work on yourself first. Social media may be the reason you believe a man completes you and not you. You and he should come to the relationship whole.  This is a speech I did at the "women in business" conference in January of 2020.  So who am I? Hi. I’m Reka. I’m an NLP certified life coach. 𝙄’𝙢 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙁𝙤𝙪𝙣𝙙𝙚𝙧 𝙤𝙛 𝙎𝙞𝙣𝙜𝙡𝙚 𝙔𝙤𝙪 𝘼𝙘𝙖𝙙𝙚𝙢𝙮 & 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙝𝙤𝙨𝙩 𝙤𝙛 𝙎𝙞𝙣𝙜𝙡𝙚 𝙔𝙤𝙪 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩.⁣ 𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗜 𝗱𝗼? I help the professional frustrated loyal woman who is TIRED of giving 2nd chances stop the cycle of trusting he will change by helping her learn how to set and KEEP boundaries with herself and men.⁣ Please don't hesitate to reach out to me. My DM is open for you.  IG = justmeReka or email me via Reka@justmeReka.com XO Reka
20:44
August 12, 2021
22. Cena on: How having the wrong man can limit your success
Want to be successful? Then don't date or even marry the WRONG man. Today's guest Cena Martin Chandler. Mom of 2 boys, Author, and Producer. Cena helps health coaches who scaled fast;. onboard, hire, and train their first community manager. She writes... Q: Do you wish someone had conversations with you about relationships? Her: It would have saved me from going down a lot of dark roads on my own in the dating world. I was raised in a unique situation. My mom got involved with a cult and actually married one of the church leaders - so I learned unhealthy dating and religious abuse at the same exact time. Let's talk.... So who am I? Hi. I’m Reka. I’m an NLP certified life coach. 𝙄’𝙢 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙁𝙤𝙪𝙣𝙙𝙚𝙧 𝙤𝙛 𝙎𝙞𝙣𝙜𝙡𝙚 𝙔𝙤𝙪 𝘼𝙘𝙖𝙙𝙚𝙢𝙮 & 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙝𝙤𝙨𝙩 𝙤𝙛 𝙎𝙞𝙣𝙜𝙡𝙚 𝙔𝙤𝙪 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩.⁣ 𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗜 𝗱𝗼? I help the professional frustrated loyal woman who is TIRED of giving 2nd chances stop the cycle of trusting he will change by helping her learn how to set and KEEP boundaries with herself and men.⁣ Please don't hesitate to reach out to me. My DM is open for you. IG = justmeReka or email me via Reka@justmeReka.com XO Reka
01:05:15
August 05, 2021
21. Zee on: graduate of Single You Academy speaks on how I helped Her!!
I'm always asking YOU; how can I help you? You follow my socials for a reason and I'm always trying to reach out to see how I can serve you. So here I am again... this time with a graduate of Single You Academy!!!!!!!!  Typically I keep their testimonials private... I'll use their words but not post a picture or a video of them out of respect. Which is why TODAY I'm 100000000% honored that one of my former clients wants to share her journey inside of Single You Academy with YOU. So if you've been hesitate to join Single You Academy because "sight unseen" here is your moment to hear about her journey. Today we will discuss: Her toxic relationships and single journey before she met me. Where she was mentally before she became my client. Her journey through Single You Academy. Where she is now mentally. So her before (me) and after (me) as her coach!!! So who am I? Hi. I’m Reka. I’m an NLP certified life coach. 𝙄’𝙢 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙁𝙤𝙪𝙣𝙙𝙚𝙧 𝙤𝙛 𝙎𝙞𝙣𝙜𝙡𝙚 𝙔𝙤𝙪 𝘼𝙘𝙖𝙙𝙚𝙢𝙮 & 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙝𝙤𝙨𝙩 𝙤𝙛 𝙎𝙞𝙣𝙜𝙡𝙚 𝙔𝙤𝙪 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩.⁣ ⁣ 𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗜 𝗱𝗼? I help the frustrated loyal woman who is TIRED of giving 2nd chances stop the cycle of trusting he will change by helping her learn how to set and KEEP boundaries with herself and men.⁣ ⁣I have room for 5 new clients this summer and if you believe you’re one of my clients. If you want better for yourself — apply here or DM me here @justmeReka. Don’t hesitate. Doors close Sunday: August 1, 2021 and ONLY 3 spots available. XO Reka
01:05:54
July 29, 2021
20. Are you dating him or just dealing with him? Will you get the love you actually want from him? (Bonus Wednesday)
🚫Are you actually dating him or just dealing with him?  🚫Will you get the love you actually want or are you wasting your time?    Today. Those 👆🏽👆🏽are the questions I'll answer for you.  In this conversation we'll also go over:   💡My 3 Tips to Help You Spot a Liar.  💡3 Reasons why you fall for the lies/liar... and so much more.    If you can relate to the following then this episode is for you:   👇🏽👇🏽👇🏽⁣  I am one of those who can easily get attached and with my current boyfriend, I feel like all I give him is sex and money. I receive little in return because I'm too busy trying to find a husband, so I’m not good at setting boundaries and I’m miserable. I’m so Pitiful!I feel terrified of being alone. (IG message from a woman) So who am I? Hi. I’m Reka. I’m an NLP certified life coach. 𝙄’𝙢 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙁𝙤𝙪𝙣𝙙𝙚𝙧 𝙤𝙛 𝙎𝙞𝙣𝙜𝙡𝙚 𝙔𝙤𝙪 𝘼𝙘𝙖𝙙𝙚𝙢𝙮 & 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙝𝙤𝙨𝙩 𝙤𝙛 𝙎𝙞𝙣𝙜𝙡𝙚 𝙔𝙤𝙪 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩.⁣ ⁣ 𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗜 𝗱𝗼? I help the frustrated loyal woman who is TIRED of giving 2nd chances stop the cycle of trusting he will change by helping her learn how to set and KEEP boundaries with herself and men.⁣ ⁣I have room for 5 new clients this summer and if you believe you’re one of my clients. If you want better for yourself — apply here or DM me here @justmeReka. Don’t hesitate. Doors close Sunday: August 1, 2021 and ONLY 5 spots available. XO Reka
01:13:14
July 28, 2021
19. Why women don't follow their gut when it comes to men and the trouble it gets us in
⁣My Guest today is Coach Jos-Lyn, The Singles Coach She writes: My mantra is that singleness is not a death sentence but a life giving opportunity. I use my singleness to love on myself and grow into a woman that is pleasing to God, knowing what I want and how to get it, and growing in all of my relationships. I hurt myself in the past by ignoring red flags and not following my mind when I knew something wasn't right for the sake of being in a relationship. Being alone or single still means that I am whole so I don't force relationships and I am happy with my own company. ⁣ 𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗜 𝗱𝗼? I help the frustrated loyal woman who is TIRED of giving 2nd chances stop the cycle of trusting he will change by helping her learn how to set and KEEP boundaries with herself and men.⁣ ⁣ 𝙒𝙝𝙤 𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝙢𝙮 𝙘𝙡𝙞𝙚𝙣𝙩𝙨? Women who have their life together, career wise. You're financially stable but you're constantly spending money and time on him. Trying to build him up. You’re steady letting him walk all over you. And you're left wondering why that is? You're constantly thinking 'how can I have my professional life together but not my love life?'⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ 🗣 I’m looking for 3 frustrated loyal women who are TIRED of giving 2nd chances (over & over) and you want to stop the cycle of trusting he will change (he never does). ⁣ ⁣ 𝙉𝙤𝙬 𝙮𝙤𝙪'𝙧𝙚 𝙧𝙚𝙖𝙙𝙮 𝙩𝙤 𝙡𝙚𝙖𝙧𝙣 𝙝𝙤𝙬 𝙩𝙤 𝙨𝙚𝙩 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙆𝙀𝙀𝙋 𝙗𝙤𝙪𝙣𝙙𝙖𝙧𝙞𝙚𝙨 𝙬𝙞𝙩𝙝 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧𝙨𝙚𝙡𝙛 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙢𝙚𝙣.⁣ ⁣ ⁣ Step by step I can show you how to break that cycle. Get you back to trusting you. ⁣ ⁣ Doors close Aug. 1 to Single You Academy. Application process is open now.⁣ ⁣ 🌱 Are you interested in applying? ⁣Send 'boundaries' to me via DM @justmeReka or email me via Reka@justmeReka.com. Grab more information here.⁣ XO Reka
01:00:12
July 22, 2021
18. Are you constantly walking on eggshells, navigating drama, his emotions and minimizing your self? Let's Talk...
You're constantly walking on eggshells, navigation drama, his emotions and minimizing your self. Which means you're constantly doubting yourself and now when you say "I'm not dealing with him anymore" you don't even believe YOURSELF because you always take him back. Which is self betrayal...isn't it? Aren't you sick of that? I want to give you some tools on how to stop that cycle of dysfunction. Let's talk.... ----- So who am I? Hi. I’m Reka. I’m an NLP certified life coach. 𝙄’𝙢 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙁𝙤𝙪𝙣𝙙𝙚𝙧 𝙤𝙛 𝙎𝙞𝙣𝙜𝙡𝙚 𝙔𝙤𝙪 𝘼𝙘𝙖𝙙𝙚𝙢𝙮 & 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙝𝙤𝙨𝙩 𝙤𝙛 𝙎𝙞𝙣𝙜𝙡𝙚 𝙔𝙤𝙪 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩.⁣ ⁣ 𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗜 𝗱𝗼? I help the frustrated loyal woman who is TIRED of giving 2nd chances stop the cycle of trusting he will change by helping her learn how to set and KEEP boundaries with herself and men.⁣ ⁣I have room for 5 new clients this summer and if you believe you’re one of my clients. If you want better for yourself — apply here or DM me here @justmeReka. Don’t hesitate. Doors close Sunday: August 1, 2021 and ONLY 5 spots available. XO Reka
32:17
July 15, 2021
17. Have YOU been gaslighting and manipulating yourself just to be with him? Let's talk. (Guest Coach Elulu)
Today's guest is Coach Elulu. Coach Elulu is a certified life coach with a passion for helping singles and couples manifest, build and grow healthy and harmonious relationships that last!  She has been successfully doing this work alongside her husband and fellow coach, R Anthony since 2016 through their platforms: Relationships & Chill, Wifed Up Academy and Date Like A Wife.  She believes that relationships are our greatest teachers and that ANYONE can have the relationship they truly desire! ⁣She writes.... ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣I use to think that romantic relationships just sort of happen. I believed that all I needed to do was succeed in life in general and the falling in love part would just take care of itself. Finally seeing my track record of failed attempts, I realized what the world has taught me wasn't working and I needed to take matters into my own hands and become more intentional. A month and half later I met my husband. As for you sis... 𝙀𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮 𝙩𝙞𝙢𝙚 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙥𝙖𝙨𝙨𝙚𝙙 𝙪𝙥 𝙧𝙚𝙙 𝙛𝙡𝙖𝙜𝙨 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙨𝙝𝙖𝙙𝙚𝙙 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙢 𝙬𝙞𝙩𝙝 “𝙝𝙞𝙨 𝙥𝙤𝙩𝙚𝙣𝙩𝙞𝙖𝙡.”⁣ Every time he disrespected you and over stepped a boundary you set and you stayed. Then he did it again and you stayed. ⁣ Every moment you stay because being “alone” is a fear of yours is a moment you 𝘁𝗲𝗮𝗰𝗵 𝗵𝗶𝗺 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗹𝗼𝘃𝗲 𝗛𝗜𝗠 𝗺𝗼𝗿𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝗻 𝗬𝗢𝗨.⁣ Is that the woman you want to be? ⁣I’m willing to bet deep down the answer is no.⁣ Deep down I bet you want to be a stronger woman. One who sticks up for herself… you just don’t know where to start.⁣ ⁣ Start with me. ⁣So who am I? Hi I’m Reka. I’m an NLP certified life coach. 𝙄’𝙢 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙁𝙤𝙪𝙣𝙙𝙚𝙧 𝙤𝙛 𝙎𝙞𝙣𝙜𝙡𝙚 𝙔𝙤𝙪 𝘼𝙘𝙖𝙙𝙚𝙢𝙮 & 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙝𝙤𝙨𝙩 𝙤𝙛 𝙎𝙞𝙣𝙜𝙡𝙚 𝙔𝙤𝙪 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩.⁣ ⁣ 𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗜 𝗱𝗼? I help the frustrated loyal woman who is TIRED of giving 2nd chances stop the cycle of trusting he will change by helping her learn how to set and KEEP boundaries with herself and men.⁣ ⁣I have room for 5 new clients this summer and if you believe you’re one of my clients. If you want better for yourself — apply here or DM me here @justmeReka. Don’t hesitate. Doors close Sunday: August 1, 2021 and ONLY 5 spots available. ⁣ XO Reka
01:11:42
July 08, 2021
16. You're a GOOD woman and you deserve a GOOD man but here's why you haven't achieved that.
This episode is for the women who: Feels like: I’m a good woman, why aren’t I married? What’s wrong with me? You feel like: I have my career life together but for some reason my love life is trash. You're good at taking care of yourself, especially when it comes to your career. You know you're a smart woman so you don't understand why you keep getting into those types of relationships. Let's talk... Did you listen? What were your takeaways? ⁣Please share with me on IG @ justmeReka here. Email = Reka@justmeReka.com. Find me on Twitter here. Join my Private Facebook Group here.                               Also you buy Single You the Pillow Collection here and check out Single You Academy here.  Do you have any questions for me? Hit me up. XO Reka
37:10
June 24, 2021
15. How Your Money is Keeping You in That Dysfunctional Relationship.
Topic: How Your Money is Keeping You in That Dysfunctional Relationship. This episode is for: The woman who has her life together, career wise. Financially you’re doing alright. You even pay for a lot of things you two do. However you’re steady letting men walk all over you. And you're left wondering why that is? How can I have my professional life together but not my love life? On this episode myself and financial coach Jasmine Bundy will answer those questions for you! Did you listen? What were your takeaways? ⁣Please share with me on IG @ justmeReka here. Email = Reka@justmeReka.com. Find me on Twitter here. Join my Private Facebook Group here.                             Also you buy Single You the Pillow Collection here and check out Single You Academy here.  Do you have any questions for me? Hit me up. XO Reka
58:28
June 17, 2021
14. From Holes to Wholeness (Steps I took to overcoming my abusive relationship)
A speech (my story) on overcoming and healing from a dysfunctional relationships. From the Whole Woman event at Corner Stone Church in Pasco, WA.  Let's talk.... What I do? I teach single professional women in their 30s or 40s a faith-based way to move on from their ex. How to stop the cycle of dysfunctional relationships and what they've never been taught from church/by their parents about a healthy relationship with themselves and with men. Who are my clients? Women who have their life together, career wise. You're financially stable but you're constantly spending money and time on him. Trying to build him up. You’re steady letting him walk all over you. And you're left wondering why that is? How can I have my professional life together but not my love life? Did you listen? What were your takeaways? ⁣Please share with me on IG @ justmeReka here. Email = Reka@justmeReka.com. Find me on Twitter here. Join my Private Facebook Group here.                           Also you buy Single You the Pillow Collection here and check out Single You Academy here.  Do you have any questions for me? Hit me up. XO Reka
47:27
June 10, 2021
13. But first lets talk about why you got into that relationship in the first place. Series #4
My key strategies to dodging dysfunctional relationships, a masterclass series.  This episode is for the woman who has: Your life together, career wise. Financially. But you’re steady letting this man/a man walk all over you. You’re so busy trying to fix him up and be the ride or die chick. Your end goal is to rise him up to be the man you want him to be because you see potential. He is so disrespectful to you emotionally and he takes advantage of you.  You’re left feeling like: I’ve spent so much time and effort, money and everything pouring into him... to where I feel like I don’t ever get that same type of dynamic in return. You're thinking: What is it about myself that I keep attracting these types of relationships and how do I solve that, so that I don’t stay in this toxic cycle. I’ve gotta break this cycle. Let's talk.... What I do? I help single professional women in their 30s or 40s stop the cycle of dysfunctional relationships with men (or heck, just that one guy  ) without the overwhelm of feeling mean for saying no. Who are my clients? Women who feel like they spend so much time, effort, and money pouring into men, and you feel like you don't ever get that same type of dynamic in return. You're wondering, 'what is it about myself that I keep attracting these types of relationships, and how do I solve that so that I don't stay in this toxic, dysfunctional cycle.' Did you listen? What were your takeaways? ⁣Please share with me on IG @ justmeReka here. Email = Reka@justmeReka.com. Find me on Twitter here. Join my Private Facebook Group here.                         Also you buy Single You the Pillow Collection here and check out Single You Academy here.  Do you have any questions for me? Hit me up. XO Reka
44:03
June 03, 2021
12. What is it about YOU that keeps attracting dysfunctional relationships? Series #3
Topic: What is it about YOU that keeps attracting dysfunctional relationships? Plus HOW to solve this problem. For the woman who is wondering what it is about myself that I keep attracting dysfunctional relationships and how do I solve this problem? What I do? I help single professional women in their 30s or 40s stop the cycle of dysfunctional relationships with men (or heck, just that one guy ) without the overwhelm of feeling mean for saying no. Who are my clients? Women who feel like they spend so much time, effort, and money pouring into men, and you feel like you don't ever get that same type of dynamic in return. You're wondering, 'what is it about myself that I keep attracting these types of relationships, and how do I solve that so that I don't stay in this toxic, dysfunctional cycle.' Did you listen? What were your takeaways? ⁣Please share with me on IG @ justmeReka here. Email = Reka@justmeReka.com. Find me on Twitter here. Join my Private Facebook Group here.                       Also you buy Single You the Pillow Collection here and check out Single You Academy here.  Do you have any questions for me? Hit me up. XO Reka
43:52
May 27, 2021
11. My Key Strategies to Dodging a Dysfunctional Relationship; Series #2
WHY we stay in dysfunctional relationships but HOW to stop that cycle.  This topic is for the women who: ...has written off guys only to find yourself in the same type of dysfunctional relationship? ...feels like: I've been working on myself but it’s like I keep losing it. Old habits are hard to break for you and you’re wondering why. ...will know you don't like something, however you feel awkward about standing up for yourself with that man. ...has a hard time creating boundaries. It's like I get clueless or something. Every year over 10 million Americans experience psychological and/or physical abuse. And I'm willing to be thhe majority of that 10 million is women. And I know why… let's talk. Did you listen? What were your takeaways? ⁣Please share with me on IG @ justmeReka here. Email = Reka@justmeReka.com. Find me on Twitter here. Join my Private Facebook Group here.                     Also you buy Single You the Pillow Collection here and check out Single You Academy here.  Do you have any questions for me? Hit me up. XO Reka
01:03:09
May 20, 2021
10. My Key Strategies to Dodging a Dysfunctional Relationship; Series #1
WHY does a man not have to lie to YOU to be with YOU? Because if you like him enough, you'll lie to yourself and HOW to stop that cycle of dysfunction. But the gag is: he is lying to you through his behavior. You just pass up the red flag because you like him. So what am I saying? Men don't have to say: Baby, I'll never lie to you, I'll never cheat on you, I'm not a manipulator or a narcissist. I'm just a good guy who loves you. He knows he's all of the above and has been the above to his previous girlfriends. There is no yelp review for men. We're bad at being a lie detector because most of the time, we'll never find out. He's lying without a tangible fact AND raise your hand if you feel like you need facts to write him off BUT We have our God voice and today: I'm going to encourage you to lean into that because I want to help you stop this cycle of dysfunctional relationships. This series is for you if⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣: You're sick of being manipulated by men, and you want to learn how to follow your gut more. Did you listen? What were your takeaways? ⁣Please share with me on IG @ justmeReka here. Email = Reka@justmeReka.com. Find me on Twitter here. Join my Private Facebook Group here.                   Also you buy Single You the Pillow Collection here and check out Single You Academy here.  Do you have any questions for me? Hit me up. XO Reka
46:27
May 14, 2021
9. Deseree on: being bad at setting boundaries with men. Plus how to fix that.
How good are you at setting boundaries with men? Can you relate to the following statements.... I'll know I don't like something however I feel awkward about standing up. I have a hard time creating boundaries. It's like I get clueless or something. I definitely need help with boundaries. I love being a kind and caring person, but guys I’ve dated have taken too much advantage of my kindness. When I say NO to something sometimes they get mad. Let's talk... listen as a fly on the wall, as my best friend Deseree and I discuss boundaries with friends, family and of course men.  ----- LEARN MORE: about the key strategies to dodging a dysfunctional relationship masterclass here. Did you listen? What were your takeaways? ⁣Please share with me on IG @ justmeReka here. Email = Reka@justmeReka.com. Find me on Twitter here. Join my Private Facebook Group here.                 Also you buy Single You the Pillow Collection here and check out Single You Academy here.  Do you have any questions for me? Hit me up. XO Reka
01:24:14
May 13, 2021
8. Nicole on: Being an independent women who attracted needy guys
She writes.... ⁣⁣⁣⁣ I was a very independent women who attracted needy guys. In most of my relationships I was always the nurturing one making sure their needs were meet. My needs were rarely meet and I became frustrated and unhappy. So I'm the one who would end the relationship and move on. Then I got married, things were great at first until he decided to quit his job and sat around like I was going to take care of him. We got divorced and I'm now single, living my best life. This is her story and her transformation on no longer attracting needy men. Did you listen? What were your takeaways? ⁣Please share with me on IG @ justmeReka here. Email = Reka@justmeReka.com. Find me on Twitter here. Join my Private Facebook Group here.               Also you buy Single You the Pillow Collection here and check out Single You Academy here.  Do you have any questions for me? Hit me up. XO Reka
01:27:53
May 06, 2021
7. Brad on: not knowing his worth and being cheated on but has never cheated. Girl you can learn from him too
When I asked Brad: Was there a time you didn't know your worth? If Yes; how did you discover your worth? He said: Yes, it's been an ongoing battle for me since about 6-7 years ago. After going through multiple relationships and being cheated on. Since I first recognized it, I've been mentally doing things to remind myself of how worthy I am in all phases of life. Listen: the women doing the work need to find the men who are doing the work. Leave everyone else who continue to want dysfunction and drama alone. Listen in as Brad and I discuss his self-love journey. I bet you can learn a lot! Shows mentioned: The Color of Compromise available on Amazon prime and Hidden Colors available on Facebook. Did you listen? What were your takeaways? ⁣Please share with me on IG @ justmeReka here. Email = Reka@justmeReka.com. Find me on Twitter here. Join my Private Facebook Group here.             Also you buy Single You the Pillow Collection here and check out Single You Academy here.  Do you have any questions for me? Hit me up. XO Reka
01:29:41
April 29, 2021
6. How to get over him? Let's talk... I may have some answers for you
Are you currently trying to get over a guy? I believe I know exactly where you are... let me guess you're overthinking what happened. Judging yourself for what you did for him even though you saw red flags. Wishing you would have done something different and you wish you never met him or left at the first red flag. Am I right? I know you want to just totally forget what you went through, now I can't promise you I can make you forget him but I bet I can help you move on better than what you're doing now. Which is what we talk about in this episode and I even share a little of how I got over my abusive ex.  Did you listen? What were your takeaways? ⁣Please share with me on IG @ justmeReka here. Email = Reka@justmeReka.com. Find me on Twitter here. Join my Private Facebook Group here.           Also you buy Single You the Pillow Collection here and check out Single You Academy here.  Do you have any questions for me? Hit me up. Ps. I’m looking for 5 professional single women who want better when it comes to setting boundaries with men and stopping the cycle of dysfunctional relationships.  Step by step, I’ll show you exactly what to do for a transformation. Doors close Sunday April 25th @ 9p PST (Seattle Time) If you want to learn more send me a DM! You can literally just say "boundaries" and I'll take it from there.  XO Reka
34:11
April 22, 2021
5. Lanaya on: her happy marriage, waiting until 'he' becomes something and staying after he cheats.
Is staying after he cheats more Christian-like? Is cheating part of marriage? There are people out here throughly enjoying marriage, don't get it twisted. And Lanaya Ramsey is one of them.... married for 18+ years. Mother of 3. Teacher, mentor, minister and very very active in the Church. Her journey with dating Jerry, to marriage to 18 years in. What we discuss on this episode… Her journey with dating Jerry, to marriage to 18 years in. Sex. Waiting. The Who, what why and how. Religion and Is staying after he cheats more Christian-like? Is cheating part of marriage? The book that was mentioned: Leah Onuoha, a wife of over 10 years, mother, and minister wrote "10 Marriage Lessons in 10 Years" as an eye-opening view on a Christian marriage. Leah Onuoha has been married to her husband, Tobe Onuoha, for over 10 years. You can buy it here.  ------------- Did you listen? What were your takeaways? ⁣Please share with me on IG @ justmeReka here. Email = Reka@justmeReka.com. Find me on Twitter here. Join my Private Facebook Group here.         Also you buy Single You the Pillow Collection here.  Ps. If you are a woman who wants better when it comes to men and setting boundaries, knowing your self, understanding your worth and what makes a healthy relationship but you don't know where to start... If you’re ready to invest in yourself... send me a DM and let’s start the conversation. Plus check out more information on me and my coaching program here. Do you have any questions for me? Hit me up. XO Reka
01:31:56
April 15, 2021
4. You don't have to lie to a woman, if she likes you enough, she'll lie to herself to be with you. Let's talk...
What do the affirmations on my pillow mean to the women on my panel? You? Why did I add a scripture on the back? Cameo we'll discuss your comment; People think you can't have an unsuccessful single life, like you can have an unsuccessful marriage. Carla we'll discuss your comment; single is so loud Deseree we'll discuss your comment; imagine a world where women raise their standards, which in-turn will raise up a whole society.  Adreeahna we'll discuss your comment; Younger me learned about relationships, dating, marriage via watching family/friends, movies, and tv shows. Tatiahna we'll discuss your comment;  being single can be a blessing if you have the right perspective. We’ll also discuss  How do you feel about this comment; “You literally don’t have to lie to women. If she like you enough she will lie to herself.” And also how will you know a man loves you? 'We don’t realize just because he says “I love you” doesn’t mean he actually does.' ------------- Did you listen? What were your takeaways? ⁣Please share with me on IG @ justmeReka here. Email = Reka@justmeReka.com. Find me on Twitter here. Join my Private Facebook Group here.       Also you buy Single You the Pillow Collection here.  Ps. If you are a woman who wants better when it comes to men and setting boundaries, knowing your self, understanding your worth and what makes a healthy relationship but you don't know where to start... If you’re ready to invest in yourself... send me a DM and let’s start the conversation. Plus check out more information on me and my coaching program here. Do you have any questions for me? Hit me up. XO Reka
01:22:26
April 08, 2021
3 Can he cheat on you and still love you?
This is a conversation I had with Anthony of Anthony does a podcast and my best friend Deseree (his girl). I know this is a questions you have had so we discuss from the lens of 3 people who are doing great work within themselves. We also discuss the quote "I'd rather be alone than with people who make me feel alone." The question I pose to you.... how miserable are you willing to be just to be in a relationship?  Plus at the end I address the topic... after he cheats do you have to stay? Is it biblical to stay?  ------- Did you listen? What were your takeaways? ⁣Please share with me on IG @ justmeReka here. Email = Reka@justmeReka.com. Find me on Twitter here. Join my Private Facebook Group here.     Also you buy Single You the Pillow Collection here.  Ps. If you are a woman who wants better when it comes to men and setting boundaries, knowing your self, understanding your worth and what makes a healthy relationship but you don't know where to start... If you’re ready to invest in yourself... send me a DM and let’s start the conversation. Plus check out more information on me and my coaching program here. Do you have any questions for me? Hit me up. XO Reka
01:14:50
April 01, 2021
2. I dated him and you probably did too. The narcissist edition (Guest; Nicole Morris, MSW)
What exactly is Narcissism? What are the traits?  Well I remember a time that I got rid of a Michael Kors purse and some Jordans because the abusive ex wanted me to 'prove my love' for him. Narcissist? How he made me feel bad about having my parents and growing up in a two parent household. Narcissist? Let's talk.... with a therapist, Nicole Morris who has a Masters in Social work (MSW) and she's been in the field for 13 years. This is a conversation I had with her at the end of 2019. I was a baby-baby coach, I can see how much I've grown, even in how I explain things from then to now. However this episode has the definition of narcism, stories of what I did for my abusive ex and more, that you can learn from. Oh and after today, I'm going back to dropping episodes just on Thursdays.  Bill of personal rights;  I have the right to be treated with respect. I have the right to say no and not feel guilty. I have the right to express my feelings without being criticized. I have the right to take time for myself. I have the right to feel safe. I have the right to make my own decisions. I have the right to change my mind. I have the right to ask for what I want. I have the right to spend as much time with my family and friends as I want. I have the right to make mistakes. I have the right to not be pressured into doing stuff I don't feel like doing. I have the right to feel good about myself. I have the right to be respected if I want to end a relationship. I have the right to say no and not feel guilty. I have the right to express my feelings without being criticized. I have the right to take time for myself. I have the right to feel safe. I have the right to make my own decisions. I have the right to change my mind. I have the right to ask for what I want. I have the right to spend as much time with my family and friends as I want. I have the right to make mistakes. I have the right to not be pressured into doing stuff I don't feel like doing. I have the right to feel good about myself. I have the right to be respected if I want to end a relationship. -------- Did you listen? What were your takeaways? ⁣Please share with me on IG @ justmeReka here. Email = Reka@justmeReka.com. Find me on Twitter here. Join my Private Facebook Group here.   Also you buy Single You the Pillow Collection here.  Ps. If you are a woman who wants better when it comes to men and setting boundaries, knowing your self, understanding your worth and what makes a healthy relationship but you don't know where to start... If you’re ready to invest in yourself... send me a DM and let’s start the conversation. Or check out information on my coaching program here. Do you have any questions for me? Hit me up. XO Reka
40:18
March 25, 2021
1. Carla on: Leaving her boyfriend after 8 years + how she's living a successful single life
Carla Thomas = Fly Girl. Writer. Stylist. TV Host. Carla is a multimedia creative. Hailing from Baltimore, cultivated at Howard University and now thriving in Brooklyn, Carla is an around the way girl who is quietly brilliant. She creates fun and cool relatable content. She’s always on a plane or in a showroom. On this episode we discuss going to Howard University, why we chose HU and what it means to us today. Being Black in America via the Harry/Meghan Markle lens. Plus how she ended and why an 8 year relationship. Oh and she had a second date with a potential mate (that rhymes)... he throughly disappointed her but she handled it very very very well. Trust me you can learn from that story. Lastly, how is she living her successful single life as a Black woman and is it ok to be happily single AND desire a husband?  You can find Carla on IG here -- twitter here and her website here. ------------- Did you listen? What were your takeaways? ⁣Please share with me on IG @ justmeReka here. Email = Reka@justmeReka.com. Find me on Twitter here. Join my Private Facebook Group here.     Also you buy Single You the Pillow Collection here.  Ps. If you are a woman who wants better when it comes to men and setting boundaries, knowing your self, understanding your worth and what makes a healthy relationship but you don't know where to start... If you’re ready to invest in yourself... send me a DM and let’s start the conversation. Or check out information on my coaching program here. Do you have any questions for me? Hit me up. XO Reka
01:18:41
March 18, 2021
[ New Trailer ] What is this Podcast? Singleness is not a Punishment. Period. Let's talk...
You can buy Single You the Pillow Collection here.  Guest = Anthony from Anthony does a Podcast, and find him on IG here. As well as my best friend Deseree, find her on IG here.  Dropping every Thursday at 6a PST / 9a EST since August 27 of 2020. --------- I intend to help you see that you have authority over your life. No one gives us a manual when we are born. No one gives us a book of instructions for our birthday. Which is weird because don't you have an instruction manual for your TV, your car, and everything else that you do not know how to use at first. We're born, for the first time and we're just expected to be great at being human. We're given a name and expected to know how to operate as such. How are we supposed to know how to operate? How are we supposed to know how our mind works? How are we supposed to know how our body works? We do learn from others but the problem is most of us are learning from others that never took the time to learn themselves. For the most part they probably never knew you could learn "yourself", so, it's not their fault. Psychology 101 should be taught to us. We should have mandatory 'learn-how-to-be-a-human' classes starting at age 2. Like drivers-ed but human-ed. I'm not an expert at anything but I did start getting curious about life… my life. Which lead me to ask questions like: Why do we do the things we do? Why do we NOT do the things we want to do? That researching is paying off for me and I thought: what if I could help other women create their manual for their life? “When you learn, teach…” - Maya Angelou Please share this podcast if you can relate and if you think it can help someone else. It helps grow my audience and you can help me for free by sharing, rating and dropping comments/questions. -------------------- Did you listen? What were your takeaways? ⁣Please share with me on IG @ justmeReka here. Email = Reka@justmeReka.com. Find me on Twitter here. Join my Private Facebook Group here.       Ps. If you are a woman who wants better when it comes to men and setting boundaries, knowing your self, understanding your worth and what makes a healthy relationship but you don't know where to start... If you’re ready to invest in yourself... send me a DM and let’s start the conversation. Or check out information on my coaching program here. Do you have any questions for me? Hit me up. XO Reka
08:25
March 17, 2021
26. Stacy on: what she lost in college because of 'him' and how she walked away with her life
Stacy Paetz… International Television & Podcast Host, Sideline Reporter, Author, Documentary Film Maker, Women's Sports Apparel Designer⁣ ⁣⁣She writes.... ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣“Girl...I've had 3 serious relationships in my life and the last one ended in 2010. I thought he was the one and he left me and I still don't know why. I've been abstinent for over 6 years and before I'd met him in 2008, I had been abstinent for 12 years. I have little dating experience overall and I know what I want and deserve and won't settle.”⁣ You can find Stacy on IG here and her website here.  Did you listen? What were your takeaways? ⁣Please share with me on IG @ justmeReka here. Email = Reka@justmeReka.com. Find me on Twitter here. Join my Private Facebook Group here. Also I'm having a party for the launch of Single You the Pillow Collection. RSVP here. Yes you will have a chance to win prizes. Consider them affirmations but instead of a post-it-note, the affirmation is on a pillow which you can put on your bed and/or your couch. ⁣ Ps. If you are a woman who wants better when it comes to men and setting boundaries, knowing your self, understanding your worth and what makes a healthy relationship but you don't know where to start... If you’re ready to invest in yourself... send me a DM and let’s start the conversation. Or check out information on my coaching program here. Do you have any questions for me? Hit me up. XO Reka
01:12:25
March 11, 2021
[ TIP ] Harry is the husband Diana needed. No seriously what is love? Let's talk...
What is love? Cause girl him saying ‘I love you’ doesn’t mean he actually does. While I do believe Harry and Meghan are a perfect example of being a team... ‘You two against the world — not against each other'... this episode is less about them and more about what the Bible/God defines as love. 'They' say relationships are hard... Yea this Meghan and Harry is an example of the hard. Not him disrespecting you over and over. Love does NOT = how much you can endure to keep a man in hopes he will change for you. ⁣ Scripture I mentioned; Ephesians 5:25 | John 3:16 | 1 John 4:7-21 | 1 John 4:18 | Ephesians 5:25 | 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 | Proverbs 4:23 Did you listen? What were your takeaways? ⁣Please share with me on IG @ justmeReka here. Email = Reka@justmeReka.com. Find me on Twitter here. Join my Private Facebook Group here. Also I'm having a party for the launch of Single You the Pillow Collection. RSVP here. Yes you will have a chance to win prizes. Consider them affirmations but instead of a post-it-note, the affirmation is on a pillow which you can put on your bed and/or your couch. ⁣ Ps. If you are a woman who wants better when it comes to men and setting boundaries, knowing your self, understanding your worth and what makes a healthy relationship but you don't know where to start... If you’re ready to invest in yourself... send me a DM and let’s start the conversation. Or check out information on my coaching program here. Do you have any questions for me? Hit me up.  XO Reka
35:22
March 10, 2021
25. Adreeahna on: His years of promises, then he just disappears and comes back after 10 months.. how did she handle that situation
What would you do if you dated a guy for a few years. He promised marriage and when you're about to move to be with him... he disappears for 10 months. Then comes back talking about “how are you?” on snapchat. 👉🏽 That’s Adreeahna’s story and she shares it on this episode of Single You the Podcast. Yep he came back but how she handled ‘closure’ and the red flags she passed up. You can learn from her story. Happy listening and I hope you have your notebook. You know that's why I do this. I want you to learn, execute and never look back. 👑 Reach out to Adreehna here on IG and read her blog/website here. Did you listen? What were your takeaways?  ⁣Please share with me on IG @ justmeReka here. Email = Reka@justmeReka.com. Find me on Twitter here. ... And grab information on my Private Facebook Group here, my coaching program and Single You the Pillow Collection.  XO Reka⁣⁣
01:05:00
March 04, 2021
[ TIP ] So you say you're a Proverbs 31 woman or want to be. You say you want a Good/Godly man. Let's talk...
I hope you listen with open ears. I'm not here to judge you but if you don't listen to this episode you won't know that. I'm very aware that this message isn't for everyone... but it is for the women I feel called to guide. Because what's the vision for your life sis? No judgement but the way I define judgement and the way cancel culture defines it, is extremely different.  Isn't your body a temple? Do you want to be lukewarm? Jesus and the Samaritan woman, let's talk...  Did you listen? What were your takeaways? ⁣Please share with me on IG @ justmeReka here. Email = Reka@justmeReka.com. Find me on Twitter here. ... And grab information on my Private Facebook Group here, my coaching program and Single You the Pillow Collection. XO Reka⁣⁣
25:40
March 03, 2021
24. I dated him and you probably did too (Jhall; former Fboy confessions)
I dated him and I bet you did too. On today's Single You the Podcast; I speak to Jhall. He is a former Fboy and he has confessions for us. From his toxic journey to the man he is today. He's spilling all the tea and I got all the questions. Bring your note book because who he use to be... we need to learn how to dodge that. Reach out to Jhall here on IG and read his blog here.  ------- Did you listen? What were your takeaways? ⁣Please share with me on IG @ justmeReka Email = Reka@justmeReka.com XO Reka⁣⁣
01:14:08
February 25, 2021
[ Tip ] You knew he wasn't for you in the beginning but you passed up THIS red flag for the story you wanted
I use to be so confused about my gut and the feeling I would get about men. Why did I feel like 'he is not for me' and I don't have a tangible reason? What does the gut feeling actually mean? Am I too picky? I had to learn what it meant to listen to my gut and how to use it to detect the people who aren't for me. Energy is real and we have to start trusting ourselves. The guy feeling is your God voice.  ------- Did you listen? What were your takeaways? ⁣Please share with me on IG @ justmeReka Email = Reka@justmeReka.com XO Reka⁣⁣
12:04
February 24, 2021
23. Never let a guy save you for later with Kaitlyn Herman
What happens if a guy says "I'm too busy" but still wants to keep you as a 'friend'... how do you handle that situation? He doesn't want to be in a relationship but a freinds-with-benefits situation... he's ok with. How you handle that situation? Let's talk... A quote from Kaitlyn Herman: We ALL have a purpose. At 25, I'm lucky enough to have found mine. Whether you're 23 or 63, I will help you navigate your life to find that purpose. I will help you live an authentic life that you've only dreamed of living. I will hold you accountable for taking actions to make your dreams become reality. I will guide you in the right direction so that you're living every day with immense gratitude. And lastly, I will help you see life through a lens of love, not fear. Through all of this, you'll be guided to achieve inner peace and true happiness for the rest of your life. You can find information on her coaching here. Her instagram here. Did you listen? What were your takeaways? ⁣Please share with me on IG @ justmeReka ----------- Want to know if he's lying to you sooner rather than later? A FREE live masterclass. Register here.  Ready to join Single You Academy now? Click here: Group or VIP Email = Reka@justmeReka.com XO Reka⁣⁣
57:37
February 18, 2021
[ Tip ] How and why my ex controlled me (my personal story)
I should have left him when this happened but I didn't. I go over some of the reasons why I didn't in this episode.  ----- Sign up for my Master class here; My Key strategies to help you dodge a dysfunctional relationship.  It’s Reka here! In case you were wondering what I really do... outside of posting about my workouts, Champ & Thor, my beautiful Pitbulls and discussing relationships...  I am a certified NLP Life Coach aka the Single Girls Life Coach. In September, after 18 years in radio, I stepped down from my full time job— to focus on what God is calling me to do in this season. I’m called to guide women who need to hear that singleness is not a punishment and you are worthy regardless of your relationship status. I’m the Founder of Single You Academy & the host of Single You the Podcast.⁣ ⁣ I help the ambitious millennial single woman discover her worth so that she can stop tying her identity and worth to men and stop being a man pleaser.⁣ I am looking for TEN women who want better when it comes to men and setting boundaries, knowing your self, understanding your worth and what makes a healthy relationship. If this sounds like you and you are ready to get started, we should definitely connect. I would LOVE to guide you into next year and make 2021 the year you finally feel happy single. Ready? Either comment below or shoot me a DM! Did you listen? What were your takeaways? ⁣Please share with me on IG @ justmeReka ----------- Want to know if he's lying to you sooner rather than later? A FREE live masterclass. Register here.  Email = Reka@justmeReka.com XO Reka⁣⁣
17:34
February 17, 2021
22. Now Elana: From never getting married again to 10 years in with Riggs. (Part 2)
Elana got married young young and divorced months later. Why?  She was then in a relationship where she didn't even want to kiss this 'good man.' Why? Her friend Riggs (from episode 21) was always there for here as a FRIEND and that's it. How did they transition to lovers? Was it weird? What conversations did they have BEFORE they got serious? What's different with Riggs than any other man she dated?  Before Riggs she was absolutely just use to dysfunctional relationships. She grew and learned a lot from those relationships. Elana will share with us about all that I just mentioned plus: traits to watch out for in men, traits to look for in men and of course we'll talk about her not wanting kids. I hope you have your note book.  Did you listen? What were your takeaways? ⁣Please share with me on IG @ justmeReka ----------- Want to know if he's lying to you sooner rather than later? My 4 step strategy that will keep you out of a toxic relationships. A FREE live masterclass. Register here.  Email = Reka@justmeReka.com XO Reka⁣⁣
01:18:40
February 11, 2021
[ Tip ] 3 Character traits to watch out for in Men (with Elana Riggle)
We often times by-pass the weight that a relationship is putting on us because our misguided hope makes the weight seems light. Elana has been happily married to Riggs for 10 years now. But before that she was married and divorced quickly. She has had a few dysfunctional relationships. We can learn from women like her, so I asked her to give us 3 things she knew that she didn't want in a husband and she passed on those gems to us.  Did you listen? What were your takeaways? ⁣Please share with me on IG @ justmeReka ----------- Want to know if he's lying to you sooner rather than later? My 4 step strategy that will keep you out of a toxic relationships. A FREE live masterclass. Register here.  Email = Reka@justmeReka.com XO Reka⁣⁣
16:46
February 10, 2021
21. Riggs: From Never Getting Married Again to Happily Ever After. What's Different? (Part 1)
(Andy) Riggs was married in his early 20s. That did not last but why?  He has now been married over 10 years. That is lasting why?  We also cover:  1. 3 Things not to do in a relationship 2. 3 Things that is keeping their marriage happy.  3. They don't have kids. He explains why! (not that he had to but I wanted to ask for you). (Andy) Riggs can be found on: IG = RiggsRadio Facebook = Riggs Radio His Podcast = Riggs off the Radio Did you listen? What were your takeaways? ⁣Please share with me on IG @ justmeReka ----------- Want to know if he's lying to you sooner rather than later? My 4 step strategy that will keep you out of a toxic relationships. A FREE live masterclass. Register here.  Email = Reka@justmeReka.com XO Reka⁣⁣
01:18:45
February 04, 2021
[ Tip ] Don't Do These 3 Things in a Relationship (Guest Riggs)
𝐒𝐨𝐦𝐞 𝐨𝐟 𝐮𝐬 𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐧 𝐛𝐲 𝐡𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐢𝐧𝐠/𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐧𝐢𝐧𝐠 ‘𝗪𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐍𝐨𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐃𝐨’… Riggs has 3 things you shouldn’t do in a relationship. ⁣⁣ ⁣Riggs went from ‘never getting married again’ to ‘happily every after’ with his wife of 10 years (12 years together). ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ 𝐅𝐨𝐫 𝐦𝐞 𝐈 𝐰𝐚𝐧𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐧 𝐟𝐫𝐨𝐦 𝐡𝐚𝐩𝐩𝐢𝐥𝐲 𝐦𝐚𝐫𝐫𝐢𝐞𝐝 𝐩𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞. ⁣⁣ How are you learning about what makes a healthy relationship? A healthy marriage? Seriously how? ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ ⁣Ps. Yes we discuss that TERRIBLE relationship between Kelly and that damn red power ranger (Andrew) of Bling Empire on Netflix. ⁣⁣A dysfunctional relationship doesn't have to be your normal.  (Andy) Riggs can be found on: IG = RiggsRadio Facebook = Riggs Radio His Podcast = Riggs off the Radio  Did you listen? What were your takeaways? ⁣Please share with me on IG @ justmeReka ----------- Want to know if he's lying to you sooner rather than later? My 4 step strategy that will keep you out of a toxic relationships. A FREE live masterclass. Register here.  Email = Reka@justmeReka.com XO Reka⁣⁣
11:39
February 03, 2021
20. Do good men actually slide into DMs with Shanice. Her Fiancé did.
Sick of being played? Shanice explains how she got ghosted after she drove 2 hours to meet up with a guy who never showed. Through her story she shares 4 tips on how to better gage if a man is playing you or not. (1) Stop giving men the benefit of the doubt. (2) Those stupid rules you make for you not to come off as “annoying” to a man —stop with the rules. (3) Ask all the questions. Being afraid to ask the questions puts you in situations you didn’t ask for. (4) Listen to your gut. Stop looking for ‘evidence.’ Why don’t you believe you? And then because of that story she met her fiancé and yes, he slid into her DMs.  Listen to Shanice has she encourages women who are still in their single season. Our hope is that you find encouragement through her!  Shanice can be found on IG @XOXoShanice and Youtube here.  Did you listen? What were your takeaways? ⁣Please share with me on IG @ justmeReka ----------- Want to know if he's lying to you sooner rather than later? My 4 step strategy that will keep you out of a toxic relationships. A FREE live masterclass. Register here.  Email = Reka@justmeReka.com XO Reka
01:40:01
January 28, 2021
[ Tip ] This is Toxic Texting with Shanice
I want you to start shifting your mindset in the way that people talk to you and how you talk to people. Start thinking about emotional intelligence and what it means.  Are you watching Bling Empire on Netflix? You know the relationship with Kelly and Andrew, the red power ranger... that's a relationship I don't want you to have sis.  In this Tangible Tip Wednesday we go over another example of what you should NOT allow in your relationship. This is corny sis and I want you to know this isn't apart of the ups and downs of a relationship.  Shanice can be found on IG & YouTube @ XoXoShanice  Did you listen? What were your takeaways? ⁣Please share with me on IG @ justmeReka ------- Want to know if he's lying to you sooner rather than later? My 4 step strategy that will keep you out of a toxic relationships is coming soon. Sign ups start February 2nd. Send me a DM now if you want to be on the waitlist.  IG = justmeReka Email = Reka@justmeReka.com XO Reka www.single-you.com/join
09:27
January 27, 2021
19. What I Wish the Church Taught Single Women (With Pastor Marlando Jordan)
Why is their so much pressure in the church to get married? How should we be dating?  "What you believe is what you do." - Pastor Marlando Jordan The books we suggested you can buy here.  The Right One by Frank Martin and Jimmy Evans Relationships Goals by Mike Todd Relational Intelligence by Dharius Daniels "So what you believe is what you do. So if somebody says, "I believe it's important to pray and talk to God every day and I believe I should read my Bible every day." Then the lady should say, "Well, do you do that?" If he says, "No, I don't." So then an honest answer for him would be, "I don't believe it's important to read my Bible and pray every day because I don't do it." Some people try to separate their beliefs from their behavior, and you cannot. You cannot separate your belief from your behavior. - Marlando Jordan Pastor Marlando’s desire is to bring the message of reconciliation to those who do not have a relationship with the Lord and to establish, equip and empower believers to be radical disciples of Christ. His enthusiasm, passion and love for God and people, brings a unique and bold style of teaching and preaching. Marlando Jordan currently serves as the Senior Pastor Sozo Church in Kennewick, Washington. Pastor Marlando and his wife Megan live in Pasco, WA, they’ve been married since 2003 and are the proud parents of their two children, Isaiah and Annabelle. ------ Sis, let's talk. He can't say he loves you and is treating you like yesterday's trash or heck today's. He can not say that. He may want to love you but I'd argue he has zero idea what love is. How many books has he read on love? How many people with happy marriages has he talked to about love? How about you? When you want to be a doctor or a lawyer you know you have to go to school for that. You know exactly where to go but where do you go if you want to be in love? Where are we learning what love is? [ Single You Academy ] How are we learning to have healthy relationships? Also you can't say you know your worth and continue to be treated like crap. You are your behavior and your behavior is showing that you allow the revolving door of dysfunctional relationships. Your behavior is showing you- you tie your identity to men and he's your world, not you. What are you getting out of that? Whenever you're ready to discover your worth so that you can stop tying your identity to men. I'm ready for you.  Did you listen? What were your takeaways? ⁣Please share with me on IG @ justmeReka Grab my FREE SYA mini = 3 writing prompts to help you Discover Your Worth + the How to Get Over Him [video + worksheet ] LINK: bit.ly/SYAMini           Join the Free Facebook Group "Singleness is Not a Punishment."           ⁣ Xo Reka
01:21:05
January 21, 2021
[ Tip ] Finding Purpose Before Marriage because a Man Doesn't Actually Complete You (With Pastor Marlando Jordan)
Do you value yourself? Do you know who you are sis? Are you proud of you?  Where there is no vision, the people perish: but he that keepeth the law, happy is he. - Proverbs 29:18 In finding your purpose: 1. Prayer. Ask God to reveal to you, who you are.  2. Searching your heart. Ask yourself the same question. Who are you in Christ? What is your identity? Who are you outside of dating, a man and your kids?  What are you reading, listening and what company are you keeping?  “Your eye is like a lamp that provides light for your body. When your eye is healthy, your whole body is filled with light. But when your eye is unhealthy, your whole body is filled with darkness. And if the light you think you have is actually darkness, how deep that darkness is! - Matthew 6: 21-23 "So then faith comes by hearing, and hearing by the word of God." - Romans 10:17 How is your heart?  "It’s not what goes into your body that defiles you; you are defiled by what comes from your heart". - Mark 7:15 "Create in me a clean heart, O God. Renew a loyal spirit within me". - Ps. 51:10 "For in Christ lives all the fullness of God in a human body. So you also are complete through your union with Christ, who is the head over every ruler and authority." - Colossians 2:9-10  Did you listen? What were your takeaways? ⁣Please share with me on IG @ justmeReka Grab my FREE SYA mini = 3 writing prompts to help you Discover Your Worth + the How to Get Over Him [video + worksheet ] LINK: bit.ly/SYAMini         Join the Free Facebook Group "Singleness is Not a Punishment."         ⁣ Xo Reka
17:02
January 20, 2021
18. Dai: On How She Got Over Her Abusive Ex and 'Found' Her Husband.
She writes:  Dig, isolate, ache from being lonely, GLOW.  Like many late 20-somethings I've had my share of failed relationships, the most prominent being an 8 year live-in one. "Common law married". I'm not gonna spend so much time on the particulars, but we weren't meant to be. For 6 months I spiraled and acted out every annoying and "smh" worthy moment that almost every woman has after a heavy breakup. Lately, I've seen it replayed in SO many young women, so I felt the need to write this post in hopes that if you do need it, it'll find you. When the relationship ended, there was definitely a point in time where I felt that I might possibly die lol. I was 25 so of course that didn't take much, but in my defense, 8 years is a very serious commitment. Real marriage was an actual goal at the time, and after so much time of living together all we were missing was the wedding and the paper work. At first I made the mistakes that I see other women make every single day and I cringe from the memory. I cried, I prayed, I tried to "make myself whole" in hopes that he would see what a "good woman" I was. Constantly trying to prove my worth, thinking I was growing when really I just wanted him to see. I tried to mimic the women's patterns that I thought he desired and felt further and further away from myself. I was lost. My entire identity was wrapped up in who "we" had been and I missed it so much that I didn't even stop to realize that there was no possible way that there was ever a "we". There was hardly even a "me". She is Dai and you can read the rest here. Dai can also be found on IG @ _dai_dreaming Did you listen? What were your takeaways? ⁣Please share with me on IG @ justmeReka Grab my FREE SYA mini = 3 writing prompts to help you Discover Your Worth + the How to Get Over Him [video + worksheet ] LINK: bit.ly/SYAMini       Join the Free Facebook Group "Singleness is Not a Punishment."       ⁣ Xo Reka
01:22:29
January 14, 2021
[ Tip ] Your Vagina Doesn't Actually Know If He's The One Sis. With Dai Loving-Hearne
So what is it supposed to feel like when you find your match? Butterflies or no? What I can tell you is this: Yep. Your Vagina Doesn’t Actually Know if He’s The One or Not sis.  ⁣Let’s stop leaning heavy into those butterflies. I have a problem when it comes to following your heart with out logic and strategy behind it. Listen to Daishaundra as she explains the difference between when she had butterflies in the beginning of dating her abusive ex and what she felt in the beginning of dating her husband Bryan. Find Dai on IG @ _dai_dreaming Blog: www.daidreaming.net  Did you listen? What were your takeaways? ⁣Please share with me on IG @ justmeReka Grab my FREE SYA mini = 3 writing prompts to help you Discover Your Worth + the How to Get Over Him [video + worksheet ] LINK: bit.ly/SYAMini       Join the Free Facebook Group "Singleness is Not a Punishment."       ⁣ Xo Reka
11:01
January 13, 2021
17. Can You Only Find True Joy in a Relationship? With Cameo King
Society will definitely make us think so. That only true happiness, joy and fulfillment come inside of a relationship. Cameo and I (Reka). use to think this way but we don't anymore.  Life moves in the direction of your most dominate thought and when we thought that way we ended up trying to cook our way, force our way, serve our way, submit our way into a man’s heart to prove our worth…. Have You been There? Trying to get out of that cycle?  Sick of the emotional heavy-lifting that you do to love men who aren’t capable of loving you back in a healthy way. Oh you're sick of that too?⁣ Then this episode is so for you.  We also touch on what we gave up when we were dating these kind of men and also how we're thriving as a single woman now. We love being single and until the RIGHT man comes along, we'll be fine being single.  Cameo can be found via IG @ thegoodgirlpodcast wavve.link/thegoodgirlpodcast Podcast = The Good Girl Podcast ⁣ Did you listen? What were your takeaways? ⁣Please share with me on IG @ justmeReka Grab my FREE SYA mini = 3 writing prompts to help you Discover Your Worth + the How to Get Over Him [video + worksheet ] LINK: bit.ly/SYAMini   Join the Free Facebook Group "Singleness is Not a Punishment."   ⁣ Xo Reka
01:43:18
January 07, 2021
[ Tip ] What do we get when we try to serve our way into his heart? When we compromise? With Cameo King
𝗪𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐡𝐚𝐩𝐩𝐞𝐧𝐬 𝐰𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐰𝐞 compromise 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘩𝘪𝘮 𝐢𝐧 a 𝐫𝐞𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐩? ⁣ ⁣You often enter into relationships trying to cook your way, sex your way, force your way, serve your way, submit your way into a man’s heart to prove your worth…. don’t you? ⁣ ⁣All to be chosen by a man who sat back and reaped the benefits of your affections. Are you sick of that?⁣ ⁣Oh and how about the emotional heavy-lifting that you do to love men who aren’t capable of loving you back in a healthy way. Aren’t you sick of that too?⁣ ⁣⁣This is a conversation between Cameo and I about how we use to operate in relationships and if you still do — no judgment — but stop. Here’s why...⁣⁣ Cameo can be found via IG @ thegoodgirlpodcast wavve.link/thegoodgirlpodcast Podcast = The Good Girl Podcast ⁣ Did you listen? What were your takeaways? ⁣Please share with me on IG @ justmeReka Grab my FREE SYA mini = 3 writing prompts to help you Discover Your Worth + the How to Get Over Him [video + worksheet ] LINK: bit.ly/SYAMini     Join the Free Facebook Group "Singleness is Not a Punishment."     ⁣ Xo Reka
16:22
January 06, 2021
[ 3 ] The Dating Mistakes I Hope You Leave in 2020. Happy 2021
Did you listen? What were your takeaways? ⁣Please share with me on IG @ justmeReka Grab my FREE SYA mini = 3 writing prompts to help you Discover Your Worth + the How to Get Over Him [video + worksheet ] LINK: bit.ly/SYAMini   Join the Free Facebook Group "Singleness is Not a Punishment."   ⁣ Xo Reka
21:05
December 31, 2020