Single You "The Podcast"
By Reka Robinson
Single You "The Podcast"Dec 23, 2020
150. I'm Over the 50/50 Conversations
I’m over the 50/50 conversations.
Cause who’s really talking splitting money with a guy who can’t even locate himself?
I’m talking vibe change.
You ask.
He acts like nothings changed.
Why isn’t there more of: “look I’m processing something— we are still good but give me a minute.”
Instead of acting different and making me feel like I’m tripping.
If we say “at this big age” we are going to be open, honest and transparent… then there is a moment where vulnerability will help us “win the relationship” but you choose otherwise and expect me to “pull the emotions” out of you… we will lose the relationship every time. Why am I always put in a position where I have to think “am I tripping or did the energy shift?” — and it’s never the man with enough integrity to explain what’s going on with him or why the energy shifted.
I can’t figure out my emotions and yours sir.
So, is it really about the 50/50?
-I have thoughts about him-
Originally Written: December 2023
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149. 2 Gifts My Parents Gave Me About Relationships + Why I've Been Absent
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148. Why Can’t We Pull Our Men Up? (Guest J.Hall)
Relationships, Statistics, and Self-Exploration: Unveiling Truths about Dating (each other) for Black Men and Women. An argument as to why we should give the bus driver a chance.
In this thought-provoking podcast episode hosted by Reka Robinson, she engages in a candid conversation with J. Hall about the complexities of relationships, the influence of statistics in dating, and the dynamics surrounding Black men and women. Together, they delve into the following thought-provoking questions:
- Should we base our choices on relationship statistics or on the reality we experience? Reka and J. Hall ponder the implications of relying solely on statistical data when it comes to dating and whether it aligns with personal experiences and individual needs. And where does faith come in?
- Nurturing Black men: Reka and J. Hall examine the idea of supporting and uplifting Black men. They question whether assumptions about their strengths and comfort levels hinder our ability to truly understand their needs and desires. The importance of open communication and asking questions is emphasized.
- Room for questions: The conversation navigates around whether Black men allow space for questioning, or if their ego obstructs genuine dialogue. Exploring the facets of self-discovery, they wonder if Black men truly explore the potential of the man they aspire to become. Why can’t we call our men up?
- Acknowledging collective struggles: J. Hall shares his newfound understanding that the challenges faced by women in their interactions with men impact society as a whole. “I use to say that sucks for you, now I know it sucks for us.”
- The path to healing: Reka opens up about her personal journey, revealing that she believes true healing can only be achieved by embracing the discomfort and vulnerability that comes with building relationships. She wonders if she will be able to reach that point with a Black man. Can we get past that wall?
- Financial stability and trust: The discussion shifts to the topic of financial stability and its impact on dating within the Black community. Reka and J. Hall question whether Black men should refrain from dating until they achieve financial stability and whether Black women are expected to meet them at the bottom as a way to gain their trust.
- Reflecting truths: Reka shares her belief that she has the ability to make men confront their own selves, which can be uncomfortable for them, leading to avoidance. Which is why they run and why relationships never work out for her.
Throughout the episode, Reka and J. Hall provide listeners with an engaging and thought-provoking dialogue that challenges preconceived notions about relationships, explores the dynamics between Black men and women, and encourages a deeper understanding of oneself and others.
- You can find J.Hall here.
- His Blog here.
- The episode of 'The Good Girl Podcast' we mention is here.
- The history of being Black; here.
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147. Nurturing a Healthy Marriage. Meg on: how she refuses to lose herself in her marriage. (Guest Meg Watt)
"I am intentional about not losing myself in my marriage." - Meg
(host) Reka, sits down with the inspiring Meg Watt to explore the dynamics of her decade-long relationship with her husband, Darrel. Through their conversation, they uncover valuable insights on building a healthy marriage, the importance of proper planning and strategy, and the need to embrace personal growth.
Meg begins by acknowledging the widespread desire many people have for the kind of fulfilling relationship she shares with Darrel. However, she highlights the unfortunate reality that most individuals fail to listen to her advice, missing out on the secrets to long-lasting-healthy love.
The journey of Meg and Darrel's relationship takes an unexpected turn early on when Darrel breaks up with Meg after two years. Meg candidly shares this experience, explaining that Darrel felt unprepared and uncertain about their future together. Reflecting on this challenging period, Meg emphasizes the significance of therapy in their reconciliation and subsequent reunion.
The podcast delves deeper into Meg's decision to give their relationship another chance despite her initial reservations about Darrell's previous breakup. Meg challenges the notion of holding onto an immature attitude and emphasizes the importance of personal growth and maturity in nurturing a strong bond.
Furthermore, Meg reveals the 'trauma plans' she and Darrel have implemented in their relationship. She sheds light on the significance of recognizing and addressing past traumas, emphasizing how this awareness contributes to a healthier and more resilient partnership.
Throughout the conversation, Meg shares her perspective on how individuals often normalize suppressing their own needs and desires, especially within the context of relationships. She encourages listeners to break free from this pattern, advocating for open communication and self-expression as essential ingredients for relationship growth.
Meg also touches upon the importance of empathy towards those who break up with us. She suggests that, that maybe these individuals (men) may have only experienced our unique type of love in their dreams and how overwhelming that can be for them. So having grace for ourselves in 'choosing wrong' and their choice to retreat is a crucial approach to our healing.
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146. So are we going to date the bus driver? Commentary on Eboni K. Williams, her preference and more. (Guest: Dr. Tiyahri Wilson)
"We have to stop internalizing people’s fruit inspection of us. - Tiyahri
In this podcast episode, my guest is Dr. Tiyahri Wilson and we explore the topic of preference when it comes to dating, specifically for Black women. We start off by discussing whether Eboni K. Williams is allowed to have her own preference and if Black women are allowed to be vocal about theirs. We also touch on Eboni's comment, "If he owns the bus," and whether men were too sensitive about her preference.
Dr. Tiyahri shares a quote that encourages people to stop internalizing others' opinions of them. Myself and Tiyahri also reveal whether WE would date a bus driver and while our preference isn't exactly aligned with Eboni's, we do express our support for her answer, her reasoning and more. Then we move on to the rebuttal made by Dr. Iyanla Vanzant about the criteria used to measure men being off, which sparks a conversation about the cultural push for marriage and motherhood and how it may maintain patriarchal control and dominance.
Dr. Iyanla Vanzant said: "The standards and the criteria we use to measure men are off, for who we are as women and who they are in this society.”
The conversation then turns to the difference between "finding love" or "falling in love" versus "choosing love." This episodes ends with us discussing the idea that as long as the competition is "I'm not gonna let you out love me," the marriage will work. Overall, the episode provides thought-provoking insights on preference, love, and the societal norms that surround relationships.
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145. Stop giving love with the intent to change. Plus what is the difference between falling in love and choosing love? (male perspective)(Guest Bryan Thomas)
In this episode of the podcast hosted by (Me) Reka Robinson with guest (life coach) Bryan Thomas, Bryan talks about his divorce and the lessons he learned from it. He explains why he was with her for a few years but only married for months and that when love is given with the intent to change instead of cover, problems arise. We discuss the concept "Love is meant to cover and not change, according to God." (1 Peter 4:8)
We also discuss the concept of loving blindly and how it can lead to problems. Bryan stresses the importance of finding someone who matches our values and needs. He also discusses his decision to remain single until he finds someone who matches his discipline. Bryan believes that we should stop giving potential partners the benefit of the doubt. They also talk about what marriage taught Bryan about women and himself. Finally, they delve into the difference between falling in love and choosing love.
16:47: "When love is given with the intent to change and not the intent to cover. That is where you will run into a problem. God never says that ‘love changes’ but he says ‘love covers." - Bryan
- 26:53: becoming the person that I’m called to become that is my responsibility, that is not the responsibility of the person I’m with. The thing that I’m asking you, is that when I make mistakes, will you hold my hand and say “I got you” as I’m elevating or are you going to push me to the side because maybe what you signed up for didn’t included the capacity to be able to handle the downside to the evolution that I’m bringing.
- 50:24: What did marriage teach him about women?
- 1:01:04: What did marriage teach him about himself? + “Falling in love vs. choosing love”.
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144. 'They' really think that a Black women's hyper-independence is self imposed and that narrative is so tired. Plus MAFS commentary. Let's talk (Guest Tiyahri)
"Share what you want him to know and then allow him to ask the questions that go along with that." - Dr. Tiyahri Wilson. Find her here.
In this episode of the podcast hosted by (myself) Reka and mental health therapist Tiyahri, we dive deep into the societal pressure on women to measure their worth by marriage and kids (The Ashanti of it All). We discuss the harmful comments that are often directed towards unmarried women in their 40s and question why finding true love is not taught as an uncertain reality of life. We emphasize the importance of not measuring one's value by marriage and instead being careful about the way we perceive and understand this beautiful institution (around 14:46). Then of course we analyze MAFS (Married at First Sight. Season 16) couples, such as Jasmine and Airris, to understand what emotional unavailability looks like and whether the therapists on the show are ethical (around 25:50). Here is where Tiyahri defines "emotional unavailable" and we give tangible examples.
The podcast hosts also take a closer look at Kirsten and Shaq (around 44:45), discussing what it means to be extremely guarded and questioning why someone so shut down would go on a show like MAFS. They explore what "doing the work" looks like for someone who is guarded and provide advice on how to open up in a relationship. Additionally, the hosts discuss Dominique and Mackinley and analyze the way Dominique mishandled the situation (around 55:43). They question whether 25 is too young for marriage and discuss the importance of being honest about what one wants in a relationship. This podcast episode is a must-listen for anyone looking to understand societal pressures on women, emotional unavailability in relationships, and the intricacies of marriage.
"Ya'll really think that a Black women's hyper-independence (general speaking) is self imposed and that narrative is so tired. All these Black women are out here asking for help and expressing their needs, receiving nothing. That is what breeds hyper independence address that." - IG Streets. (around 19:14)
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143. Masculine and Feminine energy is not real life. Lets talk! (Plus let's celebrate Cameo for being on the Red Table... yes that Red Table!)
The first 28 mins is my discussion with my friend Cameo King (of the Good Girl Podcast) about her experience on the Red Table (Talk).
The episode she was on is titled: How to Find and Keep a Healthy Relationship and you can listen to that here.
Then we get into the following;
- 28:10 When it comes to 'finding and keeping a healthy relationship' what did we learn from; Dating coach Matthew Hussey, author Stephan Labossiere, podcast host Lewis Howes and relationship advisor DeVon Franklin?
- 30:00 Masculine and Feminine is not real life.
- 31:08 Being a 1 dimensional feminine woman can be boring... here is why...
- 34:01 Again what is the difference between compromise and settling... I think we found our answer through Matthew Hussey.
- 36:54 Why is dating so fun and intentional in the beginning but 3, 6 months down the road he falls off?
- 39:00 I fear making the wrong decision yet again.
- 43:03 That masculine and feminine energy conversation puts people in boxes.
- 45:58 Seriously who am I dating? Ever dated a man who couldn't locate himself?
- 50:21 I can't heal this side of me until I get on the other side of a relationship.
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142. What is the difference between settling vs. compromising? Marriage requires personal sacrifice... but what does that mean? (Guest: Cameo King + MAFS commentary)
Lets all welcome my friend, Cameo King back to the show, you can find her here.
Jump off discussion is about "MAFS" up to episode 8. Points were made & topics were talked about;
- 3:11 Overall thoughts on Dominique and Mackinley for Cameo. Was Mackinley's response about never dating a Black woman a red flag? Will race play into their issues?
- 9:58 How I've switched from Dominique's side to now feeling sorry for Mackinley. Who is Cameo rooting for and why? Is there gaslighting going on?
- 13:45 Is Dominique over judging Mackinley's living situation? We assume her fear is that he is a moving target and not serious about marriage... are we correct?
- 16:26 If you were entering this MAFS situation do you 'slow burn' (treating it as a dating situation) or 'hard launch' (already treating it as a marriage)?
- 21:30 Is there a difference in his love for you if he WANTS to 'take out the trash' vs. him doing it just because you want him to? Is that part of the love languages?
- 24:31 How Dominique's actions are very childish and predictions.
- 27:48 Shaq & Kirsten is actually Cameo's favorite couple but why?
- 32:26 Is she crazy due to no pictures in her house? Is she really minimalist for real?
- 37:20 What is the difference between settling vs. compromising? Marriage requires personal sacrifice... but what does that mean?
- 47:33 How us believing men 'should just know' is at our detriment. We need to get better at emotionally expressing ourselves.
- 51:52 Predictions on Shaq & Kirsten.
- 53:25 Airris and Jasmine. The awkwardness & the drama. How Jasmine's attraction to Airris is blinding her.
- 56:22 Is Pastor Cal right, that Airris is feeling the pressure of having to have all the feelings for Jasmine because they are already married? Can he turn that around as time goes on?
- 01:00:00 Is Airris' cousin stepping over the line? Especially how she is treating Jasmine?
- 01:04:41 When we really like a guy and we are holding out hope, what is the limit? How long do we hold out hope?
- 1:07:14 Walking in uncertainty and being uncomfortable, as a phase, is that what we are to expect in a relationship?
- 1:15:00 Why I lean into the slow burn space. Why I hate words from men, especially in the beginning. (let's be clear I do want it later).
- 1:16:04 Our predictions on Airris and Jasmine. Will they stay married?
Statistic; "Married At First Sight" Has Matched 59 Couples So Far — 15 couples are living happily ever after since the cameras stopped rolling. That's 25.4% of staying married. LESS than finding someone to marry on your own. (source)
“Marriage requires a lot of personal sacrifice” - Pastor Cal
141. How often are you trying to be someone your partner will like? Plus MAFS commentary & predictions. (Guest; Dr. Tiyahri Wilson)
Welcome to Season 3 of Single You the podcast. I started this podcast in August of 2020, thank you for every listen, every review, every DM & every share. You have helped me stay consistent.
Now let's get into the tea of S16 E5 & E6 of the reality show "Married at first sight": Marry Me in Tennessee, Nashville. What can we learn from the behaviors of these 3 couples? What behaviors do we not want to execute in our own dating lives?
Statistic; "Married At First Sight" Has Matched 59 Couples So Far — 15 couples are living happily ever after since the cameras stopped rolling. That's 25.4% of staying married. LESS than finding someone to marry on your own. (source)
Points were made;
- 2:56 Dominique & Mackinley. Are they really meant for each other? Red Flags we see.
- 4:52 How much is trying to change for someone at our detriment?
- 6:50 Do opposites truly attract? Is that a good or a bad thing?
- 11:32 How often do you try to be someone your partner will like?
- 14:39 Fast launch or slow burn when it comes to this show and making it to decision day.
- 16:52 Jasmine & Airris. Red flag that he's never been in love and he's 39?
- 26:10 Would Dr. T tell Jasmine to pack it up and go or wait it out?
More discussion on the following;
- How I see love very differently now at 39 vs. 22.
- What questions should we be asking about sex?
- Should we be that honest when it comes to our attraction to our partner?
- Shaquille & Kirsten. What does all that complaining mean for Shaq?
- Can attraction grow? Can we date someone long term we aren't attracted to?
- Why I no longer say "this is God" especially when it comes to men.
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The first two seasons of “Single You” have been about the journey into a toxic, abusive relationship and the journey out and into healing. They served a specific purpose and those shows will always be there.
Now it’s time to pivot; I want to go on a journey of proving that a marriage can be healthy, people can be happy but it all depends on the truth we tell to ourselves and the work we do.
I speak to the Black woman of faith who desires to be married. Who wants to date with intention.
You can find Tiyahri on Instagram here.
At this time I am not coaching but My DM is always open! Find me on IG here.
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140. With dating and the way things are in 2023, do we still want to be married? Plus MAFS commentary & predictions. (Guest; Dr. Tiyahri Wilson)
Welcome to Season 3 of Single You the podcast. I started this podcast in August of 2020, thank you for every listen, every review, every DM & every share. You have helped me stay consistent.
Now let's get into the tea of S16 E1 & E2 of the reality show "Married at first sight": Marry Me in Tennessee, Nashville. What can we learn from the behaviors of these 3 couples? What behaviors do we not want to execute in our own dating lives?
Points were made;
- 2:30 Are most married people miserable?
- 7:35 With dating and the way things are in 2023, do we still want to be married?
- 10:47 Why do we watch dating shows? These relationships never last.
- 16:35 Why would one sign up to marry someone at first sight?
- 18:52 Couple 1; Domynique/the old soul & Mackinley/The introverted dreamer. Overall thoughts on them as a couple and red flags we see.
- 22:04 Is 25 is too young, in 2023 is too young to be married?
- 24:18 Should you be thinking of marriage if you live with your best friends parents?
- 29:30 Our prediction of Domynique & Mackinley, staying married or divorcing at the end of the show.
Statistic; "Married At First Sight" Has Matched 59 Couples So Far — 15 couples are living happily ever after since the cameras stopped rolling. That's 25.4% of staying married. LESS than finding someone to marry on your own. (source)
- 30:05 Couple 2: Jasmine/Queen without a King & Airris//Reformed & ready for love. Overall thoughts on them as a couple and red flags we see.
- 33:10 How we feel about Airris' cousin.
- 35:00 Is it a red flag if a man says "I have a lack of witnessing traditional relationships" and is sleeping with someone 2 weeks before you get married on MAFS a red flag?
- 39:25 Our prediction of Jasmine & Airris, staying married or divorcing at the end of the show.
- 41:28 Couple 3; Kirsten/Ms. Great Expectations & Shaquille/The Devout Workaholic. Overall thoughts on them as a couple and red flags we see.
- 45:35 Is Shaq masculine enough for Kirsten?
- 49:15 It's her vain-ness for us. Yuck!
- 50:04 Can you stay with someone for the long haul, if you aren't attracted to him?
- 55:42 Relationships are NOT fantasy.
- 59:23 Our prediction of Kirsten & Shaq, staying married or divorcing at the end of the show.
The first two seasons of “Single You” have been about the journey into a toxic, abusive relationship and the journey out and into healing. They served a specific purpose and those shows will always be there.
Now it’s time to pivot; I want to go on a journey of proving that a marriage can be healthy, people can be happy but it all depends on the truth we tell to ourselves and the work we do.
I speak to the Black woman of faith who desires to be married. Who wants to date with intention.
You can find Tiyahri on Instagram here.
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At this time I am not coaching but My DM is always open! Find me on IG here.
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139. Tiyahri on: How I strategically left my husband after 15 years and living my best life! (now)
On this episode, I speak with Dr. Tiyahri. She so graciously shares with us her story of growing up in the church. Being married young, in what she feels was an arranged marriage to strategically leaving her husband after 15 years. Why did she leave? Why does she feel the marriage was arranged? What was she strategic about and how? Let's talk.
- Intro: Did anyone have a conversation with her about what makes a healthy relationship vs. Unhealthy in the church before she got married?
- 6:13 We didn't even know to ask. Growing up on Bel-Air and the Huxtables and bridge we didn't know we needed to close.
- 8:49 How to keep your husband happy (what she heard from the church).
- 14:27 Why she felt she was in an arranged marriage.
- 25:30 Was she tired being his wife and wife of a minister?
- 37:20 Did she blame herself or him stepping outside of the marriage?
- 40:09 Church just taught me to cry out and leave it on the alter but therapy taught me...
- 48:24 What is a healthy marriage to her and is she dating?
- 52:50 In her professional opinion what are green flags? And It's ok to change your mind.
You can find Tiyahri on Instagram here.
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138. Should we be mad at God for our terrible relationship(s) or is it more about our accountability? (Guest; Claudia Noriega-Bernstein)
What about those moments we should leave but don't and why don't we? A conversation with Abundance Coach, Published Author, Creative and Art Director; Claudia Noriega-Bernstein.
Some great moments.
- 10:28; What do we need to unlearn "about love" from our parents?
- 23:58; When your "vibe" "energy" is off and your always scared is a great indicator to leave but we don't.
- 25:12; Other moment(s) we should leave but we don't.
- 32:27; How do you know if he loves you?
- 38:17; What is the difference between lust vs. love?
- 43:14; Communication is key but what does that mean?
- 45:10; How did religion affect the way you saw relationship negatively?
- 49:00; Life is about choice but should we be angry at God for those terrible relationship(s)?
"I have dedicated the last twelve years of her life to empower people, especially children, and women. As a life/abundance coach, I have helped people from different backgrounds to discover and implement the full potential of their own creative powers for personal growth and self-healing.
Born in Peru; I come from a culture of taboos and beliefs that had not always empowered me to become what I believed was my calling. In the process of self-discovering, I fell in love with myself again and found my passion for helping others.
Giving back, paying forward, gratitude, and kindness are my pillars for a better world, and I credit them for inspiring my belief system and transforming my life." - Claudia
You can find Claudia and buy her books at the following links;
- www.BrighterDaysBook.com
- Instagram: @Cindifreakinrella
- FB Page: @MyBloomingFamily
- Twitter: @Noriega_Clau
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137. Hosted by Cameo; How we participate in our own suffering... when it comes to men, church and everyone else. (A conversation with Reka & Cameo from The Good Girl Podcast)
You can find The Good Girl Podcast here. What other topics would you like me to cover? Plus I always love your feedback, please reach out if you feel led. I'm always here. :-) --- Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area, unlearn bad Christian dating theology, learn how to set and KEEP boundaries and you know you have nothing else to lose. In, that case, I invite you to apply and join the wait list to Single You Academy. Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help. DM me *boundaries* or Click here to complete your application now! My DM is always open! Find me on IG here. (the fake TikTok account, I'd love for you to report = @justmeReka_) Twitter here. Facebook here. TikTok here. Email = Reka@justmeReka.com Single You the Pillow Collection; Shop Here. Xo 💕𝘠𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘊𝘦𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘪𝘦𝘥 𝘕𝘓𝘗 𝘓𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘊𝘰𝘢𝘤𝘩, 𝘙𝘦𝘬a
136. Mel on: Honk for Jesus (movie). Our commentary on the movie and his thoughts on loyalty from his lens of not growing up in Church.
Today's guest is Mel from the PreInternet Friend's Podcast. You can find him on IG here and his podcast here.
Flow of show;
- Has anyone ever had a conversation with you about what makes a healthy relationship vs. unhealthy?
- Not having those conversations… Was that at your detriment?
- You didn’t grow up in church — so how would you feel about dating a women who felt she could change you solely by praying for you? Do you feel sorry for women like Trinity?
- Would you ever advise a woman to continue to stay with a man she wasn’t happy with? Who continuously embarrassed her/broke her trust? Can a man like that change solely because she wants him to?
- Have you ever stayed too long in a relationship— hoping she’d change? If you worked harder? If you love her harder?
- What should be the cut off?
- Back drop: loyalty is #1 on most Men’s list for a woman - what does loyalty look like to you in this situation? do you have the same expectations for yourself to her? What does loyalty look like in general and explain.
- How did you view relationships/love (20s) vs. how do you view relationship/love now? (35+)
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Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.
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Xo 💕𝘠𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘊𝘦𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘪𝘦𝘥 𝘕𝘓𝘗 𝘓𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘊𝘰𝘢𝘤𝘩, 𝘙𝘦𝘬a
135. Did you watch Honk for Jesus yet? Cause it's almost time to discuss....
Honk for Jesus. Save Your Soul. is a 2022 American dark comedy-drama film written, directed, and produced by Adamma Ebo, in her feature directorial debut, and is a feature-length adaptation of Ebo's 2018 short film of the same name. Starring Sterling K. Brown and Regina Hall.
This movie has SUCH A LOUD message and I want to discuss. So coming up next week, I ask my homeboy Jay... who didn't grow up in church the following;
- Has anyone ever had a conversation with you about what makes a healthy relationship vs. unhealthy?
- Not having those conversations… Was that at your detriment?
- You didn’t grow up in church — so how would you feel about dating a women who felt she could change you solely by praying for you? Do you feel sorry for women like Trinity?
- Would you ever advise a woman to continue to stay with a man she wasn’t happy with? Who continuously embarrassed her/broke her trust? Can a man like that change solely because she wants him to?
- Have you ever stayed too long in a relationship— hoping she’d change? If you worked harder? If you love her harder?
- What should be the cut off? When do you leave said relationship?
- How did you view relationships/love (20s) vs. how do you view relationship/love now? (35+)
Leaving you with this scripture;
And so he did only a few miracles there because of their unbelief (Matthew 13:58)
If anyone will not welcome you or listen to your words, leave that home or town and shake the dust off your feet. (Matthew 10:14)
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Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.
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134. Nikita on: Yes, single can be loud but let's discuss.... How do you manage being single? How do you manage being alone a lot?
Flow of show:
1. Yes, single can be loud but let's discuss.... How do you manage being single? How do you manage being alone a lot?
2. Question from DM.
I was sharing scenario of why I’m single to a non believing relative and some church friends … one said “opposites attract, so where your put together be prepared to fill in his gaps” while another argued “science” says that “like attracts like, so you will always pull broken brothers because your broken”- I honestly was stuck to think, this is how people see me??? Damned either way. I’m not perfect, but I surely am not broken, I’m on a journey to be better and heal to be ready and equipped in my authenticity nor will I be codependent for someone either.. have you ever been pigeon holed with these statements & how do you respond?
3. Are you 'dating' and what are you running into as of late while dating. Plus the question I've been asked by a man that I've never been asked before.
4. What do you think single women have to give up once they get married/have kids?
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133. "Relationships are ego driven and not pure" - Lauren London and I overstand what she meant. Let's talk...
Angie Martinez IRL Podcast | We're All Gonna Die: Lauren London. Click here.
Check out episode 49. Titled: How can we be so confident in our professional life but not in the lane of relationship? Click here.
Check out episode 50. Titled: Anwar on: If you were raised to be a daughter instead of a woman, then re-parenting yourself is a necessary step to your healing and love journey! Click here.
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Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.
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Xo 💕𝘠𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘊𝘦𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘪𝘦𝘥 𝘕𝘓𝘗 𝘓𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘊𝘰𝘢𝘤𝘩, 𝘙𝘦𝘬a
132. Sis, if you just ended a toxic relationship (yet again)... Do this so you can stop this cycle you keep having with men.
Excellence comes from order > which brings peace.
"In the Bible no one is called your blessing unless they have the power to produce well-being in you and are deeply connected to you in faith and social bond". - God's wisdom for navigating life by Timothy and Kathy Keller
You are going to have to decide, do you want what the word has been offering you for the rest of your life or do you want to see what Gods got for you, like for real? Not the level you're settling for cause God loves you regardless but if you want more peace, the peace that is promised from God. You have work to do.
- 10 The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy. I came that they may have life and have it abundantly. John 10:10-29
- 10 For the Son of Man came to seek and to save the lost.” Luke 19:10
Let's reverse engineer this thang and start from with in instead of outside of you. Seeking the attention of men.
- Listen to episode 43. Lanaya on: What does a God fearing man even mean... look like? Plus how it may be causing you to be mishandled by men consistently. Click here.
- Listen to episode 43.2. Becoming her; a woman who holds herself accountable to future you... the woman you say you want to be! Click here.
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Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.
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Xo 💕𝘠𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘊𝘦𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘪𝘦𝘥 𝘕𝘓𝘗 𝘓𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘊𝘰𝘢𝘤𝘩, 𝘙𝘦𝘬a
131. The ugly truth about wanting to be picked by him so badly.
New to me? My name is Reka and I work with Women of Faith: READY for guidance on KEEPING boundaries & getting over the shame of constantly being mishandled by men.
Listen to 59. I don't believe a lot of Women Of Faith know what love truly is.... here
Listen to episode 60. Lu'Cretia on: I thought that if I did girlfriend things then 'he' who I dated would eventually choose to be with me. Part 1 here and Part 2 here.
Also the episode with my former client Nikkita is titled; Having shame as a professional Black woman who's single and constantly being mishandled by men (her testimonial of SYA). and you can listen here.
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Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.
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Xo 💕𝘠𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘊𝘦𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘪𝘦𝘥 𝘕𝘓𝘗 𝘓𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘊𝘰𝘢𝘤𝘩, 𝘙𝘦𝘬a
130. How I stay true to my abstinence journey with so much temptation around. Plus my journey isn't about making a man 'do right' by me.
Episode to listen to next: 29 Titled: Theresa on: waiting until marriage to have sex is that the ONLY way I can get a lasting marriage? Does Jesus teach that? Click Here.
Also episode 31. Titled: Why praying hasn't gotten you a good man (yet). Click Here.
Hit me up for the next episode you should listen to after episode 31!
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Xo 💕𝘠𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘊𝘦𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘪𝘦𝘥 𝘕𝘓𝘗 𝘓𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘊𝘰𝘢𝘤𝘩, 𝘙𝘦𝘬a
129. Jalencia on: how/why she kept getting the same dysfunctional results with men until she joined Single You Academy. Plus does this mean I can take credit for her boyfriend/healthy relationship?
Intro to Jalencia
- :50 Did anyone have a conversation with her about what makes a healthy relationship vs. unhealthy? No and how that affected her dating life.
- 2:20 I (Jalencia) was dating to just date and how that set her up for dysfunction.
- 5:08 How did Jalencia find me and why she decided to spend the money to join Single You Academy.
- 14:13 Why did SYA work for you and advice didn't? The homework and I was ready to face myself.
- 19:00 How Jalencia handled assignments inside of SYA and 2 jobs.
- 21:35 How the self love work is different inside of Single You Academy regardless if you've heard the advice/guidance before.
- 23:13 How Jalencia has changed and learned boundaries all because of our time together.
- 25:43 How Jalencia established a healthy relationship with her now boyfriend while working with me (Reka). What she did differently this time around vs. what she did in her past that got her into dysfunctional relationships.
- 29:30 How did her now boyfriend receive all the questions she had for him?
- 32:10 How did she approach him? Attitude and demands or sweet and with grace? What questions did he ask her?
- 34:29 Sometimes doing 'the work' causes you to have to cut off friends. How did Jalencia handle that?
- 40:30 What was the most honest realization about herself? Her biggest growth and how long did it take her to start seeing a change in herself after joining Single You Academy. Plus how did her relationship with God change.
- 47:01 How she is continuing to do the work now that she's done with Single You Academy.
- 52:53 Jalencia on why you should join SYA.
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Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.
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Xo 💕𝘠𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘊𝘦𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘪𝘦𝘥 𝘕𝘓𝘗 𝘓𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘊𝘰𝘢𝘤𝘩, 𝘙𝘦𝘬a
128. (Part 2) Chris On: Good men aren't running around talking about they want a submissive woman + why we (women) should actually want a Beta male.
Listen to Part 1 here.
More information on Single You Academy Here.
- 00:00 A good man isn't running around screaming that he wants a submissive woman.
- 6:27 My abstinence journey, Chris' respect and the ebs and flows of handling it when it gets hard.
- 22:48 Alpha Vs. Beta man. The difference and the definition.
- 41:04 Our influence over men but how we're using it wrong.
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Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.
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Xo 💕𝘠𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘊𝘦𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘪𝘦𝘥 𝘕𝘓𝘗 𝘓𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘊𝘰𝘢𝘤𝘩, 𝘙𝘦𝘬a
127. {Bonus} Monday Motivation: Handling the "good morning beautiful" text loops and men who never ask you questions.
More information on Single You Academy Here.
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Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.
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Xo 💕𝘠𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘊𝘦𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘪𝘦𝘥 𝘕𝘓𝘗 𝘓𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘊𝘰𝘢𝘤𝘩, 𝘙𝘦𝘬a
126. (Part 1) Chris on: his savior complex with women and what we should know about men today. Plus unlearning bad religious dating theology.
More information on Single You Academy Here.
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- Intro to Chris. You can find him here. And grab his TikTok swag here.
- 4:11 Did anyone have a conversation with you about what makes a healthy relationship vs unhealthy? How we've normalized dysfunction
- 6:40 How religion affected him positively and negatively when it came to dating.
- 9:20 Women don't know what a God fearing man is a real man.
- 18:10 So what is a real man?
- 23:10 Chris on his dating history and drama with women. His savior complex.
- 33:25 Stop confusing men.
- 35:30 Spirit of fear over having babies.
- 39:08 He who finds a wife finds a good thing... may have you moving with a negative mindset.
- 47:17 Holding myself accountable to the woman I say I want to be and only presenting myself to the man I say that I want.
--- to be continued.
Other episodes we mentioned. Bryan's episode.
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Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.
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Xo 💕𝘠𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘊𝘦𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘪𝘦𝘥 𝘕𝘓𝘗 𝘓𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘊𝘰𝘢𝘤𝘩, 𝘙𝘦𝘬a
125. {Bonus} Monday Motivation: How to know when to "teach him" or leave him...
More information on Single You Academy Here.
---- Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area, unlearn bad Christian dating theology, learn how to set and KEEP boundaries and you know you have nothing else to lose. In, that case, I invite you to apply and join the wait list to Single You Academy. Doors Close June 5, 2022
Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.
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Xo 💕𝘠𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘊𝘦𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘪𝘦𝘥 𝘕𝘓𝘗 𝘓𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘊𝘰𝘢𝘤𝘩, 𝘙𝘦𝘬a
124. (Part 2) Bryan on: creating a safe space for his wife, even before she was his wife.
More information on Single You Academy Here.
---- If you haven't listen to Part 1 with Bryan, I suggest you do that first. It would just make more sense sis. Go here.
In this episode with Bryan we pick right up where he was discussing how he should have never gotten revenge on is first wife. Which made his now wife (then girlfriend) question his character and ask a lot of deep ass discerning questions of him...
- 3:47 Bryan explains, It's ok to talk about your ex and that experience in your new budding relationship but there is a limit.
- 12:36 Handling phone triggers and those conversations.
- 18:45 Approaching new relationships with hard conversations
**Spoiler Alerts** for The Ultimatum Season 1 and Temptation Island Season 6
- 25:21 'The Ultimatum' (Netflix) and our take on the relationship between Ray and Zay
- 36:25 Kendall and Erica of 'Temptation Island' (Peacock) and our take on the relationship.
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Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.
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Xo 💕𝘠𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘊𝘦𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘪𝘦𝘥 𝘕𝘓𝘗 𝘓𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘊𝘰𝘢𝘤𝘩, 𝘙𝘦𝘬a
123. {Bonus} Single You Academy is Open + Monday Motivation: Are you good at setting boundaries with men or nah?
More information on Single You Academy Here.
---- Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area, unlearn bad Christian dating theology, learn how to set and KEEP boundaries and you know you have nothing else to lose. In, that case, I invite you to apply and join the wait list to Single You Academy. Doors Close June 5, 2022
Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.
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122. (Part 1) Bryan on: creating a safe space for his wife, even before she was his wife.
More information on Single You Academy Here.
----- You can connect with Bryan here. The conversation I had with Dai here.
Intro.
- 1:05 There isn't enough Good men talking about their healthy relationships (with their wife).
- 4:15 How were you thinking about dating and marriage leading up to meeting Dai... at Starbucks
- 15:11 What was said and/or what was the vibe for you to even think Dai was your wife?
- 20:54 Men should speed up and women slow down when it comes to dating.
- 25:41 What kinds of question did you ask Dai to get to know her and show her interest?
- 27:04 Why is masculine energy bad for women?
- 32:05 Was Bryan ever intimidated by Dai?
- 35:40 Did Dai help him start his healing journey?
- 40:25 Men don't operate from the emotional space (especially if they don't do the work) but we grown now and I'll never take that excuse again.
- 41:43 Dai asked the questions that made Bryan become. What was those hard questions?
... to be continued to next week!
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Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area, unlearn bad Christian dating theology, learn how to set and KEEP boundaries and you know you have nothing else to lose. In, that case, I invite you to apply and join the wait list to Single You Academy. Doors Close June 5, 2022
Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.
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{Bonus} Monday motivation and what's coming on Thursday...
Next week we'll talk to Bryan, my friend Dai's husband. She's been on the show before you can listen here. Bryan will be discussing how he created a safe space for Dai even before she was his wife. :-)
------ More information on Single You Academy Here.
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Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.
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121. Lu'Cretia On: Handling ghosting and the nights you feel lonely (Part 2)
More information on Single You Academy Here.
In Part 2 of my conversation with Lu'Cretia we talk about ghosting, the times of feeling lonely and how we stay on that path of not fumbling our boundaries.
- 00:00 How do you handle ghosting?
- 4:00 Is Russell really corny?
- 8:25 What did Lu'Cretia do to transform her mind?
- 10:15 Stop taking advice from people who aren't living how you actually want to live.
- 12:25 How is Lu'Cretia to stay on the path of not fumbling her boundaries?
- 15:00 How we're quick with cutting me off.
- 19:07 How is Lu'Cretia handling the nights of feeling lonely?
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Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.
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120. Lu'Cretia on: I thought that if I did girlfriend things then 'he' who I dated would eventually choose to be with me. (Part 1)
More information on Single You Academy Here.
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New to me? I suggest starting here:
- 57. From back-to-back dysfunctional relationships, to my solo trip to Mexico... to finally becoming the woman I said I wanted to be! How'd I do it? (Conference)
- 49. How can we be so confident in our professional life but not in the lane of relationship? (Kasia Interviews Reka)
- 50. If you were raised to be a daughter and not a woman, then re-parenting yourself is necessary for your healing.
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Can you relate to Lu'Cretia's truth (title of this episode) ??
Today we go deeper on what Lu'Cretia's journey has been to her beautiful awakening and self love path.
- Intro
- 1:00: Lu'Cretia says that her Dad (more so) would tell her about the bad things that men can/will do.
- 3:00 Men weren't necessary and option.
- 4:30 Doing girlfriend things hoping he'll pick me.
- 6:00 I knew my value but I went about it the wrong way of tying to get a man to see it.
- 8:20 Having walls up to protect myself but it attracted emotionally unavailable men.
- 11:00 Not being able to admit "I want a man" which is causing dysfunction in your dating life.
- 14:16 We focus on professional development so much but don't focus on personal development
- 14:50 It's not bitterness, it's hopelessness. "he's not even out there".
- 18:10 How is Lu'Cretia dating today?
... to be continued next week!
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Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area, unlearn bad Christian dating theology, learn how to set and KEEP boundaries and you know you have nothing else to lose. In, that case, I invite you to apply and join the wait list to Single You Academy. Doors Close June 5, 2022
Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.
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119. I don't believe a lot of Women Of Faith know what love truly is....
Cause the way you (old me) be dishing out love, I can tell you have zero idea what it means! Not in the way Jesus wants us to love and be loved.
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Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.
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118. Who is the woman you want to be on Jan 1, 2023?
You will either have a year of excuses or a year of.... I DID THAT!!!!!!
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Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.
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117. From back-to-back dysfunctional relationships, to my solo trip to Mexico... to finally becoming the woman I said I wanted to be! How'd I do it? (Conference)
For those of you who are just finding me and you haven't been able to hear my full story yet. Well here it is, I did this speech in 2019 at a conference called; Inspired. It was a woman empowerment event and I asked the audience full of women, who's your mirror? Society? Men? Your kids? Your parents? I challenge you to make YOU your only mirror..
The Reka I was was in 2017 and before: my issue was thinking that how men saw me (mirror) was correct. You see I thought, I couldn’t see myself and only other people could see how I was coming off. God forbid I come off as a cheater and I wasn’t.... or a 'bad' girlfriend and I wasn't. I was looking in the wrong mirror. Instead of questioning ‘why do they always think I’m in the wrong’ (projection) I always blamed me.. for them not being happy or cheating. Unfortunately, I was a target for insecure men and didn't know it. I had no idea what I was doing in these dating streets. So passed up a lot of red flags (when you know better you do better) and dating insecure men is the opposite of guarding your heart. Insecure men will do 1 of 2 things; abuse you or leave you.
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Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.
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116. {Bonus} Why do we not talk about all the unanswered prayers? Specifically around women being told to pray for her husband...and now she's 45 and never been married?
If you’re new to me. Here is what you need to know… I’m REALLY good at helping women shift their mindset around being single. I also need you to know that I’m not an expert in God. I just know what I’m experiencing in my relationship with God. So I hope that this conversation I have with my friend Cameo encourages you to lean into your relationship with God. My constant goal is to figure out ways to introduce relationship with God differently to the woman of faith, who knows that the 'church' failed her... which in the end caused you to see yourself as 'less than' because you're single. To the woman who has a lot of frustration around men and dating... we have got to get away from the ways of society and religion and get into figuring out who we actually are.
- 00:00 I'm not here to tell you want you're doing is right or wrong. I'm just here to make you think and I pray he leads you to having a deeper relationship with God.
- 8:00 Do you just know Jesus? Or do you believe in Jesus? (Do you believe in Jesus vs. Do you actually BELIEVE Jesus)
- 14:46 Praise breaks are cute but that's not gonna heal your trauma. Correction = suppressing your trauma through praise breaks does not equate to healing. Posted by Jay Barnett.
- 15:14 How come we don't talk about unanswered prayers? What about the girl who was told at 12 to pray for your husband and she's 45 and still not married?
- 16:48 Not cultivating a relationship with God.
- 18:40 How we feel when people just say 'pray about it'.
- 21:15 Is there a such thing as unanswered prayers?
- 31:05 Why do we want a husband?
- 35:35 Do you hear God say no? What does God saying no look like to you?
- 50:00 Is God still good to you if you don't get the husband?
- 57:20 "she" said her biggest fear is that she'd be a woman who is not married and with out kids.
Listen to part 2 over on The Good Girl Podcast.
- What does it mean to say I want Gods will.
- When we say we want a husband... I bet we mean more of 'this' we're just not honest.
- Our thoughts on Devon Franklin & Megan Good
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Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.
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115. Why all the commentary on the 'Tinder-Swindler' is all about how stupid the women were and NOT about how evil the man was... (Part 2 with Skyy)
Let's talk the tinder-swindler (on Netflix)
What I wrote on Facebook....
"I wonder why all the commentary I see on the “Tinder-Swindler” is all about how stupid the girls are/were and NOT about how evil the man was? Rhetorical.
Ps. Some of you want your girls to be married so badly but give her ZERO schooling on what love actually is. She’s out here already believing at 12 that when a boy says “I love you” … he means it."
What Skyy B. wrote on Facebook...
"My thing is on most days the rhetoric is that todays women don't know how to support a man, too independent, etc. However extremely naive these women were they also believed that this man who had shown them a nice time was in danger and they tried to help. Extremely naive, foolish, etc. I realize not everyone has the same life experiences that we do that make us ultra on alert and can smell bs immediately upon arrival.
There's A LOT of women, hell even us, they may not have been swindled out of cash directly but definitely swindled out of time, love, panties, you name it for men we thought we really took real time to know!!
They definitely gotta take the L tho because I think they did it not only because they thought he had it to return but also because they wanted to be chosen by this billionaire. They fell for the dream of the lifestyle. So there's that truth too."
So let's discuss... in this episode. Reach Skyy here.
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Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.
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114. {Bonus} How not knowing who you are is (negatively) affecting your life… what’s on the other side of doing the work?
Listen... we get so bitter and upset about being treated poorly and we don’t realize once we stop fumbling our boundaries being treated poorly significantly minimizes.
So really what’s on the other side of doing the work?
- Knowing exactly who you are
- Showing up as you in every room
- Having the audacity to believe you can get what you want. Which equals you being able to walk away from a man who isn’t right for you. The first time you feel that.
Can you honestly say with a straight face that you are that woman? The woman you actually want to be, are you her?
If you're saying; I know that I need the change but I need direction on that... that's my constant prayer for direction on how to change. Then let's get you signed up for Single You Academy.
Cause now you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area and you know you have nothing else to lose. You're ready to work on you. You need help to get rid of the shame you have in this area of your life, you want peace and you want to feel like you can trust yourself again. In, that case, I invite you to apply to Single You Academy. How will you end 2022?
Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.
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113. Skyy B.E. on: Her 7 year abstinence journey (2x) and is that the true key to cutting off dysfunctional relationship?
I speak to faith based women, especially Black women who grew up in church. So I absolutely suggest that you listen to this episode before or after this episode about abstinence.
In this episode Skyy B. (my friend and Howard sister) speaks on her journey with abstinence.... twice... 7 years... twice and how the first time didn't really change her behaviors with men or stop the frustration or pain. She explains why. On your journey think about; the woman that you want to be, how can she show up in your behaviors? We also discuss; our grandparents before us got married in their teens... do we have to? The sex shame... 'God is mad at me' because I didn't wait.... plus Valentine's has passed, did you 'slip' up? If you did... we discuss why. Reach Skyy here.
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Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.
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112. Ce (licensed therapist) on: How we emasculate men (yes we have work to do sis)... what is he gaining by being with you?
The continued discussion on... do men say "there are no good women out there". What is their frustration with women?
- 1:40 Men say "she won't let me be the man".
- 2:20 Explaining what emasculating him looks like.
- 8:42 Men are sensitive... human...
- 12:58 What is a husband... what do you want?
- 14:14 Is there a level of seeing 'where is this going' with him? Or is that wasting time...
- 19:00 The narcissism word... and is he truly one just because he got angry?
- 22:50 Not judging the situation so much. His character and your actions.
- 23:45 Adjusting his level of access to me (you).
- 26:10 Giving men grace but not to my (your) detriment anymore.
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Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.
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111. {Bonus} You know the root cause of WHY you've allowed yourself to be disrespected by men but... HOW do you stop that cycle? (Listener question)
Today in this bonus episode I tackle a question I got via this TikTok video.. "I know the root cause but how do I stop now that I know?" Great question and I answer it today on this episode and the visual from TikTok is here.
Plus I tackle this question I got due to that same video... "How can I help someone who does this (consistently choose men who aren't interested in them)? The visual of this answer from TikTok is here.
Notes on my last answer...
There is no universal "right way" to "do" a relationship. Your blueprint to a healthy relationship lies in you. Make the investment of time and money to figure YOU out.
I reference episode 50 here and 39 here in this episode.
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Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.
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110. Ce (Licensed Therapist) on: Are there really no good men out there or is it us sis?
So I had to bring my Bison sister back to discuss the #1 thing I see/hear women say. Ce Anderson is a Licensed therapist, wellness & trauma recovery expert. You can check her practice out here.
Did we really miss out on a good man? Are they gone... or do we have some growing up and re-evaluating to do?
- 1:29 Are there really no good men? And why do we say that?
- 4:08 Who am I attracting and how are they different from what I say I want?
- 5:05 Not allowing the desires and the fantasy to diminish what you're seeing (for said man).
- 6:49 Are we even mentally ready to date?
- 8:35 How should men be maneuvering in dating. What does Ce tell her male clients?
- 12:27 We will say "well yea, he said he didn't want a girl but he treated me as such...". Holding ourselves accountable and having our own standards.
- 14:23 Scenarios with men 1. He says he doesn't want a girl | 2. He says that but also treats you as his girl. How do we handle this, especially when 2 happens? Do men say, "there are no good women out there."
- 15:20 Discussion on scenario 1. What level of access should we give him?
- 21:30 Why do we ignore that gut feeling?
- 23:16 Discussion on scenario 2. Dealing with ghosting, especially after you were really feeling him.
- 26:00 A break up is not a loss. Mentioned Meagan Good and Devon Franklin.
- 35:20 Discussion on "do men say "there are no good women out there". What is their frustration with women?
...... cont. to next week!!
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Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area and you know you have nothing else to lose. You're ready to work on you. You need help to get rid of the shame you have in this area of your life, you want peace and you want to feel like you can trust yourself again. In, that case, I invite you to apply to and join the wait list to Single You Academy. How will you end 2022?
Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.
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109. {Bonus} My message to you (I need your help) and thank you for 4 million views on TikTok
Seriously, I guess I 'made it' whatever that means but I have an imposter. Will the "real Reka please stand up" and that's ME! NOT @justmeRekaa (with the double aa) on instagram. please go REPORT that person. I don't do readings, nor do I say things like "grand rising" in real life!! :-)
Plus on this bonus episode...
- Why you can say you want to stop being mishandled by men, know why you allow it (root cause) and yet you're still in that cycle.
- Who I am as a coach, who I coach and a snapshot of what Single You Academy is.
- Please leave a review.
Here is the TikTok video that went viral.
Listen to episode 41. Titled; Stacey on: A cautionary-tale for women. What can happen if your money mindset and actions aren't right before dating.
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Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area and you know you have nothing else to lose. You're ready to work on you. You need help to get rid of the shame you have in this area of your life, you want peace and you want to feel like you can trust yourself again. In, that case, I invite you to apply to and join the wait list to Single You Academy. How will you end 2022?
Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.
DM me *boundaries* or Click here to complete your application now!
My DM is always open! Find me on IG here.
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Email = Reka@justmeReka.com
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108. Anwar on: Love overachieving and how that is effecting your life in a negative way.
This episode is Part 2 of last week's episode with Anwar. I recommend listening to that episode first and then come back to this one.
So let's talk... is not being in a relationship a failure? Why do we see a single woman and automatically think... what's wrong with her?
- 0:00 Love overachieving, Anwar's definition. Is love a game or not? (Listen to his full episode here)
- 4:35 Most people are not themselves when they are dating. Love is not an audition.
- 6:00 How the awards we get as a little affect how we view relationships.
- 11:45 How the scarcity mindset in love is affecting you your life. Are you truly never going to find your man?
- 19:58 Are you the nice girl, hard girl or hurt girl? (Listen to Anwar's full episode here)
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Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area and you know you have nothing else to lose. You're ready to work on you. You need help to get rid of the shame you have in this area of your life, you want peace and you want to feel like you can trust yourself again. In, that case, I invite you to apply to and join the wait list to Single You Academy. How will you end 2022?
Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.
DM me *boundaries* or Click here to complete your application now!
My DM is always open! Find me on IG here.
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Email = Reka@justmeReka.com
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107. Anwar on: If you were raised to be a daughter instead of a woman, then re-parenting yourself is a necessary step to your healing and love journey!
A discussion with Dating & Relationship coach, Anwar White.
- 0:00 Introduction of Anwar and how he became a coach.
- 4:34 Why are we failing in this lane of relationships? #1 reason
- 7:23 How we judge men and don't accept. Unfortunately it causes us to put 'him' on a pedestal.
- 14:00 How our parents didn't teach us how to be a woman and emotional available to our 'men'.
- 17:11 Being passive aggressive is at our detriment.
- 19:00 What I had to re-parent for myself. With men and my parents.
- 22:00 How loyalty as a child affects our loyalty to men who don't deserve it.
- 25:11 Not having the audacity to believe we can actually get a loving, fruitful, flourishing and fulfilling relationships
- 25:30 How no one asks you what you want and need as a daughter. You're just asked to do... 'manage the household'.
- 28:22 Getting into love over acheiving and the SYA waitlist.
- End; becoming a wise woman to re-parent yourself and to stop this cycle of dysfunction with men.
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Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area and you know you have nothing else to lose. You're ready to work on you. You need help to get rid of the shame you have in this area of your life, you want peace and you want to feel like you can trust yourself again. In, that case, I invite you to apply to and join the wait list to Single You Academy. How will you end 2022?
Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.
DM me *boundaries* or Click here to complete your application now!
My DM is always open! Find me on IG here.
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Email = Reka@justmeReka.com
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106. How can we be so confident in our professional life but not in the lane of relationship? (Kasia Interviews Reka)
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In this episode the tables have been turned and I get interviewed. We tackle....
- 0:00 From her series titled; from timid to confidence. Kasia Brandford (find her here) has asked me to share my story and how/why I become the "single girls life coach".
- 6:45 How easy or difficult is it to know that you're in an emotionally abusive relationship when you're in a long-distance relationship?
If you already heard my story skip to....
- 9:45 Professional confidence. How can we be so confident in one area and not in others?
- 12:54 Performing Happy. What happens to our confidence when we're in performance mode?
- 14:35 When you went to Mexico (solo trip) and you started doing 'the work'. What was some of the first things you came to realize about yourself?
- 17:13 How we're actually creating all the dysfunction in our lives with men... we have more control than we think or know how to execute.
- 18:35 What are some of the first things (self care) you started to do after your Mexico trip?
- 21:20 Is your relationship with God ...is that work part of your coming back to your relationship with you? Or is a relationship with God and a relationship with yourself the same?
- 23:15 What are some things you recommend for people to do to get over shame?
- 26:55 How do we develop the confidence to set and keep a boundary?
- 34:16 Mental gymnastic and getting discouraged because of negative thoughts.
- 37:06 What is the biggest lie that you once believed?
Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area and you know you have nothing else to lose. You're ready to work on you. You need help to get rid of the shame you have in this area of your life, you want peace and you want to feel like you can trust yourself again. In, that case, I invite you to apply to and join the wait list to Single You Academy. How will you end 2022?
Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.
DM me *boundaries* or Click here to complete your application now!
My DM is always open! Find me on IG here.
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Email = Reka@justmeReka.com
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105. Cameo on: slowing down the dating process and dating in fear because we're faith based women.
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In this episode we tackle...
- 00:00 Ugh I had covid and intro of Cameo King. Host of the "Good Girl Podcast".
- 5:00 How do we slow down the dating process.
Question...
Yeah -one thing I’m like really battling with.. when it comes to dating... is being able to separate my heart from it. Because I be taking men way too deeply sometimes. Any tips when it comes to that I guess?
- 6:03 It's not about your heart, it's about the men you're dealing with.
- 10:35 We're looking for a magic bullet to fix our relationship life that doesn't exist.
- 16:13 Why sex is off the table for me.
- 18:43 How we date with our heart or not.
- 21:31 We only allow disrespect with men we like.
- 32:57 This prescribed version of a good woman we're falling for.
- 35:12 Men who shy away from questions are hiding something.
- 36:12 How can 'he' actually love and care for me if he's not...
- 37:49 I want to be loved correctly and here is how.
- 39:00 Working through that fear that he'll leave.
- 43:38 Words vs. actions vs. having both.
- 46:21 There is a difference in dating a man who wants a relationship and wants to be married vs. a man that doesn't.
- 48:00 The pressure to get it right because we're women of faith.
- 54:30 Yes God hates divorce which is why there are steps we have to stop skipping before we get married.
- 59:00 We all need help. Therapy. A mentor and/or a coach.
- 1:02:20 Dating without fear and what that looks like.
Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area and you know you have nothing else to lose. You're ready to work on you. You need help to get rid of the shame you have in this area of your life, you want peace and you want to feel like you can trust yourself again. In, that case, I invite you to apply to and join the wait list to Single You Academy. How will you end 2022?
Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.
DM me *boundaries* or Click here to complete your application now!
My DM is always open! Find me on IG here. Twitter here. Facebook here. Email = Reka@justmeReka.com
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104. Tapping in deeper on your self love journey (and my thoughts on the Insecure series finale).
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In this episode we tackle...
- How did you feel about Issa ending up with Lawrence? My thoughts...
- Review Shout out.
- I didn’t just let time pass (because it wouldn't have transformed me)... here is what I mean.
- I didn’t just use my insight to change (because it wouldn't have transformed me)... here is what I didn't instead.
- The Power of Now.
- Poem.
Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area and you know you have nothing else to lose. You're ready to work on you. You need help to get rid of the shame you have in this area of your life, you want peace and you want to feel like you can trust yourself again. In, that case, I invite you to apply to and join the wait list to Single You Academy. How will you end 2022?
Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.
DM me *boundaries* or Click here to complete your application now!
My DM is always open! Find me on IG here. Twitter here. Facebook here. Email = Reka@justmeReka.com
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103. Keetra on: what happens when we have the ..."at least he isn't"... excuse and we settle... (her testimonial of SYA)
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- :00 Introducing Keetra
- 3:58 Did your (pastor) parents have a conversation with her about what makes a healthy relationship?
- 9:46 Why she stayed in her 15 year marriage.
- 10:57 How 'church' and 'church folk' didn't help.
- 14:00 After her divorce the fog cleared and here's why.
- 18:15 Why Keetra signed up for Single You Academy (SYA).
- 28:04 How reading before you're ready won't help you.
- 31:02 How SYA is actually helping her son as well.
- 37:27 Did you know Maya Angelou's quote but still allowed a man to treat you like trash?
- 46:30 How the tools she got from SYA is still showing up in her life, after she completed the program.
- 51:59 Setting boundaries and more on what SYA will teach you.
Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area and you know you have nothing else to lose. You're ready to work on you. You need help to get rid of the shame you have in this area of your life, you want peace and you want to feel like you can trust yourself again. In, that case, I invite you to apply to Single You Academy. Applications for SYA will be open until we fill our 5 open spots. How will you be going into 2022. We will review applicants on a first come, first serve basis. So if you want this, go after it.
Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.
DM me *boundaries* or Click here to complete your application now!
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102. Lanaya on: We can also ruin good men if we don't hold true to our values and boundaries sis.
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- 0:00 "We can also ruin good men if we don't hold true to our values and boundaries" - What does Lanaya mean by that?
- 0:50 If you (women) have the power to help (men) we also have the power to hinder.
- 3:10 How we ruin me (Lanaya on possibly ruining her boyfriend before he become her husband).
- 4:00 He can only be helped by us, not changed.
- 8:50 How my little cousin met her husband and he had to rise to her standards.
- 13:50 Not every 'good man' is for you.
- 17:55 do you want to be divided in your devotion to God and you vs God and your husband/kids. Where does that leave you sis?
- 20:38 I don't need someone to teach me how to be single.
- 24:25 Getting out the speak in your eye and clearly seeing yourself.
Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area and you know you have nothing else to lose. You're ready to work on you. You need help to get rid of the shame you have in this area of your life, you want peace and you want to feel like you can trust yourself again. In, that case, I invite you to apply to Single You Academy. Applications for SYA will be open until we fill our 5 open spots. How will you be going into 2022. We will review applicants on a first come, first serve basis. So if you want this, go after it.
Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.
DM me *boundaries* or Click here to complete your application now!
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