So Here's The Thang

Welcome byke, ya'll! The SHTT crew has created an impactful episode we hope you'll enjoy. 

We start with announcements about changes to the show to lay the foundation for your listening ears in the new season of SHTT. We always say life is about swift and consistent transition, which often means change, so we're hopeful you'll enjoy growing with us this season. 

We introduced our first new segment, Wellness Check, which will focus on the healthy and challenging triggers we experienced during the day of our recording and how we navigated them to a positive outcome or new perspective. We also honored ourselves by sharing an affirmation we had for the day. 

Next, we dive into our staple News You Can Use with Donnie, where he walks us through news essential to us that would resonate with you or not. We have a new segment produced by Jasmine focused on women's issues. In It, she shares her heart concerning various women's chronicles from her experience and perspective. 

Finally, we walk our listeners through our current life's rollercoasters that have us spiraling. We also share where our lives are progressing and offer insightful information about our triumphs because celebration is always in order when we overcome something that threatens to overtake us. 

Enjoy the show! We're glad you're here!

That's a wrap! Thank ya'll for another fantastic season. We appreciate you being a part of our community.

In our season finale, we listened to Donnie's Honesty Hour responses and provided commentary alongside our perspectives. We also have some News You Can Use with colorful banter included. Donnie's book club information is below if you are reading along with us.

Happy holidays in whatever way you celebrate, and we wish you a happy new year! Enjoy the show!

The book is Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud & John Townsend.

Where: Amazon, $17-22 dollars.

We're byke with another "Happy Hour" episode for ya'll. We've been away for a minute, and baby my, how things have changed. We're discussing a new marriage, new relationships (aggressively single where), and community.

We had so much SHTT to catch up on that we didn't get deep into News You Can Use; however, we definitely touched on a couple of polarizing news topics since we've been gone. Thanks for listening, and enjoy the show!

This is an episode about nothing. We turned on the mics and started chit-chatting with liquor in our cups. It was a time. You should've been there, but you can listen in. Enjoy the show!

Sometimes in life, you have to call the manufacturer and tune in for a depiction of that illustrated by Donnie. In this episode, we also discuss influencer and entertainment news you can use featuring RaeShanda and that wife.

Additionally, we discuss SkeeYee Queen Sexyy Red via a conversation about aging.

Finally, we dive head-first into our conversation about grief and the interconnectivity of self-compassion, relationships, and sex.

There will be a part two to this conversation, so stay connected. Until then, enjoy the show!

Hey, ya'll! Welcome byke! We hop right in, catching up on what's been happening with us. We're all experiencing life via transitions, events, etc. We talk about Jasmine's relocation, and her adult son joins us! Donnie's moment of self-awareness via "going straight home" instead of what he agreed to, and Corey J's perspective on the journey to getting married while bringing two communities together that he and his partner created separately over the years.

We also discuss dating and relationships from Jasmine's lens and have a thoughtful conversation about Tyrese's latest personal interview that we didn't ask for. If you are considering therapy or medication, stick around for this part of the show to receive recommendations. Enjoy the show and the music!

Welcome byke! We are celebrating the 50th anniversary of hip-hop, and it's providing the soundtrack for this episode. We catch up and talk about tons of music and a few eventful recent topics since we've been gone. Enjoy the show!

Hey, Ya'll! It's our anniversary! We appreciate a fantastic three years of consistent listenership. We couldn't do it without you. *insert heart hand emoji*

As far as this episode? It's an assortment in there...sex, mamas, travel, music, booty cheeks, pegs, cooch, food, booty licking, Jesus, all of the things! A conversation was had. Enjoy the show!

So, we take it back to where it all started. The sexual liberation of the 1960s, as we address the attack on black women from other black women. Crazy right? Additionally, we finish our conversation on early relationship dynamics, and our crew catch up and news you can use. Enjoy the show!

In this episode, we discussed being in a polyamorous relationship and all the other SHTT we usually discuss. Enjoy the show!

Welcome to summer! In this episode, we have an extensive conversation in our News You Can Use segment as we discuss what you'll discuss on the Twit. We have Donnie's honest hour question, and we reach into our nostalgia of experiencing summer growing up in different regions of the world. We round the episode with a spirited conversation about relationship attachment styles based on the academic theory of Nawal Mustafa, M.A., and X Atina Manvelian, Ph.D. Listen and discover why "Everybody Gets An Afro" and enjoy the show!

Welcome byke! So, in this episode, Donnie and Jasmine tussle the entire time, and Corey J goes off about the made-up concept of emasculation, all while we have a special guest and friend to the show, Anitra, present. It was a time! We had a lively conversation about the gay community mirroring heterosexual normalities in relationships that led down a rabbit hole of religious and internalized homophobia mess. Then we discussed relationships' rhythms and flows and how we show up. Enjoy the show!

Honestly, it's complete chaos on the other side of the play button. The tequila was pouring, and the conversation was flowing. All of your favorite segments are there, including Donnie's Honesty Hour. Welcome back, and enjoy!

In this episode, you are covered with the crew catch-up, news you can use, listener questions, and responses. Then we pick up where we left off last show by having a conversation asking if it is a red flag if a relationship is ALL work. Eventually, we arrived at an answer. Kinda.

Hey, ya'll! We are back with another eppy where we share our latest life updates and the listener's responses to Donnie's question, "What's hard about dating you?" While we did let ya'll have it a few times, we also share what is complex about dating each of us. Other than that, we're sitting around the table talking our SHTT per usual. Enjoy!

Ya'll still there?! We've made it byke! Welcome to season 4! Can ya'll tell how excited we are by the use of all these exclamations? The crew is back with a guest host from season 1, Sabrina (aka to Corey as Pal), and it's a wang dang doodle. There's an extended crew catch-up this episode, and then we get into a conversation on masculinity and feminity from our personal experiences. There's also some science related to being born of a man and a woman ( go figure) as it relates to those two traits, so we get into that as well. Enjoy the show!  

Shout out to everybody; we had a good time! 

Get into our last episode of 2022 with the crew digging into some News You Can Use where a pastor tells a woman to wait for a man who she claims to be her husband; however, the man is in a whole relationship. Whole. 

Also, the Monopoly board game has come to kill, steal and destroy, and we'll explain more inside the episode. We recap our top 2022 episodes and revisit some of our funniest moments. A delight. Anyway, get in there and enjoy! We'll see you on the other side of 2023. Love ya'll! 

What's this episode about, you ask? Sex, drugs, lies, and vulnerability. Enjoy the show! 

Hey, ya'll! If you like a splash of News, You Can Use mixed with a deep dive into relationship dynamics in the course of dating, then listen. We hope you all enjoy a great Thanksgiving with your friends and families. 

In this episode, we wrap up our series on accountability and explore how we can implement levels 7 and 8 after the reflective work of levels 1 through 6. We're not sure how this will work and probably didn't land on a resolution; however, we have an awareness. Next, we discuss relationships and how our commitment temperature adjusts as they progress. Finally, we kick around the importance of a friendship foundation in a romantic relationship and how expectations are often a cover-up for manipulation and control. Enjoy! 

In this eppy, we're introducing levels 4, 5, and 6 of the accountability spectrum and unpack what it means to us personally. News You Can Use is packed with conversation. Since we're talking accountability, we indulge in conversation on Sarah Jakes-Robert's viral video where she single-handedly takes responsibility for years of the black church fumbling souls like in a football game. We also talk about the toxicity laced in the word "inconsistency" related to intimate relationships.  

Enjoy the show! 

We're still here! Come on in; we're talking accountability this episode. Oops, don't leave now! Have a seat. We break down the "Accountability Spectrum" and discuss the first three levels: remain unaware, blame others, and rationalize. 

Then Jasmine takes us on a sex talk ride as only she can. Then, of course, we have the News You Can Use and Crew Catch Up. Enjoy the show!  

Hey, ya'll! Inside, we're carrying on about random topics of interest to us. So, if you like carrying on, then get in there and enjoy! 

Mental health has a lot to do with being aware of triggers and slowing things down internally to understand why you may feel a particular way at any time. 

In this episode, we unpack what that looks like in real-time through recent lived experiences. We also discuss the depth of friendship and how individuals gauge their closeness to someone else. 

Finally, we end by laying the foundation for discussing vulnerability as it relates to physical and emotional intimacy. 

Pull up and enjoy! 

In this episode, Donnie and Corey glimpse "A Mother's Love" as Jasmine shares a vulnerable moment concerning transitioning from a parent-child relationship into a parent and adult child relationship. Of course, we made space for her and created an environment where she could talk about her SHTT without judgment. Donnie gives us our dose of News You Can Use the only way he can, and Corey tells all of his ex relationships toxic stories, unprovoked and without any liquor in his system. Tune in! It's a fun time.

Happy Anniversary community! Two years! Whew.

In this episode, we dash through News You Can Use to get to the topics at hand. Do you want to know what we talked about? Sex, straight men who peg and relationships, plus some other SHTT. Enjoy the show! 

Literally an episode about nothing, which is probably how we ended up with this title.  

Enjoy the show! 

What's this episode about, you ask? 

It's an entire episode of News You Can Use the SHTT way! No segments, just good music, laughs, and conversation.

Get in there! Enjoy the show. 

Hello and welcome! It's Pride Month. 

On the other side of this description box, we're pushing the "Gay Agenda." 

Enjoy the show! 

Well... Ya'll see the title.  

We're booging in retrograde, plus we know ya'll like a little mess.  

Enjoy the show! 

In this episode, you'll hear brief testimonies related to, "it wasn't you, it was the sangria," "that's a lot of verys," "keep your throat intact," "get your stomach off my back," "drop the tape," "we like mack trucks though," "I do like a bottom-heavy," "booty hole smoke," "Harry Hines is down the street," and more... 

May is Mental Health Awareness Month and we kick off exploring a conversation related to mental health and hunching. We welcome, friend to Jasmine and now friend to the show,  Ashley Monique, 1/2 of the Dynamic Duo @thelowroadpod. 

This episode is packed with gems related to sexual health and unpacking how sex and anxiety are connected through personal reflections. Oh and lots of laughs because it was Cinco de MAYO and simply put, we got sloshed. Enjoy the show! It's holiday time! 

Inside, Donnie is Donnie-ing, Jasmine is hoping for a summer release of all the low-level marijuana offenders and Corey J is recovering from 4/20. Plus, a friend of the show, Anitra joins us as a guest co-host. No segments in this episode but we do have listener's questions and "happy hour talk."

Whew, ya'll ain't tired? Welcome, byke; we have another conversation-filled show because that's the SHTT we do around here. In this week's shenanigans, we discuss the race of "hurry up and wait" and how we manage this process or not. We dig a little deeper to explore why we have so many damn thoughts as of late and how it relates to awareness. Then we tootsie roll through the topic of confidence through the lens of Jasmine. Of course, Donnie has the News You Can Use including his favorite; sports... Get in there! Enjoy!

Not our fault, but we're back!  In this episode, Donnie comes in swinging with the News You Can Use and then we dive into some real topics. We explore our adult relationships with our parents and reveal some hard truths learned through therapy. We take our topics a step further and discuss "when the manifest doesn't manifest like the manifest is supposed to manifest" what do you do then? Then we wrap things up with a little vulnerable dingaling. So get in there, it's some SHTT for everybody. Enjoy! 

Happy Valentine's Day!  We hope ya'll somewhere getting ya'll back blown out! Apply that how you see fit according to your situation.  Anywho, we have another compelling and conversation-filled episode because, duh, it's a podcast.  We know ya'll like drama and mess, so we get into a bit of celebrity foolishness or whatever.  Then we start to talk about some real SHTT, like maneuvering through life's transitions, progressional mental health, friendship quality control, and of course, since it's ValenTIMES day, we talked about hunching.  Anyway, get in there and enjoy!     

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Have you ever had an idea but didn't understand its value?  Do you know people who suffer from Delusions of Grandeur?  Have your anxiety triggers gotten increasingly difficult to manage as you grow older?  Well, we have answers for all of these questions in this week's episode, so listen up!

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What a pleasure to bring you the first episode of Season 3!  We can't believe it either, so you're in good company.  In episode 31, we get into a few hot topics; however, our loyal listeners know we also got into our own SHTT in a real and transparent way.  We discussed the space between where you are and where you want to be.  We explored our childhood passions, talents, and skills to evaluate how they are playing out in our lives at our big ages.  We also examined the topic of creative collaboration and how that can look in your own community of friends. You don't want to miss this eye-opening and self-revealing conversation.   

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It's the Season 2 episode finale!  No description today, get in there and listen, and be surprised.  We will like to thank our loyal listeners for an amazing Season 2 and 2021.  We continue because you all continue to listen.  We love ya'll!  Talk to ya'll in 2022.  

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Before ya'll burn up your dressing on Thanksgiving, get into our latest episode.  It's Jasmine's birthday, and we recorded, so you know we had to have a celebration!  Topics and hot takes are below.  Enjoy! 

- Ciara's Holy Ghost Prayer 

- Healthy Friendships Includes Fighting 

- Life Reflections: A Iyanla Moment 

- Money Talk: Don't Ask Me For SHTT

- Best Birthday Memories Includes Sex and Strippers 

Hot takes to listen out for: birthday edition, sweet 16, bed on bricks, always a good vibe, late in the midnight hour, why are we involved, corolla, it's hard to get over people, love is patient love is kind, paint the picture, I did not say that Lord, yabba dabba doo, we don't talk about you, residual income, I will turn into a bill collector.  See our full video at: patreon.com/SHTTPodcast   

We talk a lot of SHTT on this podcast, but HUNCHING is always a favorite topic. Don't be alarmed though, it's safe to listen and hopefully pick up a few gems OR you may be a story.  Who knows... It's above us now.  Get into this week's topics and hot takes below.

- We're grading our sex life

- Past sex stories and ghosting scandals 

- How our sex life has matured 

- Listener Question: Sex tips 

- Sexually confident or smoke & mirrors 

These topics plus a quick crew catch-up, news you can use, no nut November and more!  Listen up for these hot takes: bite the top of his ass, anticipation, B+, slut you out, he's nasty, bodily fluids, it was missionary, no piss, incredible hulk, ring around a rosie, merry-go-round, he turned out a lot of women.  See our full episode video at: patreon.com/SHTTPodcast  

Hey ya'll!  We're still here talking our SHTT!  Get into the topics of this week's episode below. 

~ Addicted to love 

~ Managing Anger

~ Entitlement 

~ Shooting your shot 

These topics in addition to our crew catch-up, news you can use, and more! Some hot takes to listen out for: moose knuckle, slow to anger, the heifer, he don't want you girl, locker room, fast forward that sh!t, I'm BLOCKEDT, look at him running, macro polo, slide in their DMs, where we meeting for drinks. Also, don't forget you can now subscribe to our Patreon.  Find our full-length videos at: patreon.com/SHTTPodcast 

Ya'll!  We are back!  We missed ya'll.  Corey J, Jasmine, and Donnie play catch-up from our mid-season break.  The crew also gets into real-life topics which opens up the window for some Real Conversation and Real Transparency.  Also, we have an announcement (drum rolls) WE ARE NOW ON PATREON! (insert Donnie's horns)  Patreon is a platform where our listeners can support us monetarily.  On Patreon, you will have access to full video episodes a day early before the audio episode is released.  Additionally, there will be bonus context created which will not be on the audio episodes.  A lot of our listeners have asked where they can see our full videos and we are here to deliver.  Here is how you can find us on Patreon, patreon.com/shttpodcast.  There are two-tier levels, please read the descriptions and select the one best for you.  We thank you in advance for your subscription.  Come join our exclusive community!  Also, we already typed too much here, so just get into the episode.  You won't be disappointed.  Some "hot takes" to listen out for are: 

Bottle Girls, Day Parties, I'm Not a Biscuit, A Sissy Wrote It, The Gay Agenda, Booty So Big, We Both Love Idris, Ho I Might Cheat On You, Everybody Just Dumb, It Takes, It's Giving Walls.  

Hey, ya'll!  We have a treat for our listeners in this episode.  We are joined by some of the pioneers of the podcast space, Tha Reality Is.  Going into its 15th season (give it up for that! *insert Donnie's horns*) host Anthony explains the podcast as, "jacking off while people are watching."  This sets the tone for what our listeners can expect in this episode.  Get into what we discussed below.  Also, check out more of Tha Reality Is, wherever you listen to SHTT.  Follow them on social media at, Tha Reality Is, to stay informed.  Oh and YES! Donnie is on this episode.

17:00 - News You Can Use: One Vex Down, I Don't Give a F$ck 

30:00 - Gay People Cut Your Check 

41:00 - Listener Question:  Loud and He Came Quick

50:00 - Sexual Chemistry 

01:05 - Interacting With Strangers in Public: Issa Vibe

01:19 - Knowing Your Worth: Convey Your Message

01:26 - Grrrr: Lazy Bottoms 

01:35 - P$ssy is an Assist 

01:47 - Our Current Biggest Fears 

Hey, ya'll!  On this episode of SHTT, we do more talking because this is a podcast. Check out what we had on our hearts below.  As always, we hope you find something worth taking back to your own safe spaces to have real and transparent conversations.  

24:00 - News You Can Use: Get Yo Own Shit Ho

35:00 - Flag Catcher 

48:00 - Private Conversations & Public Support 

55:00 - Listener Question: Therapy Elitism 

01:18 - Family Dynamics & The Role it Plays in Dating 

01:31 - Love is Patience, Love is Kind 

01:45 - We're in Full Concert at This Point 

Hey, ya'll!  Do you know what today is?  It's SHTT one year anniversary!  Thank ya'll so much for rocking with us for an entire year.  We hope you are having fun and enjoying the conversations.  Well, the show must go on, so check out what we have in store for this week's episode.  

6:00 - Corey J takes Miami 

15:00 - Hot Topics: T-Pain goes off and Nick Cannon has a lot of sperm (and nice titties) 

40:00 - Unpopular Opinion: thigh meat, facetime appointments and loosen them shoulders 

53:00 - Reciprocating energy.  Ya'll got time? 

01:10 - We're talking about friendships again...just listen chile 

01:25 - Cheating: A How-to Guide

01:33 - Cry baby men  

Hey, ya'll!  The trio is back with another fire episode.  We hope the conversations in this episode triggers conversations in your own safe spaces.  Get into what we rambled about in the episode titled, Take All The "D" below.  

5:12 - Jasmine's therapy update 

12:17 - Donnie gets hot and bothered in Mexico 

27:37:  Hot Topics:  Bill (The Rapist), Megan (The Brat), Mo'Nique (The Narcissist) & Lil Nas X (The Ruffler) 

47:17 - Television doesn't determine sexuality.  Are ya'll crazy? 

57:05 - He was a Hoe 

01:01:43 - Can't stand yo stupid ass 

01:10:26 - Fuck your fake "ex sex" boundaries 

01:17:13 - Donnie's dating masterclass

01:33:35 - Competition in friendships 

01:51:46 - Listener Question Response: addressing conflicts in friendships