SOBER SEX
By Sober Sex
SOBER SEXNov 15, 2021
Sam Bailey: The More You Oppress Us, The More We'll Love Each Other
Sam Bailey is a sober person who is committed to improving the quality of life and wellbeing of all Trans, Non-Binary and Intersex people. They work as Care Navigator at the Clare Project, a charity in Sussex, UK, dedicated to affirming and supporting TNBI people . Sam is also an auricular acupuncturist focusing on serving people in recovery. I am thrilled to welcome Sam to Sober Sex.
Stirring the Sauce with Tom Krasny
Tom Krasny is a queer, trans, neuro-divergent Glasgow based artist and organizer who is passionate about non oppressive ways of relating.
Tom’s work sits on the seam between art and activism, and centers consent as a valuable orientation to collectively learn and practice new skills and tools that allow us to explore relationship to self, others and the world around us with humility and curiosity.
TW: This episode briefly mentions physical self harm (referring to The Banshees of Inisherin) and uses the word 'rape', so if you aren't comfortable with these topics, perhaps it would be wise choose a different episode to listen to .
"Post conversation clarification:
Between minutes 31:42-41:55, Louisa and Tom discuss how to navigate contrasting feelings and perceptions between different sides in a relationship.
Tom wants to make it clear that the way in which we discuss differences in perception, is relevant in relationships that are based on trust and a mutual commitment to continous growth and care for all parties.
It does not apply to:
-abusive situations (where one person manipulates and opresses another)
-situations where there is an extreme cultural or institutional bias that negates minority perceptions, due to sexism, racism, pathologisation, ableism, and a lack of awareness to trauma informed care. This bias can lead to silencing and invalidation of minority experiences and perspectives.
In the above cases, external and skilled support is recommended and weight should be given to how power structures inform and uphold boundary violations of marginalized individuals.
Holy Street Fever!
Street Fever is a versatile, mixed-media performance-artist residing in Boise, Idaho.
Rooted in an ongoing spiritual awakening, Street Fever has been on a wildly cinematic path to better understand themselves as an artist, spiritual seeker, and human being. After losing all their possessions, being institutionalized multiple times and nearly losing their life in a South East Asian prison, this project has since been reborn and aims to use it as a platform to speak on their own recovery and addiction. Now more than ever they are empowered to share their story in hopes to connect with others who are seeking personal and spiritual growth.
You can find them at: https://www.instagram.com/streetfever
Cuddles for Collective Healing with Laura
Laura is a Toronto native who has been based in Amsterdam for 5 years. She started cuddling professionally with a small client base during COVID and launched her business Lekker Cuddles officially in March 2021.
Laura’s aim with Lekker Cuddles is to normalize platonic intimacy and prove to people that physical and emotional vulnerability does not have to be reserved for a romantic partner. As one of the first cuddle therapists in NL, it was a long (and sometimes annoying) road of familiarizing the public with the concept. After three years, the mainstream in NL are becoming more accepting of the concept and Lekker Cuddles is remains an industry leader in the push to normalize a more vulnerable and intimate culture!
Aarij Abbas: Sexual Education as Tool of Liberation
Aarij Abbas (he/they) is a queer, South Asian-American sexual health educator based on the stolen land of the Ojibwe, Odawa and Potowatomi tribes, colonized as Chicago, IL. Aarij creates spaces of trust and community for people to freely explore concepts of sexuality, gender and relationships. Their work is informed by the idea that: A) humans are, by nature, sexual beings, B) Most humans are developmentally repressed when it comes to navigating sexuality and C) bridging this knowledge gap is key to fighting systems of oppression and creating communities of love and care. His approach is one of acceptance and compassion, meeting people wherever they are on their journey to sexual liberation.
You can find out more about Aarij and what they offer at https://www.aarijabbas.com/
Marcus Barnes: Loving Life, Sober
Last Episode of 2023!
Marcus Barnes is a man of many talents: an author, journalist, copy writer, mentor and coach dedicated to being a progressive force in the world of writing, especially surrounding music, culture and mental health. It’s a joy to talk to Marcus today on Sober Sex.
You can find out more about Marcus on his socials @mgoldenbarnes
Beyond Shrinking and Drinking with Lael Atkinson
Lael Atkinson is a certified professional recovery coach who works at the intersection of drinking and dieting. During their experience of parting ways with alcohol and then tackling a lifetime of dieting, disordered eating and body shame, they found limited resources that addressed this frequent overlap of ‘shrinking and drinking’. This led Lael to create a course and to specialize in supporting clients who want to examine their relationship with alcohol and divest from diet. Culture. We are thrilled to welcome Lael to Sober Sex.
https://learning.beyondshrinkinganddrinking.com/courses/BSD
https://www.laelatkinson.com/
Folding in the Heart with Brooke Herr
Brooke Herr is a multi-talented education, healer and holder of space for ceremony, including but not limited to: grief work, tarot, somatic & energy work. Brooke draws inspiration from reserves as vast and profound as witchcraft, ancestor work, art practices and consent and coaching frameworks. It is a pleasure and a privilege to welcome Brooke to Sober Sex today.
at https://www.instagram.com/veils.veils.veils/
or sign up for the four week 'Grief with Brooke' course at:
Intimacy Cards!!! with Sharlene Durfey François
Meet Sharlene Durfey Francois, a creative force who seamlessly weaves art and human connection into the fabric of her life. Sharlene's multi-faceted portfolio reflects her passion, creativity and talent across many artistic media, including photography, fashion, lighting, graphic design and illustration.
In creating the Intimacy Cards, Sharlene’s skill as a connector truly sets this project apart from her others. They are a testament to her deep understanding of the intricate threads that bind people together. These cards focus on three essential types of intimacy - Emotional, Physical, and Energetic - which Sharlene believes are the cornerstones of building truly meaningful connections. By gamifying intimacy and not focusing on the over-sexualized definition of the word, she makes connecting with others easy and accessible. Giving everyone, not just couples, an opportunity to make meaningful connections.
In the ever-expanding portfolio of her relationships, Sharlene is a self-proclaimed "relationship anarchist." Her love for friends is boundless. Her superpower lies in her ability to foster connections between her friends, creating a network of intertwined lives where bonds flourish.
Sharlene Durfey Francois is not merely an artist and connector; she is a living embodiment of the beauty that lies at the intersection of creativity and human interaction. With every new interaction and every bond she nurtures, she inspires us all to explore the profound art of embracing the richness of connections and the endless possibilities of creative expression.
Pitch into the kickstarter!
https://www.kickstarter.com/projects/intimacycards/intimacy-cards?ref=9937lk
Check out the instagram!
Brianna Hammerman: Being Herd
Tatiana Simonian on Grief and Growth
Tatiana Oliveira Simonian has worn many hats: musician, music journalist, big deal marketing executive and holistic career coach and consultant, Tatiana is also a spiritual warrior with long term sobriety and a dear old friend. I’m so happy to talk to her on today’s episode of Sober Sex!
You can find more about Tatiana and her work at https://www.tatianasimonian.com/
Dry Humping with Tawny Lara
Tawny Lara is an NYC based millennial also known as ‘The Sober Sexpert’. Her book, ‘Dry Humping: A Guide to Dating, Relating and Hooking Up Without Booze’ comes out September 19, 2023.
If you like what she has to say, buy her book here!
https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/730665/dry-humping-by-tawny-lara/
Gender Magic with Rae McDaniel
Rae McDaniel is a non-binary therapist, certified sex therapist, transgender diversity and inclusion educator, speaker and author of ‘Gender Magic’. They are the founder and CEO of Practical Audacity, a gender and sex therapy practice based in Chicago, and an international advocate for gender freedom. We are thrilled to welcome Rae to the show today.
You can find more about Rae and their awesome work at https://www.gendermagic.com/ and https://rae-mcdaniel.com/
Jessi Kneeland Returns! More Joy! More Neutral! More Queer! More Open!
Jessi Kneeland is a queer + nonbinary writer, speaker and body neutrality coach. On June 6th, their book ‘Body Neutral, A Revolutionary Guide to Overcoming Body Image Issues’ was published. This is Jessi’s second time on Sober Sex and we are so happy to welcome them back.
Tamsin Embleton: Touring and Mental Health
Tamsin Embleton is an attachment based psychotherapist and the director of the Music Industry Therapist’s Collective (MITC). She has worked as a music promoter, tour manager and artist manager for ten years prior to shifting her focus to therapy, and she has recently published ‘ Touring and Mental Health: the Music Industry Manual’. It is a delight to welcome Tamsin to chat with us on Sober Sex!
Meenadchi: Decolonization and Delight
Meenadchi has over 10 years of experience in trauma and crisis stabilization. She is the author of ‘Decolonizing Nonviolent Communication’ and is a family constellation therapist, working to help clients release intergenerational baggage and discover (or rediscover) a sense of purpose, sovereignty and motivation for doing good work in the world. I am delighted to welcome Meenadchi to Sober Sex.
No Longer 'Spiritual' with Michael Marcus
Apologies for the recent delay in new episodes, we have a ton of great stuff coming your way and this episode sets a tone for great interviews to come. Thanks for your patience, please SHARE IT WITH YOUR FRIENDS, rate, review, subscribe, follow, whatever. This is a labor of love and your support is incredibly meaningful.
Michael Marcus is a person whose recovery I have admired for many years. He published a book about his (mis)adventures in addiction, sexuality, deceit and depravity called ‘#1 Son and Other Stories’ in 2017 and his powerful literary voice and miraculous ability to survive and evolve make him an absolutely thrilling guest to welcome to Sober Sex. This episode is a truly wild ride, and contains some vague mentions of childhood sexual abuse and violence. If you don't feel up to listening to those topics today, maybe choose a different episode.
You can find more about Mike and his work at @dead_western_mind on instagram or buy his book at https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B089FR1ZTN/ref=x_gr_bb_kindle?caller=Goodreads&tag=x_gr_bb_kindle-20
Sober Showbiz with Lil Texas
LIL TEXAS is a dj and musician known as ‘the kink daddy of American Hardcore. Here for the underdogs, the outcasts and black sheep of dance music, Lil Texas is also clean and sober, and we are thrilled to discuss all of this and more today on Sober Sex.
To learn more, check out https://www.instagram.com/liltexas/
Softcore Trauma with Margeaux Feldman
Margeaux Feldman is a writer, educator and community builder committed to providing folks living with trauma opportunities to build connection. Margeaux is an academic who has left the institution to focus on aligning with their core values of compassion, curiosity, accountability and emergence. Margeaux is also the sweet genius behind glorious instagram account @softcore_trauma. Welcome, Margeaux, to Sober Sex.
Trigger Warning: Rape
Juan Maclean: Welcome (Back From) the Jungle
Juan Maclean is an internationally celebrated DJ, Producer and performer, in addition being a ceremonial guide and space holder, and sound director of Cardea Space. He has an extensive background in recovery from addiction and depression, and I’m proud to call him a dear friend. On today’s show we will cover some topics that are quite controversial in recovery communities. It is our goal to present modalities of healing in an accessible way. If this freaks you out, I get it, maybe listen to a different episode today.
You can find out more about Juan and his work at https://www.instagram.com/thejuanmaclean/
and of course, follow us at https://www.instagram.com/fuckyeahsobersex/
Adam Ficek: Music and Mind
Adam Ficek is a psychotherapist, counselor and renowned musician and DJ based in London. He is a member of the band Baby Shambles and a solo artist, and he works with the NHS, BAPAM, Help Musicians and Tonic Music specializing in working with musicians and treating addiction disorders. He is currently finishing his doctoral studies on musicians and mental health.
Life Support: Luke Jenner
Luke Jenner is best known for his work with the celebrated dance-rock band The Rapture and his captivating music as a solo artist. He is also a visual artist and a certified life coach, and a father and husband in long term recovery. This episode talks about his journey to this point, through music and love and parenthood.
Find out more about Luke at @MrLukeJenner on all socials.
Erika Moen: Oh Joy Sober Sex!
Erika Moen is a queer cartoonist based in Portland, Oregon. With over two decades in the comics industry, she has co-created the sex positive series ‘Oh Joy Sex Toy’ and the sex nd relationship book for teens ‘Let’s Talk About it’ with her husband Matthew Nolan. Erika is a frequent guest on Dan Savage’s beloved Savage Lovecast and is currently or king on her autobiographical graphic novel about mental health You can find Erika and her work at Patreon.com/erikamoen
Consent Wizardry with Mia Schachter
Mia Schachter is a consent wizard. They are a writer, speaker, podcaster, artist, intimacy coordinator and consent educator working in and teaching several different modalities for consent. We are beyond thrilled to talk to Mia today.
Please check out Mia’s work at https://consentwizardry.com/ or on instagram @consent.wizardry, and listen to their great podcast ‘SHARE THE LOAD’
Ryan Dusick - RocknRoll Therapist
Ryan Dusick is an Associate Marriage and Family Therapist with an MA in Clinical Psychology. He is also the founding drummer of the wildly successful band, Maroon 5.
Ryan recently published his memoir ‘Harder to Breathe’, which chronicles his struggles with anxiety and alcoholism, his band’s rise to success and the devastating loss of his ability to play drums due to nerve damage.
Today Ryan is in recovery and we are thrilled to share his experience, strength and hope on Sober Sex. You can find his book at https://www.ryandusick.com/harder-to-breathe/
Risdon Roberts: Out Beyond Intimacy
Risdon Roberts is a sex and intimacy coach, IPSA certified, trama-informed surrogate partner with training in on set intimacy coordination for film and TV and in consent and restorative practices. She helps clients with sexual dysfunction and with navigating non monogamy, and in connecting to their bodies to access joy, pleasure and liberation. Ridson is sober. I am so excited to talk to them today on Sober Sex!
Unfortunately this episode got rudely cut off by the technology gods at the very end but it's a great listen and Risdon is exceptionally awesome.
If you'd like to know more about their work, you can find her at: www.outbeyondintimacy.com
Paul Leroy: Exploring Masculinity Against the Patriarchy
Paul Leroy is relentlessly creative. Former big deal musical director at numerous large hotels across the US, now big deal crypto guy and blossoming filmmaker based in France, Paul has been in the process of doing deep work healing from trauma and recovering on a profound and powerful level. We are thrilled to talk about all of this and more today on Sober Sex.
Sophia Cleary: Performance Doula
Sophia Cleary is a queer multi-disciplinary powerhouse: actor, writer, artist, comedian and
performer drawing from experiences as diverse as being a birth doula, waiter and analyst for a
private investigator. Sophia has presented her work at esteemed venues around the world and
is presently host of monthly comedy show SMILE KNIFE and is workshopping her one woman
show ‘It Gets Worse’, which you can see in New York or Los Angeles. Sophia is also half of
feminist punk band, ‘Penis’. Welcome, Sophia, to Sober Sex.
This chat with Sophia was so funny and magical; she is a hilarious genius and it was a delight to get to know her better. We talk a lot about how it feels to be genre-free as an artist, about the joys of having a rock collection and how taking our own needs seriously allows us to live authentically and to make powerful art. You can find Sophia and her work at https://www.sophiacleary.com/
Super-Powered by ADHD with Tristan Hunt
Tristan Hunt is a certified Transformational Coach specializing in helping music industry professionals who are struggling with ADHD. Recently having departing his post as regional manager for the Association For Electronic Music, Tristan remains a steadfast advocate for neurodiversity within electronic music culture. We are thrilled to talk about his new venture today and how ADHD and addiction, creativity and relationships might intersect.
This conversation with dear Tristan was super informative and dynamic in discussing how Neuro-Diversity and addiction, relationships, sex and creativity intersect, and solutions to potential pitfalls of dealing with ADHD. Tristan is clearly passionate about his new career path and it was a joy to enthusiastically discuss these relevant issues with him.
For more information, go to https://www.tristanhunt.co.uk/
Emilia Richeson-Valiente: Pony Sweat and Spiritual Healing Through Dance Aerobics
Emilia Richeson-Valiente is a performer, actor, dancer and emotive aerobics facilitator based in Los Angeles. Emilia is also the wildly charismatic leader of the benevolent cult of Pony Sweat, a fiercely non competitive dance aerobics celebration. Pony Sweat is a practice in anti-perfectionism and radical self-acceptance, the goal of this high energy, emotive, healing journey is to cultivate freedom of movement and thought, to take care of ourselves and of each other. Welcome, Emilia, to Sober Sex.
I say that every episode is my favorite but this one is really up there. There were so many moments of epiphany in this generous, funny, delightful, wise conversation with awesome Emilia. Notable also is Emilia's fantastic mullet. I hope you love listening as much as I enjoyed recording this one.
You can find Emilia's work and have a spiritual experience at https://www.ponysweataerobics.com/
ROMY OHHH! Agender/Agenda, a History of Love through Music and What a Stable Person Looks Like
Romy Hoffman is an Australian artist, producer, songwriter and DJ based in LA. She fronts an all girl post-punk band called ‘Agender’, runs her own label, ‘Climax’ and throws celebrated parties HOMOCCULT and and Lez Croix. She also makes visual art. She is a powerhouse of fierce creativity and we are delighted to welcome her to Sober Sex today.
Erin Khar: Addiction and Advocacy
Erin Khar is an author and advocate known for her writing on addiction, recovery, mental health, parenting, and relationships. Erin knows first-hand the challenges of addiction recovery and has established herself as a respected voice in the national conversation about the overdose epidemic.
Erin's debut memoir, Strung Out , appeared on most anticipated lists from Apple Books, Goodreads, SELF, The Rumpus, Bitch Media, and others. Of the book, The New York Times writes, "Khar’s buoyant writing doesn’t get mired in her dark subject matter. There is an honesty here that can only come from, to put it in the language of 12-step programs, a 'searching and fearless moral inventory.' This is a story she needed to tell; and the rest of the country needs to listen.”
She writes the weekly advice column, Ask Erin, on Substack, and her personal essays have appeared in SELF, Marie Claire, Salon, The Times of London Sunday Magazine, HuffPost, Esquire, Cosmopolitan, and others. She lives in New York City.
On this episode we talk about recovery modalities outside of twelve step models, benevolence for future self that is the act of journal keeping, horses, and very briefly (TW) childhood sexual trauma. Erin was a pleasure to talk to, we hope you love this episode!
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Hosty: Sober Sex News and Updates
Super quick check in on NEW THEME SONG, hosty (singular), our openness to feedback on some but not all things and just seeing what's good!
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MAGIC MUMU
Mumu is a singer, songwriter, actor, musician, feminist and dear friend. Her strong political viewpoints and advocacy are evident in her lyrics and music videos, as is her personal experience with everything from addiction and mental illness to sexuality, embodiment and pleasure. We are delighted to welcome Mumu to Sober Sex!
@musicofmumu
BRANDON TRASHCAN
Brandon O'Connell is an old friend, and after a long history struggling with addiction, incarceration and homelessness, Brandon has now been clean and sober since 2017, and has made altruism a way of life, working with Vantage Point in LA and San Diego to help people post-incarceration and those struggling with addiction. In addition, Brandon has a podcast called 'Trashcan Talk' which you can check out on all streaming platforms
@trashcancut
Courtney - Liberated Adventure Queen
With us today is Courtney Wittich, formerly of C.Wittich media, now of being a liberated queen of vision, creativity, adventures and generally a good life. Courtney is a dream guest because we talk about her often (as a beacon of delight and general ray of sunshine) and we are ecstatic to introduce one of our very favorite people to the Sober Sex audience. On this episode we discuss life changing magic of 'The Artist's Way', butt rashes, miraculous romance and how to have a good attitude in even the most trying circumstance.
TW: there is brief mention of sexual assault, if you're not feeling up to hearing about that today, perhaps skip this episode.
Radical Reinvention with Kate Marlene
Kate Marlene is an American author, podcaster and artist living in Berlin. She is also a narrative therapist and social justice advocate, focused on individual and community healing. In this episode we discussed her journey into recovery and through motherhood and divorce as a sober woman, what reinvention looks like in recovery and how embracing femme has felt for her. While there were some technical difficulties, we think we took care of them in the edit and that this episode is a great time! You can learn more about Kate from her awesome podcast, 'About Face', available on all platforms
Mandy Manners
Mandy Manners is a habit change & well-being specialist and a coach who helps women heal & thrive in their lives, sobriety, wellness and beyond. She is an author, speaker & professional trainer who uses her own story to break down stigma and raise awareness of the interconnection between mental ill health, trauma, identity and addiction. In this conversation we laugh a lot and talk frankly about the hard parts of recovery, parenting, partnering and more.
#TriggerWarning: discussion of sexual trauma.
DREAM BOATS EGO DEATH
Ego death … Connectivity.. Loneliness.. Brain farts… Struggling with pronouns.. Neuroplasticity…Parenthood.. Intimacy.. Nous 3.
Louisa + Lily + Rose get real @fuckyeahsobersex
EM THE ETHICAL INSPIRER
Em is the co-founder and editor in chief of the solutions journalism platform Everyday Grit and soon to be rebranded The Inspirer!! They started this platform out of frustration of the news only reporting on the problems that our world faces without telling the stories of the people who are dedicating their lives to finding solutions. They believe that if we knew what can be done, and saw examples of people doing it, we would all be more inspired to take action each at our own level to make our world better and safer for all of us!
They are queer, non-binary, polyamorous and many other things that don’t quite fit in traditional labels written out by normative society. And they are driven by the radical imagination of a world that can exist if we free ourselves of what we are told to be, by exploring and discovering who we are instead!
https://www.instagram.com/everyday.grit/
https://www.instagram.com/emm.barre/
MAGICAL MAE - RADICAL INTIMACY ARTIST
Maé is a French American print maker and ceramicist currently residing in Paris, France.
Her work touches on subjects such as sexuality and spirituality and uncomfortable things like shame and trauma.
She is finishing her masters this year and (hopefully) publishing her book soon on Japanese rope bondage as a radical act of relational humanity
INSTA: maewithan.e
Season 3: Hosties (WELCOME BACK ROSE!)
In this episode, we welcome Rose back from maternity leave and focus on evolution and intimacy. There is laughter and tears (per usual) and talk of motherhood, creativity, putting in work, Red Hot Chili Peppers and Lisa Simpson. A great time is had by all; won't you join us?
Tadeo: Addition to Academics (and so much more)
Tadeo Ilarde is a student getting his masters in Human Rights, specializing in Migration at one of Paris’ most esteemed universities.
We discuss the difference between sex work and sex trafficking and which populations tend to slip through the cracks even when governments are progressive in their legislation around sex.
Additionally, we learn about Tadeo’s incredible story and personal migration through different cultures, addictions and ultimately what his recovery looks like today. This is an informative, entertaining and tender episode with one of our new most favorite people.
Heather Hayes: A Ripple Effect
Heather Hayes is the founder and CEO of Heather R. Hayes & Associates, Inc. She is a Master’s level Licensed Counselor,
Board Registered Interventionist (CIP) and Certified ARISE Interventionist. Ms. Hayes earned her B.A. from Emory University
and her M.Ed. from Antioch University in Counseling Psychology. A veteran of the behavioral health field, Heather has over
35 years of experience treating clients with complex mental health issues and the full spectrum of addictive disorders. She
has also worked with clients of all ages and specializes in the treatment of adolescents/young adults, trauma, behavioral
issues and eating disorders.
Known as one of the country’s most prominent authorities on these topics, Ms. Hayes is a coveted speaker on the national
and international stage, is widely-recognized for her comprehensive and trauma-informed approach to intervention, and
has been published in numerous journals, books, and other industry publications. Ms. Hayes also serves as an on-air expert
and consultant for CNN and Dr. Oz and has been featured on A&E, ABC, CBS, BBC, FOX, MTV and NBC. In addition, Ms.
Hayes is a featured interventionist on the 2018 & 2019 seasons of A&E’s high-profile show Intervention.
Throughout her career, Ms. Hayes has been a lifeline for clients at their most profound points of suffering. She offers
clients and their families a safe haven as they navigate the recovery journey and works with the entire family system to
support long-term, sustainable healing.
As an independent interventionist and a staunch proponent of professional ethics, Ms. Hayes does not have financial
relationships with any treatment centers or clinicians. Over 95% of her interventions have successfully ended with the
subject agreeing to treatment.
Outside of work, Heather uses her expertise to give back to her community by volunteering as the psychological profiler with
the Forsyth County Sheriff’s Department Hostage Negotiation and SWAT Team.
We are so thrilled to welcome Heather to the show. This episode is emotional and honest and it was such a special opportunity to talk to her days before she celebrated her 40th year clean and sober, and to think about what's transpired in the 15 years since we've known Heather. In some ways, Sober Sex is a direct result of Heather Hayes' powerful work (a successful intervention). If you or someone you know is struggling with addiction of any kind and an intervention is necessary, don't hesitate to check out Heather's work at heatherhayes.com
Season 3 HOSTIES with Lily and Louisa
In this episode we review exciting highlights of the past year and discuss our aspirations moving forward with the podcast and in life, in addition to our fears, desires and silly dogs.
Jessica Lahey: The Addiction Inoculation
Jessica Lahey is the author of the New York Times bestselling book, The Gift of Failure: How the Best Parents Learn to Let Go So Their Children Can Succeed and The Addiction Inoculation: Raising Healthy Kids in a Culture of Dependence. Over twenty years, Jess has taught every grade from sixth to twelfth in both public and private schools, and spent five years teaching in a drug and alcohol rehab for adolescents in Vermont, and serves as a prevention and recovery coach at Sana at Stowe, a medical detox and recovery center in Stowe, Vermont. She writes about education, parenting, and child welfare for The Washington Post, The Atlantic, is a book critic for Air Mail, and her biweekly column “The Parent Teacher Conference” ran for three years at the New York Times. She designed and wrote the educational curriculum for Amazon Kids’ award-winning animated series The Stinky and Dirty Show, and was a 2019 Pushcart Prize nominee for her Creative Nonfiction magazine essay, “I’ve Taught Monsters.” Jess holds the dubious honor of having written an article that was later adapted as a writing prompt for the 2018 SAT. She co-hosts the #AmWriting podcast with bestselling authors KJ Dell’Antonia and Sarina Bowen, and lives in Vermont with her husband, two sons, and a lot of dogs.
On this episode, we are truly thrilled to welcome multi-talented genius Jessica Lahey to chat with us about parenting, how drugs and alcohol affect brain development, what getting sober many years into a marriage looks like. On this episode it's Louisa flying solo as host as Lily and Rose had last minute emergencies but this is a great chat nonetheless!
Emilyn Kowaleski: May I Not Confuse My Truth With My Trauma
Emilyn Kowaleski is a sober queer feminist writer, director, and facilitator working towards collective healing, transformation, and liberation. They are on a mission to dismantle the oppressive forces that prevent us from being and being seen in the wholeness of our humanity. A theater-maker by training, Emilyn writes in a blend of disciplines including plays, performance pieces, and poetry, essays, and is currently working on a creative non-fiction book about the history of sex-segregated bathrooms in the United States. This conversation was vulnerable, enlightening and terrifically joyful and we hope that you love it as much as we do.
Check out Emilyn's work at:
https://www.emilynkowaleski.com/
Francesca Ayala: Sober in Stitches
Francesca Ayala is a multi talented event producer, comedian, author and force of love and inclusivity in the world. In this episode, we discuss the therapeutic properties of comedy, cultural diversity in recovery and Fran's journey into sobriety during the pandemic. We are delighted to get to know her better on Sober Sex!
TW: Early Childhood Sexual Trauma (not explicit, but the existence of this is discussed).
Gimp Suit Krishna with Brandon Rice
Brandon Rice is a person with an impressive and varied resume across numerous different fields. Louisa and Brandon met on a rave cruise where he was acting as tour manager around 2016 and since then he’s been A & R for a rad indie label, worked with the midnight mission in DTLA and is presently getting his masters degree in psychology. This episode is very 12-step oriented, but also contains a lot of wisdom and humor around issues spirituality, sexuality and mental health. We hope you check it out and enjoy it.
Maybe it's Botox, Maybe it's Witchcraft: Vulnerability with Rebecca Rush
On this week’s episode we talk with comedian and author Rebecca Rush. Enlightening, hilarious and a well of sex majik and deep wisdom, this conversation is a true delight. We discuss how escorting can be a healthy choice for self empowerment and financial security, laughing with others about the things we are ashamed with is the path to freedom, self-poly, Succession and so much more. Check it out!