Solid Foundations Podcast

As Humans we are born as close to emotionally flawless as we will ever be. As kids we are molded by our experiences and the people in our lives. We are so impressionable in our youth that some sort of emotional trauma is inevitable.

There may be different levels of severity that one may suffer from. All the way from the child that was sexually abused and now feels ashamed and worthless to the child who was over protected and wanted for nothing, but now as an adult feels inadequate and hopeless.

No matter the life circumstances, there is no escaping emotional trauma. There is nothing we can do as parents or guardians to prevent our children from experiencing it in one way or another. We will not stop future generations from feeling this pain, but we can put a stop to to their suffering of it. A good way to start accomplishing just that is for us adults to talk about how emotional trauma has effected us and more importantly what methods we have used to turn our suffering into empowerment

On this episode, both Crystal and Gilbert, Founders of Solid are interviewed by Aileen Torres, MA on her podcast "Hearty Dose for the Mind". This is a special episode because its the first time both Crystal and Gilbert are interviewed together about how Solid got started.

In this episode I interview Solid's Head Fitness Coach Jordan. We get to learn a little about him and his up bringing here in Santa Barbara and we get to learn a whole lot about fitness! Jordan relied on fitness to get him through tough times as a teen and has now turned his passion for fitness into a career. He is a full time personal trainer at Superior Fitness on San Andres St. here in SB and also helps Solid Foundations instill confidence in the youth through Fitness every Friday! 

In this episode Jordan gives answers to common Myth vs Facts like the importance of supplements, the only way to gain muscle is by pushing heavy weight and the best way to lose fat is with cardio. These are just a few and we also get answers to your questions from IG.

If you would like to book a complimentary session with Jordan, you can message him on Instagram @jordan_kuykendall or give him a call at 805.895.0939 / email jrkuykendall805@gmail.com

If you would like to support Solid Foundations visit our website: www.sbsolid.org and click the donate tab for options. You can find us on Ig @solidfoundations_sb and/or Facebook @Solid Foundation Program 

Judgement: Never do for yourself what the efforts of others can do for you. Use their wisdom and knowledge to further your own cause. In doing so, you will appear intimidatingly efficient and knowledgeable. Ultimately, those who worked for you will be forgotten and you will be remembered. If you think it's important that you do all the work yourself, you wont get far. Consequently, find those with skills you lack and find a way to either take their work as your own or hire them and put your name on their efforts. However, to do this effectively, your position must be secure, as otherwise people will call you out for deception.

Gilbert tells his story of how when he started his first company he was a sub-contractor for a bigger company. He did all jobs through them and from the outside it looked like he worked for them as an employee which later come back to haunt him... 

Judgement: Everything is judged by it's appearance; what is unseen counts for nothing. Never let yourself get lost in the crowd, then or buried in oblivion. Stand out. Be conspicuous, at all cost. Make yourself a magnet of attention by appearing larger, more colorful, more mysterious than the bland and timid masses.

In this episode, Gilbert tells his story of how he used this law as a teenager to change his image in a desperate attempt to stop from being bullied and to fit in.

The 48 Laws of Power Series

Is going to be a great way for future students and parents of students to learn about my wife and I, the founders and Operators of Solid Foundations.

In this series of podcasts we will be discussing the Laws of Power and how we either use them or they use us. I’m sure if you are listening to this podcast you are familiar with Solid Foundations Mission, you know everything we do is to instill confidence in our youth. With that being said I thought it would be cool to start a mini series that allows us to tell stories of our past particularly as a teen and into our early 20’s. These stories will describe how we personally fell victim to, or used to our advantage each of the 48 Laws of Power that Robert Greene wrote about in his book.

Don’t worry, of course we will continue to do our regular program, we have plenty of guest lined up and will continue to keep uploading those important interviews.

As always, I hope we deliver some value to you through our podcast.

These episodes will best serve those who want POWER, observe Power or wish to arm themselves against POWER...

The 48 Laws of Power Series

Is going to be a great way for future students and parents of students to learn about my wife and I, the founders and Operators of Solid Foundations.

In this series of podcasts we will be discussing the Laws of Power and how we either use them or they use us. I’m sure if you are listening to this podcast you are familiar with Solid Foundations Mission, you know everything we do is to instill confidence in our youth. With that being said I thought it would be cool to start a mini series that allows us to tell stories of our past particularly as a teen and into our early 20’s. These stories will describe how we personally fell victim to, or used to our advantage each of the 48 Laws of Power that Robert Greene wrote about in his book.

Don’t worry, of course we will continue to do our regular program, we have plenty of guest lined up and will continue to keep uploading those important interviews.

As always, I hope we deliver some value to you through our podcast.

These episodes will best serve those who want POWER, observe Power or wish to arm themselves against POWER...

I was recently invited to be a guest on the Hashing it out with Javi podcast, another great podcast based out of the 805! Javi learned about me through social media and asked if I would come on to talk about the special work we do at Solid Foundations. So this time I'm on the other side of the mic. This episode is the full recording from his podcast. ENJOY!

Guest Phillip Rendon and Victor Vega return to talk about how they have coped with the loss of loved ones.

Our discussion will include a quick intro into what caused us to want to be gang members when we were young boys, but more importantly we will talk about prevention strategies for those youth on the edge of gang life and solution strategies for those already in it. If you have  any specific questions you would like us to address, dm and we will answer them on the podcast.

We want to make it clear that we are speaking on this subject, NOT as any type of street authority, but rather as fathers and concerned members of our community.

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If you would like to learn more about anyone of us, you can check out the following episodes

#20 Don't know how to change with Victor Vega

#14 From Honor Roll to Gang Member with Gilbert Regalado

#13 Gang's are't going away with Phillip Rendon

Is going to be a great way for future students and parents of students to learn about my wife and I, the founders and Operators of Solid Foundations.

In this series of podcasts we will be discussing the Laws of Power and how we either use them or they use us. I’m sure if you are listening to this podcast you are familiar with Solid Foundations Mission, you know everything we do is to instill confidence in our youth. With that being said I thought it would be cool to start a mini series that allows us to tell stories of our past particularly as a teen and into our early 20’s. These stories will describe how we personally fell victim to, or used to our advantage each of the 48 Laws of Power that Robert Greene wrote about in his book.

Don’t worry, of course we will continue to do our regular program, we have plenty of guest lined up and will continue to keep uploading those important interviews.

As always, I hope we deliver some value to you through our podcast.

These episodes will best serve those who want POWER, observe Power or wish to arm themselves against POWER...

Life is going good, Merari had a Solid Job and was raising her lovely daughter. Then her world got turned upside down! At first it started with pain in her breast which at first seemed like soreness that would just go away. This soreness turned into a rock hard tumor that the doctors ended up diagnosing as breast cancer. Chemo treatments followed surgery which meant a long painful road to recovery. Cancer is gone, Chemo is over, but the scars still remain. Listen as Marari shares her story... 

Is going to be a great way for future students and parents of students to learn about my wife and I, the founders and Operators of Solid Foundations.

In this series of podcasts we will be discussing the Laws of Power and how we either use them or they use us. I’m sure if you are listening to this podcast you are familiar with Solid Foundations Mission, you know everything we do is to instill confidence in our youth. With that being said I thought it would be cool to start a mini series that allows us to tell stories of our past particularly as a teen and into our early 20’s. These stories will describe how we personally fell victim to, or used to our advantage each of the 48 Laws of Power that Robert Greene wrote about in his book.

Don’t worry, of course we will continue to do our regular program, we have plenty of guest lined up and will continue to keep uploading those important interviews.

As always, I hope we deliver some value to you through our podcast.

These episodes will best serve those who want POWER, observe Power or wish to arm themselves against POWER...

Albert grew up in an abusive home, at the age of 6 an incident at home got himself along with his brother and sisters sent to an orphanage. Albert was forced to grow up fast and felt alone most of his childhood. He started hanging out with the wrong crowd as a teenager and soon found himself relying on violence to not only survive, but to fit in as well. Right after high school he left his home town of San Diego and moved to Santa Barbara where he attended UCSB and joined the Marine Reserves. He later opened up his own business and had legitimate success, but his past along with a relationship gone bad sucked him back into depression and without knowing how to cope with this Albert began to drink heavily. Before he knew it he had hit rock bottom. It was then that Albert started to turn his life around. He used fitness specifically body building as therapy and now is on a mission to teach the youth the powers of Fitness. 

Gus talks about how as a youth he used different negative outlets to try and cope with anxiety and depression. Now as an adult, Mixed Martial Arts is the major antidote that helps him keep the demons at bay!

In this episode we get you up to date with Solid Foundations. What we worked on in 2019 and we we have planned for 2020. We describe a mind shift solution you can start practicing, Its on why you should have a different perspective on all the problems life brings you. We go over what communication means to us within our relationship. We do a Q & A from questions sent in on IG and through the live stream of a portion of this episode. We also introduce you to the Sexual Fantasy Explorer exercise. Its a fun and exciting way to practice open communication with your partner!

     As far back as I can remember my mother made it a point to be home with us and put her heart and soul into raising not only her children, but also many cousins around my age.  Our days were filled with trips to the park and hours upon hours at the beach. Another way we learned to enjoy ourselves was when my mom would have us put on the gloves to box each other or go at it wrestling. Inevitably someone would start crying, but we we’re never to quit and when all said and done we shook hands and went on playing. Another great memory is my dad coming home from work and somehow always finding the energy to play with me, it just so happens one of my favorite things to play with him was to fight. This was especially enjoyable because unlike fighting my older cousins in the front yard, in these fights I somehow came up on top every time or at least that’s what he lead me to believe, but either way it did wonders for my confidence. I must say, I was absolutely lucky to have such loving parents and very fortunate to have the childhood I did.

Now after hearing what I just shared about my childhood, it would be pretty hard to believe that for some mysterious reason as I hit puberty and became a teenager that I would consider the very parents that showed me so much love and support, now my enemies. Also for reasons I couldn’t understand, I became absolutely terrified of fighting which lead to me not sticking up for myself, which lead me to be seen as weak and therefore picked on regularly.

I often self reflect on the choices I made as a teenager and all the bad things I put my parents through and I can remember even back than having a sense of guilt of why I felt and acted the way I did coming from such a loving home. I would see others around me who had it real bad at home, but in my young mind that didn’t make me feel better, it actually lead me to feel even worse about myself. After battling with all these negative thoughts day in and day out, it was only a matter of time before I just decided to stop feeling any type of emotions at all. I’m sharing all this with you to spread awareness that our youth, no matter their background can fall victim to all the evil things this world has to offer. Good parenting is a solid foundation no doubt, with that being said, it’s only natural to start to rebel against our parents or any childhood authority figures for that matter as we become teens. It’s my belief that at this time that we also need something else we can be a part of, to be heard and seen by others. Other peers we can contribute to and gain significance from. Some may find it in a positive form like school, sports or a job, others may follow a more negative path and turn to drugs, unhealthy relationships or breaking the law.

The following is my story and how I went from a Honor Student to Gang Member…

My partner Gus and I sit down and talk with a group of teens, both boys and girls ranging from ages 13 - 18. We discuss whats going on in their lives and the challenges they are facing. We dive into several subjects like drugs, hook ups, school and the internet. Its a must listen to hear whats going on now in teenagers lives.