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So You Can Relate

So You Can Relate

By So You Can Relate

Two Black girls figuring out life - with growth, relatability & their faith in mind. You can keep up with us on our Instagram page: https://www.instagram.com/soyoucanrelate/, and contact us via email: soyoucanrelatepod@gmail.com ā˜…
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42. If it had not been ft. Ekow

So You Can RelateApr 29, 2022

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48. The return

48. The return

Hey guys! Wow, it's been a year since you've heard from us. Allow us to explain where we've been in this episode!

We also talk about the realities of love, and the risks involved in hoping it works out. Then we dive into what we call the evolution of Dante Bowe... we hope you enjoy!šŸ’˜

Apr 10, 202401:01:39
47. The bad girl that I am

47. The bad girl that I am

Welcome back guys!Ā  In today's episode we discuss what makes a good party and some of the worst party experiences weā€™ve had. We reminisce over our university experiences, and dive into the root causes of people pleasing.Ā 

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#soyoucanrelatepod #peoplepleasing #partytime #storytime #adulting #therapy #unsolicitedadvice #spotifypodcast #applepodcast #googlepodcast #podcast2023

Feb 03, 202356:11
Minisode: Help me believe

Minisode: Help me believe

Hey guys, happy new year and welcome back! We hope you enjoy this minisode, we're ranking our top 10 songs by the one and only Kirk Franklin. Let us know your favourite songs by him too! Have a good one šŸ’—

Jan 25, 202327:58
46. If Jesus tarries...

46. If Jesus tarries...

Welcome back! This week we're rating Christian phrases we hear all the time - what phrases deserve 0/10 or full marks?! We're also thinking of how we'll feel when our parents pass away, and how we cope with grief in general. We hope you enjoy

Dec 03, 202253:45
45. Am I celibate!?
Nov 18, 202201:05:23
44. God won't let me go
Oct 10, 202201:36:22
43. Girl

43. Girl

Itā€™s been a whileā€¦.. but we are back!Ā 

In this episode we are catching up on where we have been, and whatā€™s new in our lives.Ā 

We discuss finding the balance in life, toxic relationships and give our 2 cents on love-related topics šŸ˜‰.

Love and peace x

Aug 04, 202201:10:49
42. If it had not been ft. Ekow

42. If it had not been ft. Ekow

Welcome back guys! It has been a while... but we are alive and kicking. Here's our episode with our good friend Ekow. We spoke about our experiences at university and how it shaped who we are today. We also take a dive into Ekow's app, Foodable, of which he is the CEO! We hope you enjoy this one.

P.s, the podcast will be taking a break for a few weeks, but we will be back - it's just very important to prioritise rest when you need it. Thank you for your support and tuning in to our episodes, the pod wouldn't exist without you šŸ„°

In the meantime, you have 42 episodes to listen to... are there any that you missed?!

Soon we'll be back and better!

Love from Joyce + Adefela ā¤ļø

Apr 29, 202254:47
41. It's okay

41. It's okay

Hi friends! This week we have a Q&A episode where we have discussion around transactional friendships, imposter syndrome and a whole lot of story times. We hope you enjoy xoxoĀ 

Apr 04, 202244:33
40. Mummy's monsters, daddy's demons
Mar 16, 202251:35
39. Iā€™ll take the one to say I love you Ft. Beatrice & Jemimah

39. Iā€™ll take the one to say I love you Ft. Beatrice & Jemimah

Welcome back friends! This week we have two special guests on the podcast Beatrice and Jemimah. In this episode we are doing a Mary Mary Top 5! Brace yourself for some serious deliberation and loads of laughs along the way. We also get into discussion around the old school gospel songs we love and a lot more.

Peace and love x

Feb 25, 202254:18
Minisode: Cater2u

Minisode: Cater2u

Welcome back! This week we have a minisode that is in the theme of valentineā€™s day. We talk about the love songs we canā€™t get enough of and laugh as we breakdown the concepts behind the song lyrics of Cater2u.

Peace and love x

Feb 11, 202228:49
38. Skip to 7 mins
Feb 04, 202201:04:04
37. Growing pains

37. Growing pains

Hey guys we are back with another episode! This week we are catching up with you all discussing what is new in our lives, the changes we want to make in the year ahead. Then we give a faith update of where we are in our relationships with God and our hopes for the future.
Faves mentioned: Just worship ā€“ Jesus Medley and The Homecoming podcast with Dr Thema
Jan 28, 202259:06
36. Capture a moment Ft. Kay
Jan 19, 202201:08:45
Minisode: Seek truth Ft. Toda
Jan 03, 202230:43
35. 8 Ā½ month wrestle Ft. Emi

35. 8 Ā½ month wrestle Ft. Emi

This week weā€™ve got a special guest Emi, she talks to us about her journey into becoming a Christian. We also discuss the concept of confessing your sin to your support network to maintain accountability. How do we deal with the struggle of giving up things we like to grow in relationship with God?

Scripture mentioned: James 5:6

Dec 06, 202101:02:26
34. Count it all joy

34. Count it all joy

Welcome back! This week we discuss the portrayal of Black women in movies specifically Tyler Perry movies lool. Then we dive into conversation around how we deal with being angry with God and the urge we feel to live more recklessly.

Disclaimer ā€“ There are some ā€˜insecureā€™ spoilers included!

Faves mentioned: Maurette Brown-Clark ā€“ Just want to praise you, Hillsong ā€“ Blessed, Lauryn Hill - The sweetest thing, Lawrence flowers ā€“ More, Lawrence flowers ā€“ Hey hey God

Nov 23, 202101:09:57
33. A tough season Ft. Manuela

33. A tough season Ft. Manuela

We are back with another episode! We are so happy to have our very first guest Manuela. Join us as we discuss our top 5 Hillsong songs, ideal wedding song playlists and Gospel slow jams. We also talk to Manuela about the development of her faith journey whilst at uni and her revelation of understanding Godā€™s grace.

Peace and love x

Nov 15, 202152:32
Minisode: Apologies to Charles

Minisode: Apologies to Charles

Hey friends! We are back discussing what happens when the artists we love die. A story time about our friends boxing match, and all things pertaining to adulting.

Buckle up and enjoy!

Nov 08, 202141:04
32. Yesterday
Oct 27, 202101:10:01
31. Youā€™re lagging babe

31. Youā€™re lagging babe

Weā€™re back with another episode! This week we discuss dealing with failure and bouncing back. The relevance of understanding apology languages and how to argue in a fair way. We talk about bad first date experiences and what is the best way to ask someone to leave when theyā€™ve overstayed their welcome.
Disclaimer: There is some lagging at the beginning of the episode but only for the first 4 mins ā€“ the struggle was real guys lool
Scriptures mentioned: Mark 8:36, Matthew 6:23
Faves mentioned: Scandal and Korean baking videos
Oct 18, 202101:38:31
30. At least I had a good time

30. At least I had a good time

Welcome back guys! This week we talk about whatā€™s been making us happy recently. Our ideal birthdays in comparison to the worst birthdays that weā€™ve had. We also discuss whether we are too judgemental of teenagers today and reminisce on school memories.

Peace and love x

Oct 04, 202157:51
29. I donā€™t wanna leave the same

29. I donā€™t wanna leave the same

Join us this week as we discuss our top 5 songs from The Miseducation of Lauryn Hill album. We go onto discuss our hatred for fake inspiration, wondering if God still punishes people today, our petty pet peeves and the horror that was a-level results day.
Mentions: Miseducation of Lauryn Hill album, Instagram page: Shama4realz
Faves mentioned: Beyonce ā€“ Crazy in love
Sep 22, 202101:22:37
28. All or nothing
Sep 12, 202101:24:58
Minisode: Babe, can we have a fake wedding?

Minisode: Babe, can we have a fake wedding?

We are back with another minisode! This week we discuss worship music today in comparison to the worship music that we grew up with, the evolution of worship music, and the beauty in its simplicity. We also dive into the topic around the trend of fake weddings weā€™ve been seeing on social media and whether we would do the scholarship prank on our parents.
Scripture mentioned: So, faith comes from hearing, and hearing through the word of Christ. ā€“ Romans 10:17
Peace and love x
Sep 05, 202141:53
27. Cycles
Aug 29, 202101:08:17
26. Always in my feelings

26. Always in my feelings

Happy Sunday! This week we are talking about what brings us inspiration to be the best versions of ourselves. We also consider the downfalls of being too self aware and how it effects our social lives.

Faves mentioned: Mary Mary - Canā€™t give up now, Janelle Monae - Victory, Halfcast podcast - The hood is built on contradictions.

Peace and love x
Aug 15, 202101:05:40
25. Get the shoulders out!

25. Get the shoulders out!

In this weekā€™s episode you might have guessed it - we are discussing how we navigate modesty as modern young Christians, trying to find the balance between having a great fashion sense and being modest. We also discuss our thoughts of evil eye and the pressure of birthday preparations.
Bible verse mentioned: Ecclesiastes 12:13 -14
Faves mentioned: Trin-I-Tee 5:7 - Holla, Dance like Sunday, Rescue Me, Limoblaze - Afrobeat's rap and Jesus, Mide Naike and R-scar - Forever and now
Aug 03, 202101:09:59
24. Black women are beautifulā€¦ but let me refocus

24. Black women are beautifulā€¦ but let me refocus

Weā€™re back with another episode! Join us as we discuss if there is a ā€˜British cultureā€™ and the formation of the Black British community, our fears surrounding interracial dating and the sacrifices that may have to be made. As well as asking ourselves how traditional African belief systems interact with Christianity!

Peace and Love x
Jul 24, 202101:30:22
23. Come back home

23. Come back home

Welcome back! In this Friday's episode you can expect some interesting general chit chat. We discuss promise and engagement rings, the breakdown of relationship goals and what happens when we start resenting our partners. We also have discussion around those who have left the faith and the perception of the Holy spirit including our desire for growth in knowing him more.
Songs mentioned: In awe of you, this altar (by Trey Mclaughlin), Last Jesus (Kirk Franklin)
Faves mentioned: Gold (by Jake Isaac) God morning (by Natalie Lauren)
Enjoy!
Jul 09, 202101:13:05
Minisode: God & I need to go to therapy

Minisode: God & I need to go to therapy

Happy Friday! This week we are discussing the struggles and possible loss of confidence we feel in our faith. We also dive into the topic of prayer etiquette and insecurities we experience as Christians!

We hope you enjoy this minisode āœØ

Peace and love x
Jul 02, 202138:50
22. See ya!

22. See ya!

Join today's talk about current approaches to femininity and how we position ourselves in them. Do we find it easy to speak about this topic without sounding regressive? Also, hear our (very late) 2 cents on Blue Therapy and what itā€™s shown us about relationships, plus why we think cologne changes the game! Enjoy!
Jun 25, 202101:01:34
21. It could get worse
Jun 18, 202101:00:60
20. You donā€™t want the cake

20. You donā€™t want the cake

Weā€™re back with another episode! Join us as we discuss how much we think weā€™ve grown since recording some of our fave episodes so far, and we get very distracted doing it too lol. Diving into topics such as advising friends, movies that make us cry, horror movies and sad love songs.

Also, weā€™re taking a little break for the next month, so join our Instagram live today @ 8pm for a chat before we go! Weā€™ll be back in June!

Love always x

Ā· Songs mentioned: For the good times ~ Al Green, He turned it ~ Tye Tribbet.

Ā· Faves mentioned: Ā The Miseducation of Lauryn Hill and Courage ~ Lianne La Havas.

Apr 30, 202101:08:00
19. Turn to your neighbour

19. Turn to your neighbour

Welcome back! In this Fridayā€™s episode weā€™re discussing our experiences with finding a new church, and going into detail about our good, bad and ugly experiences with uni Christian fellowships.

Buckle up and enjoy the ride!

Apr 23, 202159:01
18. Next caller!

18. Next caller!

Happy Friday! This week is dedicated to all our listeners as we are addressing your dilemmas! Everything from Christian dating, bringing a friend to church and pole dancing at Bible study. Get our insight on these dilemmas and we hope you have a laugh whilst listening in.


Peace and love x

Apr 16, 202101:01:54
17. Don't provoke me to anger

17. Don't provoke me to anger

Welcome back! Today we are switching things up with some general chitchat, giving our 2 cents on recent events. You can expect conversation around the Christian community's response to Lil Nas X latest video, our pet peeves with birthday celebrations, Derrick Jaxn and toxic friendships.Ā  We also dive into discussion around our post lockdown plans and the artists that we cannot wait to see in concert!Ā 

We hope that you enjoy this one x



Apr 09, 202101:01:22
Minisode: The lady, her lover & the Lord

Minisode: The lady, her lover & the Lord

Today weā€™re giving you a glimpse of our playlists. What lyrics do we love, and who are our all-time fave musicians? Who doesnā€™t love a song that moves you every time you listen to it?! Let us know what music you never grow tired of - weā€™d love to hear it. Have a lovely Easter weekend, and enjoy x
Apr 02, 202127:32
16. Playing with eternal placement

16. Playing with eternal placement

Happy Friday! This week weā€™re exploring prophecy, manifestation, affirmation, meditation, and doubt. How many of you can relate to witnessing prophecy in church meetings and how has your understanding developed through the years. We discuss working through doubtful periods of our Christian walk and how it ultimately makes us stronger. Brace yourself for some laughter and Mary Mary songs along the way. Current faves mentioned: Mary Mary songs - Believer, Seattle, Stand still. Scripture mentioned: Ephesians 2:9. This is a juicy episode we hope that you enjoy!
Mar 26, 202156:51
Minisode: The Holy Washing Machine
Mar 19, 202126:45
15. Sweet Mother
Mar 12, 202101:02:00
14. I can speak to dreams, they will come true
Mar 05, 202101:02:42
13. Deep in my heart, the answer it was in me
Feb 26, 202101:00:00
12. I don't believe in happy tears
Feb 19, 202101:01:33
11. How does gender qualify submission?

11. How does gender qualify submission?

Wishing you a happy Valentineā€™s Day in advancešŸ¤Ž In the spirit of this season, here are our personal experiences of Valentineā€™s Day, and all things love & romance! Weā€™re also delving into our opinions about submission in a marriage, and exactly what it is that makes a man worth submitting to. Does it only apply to men of God or is gender the sole qualification? We hope you enjoy this episode, sending love from our hearts to yours this weekend!
Feb 12, 202101:02:35
10. Definition is overrated, frizz is fantastic

10. Definition is overrated, frizz is fantastic

Today we're celebrating 10 episodes of So You Can Relate! We're so happy to have made it to double digits, and we thank you for sticking by us thus far. Now, let's talk about hair! Listen in as we discuss our hair journeys, horror stories, the natural hair movement, and our current perceptions of Black hair. Why does Joyce say that hair can be political, and why is Adefela concerned about texturism and excessive protective styling? Of course, we'll cover all this and more in the episode. Relax and enjoy as we talk about all things hair!

Feb 05, 202101:04:35
Minisode: Whatever you feed will grow

Minisode: Whatever you feed will grow

We're back with another minisode! We always have so much to say and they're getting longer lol. Today we're talking about our stance on love languages, personality tests and horoscopes - do we identify with them? We're figuring out how safe it is for Christians to read into beliefs that contrast with ours as God tells us who we are, and the situations where reading into these things could be most helpful. Enjoy this one and have a wonderful weekend!

Verses referenced in minisode:Ā 

'Star signs/pagan practises' - Deuteronomy 18:10-14,

'All things to all men' - 1 Corinthians 9:19-23.

Reading around these scriptures gives context to them, and enables your deeper understanding of them!

Jan 29, 202143:54
9. Nobody airs like God.
Jan 22, 202101:28:18
8. One thing to be born, another thing to stay alive

8. One thing to be born, another thing to stay alive

Hello! After a slight delay we are back with a discussion about our relationships with testimonies, overcoming insecurities, building self-confidence, and self-help. Whew! Today's episode is loadedĀ and longer than usual - we hope you're touched by our conversation and compelled to move past insecurities and negative self-perceptions that have been holding you back. We'll be returning to the studio soon - in the meantime, enjoy today's episode!

Jan 17, 202101:37:10