Spiritual Psychology Reconnect

Hello Holistic Helper I’m Mary Markham and I am a Spiritual Life Coach. I support and guide women as they start over and transition through midlife changes to get spiritually connected with grace and ease. Although there are many ways to get spiritually connected today I will share with you one what that has helped me along my journey.

Question #1: What’s your connection to midlife changes?

My connection to midlife changes is that most of the significant challenges/changes during midlife became the most pivotal time of my life. Changes with my career, finances and relationships could have taken me down a very negative path, if I would have allowed it. I literally started over as a single mom raising two teenagers with just enough money to rent a truck and move back to be closer to family.

Question #2: How come you enjoy helping people around midlife changes?

Midlife is a time when so many people start questioning their own life and may even have regrets, and question why they are where they are and how they wished their life could be better.

Question #3: What’s the F.A.I.T.H. acronym?

First I’d like to share that Faith is NOT a religion. It sees the invisible, believes the incredible and receives the impossible.

The acronym begins with F which stands for Forgiveness. We must first forgive ourselves and others in order to move forward. Self forgiveness is one of the hardest things to do. But once you learn to forgive yourself and others, you can take steps to move forward and live your purpose being the best version of yourself.

The next letter is A for Awareness. Awareness of who you are and how you want to serve your purpose. It is being aware of how the different people, influencers, events, values, experiences, traditions, etc. have shaped you to be who you are today. 

The next letter is I which stands for Identify. Identify what YOU want and how do you want to get there? That is why self awareness first. You must first become aware of who you are and then identify what you want. It’s important to identify how you define yourself, not how you think the world defines you.

I love to use the analogy of planting a seed and watching it grow. Identify if you are giving it enough water, sun, and love to help it grow? What we pour into your lives is how we reflect ourselves into the world. Positive thoughts equals positive actions.

The next letter is T for Trust. Trust is important in any relationship and once it is lost, it becomes a decision to either let go or rebuild. It is a process and there are steps to build trust again. 

Question #4: What’s useful in using the F.A.I.T.H. acronym?

It’s useful to use the F.A.I.T.H. acronym to help my clients become more aware and have a deeper spiritual connection through each letter. When I ask questions about each letter of the acronym with my clients, it helps to dig a little deeper into their personal life and discover something they weren’t aware of. And, using the acronym is different for each person.

Question #5: What are some of the results your coaching Clients receive from using the acronyms?

The results are truly amazing. I have a client who struggled with forgiveness for years and listed all the people she needed to forgive but still suffered with a heavy heart around forgiveness. When asked about self forgiveness and doing a self forgiveness exercise, she never thought about forgiving herself first. It’s been a transformation for her ever since. She still talks about that enlightenment.

It's finally here...

My first published book!

Ahhh...can you feel my excitement?!

I can't wait for you to get your hands on it and shout from the rooftops alongside me that we do recover.

I'm thrilled to be answering people's burning questions about the beginning of my recovery journey, Spiritual Psychology and how I applied it to get transformative results that have me thriving in life, relationships and purpose.

This is the ripple effect I've been longing to have for so many years. Your love and support with this ripple means the world to me.

To get my experience on paper so that many others could hear about a way to resolve issues within their own consciousness and therefore create inner and outer freedom for themselves.

That's what's possible...Yet it wasn't always so...

In 2006, I made a decision to get sober. Substances were one of the ways I coped with hardships of life - until I chose to get to the root cause of my behaviors. And resolve my feelings of "not good enough," "unlovable" and "unworthy."

I turned my weaknesses into my greatest strengths through a practical application of Spiritual Psychology - I released what disturbed my peace. Through my studies, applications and embodiment of new beliefs, I began co-creating my new life.

In Transcending Trauma, I share my path with you. I share my transformative healing from substances and suicidal ideations to inspire you to discover your own way. May you also transform your experiences into gifts and become a light for those who need it.

I give you my application of the principles, paradigms and practices of Spiritual Psychology that shifted my perspective, allowed me to let in the love and offered me a transformative healing.

And now I'm giving you the "keys" to unlocking your consciousness so you can break free of old beliefs, patterns and stories that have been holding you back and keeping you stuck.

Be one of the first people to get your hands on the book and workbook (since print versions haven't been released on Amazon quite yet.)

Welcome Back!

The healing journey is rarely a linear path. More like a winding road with twists and turns, some times circling back to things you thought you had completed that reappear for resolution once again.

Embrace it all...

You will know that you are making progress when you begin in live the principles and practices that resonate with your heart and soul.

You bring your light to others...

Your words turn into action and your intentional and inspired action turns into purpose, meaning and contribution.

People experience your Loving Essence...

You are embodying a new way of being with yourself, others and the world. You are free of judgments, guilt and shame. Doesn't mean you never experience those again, just means you know how to forgive your humanness for buying into those experiences as truth.

You are living from your Authentic Self...

Student turns to teacher and you become the demonstration of all the transformation, breakthroughs and awesome insights you have experienced.

You are enlightened...

You have transcended struggle and can see that each experience is spiritual opportunity.

The healing journey is a remarkable path that reminds you of your loving nature and helps you return back home to your Self.

Need some structure to your healing journey?

I've created a map.

Exploring the Akashic Records

Question #1: What are the Akashic records and how would someone learn more about it?

I described a few common ways to describe the Akashic Records - not a simple task anyway! - as well as invited the audience to the best two ways - for me - to learn more about them

Question #2: How did you get started in the Akashic Records?

There was so much to share about this, that I now realize I forgot to mention that it really happened in the most unexpected of ways: I signed up for a class without even knowing what the Records were (never done anything like that before or after!). But it all lead to me find out I’ve been there SO many times before in my life…

Question #3: How do you prepare yourself to work within the Akashic Records?

I like to do things following my way, so I’ve developed a protocol that is always expanding and changing a bit. But the most important thing before I access the Records for myself or someone else, is that I set the both of us for success.

Question #4: What are 3 benefits to being able to work within the Akashic Records?

Not much about knowing your future but aligning with your best future...and this is only one of them.

Question #5: What else is on your heart to share with us about the Akashic Records in this very moment?

As an old Coldplay song sang...Everything is not lost! The Akashic Records are present in our everyday life, we interact with them, consciously or not, and the need to find and align with our purpose is more important now than ever!

Thank you for being with me today. If you’d like to connect with me further, my contact information is…. Also you can find my information on the episode notes. Thank you again.

Contact Info…

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Today we are being joined by Dena Rae who will be discussing belief systems in the body. 

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Enjoy this session from Barbara Ptak. 

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Hope you enjoy this podcast from Tamara Gold.

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Question #1: How does yoga support spine health? Movement, Conscious awareness, and breath.

Answer…. The simplest answer is because movement of the spine is essential for spinal health, and a key component of any lineage of a yoga asana sequence is movement of the spine in the 6 directions: forward (flexion), backward (extension), lateral flexion to each side, and axial rotation or twisting, in each direction. In yoga we also focus a lot on axial extension of the spine, or elongating the spine up and down, which reduces the natural curves of the spine, but also increases space between the vertebrae and reduces pressure on the vertebral discs by using the core muscles to create a neutral pelvis...

Question #2: What’s important about keeping the spine healthy and flexible?

Answer…The spine is the  sole protector of your spinal cord and associated nerves - where your ability to move freely, in all the 6 directions I discussed before, think, sleep and function normally, including being an upright human, come from. Any damage or injury in any part of the spine can cause extreme and debilitating pain, never mind limited range of motion and losing the ability to move your appendages freely, and your entire body, for that matter.  Your neural responses originate here, such as: pressure, touch, cold, warm, pain, as well as sensations in your skin, muscles, and joints....

Question #3: Share a little bit about how you got into supporting people around spine health.

Answer…My spinal health journey began when I was 20. I had always been an athlete in any sport I could, including being a distance runner for many years, and snowboarding, skating and skiing. I had taken many falls, including landing on my tailbone, and then on my head.  I had run long distances from the time I got my first pair of sneakers, and I ALWAYS had what is referred to as “Swayback Posture”.  This is when your Thoracic, or mid-spine and shoulders are slouched back behind your hips, so you lead with your hips in any motion, creating more pressure on the Lumbar spine, as the upper torso’s weight ends at the point where the Lumbar spine meets the sacrum.

Question #4: Share a personal story or a Client story where yoga supported someone in improving their spine health.

Answer...It is with great humility that I say, every single person I have taught yoga to has benefitted by learning how to engage their core to extend their lumbar spine. There is not one client whose life was changed more than another, nor did it save someone from surgery, because none of my clients have had to have surgery (but that’s not necessarily tied to me).  Hopefully, that is because they move consciously now.  But, overall everyone who comes to my classes, or has a private yoga session with me, particular to their own needs, feels supported and learns something new about their spine.

Question #5: What are 3 postures that someone could do to support the spine?

Answer…Well, the truth is that ANY posture where you are conscious of your pelvic tilt and spinal extension is supporting the spine.  So, being aware is the very best thing you can do to support your spine...

Contact Info...

Beth Parasmo

bethparasmo@gmail.com

+19292490117

Instagram: @BreathewithBeth

Welcome!

So grateful to have you here. I used the Women's Meditation Network script to share this healing prayer meditation with you.

One of the best ways to support humanity is by cleaning up our own misunderstandings.

If you are in need of support, please check out the Spiritual Psychology Healing Circle.

Welcome to Episode 16! 

Here are 9 Ways I Create Clients…

1. Partnerships - Find people who compliment your work.

2. Email Marketing - Consistently add people to a list that you consistently email with value.

3. Facilitate your own group(s) - Bring together your Ideal Clients and consistently provide them value.

4. Referrals - Show up so powerfully for your people that they refer others to you.

5. Ads - Target your Ideal Clients and invite them to a Discovery Call.

6. Other People’s Groups - Show up consistently and provide value that positions you as a leader in your niche.

7. Relationships - Build lasting relationships in your business that help you build your legacy.

8. Essence - I share my Loving Essence with everyone I meet, adding value and upliftment to each person.

9. And the #1 way I create clients is by having calls with people.

Great to have you back!

Super excited to share with you this exercise I found that can be applied to a coaching session. Frameworks are great tools to share with Clients as they are easy to apply and something your Client can use in between sessions.

Hi, I’m Vanessa Klugman, a  physician who stopped practicing medicine when I came into recovery five years ago. I am now trained as a life coach with a specialty in addictions. Today, I would like to help you reconnect by showing you how the four noble truths can help you not only navigate life’s challenges, but flourish and life a life of meaning and purpose.

Question #1: What are the 4 noble truths?

The four noble truths are the essence of the Buddha’s teachings. The Buddha went on a 45 year journey to answer the question of what causes us to suffer.. His findings are summarized in the four noble truths. The first truth is that there is suffering in life. The second truth is that there is a cause for this suffering. The third truth is that there is an end to this suffering. The fourth and final truth is the prescription to the ending of suffering is to follow the eightfold  path.

Question #2: How did you apply the 4 noble truths to your recovery?

The practice of mindfulness meditation led me to core insights that changed the way I functioned in the world. These included the inclination of our minds to be caught up in “sticky” and painful thoughts. When we learn to let go of these self limiting beliefs we suffer less. We feel at ease and balanced. All of our emotions and experiences are impermanent and pass more quickly if  we do not hold onto them. When our actions are rooted in the wise intentions of kindness and compassion we feel at ease and when they are rooted in greed and aversion we end up suffering.

Question #3: How can you use the 4 noble truths to keep up-leveling in recovery or a healing process?

The truths can be used in a practical way and then in more advanced ways. We use the practice of meditation to develop self-awareness. We become aware of our thoughts, the stories we are telling ourselves and we see which ones create suffering. We can implement a STOP practice and start to bring awareness into the moments we notice ourselves struggling.  We can use more advanced practices such as Tara Brach’s  RAIN practice to deepen our healing and our “trance of unworthiness.”

Question #4: How have the 4 noble truths helped you professionally?

I help my clients identify their triggers, those uncomfortable thoughts and emotions that they are conditioned to avoid. We work on mindfulness practices such as urge surfing to retrain the mind. Instead of our conditioned behavior to avoid, distract and numb the urge we work on mindfully surfing the sensations of the urge until it subsides. I also help my clients see that it is not their circumstances that cause their suffering but rather their reactions and thoughts about their circumstances. Compassion and self-compassion are some of  the beautiful qualities that we nurture when we follow the eightfold path.

Question #5: Where might someone learn more about the 4 noble truths? Please provide a few resources. 

Tara Brach: Radical Acceptance and Radical Self Compassion as well as her podcast.

Rick Hanson: The Foundations of Well Being ( an online one year class)

ResilIent By Rick Hanson

Kristen Neff; Self- Compassion the Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself (selfcompassion.org)

Thank you for being with me today. If you’d like to connect with me further, my contact information is…. Also you can find my information on the episode notes. Thank you again.

Welcome Back!

Please enjoy this coaching exercise/framework with your Clients.

1. Step Back

2. Let Go

3. Say Yes

4. Take Empowered Action

5. Hold Yourself Accountable

This framework comes from the Transformational Coaching Method. And is my demonstration of the applying this framework to a specific Client issue around boundaries. 

Welcome!

I'm so freakin' in love with this episode. I'm sharing one of my favorite Spiritual Psychology techniques with you so you can bring in the love and compassion and heal old narratives that don't serve you any longer while you do magnificent work into the world. 

You are incredible.

You matter.

Your expression is valuable.

So many of us start businesses because it is our next highest expression. Yet we don't feel or think of ourselves as business people. 

May you heal what needs to be healed so you can shine your light. Your light IS needed.

There is a hero in all of us. 

Guest Feature...

Hello Holistic Helper…

I’m Dena Roering, I’m a playful helper.

I help parents and children experiencing challenges in their family life due to adversity including adverse childhood experiences, special needs or issues affecting parents making it hard for them to feel good about family.

Today, I would like to help you reconnect to your inner child in a unique way- using play.  By the end of this podcast you will understand why, as a holistic helper, connecting with your inner child through play is both possible and necessary.

Beverly’s provided me with some questions to answer, all in support of you taking good care of yourself while you do great work into the world.

Thank you for being here…

If you are ready, let’s begin..

Question #1: What’s the importance of play in your life as a helper?

Talking Point:  Play helps combat compassion fatigue on a visceral level.  It does this by reducing stress, creating balance and providing care for your Inner Child.

Question #2: How can you add play throughout the day while at a day job?

Talking Point:  Play can be many opposite things, it is in fact limitless.  By using this paradox of play, you can tailor your playful experiences at work to your circumstances and needs.

Question #3: How do you access your Inner Child more often without opening old wounds?

Talking Point:  Because play works on a subconscious level, it is quite possible that it will bring up old wounds.  Connecting with that part of yourself that remains pure and innocent, recognizing and validating what is coming up to be healed, will aid you in giving your Inner Child safe play experiences.

Question #4: Share a personal story of when you realized that you needed more play and the results that transpired because of it.

Talking Point:  My wife and I began playing together and have now found our relationship transformed and as a result we have started out on a new adventure together.

Question #5: What are 3 tips, tools or strategies you recommend around play?

Talking Point:  1) Watch AinleyTop Women TEDx Talk:  Playful Grownups Overcoming Adversity and make up your own A-Z list of play options.  2)  Listen to what you need and give it to yourself.  3)  Remember that maturity and playfulness are not mutually exclusive, in fact being a fully developed adult who can play is a great gift into the world.

Thank you for being with me today. If you’d like to connect with me further, my contact information is:

Instagram @Nurturing Parents

Facebook @Safe Haven Foundation

Welcome Back. 

This is your weekly reconnect, where I you reconnect with the truth of who you are for maximum personal and professional advancement. We do this through shifting paradigms, principles and practices so you can be your best helping Self without losing yourself through your good deeds.

My intention is that this podcast can be a source of connection, support and encouragement for you.

I honor you as a helper, a healer, someone who serves for the highest good of all, including yourself.

Today I will be providing you with my favorite paradigms around the 4 pillars of transformation.

Guest Feature...

I’m Lacey Maria  - Inner Awareness and Consciousness Guide

Reiki Master, Akashic Records Reader & Energy Coach

I help guide burnt out entrepreneurs in a discovery deep dive of their inner self so they can become consciously aware of their connection with the energetic world to heal, align and level up.

Let’s begin…

Question #1: What does from ashes to action mean to you?

So, what does Ashes to Actions mean to me?

Lacey Maria speaks on how losing all her worldly attachments and the life she created for herself through her spiritual awakening helped change her mindset and limiting beliefs. By turning inward for answers instead of looking outside of herself she was able to honour her gifts and get clear on her message.

Question #2: What are some of the ashes you’ve come through in your own life?

Lacey Maria speaks on the hurdles she experienced in her life as she was transitioning out of her previous career and the important of her energetic practices and knowledge was to her as well as a guide for her soulmate clients

Question #3: How is your digital nomad lifestyle connected to from ashes to action?

Lacey Maria speaks on how she recreated her life with her own non-negotiables, location independence and travel. She explains what from Ashes to Action means in terms of creating a life for yourself that is in alignment.

Question #4: What are 3 skills you developed in order to take action in your life?

Lacey Maria speaks on explaining the 3 skills she developed to take action in her life – authentic, aligned and inspired action.

Question #5: How has spirituality played apart in your up-level?

Discussed under question 3.

Thank you for being with me today. If you’d like to connect with me further, contact information is…. Also you can find my information in the episode.

This episode was recorded as I had an urge to channel and call forward my Soul Clients and Tribe. I grabbed my computer, popped open zoom and started to channel this prayer for myself and for you. I hope you enjoy...

I'm experiencing a "Gathering of the Light." 

I'm being called to commune with other Lightworkers, Healers and Coaches...

Guest Feature...

Dr Sally Graddon is an ex-unhappy doctor turned joyful Empowerment and Self-Discovery Coach and Shamanic Practitioner! After spending 20+ years working towards achieving her goals, she had a profound realization that it wasn’t the life she wanted to lead. She walked away from medicine and embarked on a long journey of self-discovery and healing, reclaiming her power.

Question #1: What’s the importance of spirituality in medicine?

Medicine is vitally important and saves lives, but without spirituality, medicine isn’t whole - it’s been split.  Spirituality provides balance. We are spiritual beings, not just a series of chemical reactions, and all too often that is ignored by modern western medicine. We are capable of healing ourselves in ways we don’t yet understand and it’s short-sighted to overlook that. It can walk alongside science and both can benefit.

Question #2: How did shamanism become part of your path?

I left medicine 12 years ago and lost my identity at the same time. After I had my second daughter, I realized that I’d simply replace my identity of ‘doctor’ with ‘mother’ and had no idea who I really was. I went on a long(!) journey of learning to love myself, self-discovery and self-forgiveness. I became a life coach and later heard someone speaking about Shamanism. It was a remembering - I knew what she said to be true and it touched my soul. She became my mentor and I embarked upon a Shamanic Apprenticeship with her. Shamanism is a part of who I am at my very core, and, as a result, my everyday life and work.

Question #3: How do you teach the application of shamanism to helpers and healers at your retreats?

I offer my clients choices - I teach them tools, practices and rituals and invite them to explore, practice and deepen their relationship with each. I encourage them to pick and choose the ones that call to them and support them most. From techniques to protect and clear their own energy, grounding practices that keep them centered and present, to releasing blocks, old stories and emotions that are holding them back and calling parts of themselves home that may have been lost since childhood so that they can be whole and feel safe to be their True Self. I also share rituals such as powerful Fire Ceremonies, and show them how journeying can help them to drop beneath the surface noise of their brain and access their subconscious.

Question #4: What’s your favorite spiritual or shamanic tool to use in your own life?

So many!! Journeying (which I think I forgot to talk about lol!) to find the answers to questions and things I am unable to see. My everyday practice of ‘Sage, sit, breathe’, which brings me in to the present moment and helps me to prepare for my day. Journalling. And simply being in nature and letting her medicine heal my Soul.

Question #5: Share a personal story from you or one of your Clients where it became clear that more spirituality was needed.

Changing your life isn’t about getting more qualifications or polishing your CV, it’s about remembering who you are - stripping away the masks and layers of stories and crap that you have built up around you (or had put there by others), to reveal the REAL YOU underneath. To set him/her free to shine their light into the world.

Contact info:

It's Episode 5...

Welcome and thank you for being with me.

In this episode, I am taking you through the 22 Principles of Spiritual Psychology and providing you some thought-provoking questions so you can try on Spiritual Psychology and apply the principles to your own life. 

1. We are not human beings with Souls; we are Souls having a human experience.

2. The nature of God is love!

3. Direct experience is the process through which belief or faith is transformed into knowing.

4. Since we are all part of God, our nature also is Love, and we have the opportunity to know our Loving nature experientially, here and now.

5. Physical world reality exists for the purpose of spiritual evolution.

6. Spiritual evolution (growth) is a process, not an event.

7. All life is for Learning.

8. An unresolved issue is anything that disturbs your peace.

9. Every time a single person resolves a single issue, angels rejoice and all of humanity moves forward in its evolution.

10. All “becauses” are merely triggers to internal unresolved issues inviting completion.

11. Inner disturbances are themselves a major component of the spiritual curriculum you are here to complete.

12. Unresolved issues are not bad; they are just part of your spiritual curriculum you are here to complete.

13. Personal responsibility is the foundational key that opens the door to Freedom.

14. Nothing outside of you causes your disturbances.

15. You create your future by how you respond to experiences now.

16. How you relate to an issue is the issue, and how you relate to yourself while you are going through the issue is the issue.

17. What you believe determines your experience.

18. A life filled with Acceptance is a life devoid of unnecessary emotional suffering. It’s a life filled with Love.

19. Your primary goal is not to change the school; your primary goal is to graduate.

20. Healing is the application of Loving to the places inside that hurt.

21. Loving, Healing, and Evolving are all the same process.

22. Judgment is self-condemnation. Self-Forgiveness is redemption; and Compassion, Acceptance, Peace and Joy naturally follow.

If you are resonating with these principles and would like to explore these principles further, please join me in the Healing Circle. The Healing Circle will help you clean up your consciousness so you can experience peace, joy and grace inside and out. 

It's Episode 3..

Welcome and thank you for being with me.

In this episode, I will be providing you with a lesson from my Helper Healing Workbook. I’ll be sharing a lesson on Prioritizing Yourself as you and I both know how easy it is to put other people’s needs before your own. 

This episode includes me discussing the benefits of prioritizing yourself and provides you with a short exercise to help you practice prioritizing yourself. 

Guest Feature...

I’m Jim LaPierre.

I help professional healers and helpers overcome past trauma, self-destructive, and self-limiting behavior.

Today, I would like to help you reconnect by…discussing the best kind of hypocrites.

Question #1: What’s the importance of practicing what you preach?

Effectiveness is paramount to all else

Question #2: What are the challenges of practicing what you preach?

What we suggest doesn’t come naturally

Question #3: What’s a paradigm shift or reframe that could help a clinician or helper start to practice what they preach?

Using the Golden Rule in Reverse

Question #4: Share a personal story of a time you noticed you weren’t practicing what you preached and how you course-corrected.

Being a slow learner with a high pain tolerance

Question #5: What are 3 tips or tools you recommend when supporting others in practicing what they preach?

 Accountability, structure, and how to stop telling yourself beautiful lies

Thank you for being with me today. If you’d like to connect with me further, my contact information is…. Also you can find my information on the episode notes. Thank you again.

It's Episode 1...

Welcome and thank you for being with me.

In this episode, I have created an invocation for you to use at the start of your day, to center yourself before or after a session or any other way you see fit to get you connected, sourced and serving from wholeness.

Use this invocation to help you bring your true Self to each and every interaction of the day!

I am a whole helper.

I help from wholeness, wellness and my loving essence.

I’ve been healing my wounds so that I may demonstrate wholeness to others.

It is through my demonstration that I help, heal and advance humanity.

I am able to walk with other’s through their suffering because I have empathy for the human condition.

I know that all that is happening is transpiring for the highest good of all.

I hold in this knowing and become a beacon of light and love for others as they let in more light and love into their own lives.

I am committed to the highest actualization of my Self and those who crass my path.

I release any illusion of responsibility for someone else’s growth or healing.

I support people in breaking through the illusion of victim consciousness and help people co-create a life they love and are proud of.

And I do this by taking great care of my own mind, body and spirit, honoring myself while I lift up others.

I know that my biggest impact on humanity comes from healing myself and serving from wholeness.

I release any other misunderstanding that gets in the way of me loving my Self and serving from my Loving Essence.

Today I will serve from my highest Self.

I will share love, grace and joy with others.

And I will hold the person I am speaking to as resourceful, empowered and fully capable of creating their own solutions.

And if there is anything getting in the way of that experience, I will take full ownership of my own inner work that needs to be done so that I may be my best helping Self always.

And so it is…