39: Getting into the Mental Sweet Spot with Melanie Rushing
An episode of Eating Curveballs for Breakfast - Stacie Mahoe
By Stacie Mahoe
Youth Sports: Inspiration and encouragement for parents. Too often parents are feeling pressure, stress, overwhelm, and tension within their own family. We help you combat that through simple success principles that allow you to fully embrace your child, love them as is, and enjoy the process of helping them reach their biggest goals and wildest dreams. Cheering you on as you take the curves life throws and hit them out of the park!
Sharing some thoughts on the state of youth sports today, what it means for multisport athletes, interesting perspectives I heard shared as well as the questions and thoughts it sparked in my brain. Enjoy! :)
Words lf wisdom that got me thinking. Sharing with you so you can figure out what you need to do to set yourself up for success and make achieving your most important goals inevitable. Good stuff :) StacieMahoe.com, Facebook.com/staciemahoe
Recurring themes that I've seen coming up again and again as I connect with, and talk to, sports parents. Breaking down some misconceptions about the college recruiting journey, a common issue that blocks performance for some athletes, some mindset shifts around these areas. Plus, various ways I'm here to support you through this incredible, but not always easy journey
Wow! What a series. Congrats to FSU! There was history made, there were so many wonderful moments shared, so many wonderful conversations started because of the WCWS. You'll hear about heart, effort, coaching, leadership, pitch calling, Kelly Inouye-Perez's awesome video with tips for coaches and more! Enjoy
Fun chat with Gordon Maclelland from the UK, CEO of WWPIS (Working With Parents in Sport)!
I enjoyed hearing Gordon's perspective on being a sports parent, the experience that sparked the development of the Parents in Sport website, who he feels the greatest influence is in a child's youth sports experience, some tips on what to do when your child makes mistakes and/or doesn't seem to be giving their very best effort, and all kinds of other great concepts for parents to keep in mind as we navigate this competitive world of sports with our children.
Visit Gordon's website at https://www.parentsinsport.co.uk/
Read an interview featuring Coach Matt Lisle and his thoughts on giving athletes permission to fail in order to help them succeed and that sparked the thoughts shared in this episode. Playing to win, playing to not to lose, and how that relates to fear based "motivation" vs the alternative. Kept it short and sweet for this one! Enjoy and also check out the article I'm referencing at https://inside.heja.io/permission-to-fail-how-to-help-young-athletes-succeed-7b5525752e12
I have a 2017 grad and a daughter scheduled to graduate in 2019. Who would've thought that I'd be filling out a FAFSA for a new college student in 2018? My daughter, who graduated last year, and decided to go to work instead of college, now had another chance to possibly get back on the mat and become a collegiate athlete. We shall see where this goes 🙂
Such great discussions and insights shared today on FB on this exact topic. I'm bringing some thoughts here for you to ponder and reflect on as you aim to have a powerfully positive impact in our world :)
Lefty catcher, Olympic Gold Medalist, and NPF Champion, Jenny Topping, joins us for an amazing discussion on ...
- coaching female athletes
- her favorite exercises in the gym
- what it takes to play at the highest level
- fear based coaching and the alternatives
- safe sport and why she feels it's a must for coaches
- rethinking athleticism and the need to be better than everyone else
- empowering the players we lead
- responding positively to mistakes
... and a whole lot of other key concepts that not too many people are talking about in our community.
Jenny is SO spot on with her insights and I am super excited to share our chat with you
Why I loved taking pitches, what I was learning, a simple thing hitters can do to improve their pitch indentification, digging deep into learning processes, developing a FEEL for the game, the thing that disrupts that, and more! Enjoy
When you find yourself in situations you're uncertain about, finding positive self talk statements that you actually believe in can be a bit tricky. Here are some ideas on how to navigate that, plus thoughts on new expeiences, letting yourself dream, sharing goals, and are you using these positively focused concepts in helpful ways? Or are you just making excuses? Hmmmm ... lots to think about as I invite you to do some of the gut checks I've been doing recently :) Enjoy!
Olesya Wilson from Mind Over Body talked with Coach Jenn Starkey about what's going on INSIDE the body of the female athlete. In this episode you'll hear 3 of my takeaways, the question a chiropractor had about all my kids, thoughts on high pressure tactics for high level performance, and a whole bunch more. Enjoy this episode and watch Olesya's whole interview at https://www.facebook.com/coachstacie/posts/10160540279865624 :)
Lessons learned in college. Things to know as you head into it. What it means and what to do when you find yourself firmly outside of your comfort zone and/or things arent going the way you want. What happened when I missed a bunch of ground balls in practice one day, and more. Enjoy!
The reminder life gave me about gratitude. Thoughts on trying, failing, learning, when the take chances, when to play smart, your attitude about all that and the effect it has on your team AND, possibly, your coaches decisions on whether or not to play you :)
Get some additonal insights sparked by a conversation with Coach Christen and Coach Jenn. Thoughts on fear, trust, developing confidence, and some truth about leadership inspired by Wayne Goldsmith and his book, "Leading Without Leading."
Fun chat with Rene Longoria from Gameday Coffee which is a company that promotes positive, encouraging connection within families. They believe that conversations of courage can take place over a simple cup of coffee on the day of a game, match, performance, recital or meet.
In this episode, we touch upon why Gameday coffee got started, Muhammad Ali, karate, the concept of TIME and how much we really have (or don't), family matters, fathers and the staggering statistic that moved Rene and is a big part of his WHY for being involved with the mission at Gameday Coffee. We talked about getting through the tough stuff of life, the importance of connection within families, the curveball business threw at Rene, why a law firm wanted to partner with Gameday Coffee, and quite a bit more. I know this all sounds very serious, but we actually laughed quite a bit in this episode. I hope you do too!
Ken Olsen from Fastpitch NW talks college recruiting. He shares some insights on what student-athletes and parents need to keep in mind as they go through this experience, the biggest mistakes he sees families making, what coaches are looking for outside of the basics of skill and grades, advice for players who really want to play in college, but aren't getting much attention yet, and more. Enjoy!
Visit Fastpitch NW online at FastpitchNW.com
Hot topic of the month is college recruiting, especially with what's going on with NCAA rules and regulations. Thoughts on exposure and pressure in our world of youtg sports and how WE can help our athlete(s) through it, that's what's in this episode for you :)
Two things that are greatly underestimated and underrated in our society are joy and play. This comes on the heels of our FB LIVE interview with Coach Reed Maltbie from Changing the Game Project. I just wanted to highlight a few things that came up in that interview as well as dive a little deeper into a couple key concepts, like that one of CONNECTION. In this episode, you'll find out what some of the missing pieces may be when it comes to building that connection we need to be effective leaders in their lives as well as some thoughts that can help you maximize the value of play and joy in this journey of sports and life.
Athlete's attitudes aren't the only ones that matter. In this episode, we talk about some common sports parent pitfalls, how to avoid them, and what one of your greatest assets is as a parent. Are you making the most of this super power? Find out in this episode :)
It's not just winnkng efforts that inspire. This weekend, I was actually inspired by a losing situation, and not just a loss, but a mercy rule loss. That might sound strange, but I think you'll understand once you hear why. Plus, you'll get to hear about a new addition to our family (that I honestly was trying to avoid) and how this new addition is growing on me :)
It's Thursday, but the universe seems to think it's curveballs galore day. Even my recording of this episode had an unexpected interruption which you'll hear about. Plus, a few tips on what to do and what not to do when a plethora of curveballs come your way all in one day. Happy Thursday!
The one simple filter that can help you make solid choices and impact your team, or your child, in positive ways. How adults often get this twisted. And some thoughts to consider on overcoming adversity and struggle. Enjoy!
What's Wonderful Wednesday: one day late. This is what happens when uou do everything except press the "publish" button. *eek* I hope you enjoy the invitation for you in this episode and the words on encouragement dealing with less than ideal circumstances. How are you responding when things don't go the way you want? And what's the impact that makes on your child/team?
Reminders that came up for me on this fine Monday. How you can be more solution oriented rathee than going down the rabbit hole of worry and problems and fear and negativity. You'll hear how one word can help change that. Plus, hear some words of encouragement about your gifts, the value of using them, and the issue some athletes run into when it comes to what they're great at :)
There had been a LOT said about participation trophies and 8th place ribbons, but THIS side of the issue rarely gets attention.
For further consideration, check out the blog post published way back in 2015 on this very same issue: http://staciemahoe.com/2015/08/19/participation-trophies-are-not-the-problem/
Feel free to leave a comment there with your thoughts :)
Always fun and energetic, Melanie Rushing joins us for a chat on how to improve your mental game for optimal performance on and off the field.
Melanie gives us the some simple ways to improve your mental game and her favorite tools any athlete can start using TODAY.
We also get to hear about her experiences in sports and as well as and what she felt was the missing piece all the way up until her junior year in college! She tells us about how she got on the mental game train, the books she recommends to athletes, what she was studying before she got her Masters in Sports Psychology (it wasn't even regular psychology!), and a challenging experience she's been through recently.
For additional mental training resources and to connect with Melanie online visit https://www.mentalsweetspot.com/
Join her free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/mentalsweetspotcoaches/
Watch her videos on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCtTFTAt5yfnq6Odlfr4
Ahhh, what an amazing conversation with 3x Olympic Gold Medalist, sports mom, ESPN Analyst, and Christian Athlete, Leah O'brien Amico!
Learn about her journey in fastpitch softball from how it all started to getting recruited for college to competing in the Olympics to sharing her skills and knowledge with young players now. I asked Leah what she loved most about playing (including favorite position and favorite spot to hit in the lineup). So you'll get to hear that :)
We even jumped into family, how she met her husband, how she became a woman of faith, what she both loves, and finds challenging about being a mom of 3 boys, and so much more!
This episode is jam packed with fun stories, great lessons, and Leah's contagious energy. Enjoy
Join us for a chat with Val Selby who is a former athlete, sports mom to grown children, track coach, fire wife, and business owner. We cover all kinds of ground in this episode!
We dove into the challenges and joys of being a sports mom, things she would have done differently, the biggest challenges she faced (including injury to her child), the adjustment to being a coach, dealing with multi-sport athletes on a team, what it's like to be a fire wife, how Val supports other fire wives in her business, and more!
Fun episode on this Happy Aloha Friday (aka Just for Fun Friday). We always talk about how lessons in softball apply to life, right?
Well, in this episode you'll hear about how a friend and I came up with "rules" for dating based upon softball. We refer to them as the Diamond Dating Rules.
Granted, you may not need these for yourself, but you may have children that are at the age where they're beginning to get into relationships. While these may not really be the "rules" you set for them, it could be a fun way to break the ice for a conversation on the topic and/or a lighthearted way to remind them of important things to consider along the way :)
Great question about body language and attitude came in to the FB page. Hear thoughts on this aspect of the game and what to do about it in this episode of the podcast. Find out where we sometimes go wrong as adults leading our children/team and some ideas on what we can do instead. Enjoy!
Confidence coach to Olympic athletes, Christen Shefchunas, talks about fear, failure, parents' impact on confidence, a tool an Olympic swimmer used to combat fear on the biggest stage of her life and more. I had so much fun doing this interview, enjoy!
Facebook post this week revealed something I didn't know and another one delivered a short and sweet, but powerful message on something you need to do if you want to be successful. Straight talk from a mentor of mine that I appreciate so much that I am passing along to you today. Enjoy
We're talking with Ian Jones, founder of Top Recruit. You get a peek into how Top Recruit came about, some of the early struggles the company faced, as well as where they're headed. Plus, Ian shares some really cool insights from his experiences as a kid, as an athlete, in the world of college recruiting, and in business.
There's lots of talk about early specialization, but there seems to be some confusion about how that actually looks and what the real issues are. Some families are still going down the early specialization road. Others are going in the opposite direction. Neither end seems to grasp the concept. This episode includes additional thoughts on each end of the spectrum as well as ideas to keep in mind as you're going through this journey with your children and trying to figure out the "right way" to do this. Don't overcomplicate it :)
Real talk: feeling frustrated and irritated with other people and what helped me in this most recent incident when I was feeling annoyed because other people just don't "get it!" This curveball doesn't have to ruin the rest of your day!
Super fun chat with sports mom Joy Acaso, who is a parent/child relationship expert here to help us strengthen and build our relationship with our child. We talk about WHY this is important, various ways we inadvertently break down our relationships, and ways we can do better :)
W00t! Hot topic! When can kids start lifting weights? In this episode, you will hear about some factors that many don't think to consider when they ask me how old our kids are as a way to determine whether or not their child is "old enough" to start lifting :)
Quoting Napoleon Hill in this episode and sharing stories of disadvantages turned into advantages. Is there evidence of this in your life that you can think of? Is there a situation in which you're feeling discouraged or frustrated? This episode of hope is for you :)
Great athletes often go above and beyond what’s required at practice and competition. Most are putting in extra training on their own time. In this episode, you’ll hear thoughts on how to maximize that extra training and get the most out of it in a way that’s less stressful and more enjoyable for both parents and athletes. Enjoy!
Great conversation with sports mom, teacher, and business owner Georgia Pinto. She talks about positivity and growth mindset while sharing the biggest curve ball life's thrown at her. Georgia talks about both the toughest and most valuable parts of that major curveball. Plus, she tells us about the best part of running her wine business amidst being a mom of many hats. TONS of great insights shared in this meet up, so much that we went well beyond our original 30 minute plan! Enjoy
Welcome to the first ever Monday MashUp episode with clips on various topics. In this one, you'll hear about my curveball of the day, when officials make bad calls, and the thing that most athletes (and parents) are overlooking. Enjoy!
“You’re so lucky!” Have you ever had anyone say that about you or your child? This is both fine by me and frustrating to me all at once lol. In this episode, you’ll hear some thoughts on this “you’re so lucky” mentality, how it’s an advantage to you when someone else has it, how it’s holding you back if you have it, and the truth about most of us when it comes to this line of thought :)
Find out how you can make a positive impression on coaches in ways that don't depend on your sports skill or physical talent ot strength or speed. Listen in for "non-sports-skill" ways to set yourself apart and stand out in a crowd ❤️
Hey Sports Moms! Something a little different for you in this episode. It's a mix of a few short audios on making adjustments, rain, peace & quiet, unexpected wrinkles, live stream request denied, and having a child who makes mistakes. Have fun with this one. Let me know how you like the mix and matched format :)
There’s a massive misconception about having to do things you don’t like doing. We tend to take this concept out of context and communicate it in a way that isn’t helpful. In this episode, you’ll find out where we’re focusing on the wrong thing, how we can adjust that focus, as well as the context in which this valuable life lesson really “works.” (quote mentioned in this episode come from the James Altucher podcast)
It’s interesting right? We are always looking for some new strategy or tactic or hack that will help us improve our life or our productivity or our results in some way. And yet, often times, if we just do what’s in this episode, we can make positive changes NOW. Listen in to find out the simplest, totally doable way to uplevel your life, or your performance as an athlete, immediately :)
Hey Sports Mom! Have you ever felt like every decision you make has so much riding on it? Or that every “win” or “loss” your child experiences has your emotions on a roller coaster? If the pressure of this journey has ever weighed heavily on your mind, this episode is for you ❤️
When it comes to competitive athletics there seems to be a disconnect on a very important element. If you’re striving for peak performance or want your children to be able to compete at a high level, this is a must listen.
Kathy Feinstein, host of the Parenting Peak Performers podcast, stops by the drop some knowledge bombs for sports parents. Kathy is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor and a Certified Sport Performance Consultant. She shares awesome tips for helping your child grow into their very best. We talk about knowing when to push and when to back off, red flags for sports parents to look out for, and mistakes we learned valuable lessons from so that you can steer clear of common pitfalls as you go through this amazing youth sports journey with your children ❤️
Recently, I’ve been hearing lots of moms express concern over their child’s struggle as they transition into a new season of life. Maybe it’s new team, or a new level of competition that’s has disrupted the status quo. This can leave both parent and child feeling frustrated, worried, and uncertain. I wanted to offer some words of hope and encouragement for times such as this ❤️
Aloha Sports Mom! In this episode I share a massive mistake I made as a mom. It’s one that added stress and pressure to my life while also creating unnecessary tension between myself and my own children (who I love very much) which brought more grief into my life. I also share how things are different now and the shift that made it happen ❤️
Aloha Sports Moms! Self care is a hot topic right now, especially for women and, even more so for moms. But here is why I’m not really into “self care” and what I AM more interesting in and working on instead. I’d LOVE to hear your thoughts! Message me at facebook.com/coachstacie or email firstname.lastname@example.org OR just tweet me @staciemahoe :)
Introducing 3 amazing women and the support thy provide that I am so grateful this morning. Every single one of these ladies and their services are dedicated to YOU sports mom. Meet Janis, Beth, and Shaki and find out where you can connect with all of us for real life support, encouragement, and inspiration every single day!