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By Erick Cloward
"Act on your principles, not your moods."
A weekly meditation on how Stoic principles can help you be a better human.
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161 - Better Than You?
Better than you? We are always comparing ourselves to others. It is the ego’s way of feeling like the self-image that is is a good one. We want to feel like we are “doing it right”. Often this means that we compare ourselves with others, making sure that we appear or at least feel like we are “better” than they are. But what does that really mean? Why are we better? Who is the judge of what is better? Can we just look at someone else and see that they are the same just that they’ve made different choices? Anthony De Mello in the book Awareness, said: “Someone once had a terribly beautiful thing to say about Jesus. This person wasn’t even Christian. He said, “The lovely thing about Jesus was that he was so at home with sinners, because he understood that he wasn’t one bit better than they were.” We differ from others—from criminals, for example—only in what we do or don’t do, not in what we are. The only difference between Jesus and those others was that he was awake and they weren’t.” In today's episode, we're going to talk a bit about comparison, how it keeps us from compassion, and a simple strategy to move past it. You can read more about these ideas in the fantastic book, Awareness: The Perils and Opportunities of Reality, by Anthony De Mello.
06:57
February 18, 2019
160 - I, Me, and Enlightenment
What if you were able to look at the world and yourself more objectively? What if you could see things without so much judgment or emotion attached? In today's episode, we talk about a basic concept about the self from Anthony De Mello that can help us act in a more objective and less reactive manner. You can read more about this idea in the fantastic book, Awareness: The Perils and Opportunities of Reality, by Anthony De Mello.  
08:14
February 13, 2019
159 - It's About Time
“It is not that we have a short time to live, but that we waste a lot of it...Life is long if you know how to use it.” — Seneca Time is the most important, the most in-demand resource that we have in life. Are you spending yours wisely or do you let it go to waste?
12:33
December 17, 2018
157 - Don't Feed the Trolls
“When someone criticizes you, they do so because they believe they are right. They can only go by their views, not yours. If their views are wrong, it is they who will suffer the consequences. Keeping this in mind, treat your critics with compassion. When you are tempted to get back at them, remind yourself, ‘They did what seemed to them to be the right thing to do.’” — Epictetus One of the hazards of being alive is the fact that we’re never going to please everyone. We’re going to have people that will not like what we do. People are going to criticize whatever it is we’re doing. And in the 21st century, this is nowhere more apparent than in social media. This weeks episode is about how to be your best online.
08:31
December 3, 2018
156 - What Could Possibly Go Wrong?
“How ridiculous and how strange to be surprised at anything which happens in life” — Marcus Aurelius What could possibly go wrong? I think one of the biggest mistakes that we as humans make is that we are far too optimistic about how something we’re planning might go. In doing so we often fool ourselves into believing that it will work as planned, and overlook what could go wrong. In this weeks episode, we’ll discuss how we can take steps to avoid the blind spots that can easily derail us.
11:53
November 26, 2018
155 - Interview with Jeff Emtman of Here Be Monsters
This weeks episode is an interview with Jeff Emtman from the Here Be Monsters podcast. This is my first time interviewing someone, and Jeff is a very interesting and thoughtful guest. We talk about life challenges, creative challenges, and what it's like to drag main. You can find Jeff's podcast at https://www.hbmpodcast.com. It is strange, mysterious, and at times very touching. ---- Hey friends, thanks for listening to the podcast. If you like what you hear, I would really appreciate it if you could help support me by making a pledge on Patreon. You can find me at patreon.com/stoiccoffee. Even just a small amount helps in keeping this podcast going. Also, head on over to my website at www.stoic.coffee and sign up for our weekly newsletter. And lastly, if you know of someone that might like or could benefit from this podcast, please share it with them. Word of mouth is one of the best ways to help this podcast grow. Thanks again for listening.
50:13
November 19, 2018
Interview on Memento the Stoics - Santiago Proaño.mp3
I had the good fortune of being interviewed by Santiago Proaño on Memento the Stoics. https://anchor.fm/memento-the-stoics/
1:06:47
November 12, 2018
154 - The Paradox of Change
“The impediment to action advances action. What stands in the way becomes the way.” ― Marcus Aurelius One of the weirdest things about being a human is how we get comfortable with our habits, and resist change, while at the same time we get bored when things stay the same. In this weeks episode will talk about how to deal with the paradox of change.
10:43
November 12, 2018
153 - Hatred of Others
“Whoever does wrong, wrongs himself; whoever does injustice, does it to himself, making himself evil.” ― Marcus Aurelius, Meditations Are you disturbed by the political landscape that has changed so rapidly over the last 4 years? As more and more authoritarian parties come into power around the world, we see that hatred towards others - immigrants, refugees, women, minorities - seems to be at an all-time high. In these troubled times, we need to take a look at ourselves and be sure that we don’t fall into the trap of hatred and blaming others for the disappointments in our lives.
15:53
November 6, 2018
152 - Vulnerability and the Real You
“Because true belonging only happens when we present our authentic, imperfect selves to the world, our sense of belonging can never be greater than our level of self-acceptance.”  ― Brené Brown Why is it hard for us to be vulnerable, especially when it comes to those we care about the most? Partners, children, family, close friends - if these are the people we are the closest to why would be afraid to be ourselves around them? In this weeks episode we’ll talk about vulnerability and the real you.
10:33
October 29, 2018
151 - To Be Unshaken
"...what you desire is something great and supreme and very near to being a god — to be unshaken. " — Seneca “I may be sincere, but never serious, because I don’t think the universe is serious.” — Allen Watts Do you struggle to live up to your principles? Do feel like when you make a mistake that all your efforts were not worth it? In this weeks episode, we’re going to talk about how to approach mistakes in a much more helpful way. Hey friends, thanks for listening to the podcast. If you like what you hear, I would really appreciate it if you could help support me by making a pledge on Patreon. You can find me at patreon.com/stoiccoffee. Even just a small amount helps in keeping this podcast going. Also, head on over to my website at www.stoic.coffee and sign up for our weekly newsletter. And lastly, if you know of someone that might like or could benefit from this podcast, please share it with them. Word of mouth is one of the best ways to help this podcast grow. Thanks again for listening.
09:57
October 22, 2018
150 - The Un-Pursuit of Happiness
“The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.” — Emerson Do you struggle to find happiness within yourself? Do you despair every time you watch the news? In today’s episode, we’re going to talk about how to get over this despair and how pursuing happiness may not be the best to actually finding happiness. Hey friends, thanks for listening to the podcast. If you like what you hear, I would really appreciate it if you could help support me by making a pledge on Patreon. You can find me at patreon.com/stoiccoffee. Even just a small amount helps in keeping this podcast going. Also, head on over to my website at www.stoic.coffee and sign up for our weekly newsletter. And lastly, if you know of someone that might like or could benefit from this podcast, please share it with them. Word of mouth is one of the best ways to help this podcast grow. Thanks again for listening.
11:40
October 15, 2018
149 - The Vocabulary of Anger
Dealing with strong emotions in life is something that all of us have to do. But in order for us to actually deal with these different emotions that we have, we need to be sure what we're actually feeling. Expanding our emotional vocabulary gives us the words to be able to really identify what it is that we're feeling and then respond appropriately.
10:09
October 8, 2018
148 - Comparison and Self Judgment
“Your potential, the absolute best you’re capable of — that’s the metric to measure yourself against. Your standards are. Winning is not enough. People can get lucky and win. People can be assholes and win. Anyone can win. But not everyone is the best possible version of themselves.” ― Ryan Holiday, How often do we compare ourselves with others? Why do you we get down on ourselves when someone is better than us at something? This weeks episode is about comparison, and how to get past the need to compare ourselves with others, and change the inner critic. Find more at: https://stoic.coffee
08:29
October 1, 2018
Look Within
“Dig within. Within is the wellspring of Good; and it is always ready to bubble up, if you just dig. ― Marcus Aurelius, Meditations How often do we look outside of ourselves to know what to do? How often do we doubt ourselves and look to others to find a solution to a problem? How often do we seek the opinions of others to feel like we’re on the right path? This weeks episode is about learning how to find the wisdom in yourself. http://stoic.coffee/blog/look-within/
08:35
September 24, 2018
Fear is the Killer
“There are more things likely to frighten us than there are to crush us; we suffer more often in imagination than in reality.” — Seneca (Letters from a Stoic - Letter XIII: On Groundless Fears) How many great things have never happened because of fear? How many times did you give up on a dream because of fear? This weeks episode, we’re going to talk about fear, what it is, what it does, and how to move past it.
13:49
September 17, 2018
145 - Hold True
How do you remain true to the aspirations you have? How do you not let other people’s opinions sway you from you principles? This weeks episode is about finding your values and holding true. “Attach yourself to what is spiritually superior, regardless of what other people think or do. Hold to your true aspirations no matter what is going on around you.” ― Epictetus How do you remain true to the aspirations you have? How do you not let other people’s opinions sway you from your principles? This weeks episode is about finding your values and holding true.
06:50
September 11, 2018
144 - Emotional Management
“What really frightens and dismays us is not external events themselves, but the way in which we think about them. It is not things that disturb us, but our interpretation of their significance.”  ― Epictetus When was the last time that you felt a really strong emotion? What was that emotion? Gratitude? Joy? Anger? Jealousy? Emotions are a powerful force in our lives. When channeled properly, they can be the fuel that helps push us through to accomplishing what we want. They can also drive us in ways that we aren’t expecting or don’t want.
10:38
September 3, 2018
143 - The Quality of Your Thoughts
“The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts: therefore, guard accordingly, and take care that you entertain no notions unsuitable to virtue and reasonable nature.” ― Marcus Aurelius, Meditations As human beings, we have an amazing gift - the ability to be conscious of our own thinking. How are you taking advantage of this gift? When we are unaware of the thoughts running through our head, we are relinquishing control of our mind to the old habits and patterns that we have created in our lives and letting ourselves run on autopilot.
08:25
August 27, 2018
142 - Reject the Injury
“Reject your sense of injury and the injury itself disappears.” ― Marcus Aurelius Why do we feel a sense of injury when disagrees with us? Why do we feel hurt when someone tells us we are wrong? In this week’s episode we’re going to talk why were worry so much about what others think of us and how to learn to deal with our ego.
09:39
August 20, 2018
141 - Motivation and Willpower
Do you feel like you have a hard time accomplishing things? Do you feel you lack the motivation to reach your goals? Today, we'll talk about some stoic ideas of accomplishing your goals.
09:06
August 13, 2018
140 - Circumstances Don't Make The Man
“Circumstances don’t make the man, they only reveal him to himself.” – Epictetus How do we deal with difficulties? Do we see them as challenges or opportunities? As something that is to be suffered through, or something that teaches us who we are? I today's episode, we're going to talk about difficult circumstances and how they are the things we should be most grateful for. Help create this podcast. www.patreon.com/stoiccoffee
09:46
August 9, 2018
139 - Judgments
“We are not privy to the stories behind people’s actions, so we should be patient with others and suspend judgment of them, recognizing the limits of our understanding.” – Epictetus
12:31
August 6, 2018
138 - The Greatest Obstacle to Living
“Putting things off is the biggest waste of life: it snatches away each day as it comes, and denies us the present by promising the future. The greatest obstacle to living is expectancy, which hangs upon tomorrow, and loses today. You are arranging what lies in Fortune's control, and abandoning what lies in yours. What are you looking at? To what goal are you straining? The whole future lies in uncertainty: live immediately.” Seneca
12:11
July 30, 2018
137 - Worthy of Your Potential
“Tentative efforts lead to tentative outcomes. Therefore, give yourself fully to your endeavors. Decide to construct your character through excellent actions and determine to pay the price of a worthy goal. The trials you encounter will introduce you to your strengths. Remain steadfast...and one day you will build something that endures: something worthy of your potential.” ― Epictetus
04:53
May 29, 2018
136 - The Scent of a Good Man
“The honest and good man ought to be exactly like a man who smells strong, so that the bystander, as soon as he comes near him, must smell him whether he chooses or not.” ― Marcus Aurelius
03:01
May 24, 2018
135 - No Easy Thing
"You must know that it is no easy thing for a principle to become a man’s own, unless each day he maintain it and hear it maintained, as well as work it out in life.” – Epictetus
03:48
May 23, 2018
134 - A Wise Man
“He is a wise man who does not grieve for the things which he has not, but rejoices for those which he has. ” ― Epictetus
03:39
May 22, 2018
133 - A Momentary Loss of Attention
“Very little is needed for everything to be upset and ruined, only a slight lapse in reason. it’s much easier for a mariner to wreck his ship than it is for him to keep it sailing safely; all he has to do is head a little more upwind and disaster is instantaneous. In fact, he does not have to do anything: a momentary loss of attention will produce the same result. It’s much the same in our case. If you doze off, all your progress up to that point will be negated. To keep a sharp eye on your impressions, and never fall asleep. It is no small thing that is being watched over, it equates” — Epictetus
03:56
May 21, 2018
132 - Anything Can Happen
“How ridiculous and unrealistic is the man who is astonished at anything that happens in life.” ― Marcus Aurelius, Meditations Book 12 http://stoic.coffee/blog/132-anything-can-happen/
03:56
May 20, 2018
131 - Say What You Mean
“First learn the meaning of what you say, and then speak.” ― Epictetus
04:36
May 19, 2018
130 – Suffering Before It’s Time
“He suffers more than necessary, who suffers before it is necessary.” ― Seneca
03:44
May 18, 2018
129 - Opinions and Perspective
“Everything we hear is an opinion, not a fact. Everything we see is a perspective, not the truth.” ― Marcus Aurelius
04:53
May 17, 2018
128 - Good Luck, Bad Luck, Who Knows?
Man is affected, not by events, but by the view he takes of them.” — Epictetus
05:01
May 16, 2018
127 - Laugh In the Face Of Evil
“If evil be said of thee, and if it be true, correct thyself; if it be a lie, laugh at it.” ― Epictetus
04:07
May 15, 2018
126 - Admonition
“To admonish is better than to reproach for admonition is mild and friendly, but reproach is harsh and insulting; and admonition corrects those who are doing wrong, but reproach only convicts them.” ― Epictetus
05:48
May 14, 2018
125 - Little By Little
“Well-being is attained little by little, and nevertheless is no little thing itself.” ― Zeno of Citium
05:53
May 13, 2018
124 - Stuff
“Until we have begun to go without them, we fail to realize how unnecessary many things are. We've been using them not because we needed them but because we had them.” ― Seneca
04:19
May 12, 2018
123 - A Different Person
“If you really want to escape the things that harass you, what you’re needing is not to be in a different place but to be a different person.” ― Seneca
03:45
May 11, 2018
122 - Contagious Thoughts
“Other people's views and troubles can be contagious. Don't sabotage yourself by unwittingly adopting negative, unproductive attitudes through your associations with others.” ― Epictetus
05:41
May 10, 2018
121 - Anger If Not Restrained...
“Anger, if not restrained, is frequently more hurtful to us than the injury that provokes it.” ― Seneca
05:04
May 9, 2018
120 - Are You Lucky?
“Luck is what happens when preparation meets opportunity.” ― Seneca
05:11
May 8, 2018
119 - Who is Your Master?
“Any person capable of angering you becomes your master; he can anger you only when you permit yourself to be disturbed by him.” ― Epictetus
03:29
May 7, 2018
118 - Contentment and Desire
“True happiness is to enjoy the present, without anxious dependence upon the future, not to amuse ourselves with either hopes or fears but to rest satisfied with what we have, which is sufficient, for he that is so wants nothing. The greatest blessings of mankind are within us and within our reach. A wise man is content with his lot, whatever it may be, without wishing for what he has not.” ― Seneca
03:57
May 6, 2018
117 - Do Good of Your Own Accord
“Even as the Sun does not wait for prayers and incantations to rise, but shines forth and is welcomed by all: so should you not wait for clapping of hands and shouts and praise to do your duty; nay, do good of your own accord, and you will be loved like the Sun.” ― Epictetus
03:47
May 5, 2018
116 - A Good Tale
“As is a tale, so is life: not how long it is, but how good it is, is what matters.” ― Seneca
02:49
May 4, 2018
115 - No Opinion
“You always own the option of having no opinion. There is never any need to get worked up or to trouble your soul about things you can’t control. These things are not asking to be judged by you. Leave them alone.” ― Marcus Aurelius
02:37
May 3, 2018
114 - Find Your Tribe
“The key is to keep company only with people who uplift you, whose presence calls forth your best.” — Epictetus
04:36
May 2, 2018
113 - Plenty To Laugh At
“He who laughs at himself never runs out of things to laugh at.” ― Epictetus
03:50
May 1, 2018
112 - Anger Always Outlasts Hurt
“How much better to heal than seek revenge from injury. Vengeance wastes a lot of time and exposes you to many more injuries than the first that sparked it. Anger always outlasts hurt. Best to take the opposite course. Would anyone think it normal to return a kick to a mule or a bite to a dog?” — Seneca
06:08
April 30, 2018
111 - One Tongue, Two Ears
“Nature hath given men one tongue but two ears, that we may hear from others twice as much as we speak.” — Epictetus
03:38
April 29, 2018
110 - Daily Progress
“Progress is not achieved by luck or accident, but by working on yourself daily.” — Epictetus
03:51
April 28, 2018
109 - Reject The injury
“Remember, it is not enough to be hit or insulted to be harmed, you must believe that you are being harmed. If someone succeeds in provoking you, realize that your mind is complicit in the provocation. Which is why it is essential that we not respond impulsively to impressions; take a moment before reacting, and you will find it easier to maintain control.” ― Epictetus
03:33
April 27, 2018
108 - Opinion Of The Self
“I have often wondered how it is that every man loves himself more than all the rest of men, but yet sets less value on his own opinion of himself than on the opinion of others.” — Marcus Aurelius
03:41
April 26, 2018
107 - Tranquility Within Your Realm
“It is in your power to withdraw yourself whenever you desire. Perfect tranquility within consists in the good ordering of the mind, the realm of your own.” ― Marcus Aurelius
03:50
April 25, 2018
106 - Never Beginning To Live
“It is not death that a man should fear, but he should fear never beginning to live.” ― Marcus Aurelius
03:39
April 24, 2018
105 - Bring Pain to Your Enemy
“Epictetus being asked how a man should give pain to his enemy answered, By preparing himself to live the best life that he can.” — Marcus Aurelius
02:27
April 23, 2018
104 - The Greater The Difficulty
“The greater the difficulty, the more glory in surmounting it. Skillful pilots gain their reputation from storms and tempests.” ― Epictetus
03:11
April 22, 2018
103 - With All Your Heart
“Accept the things to which fate binds you, and love the people with whom fate brings you together, but do so with all your heart.” ― Marcus Aurelius
04:34
April 21, 2018
102 - As You See Yourself
“It is unrealistic to expect people to see you as you see yourself.” ― Epictetus
02:52
April 20, 2018
101 - Mindless Pap
“Most of what passes for legitimate entertainment is inferior or foolish and only caters to or exploits people's weaknesses. Avoid being one of the mob who indulges in such pastimes. Your life is too short and you have important things to do. Be discriminating about what images and ideas you permit into your mind. If you yourself don't choose what thoughts and images you expose yourself to, someone else will, and their motives may not be the highest. It is the easiest thing in the world to slide imperceptibly into vulgarity. But there's no need for that to happen if you determine not to waste your time and attention on mindless pap.” ― Epictetus
05:11
April 19, 2018
100 - Life On Your Own Terms
“Do not try to seem wise to others. If you want to live a wise life, live it on your own terms and in your own eyes.” ― Epictetus
04:15
April 18, 2018
99 - Sparing Partner
“A boxer derives the greatest advantage from his sparring partner – and my accuser is my sparring partner. He trains me in patience, civility and even temper.” — Epictetus
02:38
April 17, 2018
98 - Finding Fault
“Whenever you are about to find fault with someone, ask yourself the following question: What fault of mine most nearly resembles the one I am about to criticize?” — Marcus Aurelius
02:36
April 16, 2018
97 - Only Educated Are Free
“We must not believe the many, who say that only free people ought to be educated, but we should rather believe the philosophers who say that only the educated are free.” — Epictetus
02:13
April 15, 2018
96 - Caretake This Moment
“Caretake this moment. Immerse yourself in its particulars. Respond to this person, this challenge, this deed. Quit the evasions. Stop giving yourself needless trouble. It is time to really live; to fully inhabit the situation you happen to be in now. You are not some disinterested bystander. Participate. Exert yourself.” ― Epictetus
03:29
April 14, 2018
95 - Imagined Anxieties
“Man is not worried by real problems so much as by his imagined anxieties about real problems.” ― Epictetus
02:37
April 13, 2018
94 - Learn to Think Better
“Don't just say you have read books. Show that through them you have learned to think better, to be a more discriminating and reflective person. Books are the training weights of the mind. They are very helpful, but it would be a bad mistake to suppose that one has made progress simply by having internalized their contents." ― Epictetus
03:13
April 12, 2018
93 - The Minds of Others
“Accustom yourself to attend carefully to what is said by another, and as much as it is possible, try to inhabit the speaker’s mind.” — Marcus Aurelius
02:25
April 11, 2018
92 - Out of Tune
"When you have been compelled by circumstances to be disturbed in a manner, quickly return to yourself and do not continue out of tune longer than the compulsion lasts." — Marcus Aurelius
02:32
April 10, 2018
91 - And Yet Happy
“Sick and yet happy, in peril and yet happy, dying and yet happy, in exile and happy, in disgrace and happy.” — Epictetus
02:27
April 9, 2018
90 - Misfortune as Good Fortune
"Remember, too, on every occasion that leads you to vexation to apply this principle: not that this is a misfortune, but that to bear it nobly is good fortune." — Marcus Aurelius
03:07
April 8, 2018
89 - Misfortune Is No Excuse
“So does this misfortune prevent you in any way from being just, generous, sober, reasonable, careful, free from error, courteous, free, etc. – all of which together make human nature complete?” — Epictetus
03:01
April 7, 2018
88 - Lose Your Nose
“If money is your only standard, then consider that, by your lights, someone who loses their nose does not suffer any harm.“ — Epictetus
03:08
April 6, 2018
87 - Process vs. Outcome
“Show me one person who cares how they act, someone for whom success is less important than the manner in which it is achieved. While out walking, who gives any thought to the act of walking itself? Who pays attention to the process of planning, not just the outcome?” — Epictetus
03:08
April 5, 2018
74 - Being Well Received
“Take a lyre player: he’s relaxed when he performs alone, but put him in front of an audience, and it’s a different story, no matter how beautiful his voice or how well he plays the instrument. Why? Because he not only wants to perform well, he wants to be well received – and the latter lies outside his control.“ -Epictetus
03:15
April 4, 2018
86 - Overlook Many Things
"Let us overlook many things in those who are like opponents in the gymnasium. For, as I have said before, it is in our power to get out of the way and to have no suspicion or hatred." — Marcus Aurelius
03:00
April 4, 2018
85 - Everything is Only for a Day
"Everything is only for a day, both that which remembers and that which is remembered." — Marcus Aurelius
02:32
April 3, 2018
84 - Logic and Empathy
“When somebody’s wife or child dies, to a man we all routinely say, ‘Well, that’s part of life.’ But if one of our own family is involved, then right away it’s ‘Poor, poor me!’ We would do better to remember how we react when a similar loss afflicts others.” — Epictetus
02:30
April 2, 2018
83 - The Beginning of Philosophy
"This, then, is the beginning of philosophy – an awareness of one’s own mental fitness." — Epictetus
03:38
April 1, 2018
82 - Radical Responsiblity
“We are responsible for some things, while there are others for which we cannot be held responsible.” — Epictetus
04:35
March 31, 2018
81 - Impressions and Assent of the Will
“Impressions, striking a person’s mind as soon as he perceives something within range of his senses, are not voluntary or subject to his will, they impose themselves on people’s attention almost with a will of their own. But the act of assent which endorses these impressions is voluntary and a function of the human will.” — Epictetus
02:58
March 30, 2018
80 - Bad Neighbor
“I have a bad neighbour – bad, that is, for himself. For me, though, he is good: he exercises my powers of fairness and sociability. “ — Epictetus
02:43
March 29, 2018
79 - Accept the Inevitable
“If we try to adapt our mind to the regular sequence of changes and accept the inevitable with good grace, our life will proceed quite smoothly and harmoniously.” - Epictetus
02:29
March 28, 2018
78 - Deprived of the truth
“[Treat] unenlightened souls with sympathy and indulgence, remembering that they are ignorant or mistaken about what’s most important. Never be harsh, remember Plato’s dictum: ‘Every soul is deprived of the truth against its will.’“ — Epictetus
02:30
March 27, 2018
77 - Habits
“If you like doing something, do it regularly; if you don’t like doing something, make a habit of doing something different. The same goes for moral inclinations. When you get angry, you should know that you aren’t guilty of an isolated lapse, you’ve encouraged a trend and thrown fuel on the fire.” — Epictetus
02:39
March 26, 2018
76 - Action
"If you didn’t learn these things in order to demonstrate them in practice, what did you learn them for?" - Epictetus
02:57
March 25, 2018
75 - Be a Guide
“When a guide meets up with someone who is lost, ordinarily his reaction is to direct him on the right path, not mock or malign him, then turn on his heel and walk away. As for you, lead someone to the truth and you will find that he can follow. But as long as you don’t point it out to him, don’t make fun of him; be aware of what you need to work on instead.” -Epictetus
02:48
March 24, 2018
73 - One Fundamental Rule
"Happiness and freedom begin with a clear understanding of one principle: Some things are within our control, and some things are not. It is only after you have faced up to this fundamental rule and learned to distinguish between what you can and can’t control that inner tranquility and outer effectiveness become possible.” – Epictetus
04:09
March 22, 2018
72 - To What End?
“All our efforts must be directed towards an end, or we will act in vain. If it is not the right end, we will fail utterly.” - Epictetus
02:35
March 21, 2018
71 - Strong Mental Health
“People with a strong physical constitution can tolerate extremes of hot and cold; people of strong mental health can handle anger, grief, joy and the other emotions." - Epictetus
03:18
March 20, 2018
70 - A Well Ordered Mind
“Nothing, to my way of thinking, is a better proof of a well ordered mind than a man’s ability to stop just where he is and pass some time in his own company.” ― Seneca
03:05
March 19, 2018
69 - Persist and Resist
“There are two vices much blacker and more serious than the rest: lack of persistence and lack of self-control ... persist and resist.” - Epictetus
03:02
March 19, 2018
68 - Apathy and Superficiality
“So when you hear that even life and the like are indifferent, don’t become apathetic; and by the same token, when you’re advised to care about them, don’t become superficial and conceive a passion for externals.” - Epictetus
02:48
March 17, 2018
67 - The Neutrality of Circumstances
"Where does the good lie? ‘In the will.’ And evil? ‘Also in the will.’ And things neither good nor bad – ‘... lie in whatever is external to the will.’" - Epictetus
03:00
March 16, 2018
66 - Change
“Is any man afraid of change? What can take place without change? What then is more pleasing or more suitable to the universal nature? And can you take a hot bath unless the wood for the fire undergoes a change? And can you be nourished unless the food undergoes a change? And can anything else that is useful be accomplished without change? Do you not see then that for yourself also to change is just the same, and equally necessary for the universal nature?” - Marcus Aurelius
03:52
March 15, 2018
65 - Self Illusion
“What illusion about myself do I entertain?” - Epictetus
04:21
March 14, 2018
64 - Who Do You Want To Be?
“Settle on the type of person you want to be and stick to it, whether alone or in company. “ - Epictetus
02:45
March 13, 2018
63 - Giving Away Your Control
“The more we value things outside our control, the less control we have.” - Epictetus
02:09
March 12, 2018
62 - Reason (Just the Facts)
“For what does reason purport to do? ‘Establish what is true, eliminate what is false and suspend judgement in doubtful cases.’ ... What else does reason prescribe? ‘To accept the consequence of what has been admitted to be correct.’“ - Epictetus
03:44
March 12, 2018
61 - A Science to Living Well
“What makes for freedom and fluency in the practice of writing? Knowledge of how to write. The same goes for the practice of playing an instrument. It follows that, in the conduct of life, there must be a science to living well.” - Epictetus
02:58
March 10, 2018
60 - Strong Impressions
“So make a practice at once of saying to every strong impression: ‘An impression is all you are, not the source of the impression.’ Then test and assess it with your criteria, but one primarily: ask, ‘Is this something that is, or is not, in my control?’” - Epictetus
03:24
March 10, 2018
59 - Dealing with Gossip
“If you learn that someone is speaking ill of you, don’t try to defend yourself against the rumours; respond instead with, ‘Yes, and he doesn’t know the half of it, because he could have said more.’” - Epictetus
02:31
March 8, 2018
58 - Open to Change
"If any man is able to convince me and show me that I do not think or act right, I will gladly change; for I seek the truth by which no man was ever injured. But he is injured who abides in his error and ignorance. " - Marcus Aurelius
03:13
March 7, 2018
57 - Eliminating Desire
“People to whom such things are still denied come to imagine that everything good will be theirs if only they could acquire them. Then they get them: and their longing is unchanged, their anxiety is unchanged, their disgust is no less, and they still long for whatever is lacking. Freedom is not achieved by satisfying desire, but by eliminating it.” - Epictetus
03:28
March 6, 2018
56 - Falling Short
“Do not be disgusted, discouraged, or dissatisfied if you do not succeed in doing everything according to right principles; but when you have failed, return again, and be content if the greater part of what you do is consistent with man’s nature. “ - Marcus Aurelius
04:09
March 5, 2018
55 - How to Talk About Yourself
“In your conversation, don’t dwell at excessive length on your own deeds or adventures. Just because you enjoy recounting your exploits doesn’t mean that others derive the same pleasure from hearing about them.” - Epictetus
03:15
March 4, 2018
54 - Nature of Humans
"To care for all men is according to man’s nature; and man should value the opinion only of those who openly live according to nature. " - Marcus Aurelius
03:10
March 4, 2018
53 - Compassion for Your Critics
“When someone criticizes you, they do so because they believe they are right. They can only go by their views, not yours. If their views are wrong, it is they who will suffer the consequences. Keeping this in mind, treat your critics with compassion. When you are tempted to get back at them, remind yourself, ‘They did what seemed to them to be the right thing to do.’” - Epictetus
01:57
March 2, 2018
52 - Contemplate
"Acquire the contemplative way of seeing how all things change into one another, and constantly attend to it, and exercise yourself in this part of philosophy. For nothing is so well suited to produce magnanimity." - Marcus Aurelius
02:24
March 1, 2018
51- Judge Precisely
“If someone bathes quickly, don’t say he doesn’t bathe properly, say he bathes quickly. If someone drinks a lot, don’t say he is a drunk, say he drinks a lot. Unless you know their reasons for their actions how can you be sure of your negative judgment of them? Not judging others too quickly will save you from misperceiving their actions.” - Epictetus
02:53
February 28, 2018
50 - No Need to Envy Others
“When you confine yourself to only those things that are under your control, you cannot be defeated. Don’t be fooled by outward appearances. People with more prestige, power, or some other distinction are not necessarily happier because of what they have. There is no reason to be envious or jealous of anyone. If you lead a rational life, the good lies within you. Our concern should be our freedom, not titles and prestigious positions. The way to freedom is not to be too concerned about things we don’t control.” -Epictetus
02:37
February 27, 2018
49 - Inner Resources
“Remember that for every challenge you face, you have the resources within you to cope with that challenge. If you are inappropriately attracted to someone, you will find you have the resource of self-restraint. When you have pain, you have the resource of endurance. When you are insulted, you have the resource of patience. If you start thinking along these lines, soon you will find that you don’t have a single challenge for which you don’t have the resource to cope.” - Epictetus
03:43
February 26, 2018
48 - Judgments
“If you are pained by any external thing, it is not this thing that disturbs you, but your own judgment about it. And it is in your power to wipe out this judgment now.” - Marcus Aurelius
03:21
February 26, 2018
47 - What is Death?
“He who fears death fears either the loss of sensation or a different kind of sensation. But if you shall have no sensation, neither will you feel any harm; and if you will acquire another kind of sensation, you will be a different kind of living being and you will not cease to live.” - Marcus Aurelius
02:35
February 24, 2018
46 - Be Good Now
“No longer talk at all about the kind of man that a good man ought to be, but be such.” - Marcus Aurelius
01:51
February 24, 2018
45 - Arguing to Stone
"If a man objects to truths that are all too evident, it is no easy task finding arguments that will change his mind. This is proof neither of his own strength nor of his teacher’s weakness. When someone caught in an argument hardens to stone, there is just no more reasoning with them." - Epictetus
01:45
February 22, 2018
44 - A Brief Existence
“A brief existence is common to all things, and yet you avoid and pursue all things as if they would be eternal.” - Marcus Aurelius
02:50
February 21, 2018
43 - Pleasure as Punishment
“Pleasures, when they go beyond a certain limit, are but punishments.” - Seneca
03:43
February 20, 2018
42 - Can’t Escape Yourself
“The man who spends his time choosing one resort after another in a hunt for peace and quiet, will in every place he visits find something to prevent him from relaxing.” - Seneca
02:24
February 19, 2018
41 - Perfectionism
“We abandon our pursuits because we despair of ever perfecting them.” - Epictetus
03:50
February 18, 2018
40 - Miserable by Choice
“It is essential to make oneself used to putting up with a little. Even the wealthy and the well provided are continually met and frustrated by difficult times and situations. It is in no man’s power to have whatever he wants; but he has it in his power not to wish for what he hasn’t got, and cheerfully make the most of the things that do come his way.” - Seneca
03:11
February 17, 2018
39 - Setbacks
“A setback has often cleared the way for greater prosperity. Many things have fallen only to rise to more exalted heights.” - Seneca
02:24
February 16, 2018
38 - Practical Stoicism
“My advice is really this: what we hear the philosophers saying and what we find in their writings should be applied in our pursuit of the happy life. We should hunt out the helpful pieces of teaching, and the spirited and noble-minded sayings which are capable of immediate practical application - not far-fetched or archaic expressions or extravagant metaphors and figures of speech - and learn them so well that words become works.” - Seneca
03:56
February 15, 2018
37 - Tragedy? You Decide!
“What else are tragedies but the ordeals of people who have come to value externals, tricked out in tragic verse?” - Epictetus
02:35
February 14, 2018
36 - Admiration of Lunatics
Who do you seek the approval of? There’s only one person’s approval that matters.
02:17
February 13, 2018
35 - Drama Llama
Is a life with little drama boring or fulfilling?
02:58
February 12, 2018
34 - Blame Game
When something bad happens in your life who’s to blame?
03:08
February 11, 2018
33 - Beginners Mind
Let go of what you know so you can grow.
02:00
February 11, 2018
32 - Growth Takes Time
Learning a principle is easy. Applying it is hard. Growth takes time.
02:41
February 9, 2018
31 - Difficulties
Are life’s difficulties troubles to be avoided or opportunities for you to grow? It’s your choice.
02:28
February 8, 2018
30 - Approval
How do you balance living your true self with seek the approval of others?
03:18
February 7, 2018
29 - Haters
How do you handle haters?
02:01
February 6, 2018
28 - Journaling
Keeping track our progress is key to creating a better life.
02:18
February 5, 2018
27 - Assumptions
How do you let go of your assumptions?
02:51
February 4, 2018
26 - The Best You
Are you being the best version of yourself?
03:02
February 3, 2018
25 - Trust Your Path
Don’t worry about what everyone else is doing. Trust your path.
02:36
February 2, 2018
24 - Difficult People
Never assume a malice when ignorance is more likely.
02:53
February 1, 2018
23 - Role Models
The greatest emperor in Rome had role models. Who are yours?
02:50
January 31, 2018
22 - Gratitude
Can you be grateful for the challenges in your life?
03:52
January 30, 2018
21 - Your Judgements
How you think about things determines how you feel about them.
03:07
January 29, 2018
20 - You Are Not Your Things
You cannot lose what you do not own
02:24
January 29, 2018
19 - Being Stoic
What does it mean to be a stoic?
02:47
January 27, 2018
18 - Being Present
Own every second that this world can give.
02:37
January 26, 2018
17 - Create Your Life
Are you creating a life that is better than death?
02:22
January 25, 2018
16 - Amor Fati: Love your fate
Why we should learn to love our fate.
02:21
January 25, 2018
15 - Emotional Responsibility
What if you could be 100% in charge of your own emotions?
03:27
January 23, 2018
14 - Receiving Criticism
How should a stoic receive criticism?
03:38
January 22, 2018
13 - Boundaries
Since we cannot control other people and have to accept them for who they are, does that mean we have to accept their bad behavior?
03:08
January 21, 2018
12 - Accepting Others
“Let philosophy scrape off your own faults, rather than be a way to rail against the faults of others,” wrote Seneca. Rather wasting time trying to change others, we should learn how be more accepting of who they are.
02:39
January 20, 2018
11 - Reacting to Circumstances
You can’t control what happens to you in your life, but you can control your reaction.
03:26
January 19, 2018
10 - Consistency
A key factor in living a principled life is consistency. What areas of your life could be improved with a little consistency?
04:37
January 18, 2018
9 - Uncomfortable Truths
What are the uncomfortable truths about yourself that you are afraid to face in your life?
04:08
January 17, 2018
8 - Unquestioned Beliefs
8 - Unquestioned Beliefs
04:35
January 16, 2018
7 - Self Doubt
Latest episode of Stoic Meditations
04:49
January 15, 2018
6 - The Opinions of Others
Latest episode of Stoic Meditations
03:49
January 14, 2018
5 - Learning is the new Procrastination
Learning is the new Procrastination
03:31
January 13, 2018
4 - What Are You Thinking?
4 - What Are You Thinking?
03:58
January 12, 2018
3 - Goal Shaming
Latest episode of Stoic Meditations
03:08
January 11, 2018
2 - Finding your Purpose
What are you meant to do in the world?
04:49
January 10, 2018
1 - What do you Control?
First episode. What is under your control?
04:54
January 9, 2018
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