Success Alday

I met Alicia at a speaking event I did at the beginning of this year. She was incredible to speak with. We both love talking about nerdy things like the brain and she's a gentle power house. She's an attorney who's worked on the Supreme Court, she started a non-profit called Beyond the Bruises and she has a long list of amazing accolades, but what's most impressive is her compassion for others. 

At the time of this interview Alicia was at a crossroads trying to figure out which direction she needed to go and being Alicia, she let me share this coaching session in my closed FB group, Obsessed With Success, and now here on the podcast because she wants you to learn from her experiences. Next week you'll hear the follow up interview where we follow up with Alicia to see where she's at now. (Spoiler Alert - she's found her footing and is taking off! I'd love to say it's my coaching...so I will. JUST KIDDING! It's really about the person being coached and next week's episode will show you what can happen when you do the work!) 

In today's episode we discuss:

• making pivots in business and life
• the biggest misconception we have about your ideal avatar
• taking action before you're ready

I am surrounded by amazing people in my business and personal life so it boggles my mind when I see amazing people with a not so amazing tribe. This isn't a podcast on ditching all of your friends, but it's meant to help you evaluate the limitations those friendships, peer groups, your tribe may have and/or what skills you may lack. As I said, I've been there. That's the only reason I can have this conversation with you. I've been the victim of my own selfishness when it comes to friendships and regret. Hopefully this episode will help you skip that pain and become a kickass friend. Or maybe you are amazing and you need someone to point out how much you bring to the table and why you deserve better.

If you want to live a life of success and have a thriving business you'll need a good tribe of people surrounding you. This episode is dedicated to helping you create that tribe and be that person for others.

1. Are you doing everything you can to help yourself first?
2. Check your intentions at the door.
3. Are you afraid to ask your tribe for help and why?
4. Does your tribe share the same values as you or have the values you are striving for?

I spent YEARS combing through all the methods. I watched DIY videos and paid courses trying to figure out the method to the madness. It was only through trial and a heck of a lot of error that I finally realized what I was missing and what was actually necessary. These are the 5 pieces that inform every single thing in your business. They are the simplest and hardest pieces. What does that mean? It means that they seem like very easy questions and yet all you perfectionists will probably get stuck here. I did. Who was my perfect client, what is my perfect offer??? You can see the rabbit hole, right?

Let me save you some time. Remember that where you start isn't where you will finish and the only way to really arrive at the "perfect" answer is by doing the work. Start serving your clients, start failing and start getting results for your clients. This will help you refine your answers to these 5 foundational pieces. For the record, your answers will change with time and that's 100% okay. That's how it should be as you continue to learn and grow. 

Here are the 5 questions. Don't forget to listen in for the details.

1. What is your mission (not to be confused with your mission statement)?
2. How do you serve your client?
3. Who do you serve?
4. Why do you serve them (typically has to do with your story)?
5. How do you want them to feel? (Crucial piece to how and what you create)

It's a great time for a RESET. Actually, any time right before a busy season hits is a great time. Why? Because it's easy to get overwhelmed and lost in the chaos. If you RESET yourself before the avalanche of stress hits, you'll have a much better chance of making it out a sane person. This episode is dedicated to those of you who need a reset and want to finally get those goals off of repeat. You know what I mean...New Year or a new season comes and we set a goal, then the next season comes and we're setting the exact same goal because, well, we didn't hit that goal. And then 20 years later we're setting the SAME DANG GOAL!!! My life in a nutshell. 

Well, let's get off the hamster wheel of stress and broken goals. I'm going to share with you my R.E.S.E.T technique. Don't wait till you're crying in a corner sucking your thumb. Now is the time to stop that cycle before it starts. xoxo.

Today we have Catherine B. Roy on the show. If you listen to the introduction you will be amazed at how much she has been able to accomplish already and she's not done yet. She is proof that science and the woo-woo (spiritual side) can co-exist. We talk about:

1. Mindset and how much it matters
2. The biggest mistake entrepreneurs make when they first start, and
3. Alignment between your heart and mind

Today I'm sharing a training I did in my closed Facebook group, Obsessed With Success. I'm sharing it because I think it's important to understand what it will actually take to build a successful business (and life for that matter) and to show you what's happening in the group. Ladies, we'd love to have you in there with us as we rally together to build a life we love and a business we're obsessed with (in a healthy way). It's a group where we support one another and challenge each other. 

Does it ever feel like you're solving the same problem over and over again? If so, this episode is for you. I love to share concepts and strategies that help me further my business, life and mindset and this is one of those. I read this book that completely changed the way I assess problems in my business. I've always been a huge proponent for CEO days (days where you work ON your business rather than IN it), but this book has up-leveled the time I spend working on my business and I had to share this with you. 

We try and we try and we try and then we get to our breaking point. Hands in the air, we give up. But why do we break? Do we break because we no longer think it's possible? Do we break because we're too tired? Do we break because we just don't want to keep going? In today's mini-episode I talk about my experience and how our mindset can get in the way of our success. It's a short episode and so full of fire. 

I want success for you - do you want it enough for yourself? 

Ooooh, do we have a treat for you. I recently got to sit down with Stephanie Blake of the Biz Babe Collective and talk to her about her journey from corporate to boss She is very honest as she shares:

•  her many failed attempts at the side hustle thing before she finally got it right
• what having a baby has meant for her business and 
• the biggest mistake she sees entrepreneurs making when they try to organize and streamline their business

We talk about all the things and we laughed so much that I actually had to edit it out or else the episode would've been an extra 10 minutes!! That's how much fun I had sitting with Stephanie and I know you'll enjoy it too. 

It's a difficult conversation to have, but I think we need to have it. As women we put ourselves on the back burner a lot and as entrepreneurs we are often isolated. Both of these can lead to depression, addiction and some times, suicide. Today we dive into suicide - my personal experience and thoughts on it. If you are not in the right place to be listening to this, please listen to a different episode. Also, if any of this offends you - it's not meant to. It's meant to give you hope and open up the dialogue we're having around this issue. 

If I told you that you could predict your future with the things you do everyday, what would your daily habits say about your future? The problem is that about 40-50% of our daily habits are unconscious meaning we don't even realize we're doing them. Today we dive into 5 tricks you can use today to create habits that actually move you in the right direction. Stop hoping and start actively creating the life you want today. Create habits that make your dream life inevitable. 

Have you ever had a dream, but didn't know what to do so you put it on the shelf...at the very back of the shelf? Our guest, Laurie Wright, did the same thing. She was inspired to write a book, she did, and then she put it away. It was a whole decade later before she finally pursued it further. Now, her books are an amazon best seller, selling 100 copies a day.  And this teacher turned stay-at-home mom turned author is now the breadwinner. If you think hope is lost, it's not and this inspiration will prove that to you. 

A lot of us go into business shooting for the stars, but we rarely ask ourselves if we are ready for it? Are you prepared and how do you get prepared? Today I have 3 things you should consider as you prepare for the next level. 

This episode is a little different. It's the audio version of a video I posted in my closed group, Obsessed With Success. We are currently in the soft-open phase meaning it's by invitation only. Consider this your invitation to join the group, but please listen to this episode, especially the end to make sure this group is right for you. 

Instead of wishing about the woman you could be, why not become her? Would you take that first step to being her? Today’s episode is the first step you’ll need to make that dream version of yourself a reality and it isn’t about being prettier or more of the things you're "suppose" to be. 

WARNING: I get a bit fired up on today’s show. There’s one minute where I say A-hole about 5 times. It was that kind of a show. 

I know you’ll enjoy today’s show especially if you are one of the hope-filled peeps out there in the world. You will probably agree with my assessment. For those of you who are all doom and gloom - not to worry, there’s hope for you too! My husband, Rene, joined us on today’s episode. Poor guy could barely get a word in, but he’s got some great nuggets. 

We talk about:

• how you can be a superhero
• the small steps to take to make the world better
• the power of hope...with action of course

If you've ever wondered how some people can get up 100x while other people stay down, this is the episode for you. I share with you my #1 FAVORITE mindset tool. I've unknowingly used it since I was young and it is the reason I'm where I am today. It's not fancy, but it will change your life. 

Today we talk about:

• How to see the silver lining
• How to use your past as a tool

On today's show we are joined by Terra Foti of RUSHwahine. We talk about her journey from being on her own at the age of 13 to a noteworthy career in corporate and now to thriving entrepreneur. We talk about:

• Going from Corporate to Entrepreneur and the mistakes along the way
• The beauty of masterminds
• Mistakes we make in marketing
• The one question you should ask yourself before ever starting a new endeavor

Today's episode was unplanned, but has just been on my heart for a while now. I hear people talking about how the world is falling apart and how everyone is an a$$hole. Here's the thing, we have the ability to solve the a$$hole epidemic and it starts with these 5 things:

1. Stop judging people based on their past or their reputation - use it as a guide, not gospel
2. Ask yourself my favorite coaching question, What are you making it mean?
3. Stop letting your feelings distort the facts
4. Stop the angry chatter with a story
5. Stop the madness in its tracks through change or acceptance

This is the first part of a 3 part series called Be The Change. Join us for the next two by subscribing to the podcast on your favorite podcast app!

I hope you all had a great "summer break" while I was off rebranding. Today's episode we talk the truth behind the rebrand:

• Why I needed to rebrand
• The mistakes I made that led me to a rebrand
• The content creation monster and how more content does not mean better service

My goal with a look behind the scenes of my business and mistakes is to help you avoid them. But if you're in the same position as me - know that it's all good. As a business owner you can make decisions today to fix what needs to be fixed and realign the path you're on. You got this! 

Hey guys, 

Today's episode may surprise you. I'm giving you a look behind the scenes of my business and what I'm currently making decisions on. The show will be taking a "summer break" and be back in session in July with a NEW name! We talk about what happened and how goal setting is important, but not everything. I don't want you to miss out on the new episodes so be sure to subscribe! 

If you took just one step today toward that tug on your heart, where would you be in a year? This sounds like a slow game, but it brings more momentum than waiting for the right time ever could. It's something we often overlook. Today I sit down with a good friend of mine,  Shannon Marocco. She is a pastor, mom of 3 and speaker who travels the world to empower women. 

In today's episode we talk about: 

• stepping into your calling
• success, of course
• and the one thing you can do today to create the future you want

Are you having a hard time moving the needle with any of your goals, business or personal? It can be hard to move the needle when you don't know which thing to do first or how to find the time to do all the things. 

In today's episode we talk about how a little bit of obsession can actually help your business. We talk about:

• why you should get obsessed 
• the 4 things you need to get obsessed about
• how to create an obsessions list

Today we are talking with Christie Garcia of Mindful Choice Coaching. We talk about ego and how to recognize it. Better yet, we talk about how to manage it. If you want to make sure to keep your ego in line and how to make the best of your ego traits, this is the episode for you. 

We talk about:

• 3 types of egos
• how it can affect you
• how to manage ego - yours and theirs

This is the last part of the unplanned 3 part-series on Creating Happy. If you haven't been listening we get into why mastering your mindset, changing your narrative and being your best self are the foundational pieces for creating your happy. In today's episode we talk about:

• what it means to be your best self 
• why it’s important
• the secret to becoming your best self
• the ”how” of being your best self

You know those judgments we have of other people or the way we see the world - full of wonder or full of gloom - those are the things we talk about today. This episode is for you if you:

• want to be happy
• are ready to create it
• want to figure out how to get over those automatic thoughts or responses getting in your way. 

On today's episode we talk about the how and why of mastering your mindset. There is nothing more important to your success, whether it's your personal life or business, than controlling your mindset. We discuss:

• What is mindset
• Why it can screw with you so much
• How to make it work in your favor

This episode gets a bit more personal today and for a #recoveringasian like me that can be hard, but I hope that it gives you insight into my own road of mastering my head and encourages you to do the same.

Today I have my husband on the show. We talk about:

• Road rage and how it's related to leadership
• Being married to an entrepreneur
• Knights of the Round Table

If you want to get an inside look into how a spouse supports a business and what your road rage says about your leadership, listen in!

On today's episode we talk about:

• MONEY and how to bridge the gap from where you are and where you want to be

If you want to make real money in your business it's time to talk about how to look at what you are currently doing and figuring out if you have set up the right model or if you need to make some tweaks. 

On today's episode it's just me!!! LUCKY YOU! *wink wink*  We talk about:

• What success is and isn't
• How do you finally get it
• How you need to look at your business like you are the doctor 

I also do a recap of my speaking experience at the Soul Success Summit from this past weekend (4/6-7, 2019) and the 3 things I learned from the weekend. Hint: You really gotta be there next year in Sun Valley, Idaho!! 

On today's episode we talk about:

• Hallie's journey of entrepreneurship from working a business with her husband to creating her own
• What is an In-Demand woman? Hint: Think A-list Celebrity
• The great meltdown of 2018 that happened in a dressing room
• Panties that inspire
• The new protein to try, cricket (gulp)
• The tactical side to an abundance mindset 
• The ONE thing to DO today that will move the needle....promise

On today's episode we talk about:

• Self-sabotage and why the heck we do it
• 65% of women put themselves last and what that can result in
• How to be grateful to your fears and still be in charge
• What Willy Wonka's Golden Ticket has to do with your business
• The ONE thing to stop saying that will give you a massive mindset shift

If you want to break up with stress forever listen in on my interview with Mary Allison Brown. 

We talk coffee, dancing, gratitude and her journey as an entrepreneur.

• How she went from writing for publications like National Geographic and Marie Claire to becoming an entrepreneur
• Her mission "To never let anyone ever again type into Google 'What is the meaning of life?'"
• How it took her 3 tries to finally get her business going
• The ONE thing Alex recommends entrepreneurs do to move the needle in their business or life

Hey! Thanks for joining me, Kai Alday of The Business Confidante, for my very first episode. We talk about how my journey to entrepreneurship began. 

• Finally leaving corporate
• Missing my kids firsts
• The impact of one person