Successful Parenting

Every child is unique, and understanding their individual needs is crucial for effective parenting. In this week's episode, Jacqueline & Robin delve into the nuanced art of recognizing and addressing the emotional needs of our children. From tailoring parenting approaches to supporting each child's journey towards realizing their full potential, they'll explore practical strategies and insights. Whether fostering resilience, nurturing creativity, or cultivating a sense of belonging, Jacqueline & Robin will share valuable tips to help parents navigate the dynamic terrain of child-rearing. Perfect parenting doesn't exist, but it's a rewarding journey of discovery and growth. Tune in this week to join the conversation and gain new perspectives on supporting your child's development. Don't miss out—your insights and experiences are valuable contributions to the ongoing dialogue.

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Jacqueline and Robin dive into some unchartered waters, and WOW, they learn a lot. Join in for this week's topic, focusing on safety, particularly GUN Safety. What this conversation is and what it is not! First, this is not about whether or not to own a gun, or if guns should or should not be legal. This conversation entails learning and teaching our children about safety and ensuring our children do not have access to guns, as well as understanding safety, especially if our children should come in contact with a firearm. We cannot be with our children every second, and there are ways to protect our children, through knowledge and due diligence. One parent noted, "I had no idea my neighbors had a gun, and my child plays at their house regularly". 

Guest Experts Katherine Rosch and Layla Danley are part of the Be SMART national campaign. The Be SMART message talks about what all of us, gun owners and non-gun owners alike, can do to make sure children and teens do not have unsupervised access to guns. We know that an estimated 4.6 million American children live in homes with at least one gun that is loaded and unlocked. Katherine and Layla highlight the importance of being inquisitive, particularly when asking questions of the adults who will be supervising our children. Questions such as "Is there a gun in your home? If so, is it stored safely?" This conversation takes a few twists and turns and will leave listeners yearning for more information. Tune in. It is a difficult conversation to have but an imperative one.

BE SMART

This week's episode will intrigue listeners as Jacqueline and Robin sit down with Dr. Etel Leit, a pediatric communication advocate. Dr. Leit has helped thousands of clients all over the nation, including many high-profile families in the Beverly Hills area. She has authored four books, and was featured on various media outlets, including NBC, CNN, WeTV, and the Style Network. 

Baby sign language? Isn't that just teaching babies to sign? Well, yes and no, but there is so much more. While it is similar to sign language, based on American Sign Language, there are some modifications. Babies and children learn at a quicker pace than adults and even teens, which gives babies the advantage when learning to sign. Jacqueline and Robin were interested to learn that baby sign language can help with literacy skills and improve confidence. Additionally, parents and babies report feeling less frustrated due to improving the lines of communication, leaving babies feeling less misunderstood. Baby sign language helps babies express emotions and desires before they can speak and creates closer connections within the family.

Dr. Leit shares with listeners that learning baby sign language is a fun way to communicate with infants and toddlers, using nonverbal or manual signs. Listen in, and remember baby sign language is not just for babies. 

Etel Leit, PhD

While some children are better test takers than others, a little bit of guidance and prep can go a long way. 2024 brought about many changes in the standardized testing world, with new programs, guidelines, formats, and much more. This week, Jacqueline & Robin dive into the world of standardized testing, particularly standardized assessments, such as the SAT, ACT, and other College Board Exams. Guest Expert, Dr. Shaan Patel, the founder of Prep Expert SAT & ACT Preparation, winner of a Shark Tank deal with Mark Cuban, a bestselling author and a board-certified dermatologist physician, joins in for a fun, informative, and engaging conversation. Dr. Patel’s ideas and concepts have been so widely and well received that his company has exploded. To date, he has helped hundreds of thousands around the country increase their test scores, improve their confidence, decrease their test anxiety, and positively impact their testing experience. Dr. Patel shares ideas with listeners, such as when to start prep, test-taking tips, college scholarship pointers, as well as key resources for listeners to support their children in the test-taking journey. Join in; you will not want to miss this one!

Shaan Patel, MD, MBA

Fear of failure or perfectionism, that is the question. We hear from families, either parents or children themselves, that a quest to avoid failure leads to increased stress, unrealistic expectations, and feelings of despair. This week’s topic explores this theme intentionally, looking at how our ‘fear of failure’ mindset impacts our parenting, sometimes even projecting this mindset onto our children. Jacqueline and Robin recognize that some individuals are naturally prone to the idea of ‘perfectionism’,  but also note that this idea may stem from a ‘fear of failure’ mindset. 

Join Jacqueline and Robin as they shed some insight into this topic, including the pressure both parents and children may put on themselves, leading to less desirable outcomes and lower feelings of self-worth. It is never perfect, but always progressing!

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Spring Break, or really any break from work or school, can bring a much-needed rest and fun. It can be a reset for children and parents alike. However, many listeners have said that while they hoped their children would feel more recharged and engaged following a break, this is Ien not the case. For children dealing with emotional or behavioral challenges, breaks can cause disruptions to routine, often leading to regression and difficulties returning to school. Luckily, there are some remedies for this. 

During this week’s episode, Jacqueline & Robin share tips for a fun and active break, including strategies to foster resilience and emotional health, leading to a smoother post-break transition. Maintaining a simpler routine, enjoying fun family activities, and ways to keep our children off devices will all be covered. Stop by for fun, and leave with some ideas to keep your children healthier and connected before, during, and after any breaks you may face. 

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Parenting is, at times, challenging, especially when the parents are already dealing with conflict, extreme stress, hurt feelings, or even turbulence in their relationship. Some parenting relationships exist amongst separation, sometimes within the same house, divorce, or other unique dynamics. Guest Expert, Pamala Rak, has a wealth of knowledge and expertise in supporting families during these times, developing effective co-parenting strategies that bring healing to the family, as well as help develop connections and resiliency within the family unit. Pam shares key strategies to promote healthy communication amongst parents, as well as obstacles and challenges that can disrupt family relationships and ultimately leave children feeling insecure, fearful, and lost. Listen along and learn tools to establish and maintain healthy boundaries, co-parenting skills, and ways to raise a child in a nurturing family, even between two houses.

Pam Rak, LCSW PC

Hello Parents, have you ever dealt with your own mental health concerns? Have you ever worried about your child and struggled to know how to support them? Jacqueline & Robin have, which prompted them to reach out to expert, author, and keynote speaker Mike Bushman. In this week’s episode, Mike will share his journey, moving from a teenager with severe depression and suicidal thoughts to a successful professional and advocate for youth mental health. Mike will share how he supported his children, ways parents can recognize signs and symptoms in their children, and strategies to respond to children. Being a parent is never easy, especially when you are concerned that your child is struggling. Realistically, as parents we will struggle at different points with our own mental health. Mike shares some key takeaways for parents to manage their emotional health while supporting their children. Tune in, you will not want to miss this episode.

Mike Bushman

AFSP Illinois Education Co-Chair & Treasurer

Youth, Adult & Teen Mental Health First Aid Instructor

Author, 5 Books (on Amazon)

Twitter: @m_bushman

Facebook: AuthorMikeBushman

What are some of the secrets to joyful parenting, or finding joy and gratitude during even the most challenging times of parenting? So often we may find ourselves feeling overwhelmed and exhausted, looking for glimpses of hope amidst the chaos. This week’s guest expert, Shira Greenfield, teaches listeners about the Perma Model of Wellbeing and how the pillars described can contribute to our overall well-being, which in turn impacts how we show up to be our best parenting selves. Jacqueline and Robin can relate to being in the ‘rat racer’ mentality, which as they note does not ever increase happiness. Shira explains how the Perma Model of Wellbeing can help us be more present for our children, enhance our positive emotions and connect more in a real and intentional way to our families. It does take practice, but for many parents, is a key step in fostering connections and emotional health for their families. Shira is not only an expert in her field, but also a realist who adds fun to her teaching and is followed by many. We know you will enjoy this episode, and be grateful that you tuned in. 

Shira Greenfield is a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor who earned her master’s degree in Counselor Education from the University of Iowa in 1985.  Since then, she has worked as a therapist, a crisis intervention worker, a group facilitator and an educator.  She has also held several leadership positions in behavioral health care providing oversight to both inpatient and outpatient programs and teams.  She currently serves as the Clinical Director for Pivotal Counseling Center with offices in Lake in the Hills and Woodstock. Shira is an experienced and sought-after speaker who is known for her down to earth style and her ability to get people to laugh at themselves.

This is no easy topic. Listeners have contacted us requesting tips on ways to support their children in dealing with these difficult conversations. Have you dealt with the loss of a loved one, maybe from a terminal illness, even one impacting a child directly or indirectly? This week’s episode focuses on ways to speak to our children about Grief and Loss, including terminal illness and traumatic injuries, and all the things in between. As a parent or caregiver, you may find yourself wishing to avoid these conversations, hoping to shield your child(ren) from sadness. However, speaking to our children about difficult topics can provide comfort and aid in the healing process. While these conversations can be painful, especially if death or dying directly impacts the child or family, open dialogue can help children manage and navigate their feelings and understanding. Guest expert Tara Tooley leads a thought-provoking conversation focusing on ways to speak to our children about this topic, as well as ways to normalize death and illness. Tara points out that one important strategy involves age-appropriate conversations using active listening and creating a safe place for children to talk openly about their feelings. Listeners will be provided strategies, resources, and ideas to support their children. Tune in for a conversation to foster healing and connection.

Tara Tooley, LCSW brings over two decades of expertise to the mental health sector, holding licensure as a clinical social worker and training from INELDA as an end-of-life doula. A survivor of cancer twice, Tara faced aggressive triple-negative breast cancer at 25 and again at 30, battling the disease alongside her infant daughter during the latter. Her journey has deeply rooted her in the cancer community for more than 24 years.

Operating Blackbird Therapy in Overland Park, KS, Tara holds clinical social work licensure in both Kansas and Missouri. In addition to her practice, she serves as a Cancer Coach through her venture, Cancer Recovery. Tara's professional background is diverse, including roles in oncology and hospice social work, outreach case management for children and families, and positions within emergency youth shelters.

According to SAMHSA, Center for Behavioral Health Statistics and Quality, National Surveys on Drug Use and Health (NSDUHs) 2009 to 2014 data, about 1 in 8 children (8.7 million) aged 17 or younger lived in households with at least one parent who had a past year substance use disorder (SUD). Wow, while these statistics seem high, recent research studies point to a lot higher statistical numbers. We do know the earlier children begin experimenting with alcohol and substances, the more likely they are to develop addictive behaviors with substances later in life. Furthermore, while some children can develop addictive behaviors impacted by genetics, others are influenced by learned behaviors. We have found that how we speak to children about addiction can be critical to a child’s relationship, in particular, attitude towards substances. Guest Expert Emily Weber, a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and counseling practice owner, brings a wealth of information to listeners, providing suggestions and resources regarding talking to children about all things related to addiction. Tune in to listen as Robin and Jacqueline have a fun and engaging conversation with Emily. You never know how conversations with our children can impact our children down the road. Plant the Seed Now. 

Emily Weber, LCSW, CADC

Sometimes, tragedy or loss occurs unexpectedly, impacting our families and communities. It is often difficult to express our emotions in words, let alone know how to support and respond to our children as they navigate their grief, trying to make sense of it all. Jacqueline and Robin focus this week’s conversation on ways parents can understand and talk to their children about their feelings and reactions. While it may be difficult to control what our children see or hear, as parents, we can help them focus on what is in our control in the hopes of promoting the initial stages of healing. This conversation is never easy, but we hope it brings comfort and guidance.

This episode is dedicated to those we have lost and those who have been touched by tragedy or loss.

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Parents often wonder "how much is too much" when it comes to their children's sibling fights, especially those that involve verbal or physical aggression. Does the old saying 'kids will be kids' apply here? Or should parents intervene? And if so, how and when? The other question that comes up a lot is "Is teaching how to handle conflict essential for children? Guest expert, Dan Blair, shares with listeners the importance of teaching conflict resolution skills to children, as well as parents modeling those skills in the presence of their children. Dan also points out, "We need some conflict in order to get our needs met." Jacqueline and Robin, along with Dan, engage in a worthwhile dialogue regarding all the dos and don'ts of conflict resolution and parenting, as well as touching on those pitfalls that parents often fall into. Remember, as parents we often model for our children how to deal with emotions and communicate those emotions to others. Join this week's conversation, focusing on healthy conflict resolution strategies.

Dan Blair, LMFT, LCPC, NCPC 

Contact Information: dan@blaircounseling.com

Dan has worked for 30 years in social service settings. Dan is experienced as a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor and is a trained, court-approved divorce mediator, Nationally Certified Parenting Coordinator, and a Certified Anger Management Specialist.

He is a member of the Association of Family and Conciliation Courts, the Professional Academy of Custody Experts, and the National Anger Management Association. He also serves on the McHenry County Board of Directors for the National Alliance on Mental Illness and supervises clinicians through the Mental Health Board. Dan not only has his children, but he has also been a live-in houseparent, foster parent, a stepparent, a consultant to group homes and foster homes, and a Clinical Director. He enjoys his involvement in marriage and family ministry at church. He earned his B.A. in Psychology at Trinity College and his M.A. in Clinical Psychology at Wheaton College.

Resources:

1. How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk (The How To Talk Series) by Adele Faber
2. Try and Make Me! Simple Strategies That Turn Off the Tantrums and Create Cooperation | Book by Bill O'Hanlon and Ray Levy
3. Parenting With Love and Logic | Book by Foster W. Cline

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This week’s episode is covering a topic that listeners often request. If you are a parent, you have most likely asked yourself, why is my child so defiant? Or where did I go wrong? Dr. Cecelia Horan sits down with Jacqueline and Robin to discuss real and practical strategies that work to reduce and de-escalate those undesired behaviors. All children do display defiant behaviors, some more than others, and these strategies will not only help reduce those undesired behaviors, but also foster connections and closeness between parent and child. Dr. Horan reminds listeners that progress will not be instant, but with consistency, will improve in a matter of weeks. Tune in to learn about these strategies and so much more.

Dr. Cecelia Horan is the Director of the Ascension Health Crystal Lake Child and Adolescent Services and the Perinatal Intensive Outpatient Program at Ascension Illinois Behavioral Health Hospital. She holds a Psy.D. from the Illinois School of Professional Psychology and is the proud mother of a boy.

Dr. Horan is a licensed clinical psychologist practicing in Hoffman Estates, Illinois. She specializes in working with families and individuals in the treatment of mental health problems. As a psychologist, Dr. Horan evaluates and treats patients through various methods, most typically psychotherapy or talk therapy. Patients usually seek out Dr. Horan because they have been experiencing depression, anxiety, stress, or anger for a significant period.

What do we want to be different in 2024?

Parents have reached out and told us that they want deeper connections with their children. Others have reached out and noted that they would like to work with their children on increasing confidence and autonomy. As parents, we can be our own harshest critics, so as parents recognize that our children are resilient, and as long as we keep showing up each day, they will continue to grow and develop.

With that said, we all get frustrated or give in at times, especially to “avoid the fight.” During this episode, Jacqueline and Robin look at how changing our responses as parents will ultimately change our children’s behaviors, relationships, feelings, and thoughts. Setting boundaries can be a challenge, but so often, being consistent and doing the hard things in parenting can be a game-changer for our child’s overall development.

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Jacqueline and Robin would like to wish all their listeners an incredibly Happy and Healthy New Year!

A special note from Jacqueline & Robin, “We would like to share our appreciation to all our listeners and guest experts, especially for following along each week, sharing personal stories, and continuing to inspire us to be better. We hope we continue learning from one another in 2024, as it truly takes a village to raise a child. We are also excited for many new topics to come, placing special focus on being kind to ourselves and focusing on ways to raise resilient, confident, and emotionally healthy children and families.

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During this episode, Jacqueline and Robin share laughter and festive cheer. Listeners will also learn a few tips to sprinkle some routine and healthy habits, even making holidays fun. While holidays can be a time of love and joy, the excitement and hype can be overwhelming and even stressful for some. These tips will make it a bit easier for children having a holiday break from school to head back into the more structured day. From the bottom of their hearts, Jacqueline and Robin would like to thank each and every listener for following along, sharing stories, and interacting with them. They look forward to seeing everyone in 2024.

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As a parent or educator, you may have noticed that children of all ages are experiencing challenges when it comes to regulating emotions, especially in the face of adversity or a challenging or non-preferred activity. Jacqueline and Robin were excited to be joined by guest expert and author Joy Gallivan during this week’s episode. Joy’s book, Mystery Feelings: A Guide to Feeling Identification, has been flying off the shelf. Joy will share some of her favorite ways she teaches children to regulate emotions in fun and engaging ways. All children struggle at certain points with emotional regulation, but no worries, Joy shares lots of ideas to navigate those times as well.

Listeners will leave with helpful ideas, and the best part, as a result, will see increased growth and connections within the family. We would love to hear from you. Continue to reach out and share your thoughts; we are all in this together. As they say, it really does take a village to raise our children.

Joy Gallivan M.Ed MSW LCSW

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Join in for fun and laughs and leave with a deeper understanding of ways to deal with tough situations within your family. In this week's episode, listeners will learn the secret ingredient to thriving families, especially during challenging times. Dr. Saper, the guest expert on this week's episode, has decades of experience providing crisis counseling and guidance to physicians and mental health professionals in hospital and community agency settings. Dr. Saper has also partnered with hundreds of families to foster relationships and support families through challenging times. Listeners will quickly sense his authentic style and learn strategies to support their children's mental and emotional health. Dr. Saper also shares his knowledge on resources and the continuum of support available in the mental health arena. As a parent, this conversation will provide some pointers to recognize when and how to intervene for a child who is struggling with mental health concerns and promote resiliency and confidence. Remember, a little laughter can go a long way.

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Dr. Cliff Saper is the lead Clinical Psychologist for Ascension Illinois and the Director of Clinical Services for the Behavioral Health Service Line. Dr. Saper has lived in Evanston for over 40 years. Both his sons attended Evanston schools and he is an active member of the McGaw Y.

He received his A.B. from Brown University (psychology and theater/film) and his Ph.D. from Loyola. Dr. Saper has been with Ascension/Alexian Brothers Behavioral Health Hospital for 28 years where he has specialized in Resilience Training, Crisis Response, Child and Family Therapy, Parenting, Group Therapy models, School-Hospital collaboration, supervision, training, and program development.

Over the last several years, Dr. Saper has been facilitating virtual COVID peer support groups for healthcare workers, school staff, and agencies. He currently leads a long COVID support group and carries a small outpatient case-load. Dr. Saper is the project director for a four year grant from the federal government to train community members to be able to identify, assess, and refer youth with mental health or substance use challenges.

In addition to his professional roles, Dr. Saper is a member of the Therapy Players Comedy Improv Troupe, a docent at the Illinois Holocaust Museum, a member of the Saints volunteer group supporting Chicagoland theater, and in Northlight’s Visionary Circle.

Contact Information: clifton.saper@ascension.org

Jacqueline and Robin were unsure what to expect when they began their conversation with guest expert Melissa Gonski, LCPC. Melissa has a ‘tell it like it is approach’ along with her real and authentic style. Challenges with pregnancies, parenting, and perinatal trauma are not easy topics to explore. As listeners will learn, we are all impacted in some way, and arming ourselves with an understanding and resources can only allow us to feel some relief and compassion for others on this journey if we have not been impacted. Melissa shares some perspectives from her professional and personal experience, as well as some tips and some ‘what not to say’ to others regarding their fertility journey, like the most often asked question of newly married couples, ‘When are you going to start having children?’ Tune in for this week’s episode and hear what our expert has to say; you will be grateful you did.

Please note this episode might provoke some strong emotional reactions.

Some listeners may wonder why we need to understand more about organ donation than we do. It may not be a fun topic and may be uncomfortable to talk about. This conversation is needed during the season where we express our gratitude and focus on giving. We promise that this week’s episode will tell you why Organ and Tissue Donation is important in a thought-provoking manner. Jacqueline and Robin chose Holly Draper, a Special Education Middle School Teacher from Kansas, to share with listeners about her journey as an organ recipient and ways to talk about Organ and Tissue Donation with your family, as well as the benefits of having age-appropriate conversations around this topic. Listeners will also learn, ‘What the heck is this list?’ and what it means for families to be or not be on it.

Holly Draper

Special Ed Middle School Teacher @ the Piper School District in Kansas City, KS

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Many families associate Thanksgiving with a time to promote practices of gratitude. During this week’s episode, Jacqueline and Robin share what they are grateful for and how incorporating gratitude practices in daily parenting can deepen connections within the family and positively impact your children’s mental health and relationships with others. Listeners will find this episode engaging and funny but also leave with a few ideas for bringing fun activities into the home year-round. Children have told us that these activities are fun, and they often feel happy when doing them, especially ones that involve helping others.

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Get ready, sports fans. This episode is going to bring you lots to think about. Jacqueline and Robin had the pleasure of interviewing Marc Anderson, a sought-after Mental Game Coach and Licensed Clinical Social Worker with an extensive history working with athletes and in schools. Marc’s passion for teaching young people to reach their potential and partnering with families to promote sportsmanship, confidence, and teamwork is unmatched. During this episode, Marc shares ways parents can teach their athletes to enjoy the game, learn to make mistakes, and take risks even when failure may be inevitable. Marc also shares the importance of not comparing athletes to one another and setting realistic goals that will lead to growth and engagement in the game. Signs of burnout and disconnect will also be reviewed.

Marc Anderson is a licensed clinical social worker and mental game coach currently based in the western suburbs of Chicago.  He has over 25 years of clinical experience and specializes with adolescents, young adults, and athletes on a broad spectrum of mental health and sports performance issues. His philosophy is athlete-centered; empowering athletes to conquer the mental challenges that are hindering their peak potential. Marc's clinical expertise, combined with his extensive experience as a high school coach and collegiate athlete, allows him to equip athletes with mental strategies and skills to maximize their mental edge and improve their performance in competition while maintaining balance in their lives.

Marc Anderson earned a bachelor's degree in sociology from Beloit College (1987) and a masters degree in social work from George Williams College, Aurora University (1994).  Marc studied and received his mental coaching certification training under Dr. Patrick Cohn at Peak Performance Sports (2005). In addition, Marc is a certified lead the leader facilitator through the Jeff Janssen Sports Leadership Center (2018).

(This episode was recorded in June 2023)

Research in 2019 suggests that Infertility impacts 10% of women between the ages of 15-44 in the United States. We believe this number is higher today. Jacqueline and Robin were joined by Erin this week to learn firsthand what it is like to experience and go through the process of Infertility. Erin, a former Track and Field star, shares her story about the journey in the world of Infertility and what it has been like to grow her family. She always knew that she wanted to be a mom. However, she did not realize what the journey would entail. Erin gets real with listeners and not only shares the joys but also the challenges and emotional turmoil she experienced. Erin hopes that by sharing her story, she will be helping other families, as well as those supporting families dealing with infertility issues. Listeners will also learn some tips and resources that are available for families. Join in for this difficult topic, but also plan to have a few laughs along the way.

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During this episode, listeners will follow along to Level 5, reviewing the previous four levels while learning how it all comes together to develop the Family Plan. Families have found the Successful Growth Model to be critical in developing their family plan, noting that the clarity of expectations and goals leads to greater consistency and follow-through. For years, Jacqueline and Robin have been working with families to promote greater connections within the family, as well as partnering with families to support their children dealing with emotional, medical, and/or behavioral concerns. The family plan has been proven to promote the overall health of the family, as well as fostering resiliency and strengthening the emotional functioning of children. As families move towards this plan, they begin to react intentionally out of goals, working towards regulating emotions and coping during times of distress. This plan not only helps families during difficult times but also to raise engagement and closeness within the family unit.

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Jacqueline and Robin share why Level 4 is one of their favorite levels of the Successful Growth Model. During their conversation, they explain why increasing awareness of emotions, as well as learning to regulate and respond to our own emotions, can improve our relationships with our children. Our responses become more intentional, opening opportunities for dialogue and Successful Parenting. Tune in to learn why the Successful Growth model relies so heavily on level 4 and strategies to increase emotional awareness and regulation.

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Take a dive into Level 3 and learn how communication styles and choice of words can impact our connections with our children. When you reflect on the phrases, questions, or comments you or family members often say in front of your children, what message is being delivered? During Level 3, Jacqueline and Robin share key strategies to improve effective communication and insight into how our words impact our children in many ways. Grab a copy of the Successful Parenting Workbook and follow along, as Level 3 includes powerful tips for more purposeful communication. One parent shared, “When I shifted my wording and was more mindful of my timing, my child started to open up and share more about their feelings.” Minor changes can make lasting impacts and significant differences. For more Successful Parenting information:

Families often tell Jacqueline and Robin that Level 2 of the Successful Growth Model has been a critical element to the success of creating their family plan. During Level 2, families are encouraged to form goals based on their unique family values. Jacqueline and Robin believe that parents are the experts of their children. During this episode, listeners are asked to reflect on their backgrounds and views of parenting, as well as different parenting styles and approaches. They recognize and empathize that families sometimes encounter obstacles in meeting their parenting goals. Listeners will gain knowledge and an understanding of strategies to proactively plan and work through obstacles and stressors as they arise. Join in to continue the path of creating your very own Successful Parenting Plan.

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Jacqueline and Robin are excited to take listeners on a deep dive into their five-level plan, beginning with level one. Listeners, grab a copy of our workbook and join us as we start with an understanding of our purpose and intentions behind writing the Successful Parenting Workbook. The discussion includes samples and, as always, real-life examples to help bring some of these ideas to practical daily tips and ideas. Listeners will also catch a glimpse at some key strategies and obstacles to developing closer connections within the family home. During October, Jacqueline and Robin will highlight a different level of their plan, wrapping up with creating a Successful Parenting Plan.

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This week, author Dayna Abraham joins Jackie and Robin for an informative conversation filled with laughter and fun. Dayna has developed a model that she shares with listeners, including ways to help parents find ways to shift their parenting from a place of shame to empowerment. Listeners are encouraged to look at how behavioral struggles are not indicators of success or lack thereof but rather opportunities for growth. Dayna points out that even when things are not quite working as we would like, it might be just a small or simple change that is needed. As the saying goes, we do not need to throw the baby out with the bathwater when making changes to parenting strategies. Lastly, Dayna shares some tips to help families deepen their connections and improve overall engagement. Dayna Abraham, bestselling author of Calm the Chaos: A Fail-Proof Roadmap for Parenting Even the Most Challenging Kids.
As a National Board Certified educator, parent of three neurodivergent children, and an ADHD adult herself, Dayna brings a unique and out-of-the-box perspective to parents raising kids in the modern world.
Through her compassionate framework, Calm the Chaos, she has helped millions of desperate parents around the world, find peace and meet their children where they're at when conventional parenting tools have failed them.

Join us for this week's episode, with guest expert Kate Schneider, as she joins Jacqueline and Robin to discuss ways parents can foster athleticism in their children from early on. Parents will gain insights into helping their children to engage in the world of play and sport, while teaching sportsmanship skills, such as cooperation, confidence, and problem-solving. Kathleen will share strategies for parents to instill the competitive drive by using key mindfulness techniques that may be a game-changer for children and adolescents. Parents who have children of all ages, from infants through college level, will find this episode informative. Kate will dive into the power of the mindset and its impact on performance, allowing parents and athletes to find a path to more gratifying play and engagement.

Kate Schneider

During this episode, our Guest Expert, Mark Sanders, joins Jacqueline and Robin for an intriguing conversation about the impact of the father-son relationship and how that relationship impacts families and our communities. Learning what effects can occur due to the absence of this relationship or the result of a father who is neglectful, abusive, emotionally, or physically harmful may startle listeners. Tune in to hear how the connection or relationship, if not intact, can impact cognitive, social, and emotional development in early childhood, as well as further relationships in the child’s life. This impact can affect the son as a child and as an adult, particularly how the son learns to treat others, such as significant others, if healing does not occur. Mark will also share some ways to bring emotional relief and recovery for a father-son relationship that has been fractured, as well as for the individuals together and separately.

Mark Sanders, LCSW, CADC, is an international speaker, trainer, and consultant in behavioral health whose work has reached thousands throughout the United States, Europe, Canada, the Caribbean, and the British Islands.

 Mark is the author of five books which focus on behavioral health. Recent writings include Slipping through the Cracks: Intervention Strategies for Clients with Multiple Addictions and Disorders, Recovery Management: and Relationship Detox: Helping Clients Develop Healthy Relationships in Recovery. He has had two stories published in the New York Times best-selling book series, Chicken Soup for the Soul. Mark has been a certified addiction counselor for 34 years. He has received numerous awards, including a Lifetime Achievement Award from the Illinois Addiction Counselor Certification Board and the Barbara Bacon Award for outstanding contributions to the Social Work profession as a Loyola University of Chicago Alumni.

 Mark is co-founder of Serenity Academy of Chicago, the only recovery high school in Illinois. He is past president of the board of the Illinois Chapter of NAADAC. He has had a 30-year career as a university educator, having taught at the University of Chicago, Illinois State University, Illinois School of Professional Psychology, and Loyola University of Chicago, School of Social Work.

Families often ask us, what are some ways to promote confidence in our children? This week's guest expert, Master Jamie Neibling, a Fourth Degree Black Belt and a Middle School teacher shares with listeners how martial arts and some of its practices can help build confidence and resilience in children and adults alike. Master Neibling also points out how martial arts can improve students' mental and physical health while working on focus and concentration. Listeners will gain tips that can be used at home and an increased understanding of the different types of martial arts and the meaning behind the practices.

Dr. Jamie Neibling, Ed.D.

Instructor at Hero Martial Arts, Kansas City, Missouri, 4th Degree Kukkiwon Certified Black Belt Master. Dr. Jamie Neibling has been a student of martial arts for more than fifteen years, primarily training in the arts of Tae Kwon Do, Hapkido, and Tai Chi. She trains and instructs under Chief Master Michael J. Butler at Hero Martial Arts in Kansas City, MO. Jamie earned the title of Master in 2018. As a Master, she assists with teaching classes for students ages 4-76, writing curriculum, developing the Hero Martial Arts character education program, hosting self-defense seminars in the community, and assisting with the leadership development programs for youth and adults.

Master Neibling is also a public school educator, with more than twenty years of experience as a middle school science teacher and Instructional Coach. She has her doctorate in Instructional Leadership and is always seeking new ways to learn and grow - for herself and to advance the

learning of others. Master Neibling finds great satisfaction in both educational and martial arts coaching as she inspires and encourages others to set and achieve goals, becoming stronger in mind, body, and spirit.

Children with ADHD minds are often experienced as bright, adventurous, and creative. In contrast, parenting a child with ADHD can feel overwhelming, even burdensome at times, as ADHD can include everything from creativity to defiance. While outsiders may view the child as disobedient, out of control, or disrespectful; the invisibility of the disorder can lead to increased frustration in parenting for both the child and the parent.

This week’s guest expert, Angela Bonneville, LCSW, has extensive experience and knowledge as a clinician and a parent of a child with ADHD. Angela covers it all, from parenting tips to discipline. At the same time, she reminds listeners that it is not about making a child conform but rather about using resources and creating an environment where the child thrives and learns to succeed based on individual strengths. Angela shares ways to help children navigate a world that is not always friendly towards a neurodivergent child. Talking openly about this topic helps bring awareness, as well as autonomy and confidence for the child.

We know that all children will struggle at different points in their lives. As a parent, it can be scary when your child is dealing with behavioral, emotional, or mental health-related concerns. In this episode, Jackie and Robin discuss how to recognize when your child may need extra support, as well as ways to navigate these challenges and where to turn for resources and support. 

Rest assured, if your family is facing challenges, you are not alone; there is help out there. “Just because a child is struggling, does not mean that they will not be successful, rather the struggle may help them become more resilient.”

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The title of this episode is a quote from the hit Broadway show Hamilton. We agree with Burr when he suggests, "Talk Less, Smile More" to Hamilton. This strategy works for parents too!

Guest expert Dr. Melissa Katz joins us for an intriguing discussion about approaches parents can use to foster deeper and more meaningful connections with their children. Dr. Katz recognizes that observing and trying to understand the why behind a child's behavior may provide some insight into the child's emotional state and needs. Listeners are reminded of the importance of active listening and its impact on open lines of communication. As the conversation unfolds, Jacqueline and Robin join Dr. Katz in discussing strategies and those responses that may hinder communication and even impact a child's confidence.  

Jacqueline and Robin are excited to launch Season Two!

Families have been writing-in all summer, mentioning their favorite episodes, as well as to make requests for topics they would like to hear. We have an amazing lineup of guest experts and are thrilled to unveil some surprises throughout the season. STAY TUNED.

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A note to our listeners.

 Forty-seven episodes later, nearly 3800 listens, we have had guest experts and listeners from all over the United States and worldwide. We have had so much fun working with one another, interviewing guests, recording episodes, and, most of all, hearing from our listeners. We have made several blunders along the way, but just like parenting, success is not measured by perfection. We are so appreciative of all of the support we have received.

 We are so grateful to our listeners and our guest experts. We truly love our work with families and look forward to launching season 2 on August 7, 2023. We will take a break until August to bring listeners new surprises, guest experts, and topics. We plan to spend some time writing to continue building our resource library and focus on self-care and fun. Since our launch, we have not skipped a beat this past year, dropping new episodes each week. This break will also be a time for listeners to catch up on episodes they may have missed, but as one parent noted, to relisten to those episodes that really spoke to them. Season 2 will be nothing short of amazing.

 In the meantime, follow us on social media to stay up to date with our latest news and updates. Have a wonderful summer – we will see you soon! Robin & Jackie

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As parents, we are often ready to let go of some scheduling as summer approaches. The good news is there are fun ways to build in routine while encouraging our children to gain confidence, develop more social connections, and return to school feeling more physically and emotionally healthy. We share some fun stories, tips, and guidance to build memories that will last a lifetime.

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Tips for Parents to Help Motivate Their Children while Building Confidence. 

Neurodiversity is the concept that all humans vary in their neurocognitive ability. While we know that each child will have unique strengths and areas of weakness, the term neurodivergent describes a child who processes information differently.

As many of us know, parenting can be challenging enough, but for parents raising a neurodiverse child, there can be some extra stressors. Sometimes, two parents may have differing views about neurodiversity; their approach might look different even though they want the best for their children. In fact, stress often comes from parents seeking the most current research, resources, and services. In these times, parents may feel there is insufficient information, or it may be conflictual. Our guest expert this week, Dr. Lauren McArdle, understands that as parents, we want to know how to best support and advocate for our children, especially when they struggle. In addition, she also advises where to gather resources and places to venture with caution. During this episode, Dr. Lauren McArdle provides listeners with advice and guidance regarding ways to receive assessments and interventions early, as well as ways to connect with resources within your child’s community and school systems. Dr. McArdle is an expert but also a parent herself of a neurodiverse child. She will leave listeners with hope, resources, and key tips that will provide guidance and support.

Dr. Lauren McArdle, Ph.D.

Assistant Superintendent for Student Services, Lake Zurich CUSD 95

Lauren McArdle is the Assistant Superintendent for Student Services for Lake Zurich CUSD 95. Lauren has her doctorate in school psychology, and additionally has her clinical psychology license. In addition to her work in schools, Lauren previously operated a private practice where she supported a wide range of social-emotional needs (including challenges with substance use). Lauren's office currently oversees all social-emotional initiatives within the District, which includes identifying mental health needs of students.

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We may teach our children many great lessons in a lifetime, but the ones that make a lasting impact are the practices we model and live by. Parents often write in and inquire about ways to teach their children some core values, such as kindness, empathy, and compassion. Our Guest Expert this week Andrea “Dre” Carnegie, has spent much of his life inspiring others to live better and fuller lives, a motto he calls ‘Life on Life Investing’. Dre is not only an inspiration, but his authenticity and generosity leave you feeling fuller after just a few short moments of being in his presence. Maybe teaching our children to believe in themselves and wanting to inspire others is not that trickey…. Possibly it starts with us being that mentor for our children and those around us. Mentorship does not require endless praise or material possessions, but as Dre mentions, a listening ear, a non-judgemental response, and, at times, accountability. As we invest in our children and build them up, the return will be greater confidence and motivation, as well as a desire to treat others the way they have been treated. 

Andrea “Dre” Carnegie is the Student Success Coach with the Shawnee Mission School District, Kansas. He has over 17 years of experience working in education. He specializes in building authentic relationships and is responsible for supporting students, staff, and families throughout the Shawnee Mission School District. Dre works very closely with Principals, Counselors, and Social Workers in the work he does daily. He is involved in Deep Equity work with SMSD and is one of the “Train the Trainers”. This work includes training staff to lead Deep Equity work in their buildings. Dre loves to invest in, encourage, motivate, and spur on others and the students he works with. He is a powerful force in the SMSD and uses his positive attitude and tireless energy to help clothes succeed. In addition, Dre owns a consulting business, and runs an AAU Youth Track and field program in the Kansas City area. Dres loves to workout, attend Bible studies, travel and spend time with his dog Cable. 

As a parent, have you ever felt like you and your child were butting heads? Maybe, your child shuts down and you 'nag' more? Or you simply want to learn more ways to support your child while helping them to reach their full potential. This episode is right for you if you answered yes to any of these. Our guest expert this week, Karen Clarke, specializes in working with children to help them unlock their real potential. Karen also teaches parents strategies to increase their child's motivation and empower them to gain confidence, take chances, and tolerate frustrations and even failure. Parents often comment how they love learning practical strategies from Karen, especially her authenticity and ability to connect to children and families in a meaningful way. So often, children do not put forth effort because they believe they will not be successful. So, listeners get ready to learn how shifting our mindsets can influence how our children see themselves. Let us be our child's number-one champion!

Karen Clarke is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker that received her Master’s Degree in Social Work from Loyola University and Bachelor’s Degree in Psychology from Elmhurst College. She began her career in Residential Treatment homes for DCFS wards of the state as an Assistant Family Teacher. She was employed at Schaumburg Police Department collaborating with community members in crisis situations as well as domestic violence assistance. She has worked as a high school social worker for over twenty years as well as in private practice for seven years. Within both settings, Karen has assisted youth in areas such as crisis intervention, anger management, anxiety, depression, and social skills training (running Social Language groups) to assist individuals with or without an Autism diagnosis. Karen uses a Cognitive Behavioral Therapy approach as well as a Solutions Focused model to assist those she serves. Karen assists her clients in creating action plans to recognize the root cause of their difficulties and the steps they need to take control of their lives. Karen believes that by assisting her clients they can better explore life’s challenges, identify areas of improvement and set attainable goals that will help change their lives for the better.

Being a child today can be challenging in today’s world, which can often be fast paced, including pressures to succeed. Children must also navigate through life while dealing with societal expectations via peer pressures, social media, academics, and personal expectations, to name a few. Another pressure that is not discussed as often comes from cultural expectations. As parents, we place expectations on our child, which may stem from our own upbringing, especially influenced by our religion and/or culture, possibly arising from our family of origins, beliefs, and expectations. Children who grow up with foreign-born parents often try to meet the expectations of two cultures, their parents and their peers. While this can be an amazing opportunity, it can also be difficult as the child tries to develop his/her own identity.

Dr. Arna Erega joins Jackie and Robin to discuss how families can recognize the expectations they hold of their children, as well as powerful tips to connect with their children and create meaningful experiences influenced by cultural and family values while understanding societal pressures our children may face.

While this is not necessarily a fun & light topic to discuss, this week’s guest expert will share strategies to support parents in having conversations with their children about safety, traumatic events, and much more. Often children hear or see things online, via television, or simply by overhearing conversations at school or in their home that may be upsetting. Sometimes children may feel alarmed, resulting in feelings of anxiousness or depression, and parents may not even realize the cause and effect. This week’s guest expert, Lisa Aguilar, M.S., shares tips that can be key in helping our children feel safe and empowering them to feel more secure and confident. We have chosen Lisa Aguilar due to her vast expertise and knowledge as a consultant, school educator, and parent. During this episode, Lisa also discusses ways parents can minimize exposure to information that may not be age-appropriate, as well as ways to have healthy conversations with their children around these topics, particularly when events occur in the community, school, and/or within the family.

Lisa Aguilar, M.S. SSP

Licensed Specialist in School Psychology

Lisa Aguilar is a Licensed School Psychologist with 12 years of experience working in the educational system. Lisa received her Master's degree in Clinical Child/School Psychology from Southern Illinois University Edwardsville along with her Specialist degree in School Psychology.  

Lisa has experience with psychoeducational assessment and intervention, mental health counseling and programming in schools, and parent education and support. Lisa also has valuable experience in school crisis response and behavioral threat assessment and intervention. 

Lisa's strengths include evaluating educational systems and practices and assisting other professionals in developing effective protocols and procedures.  She is driven by education transformation and developing strategies to support systemic change and student achievement. Lisa enjoys collaborating with parents, schools, and students by assessing strengths and weaknesses, focusing on supports and interventions, and creating feasible action plans.

Lisa’s professional affiliations include the Illinois School Psychologist Association (ISPA), National Association of School Psychologists, and the Association for Threat Assessment Professionals (ATAP).

We live in a different era of technology with our children than the world we grew up in. Our children and young people have access to powerful technology and information as close as the palms of their hands. We must be informed, vigilant, and engaged with our children and students to keep them safe in the cyber world far beyond our homes, schools, and neighborhoods. Our guest expert Retired Detective Richard Wistocki has 20 years of experience as a Cyber Crimes Detective and Internet Crimes Investigator. He started BeSure Consulting; a company committed to protecting our children’s safety. During this episode, Detective Wistocki shares his view on safeguarding children and how parents can be watchful by monitoring all devices. Parents will learn tips to become more involved in their child’s relationship with their devices while also learning to monitor and teach children about safety, protecting their emotional, mental, and physical safety. 

“One of the greatest risks to our children are the devices they carry with them every day.” Detective Richard Wistocki

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It's never too early to teach children about racial, gender, and ethnic identity with inclusivity and respect. In fact, we should begin teaching our children about diversity and acceptance from the time our children are born. If you believe your child is not impacted by racism, you may be deeply mistaken. Join us, with guest expert Sherrine Peyton, for a thought-provoking discussion that dives into a difficult conversation around the impact racism has on minority youth and all children and families. 

It's never too early to teach children about racial, gender, and ethnic identity with inclusivity and respect. In fact, we should begin teaching our children about diversity and acceptance from the time our children are born. If you believe your child is not impacted by racism, you may be deeply mistaken. Join us, with guest expert Sherrine Peyton, for a thought-provoking discussion that dives into a difficult conversation around the impact racism has on minority youth and all children and families.