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Sincerely, Sumayah

Sincerely, Sumayah

By Sumayah Hassan

Voicenotes to the world on the subtleties of being human. Not for everyone, always with love • sumayah.substack.com/podcast

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Sincerely, Sumayah // [Episode 25] Balancing Boundaries & Triggers

Sincerely, SumayahNov 19, 2021

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Sincerely, Sumayah // [Final Episode]— I'd love to but I can't.

Sincerely, Sumayah // [Final Episode]— I'd love to but I can't.

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A brief episode on boundaries, vulnerability and human limitations.

“I don't want to let anyone down, and feel like I've failed them if I can't be supportive. Sometimes I am struggling myself and I realized I have no one who actually listens to me.”

Jun 30, 202308:05

Sincerely, Sumayah // [Episode 40] Support During A Crisis — Telling More Gracious Stories

Sincerely, Sumayah // [Episode 40] Support During A Crisis — Telling More Gracious Stories

What happens when you are going through a challenging time and your closest people let you down? What does it mean when they don't show up for you? Can we acknowledge our personal limitations around being there for our people, and extend that compassion to them when it's our turn?

Feb 20, 202313:03

Sincerely, Sumayah // [Episode 39] Are They Ready to Hear It?

Sincerely, Sumayah // [Episode 39] Are They Ready to Hear It?

All of our timelines for understanding and growth differ and we can't rush or control our own timing or those of others. Instead of questioning whether we could have done more to get a message across, a different question would be whether our audience is ready to hear it.

Sep 10, 202208:14

Sincerely, Sumayah // [Episode 38] Social Media: A Perfectly Polished Performance

Sincerely, Sumayah // [Episode 38] Social Media: A Perfectly Polished Performance

Where's the line between playing the part and being an entire human being? Thoughts on navigating vulnerability, openness, reality and truth in the context of social media and marketing.

Jul 12, 202219:58

Sincerely, Sumayah // [Episode 37] A Million Mistakes

Sincerely, Sumayah // [Episode 37] A Million Mistakes

Allah (awj) is inviting you to come back to Him. He has not given up on you. He still wants you. He sees the good in you, even when you no longer see it in yourself. Even after a million mistakes. All you need to do is to turn to Him

Jul 04, 202208:42

Sincerely, Sumayah // [Episode 36] One Last Thing

Sincerely, Sumayah // [Episode 36] One Last Thing

You aren't unworthy, corrupt or so lost that you should just give up on yourself. You're not too far gone. If you have nothing else, hold on to the one last thing. It may be the thing that saves you.

Jun 09, 202207:01

Sincerely, Sumayah // [Episode 35] Trusting Divine Timing

Sincerely, Sumayah // [Episode 35] Trusting Divine Timing

Where's the line between trusting in Allah and tying your camel? How do you know when you've done enough? What if you miss out on a chance?

Jun 07, 202210:57

Sincerely, Sumayah // [Episode 34] Giving with Healthy Boundaries

Sincerely, Sumayah // [Episode 34] Giving with Healthy Boundaries

This one is for all of the kindhearted, naturally giving, generous people who have become afraid of being used or taken advantage of. You can set boundaries that protect you and allow you to decide when and how you help others. It doesn't make you withholding or selfish, it just makes you human.

May 31, 202205:51

Sincerely, Sumayah // [Episode 33] The Fear of Being Too Needy

Sincerely, Sumayah // [Episode 33] The Fear of Being Too Needy

This episode is about the fear of being too needy in relationships and how to manage our expectations and emotions.

May 26, 202207:15

Sincerely, Sumayah // [Episode 32] Creating Safety in Relationships

Sincerely, Sumayah // [Episode 32] Creating Safety in Relationships

A lie has a mother & father. Let's examine our role in creating a safe environment in our marriages, families and the community at large.

Feb 10, 202215:32

Sincerely, Sumayah // [Episode 31] Where The Couple Ends & You Begin

Sincerely, Sumayah // [Episode 31] Where The Couple Ends & You Begin

What happens to a couple when one person makes their partner the center of their universe? Where are the lines between our individual lives and being part of a couple?

Feb 03, 202211:45

Sincerely, Sumayah // [Episode 30] How Can I Love You Better?

Sincerely, Sumayah // [Episode 30] How Can I Love You Better?

It makes it a lot easier for them to show up for you in the right way when you tell them how you want to be loved, and vice versa.

Jan 30, 202209:08

Sincerely, Sumayah // [Episode 29] The Delicate Dance of Friendship

Sincerely, Sumayah // [Episode 29] The Delicate Dance of Friendship

We can both accept things that are outside of our control, and allow ourselves to feel how we do about them happening.

Dec 29, 202106:33

Sincerely, Sumayah // [Episode 28] Taking the Time to Get to Know Yourself

Sincerely, Sumayah // [Episode 28] Taking the Time to Get to Know Yourself

Just like you understand its natural to spend time getting to know someone you just met, you also need to take the time to get to know yourself. It isn't arrogant or selfish to ask questions, reflect or pay attention to your inner world.

Dec 26, 202107:29

Sincerely, Sumayah // [Episode 27] Transactions & Unspoken Expectations

Sincerely, Sumayah // [Episode 27] Transactions & Unspoken Expectations

A person who gives with the expectation of getting the same in return will feel resentful and empty when they don't get that. When you don't love and respect yourself it can actually drive healthy people away from you. Securely attached, emotionally healthy people aren't usually drawn to people-pleasing or martyr behaviour.

Dec 18, 202109:37

Sincerely, Sumayah // [Episode 26] Getting Curious About Our Inner World

Sincerely, Sumayah // [Episode 26] Getting Curious About Our Inner World

It's really hard to mentor someone who isn't willing to get curious about themselves. People tend to be focused on analyzing others' behaviours and choices. A key qualifier for effective healing and growth is being open and curious about your own inner world.

Dec 09, 202105:12

Sincerely, Sumayah // [Episode 25] Balancing Boundaries & Triggers

Sincerely, Sumayah // [Episode 25] Balancing Boundaries & Triggers

Taking responsibility for the process of your growth and healing means dealing with triggers and setting healthy boundaries.

Nov 19, 202104:02

Sincerely, Sumayah // [Episode 24] Red Flags & Deal-breakers • Am I asking for too much?

Sincerely, Sumayah // [Episode 24] Red Flags & Deal-breakers • Am I asking for too much?

I haven't met anyone who meets my criteria without deal-breakers. Does this mean I'm being too picky? Where's the line between having impossible standards and settling?

Nov 15, 202110:13

Sincerely, Sumayah // [Episode 23] The Gift of Possibility

Sincerely, Sumayah // [Episode 23] The Gift of Possibility

Each person comes with their gift. Can you be receptive to the gift and let the experience go with grace? Can it mean that Allah (swt) is showing you that you are worthy and that this is possible for you?

Nov 14, 202105:25

Sincerely, Sumayah // [Episode 22] Friendship • An Exchange of Energy

Sincerely, Sumayah // [Episode 22] Friendship • An Exchange of Energy

There are relationships that primarily take from us, others that nourish us and some that do both. Which is which?

Sep 06, 202104:42

Sincerely, Sumayah // [Episode 21] A Home To Come Back To

Sincerely, Sumayah // [Episode 21] A Home To Come Back To

You can always come back home. You've never gone too far or changed too much to be welcome.

Jul 11, 202106:24

Sincerely, Sumayah // [Episode 20] A Lesson on Boundaries from the Qur'an

Sincerely, Sumayah // [Episode 20] A Lesson on Boundaries from the Qur'an

In the story of Musa (pbuh) and Al-Khidr in Surat Al-Kahf, we witness an interaction between a Prophet who is also a distinguished leader of his people, and a slave of Allah that had been given knowledge and a special understanding of matters.

Jul 10, 202105:50

Sincerely, Sumayah // [Episode 19] That Doesn't Make you a Bad Muslim or a Bad Person

Sincerely, Sumayah // [Episode 19] That Doesn't Make you a Bad Muslim or a Bad Person

Reflecting on Ayah (7:43) from the Quran, and how feeling all that we do is part of the Human experience in this world. It doesn't mean anything about who you are or your character.

Dec 06, 202007:29

Sincerely, Sumayah // [Episode 18] Knowing it • Listening to your intuition & gut feelings

Sincerely, Sumayah // [Episode 18] Knowing it • Listening to your intuition & gut feelings

Do you pause after an experience to check in with yourself and see how it leaves you feeling? Do you pay attention to the effect people, media, places or even food have on you afterwards?

Nov 23, 202007:20

Sincerely, Sumayah // [Episode 17] Your Feelings Are Valid

Sincerely, Sumayah // [Episode 17] Your Feelings Are Valid

For everyone who apologizes before sharing their thoughts or feels like what they're thinking isn't normal or probably not even acceptable.

Oct 18, 202014:14

Sincerely, Sumayah // [Episode 16] They're Not A Bad Person

Sincerely, Sumayah // [Episode 16] They're Not A Bad Person

Look at the bigger picture.

Oct 17, 202003:59

Sincerely, Sumayah // [Episode 15] Heartbreak, Betrayal & Infidelity

Sincerely, Sumayah // [Episode 15] Heartbreak, Betrayal & Infidelity

This episode is brought to you by Haven for Heartbreak. A safe space for women facing heartbreak, betrayal and Infidelity trauma, facilitated by Sumayah Hassan. Book a session at havenforhearbreak.com/book

May 29, 202022:56

Sincerely, Sumayah // [Episode 14] Acceptance: A Safe Haven in Hardship

Sincerely, Sumayah // [Episode 14] Acceptance: A Safe Haven in Hardship

For the fighters who are in the heart of the storm. You can put down the armor. You are safe with Him (swt) ❤️

Sep 21, 201910:16

Sincerely, Sumayah // [Episode 13] The Abundance of Love

Sincerely, Sumayah // [Episode 13] The Abundance of Love

Can we move away from the idea of love being something scarce that must be sought or performed for? And move towards seeing love as something abundant and ever-present. If you knew you were loved and supported unconditionally, what would change for you?

Sep 16, 201913:09

Sincerely, Sumayah // [Episode 12] Permission

Sincerely, Sumayah // [Episode 12] Permission

On being stuck and making tough decisions.

Sep 13, 201909:18

Sincerely, Sumayah // [Episode 11 ] Give Yourself What You Need

Sincerely, Sumayah // [Episode 11 ] Give Yourself What You Need

You have the ability to meet your own needs. A simple powerful shift towards your personal wellbeing.

Sep 03, 201908:12

Sincerely, Sumayah // [Episode 10] On Boundaries & Bad Adab

Sincerely, Sumayah // [Episode 10] On Boundaries & Bad Adab

Treat people as you'd like to be treated. Being disrespectful or unkind thinking that people of faith will tolerate it is a flawed assumption.

Mar 09, 201917:45

Sincerely, Sumayah // [Episode 9] Beautiful One with the Broken Heart

Sincerely, Sumayah // [Episode 9] Beautiful One with the Broken Heart

A letter to you, beautiful girl with the broken heart. You know who you are ❤️

Jan 23, 201921:25

Sincerely, Sumayah // [Episode 8] Identities & The Business of Connection

Sincerely, Sumayah // [Episode 8] Identities & The Business of Connection

How do you define yourself? Who are you really? Who do you think we need you to be?

Jan 06, 201911:55

Sincerely, Sumayah // [Episode 7] Super Mom & Other Mythical Creatures

Sincerely, Sumayah // [Episode 7] Super Mom & Other Mythical Creatures

You're doing so much and you make it look so easy! How do you do it all?

Dec 20, 201812:22

Sincerely, Sumayah // [Episode 6] Spirituality vs. Personal Development

Sincerely, Sumayah // [Episode 6] Spirituality vs. Personal Development

Is cultivating a spiritual connection to your faith a substitute for applying yourself and doing the work to grow and heal?

Nov 30, 201818:01

Sincerely, Sumayah // [Episode 5] The Art of Accepting Where You're At

Sincerely, Sumayah // [Episode 5] The Art of Accepting Where You're At

How can I accept the past, make the most of the present and have hope for the best possible future?

Nov 24, 201818:15

Sincerely, Sumayah // [Episode 4] Underdeveloped Characters

Sincerely, Sumayah // [Episode 4] Underdeveloped Characters

Labels, roles, criticism & judgement. This is who you need to be. Says who?

Nov 18, 201817:41

Sincerely, Sumayah // [Episode 3] Stories of Trust

Sincerely, Sumayah // [Episode 3] Stories of Trust

We plan and Allah plans. A story about trust in Allah, hardship and ease.

Nov 15, 201815:56

Sincerely, Sumayah // [Episode 2] Creative Courage

Sincerely, Sumayah // [Episode 2] Creative Courage

Putting your heart and soul into making something and presenting it to the world is one of the scariest things to do. It isn't just scary for the first timer, but for every single one of us.

Nov 13, 201816:15

Sincerely, Sumayah // [Episode 1] It's Okay to Walk Away

Sincerely, Sumayah // [Episode 1] It's Okay to Walk Away

It's true you can't control how other people behave towards you. But it's up to you to decide when something isn't working for you, and whether you want to continue to accept that or not.

Nov 12, 201812:31