Nectar Sex & Soul

In this episode I dive into a missing key ingredient in many people’s lives, relationships, conflict resolution, healing process, and more.

I discuss:

• Why somatic/embodiment practice is so important, even for cerebral & intellectual people (and what it is!)
• Key self-inquiries to attune you to the wisdom of your body and deepen into the present moment
• My love of words, and their limitations
• A way of connecting with others in a way that drops so much deeper than words and facilitates deliciously rich intimacy
• Why we have to slow down in order to hear the messages from our body
• How to work with the breath to regulate our nervous system and come home to grounded clarity and truth.
• How breath and embodiment practice helped me to work through anger and rage
• How to problem-solve with the body, rather than the mind
• Where we can find the answers to our greatest decisions
• Lesser known love languages that bring us into deeper connection with ourselves and our beloveds
• Practices you can share with a partner that go deeper than conversation and typical conflict resolution
• How to communicate with the body, heart and soul, rather than the mind and ego.
• Letting go of persuasion or being right, in favor of real intimacy
• Going beyond conflict resolution into relationship nurturing
• How embodiment practice has changed my life and my work
• Upcoming opportunities to work with me in embodiment practice

In this episode, Naturopathic Doctor and Feminine Burnout & Pleasure Coach, Dr. Jordin Wiggins, and I dive deeply into our own journeys with feminine burnout, health issues, and entrepreneurship. We discuss why overdoing and people-pleasing can lead to diminished libido, pleasure and joy, and how this feminine burnout has become an epidemic in the modern world.

We explore how feminine burnout comes about, the ways it negatively affects so many areas of our lives, and how to heal from it in order to reclaim our pleasure in our bodies, families, and businesses.

Dr. Wiggins shares candidly about her struggle with mental health while pursuing her pre-med degree, and her personal experiences with the modern medical model which led her to Naturopathic medicine, and her coaching practice. She dives into the most common complaints that her coaching clients struggle with, and the teachings and practices which are most supportive for long-term healing from chronic burnout.

We explore:

• What my own journey with chronic illness taught me about the connection between sexual energy and vitality
• How men can better understand the experience of their female partners who might be irritable, low libido, exhausted, overwhelmed, etc.
• The most common disorder that Dr. Wiggins sees in her female clients
• What we each learned from forced slow-down of COVID
• Dr. Wiggins’ definition of “Superwoman”, and why women who embody this archetype struggle to live happy, fulfilling lives
• The dysfunction of the burnout cycle
• Why embodiment practices aren’t enough to stop the burnout cycle
• The role of the nervous system in sexual dysfunction
• Why women’s sexuality changes after starting businesses or having babies
• The “fire hose” effect that can stop us when we begin pleasure-based practices
• How to tolerate “feeling good” and why we self-sabotage
• Moving from over-functioning, perfectionism and people-pleasing, to magnetizing and inviting support
• Ways in which our health and wealth can come at the expense of one another
• Why we need to prioritize being physically and mentally resilient
• The game changing art of building in time and space for what matters
• The relationship between worthiness and boundaries
• Exploring the balance in motherhood and business
• Why prioritizing ourselves as women makes all the difference in our families and work
• The crucial ingredient of community for healing as women
• And so much more

Dr. Jordin is a Naturopathic Doctor, Feminine Burnout and Pleasure Coach. She is the CEO of the Pleasure Collective, a coaching community for women reclaiming their pleasure, the author of The Pink Canary, an investigation into the hidden secret to optimal women’s wellness and podcast host of The Pleasure Principles.  She is a regular contributor to articles and TV, including Cityline, Cosmopolitan, and The Washington Post, advocating for women’s health and right to pleasure. Dr. Jordin gets it, because she was there too. A burnt out, exhausted, Superwoman living for everyone else. She believes that great sex is just the beginning - everything comes when you learn how to receive: better sex, better health, more wealth.

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In this episode we explore what defines a truly “successful”, fulfilling, and meaningful relationship.

I discuss:

-Why I don’t align with using the words “success” and “failure” to measure and qualify relationships

-How to alchemize a “failed” relationship into growth

-What happens when longevity and permanence become a replacement for true commitment

-Why the health of a relationship is far more important than its longevity

-A personal story about why the language we use about relationships matters

-The personal value of choosing to learn from bad relationships

-Questions to ask yourself when assessing the health, happiness and “success” of your relationships

-Why I don’t believe in compromise, and how to harmonize instead

-How to get really honest about compatibility, and questioning cultural defaults

-Big red flags to look for in a relationship

-What “third stage intimacy” is, and how to cultivate it in your relationship

-How to create, nurture, and sustain a relationship that calls us into our higher selves

-When letting go is the best option

-The story of the winding evolution of my six-year relationship

-An exciting new way to work with me

In this episode, Divine Feminine Channel, Sri Namaste Moore, and I explore the effects of feminism on the health, happiness, and radiance of the modern woman, as well as how it has affected relationships and polarity.

We dive deeply into what it means to embody and live in the feminine as a woman in modern culture, and how that impacts and transforms our work, our relationships, and our the world.

Sri Namaste shares her story of alchemical marriage with her husband, Baba Richard, and the cultivation of their container The Infinite Couple, as well as parenting 8 children into adulthood, and running their business devoted to returning men to the masculine, women to the feminine, and men and women to each other.

We explore:

-The story behind Sri Namaste’s mission to bring women back to the feminine

-The confusion around gender roles and polarity dynamics in modern society

-Where feminism has failed women and disrupted polarity

-Why so many women can’t seem to find a man to meet them/wonder where are the good men are

-Teaching children by what we model, not what we say

-Rest as THE priority, not as a reward

-Overcoming victimhood, moving beyond cancel culture, and some of the downfalls of the “Me too” movement

-How feminism often widens the division between men and women, rather than bridging the gap and fostering change and healing

-Learning sovereign choice and self-responsibility in a consent-focused culture

-Empowerment as an inside job

-The art and power of transparency in partnership and marriage

-The difference between yin/yang, and feminine/masculine

-Maintaining the spark of desire in long term relationships

-Cultivating authenticity as an entrepreneur

-Doing business in a feminine way without the grind, hustle, and burnout

-Centering the slow ripening of our work for the greatest success

-And so much more

Sri Namaste Moore is Half of the Infinite Couple, Founder of Feminae - The Way of Womanhood and Co-Founder and Transmitter of Dyadic Consciousness: The Codes of the Next Evolution of Humanity. She is a Wife and Mother of 8 adults. She and her Husband Baba Richard are here to return Men to the Masculine, Women to the Feminine and Men and Women to Each Other to Create Legendary Love, Build Generational Wealth, and Live and Lead their Legacy.

In this episode we explore what it means to “heal from the root” for long-lasting or even permanent results, whether you’re addressing challenges in relationship, sexuality, your body, or any other area of life.

I discuss:

-Why a symptomatic approach to healing doesn’t work

-How allopathic “western” medicine keeps us in a loop of attacking and creating more symptoms

-How to listen to the body and integrate its messages

-The role of the unconscious mind in healing, and why modalities that involve only working with the conscious mind often fall short

-Why certain events are stored in the body as trauma, and how they impact us

-How to use the body as a map to the unconscious patterns and blockages keeping us stuck

-Anxiety and tension as teachers

-Why reconditioning the mind through somatic, embodied practice is key to healing

-How orgasm and arousal can support transformation

-Finding our way back to our true essence

-An opportunity to dive deeper into my work for free

In this episode, transformational coach, Matthew Scott Kuelhorn unpacks a lot of the common misconceptions and oversimplification around masculinity, that often distorts the understanding of masculinity as toxic.

We dive into what it means to cultivate healthy, integrated masculine/feminine, yin/yang, directive/receptive energy within ourselves, regardless of gender.

Matthew shares his journey of moving from bankruptcy and people pleasing into accountability, fatherhood, a healthy relationship, and meaningful work, by stepping into his healthy masculine. He also discusses the distortions that prevented him from doing so, and what finally shifted for him.

We explore:

-The difference between mature masculine, immature masculine, and masculine shadow

-How to cultivate healthy masculine energy through embodying and integrating the warrior, magician, lover and king archetypes

-Common pitfalls of the "nice guy complex" that keep us stuck in immature energy and repelling what we want the most

-The difference between mature, immature and shadow feminine

-How to call forth the mature masculine or feminine energy within ourselves, our lovers, and our coming of age children.

-The importance of initiation for cultivating the mature expression of ourselves

Matthew Scott Kuelhorn is an experiential coach and leader who's mission is to be deeply present, create opportunities and lead himself and others to new levels of potential each and every day. Connect with Matthew and learn more about his work and upcoming program via Instagram and his website.

In this episode we explore how to cultivate sexual sovereignty for a more turned on life.

We discuss:

Overcoming sexual frustration and numbness

Cultivating a reciprocal relationship and dialogue with your body and sexual energy

Filling your own cup regardless of your relationship status

Taking responsibility for and ownership of your turn on and how this will transform your life and relationships

How to source your turn on from within

How to have an empowering and fulfilling relationship with your sexuality

Intentional self-pleasure both in and out of the bedroom for a more turned on life

Upcoming Self Pleasure Courses:

In this episode, my dear friend, Lee Curac-Dahl, so generously and candidly shares of his own experiences with porn addiction, escapism, avoidance, and anxiety.  We discussed in great depth the way that our vices can derail our lives, and how to rewrite these patterns for more fulfilling, intentional, balanced lives.

We explore the difference between mindless and mindful masturbation, and how to cultivate an intentional self-pleasure practice that will enrich your life both in and out of the bedroom. If you want to dive deeper into this, I'm offering a men's course and a women's course in the coming weeks! Join below: 

In this episode, we're restoring the sacred to the slandered. So many of the innately human, life-giving, embodied expressions of what it is to be alive (most of which are feminine by nature) have been slandered, shamed and outlawed for thousands of years. Sex, birth, blood, the body, and the earth have all been oppressed and repressed, stripping humanity of its connection to its roots, depth and power. In this episode we explore why, as well as how to restore our birth right to be deeply connected with and in reverence to these parts of ourselves and humanity for more richly fulfilling, sovereign, embodied lives.

This episode is important for everyone to hear, regardless of gender, as these lost parts of ourselves have left many aching for meaning, direction, connection, and aliveness in a world that has long been disconnected from the core nurturance and nourishment of the feminine.

In this episode, Rachel Ruva, Birth Keeper, Portal Tender, Apprentice to the Plants, explore all of this and so much more, including:

❦ Connecting with the wisdom of the body, blood, womb and earth

❦ Conscious conception

❦ Sx and motherhood

❦ Intentional parenting

❦ Sovereign, instinctual, natural birthing

❦ Motherhood as a spiritual teacher

❦ Sacred sisterhood

❦ And more!

Rachel Ruva is a mama, a birth witness, a caster of circle spaces and spells and a devotee to the old earth ways which invite instinctual renaissance and living reverence into our bodies.

Plants, womb blood and the familiar shape of a circle inform her work as a space holder and facilitator. She holds three in person programs in Denmark: the Birth Keeper Immersion and Embody your Female Nervous System and The Wisdom of the Witch Wounds, where women gather to do the work to re•member the living technology of our bodies and inherent place in the web of life. She also supports women as they walk the path of sovereign birthing, motherhood, cyclical womb-centered living, and nourishment with plant and animal foods as medicine.

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Sexual “dysfunctions” (I don’t like the term sexual dysfunction bc it implies something’s “wrong,” which often isn’t the case) are symptoms of a deeper misalignment and are a reflection of how energy is flowing (or not) in the rest of your life.

They’re not isolated to the bedroom, but rather integrated into the whole of our lives.

Your body is a mirror for what’s out of balance in your life, a map of the unconscious.

The wisdom of the body is potent and often expressed in a way we don’t understand, and even get frustrated with.

If sex isn’t working, we need to ask what’s out of alignment internally,  in our relationship, and in our lives.

In the same way that pain and illness are messengers, alerting us that something is out of balance or needs attention, sxual "dysfunctions" serve to bring awareness to something deeper going on, within ourselves or in our connection to our lover, if we know how to read the signs.

If our body is not responding in a way that allows us to sxually connect, it doesn't necessarily mean something is wrong with us.

More often than not, it's the wisdom of the body/c0ck/pu$$y having our back by working EXACTLY how they're supposed to.

Learning to listen to the oracle of the body can reveal where healing and integration are needed. It’s essential to respond in reverence rather than mistaking the body’s communication as an annoyance or inconvenience.

The good news is, most of them can be healed when we address the root of the problem, which I address in great detail in this episode.

This episode is a generous deep dive into the ins and outs of the root causes and meaning of all types of sxual challenges, and is incredibly rich with invaluable information as to how to navigate them.

In this episode connect with special guest, Simon Yugler, Depth Psychotherapist & Psychedelic Integration Coach. We covered suchhh a rich and diverse array of topics that I'm so excited to share with you. We talk psychedelics, shadow work, leadership, masculinity, and so much more.

Simon is a wealth of wisdom and an excellent resource for living a life full of purpose, meaning, and soul.

In this episode, we take a deep dive into:

❦ The quest for meaning and purpose, and how the lack of meaning is afflicting people in the western world

❦ The importance of integrating our shadow

❦ Initiation and its purpose in the human experience (and the consequences of its absence)

❦ Grief as a portal to the soul

❦ Conscious leadership and what it means to lead with integrity

❦ The healing potential of psychedelics and how to work with them safely and integrate what we learn from them into our daily lives

❦ Sxuality, masculinity and polarity, both in the modern world and in indigenous cultures

A little more about Simon:

With a masters (MA) in counseling psychology from Pacifica Graduate Institute, Simon Yugler is a depth and psychedelic integration therapist based in Portland, OR. Weaving Jungian psychology, Internal Family Systems therapy, and mythology, Simon also draws on his diverse experiences learning from indigenous cultures around the world, including the Shipibo ayahuasca tradition. He has a background in anthropology and experiential education, and has led immersive international journeys for young adults across 10 countries.He currently works as a retreat leader and therapist with MycoMeditations, one of the world's leading legal psilocybin-assisted therapy retreats, based in Jamaica. He is passionate about initiation, men’s work, decolonization, and helping his clients explore the liminal wilds of the soul.

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I encourage everyone to give this one a listen, even the men, because there is such a wealth of insight in here as to how to better harmonize with a female lover (if you have one) in relation to her cycle, that can support you both in having a much more fulfilling and smooth-sailing relationship!

Not to mention there is just so much magic laced within the mystical world of menstruation that is beyond fascinating and really deserves to be known and revered!

Laura has a true gift for weaving the scientific and the spiritual in the way she addresses this topic, in a way that's deeply profound, grounded and practical. She's played a pivotal role in my life in how I relate with my own cycle, and it's changed my life in such beautiful and unexpected ways. I want every woman to have this knowledge, and I want every man to be equipped with it as well. It's seriously a game-changer for everyone involved.

In this episode, we explore:

❦ How to effectively navigate PMS

❦ Cycle literacy and how it can change your life

❦ How to work as a team in relationship in regards to maintaining harmony throughout the changes of the menstrual cycle

❦ The ancient roots of menstrual mysticism and how to relate with it as a spiritual, self-care, and creative practice

❦ The importance of honoring the yin cycle in life, for all humans, menstruating or not

❦ How to read and honor the language of the body

❦ Destigamatizing menstruation

❦ And more!

Laura Carmody (she/they) is a menstrual health and empowerment educator residing in southern Oregon. She loves to support people as they cultivate deep and meaningful relationships with their bodies and cycles. Laura trains groups and individuals in red tent facilitation, and brings practical Red Tent bleeding spaces to festivals and gatherings.
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Laura's approach to sacred menstruation recognizes the systemic inequities that have lead to period poverty, inaccessibility of menstrual necessities, and global menstrual taboos. She believes that all menstruators deserve to bleed with dignity, with access to menstrual education and care, and with clean water. She is devoted to playing her part in stewarding a world where menstruation is truly respected.

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It's not desire that's the root of all suffering, but rather our attachment to it. This is a deep dive into destigmatizing desire; learning to channel it as a potent fuel source for creativity and purpose; and how we can magnetize what we desire in deeply fulfilling ways.  We'll explore how to work with healthy desire, as well as the shadow of desire, and how desire can be an invitation to come home more fully to ourselves and the present moment, rather than being distracted by it. This is a feminine approach to manifestation that involves flow, pleasure, presence and gratitude.

An intimate deep dive with sensual embodiment guide, Naomi Batiste, around the topics of some of our most frequently asked questions, from unique perspectives that go far deeper than "quick tips and tricks."

We delve into: we delve into not only the nuanced exploration of what women want, but also:

-How to get more clear on what you want

-How to make love to every moment in life and live a fully turned on existence

-How to be deeply guided by the moment rather than in your head

-The art of a deeply nourishing self-pleasure practice and how it can change your life

-The transmutational healing power of sexual energy

-The art of embodied listening and becoming fluent in the language of the body

-Does size matter?

-How to feel more and embrace the polarity of pleasure and pain; grief and joy; longing and wholeness.

-And so much more

Naomi Batiste is your permission slip to express your sensuality. Naomi is a queer mother who believes any person with any body can be a sensualist and expressionist in their own way, just as she is. Naomi uses the non-linear movement method and self pleasure modality to guide people inward with the intention of sensitizing to their pleasure. These somatic practices are guideposts to connecting you to your innate bodily wisdom and sensuality. Naomi is your guide.