The Suzanne Venker Show

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Suzanne makes an announcement about The Suzanne Venker Show and discusses her new book, How to Build a Better Life: A New Roadmap for Women Who Want to Prioritize Love & Family, which is now on sale at Amazon. LINK: https://www.suzannevenker.com/books/how-to-build-a-better-life/

Are you a single woman (or the parent of a single woman) who wants to take her foot off the gas pedal and settle down with a husband and kids? Are you a married mother who wants to quit her job and stay home with the littles, but your family and friends—even your own husband!—want you to continue to work full-time? 

If so, you will NOT want to miss this episode! Suzanne has written a book just for you.

It’s called How to Build a Better Life: A New Roadmap for Women Who Want to Prioritize Love and Family, and you’ll hear all about it in this episode.

https://www.suzannevenker.com/books/how-to-build-a-better-life/

Dating in America has become an absolute mess. Men and women have no compass for how to proceed and no idea what the roles and the rules are anymore.

In this episode, Suzanne lists 7 dating rules for marriage-minded women since they have the power to get to what they ultimately want: marriage.

Overachieving is defined as the unrelenting drive for high performance, and women are drowning in this phenomenon. Suzanne reads from an article in the Wall Street Journal that explains how overachieving is a form of self-protection that is harmful to our physical and mental health and outlines three strategies to help women stop overachieving. 

LINK: https://www.wsj.com/health/wellness/for-happiness-in-the-new-year-stop-overdoing-everything-6b9a4b99 MARRIAGE OR RELATIONSHIP TROUBLES? Sign up here for coaching with Suzanne: https://www.suzannevenker.com/coaching/

Boomers are out enjoying retirement, and some millennials are feeling abandoned by their parents who are too busy to help raise their kids. Suzanne offers her take on this topic.

MARRIAGE OR RELATIONSHIP TROUBLES? Sign up here for coaching with Suzanne: https://www.suzannevenker.com/coaching/

Suzanne discusses the lies women have been fed and unearths the hard truths they need to know in order to help them construct happier lives. IN THIS EPISODE:

• What happens to women around the age of 30

• Why marriage is more important than career

• Why women are not emboldened by providing but men are

LINK: https://www.foxnews.com/media/woman-30s-cries-describing-finally-wanting-kids-after-swearing-off-marriage-betrayed-feminism MARRIAGE OR RELATIONSHIP TROUBLES? Sign up here for coaching with Suzanne: https://www.suzannevenker.com/coaching/

Merry Xmas, Everyone! I'm working on lots of things for the new year and may need to skip a week or two. But I'll be back with a bang!

Dr. Scott Gordon is a relationship coach and author affiliated with the Dad Starting Over organization. He focuses on masculine polarity and maintaining a balance of the lover/provider roles in marriage. He also specializes in repairing dead or dull bedrooms. Today he and I talk about raising countercultural kids so they can become independent minded, self-sustaining adults. We discuss: Leading by example Raising boys and girls differently How to avoid being helicopter parents How to create a family that functions as a team How to slow down MARRIAGE OR RELATIONSHIP TROUBLES? Sign up here for coaching with Suzanne: https://www.suzannevenker.com/coaching/

Suzanne reads emails from new mothers who feel like they're not doing enough by being at home with their babies.

MARRIAGE OR RELATIONSHIP TROUBLES? Sign up here for coaching with Suzanne: https://www.suzannevenker.com/coaching/

Suzanne talks with family law attorney Bernadette Barbee about financial infidelity in marriage and what money conflicts in marriage are really about.They both then describe what financial FIDELITY looks like in a strong marriage.IN THIS EPISODE:

• the damage of having "his" and "her" accounts
• "girl math" vs. real math
• hiding money vs. transparency
• out-of-control spending

MARRIAGE OR RELATIONSHIP TROUBLES?

Sign up here for coaching with Suzanne: https://www.suzannevenker.com/coaching/

Babies need constant nurturing in the early years. They are completely helpless and utterly dependent on their mothers—and not just to feed them and change their diapers. So many people think this is all that goes on during this stage, and they could not be more wrong. 

Suzanne takes listeners on a journey to see what's really going on behind the scenes when Mom is home with her baby.

Is it possible to combine raising a family with the pursuit of a career? Does it have to be all or nothing? Suzanne reads an email from a woman who wants to know how to stay home with her baby but also be able to work part time and utilize her creative energy professionally.

Suzanne explains about some goings-on behind the scenes that are causing a bit of a gap in production.

Suzanne reads a letter from one of her coaching clients.

Suzanne reads a letter from a woman whose parents don't support her staying home with her babies and offers tips on how to live on less for those who are trying to save more money or move from two incomes to one.

Q&A: Suzanne reads listener emails and answers questions

Suzanne reads a letter from one of her listeners.

Suzanne discusses 9 topics couples should address before they get engaged. They are:

1. View of marriage as an institution

2. View on God/religion

3. Geography

4. Work/family plan

5. Money

6. Willingness to address conflict

7. Ability to set boundaries

8. Relationship history

9. Vacations

Suzanne highlights a new survey that shows smartphones are undermining marriages and suggests ways in which couples can keep this from being their fate.

https://ifstudies.org/ifs-admin/resources/research/final-2ifstechmarriageresearchbrief.pdf

Suzanne talks with Liz Durham of Being Different about the position employers are in when it comes to investing in young women who have not had children yet, and the likelihood that they will leave once that happens.

"My soon-to-be-husband is a software engineer and works from home. I can forsee potential challenges. What are your thoughts on both spouses working from home together?"

"I have a one-year-old and a two-year-old, and they are going to daycare two days a week from 7 to 4. Home with mom or dad the rest of the days. We have no family or friends to help. Can this arrangement flourish for healthy marriage and children?"

"Help! I want to stay home with her children, but my husband doesn't agree."

"What are your thoughts about the cry it out method?"

"Is it possible for some men to have a lower sex drive than women? My husband rarely wants sex."

Suzanne is back and talks about the response to her recent interview and video on daycare—and shares the politically incorrect data on this subject that she unearthed twenty years ago when she wrote her first book.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iDPFu9-SqFk

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qhJFfU2OxPg

I'll be back soon.

Suzanne is taking the month of July off and will be back in August.

Money remains the #1 cause of marital conflict and divorce. But money conflict is never about money itself. It’s about power and control vs. trust, and often it’s about mismatched values.

In this episode, Suzanne discusses three major money mistakes modern couples make and the conversations married couples need to have about money if they want a less roommate-like and more intimate relationship with their spouse.

In this episode, Suzanne offers six powerful ways to divorce proof your marriage. They include:

1. Take divorce off the table.
2. Lower your expectations.
3. Dump the concept of equality.
4. Learn each other's love language.
5. Keep dating.
6. Don't let resentment settle in.

There’s not a married couple on the planet who doesn't know that life gets in the way of having an ideal sex life. Many events that occur are out of our control and often derail our desire.

Babies come along. Family members die. Careers shift or stall or in some cases become too all-consuming to where couples rarely see each other.

But if you and your spouse both want a better sex life, you can absolutely have it.

IN THIS EPISODE:

• The things that turn men on and off
• The things that turn women on and off
• The role of resentment in your sex life

Suzanne explains why multitasking undermines our relationships and offers tips for developing our monotasking muscles.

Suzanne's husband Bill joins her to talk about their respective backgrounds as it pertains to money and what they believe is mandatory for having a healthy marital relationship with money.

Suzanne brings relationship coach Andre Paradis back on the show to help couples better understand sexual dynamics as they are designed to be, versus the role reversal couples are contending with today. Men are made to be providers and protectors and are not cut out for emotional warfare with women. Thus, when women behave in a way that feels combative, men often back down. But this is the wrong response.

Suzanne brings relationship coach Andre Paradis back on the show to help couples better understand sexual dynamics as they are designed to be, versus the role reversal couples are contending with today. Men are made to be providers and protectors and are not cut out for emotional warfare with women. Thus, when women behave in a way that feels combative, men often back down. But this is the wrong response.

Suzanne answers questions from listeners, email subscribers, and even former coaching clients about their biggest relationship concerns.

Suzanne addresses the greatest problem with the younger generation's lack of success with love and money.

IN THIS EPISODE:

• the real reason millennials are depressed and broke
• why millennials and GenZers are mapping out their lives backward
• why avoidance is toxic for your relationship

ARTICLE REFERENCED: https://www.wsj.com/articles/young-people-avoid-facing-their-finances-more-than-ever-e853910e

Suzanne explains why social media and FOMO (fear of missing out) is so harmful and offers tips on how to deal with this new world we live in.

Suzanne laments the recent poll which shows that family and religion (and other classic values) have receded in importance to Americans, while the one value that has risen in importance is money.

https://www.wsj.com/articles/americans-pull-back-from-values-that-once-defined-u-s-wsj-norc-poll-finds-df8534cd

Suzanne reads a letter from a married millennial mom who has chosen to stay home with her children despite living in a high cost of living area and despite having a Ph.D. from Harvard.

According to a new report by Pew Research, American women are increasingly becoming the breadwinners in their marriages. But they're also taking on the lion's share of household chores and childcare.

Are their husbands just lazy, or is there more going on than what the media would have us believe?

Pew study: https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2023/04/13/in-a-growing-share-of-u-s-marriages-husbands-and-wives-earn-about-the-same/

Suzanne responds to a new poll that shows more and more Americans say college isn't worth the cost.

https://www.wsj.com/articles/americans-are-losing-faith-in-college-education-wsj-norc-poll-finds-3a836ce1

Suzanne discusses the most important things to consider when deciding whether or not to marry the man or woman you love.