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Disagree better

Disagree better

By Tammy Lenski

How we handle conflict has an impact on the resilience of our vital relationships, the caliber of our decisions, the success of our careers, and our peace of mind. Mediator, conflict resolution teacher, and author Tammy Lenski, Ed.D., uses storytelling and science to help us transform our experience with conflict and inspire us to disagree better at work and at home. The podcast was formerly called The Space Between.
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Disagree betterSep 10, 2020

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Unburied empathy
Mar 06, 202405:60
Use these 5 phrases to air your grievances and get heard
Feb 23, 202406:41
Disagree better by asking great questions
Feb 06, 202407:51
25 ways to disagree better from 25 years of writing about conflict resolution
Jan 02, 202410:57
Identify a problem’s primary drivers with a relationship diagram
Dec 05, 202306:01
Getting through the day with a bit of grace
Oct 31, 202304:05
Stop rehearsing your stuck story
Oct 03, 202304:57
How to deal with stonewalling in a relationship at work or home
Sep 05, 202310:15
Don't bury anger's lede (replay)
Aug 02, 202303:29
The illusion of understanding
Jul 04, 202307:10
Get into their movie
Jun 05, 202304:13
A question to help ease suffering during conflict
May 02, 202304:02
Walk it out to work it out
Apr 04, 202306:22
A powerful way to change conflict habits
Feb 28, 202306:01
Generate more creative solutions with this question
Feb 01, 202303:37
Don’t avoid small fights
Jan 03, 202306:32
Ask this simple question to help regulate emotions
Dec 30, 202205:43
Sometimes it’s not a conversation that changes their mind
Nov 08, 202204:47
How to confront someone without seeming confrontational
Oct 25, 202207:12
Three essential components of highly effective listening
Oct 11, 202206:59
An upside to recurring conflict: Relational stress wood
Sep 13, 202206:14
The triviality trap
Aug 16, 202205:00
The foreseeable now
Aug 03, 202201:11
Be a better listener with this one crucial habit
Jun 25, 202206:06
A mindfulness technique for managing the urge to lash out
May 28, 202205:31
What happens *after* conflict resolution?
Apr 30, 202208:22
Ghost rules
Apr 02, 202206:19
Making the impossible possible
Mar 05, 202206:16
Anger resets
Feb 05, 202209:05
7 tried-and-true ways to safeguard the space between
Jan 08, 202207:02
Disagreeing in front of others? Take it offline
Nov 30, 202105:51
To reduce defensiveness, build up the social bond
Nov 02, 202104:54
Conflict resolution is like driving at night in the fog
Sep 02, 202105:17
Three threads at the heart of every argument
Jul 19, 202105:36
The non-comeback comeback after an insult
Jun 25, 202103:55
New name for the podcast

New name for the podcast

The Space Between is now called Disagree Better

Jun 24, 202102:40
An alternative to perspective-taking when you want to reduce animosity
May 21, 202105:58
What is the real issue?
Apr 22, 202106:15
A conflict resolution mini-manifesto
Mar 12, 202105:26
Is a distancing spiral quietly damaging your important relationship?
Feb 09, 202105:11
Introducing QueryCards
Jan 15, 202102:24
When opinions contrast sharply, practice scales
Nov 24, 202003:57
Three alternatives to rumination after an argument
Oct 06, 202006:08
How to be truly helpful when someone is upset
Sep 10, 202008:31
On the importance of knowing what really matters
Aug 13, 202004:60
Behind every criticism is a wish
Jul 28, 202009:49
Break down listening barriers with these 4 questions
Jun 26, 202006:46
An uncomplicated way to reduce the pitfalls of emotional memories during conflict resolution
Jun 02, 202008:41
Five uncomplicated ways couples can turn arguments into discussions
May 13, 202006:25
3 reasons they won’t change their behavior–and what to do about it
Apr 21, 202011:48