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The Tailored Quill

By Taylor Wilkins

A mental health podcast that brings us back to basics on what it means to be human, how to get the most out of your life by being uniquely you, and why the most important journey you could possibly take is inward.
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60. How to not freak out about the next holiday

The Tailored QuillNov 29, 2022

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60. How to not freak out about the next holiday

60. How to not freak out about the next holiday

We are in that awkward period of time between Thanksgiving and New Years when we still have to work, time seems to blur, and all we are thinking about are the next holiday's travel plans. We think ahead so feverishly that we don't stop to look back at how last week's went. Listen to learn how to do it effectively and how it can help you preserve your sanity and boost your confidence in holidays to come.

Let me know what you come up with!  Comment below or head to https://www.thetailoredquill.com/contact to message me.

Nov 29, 202208:30
59. GUEST: RACHEL SAMPLES, on embracing your creativity, caring for others, and expressing yourself with purpose

59. GUEST: RACHEL SAMPLES, on embracing your creativity, caring for others, and expressing yourself with purpose

Rachel Samples is a hilarious video creator with huge followings on both Instagram and TikTok, sharing incredibly relatable short videos we can all laugh together over. Even more, Rachel is an authentic creative and a perfect example of someone who is comfortable being her true self and consistently expressing her creativity with the world.

Today we talk about the evolution of her creativity and humor, how she handles the pains of perfectionism and creative pressure, and how she stays connected to her Why every time she makes and shares a video. 

This conversation will absolutely help you overcome your own fears of vulnerability and expressing yourself, while encouraging you to keep expressing yourself with confidence, no matter how your creativity asks you to.

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Follow Rachel and send her a message on Instagram and TikTok at:   @heyfreesamples

Rachel's interview on the podcast Reaching Out with Michael Constable:   https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/reaching-out-with-rachel-samples/id1588809622?i=1000538574849

Rachel's website: https://www.heyfreesamples.com


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If this episode resonates with you and you want to work on your own creative, vulnerable self-expression and overcome your own fears of judgment and perfectionism, schedule a free coaching session with me at https://www.thetailoredquill.com/freesessioninfo.



Sep 01, 202259:12
58. How to actually "rewrite your life story" for the better

58. How to actually "rewrite your life story" for the better

Writing your LIFE STORY has been a common inspirational catchphrase in the personal development world for a long time. Though it is positive and inspiring, you get stuck on the term "life story" and the mental block gets in the way of knowing really how to rewrite your story to be happy, healthy, and fulfilled.

This leads to confusion, stagnation, and frustration because you feel inspired and have goals but don't know what to do to start toward them.

This episode teaches you the simple psychology behind this mental roadblock and how to think totally differently about your life and the story of your life that you have the power to mold, design, and write that is most fulfilling and successful. 

Remember: your life story is play-doh, not cement...

If this resonates with you and you want to rewrite your own life story, schedule a free coaching session with me at https://www.thetailoredquill.com/freesessioninfo

Aug 25, 202217:01
57. How to bust out of your routine rut

57. How to bust out of your routine rut

Why are museums so appealing?   Because they always show us something NEW. We get stuck in routines because our brains crave predictability, but routines prevent us from evolving. And we need to evolve in order to live a fulfilling, happy, and healthy life.  If you are feeling stuck in a rut, dissatisfied with an area of your life, or like something is just not working, this episode offers a super simple solution that will relieve your stress, stimulate your brain, and help you find balance in an overly-scheduled, routined life.

If you want to design the "dosage" and this balance for your own life, schedule a free coaching session with me at https://www.thetailoredquill.com/freesessioninfo.

Aug 11, 202212:40
56. Suicide or evolution: Are you sure your world is real?

56. Suicide or evolution: Are you sure your world is real?

Ever have that creeping suspicion that something just isn't right?  That something is somehow off in your job or your relationships or your personal life?  You can't put a finger on it but it starts to really nag at you.  It means you are questioning your reality.

That can be extremely scary - and lead people to emotional crisis or even suicide - but it is simultaneously an indication that you have a beautiful desire to grow.  In this episode, I discuss this phenomenon of your reality in more detail and share a simple way for you to avoid the crisis and lean in to the growth so that you make healthy and fulfilling changes in your life.

If this resonates with you and you want help identifying and making the necessary healthy change in your life, schedule a free coaching session with me at https://www.thetailoredquill.com/freesessioninfo.

Aug 04, 202213:56
55. Self-Care Menu: the quickest way back to sanity

55. Self-Care Menu: the quickest way back to sanity

So you're stressed out, and you have some free time to go do some self-care activities and relax. The problem is that there are too many options. You think of a bunch of ideas in your head of what to go do, but you're stressed so it's hard to decide. Then you waste time overthinking and don't end up doing anything, which stresses you out even more. Worse, you didn't get to relax. 

It's hard to know what self-care to do when the time comes that you need it the most. This episode presents a simple and brilliant way to shortcut that indecision and choose the perfect form of self-care for exactly that moment. It's infinitely customizable to you, and will inspire confidence and empowerment in your ability to take care of your self and your mental health.

If this resonates with you and you'd like to make your own customized self-care menu, schedule a free coaching session with me at https://www.thetailoredquill.com/freesessioninfo.

Jul 28, 202221:29
54. Changing jobs can cause depression

54. Changing jobs can cause depression

We naturally believe that quitting an unhealthy job and starting a new job will reset our energy and we will immediately be happy and healthy. But that is not how bodies or energy works.  Similar to how we experience depression as a result of enduring stress or anxiety, we need to recover from the high amounts of negative energy we stored up in our last job. 

This episode is a cautionary tale of how switching jobs can cause depression and what you need to be aware of in order to protect yourself, your energy, and your sanity starting your new job.

If you are one of the many who is looking for a new job or going through this transition and you want to avoid the potential depression, you can schedule a free coaching session with me by going to https://www.thetailoredquill.com/freesessioninfo

Jul 21, 202217:29
53. Changing jobs? Here are 3 steps to guarantee you are happy in the new job

53. Changing jobs? Here are 3 steps to guarantee you are happy in the new job

Many of you are changing jobs right now because something is missing in your old job, other than the fact that you may hate it, dread it, or are burnt out by it.  As exciting as it is to change jobs, it is a mistake to think that the clean break, grass-is-greener mindset that starting the new job will solve all of your unhappiness.  You will only bring all the underlying stress and anger and baggage with you into the new job and will remain unhappy and exhausted. 

In this episode, I walk you through a fascinating and critical 3-Step process that helps you systematically let go of the last job and healthily prepare for the new one, granting you so much peace, confidence, clarity, and empowerment as a result. 

I hope you enjoy this awesome system and that it will help you in your exciting life transition. If you would like help implementing this system in your own job change, schedule a free coaching session with me at https://www.thetailoredquill.com/freesessioninfo

Jul 15, 202228:34
52. Are you a Jedi or a Sith? - how to use your power for a life of fulfillment

52. Are you a Jedi or a Sith? - how to use your power for a life of fulfillment

SPOILER ALERT: A major lesson from all the Star Wars movies is that humility after you have made mistakes can lead to your greatest success.  

Not only that, humility can have a huge positive effect on your mental health and life satisfaction, while its opponent, arrogance, can actually cause you pain and ruin your relationships and career.

This episode dives into how both can dramatically affect your life and your health, and also explores how you always have the choice of how to use your extraordinary amount of personal power to affect the people and world around you.

If you want to embrace humility and grow stronger from what you call a failure, or to use your unique power to serve good in the world, schedule a free coaching session with me at www.thetailoredquill.com/freesessioninfo 

Jul 07, 202218:40
51. Be careful what you attach to

51. Be careful what you attach to

Ideas are great. They help us innovate, grow, succeed, and survive as a species. But ideas can be damaging too. Unhealthy belief systems can hold us back and keep us from achieving happiness and fulfillment. Since they can do good and harm, we have to be very very careful what ideas we attach ourselves to. This episode discusses the two faces of ideas, the dark side of our attachments, and how we can make sure to follow and create the most healthy ideas for us in our lives so that we can guarantee our happiness and fulfillment. 

If this episode resonates with you and you would like to asses your own healthy and unhealthy attachments, schedule a free coaching session with me at https://www.thetailoredquill.com/freesessioninfo

Jul 01, 202214:18
50. Your pain is not the end of your story

50. Your pain is not the end of your story

When we are in moments of overwhelming emotions, like periods of heightened anxiety or burnout, our bodies and brains lock in on the problem.  This is a good thing, because it knows there is a problem to solve, but the intense emotions make it hard to find solutions. So people settle thinking the pain is all there is.  But it is not the end of the story.  This episode presents the perspective on how remember this critical truth as well as how the reminder will decrease your emotional pain in the future...

If this resonates with you and you would like personalized support in this time period of wildly high anxiety, schedule a free coaching session with me at https://www.thetailoredquill.com/freesessioninfo.

Jun 24, 202215:27
49. GUEST: COLLEEN RILEY, on giving yourself grace, listening to your gut, and pursuing a fulfilling career

49. GUEST: COLLEEN RILEY, on giving yourself grace, listening to your gut, and pursuing a fulfilling career

Life is a battle between order and disorder, stress and peace, structure and flow, all while we try to be happy and fulfilled in this one life we have.

Colleen Riley is a former sales executive who left the corporate world in pursuit of her love of poetry and writing. She works at Poetry Forge, Holly Wren Spaulding's writing and education company, and maintains her own self-expressive blog called Tea With Colleen. Beyond her work, Colleen is the perfect example of someone who trusts her instincts to follow a path of fulfillment in her career, while also giving herself the grace and self-compassion to know this journey is a hard one and requires constant course-correction. 

We can all learn from her thoughtful perspective on listening to your gut, being kind to yourself, and embracing your creativity. 


Subscribe to Tea With Colleen here:  https://teawithcolleen.substack.com/

Check out Poetry Forge w/ Holly Wren Spaulding:  https://www.poetryforge.us/

The Tea With Colleen episode we refer to about giving ourselves Grace: https://teawithcolleen.substack.com/p/-on-grace?s=r#details

Jun 16, 202201:12:43
48. What your guilty pleasure says about your sanity

48. What your guilty pleasure says about your sanity

Especially the last few years, we have all given in to guilty pleasures in order to cope with the stresses and burnout of present day life and to get up and keep going to work. The problem is that we seek the guilty pleasures because we no longer enjoy a lot of things in daily life that we once did. A lot of people would just up and quit, but they lose the thing they once enjoyed and it gets all the worse. This episode dives into how you can peel back your burnout or sadness and reopen the door to what you enjoy naturally about your life.

If this topic resonates with you and you want to rediscover enjoyment in your daily life, schedule a free coaching session with me at: https://www.thetailoredquill.com/freesessioninfo

Jun 08, 202212:10
47. The Origin of Limiting Beliefs (and how striving to be happy is like being a pirate)

47. The Origin of Limiting Beliefs (and how striving to be happy is like being a pirate)

Limiting beliefs are the bedrock burden holding us back from the lives we want. Finding their origin and rewriting them is part of the therapeutic process, but why do we have those beliefs to begin with?  What is the point of beliefs, especially if they become limiting and unhealthy?

This episode dives into the origin of beliefs, what they do for us, and how the choices we have related to those beliefs if want to be happy, healthy, and more fulfilled...or just want to be more like a pirate...


If you are struggling to live the life that you want and are hindered by unhealthy beliefs and self-talk, schedule a free full coaching session with me at https://www.thetailoredquill.com/freesessioninfo

Jun 02, 202220:31
46. GUEST: SARAH MATHIEU, on being yourself, telling your story, and finding your peace
May 26, 202201:02:12
45. Are you dissatisfied with your job or just burnt out? There's a difference...

45. Are you dissatisfied with your job or just burnt out? There's a difference...

Have you ever left a job or relationship you thought was unfulfilling only to find out that the next ones were equally so and it wasn't the job or relationship that was the issue?  Yeah, we all have.  SPOILER ALERT: it is because you are burnt out and neglecting your emotional, psychological, and energetic needs. This episode discusses how to tell the difference and make sure you don't prematurely quit something great in the future...


If this relates to you right now after the pandemic and you want help parsing it out, schedule a free coaching session with me at https://www.thetailoredquil.com/freesessioninfo

May 19, 202213:49
44. How to know when to get help (your personal crisis threshold)

44. How to know when to get help (your personal crisis threshold)

We are lazy animals who love to procrastinate, and the same goes for when we are in pain or are suffering and need to make a change:  we wait till we are in crisis and the alternative is total burnout, or something worse...  We all have different thresholds for that pain tolerance before we get to the crisis, so you must know your unique threshold if you want to know how to be happier, healthier, and more fulfilled. Especially after the pandemic caused so many people to burnout, this episode shares examples and how to find your threshold yourself so you can prevent your own burnout and mental crises in the future.


If you would like help identifying your threshold and strategizing your unique crisis response plan, schedule your free coaching session with me at https://www.thetailoredquill.com/freesessioninfo

May 12, 202219:58
43. Stop trying to find yourself "again"

43. Stop trying to find yourself "again"

I often hear "I want to find myself again" or "I want to go back to who I was before".  Neither of which is possible, since we are constantly changing and evolving into new versions of ourselves. The truth is we naturally seek out comfort and familiarity, but growth requires us to accept - and get excited about - newness and unfamiliarity and DISCOMFORT. This episode explains why and how to really achieve the peace, happiness, and fulfillment you desire.


If this resonates with you and you would like support in facing the scary unknown of personal growth, schedule a free coaching session with me here: https://www.thetailoredquill.com/freesessioninfo

May 05, 202213:36
42. GUEST: Max Skinner, on maintaining Humanity in a technology world

42. GUEST: Max Skinner, on maintaining Humanity in a technology world

Today's guest is a gift. Max is the founder of Thropic, a platform that is modernizing the way that we can all donate to causes and organizations we care about - and actually bear witness to the impact that that donation can have. On the eve of their eminent NFT drop, Max and I sit down to talk about his attitude toward his career decisions, the challenge of maintaining humanness while running a tech company, and how at the end of the day we have to simplify our perspective about what matters in life and learn to live without regrets. 

Thropic started with a focus on mental health organizations, and Max opens up about the deeply personal reason why.

Please enjoy this wonderful conversation, and please subscribe to Thropic's newsletter to get involved when their NFT series drops soon, as well as to check out the many organizations in their network to which you can directly offer an impact...

Visit https://thropic.io

Follow them at https://twitter.com/thropic

Apr 28, 202201:03:06
41. Why positive change doesn't always feel positive...

41. Why positive change doesn't always feel positive...

When we shoot for a big life change or are working to improve our mental health, we like to think in binary terms of "RELIEVE NEGATIVE ---> FEEL POSITIVE", but we are not conscious of the awkward Neutral zone where the real transition takes place. When you fall into it, it feel strange and unsettling... Aren't you supposed to be feeling better, though?? This episode introduces you to the Neutral zone, its powerful purpose, and how to welcome it in your personal growth journey.

If you need help identifying and managing the Neutral "no-man's land", schedule a free coaching session with me right here: https://www.thetailoredquill.com/freesessioninfo.

Apr 21, 202212:52
40. The Secret Superpower of your MISTAKES

40. The Secret Superpower of your MISTAKES

We think of failures and mistakes as a deeply personal sign of doing something wrong. Since we focus so hard on the ego burn, we don't realize that our mistakes are actually capable of providing immense value to other people's lives. Listen to this episode for HOW and the most important part of making mistakes that we all forget to think about...

And if you want to own your mistakes, have more fun in life, and embrace your humanness, schedule a free coaching session with me right here: https://www.thetailoredquill.com/freesessioninfo

Apr 14, 202212:28
39. How to get over the fear of achieving a goal

39. How to get over the fear of achieving a goal

When we know what we want to achieve, we immediately get stuck on "HOW" to achieve it and we skip over the part where we actually commit ourselves to starting on this journey to achieve something new. Instead of thinking about "getting started", we must accept the fact that we are MAKING A CHANGE.  This episode discusses how the former is wrought with fear and the latter mindset opens you up to creativity, accomplishment, and most of all, having fun pursuing your goals.


If you want personalized help practicing this new mindset and enjoying the process of achieving your goals, schedule a free coaching session with me right here: https://www.thetailoredquill.com/freesessioninfo

Apr 07, 202216:06
38. The proper path to achieve fulfillment

38. The proper path to achieve fulfillment

People think Life Purpose and Life Mission are the same thing, but they in fact are not. One must come before the other, and both are required to successfully achieve fulfillment in your life.

Whether you are in therapy, business, an entrepreneur, or just care about your personal growth, this episode offers the difference between Purpose and Mission and how you can leverage both to be happy, healthy, and fulfilled.

If you need help defining your unique life purpose and strategizing your path to fulfillment, schedule your free coaching session with me right here: https://www.thetailoredquill.com/freesessioninfo

Mar 31, 202213:22
37. GUEST: Accepting Your Unique Life Journey w/ Eamon Coyne

37. GUEST: Accepting Your Unique Life Journey w/ Eamon Coyne

Eamon Coyne is a U.S. Navy veteran, father, serial business owner in the fitness industry, and, fortunately for me, a dear friend. He now consults with corporations to provide comprehensive wellness programs for all of their employees, an obviously necessary service right now amidst such high levels of burnout.

We discuss his career journey, how he handles his insecurities and imposter syndrome, and his beautifully straightforward view of legacy and making the world a better place.

A much needed conversation right now, I hope you enjoy listening to Eamon Coyne…

If you or your organization would like to contact Eamon for his wellness program, head here:  https://collectivehw.com/

If anything resonated with you personally in this episode and you’d like customized support for it, schedule a free coaching session with me by clicking here:

https://thetailoredquill.com/freesessioninfo

Mar 24, 202201:16:05
36. How to make your own LUCK

36. How to make your own LUCK

Happy St. Patrick's Day!   We think about luck in two ways: we don’t have it or we’d sure like to get it. A lot of people think they’ll never get it, while others put in the effort to make it. The truth is that you have so much more power and ability to make your own version of luck. This week’s episode covers the two things you need to do just that.

If any of this resonates with you and you would like support on how to make your own luck and success, schedule a free coaching session with me by clicking here:  https://www.thetailoredquill.com/freesessioninfo

Mar 18, 202216:49
35. "Planting Seeds vs. Planting Flags", pt. 2: How the Ukraine conflict example of inspiration vs. domination

35. "Planting Seeds vs. Planting Flags", pt. 2: How the Ukraine conflict example of inspiration vs. domination

The current conflict in Ukraine is a perfect example of planting flags vs. planting seeds (aka domination vs. inspiration).  This episode uses real examples to describe the severely negative impact of domination-based leadership vs. the hugely healthy and transformative effect of focusing on inspiration.   We cover the impact on self-worth, creativity, and what helps us comfortably take risks to push out of our comfort zone and achieve the next level of ourselves.


Share this episode to spread the word about the powerful example that the people of Ukraine are setting in their fight against Russia. 

If any of this resonates with you and you would like support on how to push your own limits in your life and achieve fulfillment, schedule a free coaching session with me by clicking here:  https://www.thetailoredquill.com/freesessioninfo

Mar 10, 202217:01
34. "Planting Seeds vs. Planting Flags": how to have a positive impact on the world starting with yourself

34. "Planting Seeds vs. Planting Flags": how to have a positive impact on the world starting with yourself

British Explorer and Naturalist Dwayne Fields says that accomplishments of exploration are "not about planting flags, it's about planting seeds".   

When something is achieved or "conquered", we often subconsciously fall in line  and settle for how someone else achieved it. But if we think about achievements as inspiration for pushing ourselves outside of our comfort zone, we can inspire others - just through our small daily accomplishments - to consider what they might be capable of and what might be possible in their lives. Listen in to learn more...


If you want to brainstorm your own impact and breaking out of your comfort zone, schedule a free session with me directly from my calendar:

https://www.thetailoredquill.com/freesessioninfo

Mar 03, 202212:57
33. How to preserve your energy and own your value

33. How to preserve your energy and own your value

It is common to focus too much on the happiness and wellbeing of others at the expense of our own. We take on their energy, their emotions, and feel valued for playing this role...but then we burn out and get depression...

This episode offers a perspective on how to protect your energy from burnout, how to generate love and validation within yourself, and how to find fulfillment in a healthy, positive, and lasting way. 


As always, if this episode resonates with you and you want personalized help re-focusing on YOU, schedule a free session with me directly from my calendar:

https://www.thetailoredquill.com/freesessioninfo

Feb 24, 202222:16
32. Stop trying to control your emotions! Control your reaction instead...

32. Stop trying to control your emotions! Control your reaction instead...

We waste so much time and energy - and cause ourselves more stress and anxiety - trying to control our emotions. Emotions are automatic, so good luck controlling them without a lot of therapeutic work.  What you do have control over, however, are the thoughts and behaviors in response to those emotions.  Drawing on past work with suicidal teens and even some High School biochemistry (yes, really), this episode explains the best way to accept your emotions, change your reactions, and create a life full of health and happiness. 


As always, if this episode resonates with you and you want some help resolving your stress, schedule a free session with me directly from my calendar:

https://www.thetailoredquill.com/freesessioninfo

Feb 17, 202214:01
31. How to ID and pull out the root of your fears...

31. How to ID and pull out the root of your fears...

Overwhelm occurs when stresses stack up and feel much bigger than they are individually. When the feeling gets so big, it's hard to recognize what the root cause or primary stressor is underneath it all. In this episode, Taylor offers a quick, fun, and potentially uncomfortable activity to help you identify your root fear or stress and use it to relieve the rest of your overwhelm. 

As always, if this episode resonates with you and you want some help resolving your stress, schedule a free session with me directly from my calendar:

https://www.thetailoredquill.com/freesessioninfo

Feb 11, 202214:05
30. The Invisible Battle You Fight

30. The Invisible Battle You Fight

Working on your mental health and personal development is a highly internal, solitary journey.  It is easy to feel alone and demoralized because people can't see the massive breakthrough you just achieved, whereas your whole world looks different. 

But just because people cannot see your progress does not mean that you are not making progress.

This episode dissects this phenomenon and offers two reasons why you must continue doing this critical personal work  (HINT: you could save others' lives...)


If any of this resonates with you and you want customized support around this deep internal growth, schedule your free sessions with me at https://www.thetailoredquill.com/freesessioninfo

Feb 03, 202214:26
29. GUEST: Embracing pain to reach fulfillment w/ Jonathan Flores

29. GUEST: Embracing pain to reach fulfillment w/ Jonathan Flores

Strap in for this one!  Jonathan Flores is a service-driven, profoundly insightful, incredible human being who is a data analyst by day and a non-profit mission driven superhero all other hours. 

He is the director of HANGRY, a non-profit that provides education, fun events, and financial support to end hunger in the world, as well as the producer and host of the RUN WITH PURPOSE PODCAST - on which I was privileged to be a guest. 

In today's interview, we dive deep into why it's okay to have a very patchwork career of jobs and hobbies, how to embrace pain in order to grow, and many other topics about how to live a healthy and fulfilling life  (i.e. relationships, getting out of your own head, trying new things, etc.)

(BONUS: a funny clip about putting up with the noises of New York City...If you know, you know...)

If hope you enjoy!

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If you would like to contact Flores, let me know and I'll connect you.

If you want to get involved with HANGRY, go to:  https://www.wearehangry.com/  

Check out his RUN WITH PURPOSE PODCAST at: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/run-with-purpose/id1477054425

Check out my interview on the RUN WITH PURPOSE PODCAST at:  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/purpose-identity-w-taylor-ep068/id1477054425?i=1000522111437

Otherwise, follow Jonathan on Instagram @flores.run


Like what you hear in this episode?  Rate it and leave a review! I'd love to hear your thoughts.

Jan 27, 202201:42:39
28. Here is the permission you've been waiting for

28. Here is the permission you've been waiting for

Remember getting "Permission Slips" in school when we were younger? Man, that felt powerful to have. 

Unfortunately there are no permission slips in adulthood, and no one is going to give us permission to do or say something that we are keeping a secret but want so desperately and painfully to put out there. It is so hard to give ourselves the permission to face our fear and take an uncomfortable first step. This episode sheds light on what you need to do just that, and how to give yourself a real-life permission slip again if you want...

Don't forget to head to https://www.thetailoredquill.com/contactme to message me and schedule a free coaching session!

Jan 20, 202217:01
27. Comparing yourself to others can be healthy. Here is how...

27. Comparing yourself to others can be healthy. Here is how...

We compare ourselves to others all day every day. It's automatic and subconscious. The problem is we let that comparison destroy our self-worth, our confidence, our relationships, and our productivity. 

Instead of avoiding comparison - like we often try to do to feel better - let's intentionally compare ourselves to others with a much healthier goal in mind. 

This week's episode will detail why and how comparison can be a positive and healthy tool that contributes your success.


If you need help using comparison more healthily and intentionally, contact me for a free session: http:///www.thetailoredquill.com/contactme

Jan 13, 202216:50
26. Do the opposite of change

26. Do the opposite of change

Everything in the self-help / therapy world revolves around CHANGE.  Change your mindset, your feelings, your career, your communication, everything. But the constant focus on change neglects the most important aspect of the journey:  your progress.

This episode draws on the TV Series YELLOWSTONE to help explain why we also need to focus on the opposite of change, and how it contributes to making the changes you do achieve in the future that much sweeter.

If you are burnt out because you feel addicted to personal change without stopping to celebrate your progress, grab a free coaching session with me at:  https://www.thetailoredquill.com/contactme

Completely free and confidential.

In the meantime, enjoy today's episode!

Jan 07, 202210:15
25. The Only New Year's Resolution That Matters

25. The Only New Year's Resolution That Matters

This is the recording of my December 2021 training in my private coaching membership, The Tailored U!  It is so relevant to what we are going through right now, I decided to share it publicly. 

So many people still set surface-level, arbitrary resolutions for themselves (really, still?), the majority of which are not even close to achieved. Luckily there are modern and much better methods to set resolutions and feel confident, healthy, and happy in the New Year.  This training offers a specific framework through which you can set a resolution much more aligned with who you are and the person you want to grow into going forward. 

I hope you enjoy!

If you would like help setting this new kind of resolution for yourself, go to https://www.thetailoredquill.com to schedule a free session with me!

Dec 31, 202140:47
24. 3 Steps to Dissolve Holiday Angst

24. 3 Steps to Dissolve Holiday Angst

If you are seeing family or friends this holiday, and you are human, it is very normal to be excited about the family time as well as quite anxious about it. Family time can be so much fun and also so triggering, stressful, painful, and exhausting. Having coached so many people through such chronic anxiety and fatigue this past year, this episode offers a very simple 3-step survival guide to preemptively solve all your stress - before you even see anyone. 


If you have been having trouble dealing with stress this year or feel anxious about this holiday time and the New Year, schedule a free session with me directly from my calendar:

https://www.thetailoredquill.com/freesessioninfo

Dec 23, 202116:33
23. Mixing psychological peace into your holiday recipes...

23. Mixing psychological peace into your holiday recipes...

The holiday can be joyous but they can also be incredibly stressful, what with family time, finishing work, the looming New Year, and so on. Today's episode shares a quick tip on how to prevent that stress, achieve personal peace, and make this holiday season a fulfilling and healthy end of the year.

Dec 15, 202109:04
22. GUEST: Erasing Burnout From Your Life w/ Liz Fieser

22. GUEST: Erasing Burnout From Your Life w/ Liz Fieser

Not only is Liz Fieser the epitome of someone who left the 9-to-5 grind to pursue something more fulfilling, but she is also an inspiration for tens of thousands of people worldwide on how to be honest, raw, and vulnerable about the challenges of being human.

Every day she writes in her blog about topics like shame, body image, and insecurities she faces, all while exposing herself to new countries and cultures and grappling with the all too common question of "What should I do with my life?"

In this month's deep guest interview, we cover how to deal with burnout, how to "find yourself", and how to make peace with your pain.


Read her blog on her website: https://www.lizfieser.com

Follow her on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lizfieser/?hl=en

Sign up to join her on her guided MOUNTAIN tour of Patagonia:  https://trovatrip.com/trips/argentina-with-liz-fieser-dec-2022 - ONLY A FEW SPOTS LEFT!

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And if any of this resonates with you and you need support on any topic we discuss, schedule a free session with me directly from my calendar:

https://www.thetailoredquill.com/freesessioninfo


Dec 15, 202101:39:15
21.  Stop trying to be happy...
Nov 18, 202109:57
20. You haven't lost your ability to dream...

20. You haven't lost your ability to dream...

....You have simply confined yourself by other thoughts and worries.  We all wish that we could somehow relive something of our childhoods, whether it be the carefree attitude, playing with friends, or the lack of doing taxes and paying rent.  Whichever, we all had the capacity as children to dream big and forge unbridled ambition.   Adulthood responsibilities have a way of hampering that, however.   Fear not: You have not lost your ability to dream big. Listen to this week's episode to learn how to unlock that burgeoning imagination of yours again...


Nov 10, 202108:33
19. Working on your mental health is like being a good Journalist
Nov 03, 202114:31
18. Mental Health is like Chemistry class

18. Mental Health is like Chemistry class

Your brain wants you to be lazy. It loves routines and predictability.  As a result, you are just as guilty as the rest of us of wanting to achieve a goal without having to put the work in.  Get the reward without the struggle.  In therapy, people want to be able to go to one therapy session, release EVERY LAST EMOTION, and be "fixed" without doing months or years of necessary work. 

The catch, though, is that releasing everything at once would literally destroy your brain and your body. You wouldn't be able to handle it. Instead, we have to take a much more measured, deliberate approach.  Listen to today's episode to learn how...

Oct 28, 202109:36
17. The DANGER of too much self-awareness

17. The DANGER of too much self-awareness

The breakthroughs we experience in therapy or on any journey of personal development are so exciting that we want to continue learning about ourselves. After all, let's find out how many breakthroughs are available!  But there's a downside...  Sometimes knowing so much is...well...too much. This week's episode helps you identify when self-reflection can be painful, and what to do keep perspective and stay healthy as you dive deeper and deeper inside of yourself...

Aug 25, 202109:02
16. The REAL source of your self-worth...

16. The REAL source of your self-worth...

We all seek what makes us feel good and what boosts our sense of self-worth. That is programmed into our DNA. Amongst our world of constant threats to our self-worth, maintaining it can be hard. That is why we need to become aware of our personal, unique, special source of self-worth that is specific to ourselves. That is what this episode will teach you...

Aug 18, 202110:01
15. How to know your ideas & dreams have value...

15. How to know your ideas & dreams have value...

We don't let ourselves think or do much about our ideas and dreams because we worry about how others will think of them. We just assume that they're no good. Well, here is the spoiler alert: Of course people won't understand your ideas, because YOU ARE THE ONE WHO CAME UP WITH THEM. They are in your brain, not others. Accepting this is the first step to owning your ideas, creativity, and potential impact you can have in your life or career. Listen to today's episode for the details...

To your success!

Aug 11, 202105:51
14. Befriend your fear so you can live a happy life...

14. Befriend your fear so you can live a happy life...

We hold ourselves back all the time from things that we genuinely want to do because of FEAR. But we don't often know what we are actually afraid of...

This episode offers a perspective on how to evaluate your fear, identify it more easily, and take risks to try things you want to try in spite of that fear. 

Don't forget to subscribe and make sure to leave a review!  Whether you like the podcast or not, I would love to hear from you.

Aug 04, 202111:22
13. Handling people's judgment of you

13. Handling people's judgment of you

You will alway be judged. No way around it because human beings are judgmental animals (we are the worst). Since being judged is just a fact of life, this episode describes how to be okay with it and take risks you have been nervous to take in order to live a life you want to live. 

Jul 29, 202107:59
12. GUEST: Trusting yourself to be yourself w/ Kelly Schmidt
Jul 21, 202102:01:10
11. The Power of Intentional Discomfort

11. The Power of Intentional Discomfort

Even though we have felt a lot of stress and overwhelm over the last year, I recently INTENTIONALLY caused myself stress, and it actually resulted in relief and relaxation. 

How is that possible without succumbing to the stress and spiraling down into worse pain?  Listen to this episode to find out...

Jul 14, 202116:53