TBD with Justin and Miriam
By Justin Cavanaugh
TBD with Justin and MiriamAug 22, 2020
TBD - Episode 13: The Bountiful Destiny
This week Justin and Miriam wrap up Principle 7 of "The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work" by John M Gottman, PH.D. We discuss pillars 3 and 4 of "Creating Shared Meaning" and answer the burning question of "What comes next?" Stay tuned to see how you can shape your marriage's impact on future generations and the world around you.
TBD - Episode 12: Togetherness Being Discovered
This week Justin and Miriam dive into the final Principle of "The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work". We focus on the first two of four pillars for "Creating Shared Meaning". These revolve around rituals of connection and supporting each other's roles. We talk about how these two pillars sparked conversations in our marriage over the last several weeks. This final principle is really the "Big Picture" of taking a "yuppie" marriage into one that is thriving and fueled by shared meaning. We're excited for how this will impact and encourage your marriage and relationships!
TBD - Episode 11: Tending Broken Dreams
This week Justin and Miriam share one of their personal perpetual problems they've been experiencing. Principle 6 of "The 7 Principles for Making Marriage Work" focuses on "Overcoming Gridlock." We discuss how perpetual issues stem from an unrealized or broken dream. The goal here is not to solve these issues, but to talk through them, gain an understanding, and be able to overcome the anger, hurt, and frustration that stems from many of these issues. We dive into one of our own perpetual issues this week and break down how we have been able to talk through it and find a working compromise.
TBD - Episode 10: Taking Bitterness Down!
This week Justin and Miriam dive into the exciting world of conflict resolution! Principle 5 of "The 7 Principles for Making Marriage Work" focuses on "Solve your Solvable Problems." We do a deep dive into how you can change simple things in the way you have conversations to create a more fruitful and lasting marriage, friendship, and relationship with those you love. We hope you feel encouraged, strengthened in your relationships, and reminded that your spouse is not your enemy.
Repair checklist ideas:
https://www.gottman.com/blog/r-is-for-repair/
TBD - Episode 9: Talking Before Decisions
Hey guys! Join Justin and Miriam this week as they dive into Principle #4 of "The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work." This principle focuses on allowing your spouse to influence you. It especially calls men to let down some of their ego and allow themselves to have a happier, healthier marriage in the process. We had fun recording this one, so we hope you enjoy as well!
Google Doc link to this week's activity below:
https://docs.google.com/document/d/1keV4HH2u682U9qvfUKZb383VLIeAediIHJ0fQb5L6Hs/edit?usp=sharing
Credit for the game:
https://www.gottman.com/blog/weekend-homework-assignment-the-gottman-island-survival-game/
TBD - Episode 8: The Bid Decision
This week join Miriam and Justin as they dive into Principal #3 of "The 7 Principles for Making Marriage Work." This week focuses on turning toward one another during bids for affection. Often these "bids" can be disguised in the most mundane ways, or even in anger, and being able to recognize your spouse's need for love will take a trained eye.
TBD - Episode 7.1: Additional Thoughts
After we finished recording this week we had a few specific thoughts crop up about how to address admiring your spouse when it does not come easy to do so. Whether this is for marriages on the rocks, or just individuals who are not great with words... listen to the tips in this bonus episode on Principle #2 of "Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work."
TBD - Episode 7: Thankfulness Blossoms Delight
This episode Justin and Miriam talk about what they appreciate in one another, in addition to why this is such an important principle in building a strong foundation for their marriage. Join us on Part 2/7 for "Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work."
TBD - Episode 6: The Best Doctorate
This week Justin and Miriam digest why pursuing a Doctorate in your spouse is one of the most critical things in their marriage. This is part one of seven when going through The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work.
TBD - Episode 5: The Basic Disciplines
How does being quarantined at home give us all the unique opportunity to be servant-like? Why are Justin and Miriam making the choices they are for the quarantine? What will they add to their routine this week to stay sane? All this is answered in today's episode of TBD!
TBD - Episode 4: Trapped Behind Doors
TBD - Episode 3: Truly Beloved Daughter
Justin interviews Miriam about her past, how she got to where she is now, and what strengths she has been able to carry into her marriage.
TBD - Episode 2: Trust Before Doubt
This week listen in as Miriam interviews her husband Justin about his life story, childhood abuse, pornography addiction, and the incredible recovery, grace, and blessing God still continues to pour out on their lives.
TBD - Episode 1: To Be Determined
In this episode Justin and Miriam share their heart behind starting the podcast, how they met, went on their first date, and what led them to marriage.