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Tell Me This

By Carey Borkoski, Ph.D., Ed.D.

This is a podcast about belonging, what it means, why it matters, and how we cultivate it. Through stories, interviews, academic research, and discussions we will explore the ideas of belonging and how to develop and growth it in your classrooms, workplaces, and other personal and professional spaces.
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Season 3 Introduction - Welcome Back

Tell Me ThisSep 02, 2021

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Season 4 Tell Me This: Meeting and Finding "Your People"

Season 4 Tell Me This: Meeting and Finding "Your People"

Hello Everyone.

We are so excited to share a wonderful conversation we had with several of Brianne's classmates and friends from their time in the doctoral program. We talk about belonging, what it looks like early on, the search for your people, and the wonderful changes that emerge from the work and investment in each other.


Enjoy!!

Carey

Dec 08, 202255:14
Season 4 Tell Me This: Big "B", Little "b"

Season 4 Tell Me This: Big "B", Little "b"

Brianne and I had the pleasure of chatting with Kate McMahon, one of Brianne's dearest friends. It was a great conversation about the many layers of belonging AND it looks like we will be bring back the book club - stay tuned and enjoy this episode!!

Dec 01, 202201:01:08
Tell Me This: Season 4, Thanksgiving Episode

Tell Me This: Season 4, Thanksgiving Episode

Happy Turkey-day everyone. Hope you enjoy what is becoming an annual tradition around here. Grandmom and gratitude.


Take care,

Carey

Nov 24, 202227:07
Season 4: MidSeason Reflection

Season 4: MidSeason Reflection

Hello Everyone.

We cannot believe it but we are almost through October, headed towards Thanksgiving and we thought it was a perfect time to do our traditional mid-season reflection. Brianne and I share our own lessons and learning from the wonderful conversations we have had with all of our guests. Enjoy! 

-Carey 

Nov 17, 202237:14
Season 4, Tell Me This Glad You Are Here, You Are Welcome

Season 4, Tell Me This Glad You Are Here, You Are Welcome

We are so excited to introduce Katie Boucher, a teacher and leader of the Accord School. She offers valuable insights and ideas about belonging, inclusion, and the work required to create cultures where we can show up as ourselves and be valued just for who we are. We hope you enjoy this powerful, joyful, and laugh-filled conversation.

Best,

Carey and Brianne

Nov 10, 202242:57
Season 4 Tell Me This: Being Comfortable in Your Own Skin

Season 4 Tell Me This: Being Comfortable in Your Own Skin

Hello Everyone.

I am thrilled to share that Brianne and I had a wonderful conversation with Dr. Crystal Newby. I hope that you enjoy the perspectives she brings to this conversation.


Carey

Nov 03, 202243:19
Season 4 Tell Me This: The Five Senses of Belonging

Season 4 Tell Me This: The Five Senses of Belonging

Hello Everyone!

Brianne and I are thrilled to share a conversation we had with Dr. Marianna Carlucci who is an Associate Professor of Psychology at Loyola University - Maryland. As you will hear, we had so much fun having this chat and are hopeful that another one will follow as Part II.


Please Enjoy!

-Carey

Oct 27, 202255:05
Season 4 Tell Me This: Boundaries, Belonging, and Finding Your People

Season 4 Tell Me This: Boundaries, Belonging, and Finding Your People

In this episode, Brianne and I chat with Dr. Jen Watkinson. During our conversation we talk about the importance of self-care and boundaries, finding places for authenticity, a continuum of belonging, and much more. Jen's personal and professional experiences offer so many rich opportunities to explore these and many other topics. I hope you will take a listen.


-Carey

Oct 20, 202244:17
Season 4 Tell Me This: Showing Your Belly

Season 4 Tell Me This: Showing Your Belly

Hi Everyone.

Brianne and I hope you enjoy our conversation with Rev. Chris Longmann. We had such a wonderful chat about her life, work, and thoughts on belonging and community. 

Thanks,

Carey

Oct 13, 202240:09
Season 4 Tell Me This: Driving

Season 4 Tell Me This: Driving

Hi Everyone.

Brianne decided to drop our first "short" of the season. Hope you enjoy!


-Carey

Oct 06, 202210:14
Season 4, Tell Me This: Rainbow Bench

Season 4, Tell Me This: Rainbow Bench

Hello Everyone!

Brianne and I are very excited to share this wonderful conversation we had with a dear friend and colleague, Dr. Lisa Buchey. She is an early childhood educator, expert, and researcher. We speak about belonging, the importance of acts of care, and other great strategies that we should consider at all ages.

Thanks for listening.


Carey and Brianne

Sep 29, 202238:32
Season 4 Tell Me This: Belonging to Self

Season 4 Tell Me This: Belonging to Self

Hi Everyone.

We are just hitting our stride with another great interview. Brianne and I had a wonderful time talking with Mary Beaulieu. Mary is an Assistant Dean of Career Development at the Kennedy School at Harvard University and an Executive Leadership Coach. What a great conversation! I hope you enjoy it.


Best,


Carey

Sep 22, 202255:10
Tell Me This Season 4: Radical Acceptance

Tell Me This Season 4: Radical Acceptance

Today, Brianne and I had the pleasure of chatting with Dr. Jill Snodgrass, a Reverend, Researcher, and Teacher at Loyola University. She shares her perspectives and strategies for thinking about and living a life that honors belonging. Can't wait for you to take a listen.

Enjoy!

Sep 15, 202242:51
Season 4: Welcome Back!

Season 4: Welcome Back!

Hello Everyone and Happy Fall!

I hope that you had a wonderful summer and are gearing up for a great fall. We are looking forward to bringing you another great Season of stories, conversations, and insights from amazing guests.

Hope you will join us for this next adventure.

Take care.

Carey

Sep 13, 202227:44
Season 3 - Final Episode - Being the Work

Season 3 - Final Episode - Being the Work

Thanks for another great season. Enjoy this final episode and stay tuned in August for Season 4!!


-Carey

May 26, 202219:24
Paying Attention

Paying Attention

Hi Everyone.

Welcome to another short episode for Dancing with Discomfort. I look forward to your feedback and suggestions.


Thanks!

Carey

Apr 21, 202222:26
Season 3 Tell Me This: Doing the Work is Being the Work

Season 3 Tell Me This: Doing the Work is Being the Work

Hi Everyone.

Thanks for listening. As promised, I wanted to bring you a book club podcast edition where Brianne and Kenita sit down with me to talk about bell hooks and her book, Teaching to Transgress. Lots of great nuggets in here so you may want to bring a notebook or just listen a couple of time :)


Enjoy!


Carey

Apr 15, 202251:15
Season 3 - We Interrupt This Program...

Season 3 - We Interrupt This Program...

Hi Everyone!

Welcome back to another episode. For our regular listeners, you will know that I have started a series of episode unpacking my book and digging into some of the key ideas and strategies. This week, however, I had the wonderful opportunity to speak again to Dr. Kenita Williams who appeared on the pod last fall (if you have not listened, please go check it out). In this episode we talk about leadership, the internal work, and the importance of connection and relationships in our growth as leaders. Hope you enjoy!!


Carey

Apr 07, 202235:40
Season 3: Dancing with Discomfort, The Book Episode 1

Season 3: Dancing with Discomfort, The Book Episode 1

Hi Everyone!

Thanks to folks who have reached out with feedback on the book, suggestions for the pod, and lots of other great ideas. As a result of listener feedback, I have decided to do a short series with my new book. In this episode, we start from the beginning with a review of the roadmap for our exploration of transitions and change. I hope you enjoy!!

Thanks,

Carey

Apr 04, 202235:25
Season 3: Dancing With Discomfort, Part II of Our Discussion

Season 3: Dancing With Discomfort, Part II of Our Discussion

Hi Everyone!

I hope you are excited to hear Part II of the book discussion with Brianne, Carrie, and Danielle. I really enjoyed this one - true gift!!

Hope you enjoy it as much as I did.

Best,

Carey

Mar 24, 202249:31
Belonging in Action - Sticks and Stones??

Belonging in Action - Sticks and Stones??

Hi Everyone.

I hope you enjoy today's episode. I know I had fun preparing for it.

Thanks for listening.

Carey

Mar 17, 202239:54
Season 3: Book Club - Dancing with Discomfort, Part I

Season 3: Book Club - Dancing with Discomfort, Part I

Hi Everyone!

I am so thrilled to share this episode of the pod where Dr. Carrie Miller, Dr. Brianne Roos, Danielle Scorrano, and I dig into my book! It was so wonderful to hear about and engage with others who have read the book. And, we had so much to chat about (surprise, surprise!!), we will be offering a part II of the discussion.

Enjoy!

Carey

Mar 04, 202257:55
Season 3: What do you need in this moment?

Season 3: What do you need in this moment?

Hello, everyone.

Thanks so much for listening. Please enjoy this short on confidence, core values, and belonging. 

Carey

Feb 24, 202220:54
Season 3: What's Important?

Season 3: What's Important?

Hi Everyone!

Thanks for tuning in for another episode of Tell Me This. In this episode I talk about saboteurs and how when they show up at the party, uninvited, we can find ways to ask them to leave. Enjoy the show!!


Carey

Feb 19, 202225:47
Season 3: What is Possible?

Season 3: What is Possible?

Enjoy another short about perspectives, new ways of seeing things, and, of course, some coaching!!

Enjoy the show.

-Carey

Feb 11, 202234:21
Season 3 - A Gift From My Grandmother

Season 3 - A Gift From My Grandmother

Hello, Listeners.

I am so excited to share this podcast episode with you. If you have been a long time listener, you already know that my grandmother, Eileen Downey, really inspired me to start this podcast three years ago. Fast forward to today, I am so proud that this podcasting journey brought me to a great conversation with my mom. My mom and I have had great conversations before but this is one that we had actually never fully had and decided it might be fun to share it with my listening audience. I hope you will see the connections to belonging, community, and all of the other themes and lessons that come up in our interviews and conversations with folks who have been on the pod.

Take a listen and I promise you won't be disappointed!!

With gratitude,

Carey

Feb 03, 202201:06:15
Season 3: Getting Unstuck

Season 3: Getting Unstuck

Hello listeners!

I hope you are well and excited for this week's episode. I am super excited to take you on a mini-journey of my own recent coaching session. In the session and in this episode, I explore swirling, dancing with discomfort, and how our patterns of thoughts, emotions and beliefs often fuel the stories that we are telling ourselves. Take a listen to learn how I navigated away from those stories to a place of possibilities.

Enjoy!

Jan 27, 202236:50
Self-Coaching In Action

Self-Coaching In Action

Hello Everyone! I hope you enjoy this episode where I share a bit about my own self-talk and how I have learned (and keep learning) how to do hard things!!

I can't wait to hear what you learned.

Carey

Jan 20, 202236:16
Season 3: Brianne and Carey Talk Coaching

Season 3: Brianne and Carey Talk Coaching

Hi Everyone!

I am so excited to say that Brianne is back! We talk coaching, parenting, and what happens when you mix them all together. I promise you you will not want to miss this chat!

Be well.

Carey

Jan 20, 202236:22
Season 3 - Happy New Year, Spring is Here!

Season 3 - Happy New Year, Spring is Here!

Hi Everyone.

Welcome back and Happy New Year. As you will hear in this episode, the Tell Me This team has lots of ideas and episodes plan for this fall. It should be a great ride and I look forward to sharing our stories, conversations, and ideas with everyone.

Thanks,

Carey

Jan 13, 202228:56
Friendship Skills - Discipline, Intentionality, and Showing Up

Friendship Skills - Discipline, Intentionality, and Showing Up

Dear Listeners!

I hope you are well and looking forward to some downtime over these next few weeks. I am super excited to share that Brianne and I are back at it with our great conversations about a book, a podcast, and many other topics. Today, we share our thoughts and reactions to a recent Brene Brown podcast and also share some "behind-the-scences" info on our own friendship and journey. So much fun and so many laughs!!

Enjoy!

Carey

Dec 21, 202142:20
Season 3 Paradox Playlist - Final Reflections

Season 3 Paradox Playlist - Final Reflections

Hello Everyone!

Danielle and I wanted to thank you for all of your listening and support during this ten-part series on leadership, belonging, and paradox. We have so enjoyed hearing from our listeners, talking to our wonderful guests, and collaborating on this project together. We put together an episode of our personal reflections on this series so we hope you enjoy it.

Happy Holidays and wishing you a wonderful start to the new year!

Carey

Dec 16, 202147:15
Season 3 Paradox Playlist: Dr. Kenita Williams

Season 3 Paradox Playlist: Dr. Kenita Williams

We are so excited to share our conversation with Dr. Kenita Williams. Please enjoy this episode as we dig into the meaning of leadership, ways to cultivate and honor the leader in all of us, and many great stories of the work to grow and strengthen our own leadership and connections with others.

Enjoy!

-Carey and Danielle

Dec 09, 202153:31
Season 3: Paradox Playlist with Jessica Anastasio

Season 3: Paradox Playlist with Jessica Anastasio

Join us in our conversation with Jessica Anastasio, US Figure Skater, Coach, Teacher, and Parent as she shared with us her personal and professional experiences and approaches to managing paradox. We dig into what it means to notice and navigate competitive excellence and self-care and talk about her own journey as a figure skater and coach.

This is an episode you will NOT want to miss.

Thanks,

Carey and Danielle

Dec 02, 202155:23
Season 3: Paradox Playlist with Dr. Lisa Mitchell

Season 3: Paradox Playlist with Dr. Lisa Mitchell

We are so excited to welcome back, Dr. Lisa Mitchell. Danielle and I had such an amazing conversation with her about her work at Disney Broadway in NYC, the pandemic, and Lisa and her team's strategies for managing the many paradoxes that appear in the theatre world. Stick around for a great episode!!

-Carey

Nov 18, 202148:37
Summer of Coaching: Coach Sonja Gladwin

Summer of Coaching: Coach Sonja Gladwin

Happy Fall Everyone.

What are you thankful for this season?? I can share that I am thankful for all of our wonderful guests we interviewed for this season AND I am super excited to introduce you to another wonderful coach - Sonja Gladwin. I received lots of great feedback about the Summer of Coaching series and I was not able to talk with Sonja this summer. We had a lovely conversation about her coaching journey and much more.

Enjoy!

Carey

Nov 15, 202145:55
Season 3: Paradox Playlist with Christine D'Ercole

Season 3: Paradox Playlist with Christine D'Ercole

Dear listeners,

We are so excited to offer this episode and our wonderful conversation with Ms. Christine D'Ercole. Christine is a world-class bicycler, renowned Peloton instructor, and founder and leader of Wordshops. In our time together, we cover a lot of topics including why a seemingly simple question of "Where Am I?" is so critical to our personal work. Christine reminds us that we are our own worst critic and we must name and notice where we are in order to get where we want to go.

This was such a wonderful conversation and we know you are going to enjoy it.

Carey and Danielle

Nov 11, 202101:03:41
Season 3: Paradox Playlist with Jenny Gaither

Season 3: Paradox Playlist with Jenny Gaither

Join us for a great conversation with Jenny Gaither, founder of Movemeant Foundation an internationally recognized non-profit helping girls and women build self-worth. Jenny also shared her work as a coach and in Brave Babe, a digital coaching curriculum and community to build confidence.

Enjoy the show!

Carey and Danielle

Nov 04, 202157:20
Season 3: Paradox Playlist with Aiko Bethea

Season 3: Paradox Playlist with Aiko Bethea

Enjoy this episode where Danielle and I sit down with Aiko Bethea and talk about the meaning of paradox, the role of a learning identity, and the cultivation and role of brave spaces.

Thanks,

Carey and Danielle

Oct 28, 202101:03:20
Season 3: Paradox Playlist with Dr. Mayme Hostetter

Season 3: Paradox Playlist with Dr. Mayme Hostetter

Please join Danielle and me for a wonderful and enlightening conversation with Dr. Mayme Hostetter. As President of Relay University, she brings a wealth of knowledge, a learning identity, and powerful ideas about how to strengthen our strategies and approaches to education. Relay and Dr. Hostetter believe in the power of mastery, growth mindset, and deliberate practice. Dr. Hostetter reminds us that the steep learning curves associated with deliberate practice of particular teaching skills for our residents and least experienced graduate students, I’m sold on the power of rehearsing teaching in the presence of experts. During this hour, we talk about the paradox of novice-expert and how it shows up in her leadership, with her team, their students, and in the culture of Relay University. We also dig into how she and her team cultivate spaces so that individuals can successfully and willingly practice knowing that failure IS an option.

Please join us for this great chat.

Carey

Oct 21, 202159:01
Season 3: Paradox Playlist with Dr. Laura Shaw

Season 3: Paradox Playlist with Dr. Laura Shaw

Join me and Danielle for a wonderful and enlightening conversation with Dr. Laura Shaw. We talk about learning, our brains, what is happening in our bodies and minds when faced with uncomfortable moments, and what we should do in those moments. I think the responses will surprise you.

Enjoy!

Carey

Oct 14, 202154:25
Tell Me This Presents: The Paradox Playlist, a Ten-part Series on Leadership and Belonging

Tell Me This Presents: The Paradox Playlist, a Ten-part Series on Leadership and Belonging

Hi Everyone!

As promised, Danielle Scorrano and I kick off our ten-part series on leadership, paradox, and belonging. We had an amazing conversation on today's pod so I hope you will enjoy it. Stay tuned!

Thanks,

Carey

Oct 07, 202143:05
Rollercoasters and Merry-Go-Rounds

Rollercoasters and Merry-Go-Rounds

Enjoy this short about roller coasters and Peloton training.


Thanks,


Carey

Sep 30, 202125:02
Season 3 - What do you notice about your form?

Season 3 - What do you notice about your form?

Hi Everyone!

Please join us for the first "short" of the season. After chatting with several of our upcoming guests and spinning in another Peloton session, I just had to talk with Danielle about what was on my mind. So, we decided to bring that conversation to you!

Hope you enjoy.


Carey

Sep 23, 202131:24
Season 3: Imposter Syndrome and the Novice-Expert Paradox Part II

Season 3: Imposter Syndrome and the Novice-Expert Paradox Part II

Hi Everyone,

If you listened to Season 2, I chatted about Imposter Syndrome in the spring. If you haven't heard this one, please go back and check it out. In this episode, I unpack my own personal journey and learning around this paradox of novice-expert and what I realized as I wrote my first book and interviewed a few amazing leaders about the paradoxical mindset. 

Enjoy!

Carey

Sep 16, 202130:56
Season 3 - The "What" of Transitions

Season 3 - The "What" of Transitions

In this episode, Brianne and I dig into my new book available in this fall. Enjoy our conversation about the Who and What of in-between moments.

-Carey

Sep 09, 202148:34
Season 3 Introduction - Welcome Back

Season 3 Introduction - Welcome Back

Welcome Back, Everyone! I hope that you had a terrific summer. In this episode, Brianne and I reflect on the summer of 2021 and provide a sneak peek into what is coming this season!! Can't wait to share the great lineup of guests!


Thanks, Carey

Sep 02, 202151:24
Summer of Coaching: Coach Emily Barnett

Summer of Coaching: Coach Emily Barnett

Join me for another wonderful conversation with Coach Emily Barnett. We talk about all things coaching including learning how to stay and be present in the service of your client and their needs.

Thanks!

-Carey

Aug 12, 202140:06
Summer of Coaching: Coach Nicole Andonie

Summer of Coaching: Coach Nicole Andonie

Please join me for a wonderful conversation with Coach Nicole. I hope you enjoy our chat about coaching, the gift of time, and the role of our intuition in our work and lives.


Best,

-Carey

Aug 05, 202153:52
Summer of Coaching: Dr. and Coach Antione

Summer of Coaching: Dr. and Coach Antione

Hello Everyone! I am so thrilled to share the conversation I recently had with Dr. Tomlin. He is a brilliant human being, amazing coach, and an equally wonderful instructor of coaches! I hope you enjoy our chat as much as I did.
Happy Listening!
-Carey
Jul 29, 202150:03