The Black Jezebel Podcast

Seventeen years later and it is still hard to believe that New Orleans will never be the same, my life will never be untouched, so why not tell my story with you all. This episode is a narrative healing opportunity for me to reflect on my experience surviving Hurricane Katrina after 8 days of being trapped in our home. 

There is vulnerability, tears, and gratitude!

Thank you for allowing me to share!

OH, you say you want me to be vulnerable? How do you navigate vulnerability in the midst of still trying to be strong, functioning, and navigating trauma wounds? What is the relationship between vulnerability and intimacy and how do they show up in our relationships?

Join me this week as I discuss all of these questions and explore the answers with Dr. LaWanda Hill. Dr. Hill is a licensed psychologist in California and Texas, consultant, and curator of transformative spaces. She is a proud native of northern Louisiana and possesses an enduring love for assisting others, specifically Black women, in their journey of self-discovery and holistic growth. Dr. Hill specializes in sexual wellness for Black women and women of color. She is a provocateur of change who holds space for women to embrace their full sexuality, passion, and fierceness while shedding internalized messages that are oppressive and self-sacrificing.

In this conversation we dive into the fears associated with vulnerability, the difference between emotional and structural vulnerability, and Dr. Hill provides us with the essential questions to explore when you are starting your journey to being more present and of course, more vulnerable. 

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HEYYYY yall! Its been way too long and I've misssed you and this mic sooo much!

Well the wait is over and I am Phinally PhinisheD! Chile the way this doctorate almost took me out yall, But GOD and the ancestors carried me over that line! 

We are back like we never left and revisiting all things healing this season. This episode I touch on what has been going on since we last spoke and what I have learned along the way. In this solo episode, we dive into how imposter syndrome gets in the way of celebrating each moment of our journey. I am also catching you all up on where to find me now and get connected to my therapy services here in Dallas, Texas. 

ALSO, Sex Down South Conference is back and Dr. Holt is presenting and you don't want to miss it. 

Visit https://www.sexdownsouth.com/registration to register for the conference and use CODE: JEZEBEL for $20 off registration.

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Season 3 of the podcast airs on the two-year anniversary of the launch of the Black Jezebel Podcast and baby we are LIVE!!!! This season is all about healing and the many ways healing transpires in the Black community. This launch episode captures my healing journey of divorce and I am in the hot seat, being interviewed by Journalist Brandon Walker, a dear friend, and a great reporter. He does not take it easy, and we dive DEEP! This episode covers the ugly battles of divorce, the shame and secrecy of same-sex relationships, and the self-care journey of your host, TemaraToday. If you thought the first two seasons were good, you are going to love this season! It's the Mary J. Blige season, meaning we are not holding back; there will be tears, laugher, and healing lessons along the way! 

Join me on this journey of healing and I look forward to you hearing the conversation regarding all the forms of healing in our community and how your story helps to transform the meaning of resiliency.

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This week we are talking all things BDSM and Black sex as a revolutionary act with BlakSyn, the self-proclaimed Kinky Black Educator. BlakSyn shares personal narratives that have led to their career as a Black BDSM educator and how the art of BDSM can be used as a tool of self-care, trauma healing, and a declaration of pleasure. We dive into consent, sub-space, the intersections of Race and Power in sex, and of course my fave, respectability politics.  We def go there this episode! I even share that one time that BlakSyn introduced me to rope play for the very first time...you don't want to miss these Black Jezebel Moments! 

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We are coming to the close of the "Mothering While Black" mini-series and I wanted to make sure we covered a variety of stories and perspectives, including women who choose to not be mothers. 

This week we are speaking to Jessica Brooks, MBA who shares how her childhood trauma, family pathology of sexual violence, and a multitude of reproductive health concerns influenced her decision to not be a mother. Jessica shares vulnerable insights into her life as a Black woman who decided that becoming a COO of a major fortune 500 corporation would be her dream, instead of the traditional script of motherhood and marriage. 

You don't want to miss this episode; it's raw, vulnerable, and incredible healing.

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What's Love Got To Do With It? That is the million-dollar question because this week we are talking to Tori Wilson, who shares a personal narrative of love, marriage, and the legal system. Tori candidly speaks about her experience as a wife and defendant after being charged with criminal offenses related to her now ex-husband's illegal activity.  She discusses what it was like navigating the legal system and how she has restored her life post-divorce. This episode is truly therapeutic and I know you will enjoy it just as much as I did when having this conversation. Buckle up...This one gets good!

I know yall remember the ranting and raving from my 1st experience at Sex Down South 2019. I had such an amazing time I even did an entire episode on my experience, which you definitely want to make sure you hear that episode. This episode I am speaking with the founders of the Sex Down South Conference, Tia Maria and Marla Renee Stewart. The sex educators, sex enthusiast, and everything Black Girl Magic share everything you want to know about the conference from how it started, to some of their best and sexiest moments. You do not want to miss this! We are even dropping some gems on hot new sexy additions that attendees can expect this year. 

The black Jezebel podcast will be presenting a workshop at Sex Down South Conference 2020 in Atlanta, GA September 10-12, 2020 and am so excited for all of you to experience this amazing Black sex experience with me. 

To receive $20 off of your conference registration ticket use CODE: JezebelSDS at checkout. 

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This opening episode of season 2 is diving into the global pandemic, COVID-19, and its effects on our lives and relationships. Your host, TemaraToday,  approaches this novel virus from the lens of grief and clinical identifying how the loss of our "normalcy" and daily routines can resemble the actual grieving process of loss of life, relationships, etc. She is also diving into what it looks like to redefine and prioritize pleasure in the time of crisis and unprecedented times. This episode is not only informative, in that it provides room for self-compassion through adjusting how we view what is going on in the world, it is also inviting to create new ways of pleasure into your homes, your body, and your relationships.

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Its the last episode of Season 1 and I couldn't be prouder! Join me in recapping the season and I leave you with a few gems to digest until Season 2 returns in January 2020! 

Imagine you are experiencing symptoms of depression, your mood is off, your sex drive is affected, and it's getting in the way of living your "Best Life", how do you make sense of all of that? This week I am joined by Sherod Haynes, a Neuropsych MD/Ph.D. candidate whose research expertise is Depression. We dive into what depression looks like in the black community, how symptoms differ between men and women. We are discussing attachment styles and how that intersects with mental health and mood. Of course, sex and sexual intimacy are discussed as we dive into the effects of Depression on sex drive and performance. This episode is imperative to your life, don't miss it! 

This week I am joined by Dr. Nikki Coleman, a Licensed Psychologist in Houston, whose research involves sexual schemas in the Black community, how sexual relationships impact our mental health, and the implications of today's culture on Black female sexuality. We dive into the origins of sexual shame in the Black community and how a history of body politics has fostered an inability to acknowledge our sexuality as an inherent right not just a luxury. Sharing personal experiences, all while providing a psychological framework for our sexual behaviors give light into how important and satisfying this conversation is. I look forward to hearing your thoughts. 

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@drnikkiknows 

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Remember that one time when you were on a first date and the chemistry was great and sexual energy was in the air, you wanted to do more...what happened next? This week I am joined by Derion and Miana as we dive into the various perspectives of having sex on the first date or not. What factors contribute to making the decision? Are you driven by gender roles or respectability politics? Does your answer change depending on your sexuality? I can't wait to hear your thoughts. 

Miana G. 

@mianawho

Derion

@adultuncensoredpod

This episode I am joined by Denitia Flemming, referred to as "Cara", who shares her journey of sexual identity through marriage, the swingers lifestyle, polyamory and much more. We dive into the depts of fluid relationship style and how that shows up within the black community from a female's perspective. 

Cara takes us through the highs, lows, and all the shit in between that gives you a lens into female sexual fluidity. I can't wait for you to listen and share your thoughts!

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On this bonus episode, I bring to you the highlights of my weekend at the 5th Annual Sex Down South Conference in Atlanta. The whole weekend was LITTTT AF. You definitely don't want to miss me dungeon experience run down!

This is a great episode to get you prepared for tomorrow's rundown on Polyamory: A Black Queer Women's Experience.

This episode we are diving into black men, gender roles, sex and a ton of other things. I am talking with Andre Mitchell, a black male educator of over a decade and a good friend of mine. Listen in as we discuss Toxic Masculinity in the Black Community.