Sober Nonsense

Melissa and I started this project with the idea we'll start with eleven episodes and see where we go from there. This makes number fourteen and have decided to scale back until. 

Melissa doesn't just want to talk just to talk but I have so much to share with you about my journey, philosophy, what I've witnessed coaching women for more than a decade, and experiencing this wild journey of life without alcohol for almost twenty years! So, don't be surprised if I make an announcement in the coming days or weeks. ;) 

This episode is two women having a conversation about coming to an agreement on how to move forward when we are at different places. 

How often do we make bigger issues out of things that a simple and clean conversation can move us forward along our path? This entire project was done out of genuine interest to serve and lessen the struggle and suffering of others considering a change in their relationship with alcohol. 

You don't have to adopt a limiting identity, language, or beliefs to find peace with alcohol. 

Here's the deal we are making with you...

If ever you would like to hear us chat about anything just reach out through social media through direct message or post it on one of our pages and we'll chat about it.

It's my magic sauce for every difficulty or challenge I face. #daydreamanddo

What does intercepting negative thoughts bring up for you?  "Intercepting" is a concept that Coach Teresa learned while studying the feedback loop that leads to our habitual, often called addictive patterns. Melissa leads us in this discussion and shares how Cognitive Behavioral Therapy can help you break the cycle.  Both Therapist and Coach discuss their personal experiences with intercepting their negative thoughts that had been critical for each.  

What more can I say? Retire the judge already. If you are tired of beating the crap out of yourself with shame and guilt, listen and savor every minute. 

Sober Intentions what are they and how to use them? 

First, let me remind you that being wholly sober is not a commitment to abstinence but learning to live without relying on alcohol as a shortcut to address loneliness, boredom, fear, doubt, shame, or even fun. Wholly sober is about learning to express yourself and embrace life with a clear mind, open heart, and defined intentions. This enables us to become to trust ourselves and have confidence in our choices. 

Sober intentions replace the tension of I can't drink, I'm not supposed to drink, I shouldn't drink with how you wish to experience this one and only precious life of yours.  

Instead of the goal of not drinking, replace it with building a desire to fill up on life while edging out the desire to drink. This takes time, INTENTION, and practice.

You can do it. I know because I have done it for almost twenty years, and Melissa shares her progress in less than a year. 

Ask yourself, how long have you been shoulding and shaming yourself for drinking? This is a habit too. It will take time to stop being hyperfocused on alcohol and seeing it as the enemy. 

Punch a horse in the face? If you know us, you know we would never think to cause direct harm to any living creature.

Listen in to hear how we both had our own challenges and noted moments of gratitude and cheer.

Melissa reached out, feeling the weight of shame, and I held space for her and asked her questions to help her shift her perspective. Melissa shared part of my text with her: Hey girlfriend, we don't do self-shaming....

We also pull a few cards and give some affirmation and food for thought. 

Let's have some fun and partake in Sober Nonsense.