We’ve come to the close of our first season! In this last episode, we reflect on the results of our social experiment and mutually agree that dating is exhausting. Sarah deletes her Bumble account (so done) and Jalynn makes hers inactive (guess she’s not as done...). We comment on the validity of discussing our lived experiences, and identify what we want to do moving forward. Trigger warning: rape/rape culture
For the fifth and final Bumble date of the project, we give you a plot twist–we each go on a date with the same (clueless) guy. Our conversation centers around the lack of diversity in higher education and the vital need for all-black spaces. We also talk about the dangers of judging by appearances.
Their Eyes Were Watching God by Zora Neale Hurston
In our fourth Bumble date debrief, we confront the complexities of discussing our experience with men raised outside the United States. We talk about the perils of trauma comparison, beauty standards, objectification, and the male gaze. Jalynn shares her struggles in the fashion photography industry and Sarah recounts her journey to say “f it” to bras.
In this episode, we discuss the dynamics of race in dating relationships, and yes, more white privilege. We call out sexism and the normalization of rape in media. Digging deep into our childhood experiences, we explore gender roles in the home, women’s compensation, the patriarchal Disney culture in the church, and how personality types affect relationships (shout out to Myers-Briggs and the Enneagram). Trigger warning: rape/sexual assault
We’ve gone on our second Bumble dates and we’re ready to talk! Our conversation centers around the awareness of white privilege with Guys #2. We also discuss valuing the humanity of all people and question the boundaries of political debates in life and work. A plan is put in place to avoid the tendency to self-edit.
Listen to our first Bumble date debrief! Jalynn admits her false assumptions about Guy #1 prior to the date, and we discuss her deep-seated issues with trusting men. Sarah goes on a pizza date with a man she knows very little about and concludes that she won’t do that again. Conflict ensues when she tries to split the bill.
I'm Still Here: Black Privilege in a World Made for Whiteness by Austin Channing Brown
In this episode, we start with the basics. What are our reasons for creating the thank you, next project? Listen and you’ll find out! As we set up our first social experiment by creating Bumble Date profiles, we explore just a few ways that racism and sexism have affected who we are as 20-somethings in the current political and social climate. Trigger warning: rape/sexual assault