The Consciousness Salon

It’s almost impossible to miss the multitude of psychological and coaching classes addressing people’s self-love and worthiness issues these days. All around us people want to heal their core feelings of unworthiness and unlovability. There is finally a deep understanding of its psychological impact on our sense of self and potential. In this episode, Alana and Dr. Lauren take a deep dive into the why and how this happened, specifically looking at it from a Western Culture perspective. They also look at particular psychological tools that can help change the way these issues impact us.

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What happens when you have figure out your relationship issues and are able to create a healthy, loving and safe relationship with someone only to find out your desire for sex with them waines over time. It is usually quite surprising and disappointing especially when you couldn’t keep your hands off each other in the beginning. Do we have to trade comfort and stability for life-long passion? Thankfully, no! Tune in as Dr. Lauren and Alana explore this topic using Esther Perel’s best-selling book, Mating in Captivity and Dr. Lauren’s years of work with love addiction, relationship issues, womxn, lesbians and queer women.

Go on an unusual ride with Dr. Lauren and Alana as they explore Inner Child Work together.  The third part of their Self-Discovery series, they discuss why creating a relationship with one’s  Inner Work helps us get in touch with those most vulnerable and open parts of ourselves. Often hiding in our unconscious because of core wounding, creating this relationship helps one begin to find out what they need in order for them to feel seen and heard - an effective healing modality in and of itself. Through a modified resourcing exercise, Dr. Lauren helps Alana meet her Inner Child so listeners can see an example of how helpful this kind of relationship can be.

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In the second part of their Self-Discoveries series - Alana and Dr. Lauren continue their deep dive into life-changing shifts and life-sustaining discoveries they have had during this radically transitional time. From finding more permission to creating more balance, how The Human Design Method played a part, and how personal and career priorities changed when the world changed. Lastly, how this reflective time informed the ways they look at their life purpose, how this helps their clientele and the people they love. 

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Join Dr. Lauren and Alana Roshay as they take a deep dive back into their beloved podcast after needing to take long break during the pandemic. In this episode they take a look back at 2020 including honoring the suffering experienced by so many while also acknowledging the much-needed healing from a life in overdrive including their own journey into self-discovery. They also process the overarching themes of learning how to sit with uncertainty, how to help heal a country full of racial injustice, the problems of capitalism and the patriarch. Lastly, they examine tools and resources everyone can use to help them navigate the crises of CoVid19 and find the psychological and spiritual opportunities meant to aid in their own self-discovery process.

Have you been watching The L Word and having lots of thoughts and feelings about it? Tune as Dr. Lauren and Alana discuss the revamped show and the fantastic and not so fantastic parts of it while also inviting their suprise guest, Rita Gonzales, pioneer in women’s and lesbian activist talk about her gender expression. They also get into Dr. Lauren’s experience as playing Drag King Barnaby Wild at “Out Your Inner Star.”

Ever Heard of Lesbianphobia or Internalized Lesbianphobia? Believe it or not, it exists. Coined by Dr. Lauren in 2008, it is something that women who love women experience. Dr. Lauren and Alana explain what it means, how it may affect you, ways it shows up in our HERSTORY and what you can do to help yourself heal from its negative effects. 

Dr. Lauren and Alana welcome their first guest, Ashlie Shyne, an out bisexual actor and comedian, who discusses her experiences of biphobia in her community, family and LGBTQ+ and straight worlds and how internalized biphobia affected her for many years until she met her wife and learned how to love herself through being accepted and loved unconditionally. 

Dr. Lauren and Alana take a close look at transphobia in the LGBTQ+ community including the problem that TERF’s cause for translesbians, the courageous story of Beth Elliott and discuss an article titled, 11 Cisgender Privileges You Didn’t Know You Had by a Pride Editor.

Dr. Lauren and Alana discuss several essential psychological tools towards Self-Empowerment called defense mechanisms. They go over the main components of repression, denial, displacement and sublimation and tools to work with each one.

Dr. Lauren and Alana discuss an essential psychological tool towards Self-Empowerment called gaslighting. Referring back to its origins in the 1944 movie by that name, together they illuminate what gaslighting is, ways to know you are being gaslit by another and tools you can use to help you recover when it happens to you. Parts of an article in Psychology Today called The 11 Warning Signs of Gaslighting by Stephanie A. Sarkis Ph.D are highlighted. You can find it at