A former scientist's spin on no-bulls**t self-help to take your life from good to GREAT! Because sometimes it's not about biz success, sometimes it's just about doing LIFE right. I'll tell stories and lessons from my own life, interview coaches, professionals, experts and thought leaders, all with lessons and stories of their own to help you transform your life!
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I'm going to caution you right now - don't be the person who brushes this concept off. Because for a long time I was! In starting my new position, I reread the work of Dr. Carol Dweck and her amazing book Mindset. I remembering loving this book before and being floored by it, but also kind of coming at it from the perspective of "Well, yeah, of course I can learn! Why else would we have school?" But kind of leaving it there. Upon reading this a second time and discussing this book with fellow trainees, clients and others, I've realized that there are a lot of intricacies and subtleties to these mindset and how so often our language around things like our speaking ability, our level of organization, our ability to do a particular subject or activity, etc. really can help us uncover the fixed mindset we have that might be flying under the radar in our lives. This episode is all about the subtleties of this concept, helping you develop awareness of the places that fixed mindset might be showing up for you in your life and, last but not least, showing you the 1 SINGLE WORD that can help send you in the right direction. Head to coachellyn.com/transform if you need extra support!
What does doing it “right” mean? That was exactly the question that inspired Ariel Upton, a digital marketer who founded her own marketing consulting practice, to start her business TODAY I DID IT RIGHT. Inspired by her profound connection with her mentor and guru in life, Betsy Tomlinson, Ariel Upton is committed to helping others do “it” right, but not by her definition - by yours! In today’s episode, we talk about what it MEANS to do life right, the importance of finding a mentor and the right mentor for you, and the importance of connection in all it’s different facets in our lives. This conversation was AMAZEBALLS, friends, and I cannot wait to share it with you!
Today is one of those days for some #realtalk, because I KNOW that going after your goals and chasing your dreams isn't all positive vibes! There are so many negative emotions that can come up to. Even if we REALLY want something, are REALLY working for a goal, really WANT to make a change, we can still feel overwhelmed, embarrassed about sharing that goal, guilty, and face a lot of fear. What do we do when we face those emotions? I know, when I was dealing with them, I somehow thought that I was alone in feeling these things because everyone else looked SO CONFIDENT on social media. So SURE of themselves. And I wasn't. So, was it just me? Well, I recorded this episode to not only show you that NO, it's not just you, that these feelings are totally normal, that they're part of the process and to also give you some tangible tips and tools to help you navigate these negative emotions. Cuz it's not all positive vibes...I know that babe! And I want to help you work through the negative!
I'm so excited to welcome to the podcast someone who has been so crucially important to my life and who was instrumental into introducing me to the coaching world! Meet Jacki Kouba - former plan-less college student turned corporate recruiter who finally followed her dreams of creating a life of more freedom by creating a booming network marketing business! Yes - network marketing and Beachbody play a big part in her story, but that is not what our conversation is about today! Jacki and I talk comparison - particularly to her badass best friend Kacia, who you heard from in episode 25 - and the effects it can have if you let it, the importance of falling in love with the process and make it FUN AF as well as embracing the messy behind-the-scenes that we ALL have! I love this girl so much and I hope you love her too!
This is one of those topics that has come up a LOT lately in my life. Partially because we're talking all about habits in the Academy this month but also because it was one of the focuses of last week's NLP life coach training. The notion that everything we do has a positive intention behind it. I'm not going to lie, I resisted this idea A LOT. How can smoking have a positive intention? How can war have a positive intention? There are so many things in our lives that are seemingly SO NEGATIVE! Well, I hate to break it to you, but they do. And today I'm going to break down WHY that is and why it's so important for us to realize!
Have you ever gone done a path and then wondered if that’s the right path for you? Maybe you have a PASSIONATE DISLIKE for their career. Maybe you really didn’t mind your career, but you’ve found something else that you’re SO excited about. How do you navigate this situation? CAN you change paths at this stage of the game? Dr. Denise Bronner was a classmate and friend from my time in my doctoral program and was instrumental in helping me navigate this question for myself. But now, as a postdoctoral fellow at UC Davis, she has realized that she wanted something different too. She digs into how she navigated that change for herself. If you’re a scientist or graduate student and want some understanding in the ways in which you’re struggling in your career, LISTEN TO THIS podcast. Even if you’re not though and you’re considering making a change in your own career, then you TOO need to LISTEN to this episode. Also, don’t forget to register for my masterclass at coachellyn.com/masterclass!
Have you ever felt stuck? Damn, I know I have. And I know for me, it's not always just an emotion. Sometimes, it's a physical feeling, a tightness in my chest. Have you ever wondered WHY you feel that way? What's the reason for it? What's it trying to tell you? In today's episode, we're going to break down where that feeling comes from. I was inspired by listening to the latest audiobook from Mel Robbins and dang am I so excited to share this content with you because it's shit I wish I realized a LONG time ago!
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Some of us have experiences that are incredibly defining moments in our lives. For some of us, those moments are very relatable - a divorce, losing a job, etc. For some of us, it's next level trauma, grief and loss. And that's exactly the case for one of my great friends, Christina Marfice. During her time on Remote Year in 2017, she lost her brother very suddenly. How do we overcome that loss? How do we move on from losing someone so close to us that was such an important figure in our lives? In this episode, Christina tells her story, the struggles of bouncing back, the power of the adult sibling relationship, the experiences, people, and tools that helped her really move on, managing the societal pressures regarding how you "should" grieve, how hardship and sharing that can help build connection and so much more. It's an emotional topic. It's a heavy topic. But I'm so grateful to Christina for sharing her story.
Today I Cried in the Middle of a Starbucks...I'm not joking. Full on balled in the corner of the Starbucks. Following our live Mastermind event about 10 days ago, I was on fire. I was motivated. I had a crystal clear plan of action. And this week hasn't been this way. I've been struggling. It's been like having a hangover - but an emotional hangover. So, in the middle of a call with my Mastermind babes in the middle of a Starbucks, I had a profound realization and so perfectly aligned with this week's message. I needed a DAMN break. I needed to put myself first. So, in the context of that experience, we're going to talk putting yourself first - even if you don't have kids and husband or significant other. We're going to talk self-care, but from the emotional perspective...
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Have you ever felt guilty for putting yourself first? As a mom? As a child? As a student? As an employee? In today’s episode, I’m so excited to welcome someone who has become a friend in a very short period of time. April Yentas is a former interior designer turned wedding photographer who has navigated seasons of life, including motherhood, a season of focusing on health, and a season of growing a new business. Throughout this journey, her career pivot, being a new mom, etc. she found one very important thing and has some very important messages - that we HAVE to put ourselves first on occasion and that isn’t something to feel guilty about, the importance of giving yourself space to do you, the importance of authenticity in building your business and how you’ve got to, always, show up in spite of fear. If you’re a mom, if you’re a creative professional, if you’re a new entrepreneur in general, check this amazing episode out!
Tuesday's interview with Brooke really got me think - thinking about all the moments in my life and along my journey where I didn't think my story was worth telling. That somehow it was lesser because it didn't quite compare in my brain to some of the other rags to riches stories of the top entrepreneurs, thought leaders, coaches and speakers of our time. People who've faced poverty, abuse, severe trauma, losses that maybe I couldn't even fathom. I'd hear these stories and simply think, who am I to tell mine? Is my story enough? Does it measure up? And for a long time I didn't think it did, but now I'm realizing it does. And yours does too.
This week’s interview features a powerhouse woman. Brooke Siem is a speaker, writer, XPT certified coach, and a chef. And despite her success as chef - she had a successful bakery in Manhattan called Prohibition Bakery, a champion Food Network’s Chopped, being named on Zagat’s 30 under 30, and so much more - she jumped at the opportunity to travel abroad for a year and is now “categorically homeless”, as her website says. Now, 19 countries later, she’s tackling a new challenge. A couple years, 19 countries and now off of all prescription drugs, she’s become an advocate for mental health and wellness. In today’s episode, we talk about identity and how little things like our hobbies, job titles and diagnoses can become ways in which we overidentify ourselves. We talk about comparing pain and how anytime you have to let go of a chapter of your life, we may need to grieve it and the importance of not comparing your story and your pain to that of anyone else’s. We talk self-compassion, we talk guilty, we talk so many important things that so many of us experience and so much more. You’re going to LOVE this episode with the wonderful and unbelievable Brooke Siem.
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What do you think are the most dangerous words in the English language? Well, today, I'm going to tell you what I think they are. They're two words we use ALL the time, but they impact us in profound ways when it comes to living and creating the kinds of lives we want. My most dangerous words in the English language? Should and yes. This episode is sure to make you think! Also, be sure to follow us on Instagram @thegrowthtribepodcast or @coachellyn, tag us in your stories and share with your friends! For show notes, head to coachellyn.com/podcast! And, in case you missed it, check out my Growth Tribe Academy at coachellyn.com/growth-tribe!
Have you ever been at work and really wondered if your presence there matters? Have you ever found yourself constantly asking for your boss' input? Have you ever felt like an impostor? Well, that's exactly some of the stories and experiences that we dig into in today's episode with Chimdi Ihezie and how she intentionally leveraged and developed her leadership and moved from timid, shy impostor to someone who took ownerships of her contributions in her work. Enjoy! And be sure to follow us on Instagram @thegrowthtribepodcast or @coachellyn, tag us in your stories and share with your friends! For show notes, head to coachellyn.com/podcast!
Friends, I have a cold. And even though I game planned content for today that had a lot to do with MOTIVATING you the EFF UP to take ACTION on the things you want, it didn't make sense to talk about that today when I'm so low energy and when I'm still trying to recover from my cold. So today, in the spirit of my cold and what it's telling me about what I need in my life right now, here are 3 tips I have based on how I've been feeling lately on burnout, feeling the need to slow down and why it's so important to tune in and give yourself what you need in your current season of life! Also, in case you missed it, sign up for my FREE Growth Video Series at coachellyn.com/growth and if you're loving the episode, share on Instagram @thegrowthtribepodcast
Have you ever had a desire to make a big change, but found yourself hanging on tightly to your past identity and career? Struggling to justify your decision to the people in your life? Not knowing where to start or if it's the "right choice" or the "right time"? We've all been there, but some of us are paralyzed by the uncertainty of the change and some of us embrace that uncertainty. James Burroughes has found himself embracing that not only in one big pivot, but multiple times. And I'm so excited to share his story. He's got some incredible mindset tips, tangible actions, ways to navigate the relationship change that will accompany those changes and so much more for any of us who are considering a big change in our own life. Also, in case you missed it, sign up for my FREE Growth Video Series at coachellyn.com/growth and if you're loving the episode, share on Instagram @thegrowthtribepodcast
Let's face it - we all tell ourselves some BS stories. Maybe they're stories about our ability to travel the way we want, lose the weight we feel is slowing us down, start the business we'd always wondered and wished at...whatever! These stories can come in so many different shapes and forms - and, I don't know about you, but I'm DONE let my bulls*** stories control my life. In today's episode, I'm gonna get a little raw and a little real and tell you about some of my stories from my past, how I got through them and give you 3 tips for how to reframe and move through the bulls*** stories in your own life!
Our second interview of 2019 is with the amazing Taryn Johnson. Taryn Johnson, aka the Remote Yogi, is a spiritual + yoga teacher and coach who has used intentionally used personal growth, holistic healing and yoga to work through her own trauma, anxiety and false beliefs to transform herself and others. Not only that, but she gives tangible tools that you can use in your own life to help you overcome your own trauma, including perhaps the best description of the emotional freedom technique (EFT), aka tapping, that I have ever heard! Super excited for you guys to hear this and I hope you enjoy it!
Have you ever wondered if there's "more" for you in this life? It's a complicated question. A question that you may resist, but it's also a question that, if you listen to it, can help you to make some HUGE changes in your life! But, so often we get stuck, overwhelmed, and frustrated. How do we identify how to start creating MORE in our lives? Where the hell do we even start? Well, today I want to teach you a tool that I love, that I use every quarter and that I use with every client to help you identify JUST THAT! Enjoy!
Ladies and gentleman...today's guest is the quintessential woman of action, the queen of making moves...and so much more. I'm so pumped to welcome Kacia Fitzgerald. When I met her in 2014, she was just kicking off a new side hustle, living in NYC, supporting her boyfriend through dental school and just starting a job at Google. If that doesn't sound badass enough, this girl took a good life and decided she wanted a GREAT one. She quit her job and kicked off what would become a 7-figure business mentoring women to take back their health and their life through online fitness coaching. In this episode, her and I are going to get ACTIONABLE on how you can set yourself up to not only take action in your new year but, as she says, to UNAPOLOGETICALLY make some MOVES!
It's 2019! And ya'll know that I'm not big on New Years...I'm big on goals and living intentionally according to your vision always. Not just with each new calendar year! But, that doesn't change the fact that a lot of us are in that New Years headspace of wanting to make some changes, some big pivots and some freaking transformation into 2019. So, how can we maximize that mood? Well, in today's spur of the moment, impulse episode, I wanted to give you just that - some of my top tips for maximizing New Years 2019!
How do we navigate moments when we fail? How do we bounce back? How do we not beat ourselves up? I don't know about you...but I know how daunting failure and the fear of failure can be. In our careers, in our relationships, in our health...in so many ways. I know how having failure before can haunt us and be so hard to bounce back from. But it doesn't have to be. Today, we're going to elaborate a little bit more on some of the topics that we touched on in our interview on Tuesday and I'm going to leave you with 5 tips for how to navigate fear and failure as we reflect on our 2018 and as we move into 2019...
NOTE: Hiatus until second week of New Year! We will be back on January 8th!
You could say I've been saving this episode...I mean technically I recorded it a couple months ago. But, actually, with all the other content that I've been creating for you guys and all the amazing interviews that I've had the pleasure of getting, this is just where this interview landed in the schedule. And it's the PERFECT little kick in the butt going into the new year because in this episode, I had the opportunity to sit down with Dan Holloway, or THE Dan Holloway as I've taken to calling him per his instagram handle. And this dude is about to drop some TRUTH bombs on you all. So whether you're listening to this right when it drops at the end of December and the end of 2018, or you're kicking off your 2019 with this episode, I gaurantee you if you implement some of what Dan discusses in this episode, your 2019 will be one of the most EPIC years of your personal and professional life! I'm so stoked for you all to hear everything he has to say! Enjoy!
We're switching things up in this podcast! No more once-a-week. We're kicking things up a notch, because so often some of the actionable and tangible steps that we cover in each and every interview can get buried in the conversation. And sometimes, we're just covering something that I want to elaborate on. So, starting this week, we're going to add a new episode each week. A solo episode where I can dig a little bit deeper into the topic to provide you with actionable tools that you can take and apply to your own life. So, in this episode, we're going to continue the conversation about affirmations. Today, I've got my 5 top tips for to create affirmations that work - create affirmations around a the specific paradigm/limiting belief that you most need to shift, create your own affirmations (don't simply adopt someone else's), use positive and present language, consider using passionate language that snaps you out of your old state, and consistently use your affirmations. Enjoy!
The first time I was introduced to affirmations + manifesting, I was probably like a lot of you. I thought they were complete and utter BULLS***. In today's episode, I'm sitting down with my friend Barbara Cameron, a renaissance woman of many passions and aspiring travel photographer, about how she's used intentional language and affirmations to manifest some incredible experiences in her own life, what so many of us do wrong when it comes to affirmations and ultimately the role that our language plays in shifting our mindset and our paradigms! I hope you enjoy it!
When you start moving toward something in your life, how fully have you committed to it? Are you all-in? Or do you still have a foot on the shore, wondering why your not sailing? In today's podcast, Kat Burns talks about what she called "ruthless intentionality", a phrase that I'm totally stealing in my future life. For her, it was all about taking responsibility and having some intention, ruthless intention, with the choices she makes. But you don't just declare something in your life. You create it. You have to have that same intention in the actions you take, the language you use, the awareness you have in your day to day life and in shifting your mindset. Ruthless intentionality is a lifestyle and one that transforms your life and the steps you start taking toward your achieving your goals.
Do you consider yourself to be a defensive person? I'd be willing to be that most people would probably answer "no" to this question, me being one of them. I consider myself to be a pretty open person, open to feedback, to growth, and so on. But am I, really? Are you? I had a moment the other day where I realized that I'm not. A person I trust made a comment that could have been valuable feedback for me. And my first instinct was to defend myself. I realized in reflecting on this situation that, even for the most open people, defensiveness is a natural and normal state. Even when we feel like we're being receptive to feedback, oftentimes we're not as open as we could be. In today's episode, I reflect on this situation, on the times when it's really easy to get constructive feedback and the times when it's not, the stages of defensiveness that we often find ourselves in, and ultimately, where we should all strive to be. Enjoy!
If there's anyone in my Remote Year Community that is as MUCH of a personal growth nerd as I am, it's this dude right here! And damn was this a fun conversation. About how personal growth taught him to love learning and empowered him to look at learning differently as an adult than he ever did as a kid, how knowledge is like Harry Potter, teaching him new spells and tools that can transform his life just like magic would, imposter syndrome and how it showed up for him, failure in entrepreneurship, whether or not you can actually outgrow personal growth...and all the nerdy references you could ever desire! Loved this convo and the lessons in it! I hope you enjoy it!
Also, shout out to my girl Kathleen for the epic-ness of this audio! It's so good!
The best part of doing a podcast is tapping into the genius of others and all they can teach you and this is another one of those moments when I'm so grateful that I kickstarted this podcast. In today's podcast, I am featuring a new friend and fellow Remote Year participant, Dr. Laura Gallaher. She is an organizational psychologist and the founder of Gallaher Edge, but more than the creds, she is an insightful badass and the hour I spent chatting with her truly is one my favorite interviews I've done so far. We talk defensiveness, emotional intelligence and how you can find your edge in work and in life by tapping into self-awareness, self-acceptance, and self-accountability. There's so much knowledge to be shared here and I am so excited for you to here it! Enjoy!
Have you ever had an absolutely spectacular failure? Like it was the encapsulation of your dream and it crashed and burned so hard that you had trouble picking yourself back up? I thought I had to. That is until this past September. Today, I'm going to tell you about the most epic fail of my professional life. It was years in the making, and it failed miserably. I'm going to talk to you about some of what went through my head in the aftermath of that failure, what I did wrong, and some of the silver linings and lessons I learned from that failure. Because, cliche or not, failure is our biggest teacher. And the sooner you can pick yourself up, dust yourself off and try again...the better.
Sometimes the biggest and best thing we can do for ourselves is give to set boundaries and to give ourselves permission to create our lives for ourselves and not for other people. To dig into that, I had the opportunity to sit down with Kelly Barnard, a marketing consultant, career coach and, of course, a Remote Year Citizen, to talk about all things freedom. When she realized that her career at a marketing agency wasn't giving herself the freedom that she craved. So, she left her stable and secure marketing career to start her own business, travel the world, and step into the world of coaching. We talk all about how this process and this journey gave her freedom in her life and, ultimately, how she helps her clients create that freedom as well. Enjoy!
Get ready to be CALLED OUT!!! Because damn did I feel called out, too. Similar to a couple of weeks back when I shared that audio clip from an IGTV I did, I'm breaking podcasting law and switching to a piece of audio that isn't great, because the content is what is the most important part. So often, we fall victim to the FAST, EASY, CHEAP attitude of our culture. But, that shit doesn't work, especially for long-term effective results in our lives. We have to be willing to invest our TIME + MONEY, but so often we have excuses why we can't make those investments. And I mean EXCUSES, NOT REASONS. So, ask yourself, do you have reasons why you're not getting what you want in life, or are your EXCUSES holding you back? Because, if you let them, your excuses will make or break you.
I've been loving all these new friends I've been making on Instagram lately and, once again, that new connection turned into an AWESOME podcast interview! I'm so excited to have Krystal Anderson-Gosselin, aka @theunicorndilemma, as a guest on this week's podcast. We talk everything from discipline, boundaries to creative living, even for those of us that don't identify with the "creative" label, how to live more creatively and that helps us grow into who we were always meant to be.
What does success look like for you? Is it a tangible thing you've contributed to the world? Is it a feeling of fulfillment or personal meaning? Is it more about your relationships? Is it a combination of all these things? Or...maybe you're likely me and you don't know. I was inspired by reading the book , “In the Company of Women”, to touch on success and what it means. It's an intensely personal subject and I realized in this MINI-SODE that I don't have a crystal clear definition. Instead, I approach defining success in a different way and I wanted to share that with you.
We're back on track with the interviews and this was a fun one because I just met my new best friend! Nicole Hudson is a fellow participant in Remote Year and her story parallels mine in so many ways. I absolutely loved hearing her story and talking about some of the hesitations, questions, and decisions that she ultimately had to make that led her to pick up and leave a seemingly great life and career in New York City to find a life that felt like hers. Some of the tangible work she did, the reflection that she found herself doing and the ultimate realizations that she made might surprise you! I hope you enjoy this conversation as much as I did.
It's a double episode week because this has been a BIG week for Coach Ellyn and my coaching biz! This is the week that I launched my baby, my dream program, Life 101! And today, I'm going to tell you all about the cornerstones of this program, which I believe to be the 3 Things you NEED to succeed in your life and to create your dream life on your terms!
Today, I'm sitting down with 3 of my former clients - Gunther Oakey, corporate counsel and all around creative badass; Annie Jacobsen, insurance broker by day and mental health guru by, also day; and Jess Newfield, Remote Year program leader + community facilitator + impact design consultant extraordinaire! These 3 took time away from their R&R at our personal growth retreat this past weekend to clear up some of the questions that people often have about coaching - what it is, coaching vs. thereapy, if it's worth the investments, and the overarching benefits of coaching in their life!
Why do so many people set goals and then ultimately fail at achieving them? Well, I believe that there's a big reason for that and I believe that reason ultimately ties back to one specific thing. This week, I'm totally violating the rules of podcasting. It's like Podcast 101 that the quality of your audio is KING...but I'm taking a risk here, because I'm sharing some thing that might fall into the "shitty audio" category. I'm sharing with you a snippet of my fave IGTV that I've ever done called "Momentum is the Secret Sauce" because the content and the message in this WORTH taking that risk. I hope you enjoy it!
Sometimes we just don't show up as our best selves. We snap at our friends, or significant others. We freak out about bad WiFi and struggle to keep ourselves from drop kicking our laptop across the room. We overreact! It's normal, and it's even more so when things aren't going perfectly. Bottom line, it's easy to be a good person and the best version of ourselves when things are going right and much more difficult when things aren't. Today, I'm going to tell you about some of my recent experiences massively overreacting and not showing up at my best, and, ultimately, the things that have helped me work through those moments. Because, whether we want to admit it or not, sometimes we just need to CALM OUR TITS!
"There is no better way to fight weakness than with strength. Once the mind and body have been awakened to their true potential, it’s impossible to turn back." In this episode, I talk all about how fitness and physical challenge has shown up in my life as a vehicle for challenge, change and transformation, with a little help from the wonderfully impactful essay "Iron & The Soul" by Henry Rollins, which has hugely impacted and resonated with me on my journey!
Today I'm sitting down with two new friends from Instagram, Jenny & Mike of Introvert Goat, a budding apparel company with a mission of empowering introverts! We're talking all things introversion, from how their experiences with being introverts inspired them to start their company, the difference between introversion and shyness, managing introversion in social situations and SO MUCH MORE! Download to listen to this amazing and fun conversation!
This is one of those episodes that probably won't be about what you think it is. It's not about my love for the Tacos, whom you heard from in the last episode. It's actually about the 4 people who will help me level up my physical and emotional game and the role that 1 of them has played in helping me handle my negative emotions.
Why are you traveling the world for a year? Seriously. What is with this digital nomad trend? Well, in today's episode, we're sitting down with my girls and my current roommates in Prague, Kathleen & Kaarina, and talking all the things travel and the role world travel has played in our lives, particularly from the perspective of growth, challenge and change! We are the TACOS!
Welcome to the FIRST episode of The Growth Tribe, a personal growth + life transformation podcast where you'll hear stories and lessons from my own life, interviews with clients and some of my biggest mentors and inspirations, fellow coaches and other every day people, all with lessons, stories and tips to help you transform your life! In this episode, we're gonna talk a little about my story and why I'm so passionate about personal growth!