The Love You Want, It Starts With You!

Humans are social creatures, and belonging is crucial for our well-being. When you feel connected to others, you feel like you're part of something bigger than yourself, which can boost your self-esteem and overall happiness.

Strong social connections have also been linked to lower levels of stress. Knowing that you have a support system to lean on can help you cope with life's challenges more effectively and decrease feelings of anxiety.

Research suggests that people with strong social connections tend to live longer, healthier lives. Whether through emotional support, encouragement to adopt healthier habits, or simply having someone to share activities with, connections can positively impact your physical well-being.

How to build a connection with others:

1. Be Authentic - Be true to yourself and let your genuine personality shine through. Authenticity builds trust and makes it easier for others to connect with you on a deeper level. Don't be afraid to share your thoughts, feelings, and vulnerabilities. 
2. Being Present—Whether you're face-to-face or online, people can tell when you’re not fully present for them. 
3. Understanding and Empathy—How understanding are you of other people's needs? How empathic are you of others? Building connections with people from diverse backgrounds cultivates empathy and understanding. It helps you recognize and appreciate individual differences, fostering a more inclusive and compassionate worldview.
4. Be curious about other people. Ask questions that many others wouldn’t in a real effort to learn more about them.
5. Engage in Deep Conversations: Move beyond small talk and engage in meaningful conversations with others. Discuss topics that matter to you on a deeper level, such as philosophy, spirituality, or personal values. These conversations can lead to greater intimacy and understanding in your relationships.

Please do those you care about a favor and share this episode with them. I promise you, many need to hear this more than you can imagine. Be that person in their lives who gives words of comfort and growth.

Please subscribe and rate the podcast if you enjoyed this episode! It would mean a lot to me! 

With love, xx

Connect with Anne Hellgren:

If you want extra motivation, encouragement, and empowerment, this episode is it! It takes on a slightly different format than usual but promises to inspire you out of any funk or simply uplift you higher than you currently are. 

“We all suffer hardships as part of the human experience. We also have a choice on whether we can give our pain a purpose or whether our new purpose becomes to live in pain.” Anne Hellgren

I will focus on the following points: 

• How to find the purpose of your struggles and pain. 

• Making better decisions through your past negative (and positive) experiences. 

• My own stories of family deaths, divorce, and miscarriages. 

• How the hand of God has carried me and can carry you through it all. 

• You are still here- your purpose is far from done! 

This episode has a sensitive context that some listeners may find challenging. If you find yourself affected by the context of this episode—or any other episodes on this podcast—please contact me at anne@annehellgren for a 30-minute complimentary consultation.  

Please also share this episode with anyone who could use words of encouragement, hope, and strength. Sometimes, it’s just one thing people take that changes everything for them!  

Please subscribe and rate the podcast if you enjoyed this episode! It would mean a lot to me!  

With love, xx 

Connect with Anne Hellgren: 

I want to talk about the power you hold within you! You are stronger than you think and have more in your future than you can imagine!

“You are capable of doing and achieving more than you can ever imagine. But you must allow yourself the opportunity, time, and resilience to do so.” Anne Hellgren

In this episode, I will cover the following: 

• You have survived everything you’ve been through so far, which gives you a 100% survival rate over your struggles thus far.

• Someone needs you. 

• Your purpose isn’t completed yet - that is why you are still here!

• The future holds amazing things for you! 

I also share my personal story which I hope will inspire you to overcome any challenges that you may be going through. 

As usual, if you have been affected by any of these topics, please feel free to contact me for a free 20-minute consultation.

Please do those you care about a favor and share this episode with them. I promise you, many need to hear this more than you can imagine. Be that person in their lives who gives words of comfort and growth.

Please subscribe and rate the podcast if you enjoyed this episode! It would mean a lot to me! 

With love, xx

Connect with Anne Hellgren:

This episode needs to be shared as I believe too many people are living life passively instead of intentionally. People do not reach their true potential living a life where coasting is the norm, or where they settle for what they get rather than questioning if there is more they could be doing or giving. 

So I ask that you honestly ask yourself where, if any, of these areas of your life are you not giving it your all? Where have you yet to give intentional and conscious efforts to improve or even start building on? 

“If you’re not living intentionally, you are living passively- there is no in-between.” Anne Hellgren

As usual, be kind to yourself and have self-grace when going through each point. This is about self-empowerment, not a chance for self-criticism. But also be honest with yourself, for it is neither a space for denial if you are to gain from listening to the episode. 

The five areas of intentional living I discuss are:

• Physical health 
• Mental Health 
• Spiritual Health 
• Emotional Health 
• Financial Health 

As usual, if you have been affected by any of these topics, please feel free to contact me for a free 20-minute consultation.

Please do those you care about a favor and share this episode with them. I promise you, many need to hear this more than you can imagine. Be that person in their lives who gives words of comfort and growth.

Please subscribe and rate the podcast if you enjoyed this episode! It would mean a lot to me! 

With love, xx

Connect with Anne Hellgren:

Let’s spend time together on this episode discussing something that doesn’t get enough air time. I think it’s important because it has the potential to make or break whatever we do in all areas of our lives. This is our tendency to self-sabotage ourselves.

“Not loving and respecting yourself is in itself a way of self-sabotage. Therefore, it becomes impossible to self-sabotage when you’ve mastered self-love and self-respect.” Anne Hellgren

We have all said or heard it said by others, why do “these kinds of things keep happening to me?” or some variation of it. When we experience negative or difficult situations, our first instinct isn’t self-reflection to see our role in them. At least not for most. But, I want to challenge you through this episode to start asking yourself what role you played in getting the experience you are going through. 

This isn’t about beating yourself up or shaming yourself. It’s about learning how you sabotaged the results or experiences that you wanted. 

I will share with you a couple of signs that you may be self-sabotaging yourself before discussing why you may be doing so. I will then share with you a couple of ideas on how to stop this soul-destroying practice and learn to live the life you want instead. Let’s be honest: These self-sabotaging behaviors may serve a purpose, but they’re definitely not the results we desire or should strive for.

Some of the things discussed in this show will include: 

• Substance Abuse
• Negative thought patterns
• Procrastination and Avoidance
• Impulsive Actions
• Low Self- esteem 
• Past Trauma
• Fear of failure or success
• Self-awareness, patterns, and triggers
• Seeking help 
• Practicing self grace and self-love

Please do those you care about a favor and share this episode with them. I promise you, many need to hear this more than you can imagine. Be that person in their lives who gives words of comfort and growth.

Please subscribe and rate the podcast if you enjoyed this episode! It would mean a lot to me! 

With love, xx

Connect with Anne Hellgren:

The last couple of weeks have been a series of trials and turbulence. From my kids being sick and off school and me taking quite a brutal hit on the viruses going around. For weeks, we took turns going into A&E / ER, for one thing after another, between my kids and me. I also had a lot of friends and family around me going through some very difficult personal times. Like anyone else, when your loved ones aren't well, we tend to share in their pain and sorrow.

Give yourself some space to clear your head and just be still. Allow some creativity and purpose into your life. - Anne Hellgren

So, here is what I learned and (finally) accepted during this downtime:

• It's okay to rest, nap, or even log off entirely.
• Quiet moments or moments of stillness can enhance my creativity.
• My health is my TRUE wealth.
• Don't turn resilience into an ugly thing!

Sometimes, we don't give ourselves the same grace we afford to others. But this time round, I was forced into just being still and accepting that I wouldn't be able to do my usual life juggling.

Accepting this brought me peace. And with the peace came the life lessons- instead of guilt, overthinking, or planning everything I had to do once I was better.

So liberating....

What have you learned in your moments of chosen stillness - or perhaps forced ones, like me...?

Connect with Anne Hellgren:

Have you ever asked yourself who and what is lowering your standards?

“Having high standards is not about being picky or unreachable; it's about recognizing your worth, valuing it, and refusing to settle for anything less than you deserve." Anne Hellgren

In this episode, I share with you four key areas that affect our standards and go deep into each section so you can understand what you need to work on to improve your standards.

I cover the following four areas:

1. How does society affect our standards- that is, what we consume and what we make of it?
2. How does our internal dialogue affect us and the decisions we make for ourselves and our lives?
3. The effects of our significant relationships and how we set up our standards based on what we experience in those relationships.
4. I explain how having a self-empowered mindset can significantly raise your standards and why it is essential to work on key areas to achieve this. I also go into depth about self-awareness, self-love, and self-worth.

Please do those you care about a favor and share this episode with them. I promise you, many need to hear this more than you can imagine. Be that person in their lives who gives words of comfort and growth.

Please subscribe and rate the podcast if you enjoyed this episode! It would mean a lot to me! 

With love, xx

Connect with Anne Hellgren:

We know we have all been there, that place of feeling down and stuck in a state of funk that we desperately despair of being in, but struggle to get out of.

“Accept those emotions rather than ignore them, in that way, you can truly start to work on them.” - Anne Hellgren

It's important to know that there's nothing wrong with you when you find yourself there. However, and I stress this, if you constantly find yourself in a state of feeling very low and/or for long periods of time, please seek professional help. 

This episode is about the everyday things and emotions we experience as part of life. The ones that throw us off course and get us stuck in an unhappy or emotionally unhealthy state. 

I share 5 things that can help us overcome those funk moments and help us deal with what we are feeling and thinking. Instead, we climb out of it, at our own pace, and find the peace we long for.

• Acknowledge them for what they truly are.
• Accept the emotions -don't resist or ignore them
• Zoom out 
• Reframe
• Emotional, Spiritual and Mental Regulation 

I hope this episode truly serves you and learn to work through the funk in a more productive and efficient manner. Remember, you are not alone on this journey, even if it sometimes feels like it. 

So, can you please do those you care about a favour and share this episode with them? I promise you, many need to hear this more than you can imagine. Be that person in their lives who gives words of comfort and growth.

With love, xx

Connect with Anne Hellgren:

This episode is taken from a new and exciting podcast series I created with 4 other coaches called “Relationship Secrets Unlocked.” Join Julie Fitzpatrick, Claire Auchmuty, Ksenia Droben, Gazala Saleem, and me as we discuss if love at first sight does exist! 

“When love builds up too fast, I believe it’s important to take a moment to tune into your intuition. Ask yourself if it is love, attraction, or just lust. While all 3 can exist at the same time, confusing lust for love can be a messing game!” Anne Hellgren

We discuss where love at first sight really exists or whether we are confusing it for lust, or attraction at first sight. We also discuss how the various cultures, religions, backgrounds, and experiences of all 5 panelists feel about this topic. I promise you a very interesting discussion given the various personalities in the group and where our passions and expertise lay. 

“Relationship Secrets Unlocked" is a uniquely enriching podcast series that presents a holistic view of relationships from an international and culturally diverse perspective. With an expert panel of five relationship coaches hailing from diverse cultural, religious, and professional backgrounds, the series aims to educate listeners about the complexities of human relationships and how to navigate them effectively.

Asher Wright, an immigrant from Jamaica and a proud U.S. citizen, is deeply connected to his Jamaican roots. A 22-year veteran of the U.S. Army, he has transitioned to entrepreneurship with a mission to empower immigrants and veterans. Through his venture, Asher focuses on the theme 'To matter or to matter again,' a reflection of what his clients – immigrants and veterans – are seeking. His work is dedicated to helping them build better lives for their families and find significance in their journeys. As a Wisdom Coach and passionate writer, Asher gathers and shares transformative wisdom from ordinary people with extraordinary stories.

“If you’re never failing in life it means that you’re not pushing yourself enough. Fail and fail again - learn from the failures - but never be so afraid you fail to start at all.” Anne Hellgren

Listen to an episode about what it means to matter when you’re an immigrant or find yourself in a world that is unfamiliar to you. How do we keep ourselves feeling empowered when we might not feel that way? 

We also talk about what it takes to find our purpose and feel value through the way we love ourselves.  

If you enjoyed this episode, please could you SHARE it with others? We all need a word of encouragement and you never know who may especially need this message today! 

With love, Anne xx

Connect with Anne Hellgren:

I am joined by Natalie Arabella Bailey on this interview to discuss the importance of who and what we allow into our lives, and making the conscious decision to make the changes necessary. 

 “I think it’s great to be as honest as you can with others, BUT, I don’t believe everyone deserves your vulnerability. If you don’t feel safe and open enough in a relationship, romantic or non-romantic, exercise wisdom in what you share.” Anne Hellgren

Natalie is a Property Developer, Coach, and Mentor, with a passion for health, wealth, and happiness. 

This is a very inspirational podcast on how to improve all areas of your health, that is, spiritual, physical, emotional, and mental health. We also talk about confidence and how all these factors go on to affect all other areas of your life! 

If you’re looking to hear inspirational stories and get a boost in your motivation to improve your life- this is for you! I promise it will leave you feeling empowered to achieve higher and new heights! 

Natalie co-owns a property company with her mum, which also makes for a great conversation on how to navigate relationships with family members when it can be challenging to do so!

This episode is taken from a new and exciting podcast series I created with 4 other coaches called “Relationship Secrets Unlocked.” Join Julie Fitzpatrick, Claire Auchmuty, Ksenia Droben, Gazala Saleem, and me as we discuss how collective and individual expectations affect our relationships!

“If we took time in the beginning to get clarity on the expectations of ourselves, our partner, and the relationship itself, and communicated it, it would save us a lot of conflict and heartache in the long run.” Anne Hellgren

The word “expectations” can elicit a lot of emotions and reactions, and I have seen this to be true with the backlash I have previously received on social media when using it. 

A much-contested and very interesting topic when debated from the perspective of 5 women from different cultural, racial, and religious backgrounds! 

We explore whether we should have expectations in a relationship from our partners and our own roles in the relationship and how they are formed by our own cultures, religion, values, upbrings, and so on. And what happens when we don’t communicate these expectations from the beginning of the relationship? 

What also happens when our expectations vary vastly from those of our partner? How do we navigate this- if we can at all. 

Be ready for an episode that keeps it real and be warned that it may ruffle some feathers as there are some unexpected and/or shocking views shared!

“Relationship Secrets Unlocked" is a uniquely enriching podcast series that presents a holistic view of relationships from an international and culturally diverse perspective. With an expert panel of five relationship coaches hailing from diverse cultural, religious, and professional backgrounds, the series aims to educate listeners about the complexities of human relationships and how to navigate them effectively.

I’m joined by Jenny Micthell, who co-owns and runs two property businesses with her husband. She is also a very honest, positive, and beautiful ray of lovely energy! In this episode, Jenny and I talk about the relationship breakdowns in families. All relationships in our lives can have a profound effect on us and Jenny’s story will definitely move you to your core. 

“Having your family relationship break down can cause trauma and hurt. If you wish to heal from it, you must first accept the truth of the situation. That is, is this something you want and/or should fix? And second, forgive them and yourself as needed. Only then can you start on your healing journey.” - Anne Hellgren

In her 20s she found out that her sister was having an affair with her best friend and confronted her sister about it and told her parents. This resulted in her being abandoned by her whole family and she has not been in contact with them for over 23 years, despite her attempts to build bridges.

Jenny shares how this break in the relationship between her and her family drove her to a drinking problem that lasted over 10 years before she finally quit drinking. She also shares the trauma experienced from this loss and the effects on her marriage and parenting. 

She shares openly about what healing methodologies helped her to deal with the trauma and loss, in the hope that others may be inspired to reach out for help as well. 

This episode is taken from The Art Of Connection series created by Alexander and I. We ask, how do we define soul mates and what does it really mean to be a soul mate? And what’s the difference between a soul mate and a twin flame? Alexander and I go deep and honest about the concept of whether we are really made to have that one particular person who is amazingly and “perfectly” made for you. Or if you meet someone and together you make each other perfect for each other. Or can you have more than one soul mate? 

"I believe that Soul mates are not found. They are recognized – two hearts resonating in harmony, sensed in a timeless connection that echoes through the depths of existence." Anne Hellgren

The other question is, how do we know when we have found our soul mate? Are there any signs to look out for or is it just something we inherently know within us? 

This is a deep conversation and may have very different views but join us as we unpack this interesting topic and get some insights that will challenge your views on the idea of a soul mate! Make sure you listen to the full episode!

If you enjoyed this episode, could you please do me a favor and follow/subscribe to the podcast? 

If you know someone who should hear this message, please share this episode! You never know just how much you might be helping them on their journey.

I'm joined by Shreya Parekh, host of the EmpowerHer Podcast and inspirational woman who is giving women a platform to share their stories to help empower other women into their highest selves through their stories. 

“Evaluate what cultural programming you have and notice if it’s serving your authentic self and values. Keep those that are, and change those that aren’t. It may not be easy, but well worth it if you’re seeking true happiness.” Anne Hellgren

Shreya and I discuss our shared stories of the complexities around being a strong and outspoken woman in cultures that look down on that. She has accomplished more in her life and education than was expected of her, especially being brought up in an Asian society by a single mum. She also shares views around how the Asian culture she grew up in had racist and sexist views and how she navigated around that, given it was so far removed from her own values and beliefs. 

We also talk about how our health and relationships affect all other areas of our lives! This was a significant lesson that we learned through the pandemic, and I believe the lessons should continue to be applied. 

This podcast is for people who are looking to empower themselves as a whole- from a spiritual, health, and relationship aspect. You will learn that once you have worked on these areas- all other areas of your life start to improve- including your financial growth.

If you enjoyed this episode, could you please do me a favor and follow/subscribe to the podcast? 

If you know someone who should hear this message, please share this episode! You never know just how much you might be helping them on their journey.

Our programming has a huge effect on how we allow others to treat us. This is why we make different decisions on what we allow or don’t allow in our relationships.

However, as a general rule, there are some things that can be very clear signs that the relationship isn’t working and it’s time to either get help or move on. 

“Learn to trust your intuition when you feel like ‘enough is enough.’ And remember, you don’t need to justify your decisions to anyone outside that relationship. Your enough may not be their enough- but it is yours and that’s what counts at the end of day.” - Anne Hellgren

Here are some red flags to look out for:

• Loss of Self
• Disrespect 
• Unhappiness and neglect 
• Repeated apologies without change
• Feeling constantly depleted and/or sad

I have said this again and again, but please dear listener, if you find yourself in this position, reach out for help. I welcome you to ask yourself, how much longer are you willing to live like that? What are you losing now and in your future by staying there? What life could you be living instead? 

If you enjoyed this episode, could you do me a favour? Could you please LIKE, SUBSCRIBE/FOLLOW it?

In todays divided and divisive society where people are so quick to pass judgment on to others, it’s important to talk about forgiveness when we feel we’ve been wronged. I see forgiveness as a conscious effort to let go of feeling anger, hurt, and other negative emotions that have held you back from progressing the way you desire.

“If your lack of forgiveness is crippling your soul and spirit, be assured that it’s also affecting you physically in the long term. Sometimes we need to find forgiveness towards those who hurt us, so we can stop hurting ourselves with past events that we cannot change.” - Anne Hellgren

In this episode, I encourage people to think about the following:

• What does it mean to forgive?
• When we forgive others for our own sake and healing.
• The benefits of forgiveness.
• How your lack of forgiveness and anger can be poisoning your spirit. 
• Forgiving yourself and having self-grace for yourself.

I really think a lot of people need to hear this message to start on their own healing journey around forgiving those who have wronged them. I promise you, building a forgiving spirit can be one of the best gifts you give yourself! So please share this episode and help create a more compassionate and loving effect that is much needed today! 

If you enjoyed this episode, could you do me a favor? Could you please LIKE, SUBSCRIBE/FOLLOW it?

A much-contested and very interesting topic when debated from the perspective of 5 women from different cultural, racial, and religious backgrounds!

“I think if people had a very honest conversation about financial expectations of each other before getting married or cohabiting, it would save them both a lot of heartache and stress.” - Anne Hellgren

This episode is taken from a new and exciting podcast series I created with 4 other coaches called “Relationship Secrets Unlocked.” Join Julie Fitzpatrick, Claire Auchmuty, Ksenia Droben, Gazala Saleem, and me as we discuss how money affects relationships!

This is what makes this episode about money such a dynamic and insightful conversation as we explore how our identity created from our programming affects how we see finances in our relationships.  

Be ready for an episode that keeps it real and be warned that it may ruffle some feathers as there are some unexpected and/or shocking views shared!

“Relationship Secrets Unlocked" is a uniquely enriching podcast series that presents a holistic view of relationships from an international and culturally diverse perspective. With an expert panel of five relationship coaches hailing from diverse cultural, religious, and professional backgrounds, the series aims to educate listeners about the complexities of human relationships and how to navigate them effectively.

You will never bloom into your full potential while planted in polluted or toxic soil!

“We need to consciously and actively make choices about what we are removing and what we are allowing into our lives. I want to remind you that YOU have power over the level of peace you experience- so make choices that birth peace, not drama.” Anne Hellgren

We rarely need to look hard to find things and people that are readily and keen to steal our peace. Sometimes it’s not even done consciously but by the content we consume on TV, social media, news etc. What we fail to notice is how these constant negative or divisive messages affect us. And sometimes it’s a completely intentional attempt to steal our peace from people who thrive in drama. Either way, I encourage you to enter a season and lifetime of a peaceful attitude and spirit. 

Getting the right kind of people into your life will be a game changer for you in all areas of your life. You cannot thrive in an environment that distracts you with negativity. Or gets you to focus on non-sense issues, while the things that really matter to you fall off your schedule or priority. 

Listen in to this episode to understand how you can get the following:

• Emotional detachment 
• Psychological detachment 
• Physical detachment
• Improved communication
• How your own behaviour is changed by constant and intense toxic environments
• How your own mindset if affected by toxic people or things

I really think a lot of people need to hear this message to start on their journey of living a peaceful life! You will never bloom into your full potential while planted in polluted or toxic soil! Remember- it’s a choice you make, so make the choice to protect your peace!

If you enjoyed this episode, could you do me a favor? Could you please LIKE, SUBSCRIBE/FOLLOW it?

I am joined by Vipoola Devani, a Conscious Relationship Consultant and  Self-awareness Advocate. Vipoola and I discuss what it means to be self-aware and how we can increase our self-awareness so we attain the things that matter to us in all areas of our lives. We also share our journeys on self-awareness, the hardships, and good, and the consequences of not having self-awareness at certain times of our lives.

“Self-awareness is not a destination we get to. It is a journey and a process that never really stops- and there is great beauty in that!” Anne Hellgren

You will be taken into a deep but very inspiring conversation about why it’s important to embark on our journeys of knowing who we truly are, authentically, and what we are called to do with our lives.

Also, we discuss what happens when we go through life ignoring our true selves in exchange for what others call us to be or do. To live a fulfilled life, the one meant for you and only you, I believe it’s essential that we stop listening to all the outside noises from our cultures, religions, society, and upbrings - that do not serve us. Instead, take what serves you from your programming and upbringing, then incorporate new ideologies that serve your higher authentic self more appropriately!

If you enjoyed this episode, could you please do me a favor and follow/subscribe to the podcast? 

If you know someone who should hear this message, please share this episode! You never know just how much you might be helping them on their journey.

In this episode from the Art Of Connection series, created with Alexander McDonell and me, we explore what the true meaning of love is. Alexander and I have very different backgrounds but our shared connection of a higher being and spiritual connection inspires a very interesting conversation on what love is.

“In our journey of self-love, I believe it’s important to accept our flaws and mistakes as part of our human experience and learn to have more self-grace towards ourselves. For self-love cannot exist without self-grace.” Anne Hellgren 

We argue whether love can be found in every aspect of our lives- even in addictions, fears, jealousy, crime, and control. When do we go from a healthy aspect or perception of love to when it turns into something ugly- but still believing it is an act of love?

This conversation is very deep and inspirational food for thought! It will challenge your ideas of love and give you different perspectives that are well worth your time, so make sure you listen to the full episode!

If you enjoyed this episode, could you please do me a favor and follow/subscribe to the podcast? 

If you know someone who should hear this message, please share this episode! You never know just how much you might be helping them on their journey.

Some obvious things are well known to destroy most relationships, and some less known, or silent killers, of a relationship. In this episode, I want to talk about what we can sometimes overlook as being insignificant but repeated long enough, is sure to kill your relationship. 

“Some people will repeatedly hurt or disrespect you, offer apologies, but never change their behaviors. Please see them for who they are - not what you would like them to be.” Anne Hellgren

Some of these things can be done consciously or subconsciously but the hurt and distraction will follow. So as you listen in, look out for things that you may be experiencing from your partner, or that you are doing or saying yourself.

I cover the following topics in detail and you may be surprised by the insights you receive from this episode, so make sure you listen to the end of this podcast!

1. The green-eyed monster of comparison

2. If you don’t create your boundaries and enforce them, someone else will do it for you!

3. Unhealthy and Unwanted power imbalances can be a ticking time bomb.

4. Over-reliance on your partner is a turn-off on many levels

5. You can only be inauthentically you for so long. Ps. It’s demoralizing and soul-draining. Don’t do it…

If you enjoyed this episode, could you please do me a favor and follow/subscribe to the podcast? 

If you know someone who should hear this message, please share this episode! You never know just how much you might be helping them on their journey.

I am joined by Tyrone Wheeler, a Relationship Coach who helps men heal their relationships with their dad or their father figures in life. Having gone through a period of being absent from his father for over 35 years after the separation of his parents, he went on to experience various challenges in his life. He was affected by this absent relationship with his father and it went on to affect his own adult relationships and marriage.

“A parent’s physical presence doesn’t automatically meet a child's emotional and psychological needs. If you have an unhealthy attachment style, or dysfunctional patterns in your relationships- it would serve you highly to examine how your physical, emotional, and psychological needs were met by your parents or carers as a child.” - Anne Hellgren

Only when he did the work on himself, was he able to heal from not just the physical disconnect, but also the emotional disconnect he experienced with his father.

This conversation is something that we as a society need to speak more openly about. If we continue to ignore the importance and impact that absent fathers have on their sons- and not just daughters- we create a society that leaves behind a trail of emotionally broken men. Men who have struggled to form and experience healthy and secure attachments in their relationships. And many times this can also carry a lot of resentment, insecurity, detachment, addictions, and anger. Which, dangerously, are not always even at a conscious level. 

Please share this episode with other people in your life. You may be surprised how many people suffer in silence as they struggle to admit that an absent father or father figure has significantly had an impact on them! 

I am joined by Stuart Wade, a clinical hypnotherapist and sports performance mind coach. As an athlete and a person who has always been interested in how the mind works, this led him to pursue a degree in sports science which includes sports psychology.

“Be responsible for your happiness, your emotions, and your thoughts. Have some self-love and self-grace towards yourself, just the way you'd have to someone that you love.” - Anne Hellgren

In this episode, we discuss the importance of having a positive mindset and how it can affect your relationships. So if you are aiming to have a good relationship with yourself and others, this episode is for you! 

Everyone has struggled with negative self-talk. As human beings, we are wired to notice the bad over the good things. This can stem from a past experience like bullying, or it can come from your personal trait of being self-critical or perfectionistic. But there is a way to end this vicious cycle and it starts with you!

It all starts with mindfulness - be aware of what you take in and spill on others. Take a moment to identify your wants, and focus on them. Do something that will feed your happiness, it can be going to the gym for a workout, a stroll in the park, creating a spiritual practice, eating healthy food, or getting a good amount of sleep. Maybe a change in your environment is necessary to do the trick. 

It’s not too late to rewire our brains for positivity. Know that by being the best version of yourself, you are easily attracting what you want and that includes happy and healthy relationships. The results may not happen overnight but with continuous practice coupled with self-grace, you will surely get there.

This episode is taken from a new and exciting podcast series I created with 4 other coaches called “Relationship Secrets Unlocked.”

“The programming we receive and the stories we tell ourselves as a result of what happens to us in our childhood is often complex and multiple-faceted. So to fully understand your relationship patterns, be willing to honestly explore yourself deeper and wider.” - Anne Hellgren

“Relationship Secrets Unlocked" is a uniquely enriching podcast series that presents a holistic view of relationships from an international and culturally diverse perspective. With an expert panel of five relationship coaches hailing from diverse cultural, religious, and professional backgrounds, the series aims to educate listeners about the complexities of human relationships and how to navigate them effectively.

Like this podcast, Relationship Secrets Unlocked is a platform for learning, understanding, and embracing the myriad facets of human relationships. With their varied expertise, the panel presents a comprehensive picture of what makes relationships work, how to navigate challenges, and the role of cultural and religious factors in shaping our experiences. It is an essential resource for anyone seeking to deepen their understanding of human connections and improve their own relationships.

Join Julie Fitzpatrick, Claire Auchmuty, Ksenia Droben, Gazala Saleem, and me as we discuss how our Childhood beliefs consciously or subconsciously affect our attachments, communication, connections, and everything else in our relationships! 

Moniqe Fiddes is a South African songwriter, superstar musician, and multi-million-pound entrepreneur. She is also the wife of Matt Fiddes who is well known for his outstanding success as a businessman and friend of the late Michael Jackson. 

In this episode, Moniqe and I discuss how she was a very well-known success in her own right, before getting married to Matt. She grew her music career in South Africa while keeping her sights on a larger goal of being successful and providing for her family. She shares her story of being held at gunpoint in South Africa while her father was robbed of his whole pension money as her family home was robbed of all valuables!

She also shares her story of how she met Matt while he was in South Africa, a beautiful story indeed! 

Moniqe is an open book and also shares insights into how Matt’s relationship with Michael Jackson also had an effect on their relationship.  

We then discuss how it is to be a mother of 3 young children (6 in total) while running her successful property portfolio, her music career, and massive support for her husband. She is truly an inspiring woman and powerhouse! 

Tune in to this episode and learn how we view having it all as a society and what it means to be truly happy in our own right! For a couple in the public eye, I highly admire how genuine and honest Moniqe is about her professional and private life!

If you haven’t already, make sure you also listen to Matt Fiddes's interview on this podcast, episode 51! Again- such an inspiring and honest conversation!!

Please don’t forget to SUBSCRIBE/FOLLOW and SHARE  if you enjoyed listening to the podcast!

Connect With Moniqe Fiddes:

Yvonne is a Corporate Lawyer, The Founder of Pause Penny, a Motivational Speaker, and the host of the podcast, “All Up in Your Biz”. She is also a mother of 4 children. Yvonne shares her intriguing story of how she manifested her soulmate who is now her husband. 

“I believe that in order to really manifest what you want in life, be very clear on not just what you want- but also what you want to repel.” - Anne Hellgren

If you have ever been interested in finding out how you can also manifest the right partner for you, this episode is for you! We also discuss the importance of being very clear on exactly what you need vs want in a relationship, and in a partner.

If you’ve listened to this podcast before, you’ll know that I emphasize there is a big difference between our wants and needs in a relationship! 

Just as importantly, knowing what you don’t want and being able to identify that before you start to manifest your ideal partner is so key! 

Yvonne is a ray of positive energy and has openly shared her journey with me! I hope this episode inspires you to dig deep and get clarity about want you’re looking for so you can start to manifest your desires. Even if you are already in a relationship, you can always improve certain aspects of it, and this episode will help you on your journey to do just that! 

In this special episode, I share with you an episode from a  new and very exciting project I’m working on with Alexander McDonell called “The Art Of Connection”. We talk about how sex is viewed in various cultures, religions, and in today's society. This is an honest and open conversation with nothing held back! From prostitution, multiple partners, and taboos, to sacred intimacy and everything in between! 

"Intimacy is not confined to the bedroom; it is a way of being that creates connection on multiple levels." — Unknown

If You enjoyed this episode, please show some love and RATE AND REVIEW the podcast! 

Know anyone else who would enjoy this episode? Please share it! 

More to come on this new series- “The Art Of Connection” with Anne and Alexander.

Connect with Alexander McDonell:

I am joined by Sophie Swinn, an Executive and Leadership Coach, and mental health ambassador. With steadfast courage and remarkable optimism, she has transformed adversity into opportunities for growth and emerged triumphant in both her personal and professional life.

“Do you like yourself when you’re drunk? If not, it’s important to evaluate your relationship with alcohol.” Sophie Swinn

This conversation with Sophie honestly discusses how an unhealthy relationship with alcohol affected her and her relationships. She went through toxic and abusive relationships while admitting that she too suffered from unhealthy attachment styles and was at times the cause of the toxic relationship. However, she decided to stop drinking and had therapy. This decision turned her life around completely!

Though it wasn’t an overnight change, her story is truly inspiring as she now has an amazing relationship with her husband and children. She also enjoys a successful career.  

Can you please do me a favor if you enjoyed listening… Please click on the “FOLLOW/SUBSCRIBE” button. Also please SHARE the podcast with someone who needs to hear this today! 

With love till next week….

Connect with Sophie Swinn:

For anyone reading this, I want to share that you deserve better. And it’s not just for those in an abusive relationship! It’s for anyone who has that gut feeling that they have sold themselves short in their relationship! If this is you, or someone you know, this episode is for YOU!

After years of therapy, counseling, personal development retreats, workshops, books, and courses, you name it, I realized I had a pattern that was robbing me of happy relationships and a better life. There were 5 key things I needed to work on. I did the work on myself and now help my clients do the same.

I want to share these with you and I promise you, if you work on getting these 5 things right, you will transform who you are, how you value yourself, and how you make your life choices!

Make sure to listen to the whole episode as it will serve you immensely!

PLEASE FOLLOW/SUBSCRIBE TO THE PODCAST AND SHARE IT! xx

With love till next week…. Anne xx

P.S. I have got a NEW AND EXCITING series coming up soon…. STAY TUNED my lovelies xx

Connect with Anne Hellgren:

I am joined by Julie Fitzpatrick, award-winning Therapist and coach and Founder of Millieside Therapy & Coaching. She works with empowering Business Owners and professionals to Unlock the power of their imagination so they can Become Unstoppable!

“We need to create a society where we stop our need for constant and immediate gratification and accept delayed gratification as normality in certain circumstances. This is especially important when striving for growth, connection, and success.” Anne Hellgren

In this episode, we discuss how our programming and current society are affecting how we show up in life and how we react to what is happening to us. As coaches, we dive into the topic of the current state of how we live, in which a lack of presence, entitlement, constant offense, and need for instant gratification have formed our life experiences and relationships with those around us. How mindful are we about how our newly formed attitudes of constant dissatisfaction in the smallest of things are affecting our relationships, romantic or not?

We also share some tools and techniques to help you get back into a healthier mindset that serves us, rather than keeps us trapped in a state of constantly feeling like we are lacking or not enough. This is an episode for those who need an uplifting message that the best is yet to come if we adopt a healthy mindset and move away from negative thoughts when we can.

 Can you please do me a favor if you enjoyed listening… Please click on the “FOLLOW/SUBSCRIBE” button. Also please SHARE the podcast with someone who needs to hear this today! 

With love till next week….

Connect with Julie Fitzpatrick

This is an episode that everyone needs to hear! The concept of energy has been a massive topic in the last couple of years and for a good reason. Whether you believe in the power of energy or not, the fact remains that we cannot thrive in an environment that depletes us constantly.

 “Whether you believe in the power of energy or not, the fact remains that we cannot thrive in an environment that depletes us constantly. Therefore, you will not reach your full potential if you allow people or things that deplete you, or steal your energy, to take up space in your life.” Anne Hellgren

In this episode, I talk about the importance of keeping people and things that are draining us or even toxic to us, away. This can be hard when the person who’s stealing your energy is close to you, but that doesn’t mean you remain without choice. You still have the choice of how much time you spend in the company of such people. You also have the choice of whether to completely cut them off. Yes, it may be harsh and perhaps a last option in some cases. But remember, this is about you being able to have a healthy state of mind so you can be there for those who truly need you - and for yourself! This isn’t selfish, it’s self-care! 

In this heartfelt episode, I invite you to join me on a deeply personal journey as I recount my harrowing experiences with abuse and dysfunction in relationships. My story is a testament to the incredible strength of the human spirit and the transformative power of healing.

“To encourage survivors of relationship abuse to speak out, it's crucial that we refrain from asking why they stayed. Such questions can intensify their shame and suffering. Instead, let's focus on how we can support them in their healing process. This approach fosters understanding, empowers survivors, and creates a safe space for them to share their experiences and seek help.” Anne Hellgren

Main Discussion Points:

1. My Path through Abuse: I open up about my own experiences with the painful realities of abuse and dysfunction within relationships, shedding light on the emotional and psychological toll it can cause.

2. Fueling a Mission for Change: I share how my personal journey of healing and recovery has become the driving force behind my mission to help others break free from the same patterns of abuse and dysfunction.

3. Practical Strategies for Healing: I offer practical strategies and tools drawn from my own experiences for those seeking to heal from dysfunctional relationships. These include insights on establishing healthy boundaries, rebuilding self-worth, and recognizing the warning signs of problematic relationships.

4. Embracing Healthy Connections: I emphasize the significance of nurturing healthy and supportive connections after breaking free from dysfunction. I provide insights into how individuals can create and maintain meaningful, loving relationships.

With love till next week…. 

PLEASE SUBSCRIBE, RATE AND SHARE THE PODCAST if you enjoyed listening.

P.S. I have got a NEW AND EXCITING series coming up soon…. STAY TUNED my lovelies xx

Connect with Petra Brunnbauer and The Jōrni Podcast:

We are joined by Milka Kamau to delve into a powerful story of resilience and healing as we explore the unspoken struggles surrounding mental health. 

“As we continue to be silent about our experiences in mental health, we’re fostering the stigma to continue. The way for us to end the stigma is to come out and say I’m going through a mental health illness. And as we say that, the stigma will end. It will have no place.” - Milka Kamau

We learn about Milka’s experiences growing up -  feeling like something was wrong with her, constantly seeking validation, and wearing a mask to hide her true self. She takes us to the emotional complexities of her relationship with her father, navigating abuse and strict household rules, and the impact it had on her mental well-being. This story doesn't end in despair. Milka shares her realizations and shows us her path to healing. We highlight the importance of seeking help and raising awareness that mental health conditions are treatable. But in order to end this stigma, one must first break their silence.

We explore the power of sharing serious messages about mental health, abuse, and PTSD, urging you, our listeners, to spread this important episode far and wide. Remember, your voice matters. Milka also talks about her advocacy efforts, their role in a global group striving to collect resources for individuals with mental health conditions, and their relentless pursuit to make a difference.  Together, let's create a world where mental health is openly discussed, understood, and supported. 

Please don’t forget to Subscribe, Rate, and Review if you enjoyed listening to the podcast!

Connect with Milka Kamau:

Most of us at some point felt like we needed our partners more than they needed us. And while this can be a normal feeling when it ISN’T a constant feeling, and when the other person also shares the same feeling from time to time. It is however not healthy when there is a desparate or overly neediness of one person to another. 

 “Everyone wants to feel needed in a relationship, but no one wants to be with a needy person.” Anne Hellgren

This episode will discuss some of the issues that arise when one person is overly needy to highlight how it can lead to the demise of a relationship. I will also be sharing what you can do to avoid feeling overly needy in a relationship. Remember, these steps shared below can be applied to any relationship and not just romantic ones.

Here are steps you can take to stop being overly needy:

1. Practice Self-Reflection

2. Build your Self-Confidence and Self-Worth

3. Develop Individual Interests.

4. Set Healthy Boundaries Together.

5. Practice Self-Sufficiency

6. Communicate Openly and Honestly

7. Celebrate Independence

Remember that making changes takes time, and it's okay to seek support along the way. Be patient with yourself and your partner as you work toward a healthier and more balanced relationship dynamic.

With love till next week….

P.S. I have got a NEW AND EXCITING series coming up soon…. STAY TUNED my lovelies xx

Connect with Anne Hellgren:

In this episode, I’m talking about how to fail forward when your relationships fail. Usually, failed relationships aren’t something most of us want. And in fact, can be an extremely difficult time for many. With divorce rates in the Western world averaging 52% (currently), there are clearly a lot of failed relationships out there. This is not even counting non-marriages.

“There’s no such thing as a perfect relationship. But every relationship has the ability to teach you something about yourself, others, and the world.” - Anne Hellgren

I discuss what it really means to fail forward in a relationship, and how we can use failed relationships to improve our lives moving forward. And also how to let go of things and behaviors that may be keeping you in a pattern of failed relationships. I will also share some tools that you can use if you find that you need to heal from a failed relationship that has felt you hurt, angry, disappointed, and more. 

If you feel that you are going through a stage in your life and want some support on how to overcome it, reach out to me at anne@annehellgren. Life is best lived when you are able to learn, heal and move on from what doesn’t serve you!

As always, I would be forever grateful if you can share this. 2023 has taught me that many of us are in the same boat - just not aware of it or sharing the same language or courage to share our own experiences. Let’s make a difference if and where we can.

With love till next week….

P.S. I have got a NEW AND EXCITING series coming up soon…. STAY TUNED my lovelies xx

Connect with Anne Hellgren:

If you are anything like the vast majority of people around the world, you have struggled with always showing up as your authentic self, constantly and unapologetically. 

“As much as I don’t like using the word ‘regret’, I feel strongly enough on this one to use it. My one regret is not showing up UNAPOLOGETICALLY ME sooner in my life.” Anne Hellgren

We are so conditioned - FROM BIRTH- to feel, act, think, and be in a certain way. Sometimes this serves us so beautifully. Sometimes it hinders and hurts and even destroys us so fundamentally. 

The saddest thing, in my view, is that the conditioning goes on well beyond our childhood. You can form ideas of your worth and what is “wrong” with you or “acceptable” with you and etc based well after your childhood. 

I want to unpick these issues in this podcast. I want to discuss where we get our programming that forms us so we can question - IS THIS REALLY ME? 

When we do identify “it” is me - or at the least the version I want to be even if I’m not there yet, how can I stop believing that I need to be apologetic for being me? Not the programmed me - but the me that has perhaps gone against what the family, religion, culture, society and everyone’s damn expectations of me should look like and be like?

This is a deep one and will shake some feathers - within you and in your circle of people!!! You have been warned…BUT I PROMISE YOU…doing the work to show up unapologetically you is the BEST GIFT you will ever give yourself!! 

This episode is all about how you are navigating through your life, whether you are single or in a relationship. I want to challenge you during this episode to ask yourself if you actually have a plan for who you spend time with, how you spend time with them, and what you both bring to each other through that relationship.

“The relationship you’re in has the power to affect all other areas of your life.” - Anne Hellgren

A lot of the times when I think about relationships that really didn’t serve me or which I did not serve, it boils down to a couple of things, but the theme is - I had no clear intention and wasn’t living with purpose in that relationship! 

This is going to be a deep one, but stick with me! I’m about to give you some deep insights that you can learn and use in ALL areas of your life. If you’re single and want a relationship - this will help you get clarity on what kind of relationship would truly be suitable for you. 

If you’re already in a relationship, you will learn how to improve it so you can experience deeper and more honest connections with your partner. 

And if you are happily forever single, you can use what I share to create great non-romantic relationships. :-)

Talking points:

• Intention - do you know why you want to be in a relationship? Is that intention even yours or someone else's? Let’s get clarity here!
• Purpose - What are you looking to get out of that relationship? What is drawing you to get into a relationship? What are the short-term and long-term goals? How will it fulfill you and inspire you in other areas of your life?

In this episode, I am going to go deep and vulnerable about what I did to learn to love myself more. I did cause I know not doing it would keep me on a path of dysfunctional habits, thoughts and actions. I wanted more for myself and I hope this episode inspires you to think about what you are currently doing in your life that is stopping you from having the kind of relationship you want with yourself first - then others. As I always say, it starts with you!

Now I am able to proudly stand in my peace and truth of who I am and how I show up - even during the bad days - my self-love helps me endorse the tough moments and keeps me going. 

I talk about:

• Let go of other people's opinions
• Let go of negotiating my self-worth
• Let go of thinking self-love is selfish

In this episode I will be keeping it short, sweet and very real! I want to talk to you about how you need to learn to protect your peace in your relationships. Just because you are in a relationship, doesn’t mean that you are responsible for constant negative damping from your partner. It doesn’t mean that you should allow yourself to live in a constant state of drama caused by your partner. And sure as hell doesn’t mean that you are constantly responsible for managing their moods and healing all their wounds. 

“Don’t let other people’s unhealed trauma be your daily drama.” Anne Hellgren 

We each need to take responsibility for how we show up in our relationships. We are responsible for our happiness, emotional regulation and peace of mind. So that said, I encourage you to take charge of these factors and make sure that you evaluate if what you are getting from your relationship is growing you or draining you. Then make the decision to either change a draining relationship through seeking help, or changing the environment. Either way, the choice to protect your peace is on you- whichever way you choose to do so.

If you enjoyed this episode, could you do me a favour? Could you please LIKE, SUBSCRIBE AND RATE it? Also, being the kind person you are, who do you think you can share this with to protect their peace? 

I love to connect with my listeners, so if you are struggling with something in your relationship or struggling to find the kind of relationship you desire - I’m offering you a FREE 30 minute coaching call! A thank you for being a listener to this podcast and supporting it! 

In this episode, we delve into the topic of self-sabotage in relationships and share strategies to overcome this destructive pattern.

“Until you learn that unhealed trauma or fear is affecting your programming, you will continue to self-sabotage your relationships - consciously or subconsciously.” Anne Hellgren

Main Segment:

1. Understanding Self-Sabotage

• Explore the reasons behind self-sabotage in relationships.
• Discuss common patterns and behaviors that indicate self-sabotaging tendencies.
• Emphasize the importance of self-awareness in breaking free from this cycle.

2. Unearthing the Underlying Fears 

• Delve deeper into the fears and insecurities that drive self-sabotage.
• Reflect on past experiences and traumas that may contribute to these fears.
• Provide guidance on identifying and challenging negative beliefs to foster healthier relationship dynamics.

3. Embracing Vulnerability and Self-Compassion 

• Highlight the role of vulnerability in building meaningful connections.
• Discuss the importance of self-compassion and self-care as foundations for healthy relationships.
• Encourage open communication and honest expression of fears and emotions.

4. Seeking Support and Professional Help

• Explore the benefits of seeking support from trusted friends, family, or therapists.
• Discuss how external guidance can provide fresh perspectives and help navigate emotional challenges.
• Normalize the act of seeking help as a sign of strength and commitment to personal growth.

5. Practicing Patience and Celebrating Progress

• Emphasize the need for patience throughout the journey of overcoming self-sabotage.
• Encourage listeners to celebrate even small victories and acknowledge setbacks as part of the process.
• Provide motivation to keep moving forward and maintain a commitment to personal growth.

Conclusion:

• Remind listeners that self-sabotage can hinder the potential for healthy and fulfilling relationships.
• Encourage them to apply the strategies discussed to break free from self-sabotaging patterns.
• Remind Listeners that they can get a COMPLIMENTARY COACHING CALL with myself!

I was drawn to this topic following a conversation I had with a friend during the week. Most of today’s society will make us believe that monogamy is the standard way to exist in a romantic relationship and while I believe the vast majority favour it too, I am drawn to explore the topic of non-monogamy relationships. And why some people choose to have open and non-monogamous relationships.

"Love knows no bounds. Open relationships offer a path to redefine commitment and embrace limitless connections." Anne Hellgren

This episode explores the challenges and benefits of having more than one romantic partner at a time. And when and how it works and doesn’t work out. What rules need to be in place and when does it go from non-monogamous to cheating?

This week I share an interview where I was interviewed by Anthea McCourtie on her podcast ‘Action Women’.  I share my own experiences with domestic abuse and how I have broken the toxic and terrifying cycle of abuse suffered at the hands of past partners. I also share about my work and how I help others to gain and maintain meaningful, empowering relationships.

“Unless we have open and honest conversations about abuse, it will keep happening behind closed doors- just as the abuser would have it.” - Anne Hellgren

Some Key Points:

• People sometimes suffer domestic abuse in silence because they are afraid to talk about the things that matter. If we don't vocalise, then we cannot hope to heal effectively.

• Escaping domestic abuse is not an easy thing. Often we are so conditioned by the time it begins that our initial reaction to its appearance is a loss of hope and a feeling of being trapped.

• Cultures often dictate that women are meant to be subservient to their spouses. Submission is taught, and normalised. This needs to change.

• Change has to begin within ourselves if we want it to take root. Start by loving yourself, which will make abuse a crime against someone we come to care for.

Please don’t forget to Subscribe, Rate, and Review if you enjoyed listening to the podcast!

If you know someone who needs to hear this, PLEASE SHARE this episode with someone who needs to hear it! Sometimes people may suffer in listen, but you can help them stop the suffering sooner rather than later.

Connect with Anne Hellgren:

Today's episode focuses on building trust in relationships, the foundation for a deep and meaningful bond. In this episode, I will share some key elements of trust as well as strategies for building and maintaining trust.

"Trust is not just about faithfulness but also about being vulnerable and open with one another." - Unknown

Key Elements of Trust in a Relationship:

• Trust: comprises several core components: reliability, honesty, vulnerability, and integrity.
• Reliability: Being dependable and following through on commitments.
• Honesty: Open and transparent communication as the basis for trust.
• Vulnerability: Feeling safe to be authentic and share without fear of judgment.
• Integrity: Acting in alignment with personal values and being true to one's word.

Strategies for Building and Maintaining Trust:

• Effective Communication: Open and honest dialogue, active listening, and seeking to understand each other's perspectives.
• Setting Clear Boundaries: Respecting and honoring each other's boundaries to establish a safe space.
• Building Emotional Intimacy: Sharing vulnerable moments, thoughts, and feelings to deepen the emotional connection.
• Consistent Actions: Small gestures, acts of kindness, and keeping promises to build trust over time.
• Forgiveness: Allowing the healing process and restoration of trust after mistakes or misunderstandings.

Final Thoughts and Advice:

• Building trust is an ongoing effort that requires commitment from both partners.
• Patience, open communication, and seeking professional help if needed are crucial in rebuilding trust.
• Trust is a two-way street, necessitating vulnerability and a willingness to extend trust to your partner.

I am so honoured to be joined on this episode by Matt Fiddes! Matt is one of the most respected experts in the international world of martial arts and fitness.  Matt’s achievements have seen him honoured at the highest level, after being inducted into the UK Martial Arts Hall of Fame and presented with the prestigious ‘Martial Arts Superstar Award’. He is also the owner of the world's largest martial arts franchise!

“If you want your partner to understand and support you and your growth in business, take them with you when you go to business empowerment events!” Matt Fiddes

Matt has also been privileged to have been Micheal Jackson’s friend and bodyguard, where he learned a lot from a very exclusion circle of people. He is also a serial entrepreneur, mentor and a genuinely lovely human!

Nothing is off limits in our conversation and Matt is a dream guest who shares his truth unapologetically and honestly, even if they may be controversial! We talk about success, money, divorce, marriage, sex, and so much more!

I met Matt at an entrepreneurs & business event hosted by his friends Rob Moore and Jessen James, and I had the pleasure of sitting opposite him during dinner. His story on stage and our conversation during the dinner promoted me to have a deeper conversation about all his success, his first marriage, life with Michael Jackson as his friend, and his current marriage with his beautiful wife Moniqe Fiddes.

He shares extremely valuable insights on what it takes to make a great relationship, all while juggling the pressures and responsibilities of his global companies of worth over £100 million!

Matt is also my mentor and is very generous with giving back to others! Much sure you follow him on Instagram and join his MF.club! Links Below!

Being in a toxic relationship can cause significant mental health problems, such as emotional distress, depression, chronic stress, anxiety, and post-traumatic stress disorder, amongst other issues. This episode will discuss some of the signs to look out for as a result of being in a relationship that is toxic. If you find yourself or someone you know experiencing the symptoms and going through the scenarios discussed in this episode, please seek out help as soon as possible. The longer one stays in such relationships the more damage is done. Also, please share it with others who you feel would benefit from the episode.

Please don’t forget to SIGN UP for my FREE WEBINAR on THIS EXACT TOPIC! 

I will be going deep with you for 60 minutes on how to identify toxic relationships, even those that may not be so obvious. I will show you how they are affecting you so you can make a very informed decision about your next steps and how to go about them. 

Please also share this webinar with those that need it! Let’s stop living a life that we were never created to live- and start coming into your true power and happiness!

I am joined by Anthea McCourtie, who is a registered nutritional therapist, yoga instructor, personal trainer, and Transformation coach. We discuss how our body image affects our self-confidence and how that goes on to affect all other areas of our lives, including our relationships. 

I was drawn to having Anthea on this podcast as her approach to increasing our confidence through our body image is something I feel we need to discuss more in a time where filters, social media, mainstream media, etc. tell us that we need to look a certain way. We discuss that instead of waiting to create the body you want before you truly start to love yourself, you should start by nurturing and working out your body first. Once you do this you will be able to understand just how amazing your body is, ditch the calorie counting, and create a healthy relationship with yourself - so you feed your body what it needs to thrive and look great too. And ultimately increase your self-confidence!

For those of you who know me or the podcast, you’ll know that my mission is to help as many people be empowered in themselves first, so they can be empowered in their relationships. This episode is going to share with you some things that you should never feel guilty about. Whether the guilt is coming from you, or others, and trust me, you will have experienced people trying these points on you! 

I hope this message inspires you to create a different and more empowered mindset and create inner peace within you. If you know someone who needs to hear this, please share. We have all been here at some point and you never know who really needed to hear it today! 

As promised in the podcast, here are the links to Trent Sheldon’s podcast link as well as Brendon Burchards’ Growthday app. I cannot recommend these enough!

While what one woman finds attractive in a  man can differ from person to person, here are a couple of things high-value women will be highly attracted to in a man. I found these to be true in my own experiences, my friends, and my clients.

• Clarity - Knowing who you are and where you are going and what you want.

• Confidence- We may not always rank high in this one, but the good news is, we can always work on our self-confidence. I have experienced through my work and personal life that men with very low self-confidence dating someone they consider “out of their league” doesn’t work out well. Unless of course, they work on their confidence. In an effort to feel better about being in a relationship with this person, can develop toxic habits like being controlling, very jealous, paranoid behavior, and even emotional abuse. Why? people who are not loving themselves will try to cut you down to their size so you don’t outshine them. 

• Connection- How you connect with her will go a long way. Are you in tune with what she likes and doesn’t like? Are you trying to really get to know her by having honest conversations? Are you attuned to how she wants to receive love, attention, and appreciation? 

• Stability- This is huge if you’re looking for a serious relationship. No one wants to feel unsure about where their life is headed and especially after you get to a certain age and want a serious relationship with the right person. If you cannot provide her stability by showing her that you serious through your actions and not just words, she will eventually wisen up to your tactics. 

• Financial Security- Some of you may not like this, but I’ll say it anyway. Most high-value women want a man who can provide for them and their future families. I am not talking about large bank deposits, but enough to know that life won’t be a constant struggle financially. After all, it is one of the highest reasons for divorces- YES Money!

• Attitude- Women may not want you to be positive 24/7 but for me, few things turn off faster than Mr. Gloom Doom. Women want to know that even through the hard times and the struggles, her man is still able to maintain a sense of leadership and a positive mindset that will help them through the tough times. I’m not saying fake it or don’t talk about your real fears and stresses, just TRY to be the captain of the ship in the midst of storm. 

I am joined by Isobel Gorden who is a trauma-sensitive therapist who talks about her experiences of being married to a narcissistic alcoholic. She shares how being in a relationship with a narcissist can influence your whole life. You will also learn that being in such relationships can be difficult to identify as narcissists are usually very good at manipulating and lying. They are also very clever at masking it until you are deep into the relationship. By this point, you are likely to have some sort of brainwashing and emotional abuse that causes you to doubt yourself and your decisions. You will also have probably been emotionally and psychologically beaten down so you find it hard to leave the relationship. 

While this episode is not about sharing some sort of diagnosis of what it means to be a narcissist, you will learn to identify some of the red flags. These flags shouldn’t be ignored as the deeper you get involved with such people the more damaged you are likely to become. The emotional scares that follow can hurt for years to come, and in many cases will affect your self-worth and confidence. Given the tactics used by narcissists, you may also find that your self-clarity has been affected. However, there is light at the end of the tunnel, and you can heal and move past the trauma. You will however need to be ready to leave that situation as healing cannot occur when you’re still in such a toxic environment.