The Mail-In Podcast
By The Mail-In
The Mail-In PodcastMay 23, 2019
I Went Through My Fiancée's Phone...
We're back on The Mail-In! Thanks for bearing with us as we had no AC in the studio last week which would've made for a very grumpy pregnant Sally deFries (and Brett Merriman). Here's what we're answering this week:
- Can I ask my girlfriend to get rid of her cat if I'm allergic to it?
- How should I approach my wife about buying MORE revealing clothing?
- How do I tell my friends in a city that we're visiting that I don't want to hang with them and their toddler?
- I went through my fiancée's phone and found things I didn't want to find. How do I proceed?
- Should I tell my partner that my ex will be at a wedding I'm attending?
- Can I have a housewarming party even though my place isn't exactly finished?
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What If We Disagree On How Many Kids We Want?
We're back on The Mail-In with Sally deFries and Brett Merriman this week to break down your biggest questions. Here's what we've got:
- Should I go to my buddy's golf-based bachelor party if I don't golf?
- I'm interviewing for a job and just matched with my potential new boss on Bumble. Help.
- What if I want to stop at two kids and my wife wants three?
- Any tips on improving your social media presence?
- What is your advice on Wedding Day prep? Any tips?
- My fiancee is a terrible driver and I'm incredibly anxious about it. What do I do?
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You Have To Hear This Story...
Back at full strength on The Mail-In! Brett Merriman hosts with Sally deFries in the co-host chair. Here's what we're working with this week:
- Should we join a country club to save $$ on a wedding?
- CRAZY story of a guy dating someone who gets married while they're dating???
- One of my bridesmaids is going to a concert instead of my bachelorette party - should I be mad?
- How should we tell our new neighbors we're having a party?
- When should I tell different people I'm pregnant?!
- I'm tired of the stigma around losing weight with the help of specifically prescribed drugs!
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How Do I Meet Older Women? Ft. Randy Trembacki
Welcome back! We're rocking on The Mail-In this week with Washed Media Video Director, Randy Trembacki. He and Brett Merriman are answering the hard hitting questions the listeners have. Things like:
- How do I get over feeling less accomplished career-wise than my girlfriend in social situations?
- My partner isn't a fan of how close I am with my Mom
- How do I meet older women?
- Christmas in July! Need help picking gifts this year as money will be tight
- I can't get over my high school ex...
- Need help with planning a bachelorette party
- Shower Thoughts
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Should I Bring A Random Plus-One To A Wedding?
The Mail-In is back after a vacation week with Sally deFries and Brett Merriman. Here's what we've got this week:
- If I'm not super physically attracted to someone, should I move on?
- Should I bring a random plus-one to a wedding?
- Do I need to pay family members to take my dog out?
- How did Sally develop such a "care-free" personality?
- Skincare for MEN!
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The Taylor Swift Ticket Swindler
Hope everyone had a great 4th of July weekend! We're back on The Mail-In with Brett Merriman and Sally deFries in the hosting chairs answering your biggest questions. Here's what we have this week:
- My friend thinks she deserves money for selling a Taylor Swift ticket that she didn't purchase ???
- I have a remote job, unlimited PTO, a good salary, BUT I'm extremely bored
- Do you tip your wedding vendors in the service industry?
- I've been friend-ghosted by a new mom
- I'm tired of the party scene and want to slow down without ruining my social life
- Shower Thoughts 🚿
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SALLY IS PREGNANT
HUGE news for The Mail-In as co-host, Sally deFries, is getting ready to welcome another child into the world. She and Brett Merriman are breaking down the biggest questions y'all have this week including:
- When you get married, do you also marry your spouse's family?
- Need some advice on flying with a child
- How many guys is perfect for a bachelor party?
- Give me the lowdown on botox!
- Tips for a Napa trip?
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*Alternative* Life Choices & Professional Mentors Feat. Producer Randy Trembacki
The Mail-In is back this week with special guest, Producer Randy Trembacki of Washed Media. He and Brett Merriman break down questions, problems, and the general zeitgeist of the millennial demo. Here's what we've got this week:
- I need a peer mentor!
- How do you communicate with your family about alternative life choices like not having kids?
- How do I interpret a "friend" break up text?
- Am I the asshole for thinking a family of doctors can support someone having quintuplets?
- What should you do with groomsmen gifts?
- Shower Thoughts
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Airport Fits & Credit Card Debt Feat. Dillon Cheverere & Dave Ruff
BIG week on The Mail-In with show creator, Dillon Cheverere, and former producer, Dave Ruff, back on the mic with Brett Merriman hosting. Here's what we're working with this week:
- Airport fits and travel routines
- Should I tell my fiancée about my credit card debt prior to getting married?
- How do I initiate telling my work crush I have feelings for her?
- I caught feelings for my ex's best friend and she caught them back 😬
- Am I the asshole for not wanting to do a Vegas bachelor party for my friend who's eloping for his wedding?
- Quarter life crisis: should I move to a new city for a new start??
- Shower Thoughts 🚿🚿
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HELP! I've Been Ghosted...
Brand new Mail-In! Brett Merriman and Sally deFries are in the chair to give you what you need:
- How do I break up with my cleaning lady?
- Can I skip a wedding where my girlfriend hates the groom?
- I'm not feeling challenged at work, should I quit my job?
- How do I get over being ghosted?
- How do you keep your home tidy with a toddler around
- Shower Thoughts 🚿🚿
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Helping A Loved One Through Grief And Mourning
This week on The Mail-In, Brett Merriman and Sally deFries are back to break down your biggest questions and problems. Here's what we've got today:
- Where are we getting good wedding dresses now as 30-somethings?
- What are the keys to being more conversational?
- How do you keep a good work/life/workout balance?
- How do I get a family member to stop coming to me for MLM buys?
- How do I help my husband go through losing both of his parents?
- Austin Bachelor Party: Lake vs Downtown
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Why Is Wedding Planning So Hard?
Sally deFries and Brett Merriman are back on The Mail-In this week to break down your biggest questions and problems. Here's what we've got:
- How to deal with your partner being a terrible sleeper?
- Do I have to invite someone to my wedding solely because they invited me to theirs?
- I'm a teacher and I'm burnt out and discouraged trying to find a new job
- How do I stop wedding planning from tearing apart my relationship?
- My neighbor's dog will not shut up. How do I go about asking my neighbor to let him in?
- What is your group trip shopping list?
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Ick Lists & Escaping The Friend Zone Ft. Dave Ruff
This week on The Mail-In, Dave Ruff of Circling Back and Too Much Dip joins the show to fill in as a co-host with Brett Merriman. We're solving your problems, folks. Or at least trying to. Here's what we've got this week:
- What is on your "ick list" for a typical night out?
- How do you navigate the house-buying process in a city like Austin?
- Should I pay the best man who offered to pick up a steak dinner tab on a bachelor party?
- What should I do to get out of the friend zone?
- Should I quit my job to trade options full time?
- Solo for a day in Austin - what should I hit?
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How Do You Tell Your Partner You Don't Like Their Rapidly Changing Appearance?
We're back on The Mail-In this week with Brett Merriman & Sally deFries to give you what you need: answers.
- How do I tell my wife she needs to get her weight under control?
- I got a big promotion and am finding it's not all its cracked up to be. What do I do?
- My girlfriend is way too into the new appearance changing trends. How do I explain to her that I think they're making her look worse?
- How much is too much to ask my friends to pay for my bachelor party?
- What can I do ahead of time to be more confident in my transition to the workforce and office life?
- How do you unwind after long days of work? My anxiety spikes and I can't "turn off"
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When Should You Text Someone After You Get Their Number?
This week on The Mail-In, Sally deFries and Brett Merriman are tackling problems like:
- Can joggers be business casual?
- After getting someone's number, when should you text them?
- How should we go about inviting a divorced couple to our wedding?
- Is it lame to have your bachelorette party in your hometown?
- Can I reach out to step parents who have been a big part of my life after a divorce?
- What is the cutoff age for a belly button ring?
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How Much Time Do You Spend With Coworkers Outside The Office?
This week on The Mail-In, Sally deFries and Brett Merriman are back to tackle your most burning questions. Things like:
- Do you tip at a wedding tasting?
- Any advice for initiating intimacy again after having a child?
- What do you buy for a 1-year-old's birthday party?
- Is it wrong for me to not want to spend time with my coworkers outside work hours?
- Am I asking too much of my partner to define the future of our relationship?
- Travel tips for heading to Italy
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How Do I Kick The Doomscrolling Habit?
This week on The Mail-In, Brett Merriman and Sally deFries are here to help with weddings, bachelorette parties, social media and more.
- How do I stop my partner from doomscrolling and freaking out that the sky is falling?
- Picking between two best men
- Where is the line for calling the police on potentially abusive neighbors?
- Trash or not trash to post wedding pics that I look good in but the newlyweds don't?
- Do I HAVE to attend someone's bachelorette party that attended mine?
- Power rank leftover foods
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Can We PLEASE Stop Eating Leftovers?
This week on The Mail-In, Sally deFries returns with Brett Merriman to tackle the internet's questions of the week. Here's what we've got today:
- How do I tell people (nicely) that they can't always crash at our place?
- What do you do to manage friends that don't put in the same amount of effort as you?
- How do you ground yourself when so much around you changes in adulthood?
- Making wedding planning easier for my future spouse who has lost both of her parents
- Am I an asshole for not wanting to eat leftovers from my wife's cooking 3 nights in a row?
- Help me litigate a situation where I'm planning a guys golf trip in which some guys are planning on bringing their significant others
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AirBNB Rules To Live By Feat. Will deFries
This week on The Mail-In, Brett Merriman hosts as Will deFries, creator of Sunday Scaries and husband of Sally deFries, fills in on the mic. Here's what we've got this week:
- One of the wildest drunk text situations we've come across
- Tips for trying to get pregnant with your first child?
- AirBNB rules when splitting different bedrooms with couples?
- How to start a long distance relationship with someone you met while they were in town?
- Is it weird that my girlfriend has pictures of her ex on her phone?
- Bachelor party ideas for Saratoga Springs, NY?
- El Tiempo vs. Matt's El Rancho
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Are Strip Clubs A Dealbreaker In A Relationship?
Another episode of The Mail-In with Brett Merriman and Sally deFries in which we get a question that we did NOT see coming. Here's what we have:
- Tips for hosting friends in town?
- Should I be ok with my husband going to strip clubs with his coworkers?
- Is my boyfriend getting a dog a dealbreaker when I'm not a dog person?
- Am I the asshole for not attending the birthday party of my 5 year old nephew?
- My boyfriend of 3 years has a "goon cave" that I didn't know about. Do I have to break things off?
- Solo travel tips for Los Angeles?
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My Best Friend's Wife Wants Me To Be Her Hall Pass...
Back on The Mail-In this week to break down the biggest problems facing our listeners! Sally deFries and Brett Merriman take you along for a WILD ride this week. Here's what we're working with:
- Is it a trash move to not go to a wedding that was supposed to be an elopement?
- Feeling stuck in life despite everything being great on the surface. Help.
- I got Monica'd. Should we do a small wedding and save money for a house OR spend on a celebration for ourselves?
- My best friend's wife wants me to be her hall pass. My best friend can't find out. Should I do it?
- How to celebrate a divorce?
- How do you handle a bachelorette party drop out who hasn't paid for the Airbnb or activities yet?
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Sex In Our Marriage Has Disappeared
We're back! After a week hiatus due to some unforeseen under-the-weather children, Sally deFries and Brett Merriman are back to tackle every question the listeners have to offer. Here's what we have this week:
- How does Sally balance friends, family, travel, etc while being a mom? Any tips to a first-time mom?
- My wife has a friend who dresses really cute. How do I nudge her towards that style?
- How can I introduce the conversation of getting a babysitter to my wife?
- How do I friendzone a coworker without it blowing up on me?
- Am I the asshole for cutting down my wedding invite list?
- How do I get past the fear of rejection when it comes to sex in our marriage?
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I've Worked Hard On My New Body. How Do I Show It Off?
This week on The Mail-In, Brett Merriman returns to the show with Sally deFries in the co-host chair. Tackling questions that run that gamut like:
- What are your thoughts on influencers these days?
- How do you approach a significant relationship stalemate without compromise?
- I've worked incredibly hard on my new body, how do I show it off?
- Some idiot ordered $900 worth of bottle service on a work trip and we're stuck with the bill
- How do I convince my buddy to do more on his bachelor party than sit around the pool at the Airbnb?
- My husband and I want to do a 4-6 day domestic trip between Thanksgiving and Christmas. Any suggestions?
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FEMAIL-IN RETURNS FT. LILY BOETTCHER & ALYSSA RUFF
The FeMail-In is BACK for Valentine's Day! Sally deFries hosts as Lily Boettcher and Alyssa Ruff join the crew to break down your questions. Here's what we've got this week:
- Washed bits that get old?
- When is the best time to have your second child?
- My friend is being reckless with a pregnancy, how do I talk to her about it?
- Advice for your first year of marriage?
- My wife is verbally abusive, how do I handle this?
- Is there a male equivalent to "Galentine's Day"?
- Shower Thoughts 🚿
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I'm Falling For My Married Work Wife
Back after an Austin ice storm derailed the recording schedule last week - thanks for bearing with us. Sally deFries and Brett Merriman co-host on The Mail-In where they help you through your most difficult situations.
- If I'm only drinking beer on a ski trip, can I ask to not pay for communal liquor?
- What are your thoughts on using backpacks as adults?
- Should I tell a new girlfriend about a hookup with an old classmate before they meet?
- I'm falling for my married work wife. Help.
- Our friend is getting married the same weekend as my school graduation. Can we skip?
- What's the first home improvement project I should pick in my new property?
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How To Know When You're Settling In A Relationship?
This week on The Mail-In, Brett Merriman and Sally deFries are back to break down the internet's questions. A lot on tap:
- What's the line between settling and accepting that relationships always require work?
- What are some tips you have for making long distance work?
- I'm pregnant! What is the etiquette for having a non-traditional baby shower?
- Family planning advice: have a baby now or later?
- New to Hinge! Wondering how it works when it comes to getting *off* the app?
- What's the move when trying to hang out with your friend who's in the same city where you're attending a bachelor party?
- Shower Thoughts 🚿
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Engagement Timing & Bachelor Party Max Numbers?
Sally deFries and Brett Merriman are back on The Mail-In this week answering your most burning questions. Things like:
- What do Sally and Brett's career paths look like? How'd they get to where they are?
- What percentage of questions get answered on air? How are they picked?
- How do you talk to your boss about being stressed when they have SO much more on their plate than you do?
- What's the limit for number of people on a bachelor party?
- How soon is too soon for an engagement? Is there such thing as waiting too long?
- Shower Thoughts 🚿
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Is It Weird To Plan My Own Bachelorette Party?
The Mail-In is BACK after a little holiday break, with Brett Merriman and Sally deFries answering your burning questions. Here's what we've got this week:
- My boyfriend's friends caused a rift in our relationship. Can we still trust each other?
- My maid-of-honor has been zero help. Can I plan my own bachelorette party?
- I heard a stat that couples who move in together before marriage are more likely to get divorced and now I'm concerned !
- Career move: Sioux Falls and $$$ or Denver and fun?
- I've been dating the same guy for 5 years and we can't talk about marriage at all. Is it irrational to be mad at this?
- Can Sally still defend Southwest Airlines? How long does a trip have to be to pack a bag?
- Shower Thoughts 🚿
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How Many Red Flags Is Too Many Red Flags?
Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays, Mail-In fam! This week Sally deFries and Brett Merriman are sweating out holiday travel weather and tackling your biggest questions. Here's what we've got:
- Should I be picking up my girlfriend's bar tabs even though I'm not drinking?
- Do I have to retire the 😉 emoji from dirty texting if my mom has started using it?
- Are lying, cheating, and home-wrecking too many red flags to get over?
- How do I tell my wife that a guys trip is a GUYS trip only, even if she wants to go?
- Putting together the best ski trip for beginners
- Traveling to Italy for the first time - help!
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What Makes A Good Christmas Cocktail Hour?
This week on The Mail-In, Brett Merriman and Sally deFries are getting into the weeds on mental health, Christmas cocktail hours, and much much more.
- How much would you spend on attending the NCAA Championship if your school made it?
- Help me set boundaries with my friends and family so we're not the go-to dog/house sitters!
- My mental health journey has been a success but I feel guilty about my sibling's not going as well.
- Scale of 1-10, how weird is it to send a Christmas card of you and your significant other if you aren't engaged or married?
- Help me and my girlfriend compromise on choosing a living situation
- What makes a good Christmas cocktail party?
- Shower Thoughts 🚿🚿
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Do People Really "Suck At Texting"?
Big time episode of The Mail-In featuring Brett Merriman and Sally deFries as they solve your biggest problems and answer your questions. Here's what we've got this week:
- How do I continue a "texting thing" over the holidays without seeing them in person?
- When do you ask for a dad's blessing before engagement?
- Figuring out people who "suck at texting"
- How do I split apartment supplies with my roommate who is never home?
- Planning a girls trip but my friend will have a 3-month old baby. Help.
- My best friend is moving away for school and his girlfriend doesn't want him to. How do I support?
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How Much Apartment Can We Afford?
This week on The Mail-In, Brett Merriman hosts as Sally deFries battles through one of the worst cases of nasal congestion she's ever seen. The gang gets through it and answers some questions in the process. Things like:
- I dropped $500 on a birthday dinner and gift for my girlfriend. She broke up with me the next morning. Can I request some money back?
- Is it a red flag if you have the same appearance traits as your partner's ex?
- Getting on the same page when it comes to how much house/apartment you can afford as a couple
- Laid off in Chicago - should I just become a "yachtie" for a year?
- Finding the right balance between surprise and sure-thing with engagement rings?
- Where should we do our babymoon?
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My Friend's Wife Is Too Close With Another Man
This week on The Mail-In, Sally deFries is back in the co-host chair with Brett Merriman as they take on the hardest questions in the game. Not really. But hopefully you can relate to some of these:
- If you had to defeat the devil in one activity for the battle for your soul, which activity would you choose?
- How do I handle our friend's wife being too close with one of her male friends?
- Relationship tips for an ICU nurse?
- Is it weird that I don't want a bachelor party?
- Am I being unreasonable not wanting my friend to name her daughter the same name I have picked out?
- Romance novel recommendations?
- Shower Thoughts 🚿
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Is It Too Early To Put Up Christmas Decor?
This week on The Mail-In, Brett Merriman hosts as Intern Calli Rubin fills in for Sally. The two break down the most burning questions their audience has and more. Here's what we've got this week:
- Friendsgiving Do's & Don'ts
- If someone ghosts you after a first date, can you call them out?
- How early is too early for a Christmas tree?
- Trying to talk to someone at a 6am gym class?
- What's the criteria for working from bars?
- Couples trips on a budget?
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Moving On After A Broken Off Engagement
Happy November! This week on The Mail-In hosted by Sally deFries and Brett Merriman, we're getting into wedding receptions, breaking off engagements, and much, much more.
- What to do if you're the best man for two weddings on the same day?
- Why do personal errand days feel so much more productive than work days?
- Tips on throwing a great wedding reception?
- Breaking off an engagement and getting into a new serious relationship?
- Traveling for summer trips: Montana, California, and Wyoming
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How Long Are Venmo Requests Good For?
On The Mail-In, Brett Merriman and Sally deFries are breaking down the most pressing problems and burning questions that y'all have. Here's what we've got this week:
- How long after a trip or dinner do you have to send a Venmo request?
- How do I deal with a break up from an unrequited love?
- Is one year too early in a relationship to buy jewelry?
- I like a guy who doesn't want to do long distance...
- Is it reasonable to have a "tough love" conversation with your husband who's been unemployed for almost a year?
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Do I Tell Someone Their Boyfriend Is Cheating On Them?
Sally deFries and Brett Merriman are back to break down your toughest questions that you need answers to. Here's what we've got this week:
- Do I tell someone that her boyfriend is cheating on her?
- Can I tell my new girlfriend I got my dog from my ex?
- How do I come out to my husband that I'm bi?
- Is something wrong with the relationship if I don't miss my girlfriend?
- Which month is the best?
- How do I do a trip to New York in December?
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Are Bachelorette Parties Out Of Control?
This week on The Mail-In with Brett Merriman and Sally deFries:
- Open relationship coming to an end
- How do I date someone else in the friend group?
- Is wanting to move in with someone *after* marriage a red flag?
- How do I tell people they're not invited to my wedding?
- Bridesmaid expenses are CRAZY
- Shower Thoughts
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How Do I Tell My Parents I'm Not Having Kids?
Brett Merriman is back from his week-long road trip to join Sally deFries on The Mail-In, where they attempt to solve your problems in 60-ish minutes or less. Here's what we've got this week:
- How do you find the motivation to be productive while working from home
- Brett & Sally's hair secrets
- My husband and I have decided to not have kids, how do we tell our parents?
- Can I turn a fender bender into a meet-cute?
- Shower Thoughts 🚿
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Female-In: Mom Talk with Sally & Lily
Sally deFries is hosting today on The Mail-In. Sally and her sister, Lily, are answering your questions and breaking down your problems. Also answering a bunch of questions about being a mom. Here's what we've got this week:
- Halloween Costumes
- What travel credit card should I get?
- How to approach a woman without appearing creepy?
- MOM TALK (pregnancy, relationships, postpartum, & more)
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Can I Ask The Bride And Groom For A Plus One?
Sally deFries is back from Italy and we're FULL speed on The Mail-In. Brett Merriman and Sally are answering your questions and breaking down your problems. Here's what we've got this week:
- What is your walk-up/closer entrance song?
- How do you handle your younger sibling getting engaged before you?
- How many teams am I allowed to be a fan of?
- What are the requirements for cubicle decor?
- Can I ask my friends getting married for a plus one?
- Bachelor Party Pick: Las Vegas vs. New Orleans
- Shower Thoughts 🚿🚿
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How Do You Manage Someone? Ft. Intern Calli Rubin
The Mail-In is SO back with another special guest, Intern Calli Rubin. She and Brett Merriman are here to tackle your biggest problems and make you think with Shower Thoughts. Here's what we've got this week:
- TikTok trends and life hacks we're following
- I need new a new LinkedIn pic that screams professional but cool
- How do you know it's time for a cross-country move?
- Handling feelings for someone in the friend group when they're not reciprocated
- Becoming a boss for the first time
- Business casual travel recs
- Shower Thoughts 🚿🚿
Offensive Driving ft. KJ Ellis
A new twist on an old favorite as we welcome back KJ Ellis, co-host of Too Much Dip, to The Mail-In. He and Brett Merriman are breaking down adulthood so you don't have to. Solving problems one washed up person at a time, themselves included. Here's what we've got this week:
- Hangover cures in your early 30s?
- What are some driving offenses that should be punishable by death?
- What to expect when you're expecting (a second child)?
- Not being asked to be a groomsman
- Moving to a new city, part ???
- Power ranking home improvement projects that don't require outside contractors
- Shower Thoughts 🚿🚿
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How Do You Start Eating Healthy?
Back on The Mail-In this week with Sally deFries and Brett Merriman. Digging into some of your most pressing questions as autumn is deceptively close in Central Texas. Here's what we've got this week:
- Fall primer 🍂
- Dipping my toes into sports betting for the first time, how should I manage it?
- Comparing yourself to others and navigating infertility
- Help me eat healthy for the first time in my life!
- What are we rocking to games we're not fans of?
- Las Vegas recs
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What's The Deal With Sorority Recruitment? Ft. Intern Calli
LOADED episode of The Mail-In this week as Brett Merriman and Sally deFries welcome on Intern Calli to help them get their heads around bid day, door stacks, Bama rush tok, and everything involved in sorority recruitment. Here's what else we've got:
- Getting out of the friend zone
- An update from our cross country Canadian couple
- Injuries from working out as you get older
- Budgeting spreadsheet incoming!
- Do I get a bachelor party after I'm married if I didn't already do one?
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How Do I Handle Having Feelings For A Coworker If I'm MARRIED?
We're back on The Mail-In with Brett Merriman and Sally deFries this week to dig into a wide range of questions. Here's what we've got:
- Do I get my wedding gift back if my friends were only married for 6 weeks?
- Is it a red flag to date her if she doesn't have any friends? \
- I have feelings for my coworker, but I'm married. Please help.
- What are some ways to get through grief?
- How do I support my fiancé when her friends keep bailing from her bachelorette party?
- What airlines are the best? The worst?
- Shower Thoughts 🚿
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How Do You Deal With Hard Stuff?
Brett is back in town with Sally after a few weeks at home for a big episode of The Mail-In. We're tackling your problems so you don't have to (yet). Here's what we've got this week:
- Where do we stand on the Beach Boys?
- What's the etiquette for being home when someone is working on your crib?
- Baby moons? Are we doing them?
- Do I have to give the same honeymoon gift back to someone that gets married a month after me?
- Summer fling is coming to and end and we both know it. How do we enjoy our time left?
- Upstate NY recommendations in the fall?
- Shower Thoughts 🚿
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Do I Have to Drop My Significant Other Off at the Airport?
This week on The Mail-In, Dave and Dillon fill in for Brett as they, along with Sally, break down your most pressing questions. Here's what we're working with this week:
- Trying to date as a non-drinker
- Picking up/dropping off your significant other at the airport versus asking them to Uber
- Navigating friendships post-breakup
- Living within your means in your 20s
- Where to live during the three days between leases
- Managing relationships during the busiest times in your life
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Cross Country Road Trips Feat. Kayla Haby
This week on The Mail-In, Kayla Haby is back in the co-host chair with Brett Merriman to break down your most pressing questions. Here's what we're working with this week:
- How to handle roommate disputes over budgets?
- Which college should I attend after the Marine Corps?
- My friends didn't bother getting me a wedding gift
- My Instagram got hacked and now I'm starting anew
- Should I stop going tanning?
- How do I pass the time on a cross country roadtrip?
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Sleeping With Your Therapist
Here's what we have this week:
- Sleeping with your therapist !
- How do you explain to your significant other that you don't want them to golf with you?
- What's a weird body thing you do?
- Running into your ex at a wedding
- Is it ok to criticize your coworkers?
- Bachelor Party: Northern Michigan
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