Sarah Florence is a weightlifter, CrossFitter, and founder of Mind Gold where she details and takes us along her journey in the physical and mental worlds; building the mindset of an athlete (something that can be formulated into all facets of life).
Sarah uses her story to help others but I think the best thing about her story is that she details it in a way purely to give back. There isn't any "me", "me", "me". She gives us the facts then speaks about what she learnt and how we can apply those lessons to our lives.
We ALL have a story and the more we can reconcile the negative aspects of them—talking about them can help but there are many other ways too (meditation and solitude being some of those)—the more united we may become as a bunch of happy humans.
This podcast has some really fantastic insights into the development of a mind that embraces the journey as opposed to the destination. The truth is, we are all going to die, we will never be fulfilled externally (can you beam with happiness by sitting along!?) and none of us have all the answers. I got heaps from chatting with Sarah. She's an absolute bloody legend, and someone who is exceptionally down to earth which is very inspiring for hairy old me over here.
Enjoy the show mates!
This week's episode is all about my lovely father! He taught me about anxiety, first and foremost, after having gone through it himself at a similar age. David is also an editor, an author having published 'Bid The Past Farewell' as well as having ghost written a major memoir.
We spoke at large about the growth of our relationship, culminating in a genuine friendship to which helps us both independently as well as interpersonally. There aren't too many people out there who can authentically describe their relationship with their parents as that of a 'friendship' but I can and I'm bloody grateful to give this podcast to you!
There are things in life we can only learn from experience—the majority I'd say. David shares his learnings from transcending mental health issues at a young age, and at a time when they were largely overlooked and considered mere "growing pains". He also shares his story about finding meaning in life and becoming a father. Enjoy!
If you don't take anything else away from this podcast, just take this: The number one thing that has motivated James to continually improve as an individual is his daughter. James inspires me because, despite his relapses, his continuing fight stems from something (someone I should say) which gives him meaning; a reason to be alive and make a difference. We have had two episodes in a row about addiction and James' message is just as strong as Tom's.
The "difficult truth" behind addiction is that we find peace and solitude in temporary comforts and pleasures because they help us escape the reality of our current situations. From this perspective, ADDICTION IS A SPECTRUM. Anything, be it, hard drugs like heroin down to the daily drink after a day's work can be an escape if we are finding it difficult to sit with our realities. Sometimes it's the thoughts, other times its the environment and people. If it's all three, the addiction can be worse.
Listen to James' story and have a think and see if any of this resonates with you. What do you find yourself doing, saying, behaving like consistently when certain factors are in place within your life. What are you trying to escape from? Can you do something about it?
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“I started off on two and then, by like two years later I could go through the equivalent of like 80 in a day.”
Tom Gill was a high school friend of mine and recently reached out as I have been looking into and attempting to resolve some addictions of my own. He told me that he had his own story and experiences with drug and alcohol addiction so I implored him to join me on the podcast. What followed was an incredibly powerful and, at many points, anxiety stricken show filled with valuable lessons for us all. Addiction is a spectrum and, as Russell Brand says—given the materialistic pursuits of the modern west—we are all somewhere along it. It is our responsibility to look inside ourselves and ask ourselves why we are, for example, watching porn frequently, drinking after work, purchasing a good deal of chocolate, eating to stomach pains and distracting ourselves when THAT thought arises.
IF YOU EVER find yourself leaning on external support systems for internalised pain, this podcast may shed some light. When we lose meaning, support, connection and authenticity within our lives, we seek help but without education and self awareness, what we seek support from may hinder us greatly, let alone our development. Please listen to the show with an open mind and if you are currently moving through addiction issues, you are not alone and many organisations such as Beyond Blue truly can provide assistance. Enjoy the show.
The psychologist Dr. Jordan Peterson provides us with a really great insight into how the body and mind both deal with trauma and how we can consciously transcend our past experiences and fears by devising plans.
Lachlan Wallace is the founder of Virtus Performamce, a functional training, strength and conditioning gym on the Mornington Peninsula outside Melbourne, Australia. He currently hosts the Virtus Performance podcast, has co-founded a Gin business, is about to launch a mentoring program named 'True North' and has played over 50 games for Collingwood in their VFL team.
Above all things, Lachy is an avid student of life. His office depicts that with the countless self-help books, motivational quotes, timetables, calendars, microphones and general positive energy! He is an authentic, inspiring fella and I was privileged to have him on the show this week.
After an incredible experience, whereby a homeless person asked him "What will your gravestone say?", David Ji found himself amidst an existential crisis. He was living in New York at the time and, one week after the 9/11 Terrorist Attacks (to which he had resigned from his job in the World Trade Centers not long previously), found himself struggling with the bigger picture. "Why are we here?"
These experiences led him to travel to India, connect with Deepak Chopra, become a meditation teacher (including, during his practice, meditating in caves for hours on end) and finally, becoming the man he is today.
Dave is an incredibly down-to-earth fella, he's got a wicked sense of humour and truly believes in the value of "stillness" and "authenticity". He's got some great content out there including his books, his meditation teachings and his community on social media is hyper engaged an awesome! This is a highly valuable podcast with many takeaways. Enjoy!
Just how powerful are thoughts? Can you actually change your reality—the structure of reality—through thinking and feeling alone?
Cynthia Sue Larson is a best-selling author, speaker, researcher and Quantum Physicist and the woman in charge, behind www.http://realityshifters.com/.
In our show, she talks about the new-age connections between spirituality (secular and religious) and science. She tells us where and what the quantum world has shown us and practical tools you can use to implement her findings!
Osher Gunserbg is an Australian television and radio hist presenter, having hosted such TV shows as Australian Idol, Bondi Rescue and The Bachelor. His new book "Back After The Break" talks about his life behind the scenes and struggles with social anxiety disorder, OCD, addiction and psychosis.
But apart from all that, Osh is a genuine dude. He and I met outside a gym in Bali and jumped on for this podcast where we spoke about all things from the Simpsons and personal responsibility, to hereditary, emotional trauma and the importance of goals.
Please do me a favour and check out the.holistic.psychologist on instagram. Nicole is a true expert and practices what she preaches as well, which is something that has become—more or less—underrated in this day and age!
On the show: The importance of proper nutrition and understand the breathe. We also spoke about the need to reconnect with the Self. This has been absolutely pivotal to my ongoing wellbeing (reconnection) and, if you feel, lost, please listen to the show as we have all the tools within our own tool belt, to do this. However, if you do need some guidance, there are people out there like Nicole who will ONLY point you in the right way.
This was a boss show! I am pumping out the skype shows gang as they allow me to tap into people's minds all over the world! And they're on YouTube too so don't be afraid to check out the visuals. I feel like what we spoke about today with my man Mr Godsey does not get taught at schools to the extent it should be. Who are you and what do you want out of life? Do not look to life and ask what its point is; ask how you can make a point out of it! Enjoy
This episode has been long awaited for me and I'm so pumped you get to listen in now! I had the pleasure of sitting down with Elise Carr, 'Sacred Guidance', which is essentially psychology for the soul. We explore some of the more tangible aspects of 'spirituality' and highlight the ways in which those aspects can be practically applied to any life, irrespective of the religious or spiritual views.
We also touched upon the ways individuals can build better relationships with themselves and their partners. Sometimes just booking time together, in this day and age, is all that we need!
This week on the show we had our good friend Chris Desmond, host of the Uncomfortable Is Ok podcast. His whole idea presents itself upon the idea of challenge and discomfort, which leads to self-growth in any given area. He is a shining example of someone who, not only embodies and acts-out his message himself, but also speaks in a relatable and pragmatic way.
He just became a father too, which no doubt to all the fathers out there, is something uncomfortable in and of itself! We spoke about some of the neuroscience and spirituality behind 'getting uncomfortable' as well as what YOU can do to get a little more excited about facing challenges in your life. Enjoy!
I met Millsy on a lovely Melbourne winter's day. He walked past me and I couldn't help but stop him (enthusiastically, mind you). We got to talking and he (the legend) agreed to jump on board The Mind Mate Podcast for a chat before I left to Bali. What intrigued me the most was what followed after his journey with Australian Idol. He found himself on a search for identity, which led him to overseas travels, tasting all sorts of trade jobs and eventually a rekindling love for the theatre and music scene. Millsy now finds himself starring in plays such as Jesus Christ Superstar, Wicked and Bang Bang!
Today I had the absolute pleasure and privilege of chatting with AFL great and founder of 'pukaup', Mr Wayne Schwass. The facilitation of mental health discussion has fundamentally changed the course of my life, from its infancy with my parents and with a psychologist to general dialogue and on podcasts. I can’t tell you how important it is for those suffering in silence as well as all of us to speak from the heart. We are all human beings with only our experiences separating us. Wayne is a truly inspirational man and I do not say that lightly. His authenticity was completely overwhelming and this clip represents just one of the many times that particular aspect of his character shone through during our chat. It was so therapeutic to speak to someone like Wayne about OCD, anxiety and depression without any wall and truly, the hour flew! This podcast is not to be missed!
A really great tool to help combat the high manifestation of anxiety by way of detaching yourself from the signs and symptoms themselves. We also hit the interpretation of dreams and the psychological significance of the aforementioned 'tool' to help in your understanding of emotions! Enjoy this bad boy!
My latest podcast deals with something very close to my heart and that was my relapse (from a year ago now) in my fears associated with Hell and Eternal suffering. To provide a short background story, I awoke one morning (half asleep if that makes any sense) to demonic faces coming at me from all angles before they eventually subsided. In truth, this experience scared the shit out of me and took me right back to where I was three years prior. I was on the phone to my dad at 5am, began thinking of compulsions to perform in order to prevent myself from eternal damnation and felt the panic rising and rising. . . What's great about this experience however, is that the relapse humbled me greatly yet also allowed me to put #tommystencommandments to the test and I'm pumped they worked a treat (for me). The relapse lasted a total of 2 WHOLE days and that's it. . . . Now again, I don't want to be someone saying they have the answers to an anxiety free life because clearly, that would be a lie but I do want to be someone promoting the benefits of self awareness and personal management strategies to which can work absolute wonders and lead to a, more often than not, super fucking happy life! My tools work for me. I'm positive they work for millions of others too but if they don't then that's cool.
Welcome back friends! This episode touched on a few topics (I got a bit excited). We hit up Joseph Campbell's perspectives on ancient myths and religions, anxiety as an emotion—and therefore, the relevance of the term 'recovery'; my book launch which is set for the 1st of November as well as some passages from the Gospel of Thomas which relate to intrapsychological, meditative experiences. A lot of JC's stuff does seem to point to 'awakening' and, from a Jungian perspective, a reconciliation of the conscious with the subconscious mind. Carl Jung coined the phrase 'Individuation' for its reference to the above.
Below is a passage of writing for the video I made a year ago about the intricacies of anxiety and its wider concepts. Enjoy!
One thing I always used to tell myself was that I wanted to be fully 'recovered' and free from anxiety for the rest of my life. I wanted to go back to the way things were and I wanted to control my emotions.
Looking back, what I have come to realise is that you can never recover from an emotion because an emotion is as part of you as the back of your hand. It's about learning how your emotions rise and fall and how you interact with the world. It's a change in perspective.
I wanted to do this video today as I have been feeling anxious lately and I never wanted to be someone to preach recovery methods or ways to 'kill life'. I just want to speak about my experiences honestly and right now my anxiety emotion is killing me! What a classic.
Hey guys, welcome back. This episode of the podcast combines the old with the new. I recorded the meat of this sandwich last year, in an attempt to bring to the table a conversation about the extreme manifestation of anxiety; panic attacks. But the bread talks about some stuff I've been looking into lately which I think can really help us within our "earthly pursuits", as Carl Jung puts it. That topic is about happiness, meaning and fulfilment, as a triad. I don't think that our goal is to be happy because that's pretty arbitrary—there's no reason to it. I think our goal is to be fulfilled and, if that is the case, then there must be some meaning behind what we're doing that makes us happy. If meaning is to be included, then—to unpack this completely and pose the question—what is it you're doing that makes you happy BUT also is useful and provides a service to others? Let me know what you guys think and as always, I'm bloody grateful for you in taking the time to listen to my ramblings
Alex Deken is a powerlifter and authentic legend. He is the head coach at PTC South Melbourne and 10th all-time powerlifter in the 90kg class. Yet despite these accolades, our episode took on a slightly different approach this week.
The first time I met Alex was, as you'll see, on an unreleased episode of AdventureFit Radio. Alex spoke to us about his fear of public speaking or as he puts it, 'self expression'. Immediately after a panic attack, the vibe became authentic and purposeful. Myself, Alex and the other boys sat and spoke about the ways anxiety manifests itself within our worlds.
A few months later, I was lucky enough to catch up with Alex for another chat focused more specifically on how both he and I deal with our fears (of public speaking among others) and how communicating, utilising subjective tools and practicing confidence as an adaptable mindset can make all the difference.
WARNING*** The audio can get a little dodge in this episode guys but it's still clearly audible and rad so stick through it and get a dose of spirituality in ya!
Do yourself a favour and follow this man @manojdias_ on da socials!
Manoj is the co-founder of @_aspace, a meditation centre and runs workshops all over the world, preaching the good word of inner calm.
The best way to get to know yourself is to spend time with yourself! We spoke about how Manoj's old life in the corporate world led to a disconnect from self, culminating in a panic attack at work.
This was a rad show, I truly loved it!
This was a fantastic episode of the podcast with co-founder of The Mind Room, Jo Mitchell.
I sat down with Jo and had a chat about the different approaches to combatting mental health issues today from a clinical perspective but what interested me most was Jo's anecdote of a panic attack she herself suffered in a theatre. Listen to the way she describes it from an objective, detached sense as opposed to identifying with the thoughts, feelings and symptoms.
There's much to be learnt from this!
The audio is a little dodge on this one but we loved it!
This week on the show I had a chat with the great man Gabriel Villarreal. Gab is the founder of Lost Boys Strength and Conditioning, the host of his very own podcast 'Informed Consent', a counsellor to young boys diagnosed with ADHD and an all-round legend.
We dived right in here and spoke about the changes in perspective with mental health disorders from weakness to superpower. Another ripper team!
Ever since I listened to Johann Hari on the Joe Rogan Experience, I knew I had to get in touch with him. His book 'Lost Connections' was one of the most fascinating I have come across in recent times and my deep passion for mental health (partly because of my own experiences) no doubt forged some of these interests.
I caught up with Johann Hari whilst he was on book/speaking tour promoting his book. Some of the causes and cures for depression and anxiety today may shock you as they once did me!
Here, we got into why we have become so disconnected as a species from our being, our primitive values and social needs and why some of the potential cures i.e. psychadelics, meditation and a connection back to self and to our community may be more important than you think!
You can also find his other book 'Chasing the scream' online which I highly recommend you do!
This week's episode of The Mind Mate Podcast brings to you a very special guest; none other than my uncle John.
I have always been fascinated by John's experiences and by his perception of reality, which lead him to prioritise spirituality above all as a lifestyle.
Finally, I was able to sit down with him and discuss Christianity and how it has transformed, shaped and helped him to grow into the man he is today.
What I found is that the way we view the world was more similar than I'd previously imagined.
Jason and I have been mates since high school.
We grew in different direction after graduating but have since rekindled as the universe threw signs that a strong friendship may be blossoming.
Jason is a swim teacher, movement coach, spiritualist and psychedelic adventurer. His views on the world, personal experiences and message offer great insight into how to find inner peace, learning to brave the darkness (however that manifests for us) and how to lead a fulfilling lifestyle.
This week on the show, Tommy speaks to Mr Chris Caddy. Chris is a CrossFit coach currently living in Melbourne, Australia. Tommy and Chris bring to you one of the more honest and raw podcasts you’ll hear this year.
After struggling with personal identity for much of his youth, Chris found himself contemplating suicide on the balcony of a building. He made a brave decision to live and fix as many issues as he could and finds himself today in a much happier place.
For all men and women alike, the search for identity in the modern world; authenticity is difficult and can sometimes push us to the brink. This is one man’s story. We hope you enjoy.
So another episode of #themindmatepodcast is up and this time we are giving you an outtakes and part ✌️ sesh with @williebee21. Get another in depth look at his personal journey with anxiety, travel and saying g’day to many people as he works to normalise the stigma in his own radical way 👏
We hope you enjoy this episode guys!
This week on the show, we have an amazing guest who is a field officer at MATES in Construction and was a contestant at Australia's Got Talent, Justin Geange! 😁😁😁 Just talks about his journey and experience as he works with RU OK and prevents people from commiting suicide. He also shared his darker days and how his faith helped him get back on his feet. 😉😎💯 We hope you enjoy this episode guys!
This week on the show, we head back to our #interviewswiththeexperts archives for a legendary chat with our friend Tyson Venebles! 🔥🔥🔥 Tyson is a Crossfit Coach, Key Leader at Lulu Lemon and an Mental Health advocate. He shared with us his goals of helping men reach their full potential and be more open to what they have in their mind. He also talked about how he was once in a dark situation in his life and how he was able to stand back up and get his life back. 😃
In this episode, Tom defines the true meaning of anxiety and how it has evolved in humanity over the years. As it was with him, many anxiety sufferers are confused about the reasons why anxiety becomes apparent in their lives so hopefully this episode sheds some light as to why fear is a universally common trait. Tommy's anxiety DISORDER came about from a negative experience on mushrooms six years ago but the truth is, he had some underlying issues that needed addressing.
One of the most difficult things to do is logically make sense of intrusive thoughts. By understanding where anxiety stems from as well as looking at ways of categorising fear based on its rationality, we can prevent our thoughts and fears from spiraling when they are present.
This week on the show, we have an amazing guest who is also the host of the "Uncomfortable is OK" podcast, Chris Desmond!
Chris talks about his journey and experience as he was going through his everyday struggle of overcoming uncomfortable situations. He and Tom agreed on the importance of getting out of your comfort zone and constantly challenging and pushing yourself. Take baby steps so as not to overwhelm yourself and embrace discomfort. Check out this amazing episode that I'm sure you'll love.
We hope you enjoy this episode guys!
My experience through mental health was an interesting one. Although I was very open about my disorder, I never seemed to able to relate to people with their issues. I soon discovered that my fears were more irrational than others. I'd stay awake at nights fearing the concept of eternal suffering and the onset of severe and permanent mental illness whilst my friends and family worried about errands that needed attending to, upcoming exams and relationships. When OCD kicked in, I realised my anxiety disorder had taken a turn for the worst and something needed to be done. I hope this video helps shed some light on some of the experiences of anxiety sufferers as well as the intricacies of OCD, which is more than just turning switches off and on. Enjoy!
This week on the show, we head back to our #interviewswiththeexperts archives for a legendary chat with our friend Samantha Brennecke!
Sammy suffered from depression. The feeling of not being loved shrouded her mind which lead to anxiety and panic attacks. Know more about how Sammy fought her way through depression.
We hope you enjoy this episode guys!
This week on the show is an introduction to our #mentalhealthjourney archives where Tom talks about his experiences and how he has come along with his mental health.
Tom experienced anxiety at an early age and has learned how to overcome it and be one with it. Check out this episode to know more about his journey!
We hope you enjoy this episode guys!
This week on the show, we head back to our #interviewswiththeexperts archives for a legendary chat with our friend Cam Butterss!
Cam is a former alcoholic who had anxiety issues as well as separation and isolation problems. Alcohol has always been in Cam's family Growing up, he was open to using drugs as well. Find out how Cam was able to overcome his addiction and mental health issues.
We hope you enjoy this episode guys!
This week on the show, we had a great opportunity to chat with our friend Paul Glezer, founder and owner of My Wellness Wishlist!
Paul is a physical and mental health enthusiast as well as a new father to his weeks old daughter. He talks about his experiences of being a father and keeping his health and wellness check. Tommy and Paul share the same thoughts about integrity and making sure that even as a parent, one must still stay fit in all aspects.
We hope you enjoy this episode guys!
This week on the show, we head back to our #interviewswiththeexperts archives for a legendary chat with our friend Aaron Brah!
Aaron is a former drug addict who had mental health issues at an early age of 13. Tommy and Aaron talked and shared how there is not a lot of early interventions when it comes to mental health with children. Find out how Aaron was able to overcome his addiction and mental health issue.
We hope you enjoy this episode guys!
This week on the show, we head back to our #interviewswiththeexperts archives for a legendary chat with our friend Michael Inglis!
Michael is a psychologist at The Mind Room located in Melbourne's northern suburbs. Tommy and Michael sat down to have a chat about the clinical perspective of such mental health disorders as OCD, anxiety disorder and why the prevalence of such disorders has increased in today's modern society.
It's a very nostalgic chat for Tommy as this was the very same space he found himself in three years prior as a patient!
We hope you enjoy this episode guys!
Barry McDonagh is the creator of the Panic Away Program and author of the book DARE. A native of Ireland, he focuses to help people win against panic attacks and be free from anxiety as well as depression.
In this episode, Barry and Tom begin by sharing their thoughts on the modern world and how there seems to be a lost connection of community, akin to Johan Hari’s work in his latest book, ‘Lost Connections’.
The boys then take their conversation back towards the power of Barry’s DARE response and how these exposing methods really can work wonders against the emotion of anxiety.
This is a fantastic conversation, a great catch up for Barry and Tom and we really think you guys will love it!
This episode of The Mind Mate podcast explores how The Mind Mate came to be, it's vision to empower individuals to own their mental health experiences, the evolution of this wondrous emotion known only as anxiety as well as an in-depth personal anecdote of the host of the show.
Our aim is to shift the understanding and perspective of anxiety and mental health through the promotion of authentic mental health discourse. Talking about one’s issues should be as easy as talking about what’s on the menu for dinner or which sporting team you barrack for; even which chick or bloke you’re into!
Our vision is to create an environment that genuinely celebrates authentic personal story telling on all fronts which therefore, empowers individuals and gives them the freedom to move through their irrational fears and setbacks in a less confronting way.