157: The Weekly Spot With My Friend Paul Glezer
Okay this has been a long time coming, but it's here and Pauly and I are super pumped about this! We will be catching up once a week on the show to talk about the ideas most important to us: Mental and physical health, spirituality and self development. Pauly is a coach with 20 + years experience in the game. Now, he specialises in helping parents within organisations and at home to optimise their health so they can give more to themselves and those around them. You can find him @hero_4_life on Instagram Sponsors The Art of Self Healing The Art of Self Healing is the fundamentals Heidi teaches to equip people to heal their past, identify their patterns and live a life they love. The program is based on on 20 years of personal and professional experience in mental health and therapy. In it, Heidi shares the concepts and methods that have transformed her clients lives, and her own. Register your spot for the Art of Self Healing here: https://bit.ly/3QNfWTY ISBN Services Are you in the process of writing your first book? Have you just finished your manuscript but aren’t sure how to take the next steps? ISBN Services will take care of everything for you: from interior formatting, ISBN registration and exterior graphics design, ISBN Services will turn your book into a professional product in both paperback and e-book formatting—just send them your manuscript. And the best part is: you’ll get to keep all royalties and publishing rights too! Visit www.isbnservices.com to get your book professionally published and use the checkout code MINDMATE for 10% off. The Find Your Mission Program The FYM is the complete immersive experience and integrative approach that comprises the majority of my psychological training. It’s a deep dive into identity, past traumatic experience as well as refined, tailored tools to help you transform pain into immense clarity and purpose; you can use the strategies for the rest of your life, like I do! Included in the four week training is a series of weekly journals and course content. Find out more at https://www.siobhanandtomcoaching.com/find-your-mission
August 23, 2022
156: The Art of Self Healing I My Interview On Tell The Others
Today I was on the other side of the mic! My good friend and colleague interviewed me on her show "Tell The Others". Some of the topics we discussed included: What does self-healing mean anyway? Why do you call it an 'art'? What do you know about self-healing? What's your experience with self-healing? How do you know it's effective? How does therapy fit into the picture? What would you say to someone who feels stuck and is having a hard time in their own self-healing? The Art of Self Healing The Art of Self Healing is the fundamentals Heidi teaches to equip people to heal their past, identify their patterns and live a life they love. The program is based on on 20 years of personal and professional experience in mental health and therapy. In it, Heidi shares the concepts and methods that have transformed her clients lives, and her own. Register your spot for the Art of Self Healing here: https://www.heidirogers.com/a/2147518436/G84zLiCE ISBN Services Are you in the process of writing your first book? Have you just finished your manuscript but aren’t sure how to take the next steps? ISBN Services will take care of everything for you: from interior formatting, ISBN registration and exterior graphics design, ISBN Services will turn your book into a professional product in both paperback and e-book formatting—just send them your manuscript. And the best part is: you’ll get to keep all royalties and publishing rights too! Visit www.isbnservices.com to get your book professionally published and use the checkout code MINDMATE for 10% off. The Find Your Mission Course The FYM is the complete immersive experience and integrative approach that comprises the majority of my psychological training. It’s a deep dive into identity, past traumatic experience as well as refined, tailored tools to help you transform pain into immense clarity and purpose; you can use the strategies for the rest of your life, like I do! Included in the four week training is a series of weekly journals and course content. Find out more at https://www.siobhanandtomcoaching.com/find-your-mission
August 16, 2022
155: Transforming Pain Into Immense Creativity With Breathwork Healer David Elliott
Author, teacher and healer David Elliott has spent close to three decades helping and inspiring clients from around the world to heal their deepest fears, blocks and negative beliefs. Though no client is the same, the formula he uses never varies. David combines his intuitive gift of clairaudient hearing to help expedite the healing process for all who work with him, gently guiding and revealing deeply buried histories or beliefs with gentle compassion and grace. His process is effective in all areas of his work, from private sessions working one-on-one with clients to the group work he leads during healing retreats around the world. You can find out more about David and his work at www.davidelliott.com. ISBN Services Are you in the process of writing your first book? Have you just finished your manuscript but aren’t sure how to take the next steps? ISBN Services will take care of everything for you: from interior formatting, ISBN registration and exterior graphics design, ISBN Services will turn your book into a professional product in both paperback and e-book formatting—just send them your manuscript. And the best part is: you’ll get to keep all royalties and publishing rights too! Visit www.isbnservices.com to get your book professionally published and use the checkout code MINDMATE for 10% off. The Find Your Mission Course The FYM is the complete immersive experience and integrative approach that comprises the majority of my psychological training. It’s a deep dive into identity, past traumatic experience as well as refined, tailored tools to help you transform pain into immense clarity and purpose; you can use the strategies for the rest of your life, like I do! Included in the four week training is a series of weekly journals and course content. Find out more at www.tomahern.org/find-your-mission and you can use the code PODCAST for 10% off.
July 24, 2022
154: Building Purpose Into Your Relationships
Welcome to this week's episode, a Facebook Live within the Mind Mates Facebook Group! ISBN Services Are you in the process of writing your first book? Have you just finished your manuscript but aren’t sure how to take the next steps? ISBN Services will take care of everything for you: from interior formatting, ISBN registration and exterior graphics design, ISBN Services will turn your book into a professional product in both paperback and e-book formatting—just send them your manuscript. And the best part is: you’ll get to keep all royalties and publishing rights too! Visit www.isbnservices.com to get your book professionally published and use the checkout code MINDMATE for 10% off. The Find Your Mission Course The FYM is the complete immersive experience and integrative approach that comprises the majority of my psychological training. It’s a deep dive into identity, past traumatic experience as well as refined, tailored tools to help you transform pain into immense clarity and purpose; you can use the strategies for the rest of your life, like I do! Included in the four week training is a series of weekly journals and course content. Find out more at www.tomahern.org/find-your-mission and you can use the code PODCAST for 10% off.
June 12, 2022
153: Facebook Live: Purpose, Meaning, Anxiety
Welcome to this week's episode, a Facebook Live within the Mind Mates Facebook Group! SPONSORS ISBN Services Are you in the process of writing your first book? Have you just finished your manuscript but aren’t sure how to take the next steps? ISBN Services will take care of everything for you: from interior formatting, ISBN registration and exterior graphics design, ISBN Services will turn your book into a professional product in both paperback and e-book formatting—just send them your manuscript. And the best part is: you’ll get to keep all royalties and publishing rights too! Visit www.isbnservices.com to get your book professionally published and use the checkout code MINDMATE for 10% off. The Find Your Mission Course The FYM is the complete immersive experience and integrative approach that comprises the majority of my psychological training. It’s a deep dive into identity, past traumatic experience as well as refined, tailored tools to help you transform pain into immense clarity and purpose; you can use the strategies for the rest of your life, like I do! Included in the four week training is a series of weekly journals and course content. Find out more at www.tomahern.org/find-your-mission and you can use the code PODCAST for 10% off.
June 05, 2022
152: Body Positivity Vs Health and Wellness With Vanessa Preston: Why Can't We All Get Along?
Vanessa has over 14 years experience providing therapy and assessment services in both the United States and Australia and has worked in non-profit, residential, school and hospital settings. Vanessa can provide support around a range of mental health issues with a particular interest in working with clients who have experienced PTSD and complex trauma. Vanessa has also developed an interest in working with women on their relationship with food and their body image and is the creator of the Body and Food Freedom Project. Vanessa brings a warm, accepting and compassionate approach to her work with clients. Outside of work, Vanessa enjoys camping, standup paddleboarding, hiking, listening to podcasts and enjoying time with her friends and family. You can find her on Instagram @vanessa_preston_ ISBN Services Are you in the process of writing your first book? Have you just finished your manuscript but aren’t sure how to take the next steps? ISBN Services will take care of everything for you: from interior formatting, ISBN registration and exterior graphics design, ISBN Services will turn your book into a professional product in both paperback and e-book formatting—just send them your manuscript. And the best part is: you’ll get to keep all royalties and publishing rights too! Visit www.isbnservices.com to get your book professionally published and use the checkout code MINDMATE for 10% off. The Find Your Mission Course The FYM is the complete immersive experience and integrative approach that comprises the majority of my psychological training. It’s a deep dive into identity, past traumatic experience as well as refined, tailored tools to help you transform pain into immense clarity and purpose; you can use the strategies for the rest of your life, like I do! Included in the four week training is a series of weekly journals and course content. Find out more at www.tomahern.mykajabi.com/find-your-mission and you can use the code PODCAST for 10% off.
May 22, 2022
151: Men's Mental Health From Across The Globe With Zach Jewell
Zach Jewell has always had a passion for bringing people together and creating a positive encouraging space. He was a youth minister for 8 years while he was earning his undergraduate degree in Business Administration. After transitioning from non-profit human services to several years in the for profit sector for some valuable life lessons, Zach has redirected toward his greatest passion, helping others live their best possible life. Zach can be found @intothe_darkblue ISBN Services Are you in the process of writing your first book? Have you just finished your manuscript but aren’t sure how to take the next steps? ISBN Services will take care of everything for you: from interior formatting, ISBN registration and exterior graphics design, ISBN Services will turn your book into a professional product in both paperback and e-book formatting—just send them your manuscript. And the best part is: you’ll get to keep all royalties and publishing rights too! Visit www.isbnservices.com to get your book professionally published and use the checkout code MINDMATE for 10% off. The Find Your Mission Course The FYM is the complete immersive experience and integrative approach that comprises the majority of my psychological training. It’s a deep dive into identity, past traumatic experience as well as refined, tailored tools to help you transform pain into immense clarity and purpose; you can use the strategies for the rest of your life, like I do! Included in the four week training is a series of weekly journals and course content. Find out more at www.tomahern.mykajabi.com/find-your-mission and you can use the code PODCAST for 10% off.
May 15, 2022
150: How Carl Jung Mapped The Unconscious with Joseph from Humble U Media
Joseph has worked with a wide range of individuals. This includes coaching children with ADHD, teens transitioning to college, adults seeking improved mental focus/performance, and elderly searching for life’s purpose. This experience, his personal “revelations” and research led him to the work of Swiss Psychologist Carl Jung. A rather synchronistic journey in itself (a story to be told some day). Through Jung’s work, Joseph was able to connect his findings and personal philosophy to Carl Jung’s ideas of individuation, synchronicity, the conscious EGO, the personal/collective unconscious and the Self. Since, Joseph has focused his personal research on Jung’s work in order to bring it forward to our times today. In July 2021, he produced his first lecture series on The Red Book by Carl Jung which received over 50,000 views on YouTube. Connect with Joseph: Instagram: @humbleumedia Connect with Tom Ahern: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tom.ahern Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tom.ahern.life Medium: https://email@example.com YouTube: https://bit.ly/2shhVqM Podcast: https://anchor.fm/the-mind-mate-podcast
April 17, 2022
149: The Pros and Cons of Labelling "Disorders" (Trauma Responses) with Heidi Rogers
Heidi is a psychotherapist, counsellor and speaker with 18 years experience in mental health, with a focus on trauma therapy. Heidi has worked in the US and Australia delivering therapeutic services to clients across the age and cultural spectrum. She works in private practice in Melbourne, delivering online courses and webinars to equip parents, individuals and schools with tools to implement the change they desire. Heidi was born and raised in Los Angeles. She now lives in Australia with her husband and two daughters. ***Guest Social Media*** @heidirogers_
April 10, 2022
148: Music Is Medicine With East Forest
East Forest is a multidisciplinary artist, producer, and international leader in underground sound meditation. His work explores living authentically within a modern context through an introspective methodology that weaves together elements of electro-acoustic live music, nature, technology, brain science, and guided meditation. His "ceremony-concerts" utilize a skilled instrumental repertoire to create space for an emotive inner journey. "IN: A Soundtrack For The Psychedelic Practitioner, vol. II" is the latest chapter in his ever-evolving career, which includes over 25 albums, including 2019’s album-length collaboration with spiritual pioneer Ram Dass, the five-hour-long psilocybin soundtrack "Music For Mushrooms: A Soundtrack For the Psychedelic Practitioner", and collaborations with artists Jon Hopkins, Typhoon, Laraaji, Dead Prez, Nick Mulvey, Peter Broderick, DJ ANNA and more. As a trailblazer in the global wellness movement, he offers guided meditations, retreats, a weekly podcast (Ten Laws w/East Forest), and talks that guide students through a brain-body approach aimed towards non-religious and grounded spirituality; he is a faculty member at the Esalen Institute and has worked with Google and Johns Hopkins neuroaesthetics project, Wavepaths, Consciousness Hacking, TED, Field Trip Health, is the co-founder of JourneySpace.com, and more. ***Guest Social Media*** IG @eastforest | FB/YT,TW @eastforestmusic
March 06, 2022
147: TOPICS FROM COUNSELLING CLIENTS I Why You Must Pay Attention To Your Expectations!
The topic of this week is all about Expectations. They can either be highly damaging or wonderfully motivating. If they're challenging and fair, they will pull you forwards; if they're subconscious drivers, derived from the opinions of others, they will overwhelm you and make you feel worthless. Expectations can be placed on us by our parents. They can also be placed on us by the societies and communities that we are a part of. Some expectations are good: Thou Shalt Not Kill is a ripper! But the ones you should really pay attention to are the ones that either consciously or subconsciously influence the vision you have for your life. Who said you need to go to uni and study? Why are you working the job you hate? Why aren’t you good enough? Why won’t you ever be good enough? If you are feeling like a failure or that you’re constantly falling behind, ask yourself what it would take for you to be enough - and then consider why, when and how that expectation became the norm. The expectations you place on yourself need to be fair, loving and realistically challenging. If they’re not - or if you constantly feel unworthy (or like a failure) - write down who you think you need to be, and where / when you think you began thinking like that, and consider whether those expectations are working for you or against you. Life’s too short otherwise.
February 27, 2022
146: STOLEN FOCUS, and How You Can Reclaim Your Ability to Think Deeply with Johann Hari
The great Johann Hari is back on the show promoting his latest book "Stolen Focus: Why You Can't Pay Attention". This book is absolutely fantastic, from the front to the back. I personally believe Johann has touched on the most pressing issue facing our contemporary world as it bleeds into many of the problems our societies face. In fact, our ability to think deeply—to observe our impulses, emotions and thoughts—is the very thing that promotes and sustains democracies; so yes, this is seriously important stuff. Johann Hari is a writer and journalist. He has written for the New York Times, Le Monde, the Guardian and other newspapers. His TED talks have been viewed over 70 million times, and his work has been praised by a broad range of people, from Oprah to Noam Chomsky to Joe Rogan. He lives in London. About the book: We think our inability to focus is a personal failing - a flaw in each one of us. It is not. This has been done to all of us by powerful external forces. Our focus has been stolen. Johann discovered there are twelve deep cases of this crisis, all of which have robbed some of our attention. He shows us how in a thrilling journey that ranges from Silicon Valley dissidents, to a favela in Rio where attention vanished, to an office in New Zealand that found a remarkable way to restore our attention. Crucially, he learned how - as individuals, and as a society - we can get our focus back, if we are determined to fight for it. This is a really important show guys and one I truly think you will get a lot from; so please have a listen and let me know what you think about our ability to pay attention as a society as well as what we should do to reclaim it.
January 16, 2022
145: Topics From Counselling Clients I Learn How Your Anxiety Fluctuates, Day to Day
Welcome to episode 145! A client recently asked me about the best ways to reduce his anxiety at work; we spoke about how different tools work best at different times. She told me how he would do his best to sit with his fears and stress, but sometimes they got the better of him. So, I asked her to rate his anxiety levels on a scale of 1-10, and then asked him what his different tools were for the different numbers on the scale. She didn’t have a variety of tools . . . We spoke about how different intensities of anxiety require different tools because - as this video discusses - if the anxiety is at a 10 and the “bath tub is overflowing” - there’s no point simply being with it; or in other words, trying to stay calm whilst watching the bathroom flood. If your anxiety is at a 10: move. Dance. Get up out of your seat and shake your arms. Walk. Exercise. Anxiety is energy and at that level, that energy needs to go somewhere. In my opinion, meditation is a preventative practise; it’s not necessarily the best thing to do when you’re in the middle of a panic attack. When you’re at a 10, then it’s about working with the body, not so much the mind. Please reach out if you’d like some clarification about your own anxiety! And remember: view your emotions like water in a bath!
January 09, 2022
144: Adapting and Evolving Your Inner Narrative
Writing helps with the consolidation process because writing (hand-thinking) slows and filters thoughts emanating from significantly affective experiences into coherent analytical structures. Put simply, we slow the mind down because we can’t write as fast as we can think and that slowing down helps us formulate our opinions, conceptualisations and assumptions. Additionally, by doing so, we remind ourselves that the past is the past, not the present. The degree to which the past shaped or dramatically influenced our lives is open to interpretation and depends on our current emotional states. Expressive writing, therefore, is a call to cultivating greater self-awareness. “The neuroscientist Joseph LeDoux and his colleagues have shown that the only way we can consciously access the emotional brain is through self-awareness, i.e. by activating the medial prefrontal cortex, the part of the brain that notices what is going on inside us and thus allows us to feel what we’re feeling.” Writing helps integrate emotionally charged experiences and beckons (forces) us to contemplate our lives, and how they came to be. The future, once the past has been reconciled, is ours for the taking. We can end those shitty chapters and write new ones, akin to who we’d like to become.
December 05, 2021
143: Stop Trying To Find Your Purpose
Snippet From Chapter 20 of my Book: Echoes From The Past! "I tried to find my purpose for far too long. I read every book, watched every YouTube lecture and demanded that each of my therapists and counsellors show me the way to liberation and fulfilment. The thing is, “your purpose” doesn’t exist. It won’t every exist. “Your purpose” is a marketing ploy designed to keep you attached to an idea that will always keep you searching, unfulfilled and lost. Your purpose isn’t your purpose. Your purpose is purely and simply what you’re interested in right now and who you want to be—which is another of saying “what you want to be doing”—in six months’ time. Chase the “you” in six months. Don’t worry about five or ten years. Our brains aren’t equipped to conceptualise such illusory spans across time and space; but the “you” in six months is practical and relatively tangible. The cool thing about the “you” in six months is that you really could become that person. They’re not that far away. Chase them down! Maybe they’re only six months ahead of you in their savings; in their training, writing or relationship status. Beat them!"
November 28, 2021
142: Medicinal Cannabis and the Future of Modern Medicine with Bee Mohamed
Bee Mohamed is the Head of Patient Advocacy & Engagement of Astrid, the first female-led dispensary in Australia. She made her mark in the medicinal cannabis industry in 2019 when she joined Canopy Growth Asia Pacific as the Stakeholder Relations and Advocacy Manager (Asia Pacific) and saw the regulatory barriers patients faced in Australia in accessing medicinal cannabis. Prior to the cannabis industry, Bee was the inaugural Chief Executive Officer of ScriptWise, a not for profit organisation dedicated to prevent the harms associated with prescription medication dependency and overdose. Working closely with both patients and families affected by this issue, the organisation was successful in bringing changes around the issue such as: commitment by the Federal Government to implement a nation-wide Real Time Prescription Monitoring system (RTPM), rescheduling of codeine-based medications (in 2018) and to introduce best practice in prescribing opioids. She holds a Master in Social Science (International Development) and has worked in both the public and community sector for close to 8 years. Her true passion is to influence health policies through patient-led advocacy and engagement in improving access to progressive medicines. ***Social Media*** https://astrid.health/ @astrid.dispensary #medicinalcannabis #plantmedicine #astridhealth
November 21, 2021
141: A Dose of Hope - MDMA Assisted Psychotherapy With Dr Dan Engle
Though psychedelic drugs remain illegal, guided ceremonies, or sessions, are happening across the country, especially in major cities. But more people seek out safe, structured environments to use psychedelics for spiritual growth and psychological healing. For today's episode, Tom Ahern with his guest, Dr. Dan Engle will discuss what you need to know about psychedelic therapy and how psychedelic substances can be used for treating illnesses such as addiction, depression, anxiety, and posttraumatic stress disorder. Yes, the extraordinary therapeutic potential of psychedelic medications explained in this podcast! Stay tuned! #drdanengle #mdmaassistedtherapy #psychedelicmedicine What to expect from the episode: What is psychedelic medicine used for and works in the brain. A psychedelic drug boom in mental health treatment comes closer to reality. Post concussion syndrome: Symptoms a person may display traumatic brain injury. Things you need to know about ayahuasca. Evolution of our medical system explained. And many more! Author Bio Dan Engle, MD, is a psychiatrist with a clinical practice that combines aspects of regenerative medicine, psychedelic research, integrative spirituality, and peak performance. His medical degree is from the University of Texas at San Antonio. His psychiatry residency degree is from the University of Colorado Denver, and his child and adolescent psychiatry fellowship degree is from Oregon Health & Science University. Dr. Engle is an international consultant to several global healing centers facilitating the use of long-standing indigenous plant medicines for healing and awakening. He is the Founder and Medical Director of the Kuya Institute for Transformational Medicine in Austin, Texas, Full Spectrum Medicine, a psychedelic integration and educational platform, and Thank You Life, a non-profit funding stream supporting access to psychedelic therapies. www.drdanengle.com www.fullspectrummedicine.com www.kuya.life www.thankyoulife.org Connect with Dan: Website: https://drdanengle.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DrDanEngle Twitter: https://twitter.com/drdanengle Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drdanengle/ Connect with Tom: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tom.ahern Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tombahern Medium: https://firstname.lastname@example.org YouTube: https://bit.ly/2shhVqM Podcast: https://anchor.fm/the-mind-mate-podcast
August 29, 2021
140: Move Your Mind With Nick Bracks
During this pandemic, most people are in social distress, and that affects their mental health. For today's episode, Tom Ahern, with his guest, Nick Bracks will discuss the struggles people face that leads to questioning their self-worth and how stories of other people give us hope and comfort in a way that what you are going through is relatable. They will also talk about different kinds of techniques, tools, activities, and resources that will support your mental health! Stay tuned! #moveyourmind #mentalhealthmatters #nickbracks Here are the things to expect in the episode: The importance of looking after your mental health and getting the most from life. How to train your mind to see good in every situation. Being real and honest to yourself is a way to live through and live life. Letting yourself vulnerable and accepting that you are not perfect can change your life. Benefits of using podcasts to build a unique connection to others. Using stories, narratives, and storytelling to go beyond defining and addressing problems. How a person with OCD can experience guilt and shame. People did not receive enough education of mental health awareness. And many more! About Nick: Nick Bracks is a storyteller who has dedicated his adult life to creating positive conversations around mental health. An acclaimed mental health advocate and successful multi-entrepreneur, Nick has delivered 1,000+ mental health seminars around the globe, including two TEDx talks. This came about following his own personal and public battle with mental health and wellbeing. Creative at heart, Nick is an actor with several films to his name and a two-year role on the well-loved Australian soap, Neighbours. Acting, along with exercise and meditation, is Nick’s foundation for vibrant mental health. Nick now spends his time advocating for mental health, speaking and interviewing, creating content and acting. His professional life and personal development are perfectly intertwined. Connect with Nick: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nickbracks/ Book: https://bit.ly/3svd8QK Connect with Tom Ahern: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tom.ahern Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tombahern Medium: https://email@example.com YouTube: https://bit.ly/2shhVqM Podcast: https://anchor.fm/the-mind-mate-podcast
August 22, 2021
139: Relationships Are More Like Classrooms Than Honeymoons
Love. What is love, and how do you define it? For today's episode, Tom Ahern will narrate how you view yourself in a relationship. In many ways, relationships determine who you truly are. To understand yourself is to know the way your mind works. It's a vital key to any healthy relationship and can lead to so many amazing things like self-love and compassion. Uncontrolled emotions like anger and fear affect your growth in a relationship. Let’s listen to this podcast and discover that true love has no opposite! Stay tuned! #gottmaninstitute #relationshipgoals #relationshipadvice In this episode we cover: Understand your partner and see things from their perspective. Anger can be a positive and useful emotion, if it is expressed appropriately. Common problems people have in relationships – and how to solve them. Surrendering: Not a weakness but a total openness to who you are. Dealing with anger and fear before it controls you. Why do people choose to suffer in a relationship. Learning to integrate emotional intelligence into our daily lives. And many more! Connect with Tom Ahern: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tom.ahern Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tombahern Medium: https://firstname.lastname@example.org YouTube: https://bit.ly/2shhVqM Podcast: https://anchor.fm/the-mind-mate-podcast
August 08, 2021
138: Overcoming Intrusive Thoughts
For today's episode, let's listen to Tom Ahern as he reads a wonderful story of Debbie, a 46 years old woman who happened to be a victim of unfolding circumstances. How she overcomes the fear of losing control and how psychological healing helped her through self-understanding. Stay tuned! Here are the things to expect in the episode: How to deal with intrusive thoughts. What does it mean to let life unfold? How do you stop worrying about things before they happen? Why fear is one of the most powerful emotions. The causes of disgust sensitivity. The impact of obsessive-compulsive disorder to people. Moving from detachment to acceptance. Avoiding the spiritual ego trap. And many more! Connect with Tom Ahern: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tom.ahern Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tombahern Medium: https://email@example.com YouTube: https://bit.ly/2shhVqM Podcast: https://anchor.fm/the-mind-mate-podcast
June 20, 2021
137: The Psychology of Psychedelics, Religion And Dying With Gary Laderman
What thoughts come to your mind when you think of death and dying? Some people identify themselves as spiritual but not religious and that can be interpreted in so many different ways. In this episode, let's join Tom Ahern with his guest, Gary Laderman as they talk about cultural-religious, spiritual beliefs and how death is related to life. Stay tuned! #sacredmedicine #religiousstudies #psychedelics In this episode we cover: Can a person be spiritual but not religious? Religious beliefs, practices, and values. Cultural influences on conceptions of death and dying. Living With Death: The meaning of acceptance. How do religions view death? The psychology of psychedelics. Religious issues. Is atheism a religious belief? And a lot more! About Gary Laderman: Gary Laderman is a professor of American religious history and cultures at Emery University. He teaches and writes about death and dying, religion and sexuality, and sacred drugs. His most recent book is Don’t Think About Death: A Memoir on Mortality. Connect with Gary Laderman: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/garyladerman/ Spotify: https://spoti.fi/3cE3apo Connect with Tom Ahern: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tom.ahern/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tombahern/ Medium: https://firstname.lastname@example.org/ YouTube: https://bit.ly/2shhVqM Podcast: https://anchor.fm/the-mind-mate-podcast/
June 13, 2021
136: This Is Why We Dream
Man am I excited to be releasing this podcast! THIS IS WHY WE DREAM. Dreams function as a way to “forget”8 experiences which no longer apply to an individual’s life; a kind of re-structuring, re-mapping process. Dreams appear to act as an intermediary, making distinctions between which memories will help navigate the uncertainty of the future and which ones are to be rendered obsolete. If we remembered everything—all stimuli ever encountered since birth—we would blow-up! The brain needs to filter the infinite amount of information it receives from the outside world across time, deciding which of it will be strategically useful for survival purposes. How does the brain know what to remember? Well, shouldn’t it remember only the really important stuff? Shouldn’t it focus its attention on when we nearly died, for example, so that that never happens again? Emotionally significant experiences take priority. The brain needs to remember emotionally significant experiences so that if they were to happen again, it will know what to do; it will know how to respond. This is why people who suffer from post-traumatic stress disorder relive they’re frightening, nightmarish experiences. They cannot get over the emotionally significant experience; they cannot detach the overwhelming emotion from it. The brain is constantly trying to map the experience, which can be—and often is—incredibly volatile, existentially speaking. An aspect of trauma therapy, therefore, is to help the client detach from the experience. Reach out if you want your dreams analysed! It's something I love to do with people to help them cultivate greater awareness! Enjoy the show guys!
May 30, 2021
135: Surviving and Summiting Mt Everest with Neil Laughton
Neil Laughton is a former Royal Marine Commamdo, helicopter pilot & Special Forces officer. A business career followed in construction and he sold his company to a FTSE 100 in 2011. Currently he is a business leadership trainer, charity chairman and Captain of the England Penny Farthing Polo Team. He is passionate about travel, sport and adventure. He has in the last 35 years organised and led 50 + international adventurous expeditions on 7 continents by land, sea and air.
May 23, 2021
Discovering Who You Are With Martial Artist Roy Dean - Ep 134
Roy Dean is an expert in the art of jiu jitsu, and his inspiring videos on YouTube have educated people around the world. Dean’s martial education is well rounded, holding first degree black belts in Kodokan Judo and Aikikai Aikido, and third degree black belts in Japanese and Brazilian Jiu Jitsu. Professor Dean has written about his adventures in two books,"The Martial Apprentice" and "Becoming the Black Belt."
April 25, 2021
Heal from 2020 with Psychotherapist Heidi Rogers - Ep 133
Heidi is a psychotherapist with 17 years experience in mental health counselling and trauma therapy. Heidi has worked in both the US and Australia and has extensive experience delivering therapeutic services to children and families. She works in private practice in Melbourne, has online parenting programs to support families, and when COVID allows, she tours with her tailored talks specialising in children's issues, and their solutions. Follow Heidi on Instagram @heidirogers_ #thebodykeepsthescore #healyourtrauma #psychotherapy
March 14, 2021
Heal your Trauma: How to do the Work with Holistic Psychologist Dr Nicole LePara - Ep 132
Here we go guys! Round two with the incredible Dr Nicole LePara. I first had a chat with her back in early 2019 and WOW what a massive few years she's had! From creating a healing circle, to writing a book and moving across the country, we had heaps to catch up on and she did not disappoint! Funnily enough, we spoke a lot about pizza! (You'll have to listen to find out!). Dr. Nicole LePera was trained in clinical psychology at Cornell University and the New School for Social Research. She also studied at the Philadelphia School of Psychoanalysis. As a clinical psychologist in private practice, Dr. Nicole LePera often found herself frustrated by the limitations of traditional psychotherapy. Wanting more for her patients—and for herself—she began a journey to develop a united philosophy of mental, physical, and spiritual health that equips people with the tools necessary to heal themselves. Nothing short of a paradigm shift, Dr. Nicole LePera’s teachings empower the individual to break free from trauma cycles and create who they want to become. Enjoy guys! #yourholisticpsychologist #selfhealers #healyourtrauma
February 15, 2021
Magic Mushrooms For Treating Death Anxiety With Clinical Psychologist Margaret Ross - Ep 131
Marg is a senior clinical psychologist at St Vincent's Hospital Melbourne working in Psychosocial cancer care and Palliative Medicine depts. Marg is the Chief Principal Investigator for Australia's first Psilocybin assisted psychotherapy trial to treat depression and anxiety associated with terminal illness. #magicmushrooms #psychedelicassistedtherapy #cancertreatment
January 24, 2021
The Key Is Staying Humble! I Chats With Humble U Media - Ep 130
Joseph is a former TV weatherman turned psychologist, life coach, podcast and event host and founder of Humber-U Media. Through original content, unique coaching programs, Live! Events and Workshops, The Humble-U Podcast, and a new membership resource, Joseph covers all areas for you to begin a humbling journey towards your true Self. Search @humbleumedia on Instagram or visit humbleumedia.com for more information. #psychology #carljung #shadowwork
January 17, 2021
The Living Full Project With Kevin Wilkinson - Ep 129
Kevin Wilkinson is the founder of the Living Full Project which is a movement that believes in the Abundance in all areas of life and the ability to create a life by design rather than default. Additionally, Kevin guides ambitious men to achieve bigger goals, create better relationships, find purpose, have more freedom & design ideal lives for themselves. You can find him @living_full_project #menswork #daviddeida #johnwineland
December 06, 2020
Policing In America Today With Dr Michael Wood Jr - Ep 128
Michael Wood Jr. is a police management scholar who after spending a career in the USMC and Baltimore Police Department, took to disrupting the long-standing blue wall of silence and creating the pathway to reform; a model called Civilian-Led Policing. His fight for justice has included leading the historic Veterans for Standing Rock action in December of 2016, standing on the front lines of justice protesting, opposing money in politics, and elevating the voices of others. You can find Michael in hundreds of media appearances, from HBO's Fixing the System documentary with President Obama, to The Joe Rogan Experience, to published opinion pieces in The Guardian and Baltimore Sun, and everything in-between, where he furthers the discussion on criminal justice systems and institutions, and the needs of society. You can read his blogs at: https://michaelwoodjr.medium.com/ . You can also follow him on YouTube at: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC47AM9xeABSGdaQ9czM1NMA #policebrutality #blacklivesmatter #joeroganexperience
November 29, 2020
Are Aliens Our Future Selves? I The Evolution of Epigenetics - Ep 127
Born and raised in South Wales, Geraint F. Lewis is now professor of astrophysics at the Sydney Institute for Astronomy at the University of Sydney. His research focuses on cosmology, gravitational lensing and galactic cannibalism, all with the goal of unravelling the dark-side of the universe. As well as 400 publications in leading journals, he is the author of two popular-level books, “A Fortunate Universe: Life in a finely-tuned cosmos”, and “The Cosmic Revolutionary’s Handbook: Or how to beat the Big Bang”, both written with Luke Barnes. #epigenetics #astrophysics #aliens
November 22, 2020
The Fundamental Nature of Reality With The Float Guru - Ep 126
Vijay Ravikumar (Victorious Son of the Sun in Sanskrit) is the Float Guru. He is the being behind the revolutionary art of studying 'The Self' and "Transformation of Consciousness' using the sensory deprivation tanks. For over 3 years his passion has helped people to raise their consciousness and take their lives to a new magnification - in the areas that matter most: their inner peace, fulfilment, personal relationships with themselves and the world around them and wellbeing. #consciousness #floattank #meditation
November 08, 2020
Will Science And Spirituality Ever Agree? Astrophysicist Geraint Lewis Weighs In - Ep 125
Born and raised in South Wales, Geraint F. Lewis is now professor of astrophysics at the Sydney Institute for Astronomy at the University of Sydney. His research focuses on cosmology, gravitational lensing and galactic cannibalism, all with the goal of unravelling the dark-side of the universe. As well as 400 publications in leading journals, he is the author of two popular-level books, “A Fortunate Universe: Life in a finely-tuned cosmos”, and “The Cosmic Revolutionary’s Handbook: Or how to beat the Big Bang”, both written with Luke Barnes. #meaningoflife #astrophysics #spaceandtime
November 01, 2020
The Battle For Workplace Equality With Anneli Blundell - Ep 124
Anneli is on a mission to humanise the leadership landscape and change the way we see each other. Voted one of YMag’s Top Ten Women to Watch in 2019, Anneli’s passion for decoding people and performance dynamics make her a sought after speaker, mentor and leadership expert. With her keynote speaking, and flagship programs on Women@Work, and Inclusive Leadership, Anneli brings her gender advocacy to large groups of leaders, creating safe spaces to explore the issues and opportunities of inclusion and belonging in practical and profound ways. Anneli gives leaders the tools and strategies to value all voices equally, to sponsor hidden talent, and to develop the unlikely leaders waiting to be discovered. It’s about knowing how to cultivate the right conditions to turn potential into performance at every level, for everyone. To Anneli, workplace equality is not only about policies; it’s also about the daily practices that support them. This is not about eradicating our human bias, it’s about humanising our leadership habits. Keep up to date with Anneli here: https://anneliblundell.com/
October 25, 2020
How To Create Desire And Sexual Polarity In Relationships With Kendra Cunov - Ep 123
Founder of The Collective: A Global Web of Women Devoted to Embodied Wholeness, Kendra Cunov has been studying, facilitating, and (most importantly) practicing Authentic Relating, Embodiment Practices & Deep Intimacy Work for over fifteen years. Kendra has worked with thousands of men, women & couples in the areas of embodiment, intimacy, communication & full self-expression. She co-founded Authentic World & Fierce Grace, as well as The Embodied Relationship Training Salon (with John Wineland), and pioneered some of the most cutting edge relation work on the planet. Kendra has consulted for companies such as Genentech & been on staff for 4PC, an elite mastermind for the top 4% of coaches in the world. She works with organizations & leaders, as well as men, women & couples, who know that embodied presence, truth, connection & integrity are our truest access points to success – in business & in love.
October 18, 2020
Origins of the War on Drugs with Ryan Hassan - Ep. 122
Ryan is Co-Founder and CEO at The Centre for Healing. His passion for helping people with Mental Illness and Addiction comes from his own pain. Ryan suffered from anxiety for as long as he could remember and that manifested in many destructive patterns throughout his life, culminating in a hardcore drug addiction to Methamphetamine & GHB. Whilst this addiction took everything material from his life, it was also Ryan's greatest blessing. He was forced to face up to his mental and emotional demons, and he not only overcame the addiction but also his anxiety to feel peace for the first time. This led him to completely immerse himself in how people end up in emotional pain and how it’s possible for anyone to be free from it. This led him to opening The Centre for Healing, to help people who have found themselves in the pain he once was. He has successfully helped many people in getting past their Addictions & Mental Health issues through his experience, understanding and knowledge. You can find The Centre For Healing's courses online here: https://courses.centreforhealing.com.au/courses
October 11, 2020
How To Manage Political Egos With Terri Butler - EP. 121
Terri is the Shadow Minister for the Environment and Water, and has been in parliament since the 2014 by-election, succeeding Kevin Rudd as the Member for Griffith. During this time, she has worked on issues as diverse as innovation, supporting the AFLW, marriage equality, and employment services. Terri holds a BA/LLB(Hons) from QUT and a Grad Dip Econ from UNE. Prior to entering parliament she became a partner at a Queensland law firm, and then founded Maurice Blackburn’s Queensland employment and industrial law practice.
September 27, 2020
How To Actually Find Your Purpose - EP. 120
Guys! I could not be more excited! This is 'Find Your Mission' Launch Week! If you are stuck in life, anxious, lost, ruminating, unsure what to do or who you are—this podcast is for you! I want to give you, my beloved Mind Mates, the tools to finally CREATE the life you want because you bloody deserve it. We are fundamentally the stories we tell ourselves. We act those stories out—our myths. You can change your myth but, firstly, you have to know how it was formed and what the factors were. If you’re not happy with the story you tell yourself, change it by writing a new one and become the, as the cliché states, hero of you own movie! Have a listen to the show and join me in my FREE webinar where I'll be going into greater detail with the ideas presented to you in this show! Sign up here: https://event.webinarjam.com/register/2/vlrn2f7?fbclid=IwAR2O8I-b7xGV2wt_mMMNhSCElqeUAdexi-wFwhWfA6P4PHAOn1vqFvgRZ5o
September 20, 2020
#119 - Do You Need God To Overcome Addiction? Chats With Bryce Turvey
Bryce Turvey is 33, a San Diego native. He is sober, a contractor, a Breathwork facilitator, a surfer and skater. As he says, "I suppose those are the high points."
September 13, 2020
#118 - From Maiden To Whore, And Everything In Between I Carmina Marie
Carmina is a breathwork guide who assists women in birthing their wild, authentic nature. She teaches women how to turn themselves on by just being seen. She helps develop their desire to dig into the darkest corners. Carmina is also a seeker who empowers women to chase what makes their energetic-womb throb and leads the connection to their divine power. Most importantly, she's a downright legend!
September 06, 2020
#117 - How To Overcome "Attachment" In Relationships
Attachment Theory is an area of psychology that describes the nature of emotional attachment between humans. It begins as children with our attachment to our parents. The nature of this attachment, and how well it’s fostered and cared for, will then influence the nature of our attachment to romantic partners later in our life.
August 30, 2020
#116 - From The Streets To Mastering Masculinity With Julian Moreno
J. Moreno - Seattle, WA - guides Men in discovering meaning and creating balance through fully understanding, embracing and channeling their masculinity.
August 23, 2020
#115 - Actions Speak Louder Than Words With Stefanos Sifandos
Stefanos has been immersed in deep men’s empowerment work and the exploration of intimate and sacred relationships. Merging the best of eastern and western methodologies and philosophies to promote balance, union and power in life and love. Using integrative techniques and methods, such as neural-empowerment, Shamanic Praxis, holotropic and biodynamic breath work, trauma release and integration, western psychology, Eastern Mysticism and more, Stefanos has created programs, models and systems to enhance the quality of your life, your intimate relationships and in essence bring you closer to your potential. By restructuring and reframing his own masculinity and movement through the world as a man relating to himself, his environment, women and his purpose, He has discovered and created methodologies and innovative models for navigating the often-difficult path of contemporary manhood and intimate relationships. Stefanos places his focus and energy towards evolving the nature relationships in contemporary times. An advocate and proponent of “sacred union”, Stefanos believes cultivating healthy relationships to self, ideas, others, our lovers and the Earth will liberate humanity towards a new empowered expression of itself. Through a deeper connection to God, Earth and self, Stefanos realised the power of the human spirit. We often avoid challenge, fear and pain, however for the modern man (now more than ever), they are tools for transformation that help us heal universally.
August 16, 2020
#114 - A Universal Spirituality | Chats With David Tacey
David Tacey is an Australian public intellectual, writer and interdisciplinary scholar. He is Emeritus Professor of Literature at La Trobe University in Melbourne and Research Professor at the Australian Centre for Christianity and Culture in Canberra. Tacey was born in Melbourne but his young adult life was spent in Alice Springs, central Australia. Growing up alongside Aboriginal cultures influenced him greatly and he has maintained a lifelong interest in Aboriginal religions, indigenous health and wellbeing. His secondary education was conducted at Alice Springs High School. After completing secondary school in 1970, he worked as a labourer for a year to fund his future university education. He studied literature, philosophy and art history at Flinders University in Adelaide, South Australia, where he obtained his BA (Honours) in 1975. He transferred to the University of Adelaide and completed his PhD in literature and analytical psychology in 1981.
August 09, 2020
#113 - Heal Yourself Before You Heal The World | Tom & Jane Latimer
Jane holds masters degrees in both counseling psychology and art, from Hunter College and Regis University. Her own personal healing path, however, encompassed years of Alchemical Lightwork, which she now blends with shamanic and psychological practices. She is committed to helping individuals activate their Soul Seed and live their Soul’s destiny. Her background spans areas of transpersonal and humanistic psychology, expressive arts and somatic trauma therapies. Jane’s greatest love is to help individuals prepare the human vehicle for their Soul’s authentic courageous expression. From her website: “I was a serious, sensitive, deep and troubled person. I didn’t know how to live in alignment with my highly sensitive, intuitive and creative nature. A spiritual awakening in my early twenties led me to a path of healing which has resulted in over thirty years of successful freedom from food struggle, depression and dysfunction. After an array of miraculous spiritual experiences and many years of working on my own healing process, I became a psychotherapist, developed programs and books that helped countless people with trauma, food and body-image issues feel more hopeful and turn their lives around. After that initial awakening I had many “soul encounters” along the way that guided me deeper into my path as an Intuitive and Creative Soul Guide. Today, I work somatically as well as spiritually to support the unfolding of your greatest calling. Utilizing energetic and trauma release techniques as well as dreamwork, active imagination, parts and shadow work, archetypal, nature and the expressive arts , I will help you see beyond and underneath the patterns that are holding you back. As you awaken into your greater capacities, I can help the hurting parts within heal so that you can feel in-control and in-charge of your life again.”
August 02, 2020
#112 - Who Are You Really? Unpacking The Ego | Tom Ahern
The ego can be thought of as many things. Some refer to it as “arrogance made manifest” but it is deeper than that. Some say it is the thoughts in your head and it is, but it is more malleable than that—and we know this because our thoughts change all the time (at least the seemingly less significant ones). When we identify ourselves by our egos—and, unfortunately, this is not always a conscious decision—we derive our sense of self from something that isn’t us. The ego ultimately seeks some kind of superiority; it compares itself to others, and that when we identify as our egos, we never meet other individuals at all; only the constructs of our minds. What does this mean? It means that we have become who we think we need to be—complete with moral superiority and social acceptance—to not only be included, but be loved, whole, welcomed and desired. Thoughts are projections. They are ideas about ways to access or grab ‘what is’—as Eckhart Tolle would say—outside our selves. The ego always needs some kind of antagonist because it defines itself by the other. Identity is something that humans desperately seek because to not be someone means to be no one, and being no one is scary! Enjoy this episode of the show guys!
July 26, 2020
#111 - Breaking The Ice On Drugs, Addiction And Human Development | Chats With Matt Noffs
Matt Noffs is the co-founder of the Street Universities and CEO of the Noffs Foundation, Australia’s largest drug and alcohol treatment service provider for young people under 25. The Noffs Foundation works with young people for up to 5 years after leaving treatment. Young people’s drug use dropped by over 50% – that’s for all drugs – after finishing residential treatment, while criminal activity also dropped by a half. Where 1 in 2 young people were experiencing suicidal ideation on entering the program, only 1 in 10 still felt suicidal on leaving. The Street Universities focus on issues related to drugs, mental health, employment, education and crime, and over 10,000 young people frequent one of their 7 locations across Australia each year. In 2011, the Federal Government wrote to the Noffs Foundation stating that the Liverpool Street University had significantly contributed to crime reduction in the Liverpool/Fairfield areas. Matt is the author of the bestselling ‘Breaking The Ice’. His latest book ‘Addicted?’, which he co-authored with Kieran Palmer is published by HarperCollins and is in store now. Matt, both in his role at Noffs Foundation and HRA was recently one of the driving forces behind Australia’s first pill-testing trial. Matt can be found at: twitter.com/mattnoffs noffs.org.au/blog
July 19, 2020
#110 - Water Fasting And Relational Polarity | Tom Ahern & Siobhan Lou
Siobhan Lou is a Breathwork Meditation Healer, all the way from the Scottish Highlands! After involving herself in a few Breathwork classes in Bali—whilst working as a head trainer/coach at a functional training facility—she was deeply moved and is now inspired to help others gain a greater sense of self-awareness, practice being mindful and reconcile with past traumas and “stuck energy”, having completed her Healing training in New Mexico, USA. Siobhan works hard to provide people with the tools to heal themselves, leading to greater fulfilment, authenticity and clarity. In doing so, Siobhan is excited to help people holistically, through movement and mindfulness, cultivating lives with purpose. Siobhan also loves her two incredibly cute Beagles, ‘Archie’ and ‘Abbey’, as well as drinking coffee with her partner. You can out more about breathwork and Siobhan on Instagram: @siobhanloubreathwork
July 12, 2020
#109 - How To Stop Procrastinating | Tom Ahern
On this weeks episode of the podcast I talk about the ways you can stop procrastinating. I believe there are two ways to stop procrastinating: one of them is to reduce the chaos of your To Do list or schedule. What I mean by this is that often times we like to get all of our tasks done in one day and that inevitably leads to disappointment because our expectations have not been met. So to set more realistic expectations it can be a great way to simply reduce the amount of tasks needing completion per day so that you actually can move the needle and progress. Often times also our specific tasks are far too ambiguous and this leads to too many decisions that need to be made which also leads to procrastination because the more decisions we have to make the more energy we use. If our tasks are far more specific, we will be much more likely to get them done because we won't have to make so many decisions. In a sense, we will be able to flow into task completion. So have some foresight when you are preparing for your To Do list. I recommend organising your To Do list or scheduled the night before so that you know exactly what we have to do the following day and can simply get stuck into doing it. Accountability can also be a great way to keep you on the path. Be honest, and let a friend or someone you trust know that you would like to have these things done and if you don't have them done, come up with some dire consequences for your procrastination. Have some fun with it though! After all, this is about you becoming a better version of yourself and what could be more enriching than that!
July 05, 2020
#108 - You Can Heal Yourself! I Chats With Nicole, The Holistic Psychologist
Dr. Nicole LePera is a Holistic Psychologist who believes that mental wellness is for everyone. She evolved her more traditional training from Cornell University and The New School to one that acknowledges the connection between the mind and body. Dr. LePera views mental and physical struggles from a whole person perspective and works to identify the underlying physical and emotional causes. She understands that balance is an integral part of wellness and empowers individuals to heal themselves, supporting them on their wellness journeys. Dr. LePera founded the Mindful Healing Center in Center City Philadelphia. She recently expanded her work online creating a platform for teaching these often overlooked components of mental wellness to individuals and practitioners around the world.
June 28, 2020
#107 - How To Contain Your Emotions
This episode is a breakdown of some of the topics discussed in my third book, "Yes I'm Fine, Just Thinking". A pertinent snippet reads: "We must cultivate self-awareness but if we do not integrate what we learn, we will remain depressed, anxious, unsure, existentially confused and ruminant. We must apply what we learn about ourselves and the world we inhabit swiftly and forthrightly—stumbling and failing inevitably—so that personal growth may ensue. Many of us recognise the importance of knowledge, both within and without, but rarely are we taught how to integrate it, thereby consolidating intelligence into wisdom. As Jim Kwik so eloquently states: “Knowledge is not power—it has the potential to be power, but only becomes power when you apply and use it. Remember: unless you apply what you’re learning, your reading will be shelf-help over self-help. Nothing works unless you work, everything changes when you act.” It is, as Kwik alludes to, all well and good to read a book, engage in debate, meditate, entertain periods of isolation and solitude, journal, speak with a therapist, digest psychoactive chemicals and dispense with hobbies and routines but if we do not apply what we learn, we will not change. By definition, action precedes change. Thinking, alone, will get us nowhere, despite the fact that thinking is by all means a necessary re-navigation tool, both evolutionarily and psychologically speaking. But we must remember that thoughts do not determine identity. Actions determine identity because to act means to value one thought—or many—over another at any given time."
June 25, 2020
#106 - Mental Health Is A Skill | Chat With Osher
Osher Günsberg (born Andrew Günsberg), widely recognised by his former stage name Andrew G, is a British-born Australian television and radio presenter and journalist who is best known as the host of the reality TV series The Bachelor Australia, The Bachelorette Australia and Bachelor in Paradise Australia. He is also the narrator of the factual TV series Bondi Rescue as well as the host of the music talent show The Masked Singer Australia.
June 21, 2020
#105 - Let Go Of The Past | Chat With Melissa
Melissa is a certified Neuro-Linguistics Programming, Hypnotherapy, Timeline Therapy Practitioner, Soul Realignment® Practitioner, Trainer and Creator and Certified (IICT) Trainer of Root-Cause Therapy. In 2016 she Co-Founded The Centre for Healing in Australia. She focuses on the emotions around our decisions and has spent the last 5 years refining her healing practice and combining countless modalities to be able to innovate the best therapies deliver exceptional results for all of her clients. She is intelligent, yet caring and upholds her focus on creating a safe and non-judgmental space for her clients to be able to heal from trauma and decisions in their life to stop negative patterns and start living from love, rather than fear. From relationships, to addictions, anxiety, depression, financial blocks and other mental health issues.
June 18, 2020
#104 - The Healing Power Of Breathwork I David Elliott
There are many blocks on the healing path. Each block has its own story; hearing into them is David Elliott’s gift. Author, teacher and healer David Elliott has spent over two decades helping and inspiring clients from around the world to heal their deepest fears, blocks and negative beliefs. Though no client is the same, the formula he uses never varies. "My primary work as a healer is to remind and reconnect people to the power of love. Self-love is the starting point for anyone seeking healing in their life."
June 14, 2020
#103 - Getting Out Of Your Comfort Zone | Chats With Chris
Chris Desmond sits down to conversations with guests to explore those uncomfortable areas we all have. We’ll talk about uncomfortable things that they’ve done or are in the process of doing. We’ll talk about uncomfortable ideas that they’ve had, or ideas that challenge society’s comfortable beliefs. Because everyone has a different comfort zone and different threshold for discomfort we’re going to speak with a wide array of people from a whole lot different walks of life to get their perspectives.
June 11, 2020
#102 - Embracing Who You Really Are | Chats With Conni
Conni is a writer, YouTuber, photographer and entrepreneur on a mission to help others explore themselves deeply, overcome inner blocks and share their creative gifts with the world. She is passionate about mindfulness, breathwork, plant medicine, psychology, philosophy and the creative process. Many years of depression, anxiety and chronic pain motivated her to experiment with endless healing modalities and learn from a variety of teachers all around the world. She runs the CREATE podcast and is the co-creator of The Breath Circle. Website: www.conni.me / Instagram: @conni.biesalski / Twitter: @connibie / YouTube: youtube.com/connibiesalski
June 07, 2020
#101 - Rewrite The Story You Tell Yourself I Chats With Heidi
Heidi is a psychotherapist and counsellor with 17 years experience in mental health counselling and trauma therapy. Heidi has worked in both the US and Australia and has extensive experience delivering therapeutic services to children and families. She works in private practice in Melbourne and tours with her tailored talks specialising in children's issues, and their solutions. Follow Heidi on Instagram @heidirogers_
June 04, 2020
#100 - Learn How To Train Your Mind | Tom & Nick
Nick is a former recon soldier and now the founder of MyndFit which is like a mental gym where people learn how to be mentally stronger, fitter and more able to deal with the day to day challenges we all encounter.
May 31, 2020
#99 - We Have All Been Traumatised | Chats With Ryan
Ryan is Co-Founder and CEO at The Centre for Healing. His passion for helping people with Mental Illness and Addiction comes from his own pain. Ryan suffered from anxiety for as long as he could remember and that manifested in many destructive patterns throughout his life, culminating in a hardcore drug addiction to Methamphetamine & GHB. Whilst this addiction took everything material from his life, it was also Ryan's greatest blessing. He was forced to face up to his mental and emotional demons, and he not only overcame the addiction but also his anxiety to feel peace for the first time. This led him to completely immerse himself in how people end up in emotional pain and how it’s possible for anyone to be free from it. This led him to opening The Centre for Healing, to help people who have found themselves in the pain he once was. He has successfully helped many people in getting past their Addictions & Mental Health issues through his experience, understanding and knowledge.
May 28, 2020
#98 - The Power Of Perception | Interviewed By Marcus Yeo
Dr Marcus Yeo is a Chiropractor and Wellness Clinic Owner. He Graduated in 2006 winning multiple awards including the prestigious Graduate Of The Year Award. Worked as a PT and group exercise instructor whilst studying and continued whilst practicing as a chiropractor which allowed for a great appreciation for the impacts of lifestyle modification on the clinical presentation of people. As such moved on to create a lifestyle based wellness clinic in Eltham 6 years ago that is currently called MY Chiropractic and soon to be renamed The Village Well. He also has a podcast called Superwell that allows Marcus to take the things that are benefiting his local community to the world wide community. You can find him at @docyeo on Instagram, or at his website www.marcusyeo.com.
May 24, 2020
#97 - The Importance Of Yoga | Chats With Jack
Welcome back everybody to the Mind Mate podcast. This week's episode is very exciting. On today's podcast, I interviewed a monk (or at least that’s how I view him!) named Jack. We met coaching CrossFit a few years back and remained friends through the socials, bounded by a love of philosophy, psychology and spirituality! On the episode we spoke about Buddhism, spirituality, and Yoga. He's very much into movement practices so please have a listen to this episode. Enjoy!
May 21, 2020
#96 - How To Deal With Self-limiting Beliefs | Chats With Heidi Rogers
Welcome everyone to this week's very exciting episode with my friend and former psychotherapist, Heidi Rogers! On today's podcast, Heidi and I talk about life's uncertainty leading to anxiousness and sleepless nights. We also discuss some of the self-limiting beliefs that prevent us from doing, and being who we could be! Please listen with your undivided attention as Heidi’s wisdom and insights are both deep and profound! Furthermore, her tools and practical advice about how to deal with traumatic experience isn’t to be missed! Enjoy the show!
May 14, 2020
#95 - The Root Cause of Anxiety | Chats With Georgie
Welcome back to another exciting episode of The Mind Mate podcast. On today's episode, I was given the chance to be interviewed by Naturopath, Georgie on her show, the Anxiety Reset podcast. Since we had similar experiences, we talked about the cause of our anxiety and the inevitable pain it brings, as well as the incredible sense of meaning and purpose it ensues. I had an opportunity to relay my story and throw some advice out there that helped me! Enjoy the show!
May 07, 2020
#94 - Fill Your Cup I Interview With Paul From 'Hero Tribe'
In this video, Paul explore's giving to yourself so you are better equipped to give to your family. "Tom Ahern has a refreshing way of articulating the inner workings of the human mind in relation to men and their needs."
April 30, 2020
#93 - Inside the breathwork shed! I Siobhan Macleod
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April 24, 2020
#92 - Boost your immunity from the inside! I Chats with Mac
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April 20, 2020
#91 - You need to know your partner's love languages!
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April 16, 2020
#90 - From Schizophrenia To Superpower with Michelle Hammer
Turn Your Mental Illness Into A Strength! Michelle Hammer is a Schizophrenia Activist and created and founded the company Schizophrenic.NYC. She is an NYC native and was featured in the WebMD documentary Voices, which was nominated for a Tribeca X Award at the Tribeca Film Festival 2018. Michelle has also been featured in Mashable, The Daily Mail, Stylist, and Buzzfeed to name a few. Michelle was diagnosed with Schizophrenia at 22, after a misdiagnosis of Bipolar at age 18. At 27, Michelle decided to use her artistic talents, and fearless personality to do something that could benefit the mental health community. In May 2015, she founded the company Schizophrenic.NYC, which is a clothing line with the mission of reducing stigma by starting conversations about mental health.
April 12, 2020
#89 - AdventureFit Radio Throwback I Andy Weir
April 07, 2020
#88 - Breathwork For Betrayal I Siobhan Macleod
April 04, 2020
#87 - AdventureFit Radio Throwback! I Geraint Lewis
Geraint F. Lewis is a Welsh astrophysicist, who is best known for his work on dark energy, gravitational lensing and galactic cannibalism. Lewis is a Professor of Astrophysics at the Sydney Institute for Astronomy, part of the University of Sydney's School of Physics.
March 29, 2020
#86 - Eliminate anxiety by healing the gut with Georgie Collinson
Georgie Collinson is an Anxiety Mindset Coach, Gut Health Expert & Nutritionist. After years of struggling with her own anxiety in her early 20s and finding no relief from conventional methods, she finally discovered a lasting breakthrough with a holistic, combined approach. This developed into the Anxiety Reset Method, a system that considers anxiety from the thoughts you think, the food you eat, the state of your gut health, your hormones and lifestyle. Originally from Melbourne, Australia, Georgie operates completely online and sees clients around the world. You can learn more about her work on Instagram @georgiethenaturopath or at www.georgiecollinson.com and sign up for the free Calm In 5 Days email challenge.
March 27, 2020
#85 - Comedy is everyone's game with Adam Rozenbachs
Adam Rozenbachs - Stand up comedian, writer, broadcaster, actor, voiceover artist - has steadily risen to become one of Australia's funniest and most consistent performers, writers and broadcasters.
March 26, 2020
#84 - How to deal with anxiety and depression I Tales of personal experience
Anxiety and depression are often considered taboo topics. In this podcast Siobhan and I talk about our personal experiences with both. These are interesting times for us all and with greater awareness of the psyche we will be better equipped to deal with the uncertainty of the global situation.
March 25, 2020
#83 - Keys to a long, happy life with my INCREDIBLE 89 Year Old Grandma!
My grandma is an exceptional woman. She is 89 years old and one of the most social, intelligent and positively minded individuals I have ever met. She has kept a healthy diet for nearly her whole life and constantly is on the pursuit of learning. She has been through, and seen it all – from the war too challenging break ups￼ and trauma - yet she still stands! I deeply admire my grandma and am also lucky enough to call her￼ a friend. She is someone who might think we can all learn from about how to live and enriching, meaningful and abundant life. Thank you Grandma, love you loads!
March 17, 2020
#82 - From losing both parents to starting a business I Oli's INCREDIBLE journey
Oli's journey has been absolutely incredible. He lost his parents within nine months of each other and went through a serious depression. He began to experiment with drugs and found it very difficult to leave his room on many days. Then he was diagnosed with skin cancer and that completely changed his life, that was his rock bottom and the moment that set him on a more conscious journey to help others detailing his experience as he went along. Oli is the co-founder of impactful athletics, and online recovery program business aimed at helping people move through traumatic experiences as they use high intensity exercise to cope with the pain. Oli is an incredible individual and his story will change your life.
March 10, 2020
#81 - What Is Love? Chats with Siobhan Macleod
Relationships certainly aren't what they used to be. Romanticism is beginning to waiver as authenticity begins to and continues to rise. People want to know the truth. In this conversation Siobhan and I break down how we mediate our relationships in our quest to live humbly, with the attainment of individual and collective fulfilment as our personal and interpersonal goals.
March 05, 2020
#80 - Living An Examined Life With Nick Dunin & Ky Murray
Float tank experiences, psychedelics and positive energy—here we go!
February 27, 2020
#79 - Introduction To "Behind The Curtain"
From an evolutionary, neuropsychological and spiritual perspective Behind The Curtain: Cultivating Conscious Awareness explores the concept of ‘Identity’: why it’s malleable, why we lose it, what happens when we do and how to build a new one. Tom utilises anecdote, narrative, mythology, robust psychological research as well as spiritual ‘truths’ and evolutionary frameworks to explain what it means to be human, in so far as we can conceptualise ourselves. Behind The Curtain aims to solve perhaps the most fundamental question itching beneath the surface of every existentialist’s skin: “What is the meaning of life?” Across multiple levels of analysis, Tom believes the answer to that question comes down to cultivating meaning within our own lives. Tom’s contention is that meaning is constructed, not found, through what an individual decides to give the most meaning to—what he or she chooses to value above all else. Thereby through the formation of a value hierarchy, purposeful action manifests itself and existential—let alone nihilistic—angst is reduced. Tom shares his personal experiences and journey: his pain, anxiety, mental health issues and recovery as a way of exploring the personal and collective psyche. He hopes to convey the importance of clarity and goal-directed behaviour—life jackets that help keep individuals afloat whilst swimming within the sea of life’s infinite potential for action. Ultimately, the best way to find a path is to create one.
February 21, 2020
#78 - How To Actually Change Your Life With Craig Harper
Craig Harper is one of Australia’s leading presenters, writers and educators in the areas of health, high-performance, resilience, self-management, leadership, corporate change, communication, stress management, addiction and personal transformation. Craig has been an integral part of the Australian health and fitness industry since 1982 and in that time has worked as an Exercise Scientist, Corporate Speaker, Consultant, University Lecturer, AFL Conditioning Coach, Radio Host, TV Presenter, Writer and successful Business Owner. In 1990 Craig established Harper’s Personal Training, which evolved into one of the most successful businesses of its kind and inhabited the Australian fitness landscape for almost a quarter of a century. Craig currently hosts a successful Podcast called ‘The You Project’, is partnering with the Neuroscience Team at Monash University, exploring the spectrum of human thinking and behaviour, with a specific focus on addiction and its treatment. He’s also completing a Ph.D. in Neuroscience, exploring the role of motivation in creating lasting change. Craig can be heard weekly on various radio stations around Australia and hosted his own weekly show on Melbourne radio called ‘the Science of Sport’ for a decade. For two years he was the host of Foxtel’s Living Life Now and for three years Craig filled an on-air role on Network Ten’s ‘9AM’ morning show as their resident Fitness Expert and Performance Coach. Craig currently fills an on-air role as a presenter on a lifestyle show called ‘Get a Life’, airing on Foxtel. As well as having written for the Herald Sun newspaper, numerous magazines and authoring seven books, Craig was also the director of Health and Wellness for Dayhab; one of Australia’s leading addiction treatment facilities for three years. As an Exercise Scientist, Craig has worked with many professional athletes and teams including St. Kilda F.C., Melbourne Vixens, Melbourne Phoenix, Port Melbourne F.C., Nissan Motorsport and a long list of Olympians and world-class athletes competing in a broad range of sports. While still working with teams and individuals on a regular basis, these days Craig delivers more than one hundred corporate presentations annually.
February 17, 2020
#77 - From Church And Relationship To Freedom of Self With Zach Jewell
From Zach's Website - https://www.intothedarkblue.com/ Join us as we pair what it means to be masculine in today's world with carefully curated adult beverages. A pub-talk, of sorts, where open and honest dialogue can shed light on men's mental health issues. Promoting positive masculinity whilst attempting to find correlations between the drink and the stigma, if any. Here, where you come from matters. How you're moving forward matters, too. Somewhere in between, before, and after makes up this Dark Blue. It's a bit of the unknown coalescing into how we shape the things we think we know. Are you man enough to journey Into the Dark Blue?
February 08, 2020
#76 - Jason Khalipa will show you what TRUE productivity looks like
Jason Khalipa is a former American professional CrossFit Games athlete and 2008 CrossFit Games champion. Khalipa also received the Spirit of the Games award at the 2009 CrossFit Games and is the founder of NCFIT.
January 30, 2020
#75 - Self discovery is KING
I got to sit down with my good friend Bill to talk about all things mind related! Enjoy!
January 27, 2020
#74 - Explore the depths of your soul with Mac Rundle
Mac speaks about his business, "Unrivalled Being". Then he speaks about meditation. and his experience during a Vipassana retreat!
January 23, 2020
#73 - Stefanos Sifandos WILL help you lean into who you are!
Stefanos has been immersed in deep men’s empowerment work and the exploration of intimate and sacred relationships. Merging the best of eastern and western methodologies and philosophies to promote balance, union and power in life and love. Using integrative techniques and methods, such as neural-empowerment, Shamanic Praxis, holotropic and biodynamic breath work, trauma release and integration, western psychology, Eastern Mysticism and more, Stefanos has created programs, models and systems to enhance the quality of your life, your intimate relationships and in essence bring you closer to your potential. Having worked with thousands of men and women from all over the world, elite special forces soldiers, Olympic gold medalists, some of the best fighters (multiple world champions) and leveraging physical challenge as an opportunity for transformation and expansion, Stefanos has learned much about the male and masculine condition and as a result deep insight in to the feminine and female condition. Having also traversed the depths of his own pain, suicidal thoughts and fears profoundly, He has overcome destructive patterns and has faced and overcome multiple ‘ego deaths’. Stefanos understands there is difference between culturally defined masculinity and sacred masculinity. He further explores what it means to be a GOOD man and to be GOOD at being a man in today’s world. By restructuring and reframing his own masculinity and movement through the world as a man relating to himself, his environment, women and his purpose, He has discovered and created methodologies and innovative models for navigating the often-difficult path of contemporary manhood and intimate relationships. Stefanos places his focus and energy towards evolving the nature relationships in contemporary times. An advocate and proponent of “sacred union”, Stefanos believes cultivating healthy relationships to self, ideas, others, our lovers and the Earth will liberate humanity towards a new empowered expression of itself. Through a deeper connection to God, Earth and self, Stefanos realised the power of the human spirit. We often avoid challenge, fear and pain, however for the modern man (now more than ever), they are tools for transformation that help us heal universally.
January 20, 2020
#72 - The cold WILL change your life with Wim Hof
This was a legendary episode and something I just had to release on the mind mate podcast! A few years ago my good friend Bill Kerr and I got to sit down and chat with the legendary Wim Hof! He genuinely needs no introduction. I seriously hope you enjoy the show!
January 09, 2020
#71 - Every relationship needs these three things!
In this episode of the podcast, my partner Siobhan and I sat down to chat with Sarah on her podcast 'Mind Gold'. We spoke about our personal experiences and lessons learned from our relationship as well as what the latest studies suggest to implement in order to lead a successful relationship. Much of my teachings have come from the Gottman Institute so if you are interested in relationship therapy, I strongly recommend you check them out!
January 05, 2020
#70 - How understanding anxiety WILL help you
It's important to take the time learning about how anxiety effects you. What does it tell you? What do you do because of it? When is it worse? When is it manageable? Do certain people trigger your anxious thoughts? Ask yourself why. Get to know yourself on this deep level. The more you understand, the better prepared you'll be. Get to know how your mind works. Diary writing doesn't just have to be about emotions and events.
December 29, 2019
#69 - How to develop a framework for your life
Three things you need to know: where you are, where you want to be and how you're going to get there. In this workshop podcast episode, I break it down!
December 20, 2019
#68 - The suicide epidemic, and what to do about it with Nick Bracks
"Nick Bracks has spent the past decade as a Passionate Advocate for Mental Health Issues, spreading his message all over the world. In line with his work in the entertainment industry; as an Actor and Personality, Nick uses his voice and platform to educate through mediums such as his training company, seminars, public awareness, supporting initiatives, and day to day conversations. Having conducted over 1,000 mental health seminars and training workshops, Nick’s message has been delivered at some of the world’s largest employers, government organisations, schools and universities. Nick’s early career in the fashion and entertainment industries ultimately led him to his ongoing work in mental health awareness. He earned international modelling contracts and made regular appearances on Australian television as a presenter as well as a personality. During his time on Dancing with the Stars, Nick publicly spoke about his experience with depression and anxiety for the first time. Nick has advocated alongside some of Australia’s largest mental health-focussed organisations by candidly recounting the mental health issues he has struggled with since age 11, including a particularly difficult period when injury forced an early end to his initial career as a competitive athlete." Source: TEDx Talks
December 16, 2019
#67 - How to help those contemplating suicide with Kevin Briggs
Kevin Briggs is a retired Sergeant with the California Highway Patrol. He is a trained and experienced speaker with the goal of raising awareness about mental health and wellness, crisis management, and suicide prevention.
December 09, 2019
#66 - The Mind Mate Initiation Program
This program has officially launched and is very dear to my heart! It's what I would have loved when my mental health first took a turn for the worst. This is an eight-week program comprising of four main pillars: Pain, Myth, Hero and Dharma. The program is designed to help you cultivate greater self-awareness - understand why you are who you currently are - then design a new life based upon who you'd like to be. We are fundamentally the stories we tell ourselves. We act-out those stories. What if you weren't happy with the story you were telling yourself? It might be better to write a new story and become a hero.
November 16, 2019
#65 - Recovery From Anxiety Disorders With Renee Tsatsis
Renee Tsatsis is the ARCVic Helpline Co-ordinator. A bit about ARCVIC: The Anxiety Recovery Centre Victoria (ARCVic) is a state-wide, specialist mental health organisation, providing support, recovery and educational services to people and families living with anxiety disorders. We aim to support and equip people with knowledge and skills that will build resilience and recovery and reduce the impact of anxiety disorders.
November 10, 2019
#64 - Waking Up With The Woke Blokes
Introducing my chat with Nick Sutherland from Myndfit and Ryan Hassan from The Centre For Healing! From The Centre For Healing: At The Centre for Healing we pride ourselves in offering comprehensive programs which effectively help everyday people get to the cause and offer long-term recovery from addictions and mental health in a supportive and caring environment. Co-Founder Ryan Hassan has his own experience in recovering from his own addiction and mental health issues. His purpose and passion is to assist others to effectively and quickly get through their inner issues to achieve their external goals. He is often requested in the media for expert advice (Herald Sun, Fox FM and more) and he’s highly sought after for speaking. He leads a passionate team of therapists who are both experienced and compassionate. https://thecentreforhealing.com.au/ From MyndFit: Nick Sutherland first started ‘State of Mind’ in 2009, working from a home office in Mount Martha on the Mornington Peninsula, specialising in helping people to heal and overcome trauma in order to find peace and happiness. Whilst he enjoyed this work, Nick started to see patterns in that much of his clients ‘suffering’ was connected to how they processed experiences and ultimately, how they perceived the world. The patterns also highlighted how the symptomatic problems clients presented with kept stemming from the same 5 core issues. This wasn’t in just 1 or 2 clients, but hundreds. With this in mind, Nick started building a therapeutic framework based on the methodology of the “5 Fundamental Principles” as he called them, creating 3 programs that varied in length but all used the same methodology. https://myndfit.com.au/
November 03, 2019
#63 - The Art Of Non-Attachment With Vijay Ravikumar
Vijay Ravikumar (Victorious Son of the Sun in Sanskrit) is the Float Guru. He is the being behind the revolutionary art of studying 'The Self' and "Transformation of Consciousness' using the sensory deprivation tanks. For over 3 years his passion has helped people to raise their consciousness and take their lives to a new magnification - in the areas that matter most: their inner peace, fulfilment, personal relationships with themselves and the world around them and wellbeing. Vijay has clocked numerous hours in the tank and has developed concrete techniques and programs to help clients from various backgrounds. One of the things he is most proud of is his pioneering work on understanding consciousness using floatation tanks and mapping out the inner universe to expand our awareness. His core strategies for creating breakthroughs are derived by combining modern tools such as sensory deprivation tanks with ideas from ancient knowledge such as Vedas and Taoism. From his 'Brahmin' roots, he derives ancient wisdom, and through his engineering background, he utilises the beauty of modern science. Currently residing in Melbourne, Vijay is on a mission to educate the world on floating as a tool for transformation of consciousness rather than a 'tub to relax.' "Making a positive impact in another humans life is one of the best feelings one can experience," says Vijay Along with life coaching and floating, Vijay is a professional DJ and a Psychedelic Trance music producer under the project name Cymatic. Vijay's kind, compassionate nature and burning desire to help everyone unleash their full potential is the driving force behind The Float Guru. His favourite quote - "Nothing matters and everything is for the best result", The Float Guru His Mantra : ‘Causeless Joy’
October 28, 2019
#62 - Becoming A Mindful Man: Interview With Tyson Venebles
The tables turned! Now it's my turn to be in the hot seat!
October 13, 2019
#61 - Meditation Is A Must!
"Meditation is the practice of enduring psychological pain and discomfort. No matter how you do it, nothing could be more important." - Tom Ahern
October 06, 2019
#60 - Turning Men Into Heroes With Paul Glezer
Paul has recently experienced fatherhood and all that it comes with it. He realised that it is a profound shift for many fathers and appreciates that many things change as a result of being a dad. The first thing he noticed when his friends began to have children was that their health was the first thing to be sacrificed. This inspired him and his business partner Daniel to create Hero. A program specifically designed to help high-achieving dad’s lose fat and enjoy peak energy levels while giving to their family and excelling in their career. He has used his 15 years of knowledge and experience in strength and conditioning as well as mobility training and combined them with the teaching of Holistic Life Coaching to guide his clients to overcome limitations and soar. Use the code 'Mind Mate' to receive 20% off Paul's online programming. Come on dad mates, get to it!
October 01, 2019
#59 - Becoming Who You Were Born To Be With Elise Carr
Another Mind Mate Podcast veteran is back! Elise Carr jumps on the show again and this time, it was in-person! A bit about Elise (taken from her website): "The blending of what I offer you is Like Psychology for the Soul in a modern world – honouring your physical, emotional, mental and spiritual layers; what has brought you thus far, where you are and, what needs healing, clearing and guidance to shift from darkness to Light, all ultimately in alignment with your Soul’s plan of fulfilment. With unwavering presence, fierce dedication and spirited insight, I guide inspirational souls on a purposeful life journey away from old patterns, habits and illusion, and into Truth, Love-Wisdom and authentic Beauty. Healing, Balancing and Harmonising the physical body, emotions and heart with the clarity of mind. Guiding you deeper into 'Knowing Thyself as Soul'; part of the entire cosmic fabric of all that is. If we get a bit mystical you could imagine; at the entrance to your inner world I stand as a temple maiden inviting you to journey together, with me as the light bearer in your darkness. Illuminating the way for you to live life as your most authentic, unique self. Healed, Liberated and Aligned, here to serve the world with the skills and gifts that ONLY YOU have, from a place of Consciousness, Heart and Mind, united under the impulse of your very own Soul."
September 22, 2019
#58 - Mind Your Breath With Richard Burrows
Richard Burrows is a corporate headhunter and former security intelligence professional who now works with high performing individuals seeking greater physical, mental and emotional resilience. He has a wealth of experience operating in high-pressure and high-stakes situations and teaches a variety of breathing methods to ensure peak preparation, performance and recovery.
September 15, 2019
#57 - Think About Happiness Logically Mates!
This is an excerpt from chapter two of my upcoming book, ‘A Seeker’s Path’. I recently followed the Dalai Lama on Instagram (100% get around the big man if you haven’t already) and couldn’t help but write about him. He seems so bloody jolly and, as the saying goes, “I’ll have what [he’s] having.” I came to realise that “what he’s having” took a long time for him to get. This is my take on mental health practice: The Dalai Lama tells us that, “Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.” He tells us to, “Be kind whenever possible” and that, “sometimes not getting what you want is a wonderful stroke of luck.” Excuse me, Mr. Lama, what about Jet Ski’s, fancy dinners and Instagram likes! Both Ronnie Coleman and the Dalai Lama have one thing in common: Discipline. Judging by standard Buddhist practice, the path to enlightenment — freedom from suffering — is not an easy trod. Waking up at dawn every morning, meditating for hours, removing all sense of individuality i.e. shaving one’s hair, wearing the same red robe every day, abstaining from sex, worldly pleasures and committing to the spiritual path are all examples, at least in my books, of seriously rigorous mental health practices! Unfortunately, human beings are not entitled either to perfect mental or physical health, which begs the question: How mentally and/or physically healthy do we want to be? How many hours are we willing to put in to achieve states of consciousness akin to Buddhist monks, for example? What are our physical health goals? Are we willing to devote hours of practice to improve our flexibility, strength, speed, stamina and joint health? For how long must we meditate each day, write in our diaries, authentically connect with others and work to release our traumas from the past in order to attain a mental state congruent with our own definition of happiness? Ultimately, this is for us to decide. Maybe people become monks because they’re in really bad ways? How else can one know happiness like that without having once experienced terrible psychological pain. In any case, just as a Bench Press pumps the chest, meditation pumps the mind. Choose your tools. Seek and you will find.
September 08, 2019
#56 - Learning To Open Your Heart With Erick Godsey
2 x guest of the show, Mr. Erick Godsey returns for another cracking episode on The Mind Mate Podcast. I love going deep with this bloke but, this time, I wanted to hear more about who Erick is, day by day. We got into some of the things he's struggling with in life at the moment (we've all got them mates) as well as some of the more recent lessons he's learnt. Within this, Erick spoke about his challenges with love and heart opening as well as his ability to let others in, stemming from who he was as a child and how that child developed a persona worthy of receiving love. One of my biggest take aways from this podcast was the idea that, beneath the chains of shame, need for validation—all the stuff we do to receive something or someone we think will fill our holes—a God (inside us) awaits its freedom, ready to dance for infinity and beyond! In other words, we got philosophical! Enjoy!
August 25, 2019
#55 - Can MDMA Help Heal Trauma?
“I think, when used correctly, MDMA could really help a lot of people. Maybe it could help those suffering from an existential crisis? Maybe it could help those that are struggling to find meaning in their lives. It’s not that we explicitly recognise a conscious will to live but we do have desires and incentives for the potential of self growth. We want to be better and when we struggle to find meaning, we stop caring about growth.” Writing this blog and reflecting upon this experience has been very eye-opening. It’s taken me a good few weeks to break down and comprehend the experience itself. From a logical perspective, the MDMA made me feel great and spending time with myself—feeling great—produced a positive outcome. However, I choose to recognise the experience as spiritually significant because it feels right to me. I think the MDMA did split different aspects of my consciousness. I think its intention was to outline and compare them. It taught me that I am capable of loving people and myself so much more than I do. It taught me that it is possible to reconcile the past; to move on and to accept it. Ultimately, it comes down to choice. We can choose to live in scarcity and fear in the assumption that the world is a frightening place and that good things happen only to those who take, steal and live through their ego (without any awareness as to the other aspects of ‘self’). Or we can choose to give and to share and love without any expectation or desire. I learnt that to be happy, one must be grateful. I learnt that to be happy, one must give. I consider myself a happy man and yet I have never felt happiness like I did when connecting with that entity of love; my higher self.
August 15, 2019
#54 - Integrating Trauma With Michael Burge
Michael Burge is Current Director of the Australian College of Trauma Treatment and has had over 25 years experience in psychology, counselling, education and training. Michael has published extensively both nationally and internationally in the field of PTSD, with a particular focus on psychosocial issues affecting Vietnam Veterans and their families. He introduced PTSD treatment methods to most Melbourne Universities as guest Lecturer and in 1993 introduced short course, skills- based training for the treatment of PTSD into Australia.In the 2010 Australia Day Honours, Michael was awarded the Order of Australia Medal for service to psychology & the community for the development of training & treatment protocols for trauma. He is also a die-hard Collingwood fan, loves coffee and is incredibly humble! Enjoy this one mates!
August 10, 2019
#53 - Purpose! And How To Find Yours: Me On The Mind Gold Podcast!
I was lucky enough to be interviewed by Sarah and James from the Mind Gold podcast. We touched on a number of bizarre and legendary topics like getting probed by aliens, embracing fear, ways to find purpose and meaning as well as why challenges that cause physiological changes in the body are a one way ticket to happiness town.
July 28, 2019
#52 - Heal Trauma With The Breath With Erin Telford
Erin Telford is a Breathwork facilitator and healer, acupuncturist, Reiki Master, herbalist and a teacher of David Elliott's Level One Breathwork Healer Training. Her work guides people to look within, open their hearts and heal their relationship with themselves. Her group sessions, trainings and retreats empower her clients to connect to their innate wisdom so that they can find the answers they are looking for. I knew Erin was someone I wanted to chat with from the moment my lovely partner Siobhan told me about her! We ALL have trauma—trauma is subjective—and trauma affects us all in different ways. Coming to a deeper understanding of the ways it does, is (I would say) vital for our wellbeing, sense of self, purpose and connectedness with others. IN THIS PODCAST, we go fucking deep (that’s the way we like it!). We get right into the nitty-gritty’s exploring our personal and collective shadows, discussing the scientific and spiritual approach to healing trauma through the breath as well as what it is we’re all fundamentally trying to do… be happy and live meaningful lives with the people we love. Enjoy mates!
July 26, 2019
#51 - How To Fulfil Your Potential With Tony Doherty
Tony is the owner of Doherty’s Gyms around Australia, a highly sought after public speaker, interviewer, and media personality. Above all, he is a generous, humble and motivating individual. I love talking with him. We head back into Tony's history including how he came from humble beginnings with a clear vision and how that vision became a reality, culminating in a befriending with Arnold Schwarzenegger. Together, they run the Arnold Classic Fitness Expo's. Tony's passion, pragmatic approach to life and positivity make me want to interview him regularly. Every time I leave having learnt a bit more about what it means to truly fulfil your potential in life.
July 23, 2019
#50 - The Breathwork Shed With Siobhan Macleod
Siobhan Macleod (@siobhan_macleod) is opening a business! Coming early September, The Breathwork Shed uses a specific form of meditation (breathwork) to help people come to know themselves a little more personally, understand how things that have happened to them in the past have influenced their train of thought, behaviours and habits AND the best thing is, #theshed is a community of legends going through the process together. THIS WEEK’S PODCAST explored breathwork: What it is, how it works, what comes up, how you come to know yourself and how you can create a better life based on what you now know!
July 18, 2019
#49 - Run Your Own Race With Steve Moneghetti
Stephen James "Steve" Moneghetti, AM, is an Australian long-distance runner and physical health consultant. Moneghetti has a degree in civil engineering, a graduate diploma in education and an honorary doctorate from the University of Ballarat. This was a legendary podcast and, believe it or not, we hardly spoke about his on-field performances! We got right into the philosophy/psychology of how to live life by finding your lane and sticking to it.
June 30, 2019
#48 - Getting To Know Your Inner World With Grant Moon
Grant is a holistic psychotherapist and a member of the Australian Somatic Psychotherapy Association (ASPA). He has been a holistic educator and workshop facilitator for over 10 years. His focus is on the healing of the "traumatised soul", and holding the space that enables the safety and support necessary for change and growth to occur. Head to http://www.consciouscounselling.com.au/ if you are keen to work with Grant :).
June 23, 2019
#47 - Addressing The Root Cause With Adam Szmerling
Born and bred in Melbourne, Adam is a fully qualified clinical psychotherapist. He owns Bayside Psychotherapy and publishes much of its content. He's been practicing in the Bayside area for 13 years. His main treatment orientation is psychoanalysis (Lacanian). You can find more information about him here: https://www.baysidepsychotherapy.com You can find and subscribe to this podcast and all other Mind Mate podcasts in audio form via audio platforms including iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher etc. Keep up to date with what's happening in my world through Instagram @tom.ahern or via my Facebook page /tom.ahern.life Additionally, you can download a copy of my book 'Yes I'm fine, just tired' on kindle, audiobook or purchase a paperback copy through amazon by searching Tom Ahern and / or 'Yes I'm fine, just tired'.
June 10, 2019
#46 - Carl Jung's Insights: Transcend The Past, Step Into Your Future
My take on Carl Jung's insights, stepping into your future by becoming who you could be and reconciling with the past. Carl Jung said, “What did you do as a child that made the hours pass like minutes? Herein lies the key to your earthly pursuits.” It’s so powerful when you, in the most productive sense of the expression, ‘let your mind wander’. And I mean really let it wander. Get rid of all the distractions that are disallowing it to go where it actually wants to go and you’ll learn a thing or two. Either those lessons will be difficult because they’ll reveal some potential truths that are difficult to come to terms with or — which is also just a liberating — they’ll bring to the table what underlay your conscious experience up until that point. I believe there is so much truth in the unconscious. We just have to remember to listen to it and the more disconnected we get, the harder that becomes. Harder, but not impossible and if it is harder, then it is all the more worthwhile. Yes, Carl Jung was right about me in that my “earthly pursuits” lay hidden beneath a pile of A4 paper, pens — ‘the pen is mightier than the sword’ and Microsoft word software but this personal realisation did not necessarily come about when I read what Mr Jung had to say. I knew writing was for me — and I really knew — when it saved my life. In ‘Yes I’m fine, just tired’, I spoke about my ten tools that truly helped me through that rough trot. Learning about anxiety and mental health disorders proved more than worthwhile but it was the learning through writing, about objective and subjective truths that proved to be the game changer. After a panic attack one night, my mum told me to write my thoughts down as a way to to come to an understanding about what the real, internal issues were and I never looked back. Things take time and I lied to myself, even on paper, for many months before I could stare truth in the face but the journey began with those first, written words. What did you do as a kid and what’s really helped you when life gets in the way? What did you learn? Maybe therein lies your “earthly pursuits”? Enjoy!
May 18, 2019
#45 - Lessons From An Anxious Mind With William Balme
Will Balme is a writer, a football player, an introspective and wise young man with a heart full of gold, and avid contributor to Thick and Thin which is a player led initiative primarily focusing on: Creating awareness of men's mental health within the VAFA - The Victorian Amateur Football Association. This is round 2 with Balmey on The Mind Mate Podcast.
May 13, 2019
#44 - Panic attacks and counselling: Rock Bottom
“I yelled out (on repeat mind you), ‘GET IT OUT! GET IT OUT! GET IT OUT!' Dad wasn't too sure what to do but, like I said, his presence was all I needed. For those of you lucky enough never to have experienced a panic attack, let me paint a picture. Panic attacks make you feel like the world is going to end. Every physical sensation is preparing you for the worst and you are stuck in a constant state of worry. Panic attacks represent the most severe manifestation of high anxiety and, evolutionarily speaking, when you experience one your mind thinks you are about to die. It is evolution's best answer for keeping you alive and safe. Everything is telling you to vacate the premises because 'everything' thinks you're in peril danger. This is why they are so fucking unbearable. This is why it is true bravery going against what your anxiety is telling you. In a way, you're facing death.” THIS WEEK WE HAVE ANOTHER CHAPTER FROM MY UPCOMING AUDIOBOOK - ‘YES I’M FINE, JUST TIRED’. I was feeling generous and loved the feedback from last week’s episode so here’s chapter five, dearest mates.
May 05, 2019
#43 - The Most Important Moment In My Life
This radical episode is very exciting for me to release! It is chapter four from my first book, 'Yes I'm Fine, Just Tired'. I am halfway through completing my audio book which should be available in under 15 days. This chapter, chapter 4 as you can already tell, is titled, "The most important moment in my life" and details my experiences with psychedelic mushrooms on Schoolies. Here is a snippet from the book. Enjoy mates! "In terms of the actual trip itself, it wasn't the most insane I've heard of but considering the person I was back then and the repercussions that would befall me, it was a massive event. I was unaware how significant this experience was because I had no idea how dramatically my life would change in response to it. I now had a new heightened level of anxiety. I’d developed a phobia of being out of control. I succumbed to it after the whole experience yet I didn't realise that my general anxiety level had risen. I thought the experience was a one off and that would be that. In any case, it led me down a road of self discovery, new friendships and a more profound understanding of the struggles people face every day with various forms of mental health disorders. As a kid, I experienced worry and general slumps. We all did and still do today as adults. Nevertheless, the panic attacks that would follow and the OCD not yet considered; ghosts, stolen toys and mushrooms were only the beginning."
April 28, 2019
#42 - Help Others To Help Yourself With Sarah Florence
Sarah Florence is a weightlifter, CrossFitter, and founder of Mind Gold where she details and takes us along her journey in the physical and mental worlds; building the mindset of an athlete (something that can be formulated into all facets of life). Sarah uses her story to help others but I think the best thing about her story is that she details it in a way purely to give back. There isn't any "me", "me", "me". She gives us the facts then speaks about what she learnt and how we can apply those lessons to our lives. We ALL have a story and the more we can reconcile the negative aspects of them—talking about them can help but there are many other ways too (meditation and solitude being some of those)—the more united we may become as a bunch of happy humans. This podcast has some really fantastic insights into the development of a mind that embraces the journey as opposed to the destination. The truth is, we are all going to die, we will never be fulfilled externally (can you beam with happiness by sitting along!?) and none of us have all the answers. I got heaps from chatting with Sarah. She's an absolute bloody legend, and someone who is exceptionally down to earth which is very inspiring for hairy old me over here. Enjoy the show mates!
April 21, 2019
#41 - Like Father, Like Son With David Ahern
This week's episode is all about my lovely father! He taught me about anxiety, first and foremost, after having gone through it himself at a similar age. David is also an editor, an author having published 'Bid The Past Farewell' as well as having ghost written a major memoir. We spoke at large about the growth of our relationship, culminating in a genuine friendship to which helps us both independently as well as interpersonally. There aren't too many people out there who can authentically describe their relationship with their parents as that of a 'friendship' but I can and I'm bloody grateful to give this podcast to you! There are things in life we can only learn from experience—the majority I'd say. David shares his learnings from transcending mental health issues at a young age, and at a time when they were largely overlooked and considered mere "growing pains". He also shares his story about finding meaning in life and becoming a father. Enjoy!
April 14, 2019
#40 - Addiction And Difficult Truths With James Harrison
If you don't take anything else away from this podcast, just take this: The number one thing that has motivated James to continually improve as an individual is his daughter. James inspires me because, despite his relapses, his continuing fight stems from something (someone I should say) which gives him meaning; a reason to be alive and make a difference. We have had two episodes in a row about addiction and James' message is just as strong as Tom's. The "difficult truth" behind addiction is that we find peace and solitude in temporary comforts and pleasures because they help us escape the reality of our current situations. From this perspective, ADDICTION IS A SPECTRUM. Anything, be it, hard drugs like heroin down to the daily drink after a day's work can be an escape if we are finding it difficult to sit with our realities. Sometimes it's the thoughts, other times its the environment and people. If it's all three, the addiction can be worse. Listen to James' story and have a think and see if any of this resonates with you. What do you find yourself doing, saying, behaving like consistently when certain factors are in place within your life. What are you trying to escape from? Can you do something about it? You can find and subscribe to this podcast and all other Mind Mate podcasts in audio form via audio platforms including iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher etc. Keep up to date with what's happening in my world through Instagram @tom.ahern or via my Facebook page /tom.ahern.life Additionally, you can download a copy of my book 'Yes I'm fine, just tired' on kindle, audiobook or purchase a paperback copy through amazon by searching Tom Ahern and / or 'Yes I'm fine, just tired'.
April 07, 2019
#39 - Tom: A Story Of Addiction
“I started off on two and then, by like two years later I could go through the equivalent of like 80 in a day.” Tom Gill was a high school friend of mine and recently reached out as I have been looking into and attempting to resolve some addictions of my own. He told me that he had his own story and experiences with drug and alcohol addiction so I implored him to join me on the podcast. What followed was an incredibly powerful and, at many points, anxiety stricken show filled with valuable lessons for us all. Addiction is a spectrum and, as Russell Brand says—given the materialistic pursuits of the modern west—we are all somewhere along it. It is our responsibility to look inside ourselves and ask ourselves why we are, for example, watching porn frequently, drinking after work, purchasing a good deal of chocolate, eating to stomach pains and distracting ourselves when THAT thought arises. IF YOU EVER find yourself leaning on external support systems for internalised pain, this podcast may shed some light. When we lose meaning, support, connection and authenticity within our lives, we seek help but without education and self awareness, what we seek support from may hinder us greatly, let alone our development. Please listen to the show with an open mind and if you are currently moving through addiction issues, you are not alone and many organisations such as Beyond Blue truly can provide assistance. Enjoy the show.
April 02, 2019
#38 - How To Deal With Trauma I BONUS PODCAST EPISODE
The psychologist Dr. Jordan Peterson provides us with a really great insight into how the body and mind both deal with trauma and how we can consciously transcend our past experiences and fears by devising plans.
March 26, 2019
#37 - The best self-help books and a sprinkle of optimism with Lachlan Wallace
Lachlan Wallace is the founder of Virtus Performamce, a functional training, strength and conditioning gym on the Mornington Peninsula outside Melbourne, Australia. He currently hosts the Virtus Performance podcast, has co-founded a Gin business, is about to launch a mentoring program named 'True North' and has played over 50 games for Collingwood in their VFL team. Above all things, Lachy is an avid student of life. His office depicts that with the countless self-help books, motivational quotes, timetables, calendars, microphones and general positive energy! He is an authentic, inspiring fella and I was privileged to have him on the show this week.
March 24, 2019
#36 - There's Work To Be Done! An Interview With David Ji
After an incredible experience, whereby a homeless person asked him "What will your gravestone say?", David Ji found himself amidst an existential crisis. He was living in New York at the time and, one week after the 9/11 Terrorist Attacks (to which he had resigned from his job in the World Trade Centers not long previously), found himself struggling with the bigger picture. "Why are we here?" These experiences led him to travel to India, connect with Deepak Chopra, become a meditation teacher (including, during his practice, meditating in caves for hours on end) and finally, becoming the man he is today. Dave is an incredibly down-to-earth fella, he's got a wicked sense of humour and truly believes in the value of "stillness" and "authenticity". He's got some great content out there including his books, his meditation teachings and his community on social media is hyper engaged an awesome! This is a highly valuable podcast with many takeaways. Enjoy!
March 17, 2019
#35 - Reality Shifters: Change In Consciousness With Cynthia Sue Larson
Just how powerful are thoughts? Can you actually change your reality—the structure of reality—through thinking and feeling alone? Cynthia Sue Larson is a best-selling author, speaker, researcher and Quantum Physicist and the woman in charge, behind www.http://realityshifters.com/. In our show, she talks about the new-age connections between spirituality (secular and religious) and science. She tells us where and what the quantum world has shown us and practical tools you can use to implement her findings!
March 10, 2019
#34 - Back after the break with Osher Gunsberg
Osher Gunserbg is an Australian television and radio hist presenter, having hosted such TV shows as Australian Idol, Bondi Rescue and The Bachelor. His new book "Back After The Break" talks about his life behind the scenes and struggles with social anxiety disorder, OCD, addiction and psychosis. But apart from all that, Osh is a genuine dude. He and I met outside a gym in Bali and jumped on for this podcast where we spoke about all things from the Simpsons and personal responsibility, to hereditary, emotional trauma and the importance of goals.
March 03, 2019
#33 - The holistic approach to wellbeing with Dr Nicole LePara
Please do me a favour and check out the.holistic.psychologist on instagram. Nicole is a true expert and practices what she preaches as well, which is something that has become—more or less—underrated in this day and age! On the show: The importance of proper nutrition and understand the breathe. We also spoke about the need to reconnect with the Self. This has been absolutely pivotal to my ongoing wellbeing (reconnection) and, if you feel, lost, please listen to the show as we have all the tools within our own tool belt, to do this. However, if you do need some guidance, there are people out there like Nicole who will ONLY point you in the right way.
February 24, 2019
#32 - Pathways to your inner world and how to cultivate a vision with Erick Godsey
This was a boss show! I am pumping out the skype shows gang as they allow me to tap into people's minds all over the world! And they're on YouTube too so don't be afraid to check out the visuals. I feel like what we spoke about today with my man Mr Godsey does not get taught at schools to the extent it should be. Who are you and what do you want out of life? Do not look to life and ask what its point is; ask how you can make a point out of it! Enjoy
February 17, 2019
#31 - Different aspects of the mind and building better relationships with Elise Carr
This episode has been long awaited for me and I'm so pumped you get to listen in now! I had the pleasure of sitting down with Elise Carr, 'Sacred Guidance', which is essentially psychology for the soul. We explore some of the more tangible aspects of 'spirituality' and highlight the ways in which those aspects can be practically applied to any life, irrespective of the religious or spiritual views. We also touched upon the ways individuals can build better relationships with themselves and their partners. Sometimes just booking time together, in this day and age, is all that we need!
February 10, 2019
#30 - The Subconscious Mind and Getting Comfy With Uncomfortable Mates
This week on the show we had our good friend Chris Desmond, host of the Uncomfortable Is Ok podcast. His whole idea presents itself upon the idea of challenge and discomfort, which leads to self-growth in any given area. He is a shining example of someone who, not only embodies and acts-out his message himself, but also speaks in a relatable and pragmatic way. He just became a father too, which no doubt to all the fathers out there, is something uncomfortable in and of itself! We spoke about some of the neuroscience and spirituality behind 'getting uncomfortable' as well as what YOU can do to get a little more excited about facing challenges in your life. Enjoy!
February 03, 2019
#29 - Life after Idol and authentic pursuits with Rob Mills
I met Millsy on a lovely Melbourne winter's day. He walked past me and I couldn't help but stop him (enthusiastically, mind you). We got to talking and he (the legend) agreed to jump on board The Mind Mate Podcast for a chat before I left to Bali. What intrigued me the most was what followed after his journey with Australian Idol. He found himself on a search for identity, which led him to overseas travels, tasting all sorts of trade jobs and eventually a rekindling love for the theatre and music scene. Millsy now finds himself starring in plays such as Jesus Christ Superstar, Wicked and Bang Bang!
January 27, 2019
#28 - The need to feel, modern masculinity and life behind a wall with Wayne Schwass
Today I had the absolute pleasure and privilege of chatting with AFL great and founder of 'pukaup', Mr Wayne Schwass. The facilitation of mental health discussion has fundamentally changed the course of my life, from its infancy with my parents and with a psychologist to general dialogue and on podcasts. I can’t tell you how important it is for those suffering in silence as well as all of us to speak from the heart. We are all human beings with only our experiences separating us. Wayne is a truly inspirational man and I do not say that lightly. His authenticity was completely overwhelming and this clip represents just one of the many times that particular aspect of his character shone through during our chat. It was so therapeutic to speak to someone like Wayne about OCD, anxiety and depression without any wall and truly, the hour flew! This podcast is not to be missed!
January 24, 2019
#27 - Naming The Demon
A really great tool to help combat the high manifestation of anxiety by way of detaching yourself from the signs and symptoms themselves. We also hit the interpretation of dreams and the psychological significance of the aforementioned 'tool' to help in your understanding of emotions! Enjoy this bad boy!
January 18, 2019
#26 - The law of attraction, psychedelics and being personally responsible with Siobhan Macleod
The law of attraction, psychedelics and being personally responsible with Siobhan Macleod! What a great way (and title of the show) to introduce my partner Siobhan to the podcasting world!
January 15, 2019
#25 - Relapses: Why I've been Mr Incognito!
My latest podcast deals with something very close to my heart and that was my relapse (from a year ago now) in my fears associated with Hell and Eternal suffering. To provide a short background story, I awoke one morning (half asleep if that makes any sense) to demonic faces coming at me from all angles before they eventually subsided. In truth, this experience scared the shit out of me and took me right back to where I was three years prior. I was on the phone to my dad at 5am, began thinking of compulsions to perform in order to prevent myself from eternal damnation and felt the panic rising and rising. . . What's great about this experience however, is that the relapse humbled me greatly yet also allowed me to put #tommystencommandments to the test and I'm pumped they worked a treat (for me). The relapse lasted a total of 2 WHOLE days and that's it. . . . Now again, I don't want to be someone saying they have the answers to an anxiety free life because clearly, that would be a lie but I do want to be someone promoting the benefits of self awareness and personal management strategies to which can work absolute wonders and lead to a, more often than not, super fucking happy life! My tools work for me. I'm positive they work for millions of others too but if they don't then that's cool.
January 08, 2019
#24 - Can you recover from an anxiety disorder?
Welcome back friends! This episode touched on a few topics (I got a bit excited). We hit up Joseph Campbell's perspectives on ancient myths and religions, anxiety as an emotion—and therefore, the relevance of the term 'recovery'; my book launch which is set for the 1st of November as well as some passages from the Gospel of Thomas which relate to intrapsychological, meditative experiences. A lot of JC's stuff does seem to point to 'awakening' and, from a Jungian perspective, a reconciliation of the conscious with the subconscious mind. Carl Jung coined the phrase 'Individuation' for its reference to the above. Below is a passage of writing for the video I made a year ago about the intricacies of anxiety and its wider concepts. Enjoy! *** One thing I always used to tell myself was that I wanted to be fully 'recovered' and free from anxiety for the rest of my life. I wanted to go back to the way things were and I wanted to control my emotions. Looking back, what I have come to realise is that you can never recover from an emotion because an emotion is as part of you as the back of your hand. It's about learning how your emotions rise and fall and how you interact with the world. It's a change in perspective. I wanted to do this video today as I have been feeling anxious lately and I never wanted to be someone to preach recovery methods or ways to 'kill life'. I just want to speak about my experiences honestly and right now my anxiety emotion is killing me! What a classic.
October 11, 2018
#23 - My first major panic attack
Hey guys, welcome back. This episode of the podcast combines the old with the new. I recorded the meat of this sandwich last year, in an attempt to bring to the table a conversation about the extreme manifestation of anxiety; panic attacks. But the bread talks about some stuff I've been looking into lately which I think can really help us within our "earthly pursuits", as Carl Jung puts it. That topic is about happiness, meaning and fulfilment, as a triad. I don't think that our goal is to be happy because that's pretty arbitrary—there's no reason to it. I think our goal is to be fulfilled and, if that is the case, then there must be some meaning behind what we're doing that makes us happy. If meaning is to be included, then—to unpack this completely and pose the question—what is it you're doing that makes you happy BUT also is useful and provides a service to others? Let me know what you guys think and as always, I'm bloody grateful for you in taking the time to listen to my ramblings
September 30, 2018
#22 - Panic attacks, the gift and your tools with Alex Deken
Alex Deken is a powerlifter and authentic legend. He is the head coach at PTC South Melbourne and 10th all-time powerlifter in the 90kg class. Yet despite these accolades, our episode took on a slightly different approach this week. The first time I met Alex was, as you'll see, on an unreleased episode of AdventureFit Radio. Alex spoke to us about his fear of public speaking or as he puts it, 'self expression'. Immediately after a panic attack, the vibe became authentic and purposeful. Myself, Alex and the other boys sat and spoke about the ways anxiety manifests itself within our worlds. A few months later, I was lucky enough to catch up with Alex for another chat focused more specifically on how both he and I deal with our fears (of public speaking among others) and how communicating, utilising subjective tools and practicing confidence as an adaptable mindset can make all the difference. Enjoy!
September 05, 2018
#21 - From panic to peace: What the buddha taught with Manoj Dias
WARNING*** The audio can get a little dodge in this episode guys but it's still clearly audible and rad so stick through it and get a dose of spirituality in ya! Do yourself a favour and follow this man @manojdias_ on da socials! Manoj is the co-founder of @_aspace, a meditation centre and runs workshops all over the world, preaching the good word of inner calm. The best way to get to know yourself is to spend time with yourself! We spoke about how Manoj's old life in the corporate world led to a disconnect from self, culminating in a panic attack at work. This was a rad show, I truly loved it!
August 27, 2018
#20 - The clinical approach, personal anecdotes and The Mind Room with Jo Mitchell
This was a fantastic episode of the podcast with co-founder of The Mind Room, Jo Mitchell. I sat down with Jo and had a chat about the different approaches to combatting mental health issues today from a clinical perspective but what interested me most was Jo's anecdote of a panic attack she herself suffered in a theatre. Listen to the way she describes it from an objective, detached sense as opposed to identifying with the thoughts, feelings and symptoms. There's much to be learnt from this!
August 19, 2018
#19 - ADHD as a superpower with Gabriel Villarreal
The audio is a little dodge on this one but we loved it! This week on the show I had a chat with the great man Gabriel Villarreal. Gab is the founder of Lost Boys Strength and Conditioning, the host of his very own podcast 'Informed Consent', a counsellor to young boys diagnosed with ADHD and an all-round legend. We dived right in here and spoke about the changes in perspective with mental health disorders from weakness to superpower. Another ripper team!
August 03, 2018
#18 - A different take on depression and anxiety with Johann Hari
Ever since I listened to Johann Hari on the Joe Rogan Experience, I knew I had to get in touch with him. His book 'Lost Connections' was one of the most fascinating I have come across in recent times and my deep passion for mental health (partly because of my own experiences) no doubt forged some of these interests. I caught up with Johann Hari whilst he was on book/speaking tour promoting his book. Some of the causes and cures for depression and anxiety today may shock you as they once did me! Here, we got into why we have become so disconnected as a species from our being, our primitive values and social needs and why some of the potential cures i.e. psychadelics, meditation and a connection back to self and to our community may be more important than you think! You can also find his other book 'Chasing the scream' online which I highly recommend you do!
July 26, 2018
#17 - Spirituality in the modern landscape with John Ahern
This week's episode of The Mind Mate Podcast brings to you a very special guest; none other than my uncle John. I have always been fascinated by John's experiences and by his perception of reality, which lead him to prioritise spirituality above all as a lifestyle. Finally, I was able to sit down with him and discuss Christianity and how it has transformed, shaped and helped him to grow into the man he is today. What I found is that the way we view the world was more similar than I'd previously imagined.
July 19, 2018
#16 - Finding the self with Jason Skalkos
Jason and I have been mates since high school. We grew in different direction after graduating but have since rekindled as the universe threw signs that a strong friendship may be blossoming. Jason is a swim teacher, movement coach, spiritualist and psychedelic adventurer. His views on the world, personal experiences and message offer great insight into how to find inner peace, learning to brave the darkness (however that manifests for us) and how to lead a fulfilling lifestyle.
July 10, 2018
#15 - One Step Forward with Chris Caddy
This week on the show, Tommy speaks to Mr Chris Caddy. Chris is a CrossFit coach currently living in Melbourne, Australia. Tommy and Chris bring to you one of the more honest and raw podcasts you’ll hear this year. After struggling with personal identity for much of his youth, Chris found himself contemplating suicide on the balcony of a building. He made a brave decision to live and fix as many issues as he could and finds himself today in a much happier place. For all men and women alike, the search for identity in the modern world; authenticity is difficult and can sometimes push us to the brink. This is one man’s story. We hope you enjoy.
June 20, 2018
#14 - Anxiety and the modern day man with William Balme
So another episode of #themindmatepodcast is up and this time we are giving you an outtakes and part ✌️ sesh with @williebee21. Get another in depth look at his personal journey with anxiety, travel and saying g’day to many people as he works to normalise the stigma in his own radical way 👏 We hope you enjoy this episode guys!
June 12, 2018
#13 - Are you OK with Justin Geange
This week on the show, we have an amazing guest who is a field officer at MATES in Construction and was a contestant at Australia's Got Talent, Justin Geange! 😁😁😁 Just talks about his journey and experience as he works with RU OK and prevents people from commiting suicide. He also shared his darker days and how his faith helped him get back on his feet. 😉😎💯 We hope you enjoy this episode guys!
June 12, 2018
#12 - Grey Clouds and Blue Skies with Tyson Venebles
This week on the show, we head back to our #interviewswiththeexperts archives for a legendary chat with our friend Tyson Venebles! 🔥🔥🔥 Tyson is a Crossfit Coach, Key Leader at Lulu Lemon and an Mental Health advocate. He shared with us his goals of helping men reach their full potential and be more open to what they have in their mind. He also talked about how he was once in a dark situation in his life and how he was able to stand back up and get his life back. 😃
June 12, 2018
#11 - What is Anxiety?
In this episode, Tom defines the true meaning of anxiety and how it has evolved in humanity over the years. As it was with him, many anxiety sufferers are confused about the reasons why anxiety becomes apparent in their lives so hopefully this episode sheds some light as to why fear is a universally common trait. Tommy's anxiety DISORDER came about from a negative experience on mushrooms six years ago but the truth is, he had some underlying issues that needed addressing. One of the most difficult things to do is logically make sense of intrusive thoughts. By understanding where anxiety stems from as well as looking at ways of categorising fear based on its rationality, we can prevent our thoughts and fears from spiraling when they are present.
June 12, 2018
#10 - Uncomfortable is OK with Chris Desmond
This week on the show, we have an amazing guest who is also the host of the "Uncomfortable is OK" podcast, Chris Desmond! Chris talks about his journey and experience as he was going through his everyday struggle of overcoming uncomfortable situations. He and Tom agreed on the importance of getting out of your comfort zone and constantly challenging and pushing yourself. Take baby steps so as not to overwhelm yourself and embrace discomfort. Check out this amazing episode that I'm sure you'll love. We hope you enjoy this episode guys!
June 12, 2018
#9 - My Mental Health
My experience through mental health was an interesting one. Although I was very open about my disorder, I never seemed to able to relate to people with their issues. I soon discovered that my fears were more irrational than others. I'd stay awake at nights fearing the concept of eternal suffering and the onset of severe and permanent mental illness whilst my friends and family worried about errands that needed attending to, upcoming exams and relationships. When OCD kicked in, I realised my anxiety disorder had taken a turn for the worst and something needed to be done. I hope this video helps shed some light on some of the experiences of anxiety sufferers as well as the intricacies of OCD, which is more than just turning switches off and on. Enjoy!
June 12, 2018
#8 - Depression, the Inability to Feel Loved with Samantha Brennecke
This week on the show, we head back to our #interviewswiththeexperts archives for a legendary chat with our friend Samantha Brennecke! Sammy suffered from depression. The feeling of not being loved shrouded her mind which lead to anxiety and panic attacks. Know more about how Sammy fought her way through depression. We hope you enjoy this episode guys!
June 12, 2018
#7 - Who Am I and What Am I Doing?
This week on the show is an introduction to our #mentalhealthjourney archives where Tom talks about his experiences and how he has come along with his mental health. Tom experienced anxiety at an early age and has learned how to overcome it and be one with it. Check out this episode to know more about his journey! We hope you enjoy this episode guys!
June 12, 2018
#6 - Alcohol and Drugs, Dependencies and Spirituality with Cam Butterss
This week on the show, we head back to our #interviewswiththeexperts archives for a legendary chat with our friend Cam Butterss! Cam is a former alcoholic who had anxiety issues as well as separation and isolation problems. Alcohol has always been in Cam's family Growing up, he was open to using drugs as well. Find out how Cam was able to overcome his addiction and mental health issues. We hope you enjoy this episode guys!
June 12, 2018
#5 - The Fit and Healthy Dad Bod for New Fathers with Paul Glezer
This week on the show, we had a great opportunity to chat with our friend Paul Glezer, founder and owner of My Wellness Wishlist! Paul is a physical and mental health enthusiast as well as a new father to his weeks old daughter. He talks about his experiences of being a father and keeping his health and wellness check. Tommy and Paul share the same thoughts about integrity and making sure that even as a parent, one must still stay fit in all aspects. We hope you enjoy this episode guys!
June 12, 2018
#4 - Overcoming Early Drug Addiction with Aaron
This week on the show, we head back to our #interviewswiththeexperts archives for a legendary chat with our friend Aaron! Tommy and Aaron talked and shared how there aren't a lot of early interventions when it comes to mental health with children. Find out how Aaron was able to overcome his mental health issues. We hope you enjoy this episode guys!
June 12, 2018
#3 - OCD and Anxiety Disorder with Michael Inglis
This week on the show, we head back to our #interviewswiththeexperts archives for a legendary chat with our friend Michael Inglis! Michael is a psychologist at The Mind Room located in Melbourne's northern suburbs. Tommy and Michael sat down to have a chat about the clinical perspective of such mental health disorders as OCD, anxiety disorder and why the prevalence of such disorders has increased in today's modern society. It's a very nostalgic chat for Tommy as this was the very same space he found himself in three years prior as a patient! We hope you enjoy this episode guys!
June 12, 2018
#2 - Dealing with Panic Attacks and Anxiety with Barry McDanough
Barry McDonagh is the creator of the Panic Away Program and author of the book DARE. A native of Ireland, he focuses to help people win against panic attacks and be free from anxiety as well as depression. In this episode, Barry and Tom begin by sharing their thoughts on the modern world and how there seems to be a lost connection of community, akin to Johan Hari’s work in his latest book, ‘Lost Connections’. The boys then take their conversation back towards the power of Barry’s DARE response and how these exposing methods really can work wonders against the emotion of anxiety. This is a fantastic conversation, a great catch up for Barry and Tom and we really think you guys will love it!
June 12, 2018
#1 - Welcome
This episode of The Mind Mate podcast explores how The Mind Mate came to be, it's vision to empower individuals to own their mental health experiences, the evolution of this wondrous emotion known only as anxiety as well as an in-depth personal anecdote of the host of the show. Our aim is to shift the understanding and perspective of anxiety and mental health through the promotion of authentic mental health discourse. Talking about one’s issues should be as easy as talking about what’s on the menu for dinner or which sporting team you barrack for; even which chick or bloke you’re into! Our vision is to create an environment that genuinely celebrates authentic personal story telling on all fronts which therefore, empowers individuals and gives them the freedom to move through their irrational fears and setbacks in a less confronting way.
June 12, 2018