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By Tom Ahern
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#62 - Becoming A Mindful Man: Interview With Tyson Venebles
The tables turned! Now it's my turn to be in the hot seat!
October 13, 2019
#61 - Meditation Is A Must!
"Meditation is the practice of enduring psychological pain and discomfort. No matter how you do it, nothing could be more important." - Tom Ahern
October 6, 2019
#60 - Turning Men Into Heroes With Paul Glezer
Paul has recently experienced fatherhood and all that it comes with it. He realised that it is a profound shift for many fathers and appreciates that many things change as a result of being a dad.   The first thing he noticed when his friends began to have children was that their health was the first thing to be sacrificed. This inspired him and his business partner Daniel to create Hero. A program specifically designed to help high-achieving dad’s lose fat and enjoy peak energy levels while giving to their family and excelling in their career.  He has used his 15 years of knowledge and experience in strength and conditioning as well as mobility training and combined them with the teaching of Holistic Life Coaching to guide his clients to overcome limitations and soar. Use the code 'Mind Mate' to receive 20% off Paul's online programming. Come on dad mates, get to it! 
October 1, 2019
#59 - Becoming Who You Were Born To Be With Elise Carr
Another Mind Mate Podcast veteran is back! Elise Carr jumps on the show again and this time, it was in-person!  A bit about Elise (taken from her website):   "The blending of what I offer you is Like Psychology for the Soul in a modern world – honouring your physical, emotional, mental and spiritual layers; what has brought you thus far, where you are and, what needs healing, clearing and guidance to shift from darkness to Light, all ultimately in alignment with your Soul’s plan of fulfilment.   With unwavering presence, fierce dedication and spirited insight, I guide inspirational souls on a purposeful life journey away from old patterns, habits and illusion, and into Truth, Love-Wisdom and authentic Beauty. Healing, Balancing and Harmonising the physical body, emotions and heart with the clarity of mind. Guiding you deeper into 'Knowing Thyself as Soul'; part of the entire cosmic fabric of all that is.   If we get a bit mystical you could imagine; at the entrance to your inner world I stand as a temple maiden inviting you to journey together, with me as the light bearer in your darkness. Illuminating the way for you to live life as your most authentic, unique self. Healed, Liberated and Aligned, here to serve the world with the skills and gifts that ONLY YOU have, from a place of Consciousness, Heart and Mind, united under the impulse of your very own Soul."
September 22, 2019
#58 - Mind Your Breath With Richard Burrows
Richard Burrows is a corporate headhunter and former security intelligence professional who now works with high performing individuals seeking greater physical, mental and emotional resilience.  He has a wealth of experience operating in high-pressure and high-stakes situations and teaches a variety of breathing methods to ensure peak preparation, performance and recovery.
September 15, 2019
#57 - Think About Happiness Logically Mates!
This is an excerpt from chapter two of my upcoming book, ‘A Seeker’s Path’. I recently followed the Dalai Lama on Instagram (100% get around the big man if you haven’t already) and couldn’t help but write about him. He seems so bloody jolly and, as the saying goes, “I’ll have what [he’s] having.” I came to realise that “what he’s having” took a long time for him to get. This is my take on mental health practice:   The Dalai Lama tells us that, “Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.” He tells us to, “Be kind whenever possible” and that, “sometimes not getting what you want is a wonderful stroke of luck.” Excuse me, Mr. Lama, what about Jet Ski’s, fancy dinners and Instagram likes! Both Ronnie Coleman and the Dalai Lama have one thing in common: Discipline. Judging by standard Buddhist practice, the path to enlightenment — freedom from suffering — is not an easy trod. Waking up at dawn every morning, meditating for hours, removing all sense of individuality i.e. shaving one’s hair, wearing the same red robe every day, abstaining from sex, worldly pleasures and committing to the spiritual path are all examples, at least in my books, of seriously rigorous mental health practices!  Unfortunately, human beings are not entitled either to perfect mental or physical health, which begs the question: How mentally and/or physically healthy do we want to be? How many hours are we willing to put in to achieve states of consciousness akin to Buddhist monks, for example? What are our physical health goals? Are we willing to devote hours of practice to improve our flexibility, strength, speed, stamina and joint health? For how long must we meditate each day, write in our diaries, authentically connect with others and work to release our traumas from the past in order to attain a mental state congruent with our own definition of happiness?  Ultimately, this is for us to decide. Maybe people become monks because they’re in really bad ways? How else can one know happiness like that without having once experienced terrible psychological pain. In any case, just as a Bench Press pumps the chest, meditation pumps the mind. Choose your tools. Seek and you will find.
September 8, 2019
#56 - Learning To Open Your Heart With Erick Godsey
2 x guest of the show, Mr. Erick Godsey returns for another cracking episode on The Mind Mate Podcast. I love going deep with this bloke but, this time, I wanted to hear more about who Erick is, day by day. We got into some of the things he's struggling with in life at the moment (we've all got them mates) as well as some of the more recent lessons he's learnt.  Within this, Erick spoke about his challenges with love and heart opening as well as his ability to let others in, stemming from who he was as a child and how that child developed a persona worthy of receiving love. One of my biggest take aways from this podcast was the idea that, beneath the chains of shame, need for validation—all the stuff we do to receive something or someone we think will fill our holes—a God (inside us) awaits its freedom, ready to dance for infinity and beyond! In other words, we got philosophical! Enjoy!
August 25, 2019
#55 - Can MDMA Help Heal Trauma?
“I think, when used correctly, MDMA could really help a lot of people. Maybe it could help those suffering from an existential crisis? Maybe it could help those that are struggling to find meaning in their lives. It’s not that we explicitly recognise a conscious will to live but we do have desires and incentives for the potential of self growth. We want to be better and when we struggle to find meaning, we stop caring about growth.” Writing this blog and reflecting upon this experience has been very eye-opening. It’s taken me a good few weeks to break down and comprehend the experience itself. From a logical perspective, the MDMA made me feel great and spending time with myself—feeling great—produced a positive outcome. However, I choose to recognise the experience as spiritually significant because it feels right to me. I think the MDMA did split different aspects of my consciousness. I think its intention was to outline and compare them. It taught me that I am capable of loving people and myself so much more than I do. It taught me that it is possible to reconcile the past; to move on and to accept it. Ultimately, it comes down to choice. We can choose to live in scarcity and fear in the assumption that the world is a frightening place and that good things happen only to those who take, steal and live through their ego (without any awareness as to the other aspects of ‘self’). Or we can choose to give and to share and love without any expectation or desire. I learnt that to be happy, one must be grateful. I learnt that to be happy, one must give. I consider myself a happy man and yet I have never felt happiness like I did when connecting with that entity of love; my higher self.
August 15, 2019
#54 - Integrating Trauma With Michael Burge
Michael Burge is Current Director of the Australian College of Trauma Treatment and has had over 25 years experience in psychology, counselling, education and training. Michael has published extensively both nationally and internationally in the field of PTSD, with a particular focus on psychosocial issues affecting Vietnam Veterans and their families.   He introduced PTSD treatment methods to most Melbourne Universities as guest Lecturer and in 1993 introduced short course, skills- based training for the treatment of PTSD into Australia.In the 2010 Australia Day Honours, Michael was awarded the Order of Australia Medal for service to psychology & the community for the development of training & treatment protocols for trauma. He is also a die-hard Collingwood fan, loves coffee and is incredibly humble! Enjoy this one mates!
August 10, 2019
#53 - Purpose! And How To Find Yours: Me On The Mind Gold Podcast!
I was lucky enough to be interviewed by Sarah and James from the Mind Gold podcast. We touched on a number of bizarre and legendary topics like getting probed by aliens, embracing fear, ways to find purpose and meaning as well as why challenges that cause physiological changes in the body are a one way ticket to happiness town. 
July 28, 2019
#52 - Heal Trauma With The Breath With Erin Telford
Erin Telford is a Breathwork facilitator and healer, acupuncturist, Reiki Master, herbalist and a teacher of David Elliott's Level One Breathwork Healer Training. Her work guides people to look within, open their hearts and heal their relationship with themselves. Her group sessions, trainings and retreats empower her clients to connect to their innate wisdom so that they can find the answers they are looking for.  I knew Erin was someone I wanted to chat with from the moment my lovely partner Siobhan told me about her! We ALL have trauma—trauma is subjective—and trauma affects us all in different ways. Coming to a deeper understanding of the ways it does, is (I would say) vital for our wellbeing, sense of self, purpose and connectedness with others.  IN THIS PODCAST, we go fucking deep (that’s the way we like it!). We get right into the nitty-gritty’s exploring our personal and collective shadows, discussing the scientific and spiritual approach to healing trauma through the breath as well as what it is we’re all fundamentally trying to do… be happy and live meaningful lives with the people we love. Enjoy mates!
July 26, 2019
#51 - How To Fulfil Your Potential With Tony Doherty
Tony is the owner of Doherty’s Gyms around Australia, a highly sought after public speaker, interviewer, and media personality. Above all, he is a generous, humble and motivating individual. I love talking with him.  We head back into Tony's history including how he came from humble beginnings with a clear vision and how that vision became a reality, culminating in a befriending with Arnold Schwarzenegger. Together, they run the Arnold Classic Fitness Expo's. Tony's passion, pragmatic approach to life and positivity make me want to interview him regularly. Every time I leave having learnt a bit more about what it means to truly fulfil your potential in life. 
July 23, 2019
#50 - The Breathwork Shed With Siobhan Macleod
Siobhan Macleod (@siobhan_macleod) is opening a business! Coming early September, The Breathwork Shed uses a specific form of meditation (breathwork) to help people come to know themselves a little more personally, understand how things that have happened to them in the past have influenced their train of thought, behaviours and habits AND the best thing is, #theshed is a community of legends going through the process together. THIS WEEK’S PODCAST explored breathwork: What it is, how it works, what comes up, how you come to know yourself and how you can create a better life based on what you now know!
July 18, 2019
#49 - Run Your Own Race With Steve Moneghetti
Stephen James "Steve" Moneghetti, AM, is an Australian long-distance runner and physical health consultant. Moneghetti has a degree in civil engineering, a graduate diploma in education and an honorary doctorate from the University of Ballarat. This was a legendary podcast and, believe it or not, we hardly spoke about his on-field performances! We got right into the philosophy/psychology of how to live life by finding your lane and sticking to it. 
June 30, 2019
#48 - Getting To Know Your Inner World With Grant Moon
Grant is a holistic psychotherapist and a member of the Australian Somatic Psychotherapy Association (ASPA). He has been a holistic educator and workshop facilitator for over 10 years. His focus is on the healing of the "traumatised soul", and holding the space that enables the safety and support necessary for change and growth to occur.  Head to if you are keen to work with Grant :).
June 23, 2019
#47 - Addressing The Root Cause With Adam Szmerling
Born and bred in Melbourne, Adam is a fully qualified clinical psychotherapist. He owns Bayside Psychotherapy and publishes much of its content. He's been practicing in the Bayside area for 13 years. His main treatment orientation is psychoanalysis (Lacanian).   You can find more information about him here: You can find and subscribe to this podcast and all other Mind Mate podcasts in audio form via audio platforms including iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher etc.  Keep up to date with what's happening in my world through Instagram @tom.ahern or via my Facebook page /   Additionally, you can download a copy of my book 'Yes I'm fine, just tired' on kindle, audiobook or purchase a paperback copy through amazon by searching Tom Ahern and / or 'Yes I'm fine, just tired'.
June 10, 2019
#46 - Carl Jung's Insights: Transcend The Past, Step Into Your Future
My take on Carl Jung's insights, stepping into your future by becoming who you could be and reconciling with the past. Carl Jung said, “What did you do as a child that made the hours pass like minutes? Herein lies the key to your earthly pursuits.” It’s so powerful when you, in the most productive sense of the expression, ‘let your mind wander’. And I mean really let it wander. Get rid of all the distractions that are disallowing it to go where it actually wants to go and you’ll learn a thing or two. Either those lessons will be difficult because they’ll reveal some potential truths that are difficult to come to terms with or — which is also just a liberating — they’ll bring to the table what underlay your conscious experience up until that point. I believe there is so much truth in the unconscious. We just have to remember to listen to it and the more disconnected we get, the harder that becomes. Harder, but not impossible and if it is harder, then it is all the more worthwhile. Yes, Carl Jung was right about me in that my “earthly pursuits” lay hidden beneath a pile of A4 paper, pens — ‘the pen is mightier than the sword’ and Microsoft word software but this personal realisation did not necessarily come about when I read what Mr Jung had to say. I knew writing was for me — and I really knew — when it saved my life. In ‘Yes I’m fine, just tired’, I spoke about my ten tools that truly helped me through that rough trot. Learning about anxiety and mental health disorders proved more than worthwhile but it was the learning through writing, about objective and subjective truths that proved to be the game changer. After a panic attack one night, my mum told me to write my thoughts down as a way to to come to an understanding about what the real, internal issues were and I never looked back. Things take time and I lied to myself, even on paper, for many months before I could stare truth in the face but the journey began with those first, written words. What did you do as a kid and what’s really helped you when life gets in the way? What did you learn? Maybe therein lies your “earthly pursuits”? Enjoy!
May 18, 2019
#45 - Lessons From An Anxious Mind With William Balme
Will Balme is a writer, a football player, an introspective and wise young man with a heart full of gold, and avid contributor to Thick and Thin which is a player led initiative primarily focusing on: Creating awareness of men's mental health within the VAFA - The Victorian Amateur Football Association. This is round 2 with Balmey on The Mind Mate Podcast.
May 13, 2019
#44 - Panic attacks and counselling: Rock Bottom
“I yelled out (on repeat mind you), ‘GET IT OUT! GET IT OUT! GET IT OUT!' Dad wasn't too sure what to do but, like I said, his presence was all I needed. For those of you lucky enough never to have experienced a panic attack, let me paint a picture. Panic attacks make you feel like the world is going to end. Every physical sensation is preparing you for the worst and you are stuck in a constant state of worry. Panic attacks represent the most severe manifestation of high anxiety and, evolutionarily speaking, when you experience one your mind thinks you are about to die. It is evolution's best answer for keeping you alive and safe. Everything is telling you to vacate the premises because 'everything' thinks you're in peril danger. This is why they are so fucking unbearable. This is why it is true bravery going against what your anxiety is telling you. In a way, you're facing death.” THIS WEEK WE HAVE ANOTHER CHAPTER FROM MY UPCOMING AUDIOBOOK - ‘YES I’M FINE, JUST TIRED’.  I was feeling generous and loved the feedback from last week’s episode so here’s chapter five, dearest mates.
May 5, 2019
#43 - The Most Important Moment In My Life
This radical episode is very exciting for me to release! It is chapter four from my first book, 'Yes I'm Fine, Just Tired'. I am halfway through completing my audio book which should be available in under 15 days. This chapter, chapter 4 as you can already tell, is titled, "The most important moment in my life" and details my experiences with psychedelic mushrooms on Schoolies. Here is a snippet from the book. Enjoy mates!  "In terms of the actual trip itself, it wasn't the most insane I've heard of but considering the person I was back then and the repercussions that would befall me, it was a massive event. I was unaware how significant this experience was because I had no idea how dramatically my life would change in response to it. I now had a new heightened level of anxiety. I’d developed a phobia of being out of control. I succumbed to it after the whole experience yet I didn't realise that my general anxiety level had risen. I thought the experience was a one off and that would be that. In any case, it led me down a road of self discovery, new friendships and a more profound understanding of the struggles people face every day with various forms of mental health disorders. As a kid, I experienced worry and general slumps. We all did and still do today as adults. Nevertheless, the panic attacks that would follow and the OCD not yet considered; ghosts, stolen toys and mushrooms were only the beginning."
April 28, 2019
#42 - Help Others To Help Yourself With Sarah Florence
Sarah Florence is a weightlifter, CrossFitter, and founder of Mind Gold where she details and takes us along her journey in the physical and mental worlds; building the mindset of an athlete (something that can be formulated into all facets of life).  Sarah uses her story to help others but I think the best thing about her story is that she details it in a way purely to give back. There isn't any "me", "me", "me". She gives us the facts then speaks about what she learnt and how we can apply those lessons to our lives. We ALL have a story and the more we can reconcile the negative aspects of them—talking about them can help but there are many other ways too (meditation and solitude being some of those)—the more united we may become as a bunch of happy humans. This podcast has some really fantastic insights into the development of a mind that embraces the journey as opposed to the destination. The truth is, we are all going to die, we will never be fulfilled externally (can you beam with happiness by sitting along!?) and none of us have all the answers. I got heaps from chatting with Sarah. She's an absolute bloody legend, and someone who is exceptionally down to earth which is very inspiring for hairy old me over here. Enjoy the show mates!  
April 21, 2019
#41 - Like Father, Like Son With David Ahern
This week's episode is all about my lovely father! He taught me about anxiety, first and foremost, after having gone through it himself at a similar age. David is also an editor, an author having published 'Bid The Past Farewell' as well as having ghost written a major memoir.   We spoke at large about the growth of our relationship, culminating in a genuine friendship to which helps us both independently as well as interpersonally. There aren't too many people out there who can authentically describe their relationship with their parents as that of a 'friendship' but I can and I'm bloody grateful to give this podcast to you!   There are things in life we can only learn from experience—the majority I'd say. David shares his learnings from transcending mental health issues at a young age, and at a time when they were largely overlooked and considered mere "growing pains". He also shares his story about finding meaning in life and becoming a father. Enjoy! 
April 14, 2019
#40 - Addiction And Difficult Truths With James Harrison
If you don't take anything else away from this podcast, just take this: The number one thing that has motivated James to continually improve as an individual is his daughter. James inspires me because, despite his relapses, his continuing fight stems from something (someone I should say) which gives him meaning; a reason to be alive and make a difference.   We have had two episodes in a row about addiction and James' message is just as strong as Tom's.  The "difficult truth" behind addiction is that we find peace and solitude in temporary comforts and pleasures because they help us escape the reality of our current situations. From this perspective, ADDICTION IS A SPECTRUM. Anything, be it, hard drugs like heroin down to the daily drink after a day's work can be an escape if we are finding it difficult to sit with our realities. Sometimes it's the thoughts, other times its the environment and people. If it's all three, the addiction can be worse.  Listen to James' story and have a think and see if any of this resonates with you. What do you find yourself doing, saying, behaving like consistently when certain factors are in place within your life. What are you trying to escape from? Can you do something about it?    You can find and subscribe to this podcast and all other Mind Mate podcasts in audio form via audio platforms including iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher etc.  Keep up to date with what's happening in my world through Instagram @tom.ahern or via my Facebook page /    Additionally, you can download a copy of my book 'Yes I'm fine, just tired' on kindle, audiobook or purchase a paperback copy through amazon by searching Tom Ahern and / or 'Yes I'm fine, just tired'.
April 7, 2019
#39 - Tom: A Story Of Addiction
“I started off on two and then, by like two years later I could go through the equivalent of like 80 in a day.” Tom Gill was a high school friend of mine and recently reached out as I have been looking into and attempting to resolve some addictions of my own. He told me that he had his own story and experiences with drug and alcohol addiction so I implored him to join me on the podcast. What followed was an incredibly powerful and, at many points, anxiety stricken show filled with valuable lessons for us all. Addiction is a spectrum and, as Russell Brand says—given the materialistic pursuits of the modern west—we are all somewhere along it. It is our responsibility to look inside ourselves and ask ourselves why we are, for example, watching porn frequently, drinking after work, purchasing a good deal of chocolate, eating to stomach pains and distracting ourselves when THAT thought arises. IF YOU EVER find yourself leaning on external support systems for internalised pain, this podcast may shed some light. When we lose meaning, support, connection and authenticity within our lives, we seek help but without education and self awareness, what we seek support from may hinder us greatly, let alone our development. Please listen to the show with an open mind and if you are currently moving through addiction issues, you are not alone and many organisations such as Beyond Blue truly can provide assistance. Enjoy the show.
April 2, 2019
#38 - How To Deal With Trauma I BONUS PODCAST EPISODE
The psychologist Dr. Jordan Peterson provides us with a really great insight into how the body and mind both deal with trauma and how we can consciously transcend our past experiences and fears by devising plans.
March 26, 2019
#37 - The best self-help books and a sprinkle of optimism with Lachlan Wallace
Lachlan Wallace is the founder of Virtus Performamce, a functional training, strength and conditioning gym on the Mornington Peninsula outside Melbourne, Australia. He currently hosts the Virtus Performance podcast, has co-founded a Gin business, is about to launch a mentoring program named 'True North' and has played over 50 games for Collingwood in their VFL team. Above all things, Lachy is an avid student of life. His office depicts that with the countless self-help books, motivational quotes, timetables, calendars, microphones and general positive energy! He is an authentic, inspiring fella and I was privileged to have him on the show this week. 
March 24, 2019
#36 - There's Work To Be Done! An Interview With David Ji
After an incredible experience, whereby a homeless person asked him "What will your gravestone say?", David Ji found himself amidst an existential crisis. He was living in New York at the time and, one week after the 9/11 Terrorist Attacks (to which he had resigned from his job in the World Trade Centers not long previously), found himself struggling with the bigger picture. "Why are we here?" These experiences led him to travel to India, connect with Deepak Chopra, become a meditation teacher (including, during his practice, meditating in caves for hours on end) and finally, becoming the man he is today. Dave is an incredibly down-to-earth fella, he's got a wicked sense of humour and truly believes in the value of "stillness" and "authenticity". He's got some great content out there including his books, his meditation teachings and his community on social media is hyper engaged an awesome! This is a highly valuable podcast with many takeaways. Enjoy!
March 17, 2019
#35 - Reality Shifters: Change In Consciousness With Cynthia Sue Larson
Just how powerful are thoughts? Can you actually change your reality—the structure of reality—through thinking and feeling alone? Cynthia Sue Larson is a best-selling author, speaker, researcher and Quantum Physicist and the woman in charge, behind www. In our show, she talks about the new-age connections between spirituality (secular and religious) and science. She tells us where and what the quantum world has shown us and practical tools you can use to implement her findings!
March 10, 2019
#34 - Back after the break with Osher Gunsberg
Osher Gunserbg is an Australian television and radio hist presenter, having hosted such TV shows as Australian Idol, Bondi Rescue and The Bachelor. His new book "Back After The Break" talks about his life behind the scenes and struggles with social anxiety disorder, OCD, addiction and psychosis. But apart from all that, Osh is a genuine dude. He and I met outside a gym in Bali and jumped on for this podcast where we spoke about all things from the Simpsons and personal responsibility, to hereditary, emotional trauma and the importance of goals. 
March 3, 2019
#33 - The holistic approach to wellbeing with Dr Nicole LePara
Please do me a favour and check out the.holistic.psychologist on instagram. Nicole is a true expert and practices what she preaches as well, which is something that has become—more or less—underrated in this day and age! On the show: The importance of proper nutrition and understand the breathe. We also spoke about the need to reconnect with the Self. This has been absolutely pivotal to my ongoing wellbeing (reconnection) and, if you feel, lost, please listen to the show as we have all the tools within our own tool belt, to do this. However, if you do need some guidance, there are people out there like Nicole who will ONLY point you in the right way. 
February 24, 2019
#32 - Pathways to your inner world and how to cultivate a vision with Erick Godsey
This was a boss show! I am pumping out the skype shows gang as they allow me to tap into people's minds all over the world! And they're on YouTube too so don't be afraid to check out the visuals. I feel like what we spoke about today with my man Mr Godsey does not get taught at schools to the extent it should be. Who are you and what do you want out of life? Do not look to life and ask what its point is; ask how you can make a point out of it! Enjoy
February 17, 2019
#31 - Different aspects of the mind and building better relationships with Elise Carr
This episode has been long awaited for me and I'm so pumped you get to listen in now! I had the pleasure of sitting down with Elise Carr, 'Sacred Guidance', which is essentially psychology for the soul. We explore some of the more tangible aspects of 'spirituality' and highlight the ways in which those aspects can be practically applied to any life, irrespective of the religious or spiritual views. We also touched upon the ways individuals can build better relationships with themselves and their partners. Sometimes just booking time together, in this day and age, is all that we need! 
February 10, 2019
#30 - The Subconscious Mind and Getting Comfy With Uncomfortable Mates
This week on the show we had our good friend Chris Desmond, host of the Uncomfortable Is Ok podcast. His whole idea presents itself upon the idea of challenge and discomfort, which leads to self-growth in any given area. He is a shining example of someone who, not only embodies and acts-out his message himself, but also speaks in a relatable and pragmatic way. He just became a father too, which no doubt to all the fathers out there, is something uncomfortable in and of itself! We spoke about some of the neuroscience and spirituality behind 'getting uncomfortable' as well as what YOU can do to get a little more excited about facing challenges in your life. Enjoy!
February 3, 2019
#29 - Life after Idol and authentic pursuits with Rob Mills
I met Millsy on a lovely Melbourne winter's day. He walked past me and I couldn't help but stop him (enthusiastically, mind you). We got to talking and he (the legend) agreed to jump on board The Mind Mate Podcast for a chat before I left to Bali.  What intrigued me the most was what followed after his journey with Australian Idol. He found himself on a search for identity, which led him to overseas travels, tasting all sorts of trade jobs and eventually a rekindling love for the theatre and music scene.  Millsy now finds himself starring in plays such as Jesus Christ Superstar, Wicked and Bang Bang!  
January 27, 2019
#28 - The need to feel, modern masculinity and life behind a wall with Wayne Schwass
Today I had the absolute pleasure and privilege of chatting with AFL great and founder of 'pukaup', Mr Wayne Schwass.  The facilitation of mental health discussion has fundamentally changed the course of my life, from its infancy with my parents and with a psychologist to general dialogue and on podcasts. I can’t tell you how important it is for those suffering in silence as well as all of us to speak from the heart. We are all human beings with only our experiences separating us.  Wayne is a truly inspirational man and I do not say that lightly. His authenticity was completely overwhelming and this clip represents just one of the many times that particular aspect of his character shone through during our chat.  It was so therapeutic to speak to someone like Wayne about OCD, anxiety and depression without any wall and truly, the hour flew!  This podcast is not to be missed!
January 24, 2019
#27 - Naming The Demon
A really great tool to help combat the high manifestation of anxiety by way of detaching yourself from the signs and symptoms themselves. We also hit the interpretation of dreams and the psychological significance of the aforementioned 'tool' to help in your understanding of emotions! Enjoy this bad boy!
January 18, 2019
#26 - The law of attraction, psychedelics and being personally responsible with Siobhan Macleod
The law of attraction, psychedelics and being personally responsible with Siobhan Macleod!  What a great way (and title of the show) to introduce my partner Siobhan to the podcasting world!
January 15, 2019
#25 - Relapses: Why I've been Mr Incognito!
My latest podcast deals with something very close to my heart and that was my relapse (from a year ago now) in my fears associated with Hell and Eternal suffering. To provide a short background story, I awoke one morning (half asleep if that makes any sense) to demonic faces coming at me from all angles before they eventually subsided. In truth, this experience scared the shit out of me and took me right back to where I was three years prior. I was on the phone to my dad at 5am, began thinking of compulsions to perform in order to prevent myself from eternal damnation and felt the panic rising and rising. . . What's great about this experience however, is that the relapse humbled me greatly yet also allowed me to put #tommystencommandments to the test and I'm pumped they worked a treat (for me). The relapse lasted a total of 2 WHOLE days and that's it. . . . Now again, I don't want to be someone saying they have the answers to an anxiety free life because clearly, that would be a lie but I do want to be someone promoting the benefits of self awareness and personal management strategies to which can work absolute wonders and lead to a, more often than not, super fucking happy life! My tools work for me. I'm positive they work for millions of others too but if they don't then that's cool.
January 8, 2019
#24 - Can you recover from an anxiety disorder?
Welcome back friends! This episode touched on a few topics (I got a bit excited). We hit up Joseph Campbell's perspectives on ancient myths and religions, anxiety as an emotion—and therefore, the relevance of the term 'recovery'; my book launch which is set for the 1st of November as well as some passages from the Gospel of Thomas which relate to intrapsychological, meditative experiences. A lot of JC's stuff does seem to point to 'awakening' and, from a Jungian perspective, a reconciliation of the conscious with the subconscious mind. Carl Jung coined the phrase 'Individuation' for its reference to the above. Below is a passage of writing for the video I made a year ago about the intricacies of anxiety and its wider concepts. Enjoy! *** One thing I always used to tell myself was that I wanted to be fully 'recovered' and free from anxiety for the rest of my life. I wanted to go back to the way things were and I wanted to control my emotions. Looking back, what I have come to realise is that you can never recover from an emotion because an emotion is as part of you as the back of your hand. It's about learning how your emotions rise and fall and how you interact with the world. It's a change in perspective. I wanted to do this video today as I have been feeling anxious lately and I never wanted to be someone to preach recovery methods or ways to 'kill life'. I just want to speak about my experiences honestly and right now my anxiety emotion is killing me! What a classic.
October 11, 2018
#23 - My first major panic attack
Hey guys, welcome back. This episode of the podcast combines the old with the new. I recorded the meat of this sandwich last year, in an attempt to bring to the table a conversation about the extreme manifestation of anxiety; panic attacks. But the bread talks about some stuff I've been looking into lately which I think can really help us within our "earthly pursuits", as Carl Jung puts it. That topic is about happiness, meaning and fulfilment, as a triad. I don't think that our goal is to be happy because that's pretty arbitrary—there's no reason to it. I think our goal is to be fulfilled and, if that is the case, then there must be some meaning behind what we're doing that makes us happy. If meaning is to be included, then—to unpack this completely and pose the question—what is it you're doing that makes you happy BUT also is useful and provides a service to others? Let me know what you guys think and as always, I'm bloody grateful for you in taking the time to listen to my ramblings
September 30, 2018
#22 - Panic attacks, the gift and your tools with Alex Deken
Alex Deken is a powerlifter and authentic legend. He is the head coach at PTC South Melbourne and 10th all-time powerlifter in the 90kg class. Yet despite these accolades, our episode took on a slightly different approach this week. The first time I met Alex was, as you'll see, on an unreleased episode of AdventureFit Radio. Alex spoke to us about his fear of public speaking or as he puts it, 'self expression'. Immediately after a panic attack, the vibe became authentic and purposeful. Myself, Alex and the other boys sat and spoke about the ways anxiety manifests itself within our worlds. A few months later, I was lucky enough to catch up with Alex for another chat focused more specifically on how both he and I deal with our fears (of public speaking among others) and how communicating, utilising subjective tools and practicing confidence as an adaptable mindset can make all the difference. Enjoy!
September 5, 2018
#21 - From panic to peace: What the buddha taught with Manoj Dias
WARNING*** The audio can get a little dodge in this episode guys but it's still clearly audible and rad so stick through it and get a dose of spirituality in ya! Do yourself a favour and follow this man @manojdias_ on da socials! Manoj is the co-founder of @_aspace, a meditation centre and runs workshops all over the world, preaching the good word of inner calm. The best way to get to know yourself is to spend time with yourself! We spoke about how Manoj's old life in the corporate world led to a disconnect from self, culminating in a panic attack at work. This was a rad show, I truly loved it!
August 27, 2018
#20 - The clinical approach, personal anecdotes and The Mind Room with Jo Mitchell
This was a fantastic episode of the podcast with co-founder of The Mind Room, Jo Mitchell. I sat down with Jo and had a chat about the different approaches to combatting mental health issues today from a clinical perspective but what interested me most was Jo's anecdote of a panic attack she herself suffered in a theatre. Listen to the way she describes it from an objective, detached sense as opposed to identifying with the thoughts, feelings and symptoms. There's much to be learnt from this!
August 19, 2018
#19 - ADHD as a superpower with Gabriel Villarreal
The audio is a little dodge on this one but we loved it! This week on the show I had a chat with the great man Gabriel Villarreal. Gab is the founder of Lost Boys Strength and Conditioning, the host of his very own podcast 'Informed Consent', a counsellor to young boys diagnosed with ADHD and an all-round legend. We dived right in here and spoke about the changes in perspective with mental health disorders from weakness to superpower. Another ripper team!
August 3, 2018
#18 - A different take on depression and anxiety with Johann Hari
Ever since I listened to Johann Hari on the Joe Rogan Experience, I knew I had to get in touch with him. His book 'Lost Connections' was one of the most fascinating I have come across in recent times and my deep passion for mental health (partly because of my own experiences) no doubt forged some of these interests. I caught up with Johann Hari whilst he was on book/speaking tour promoting his book. Some of the causes and cures for depression and anxiety today may shock you as they once did me! Here, we got into why we have become so disconnected as a species from our being, our primitive values and social needs and why some of the potential cures i.e. psychadelics, meditation and a connection back to self and to our community may be more important than you think! You can also find his other book 'Chasing the scream' online which I highly recommend you do!
July 26, 2018
#17 - Spirituality in the modern landscape with John Ahern
This week's episode of The Mind Mate Podcast brings to you a very special guest; none other than my uncle John. I have always been fascinated by John's experiences and by his perception of reality, which lead him to prioritise spirituality above all as a lifestyle. Finally, I was able to sit down with him and discuss Christianity and how it has transformed, shaped and helped him to grow into the man he is today. What I found is that the way we view the world was more similar than I'd previously imagined.
July 19, 2018
#16 - Finding the self with Jason Skalkos
Jason and I have been mates since high school. We grew in different direction after graduating but have since rekindled as the universe threw signs that a strong friendship may be blossoming. Jason is a swim teacher, movement coach, spiritualist and psychedelic adventurer. His views on the world, personal experiences and message offer great insight into how to find inner peace, learning to brave the darkness (however that manifests for us) and how to lead a fulfilling lifestyle.
July 10, 2018
#15 - One Step Forward with Chris Caddy
This week on the show, Tommy speaks to Mr Chris Caddy. Chris is a CrossFit coach currently living in Melbourne, Australia. Tommy and Chris bring to you one of the more honest and raw podcasts you’ll hear this year. After struggling with personal identity for much of his youth, Chris found himself contemplating suicide on the balcony of a building. He made a brave decision to live and fix as many issues as he could and finds himself today in a much happier place. For all men and women alike, the search for identity in the modern world; authenticity is difficult and can sometimes push us to the brink. This is one man’s story. We hope you enjoy.
June 20, 2018
#14 - Anxiety, mushrooms and the modern day man with William Balme
So another episode of #themindmatepodcast is up and this time we are giving you an outtakes and part ✌️ sesh with @williebee21. Get another in depth look at his personal journey with anxiety, travel and saying g’day to many people as he works to normalise the stigma in his own radical way 👏 We hope you enjoy this episode guys!
June 12, 2018
#13 - Are you OK with Justin Geange
This week on the show, we have an amazing guest who is a field officer at MATES in Construction and was a contestant at Australia's Got Talent, Justin Geange! 😁😁😁 Just talks about his journey and experience as he works with RU OK and prevents people from commiting suicide. He also shared his darker days and how his faith helped him get back on his feet. 😉😎💯 We hope you enjoy this episode guys!
June 12, 2018
#12 - Grey Clouds and Blue Skies with Tyson Venebles
This week on the show, we head back to our #interviewswiththeexperts archives for a legendary chat with our friend Tyson Venebles! 🔥🔥🔥 Tyson is a Crossfit Coach, Key Leader at Lulu Lemon and an Mental Health advocate. He shared with us his goals of helping men reach their full potential and be more open to what they have in their mind. He also talked about how he was once in a dark situation in his life and how he was able to stand back up and get his life back. 😃
June 12, 2018
#11 - What is Anxiety?
In this episode, Tom defines the true meaning of anxiety and how it has evolved in humanity over the years. As it was with him, many anxiety sufferers are confused about the reasons why anxiety becomes apparent in their lives so hopefully this episode sheds some light as to why fear is a universally common trait. Tommy's anxiety DISORDER came about from a negative experience on mushrooms six years ago but the truth is, he had some underlying issues that needed addressing. One of the most difficult things to do is logically make sense of intrusive thoughts. By understanding where anxiety stems from as well as looking at ways of categorising fear based on its rationality, we can prevent our thoughts and fears from spiraling when they are present.
June 12, 2018
#10 - Uncomfortable is OK with Chris Desmond
This week on the show, we have an amazing guest who is also the host of the "Uncomfortable is OK" podcast, Chris Desmond! Chris talks about his journey and experience as he was going through his everyday struggle of overcoming uncomfortable situations. He and Tom agreed on the importance of getting out of your comfort zone and constantly challenging and pushing yourself. Take baby steps so as not to overwhelm yourself and embrace discomfort. Check out this amazing episode that I'm sure you'll love. We hope you enjoy this episode guys!
June 12, 2018
#9 - My Mental Health
My experience through mental health was an interesting one. Although I was very open about my disorder, I never seemed to able to relate to people with their issues. I soon discovered that my fears were more irrational than others. I'd stay awake at nights fearing the concept of eternal suffering and the onset of severe and permanent mental illness whilst my friends and family worried about errands that needed attending to, upcoming exams and relationships. When OCD kicked in, I realised my anxiety disorder had taken a turn for the worst and something needed to be done. I hope this video helps shed some light on some of the experiences of anxiety sufferers as well as the intricacies of OCD, which is more than just turning switches off and on. Enjoy!
June 12, 2018
#8 - Depression, the Inability to Feel Loved with Samantha Brennecke
This week on the show, we head back to our #interviewswiththeexperts archives for a legendary chat with our friend Samantha Brennecke! Sammy suffered from depression. The feeling of not being loved shrouded her mind which lead to anxiety and panic attacks. Know more about how Sammy fought her way through depression. We hope you enjoy this episode guys!
June 12, 2018
#7 - Who Am I and What Am I Doing?
This week on the show is an introduction to our #mentalhealthjourney archives where Tom talks about his experiences and how he has come along with his mental health. Tom experienced anxiety at an early age and has learned how to overcome it and be one with it. Check out this episode to know more about his journey! We hope you enjoy this episode guys!
June 12, 2018
#6 - Alcohol and Drugs, Dependencies and Spirituality with Cam Butterss
This week on the show, we head back to our #interviewswiththeexperts archives for a legendary chat with our friend Cam Butterss! Cam is a former alcoholic who had anxiety issues as well as separation and isolation problems. Alcohol has always been in Cam's family Growing up, he was open to using drugs as well. Find out how Cam was able to overcome his addiction and mental health issues. We hope you enjoy this episode guys!
June 12, 2018
#5 - The Fit and Healthy Dad Bod for New Fathers with Paul Glezer
This week on the show, we had a great opportunity to chat with our friend Paul Glezer, founder and owner of My Wellness Wishlist! Paul is a physical and mental health enthusiast as well as a new father to his weeks old daughter. He talks about his experiences of being a father and keeping his health and wellness check. Tommy and Paul share the same thoughts about integrity and making sure that even as a parent, one must still stay fit in all aspects. We hope you enjoy this episode guys!
June 12, 2018
#4 - Overcoming Early Drug Addiction with Aaron
This week on the show, we head back to our #interviewswiththeexperts archives for a legendary chat with our friend Aaron! Tommy and Aaron talked and shared how there aren't a lot of early interventions when it comes to mental health with children.  Find out how Aaron was able to overcome his mental health issues.  We hope you enjoy this episode guys!
June 12, 2018
#3 - OCD and Anxiety Disorder with Michael Inglis
This week on the show, we head back to our #interviewswiththeexperts archives for a legendary chat with our friend Michael Inglis! Michael is a psychologist at The Mind Room located in Melbourne's northern suburbs. Tommy and Michael sat down to have a chat about the clinical perspective of such mental health disorders as OCD, anxiety disorder and why the prevalence of such disorders has increased in today's modern society. It's a very nostalgic chat for Tommy as this was the very same space he found himself in three years prior as a patient! We hope you enjoy this episode guys!
June 12, 2018
#2 - Dealing with Panic Attacks and Anxiety with Barry McDanough
Barry McDonagh is the creator of the Panic Away Program and author of the book DARE. A native of Ireland, he focuses to help people win against panic attacks and be free from anxiety as well as depression. In this episode, Barry and Tom begin by sharing their thoughts on the modern world and how there seems to be a lost connection of community, akin to Johan Hari’s work in his latest book, ‘Lost Connections’. The boys then take their conversation back towards the power of Barry’s DARE response and how these exposing methods really can work wonders against the emotion of anxiety. This is a fantastic conversation, a great catch up for Barry and Tom and we really think you guys will love it!
June 12, 2018
#1 - Welcome
This episode of The Mind Mate podcast explores how The Mind Mate came to be, it's vision to empower individuals to own their mental health experiences, the evolution of this wondrous emotion known only as anxiety as well as an in-depth personal anecdote of the host of the show. Our aim is to shift the understanding and perspective of anxiety and mental health through the promotion of authentic mental health discourse. Talking about one’s issues should be as easy as talking about what’s on the menu for dinner or which sporting team you barrack for; even which chick or bloke you’re into! Our vision is to create an environment that genuinely celebrates authentic personal story telling on all fronts which therefore, empowers individuals and gives them the freedom to move through their irrational fears and setbacks in a less confronting way.
June 12, 2018
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