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The Oh Collective | Just Like You

The Oh Collective | Just Like You

By The Oh Collective
A podcast where we interview third-culture kids about intimacy and sexuality. #JustLikeYou

This podcast is brought to you by The Oh Collective. Our mission is to normalize intimate wellness for her, wherever she is from and wherever she might be right now in the world.

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#10 JustLikeYou: Butt plugs, swinger clubs, and 13.5 years of interracial relationships
💦  This time we have a flash fire Q&A with our own partners to share insights into the world of intercultural and interracial relationships, how to make long-term relationships (10.5 and 3.5 years!!) work and how to keep the excitement in those relationships.   🎧  Listen to hear more about:  01:10 How did you meet?   02:12 Do you still masturbate? And if so when and where?   02:24 Do you use sex toys?   03:49 How often do you have sex?  05:27 How do you make a 10.5 year relationship work?  06:24 How to introduce "kink" to your partner?  09:14 Swingers clubs  10:02 Have you dated Asians before?  10:50 Do men date their moms?   11:40 Do men have lists of characteristics of the women they want to end up with?   12:13 What are the differences you see dating someone from an Asian background?   14:50 How do you balance your priorities and values as a couple and as individuals?   15:55 How do you keep a 10.5- and 3.5 year relationship exciting?   17:35 Dating advice for women and men out there   ✨  #JustLikeYou is a bi-weekly episode where we interview different types of third culture kids who are #JustLikeYou on sex, intimacy, and how to navigate your romantic and sexual lives. If you liked this video, please give us a like and follow our channel for more content.   For more on The Oh Collective check out our    Website: https://www.theohcollective.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theohcollective/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theohcollective? Follow us on WeChat @TheOhCollective   💌  Feedback & Collaborations: hi@theohcollective.com
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January 03, 2022
9 #JustLikeYou: Afghani Squirt Queen Nili on multiple orgasms, emotional detachment and more
💦  We talk to Nili, who is originally Afghani but has lived in Pakistan, Germany, the US and now in Japan. Nili grew up in a religious household where the common belief is that a girl should be a virgin until she marries. She has broken away from that old school belief and refuses to stay silent about anything that brings her joy and laughter.  🍃 Nili, also the "Squirt Queen", loves meditation, trips into nature, but also an occasional drunk night out that might result in finding the love of her night.  🔥 Nili is irreverent, brilliant, and a badass with a personality that could light up the whole room. Listen in to know more about vaginal orgasms and squirting, intimacy in Afghani/German/Japanese households and Nili's tips on keeping a long term relationship healthy and spicy. 💬 Nili favourite self-love quotes: "What you expect is what you attract" and "Masturbate Everday!"  ✨ #JustLikeYou is a bi-weekly episode where we interview different types of third culture kids who are #JustLikeYou on sex, intimacy, and how to navigate your romantic and sexual lives. If you liked this video, please give us a like and follow our channel for more content.  For more on The Oh Collective check out our  - Website: https://www.theohcollective.com/  - Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theohcollective/ - TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theohcollective?  💌 Feedback & Collaborations: hi@theohcollective.com  ---------------------------------------------  - 01:32 Eden and Simona talk about life and being "crazy kids"  - 04:00 Intro and ice breaker: Nili's first penetrative vaginal orgasm and squirting  - 05:15 Sex keeping you young and Nili been the walking proof  - 07:15 How was it growing up as an Afghani woman? About being a virgin, what society expected and how does that contrast with her German upbringing?  - 11:00 What happens when sex is forbidden?  - 14:00 Nili on discovering her sexuality  - 14:40 How did you cope with having strict parents and such a deep curiosity for sexuality?  - 14:51 Choosing friends that fit your personality and mindset  - 16:06 How to separate feelings from lust? Going for your love of the night/day/week. - 16:30 Do you have sex differently with the guys you like vs you don’t like?  - 19:20 How to overcome boredom in long term relationships? How to keep a relationship exciting?  - 20:40 What about swinging - does that keep your relationship healthy?  - 21:40 Does monogamy still exist?  - 23: 45 Is it always the girl who gets emotionally attached after sex?  - 25:40 What is it that you do to make guys fall in love with you?  - 27:50 Nili's explanation on "the 30-second orgasm", squirting and her craziest stories  - 29:30 Can you train squirting? Are you born with this?  - 32:10 Is squirting equal to having an orgasm?  - 34:30 Are men going crazy about you because you can squirt?  - 38:00 What do you use for squirting? How do lay your bed? (What Simona saw on TikTok https://www.amazon.nl/Guangyu-Waterdi...)  - 39:00 What is the one piece of advice for all women and girls? What you expect is what you attract - 39:50 What is your favourite self love quote? Masturbate everyday!  - 40:00 Advice for girls who don’t feel like masturbating or having sex?  - 40:35 Why you shouldn’t feel ashamed about watching porn - 43:44 The Sex toy scene in Japan that is mainly focused on the man because Japanese porn is heavily male focused - 44:15 Japanese women who mainly prioritise pleasuring their men than pleasuring themselves - 45:05 Will the world turn into Japanese society: isolated and with cyber girl/boyfriends (afraid for love?)
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December 18, 2021
8 #JustLikeYou: Aerospace engineer turned Startup founder Sheta on intimacy, dating, sex and rape in India
👩🏽‍🚀  Today we have the honour to talk to Sheta, who was born in India and has lived across 11 cities around the world. Sheta studied aerospace engineering but decided life isn't only about studying. She attained her Harvard  Business degree,  continued in consulting, worked at Nike, founded her own female health startup in India, and is now back to consulting again. Sheta is also a certified yoga instructor and is all about health and wellness.    🥛  We'll talk about the best kept Indian secrets to live a long and prosperous intimate life, whether arranged marriages are underrated and what she learnt about female health and wellness from running her own female wellness business in India.   💬  Sheta's favourite self-love quote: "No person is the same: not our brains, our bodies or what we bring to the table. Everyone's unique. You are special."   ✨  #JustLikeYou is a weekly episode where we interview different types of different third culture kids who are #JustLikeYou on sex, intimacy, and how to navigate your romantic and sexual lives. If you liked this video, please give us a like and follow our channel for more content.   For more on The Oh Collective check out our    - Website: https://www.theohcollective.com/ - Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theohcollective/ - WeChat: https://mp.weixin.qq.com/s/n1hPku8O2vh-hUyBpagZ3w - TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theohcollective?  💌  Feedback & Collaborations: hi@theohcollective.com   ---------------------------------------------  On our #bigsisteradvice talk with Sheta:   02:35 Sheta's study & career track: aerospace engineer, business degree & her own start up AndMe that has been recently sold   05:08 Sheta on her first orgasm experience and Indian school  06:35 Culture, parents and friends on sex and intimacy in India   07:52 Media in India that cover sexual health & the taboos on sex in Indian media. Sheta gives examples of highly scrutinized movies in India 10:00 Does religion play a big role in the taboo against sex as well? Kama Sutra originates from India and it is displayed in temples.  12:12 China's openness to sex and sexuality  14:10 Kama Sutra in India: is it actually practised in India?  17:57 What is the best-kept secret in Indian culture to maintain a healthy sex life? 18:13 Sex before marriage and turmeric lattes on the wedding night for enhanced potency and powers  20:04 We read that 80-85% of people in India opt for arranged marriages versus love marriages and they feel that those are superior and that those actually last longer than "love marriages". What is your POV on this?  23:15 How media portrays romance and happiness in love. There's more to life than striving towards a perfect marriage  24:38 The nuances of dating in India vs the west: how you don't date in India, but you meet each other through hanging out in the same friend groups and checking out each other family's backgrounds  25:15 Women's safety in India 27:30 Rape incidences in India 28:26 What make men in India think that rape is "normal"? And the disbalance between men and women 29:50 Why did you start AndMe, your female health and wellness start-up in India?  35:00 Was there any push back to you starting your own female health start up in India?  38:20 Why we need to practice, learn and discuss sexual health more. 42:00 What do you want all girls to know: do a regular health/physical/skin/hair/sexual check up on yourself to review and optimize. Take a score check every 3-6 months.  45: Your favourite self-love quote. From neuroscience and scientific pov our brains are constituted differently. Know that about yourself. Nobody is an impostor. Everyone's unique. You're spec
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December 05, 2021
Bonus Episode:《电台不让播的都在这里了》: Chat with 2 he/him/thems about sexual wellness in China (Mandarin)
This is a bonus episode where Eden & Diana were invited to X Hunting for a chat on everything sexual wellness in China. Listen in to get your knowledge upgraded on sexual health in China, in mandarin.
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November 30, 2021
7 #JustLikeYou: Model, law grad and mother Jewaria on Sexual Abuse & Skin disease Lichen Sclerosus
💁🏻‍♀️  Today we are talking to Jewaria who on the surface is living thé life: she is a model, a law graduate, online creative and raising the cutest little baby boy next to it. In this episode, we'll go further than what social media portrays and talk about her experience with sexual abuse, parental fear for rape when growing up and her rare skin disease Lichen Sclerosus that affects her genital area. At age 24 it seems Jewaria has already lived several lives, so let's get into it.   💬  Jewaria's favourite self-love quote: "I love you, but I love myself more".    ✨  #JustLikeYou is a weekly episode where we interview different types of different third culture kids who are #JustLikeYou on sex, intimacy, and how to navigate your romantic and sexual lives. If you liked this video, please give us a like and follow our channel for more content.   For more on The Oh Collective check out our    - Website: https://www.theohcollective.com/ - Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theohcollective/ - WeChat: https://mp.weixin.qq.com/s/n1hPku8O2vh-hUyBpagZ3w - TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theohcollective?  💌  Feedback & Collaborations: hi@theohcollective.com   ---------------------------------------------  On our #bigsisteradvice talk with Jewaria:   01:40 How would you describe Jewaria in one word?   01:55 What does "feeling sexy" mean to you?  02:15 How Jewaria's Vietnamese mom told Jewaria to claim her sexuality  03:20 What is one thing you remember about sexuality when growing up? Jewaria tells us about her progressive mom  04:45 How did your Vietnamese/Moroccan/Japanese/Dutch background influence your upbringing on the sexual front? Jewaria on the Asian parent fears that their children run the risk to be raped.  08:25 Do you think that the cycle of "rape fear" can be broken?   09:15 What do you think about the taboo that exists around sexuality and masturbation? Jewaria on her mom giving her 2 vibrators on her 16th  11:20 Can you share more about your autoimmune disease Lichen Sclerosus?  14:00 Does it affect your orgasms?   15:30 Can you still have a clitoral orgasm?   16:30 Jewaria on her sexual abuse experience and why girls should never have shame, guilt and think that it's their fault.   17:55 What helped you get out of the sexual abuse guilt spiral?   19:50 What was your mom's response to this childhood fear of hers?  23:00 How Jewaria was drugged & his family's reaction to Jewaria's experience  27:45 What are the red flags you should never ignore?   28:50 Do you think you have overcome your experience and does it impact your current sexual life now?  30:00 One piece of advice for all girls and women out there?   31:20 Your favourite self-love quote?   32:10 The toxic traits of social media that you only see the glamorous side and how people with influence should open up more    For more on Jewaria check out her Instagram where she also uploaded a video on her sexual abuse experience https://www.instagram.com/jewaria/channel/
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November 20, 2021
6 #JustLikeYou: Aruban born Valeska opens up about Chinese Confinement & postpartum sexual wellness
✨  #JustLikeYou is a weekly episode where we interview different types of different third culture kids who are #JustLikeYou on sex, intimacy, and how to navigate your romantic and sexual lives.    👯‍♀️  This week we interview Valeska who was born in Aruba and raised in the Netherlands since she was 15 years old. Valeska has been with LVMH, Nike, G-star and is currently a marketing manager at Netflix. On the private side of her life, she's been together with her Polish fiancé, Mata, for over 10 years now and just became a mom to her newborn son Gabrielle.    🤱 Valeska shares sexual wellness tips for baby mamas ánd baby daddies, her 40 days of Chinese medicine-inspired confinement postpartum ritual and why every upcoming mother should try it, and her secret sauce to thrive in a 10-year relationship.   💬  V's favorite self-love quote: "Never lose yourself"   💚 💜  The Oh Collective is on a mission to normalize sexual wellness and pleasure for all women around the world. If you liked this video, please give us like and follow.  For more on The Oh Collective check out our    - Website: https://www.theohcollective.com/ - Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theohcollective/ - WeChat: https://mp.weixin.qq.com/s/n1hPku8O2vh-hUyBpagZ3w - TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theohcollective?  💌 Feedback & Collaborations: hi@theohcollective.com   ---------------------------------------------  Our #bigsisteradvice talk with Valeksa:   01:38 How old were you when you started masturbating and was this in Aruba?   02:32 How does an orgasm feel for you and how old were you when you had your first orgasm? A release and like you can breathe again.   03:27 The one thing you learned about sexuality growing up in Aruba and The Netherlands?  04:29 How have you managed a 10-year relationship? What are your relationship essentials?   05:00 What cultural and personal differences do you experience in your relationship and how do you cope with that?   08:46 Why did you follow the Chinese Medicine routine of 40 days of confinement, staying inside, eating warm food, and adhering to these Chinese rituals postpartum? And do you see similarities to your Dominican Republic heritage?   10:35 Would you recommend the Chinese routine of postpartum confinement to others?  11:28 What amazed you the most about confinement for yourself?  12:00 Were you able to cater to your own intimate wellness postpartum? Valeska opens up about being a "feeding machine" as a new mom.   12:34 How do you take care of yourself postpartum as a new mom and how do you cater to your own mental and physical wellness?   14:50 Did you have intercourse after pregnancy, did intercourse postpartum feel differently?  15:44 Did you have intercourse during pregnancy? How do you feel about yourself during your pregnancy?   16:02 "Self-care" through self-pleasure during pregnancy  16:50 Being horny during pregnancy  17:21 Was your baby daddy ok with masturbation and sex toys during pregnancy?   17:52 How does your partner feel with you bringing sex toys into partner play?  19:20 What have you learned throughout the years and what's your biggest piece of advice for other third culture kids out there?   20:21 What is your advice for baby mommas and baby daddies on sexual wellness and sex after pregnancy?   21:25 What is your favorite self-love quote?
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November 13, 2021
5 #JustLikeYou with Ying on starting a sex toy store after leaving Nike and McKinsey & Asian honesty
✨ #JustLikeYou is a weekly episode where we interview all types of different third culture kids who are #JustLikeYou on sex, intimacy, and on how to navigate life. 🤓 This week we interview Ying, a Stanford graduate who went on to become a consultant a McKinsey, an executive at Nike, and finally quit her corporate career to chase her passion to start a Sex Toy store & bar, V-Spot, in Shanghai. 🙇🏻‍♀️ Listen in to hear what her expert view is on why you should masturbate, how an orgasm feels like, her insights on starting a sexual wellness company in China and her strangest encounters, and her very strong advice for all women and girls out there. 💬 Ying’s favorite self-love quote: "Self-criticism asks: are you good enough? Self-compassion asks: what's good for me?" From Emma Seppälä 🧡 💛 💚 💜 The Oh Collective is on a mission to normalize sexual wellness and pleasure for all women around the world! Please like this video and give us a follow if you liked it and want to see more of it. For more on The Oh Collective check out our The Oh Collective Instagram  The Oh Collective WeChat The Oh Collective TikTok 💌 Feedback & Collaborations: hi@theohcollective.com --------------------------------------------- Jump to your topic of interest with Ying: 01:19 Tell us a bit about yourself: where did you grow up, what are your roots? 02:36 When did you masturbate for the first time? And when was the first time you orgasmed? 04:07 Underwhelming orgasms 05:00 About enjoying the journey towards an orgasm 05:50 How does an orgasm feel? 08:00 What have your learnings been from Nike executive to McKinsey Consultant and then taking the plunge to start your own Sex Shop in Shanghai, China? Was it a passion project or commercial opportunity, or both? 10:00 What was the reason Yin Closed V-Spot in Shanghai and her learnings on opening and running a retail store in Shanghai 14:18 What type of people visited Ying’s sex toy store V-Spot in Shanghai? You’d be surprised! 14:50 White collar, highly educated independent women who were the most frequent visitors at Ying’s sex toy store in Shanghai 15:34 The strangest encounters Ying have had at her sex toy store 19:25 Differences Europe versus China when talking about sex and openness towards sex 23:44 Ying on her next endeavor to normalize sexual wellness for women: menstrual underwear and a mini-program 24:49 The biggest misconceptions about menstruation that Ying have encountered 26:22 Advice for all women and girls out there 26:35 Women are told to be attractive to succeed and the high pressure from Chinese society on appearances: Ying wants all women to know this when they are in the same situation Find more about Ying through V-Spot (V Spot on WeChat here https://mp.weixin.qq.com/s/ex9HZVt50i...)
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November 05, 2021
4. #JustLikeYou with Amber Akilla on Fetishizations, s3x , and setting boundaries
✨ #JustLikeYou is a weekly episode where we interview all types of different third culture kids who are #JustLikeYou on sex, intimacy, and on how to navigate life. 🦋 This week we had a little chat with Amber Akilla. Amber is a Chinese-Australian multi-disciplinary creative. She is best known as a DJ and has done work as a creative producer and consultant working with brands like Nike, Adidas, and more. In 2018, she co-founded NVSHU, Chinese for "Women's Skill". The project began as women and LGBTQ+-focused DJ workshop and evolved into connecting creatives across different disciplines. Through her personal project and podcast, Friend Crush, she shares the evolution in her understanding and perspectives on human connection, creativity, and authenticity as a way to encourage others to embrace the journey of self-understanding and empowerment. 💜 Listen in to hear what her learnings were on sexuality and intimacy while growing up in Australia and working in Shanghai, what it means to "self empower" and why having babies is overrated. 🧡 💛 💚 💜 The Oh Collective is on a mission to normalize sexual wellness and pleasure for all women around the world! Please like this video and give us a follow if you liked it and want to see more of it. For more on The Oh Collective check out our The Oh Collective Instagram  The Oh Collective WeChat The Oh Collective TikTok 💌 Feedback & Collaborations: hi@theohcollective.com --------------------------------------------- The topics we talk about with Amber Akilla: 01:40 Intro to Amber: where she’s from, where she grew up 03:03 What nationality does amber identify with? 03:27 What did you study and what did you want to become? 05:30 Amber's first awkward sexual moment 06:54 Amber's worst sexual moment 07:35 Would you date a guy after a first bad kiss? 08:40 How did you learn about sexual wellness and how do you keep informed right now? 09:36 Did you talk about sex with friends? 10:00 Amber opening up about racial identity versus sexual identity 11:00 The most compelling TikTok Amber came across on TikTok: Amber's finding that the body automatically responds to creating wetness/discharge to the idea of sexuality but what we conceptualize in our minds is different (primal reactions versus intelligent responses) 13:00 Men and performance anxiety, being turned on mentally but being physically inept 14:05 Socialization of genders 16:20 Going to an all-girls school and how that impacted Amber's views on sexuality and gender 19:30 How did Amber's mom respond to Amber not putting her law degree to use and becoming a DJ and creative consultant 20:34 Does it feel easier to be female in the creative space versus, for instance, working in law? 22:00 Our experiences working in corporate as women in Shanghai and inequality in China in general 30:38 Your biggest lessons regarding wellness and sexual wellness and intimacy that Amber has discovered - Amber on connecting with yourself and to learn what your boundaries are, and how boundaries affect all aspects in your li
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November 01, 2021
3. #JustLikeYou: hua hua on sex work, becoming a Shibari artist, and intimacy growing up as a third culture kid
👸🏻 hua hua is a British Chinese artist with an unconventional third cultured kid background. She dropped out of university where she was originally studying philosophy and art history to pursue a lifestyle as an artist. She worked across different industries from film, amnesty international, sex work, gallery work, and more. Today, she is the co-founder of BORDERLINE, a platform dedicated to rope art and activities in China. She believes that rope bondage is a process of exploring our authenticities. 💖 Listen in to learn what it was like learning about her sexuality growing up in the UK with Chinese parents, how she got into Shibari rope art, what she has learned throughout her career in Shibari, and how Shibari can benefit overall intimate sexual wellness for all. 🤯 We did not know these facts before “Did you know Maya Angelou was a sex worker?” “Do you know what sugaring is?" "Do you know some people consider that as sex work?” (Sugaring is a form of dating in which one partner financially supports the other, often in the form of cash or gifts.) We are m i n d b l o w n, so let's get to it. If you liked this episode, please give us a like and subscribe to our channel for weekly #JustLikeYou interviews with third culture kids.  For more The Oh Collective give us a follow on Instagram @TheOhCollective WeChat @The Oh Collective 噢欢乐 Spotify @TheOhCollective TikTok @TheOhCollective Topics we discuss in this episode:  06:00 Growing up in Europe and how that changed her perspective on sex & intimacy. Family, moms, friends, and people at school.  16:50 How did you educate yourself about sex at an all-girls school?  19:30 The normalcy of getting tested after every new partner and how different countries approach this. How easy it's to catch STDs, the risks, and how they compare to each other  23:00 Discovering porn and how the internet and older siblings facilitated her curiosity  24:25 How hua hua discovered Shibari and why China? Hua hua explains its connection with the human body, intimacy, creativity, and pursuing something you have are passionate about with someone else  26:50 The role of sex in Shibari: how Shibari helps with being more attentive towards someone's body, have someone look at you in different ways, and helps you become more open in communication  29:55: Are there types of people who should be interested in Shibari?  34:00 Demisexual, Sapiosexual, and A-sexual people: should they dip their toes into shibari?  34:40 The differences in Europe vs China when it comes to Shibari  36:30 Surprising fact about Shibari: most people are very conservative, live a very standard life. For them, BDSM is a necessary way to release pleasure  38:35 Partners that dislike their partner participating in BDSM  40:40 Is BDSM infidelity?  44:30 The biggest misconception about Shibari  46:10 The benefits of Shibari on overall wellness: how it impacts trust, intimacy, vulnerability, self-awareness, and communication  50:20 How can you "dip your toes" into Shibari?  54:00 hua hua's biggest takeaways when it comes to sexuality, intimacy, relationships  55:10 The inherent Asian/female/immigrant persona that wants to satisfy other people's needs and saying "NO"  56:00 hua hua explains her experiences with
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October 25, 2021
2. Just Like You: Yanyie about masturbation at a young age, Kink parties for social good and sexuality in Germany versus China
In this podcast, we interview Yanyie - a third culture kid who grew up in Germany to Malaysian and Vietnamese parents. Yanyie resides in Shanghai (China) today and started her own fundraising for social good through Kink parties.  Listen to learn more about "Cotton & Silk", kindergarten masturbation, conflicts we faced ourselves when growing up as traditional Asian kids versus growing up in the liberal West, and why it's actually much safer going to kink parties than going to "normal" parties.   Notes: - The fact we mentioned about men who ejaculate sperm, will age faster (while women become younger with sex) is found in Dave Asprey's podcast with John Gray (Taoist principles of sexuality)    Subscribe for more videos and follow us on   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theohcollective/  WeChat: TheOhCollective  Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/5uo1oXu5R0jzdhmZdmBtVz?si=226e9bd83a134b86 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theohcollective?
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October 17, 2021
1. Just Like You: Masturbation, Parents & Porn and Thát Awkward Moment
We all grew up as Asian Immigrant Kids outside of China. This has impacted the way we grew up around and viewed sexuality and intimacy. Some of us grew up knowing everything about sexuality through talks with our parents, while others of us had to learn through media, school, and friends.  This is our first episode in a series where we will interview third generation kids about what their "normal" was when it came to intimacy and sex.  Follow us for next episodes 💖 
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October 14, 2021