Cultivating Calm Within: Personal Development Series

In this episode, Linda J Wolff shares the spoken word "For a Split Second." Learning a conscious thought takes us back to the truest part of our intelligence.

We can make choices that will bring us to our highest level of joy and success.

In this episode, Courage. A heart Without a Home. Linda J Wolff will recite a poem she wrote about an experience of her first experience hiking a mountain that had an elevation of over 6000 ft.

- Motivational Quote

Oh, the moral strength it takes to transition through danger, difficulty, and fear. - Linda J Wolff

Where you can find her.

In, Be in the Moment, I will share my philosophy or ideals on this topic.

In this episode of Holding Space and the Empty Glass, I will share a reference or theory I use when I am in an emotional quandary. Also, this is in reference to our people and others.

Let’s look at holding space as an empty glass for an instance.

I have a crystal clear acrylic glass, it’s tall and with a bubble pattern design. It can hold approximately sixteen fluid ounces of liquid. I preferably fill with water for hydration. But, today it is empty.

It’s hard to hold space and keep your mind filled with clarity and purpose. This morning was a perfect example; let me share a small story about my fifteen and half year old daughter and myself conversation.

Places you can find me:

In episode, Emotional Energy: Energize or Drain, I am going to share with you today; me. These emotions I have and how I use them, I process and comprehend deeply.

In todays episode, Discover You 365 Series #2: Time is Everything. Timing holds the key to your inner peace. I couldn't understand what inner peace meant to me twenty years ago. Let me explain why... 

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Understanding Timing is Everything

Timing holds the key to your inner peace and discovering more about yourself that you cannot be aware of. This was a hard concept for me to grasp right off. You might be questioning yourself about this. Twenty years ago, my mindset and spirit were not aligned. 

My husband at that point of time was dying of Multiple Myeloma Stage Two bone cancer, add word dying when it correlates with the word terminal and raising my adopted daughter of five years-old. With these challenges, I also ran my husband's asphalt paving business.

How can you even grasp the concept of inner peace when your mind, body, and soul is at war. The thing is I couldn't. Because there was no peace at that time. The strains of the heavy burden I was carrying was immeasurable. I'm pretty sure you can relate this state of a chaotic environment.

Holding it together took every bit of my energy to be in many different places at one time. 

Sometimes though, I drank, just so I could cope and be able to sleep. I think about that now and I don't guilt-trip myself now for falling on the drin

How could it be, when I think back as to what was going on in my life at that time. I can reason with it. Understanding where you are at in the timing.

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Timing is everything and the discovering parts about myself.

A lot of people will mentally beat themselves up for this. I don't. These experiences I'm grateful for, why, because it opened me up to discovering parts of myself I never knew at the time. Something, I found is I have this amazing energy of resilience. I didn't quit when the timing challenged me for six years, it was time to go deep for that strength and hold on to it so tight.

Relied on my power in prayers and my inner strength. I didn't quit or run away. There was a time, I had to step away and leave my husband. It was when his mental state of mind became violently abusive to myself and my five year old. That was the hardest decision to make. Yet, when physical and mental abuse falls upon your beautiful daughter. There's some major decision making to do. That's when I asked help from his family. They had separated themselves from his illness. I never felt to alone in this journey.

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Thinking forward to now, I'm grateful. Those human experiences keep me humble and appreciative.

I'm sharing this reality with you because I have learned so much in this day-to-day journey, and I want to share my step-by-step progress in staying on point with your path. Something about discovering you 365 days series. 

I want to help your find those beautiful pieces of you imperfectly perfect and how to recognize there's a profound peace and harmony when your mind, body, and spirit align in conjunction with your life. 

Self-acceptance is pivotal piece of my lifestyle, centering and focusing on the positive environment inside of my spirit and the impact of my value system on the world and those who align and support with my energy.

In today's episode; Daily Pep Talk: Shake It Off. First, wanted to say "Hope you are having a great day! See, my morning started as a challenge. Very little sleep, woke feeling sluggish and yucky. You know that feeling, hahaha, everything's a procrastination . 

In this episode, Cultivating Calm Within: Bridge the Gap Between Fear & Happiness, Love & Understanding. Linda J Wolff, shares how we can use our open space inside our soul for calm and peace.

How if learn to understand people where they are at and they experiences they have endured of trauma and pain. How we can react with love and understanding making room for a lesson of love and healing.

In this episode OF "The Sense of Self Podcast", Linda J Wolff, shares a quote, her thoughts on how we can practice in shutting out the distractions, cruel words or chaos from the outside edge of the world.

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Motivational Quote: 

Nothing can dim your light that shines from within you. Unless you allow it.

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In this episode of "The Sense of Self Podcast", Linda J Wolff shares her insight on self-growth, motivating ourselves, and six key self-growth steps in building an amazing life. Peace is a key element that helps encourage happiness within a person.

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She understands that people are in different places of growing, learning, and healing, and that each person may not heal because the trauma or pain is too much.

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In this episode of The Sense of Self Podcast, Linda J Wolff shares insights about how your values and boundary lines determine whether you experience a stressful and painful use of your energy or, whether your values bring a powerful joyful experience.

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Quote of the Day:

"People can love you with feeling, yet, still not know how to love you the way you want with their actions.

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In this episode, Linda J Wolff, narrator, and author of The Sense of Self Podcast shares her Personal Development Series: Make Each Painful Piece of Your Past Becomes a Song of Practice and Self-Love, several positive healing micro poems and how through each day you can remind yourself that the pieces of your past do not determine your present or future. Through the practice of healthy living and practicing peace the inner child in you will heal and thrive in this challenging world.

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Pain has depth, and can only be felt by the one holding it.

Practice sowing seeds of understanding, trust, and love within.

The truest lover to love you is your own genuineness.

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Linda J Wolff is a Washington State-based writer, speaker, and personal development coach.

She is the author of Self-Healing Poetry and Quotes for Ordinary People and Ethereal Glow.

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Obsessed with how those sunrises, 

and those sunsets on the horizon.

the flowers and the bees

the moon and the stars

and how they entwine in every inkling of light

that surrounds you.

Don't get lost in those who

have traumatized you,

become the flex in surrendering

through surrender, practice,

pause and presence,

your connection with your emotions.

that's where healing starts...

In today's episode, the narrator, and author, Linda J Wolff, shares how healing starts with the surrender of emotions before they saturate your soul with too much that you become empty, and how you can transition through those emotions.

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MOTIVATIONAL POEM

There’s something to be said

about shadows and darkness,

there’s depth in its absence of light.

One could say fear or doubt

reside there in those places like 

a soul lost on a perilous journey of

bitterness, hate or blame,

I understand how one could fall

into the emptiness of its fate.

Panic or sorrow has a way of

masking the light behind the

shadows, the joy that’s buried,

if only we could draw upon the

power of light that shines

within us, go beyond the

ledge of our fears or emptiness,

it’s such a fine line to transition,

to embrace our tremendous power.

But, as many have, I pray many

more will find the light before it’s gone.

In today's episode, the narrator, and author, Linda J Wolff, shares how to stop yourself from forcing people to change or to love you because you want them to validate you or meet your needs. 

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MOTIVATIONAL QUOTE:

Whenever my learning journey becomes overwhelming, 

I will lean into the power within me, 

I will embrace the essence of this strength 

and the spirit that has been forged 

throughout me all of my days. 

I will surrender my resistance 

and choose a different path.

In today's episode, narrator, and author, Linda J Wolff, shares how to lean into the power within you by taking five minutes to sit with your emotions and the choice of allowing your pain to pass throughout you and create a visionary board for day-to-day goals or long term goals.

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MOTIVATIONAL & SOOTHING POEM

Oh, how the days change,

a light spring rain

and raindrops dance

upon delicate petals,

and the dampness saturates

in through the pores of

my soul reminds me

how people come and go

throughout my life,

leaving me feeling

disconnected at times.

See, I’m honest with myself,

it’s how I step into the openness,

into the vulnerable power of

my being, I know that every day

cannot be perfect,

but it can be real,

and then there are those days

when the sun yields such

warmth and joy,

how can I not embrace the

rain and the sunshine,

it’s the beautiful reminder

of changes, the hardships

and the joys. How intertwined,

to have such a deep woven

faith in God and in humanity

and the essence of spirit.

Yet, remain woven in time

in this balance of calmness.

In today's episode, narrator, and author, Linda J Wolff, shares how to lean into the power within you to help your special someone feels loved when they are 

struggling with challenges mentally, or physically. 

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There are seven important messages we can deliver through emotional support, 

here below I will list them, and there are much more:

1. Reassurance

2. A Safe Space

3. Your words aligning with your actions

4. Respect

5. Being open and vulnerable

6. Communication

7. Patience and Understanding their condition or struggle

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Linda J Wolff is a Washington State-based writer, speaker, and personal development coach.

She is the author of Self-Healing Poetry and Quotes for Ordinary People and Ethereal Glow.

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In today's episode of The Sense of Self Podcast: Personal Development Series: The Finite Line of Recognition, Reacting Through Love and Understanding, Linda J Wolff, narrator, and author shares how to learn to recognize when to react and when not to react. Also, how reacting through love and understanding creates a beautiful outcome of learning, thus creating a tranquil, peaceful balance in the home or workplace.

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MOTIVATIONAL POEM

It requires something from us, accountability perhaps, our entirety of essence, of love. Yet, are we capable?

I would love to be able to believe that we could be more, yet, some cannot be all that due to history or circumstances, so I will not overthink this, nor will I overreact to add to what chaos already holds its placement in our world. Yet, I will try to understand that balance and purpose may someday find their way into the hearts of many.

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Linda J Wolff is a Washington State-based writer, speaker, and personal development coach.

In today's episode of The Sense of Self Podcast: Personal Development Series: In That Moment When You Learn How To Love Yourself, Linda J Wolff, narrator, and author shares how to learn to practice loving yourself first. There's a recognition that happens when we practice raising our level of awareness. This awareness helps us dissolve doubt, fears, and overthinking.

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MOTIVATIONAL POEM

There’s that moment when you

realize that every bit of effort

you have put into practice of

learning how to love you again

feels like a new seed breaking

ground for the first time.

You feel the warmth of

self in the minutes of time,

and doubt has been erased

and you rise in each morning

growing in strength, knowing you

can’t be everything to everyone else

if you are nothing to yourself.

In today's episode of The Sense of Self Podcast: Personal Development Series: I understand Their Silence, Linda J Wolff, narrator, and author shares how to give the gift of understanding and space, and how it grows a loving caring place for those you love.

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MOTIVATIONAL POEM:

I understand the silence.

How the soul needs

solace between the moon

and sun- their voices

and their trauma.

In today's episode of The Sense of Self Podcast: Personal Development Series - Finding Peace Amidst This Chaotic Storm, Linda J Wolff, narrator, and author shares her experiences of her lifetime of chaos, and how she recognized how to practice in peace amidst the instability. 

She understands about controlling the narrative of her own story, and how to put the pieces back together with strength and perseverance.

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MOTIVATIONAL POEM:

There’s an unfolding as the

dawn makes its way into

day, as songbirds pour

their melodies into the

morning.

I watch as songbird’s

bounce from branch to

branch with excitement,

where peace and anticipation

collide in the misty air.

For me, I have

learned the value of time,

where I savor each

microsecond, it’s profound

when I can feel peace in

knowing how to drink in

the sounds and beauty

being painted before my

eyes in each minute of passing.

In today's episode of The Sense of Self Podcast: Personal Development Series: Remind Yourself to Practice Like a Spring Rain, narrator, and life coach, Linda J Wolff shares her thoughts and poem about transition, temporariness, and embracing emotions.

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MOTIVATIONAL POEM:

That transition from winter to spring,

where the cold, weighted raindrops

become warm, one drop, then another.

Reminds me of learning to practice in

the love of selfless healing, one teardrop,

another affirmation of recognition.

How heartache was a milestone of

what once was, yet, no longer weighted in

the moisture of pain, and how rainbows

leak color in a soul now filled with love,

faithfulness, and peace.

And seeds will soon drop onto 

the landscape of hope after a few

spring rainstorms sprouting with growth.

In today's episode of The Sense of Self Podcast: Personal Development Series: Choices Can Uplift or Downshift, narrator, personal life coach, and author, Linda J Wolff speaks about how to represent yourself, the fallout of wrong choices, the impression that follows you throughout a lifetime.

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MOTIVATIONAL MUSE:

Oh, the possibilities of a life well-lived,

if we could peel away the dead

leaves of yesterday, and grow from the

stems of strength, if we could open

like a flower bloom and receive the light of

hope and understanding, just imagine

the things that would fall at our feet.

In today's episode, Linda J Wolff, author, narrator, and personal life coach shares her thoughts on The Sense of Self Podcast: Personal Development Series: What if I Make Him or Them Uncomfortable?

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What if I Make Him or Them Uncomfortable? 

What if you don't? I've learned that if I don't bring my authentic feminine energy, I risk losing my power to represent my beautiful self. 

So many times we overthink things, worry about hurting their feelings, commit too much time and energy to the what if's. There's something that happens when we refuse to "rock the boat" so to speak, we start feeling resentment, and anger towards them for their behaviors.

It's not their fault that you won't speak up and tell them how you want to be respected. What makes you happy.

A silent mouth sinks the boat, destroys what could have been a magical time in life for you.

Don't be afraid to be the woman or man you are, bring your quirky, goofy authentic self, love every piece of your uniqinness. Keep your feminine power or your masculing energy.

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MOTIVATIONAL POEM - CLARITY & HONESTY

In today's episode, Linda J Wolff, author, narrator, and personal life coach shares Personal Development Series: The Protective Instincts of a Momma Cat Against a Predator Cobra.

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I want to share a video I came across on Facebook, I found it kind of bittersweet and fascinating at the same time, the desert can be a brutal place, kind of like how chaos finds its way into our lives. Sometimes by choice, and other times it just happens. Listen now as I tell the amazing story of how a momma cat saves the lives of her four kittens and the assistance of one human act in the end.

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Motivational Quote:

"Wouldn't it be amazing to be

free enough to pause in peace

and feel home in all in one breath."

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She is the author of Self-Healing Poetry and Quotes for Ordinary People and Ethereal Glow.

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In today's episode, Linda J Wolff, author, narrator, and personal life coach of The Sense of Self Podcast: Personal Development Series -  How to Enjoy the Experience of First Dates in Awareness Mode.

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The First Date & Just Enjoying it in Awareness of the Moment

Oh, the dating mode, I hear people express their feelings on dating, I sense the presence of numbness from them.

The kind of numbness that stops you from feeling anything, or allows fear to sit in the driver’s seat of your heart. Hey, I understand. I’m in the dating mode, yet, I am going to use this opportunity to learn from it.

I enjoy dating even if the date turned badly, or they were the wrong person. I look at dating as an opportunity of meeting new people. Getting to listen to their stories or maybe their lack thereof.

I can literally sit back and watch their fears and anxiety shuffling to take place. What this is, is a person who just can’t enjoy the moment, this person is overthinking how he should act or what he should say. Maybe this is you, and you can relate to this.

As humans, we have our personalities and quirks, and they make us who we are.

I use listening as a skill set, a skill set to observe, there is something about truths, they usually reveal themselves through words or body language.

Listen to Simple steps I use to gather information to see if I want to pursue a second date.

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Motivational Quote:

Everything becomes crystal clear when you are not dependent upon another to create your happiness.

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She is the author of Self-Healing Poetry and Quotes for Ordinary People and Ethereal Glow.

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In today's episode of The Sense of Self Podcast: Personal Development Series: How to Get Out of Your Own Way to Achieve Happiness, narrator, personal life coach, and author, Linda J Wolff shares her experiences and a poem she wrote that correlates to the subject matter of this episode. Ex's can come from your past to your present, they can haunt you, but, with your practice of self-love, you've learned how to get out of your own way to continue your journey of self-awareness and peace.

Here she will share a poem she had written this morning to coincide with the topic of today.

History seems to deem itself with time

and stories remind me how we as 

humans are like ancient ruins with its

recklessness, but a beautiful past, like how

sometimes, we don't know how to get out of

our own way to see what could be possible.

Happiness is a choice, yet, how do we

allow the cornerstones of chaos to

inhabit our mind and identity. 

- Linda J Wolff

Every ounce of our being is meant for learning and practice in being happy in our existence.

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In today's episode of The Sense of Self Podcast: Personal Development Series: Understanding Fear & Resistance, personal life coach, Linda J Wolff shares her experience of a relationship with a man of three months, the breakup, and how she recognized she was being met with resistance because of his fear and insecurities. How she understood his deflection and blame he placed upon her.

She knows of the time and energy she has put into practice of knowing her value system and knowing if another person aligns with those values.