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The Anxious Truth - REAL Help For Panic, Anxiety and Agoraphobia

The Anxious Truth - REAL Help For Panic, Anxiety and Agoraphobia

By The Anxious Truth
Everything you thought you knew about dealing with panic, anxiety and agoraphobia is probably wrong! The Anxious Truth will educate, empower and inspire you to get your life back!
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EP 139 - Using ALL The Recovery Resources Available To You
Building your own personal recovery from an anxiety disorder means using ALL the resources you have available to you.  In this podcast episode I talk about combining books, podcasts, social media streams, online support groups, hard work and professional help into a powerful recovery toolkit. For full show notes on this episode: https://theanxioustruth.com/139 My books, podcast, and social media links: https://theanxioustruth.com/links Music Credit: "Afterglow" by Ben Drake (https://facebook.com/BenDrakeMusic) with permission
22:07
January 13, 2021
EP 138 - Gender Issues In Mental Health and Anxiety Recovery w/ Dr. Bridget Cooper
Today Dr. Bridget Cooper (Dr. B) and I talk about gender issues in mental health and anxiety recovery.  There are clearly differences between men and women and how we talk about mental health, think about mental health, and approach solving mental health problems like the anxiety disorders we're talking about all the time. The way we define our roles as men and women and the way we are socialized into those roles make a difference in the way men and women approach mental health and emotional issues.  Given that in the end we are all humans with the same emotional and mental health needs and problems, we would do well to learn lessons on how to break down some of the gender based issues that can hold us back in recovery. For full show notes on this episode: https://theanxioustruth.com/138 Find Dr. B online at https://drbridgetcooper.com My books, podcast, and social media links: https://theanxioustruth.com/links Music Credit: "Afterglow" by Ben Drake (https://facebook.com/BenDrakeMusic) with permission
48:01
January 6, 2021
EP 137 - Postpartum OCD, Anxiety, and Mental Health Issues w/ Jenna Overbaugh
Therapists and counselors also struggle with mental health. Licensed mental health professional Jenna Overbaugh treats anxiety disorders for a living, but after the birth of her son she struggled with postpartum anxiety, depression and OCD. For full show notes on this episode, visit theanxioustruth.com/137 Jenna always assumed that her training and profession would have her well prepared to handle anxiety and depression issues in own life. After a traumatic delivery experience, Jenna began to experience intrusive thoughts centered on accidentally harming her newborn. The thoughts expanded and against her own professional advice, Jenna found herself unwittingly engaging in the avoidance and safety behaviors that she logically knew fuel the problem. Jenna’s experience taught her that there is giant hole in our society where the basics of mental health for new mothers should be. Without having the benefit of the knowledge Jenna has, the average new mom is totally lost and terrified when confronted with the common mental health struggles that can pop up after childbirth. There is plenty of information about the nuts and bolts of delivery and caring for a newborn but virtually no discussion of even basic postpartum mental health concepts. My books, podcast, and social media links: https://theanxioustruth.com/links Music Credit: "Afterglow" by Ben Drake (https://facebook.com/BenDrakeMusic) with permission
34:48
December 20, 2020
EP 136 - Orthorexia, "Proper" Eating, Diet, Fitness and Anxiety Issues w/Jenna Overbaugh
There is a HUGE amount of discussion about "treating" anxiety problems with diet and exercise.  In some cases, diet and exercise can actually DRIVE anxiety issues and can even present obstacles to recovery.  In this podcast episode I was joined by therapist and personal trainer Jenna Overbaugh to discuss orthorexia, obsessive focus on exercise and fitness, and the problems associated with these things. For full show notes on this episode, visit https://theanxioustruth.com/136 My books, podcast, and social media links: https://theanxioustruth.com/links Music Credit: "Afterglow" by Ben Drake (https://facebook.com/BenDrakeMusic) with permission
33:46
December 16, 2020
EP 135 - Success Stories: Ben Drake Learns That "Powering Through" Is Not The Way
Everyone loves a good anxiety success story and today we have one from our friend, and someone you hear all the time if you're a regular listener, Ben Drake. Ben spent his days for quite a long time just trying to endure anxiety and panic.  Bracing, fighting, and "white knuckling" his way through life as a working musician.  Things changed for the better when he learned a new way to approach his anxiety issues. For full show notes on this episode: https://theanxioustruth.com/135 My books, podcast, and social media links: https://theanxioustruth.com/links To find Ben Drake and his music: https://facebook.com/BenDrakeMusic
25:24
December 9, 2020
EP 134 - Stages of Anxiety Recovery
When you interact with the number anxiety disorders that I do, you have the opportunity to see patterns emerge in a crowd.  Over years of doing this thing I do, and interacting with the large number of people that I have, I can see that when it comes to recovery from an anxiety disorder, there are clear "stages" of recovery that most people progress through.  None of these are absolutely set in stone, but the odds are high that you will identify with one of these stages. For full show notes on this episode: https://theanxioustruth.com/134 My books, podcast, and social media links: https://theanxioustruth.com/links Music Credit: "Afterglow" by Ben Drake (https://facebook.com/BenDrakeMusic) with permission
22:13
December 2, 2020
EP 133 - Why "Trusting Your Gut" Is A Bad Plan
One of the more common bits of advice passed around for the last zillion years or so is ... "trust your gut".  Regardless of the the circumstance or problem to be solved, if you ask enough people for advice the odds are high that you will have someone ask you what your "gut" is telling you to do, or just telling you to "trust your gut".  Sometimes this is good advice.  Sometimes it is absolutely horrible advice. If you're working on solving the problem of an anxiety disorder, trusting your gut is exactly the opposite of what you should be doing.  Your gut, and your intuition, are steering you wrong on the daily so it's time to recognize this and clear up some confusion. For full show notes on this episode: https://theanxioustruth.com/133 My books, podcast, and social media links: https://theanxioustruth.com/links Music Credit: "Afterglow" by Ben Drake (https://facebook.com/BenDrakeMusic) with permission
17:51
November 25, 2020
EP 132 - Christia's Emetophobia Success Story
So, here’s some great news if you deal with emetophobia. Bet you didn’t think you’d ever hear that, did you? Well, Drew’s guest on this week’s episode is here to spread some great news, and her energy is absolutely infectious! Christia was emetophobic for decades, and she ran from any sort of incidents or fear of incidents so often...until she got tired of it and decided to make a change. Now, she is sharing her story to spread her hope to other people. As she tells it, she is 100% over it and has no fear of vomiting or being around someone who is. What is even cooler is that she didn’t need to know her triggering event; she could still use EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing) and other therapies to overcome the fear that was controlling her life. If emetophobia is ruining your life and if you see no way out, this episode is for you. You too can overcome emetophobia. For full show notes on this episode: https://theanxioustruth.com/132 My books, podcast, social media, and other links: https://theanxioustruth.com/links Music credit: "Afterglow" by Ben Drake (https://facebook.com/BenDrakeMusic) with permission
34:00
November 18, 2020
EP 131 - Peter Shankman And Why His ADHD Is Actually A Superpower
When Faster Than Normal author and podcast host Peter Shankman was officially diagnosed with ADHD, he decided that it wasn't a liability, but rather a bit of a superpower.  Peter took action to maximize the things he's really good at, while outsourcing and minimizing the negative impacts of the things he's traditionally not been so good at.  This is a lesson on how to find the silver lining in a mental health issue! For full show notes on this episode visit theanxioustruth.com/131 Find Peter, his podcast, and his book at https://fasterthannormal.com My books and social media links: theanxioustruth.com/links Music Credits: "Afterglow" by Ben Drake (facebook.com/BenDrakeMusic) with permission
22:47
November 11, 2020
EP 130 - Why Hasn't My Therapist Explained It Like This?
"I've been seeing my therapist for years and she never explained this the way you do!" "How can it be that all the different counselors and doctors I've seen have never talked about my anxiety this way?" "I've been through countless therapists over the years.  None of them explained this problem the way you do!" These are statements and questions I encounter on a regular basis from podcast listeners and members of my social media community.  If you've ever wondered why none of your doctors, therapists or counselors have ever talked about your anxiety problems the way I do, then this podcast episode is for you. For full show notes on this episode visit theanxioustruth.com/130 My books and social media links: theanxioustruth.com/links Music Credits: "Afterglow" by Ben Drake (facebook.com/BenDrakeMusic) with permissions
28:52
November 4, 2020
EP 129 - Kyrsty's Agoraphobia Success Story In Progress
Kyrsty spent 12 years in her house, trapped by agoraphobia and panic.  That's all changing now. In this podcast episode Kyrsty shares with us how she's been taking the core concepts of recovery and putting them into practice on a daily basis.  Her progress thus far has been faster than she expected, and with a growing number of victories under her belt and an amazing recovery mindset, the sky is the limit! For full show notes on this episode, visit theanxioustruth.com/129 My social media and other links: theanxioustruth.com/links Music Credit: "Afterglow" by Ben Drake (facebook.com/BenDrakeMusic) with permission.
31:40
October 28, 2020
EP 128 - Is Anxiety Your Enemy Or Your Teacher?
Ask yourself a question.  Is your anxiety your enemy, or is it your teacher?  Most of you are going to immediately tell me that you see anxiety as an enemy.  It lurks in the shadows, stalking you day and and day out, always ready to attack.  Your anxiety drives you to do things you do not want to do.  It drives you to eliminate and avoid parts of your life that desperately want back.  Anxiety is clearly your enemy, right? (For full show notes on this episode visit theanxioustruth.com/128) It is not.  Anxiety  - when dealing with the anxiety disorders I am always addressing - has never been your enemy regardless of how much you may hate and fear it. How do we learn once and for all to “believe” that we are safe even when afraid?  By allowing the fear and the anxiety themselves to be your teachers.  That’s right.  Anxiety and fear MUST be your teachers if you are to achieve true and lasting recovery.  We must be willing to face our anxiety and the associated fear, building a new relationship with it based on dropping all the old fight or flight responses.  When we face it fully and allow it to do the worst we can imagine, we learn through real experience that it cannot.  When we do this, anxiety becomes our teacher.  It teaches us clearly that he has no teeth.  The lesson we must learn is that the dragon breathes no fire and cannot kill us.  We can only learn this lesson by letting the dragon show us.  The dragon - your anxiety - must teach you how to recover.  You must embrace it as your teacher and stop declaring it your enemy. Takeaways: You’ve positioned fear as a threat that you need to run from or fight, but there is a third option--embracing it and learning from it. Your fear is real; the basis for it is not.  This is why anxiety is NOT your enemy and never has been. Do not try to erase your fears. It is human to fear, and you will never succeed in erasing fear from your life! Our goal here is not to become fearless, but to learn that the fear you’ve been hiding from and fighting has been baseless. My books, social media, and other links: theanxioustruth.com/links Music Credit: "Afterglow" by Ben Drake (facebook.com/BenDrakeMusic) with permission
30:36
October 21, 2020
EP 127 - Accepting Anxiety Does NOT Mean Liking It
This is common misconception for many, and it's keeping some folks stuck!  When we talk about accepting anxiety as the path to recovery, and when we talk about surrendering to anxiety, we are not saying that you have to LIKE or LOVE your anxiety.  You do not.  If you've been struggling to find a way to like your anxiety because you think accepting and liking are the same thing, then this episode is for you. Of note is a discussion about people dealing with OCD and intrusive, obsessive, disturbing thoughts.  Acceptance in this case does NOT mean accepting that those thoughts are predictive of the future, will come true, or will represent who you are.  It can be scary for someone to accept intrusive thoughts for this reason, but accepting just means acknowledging that they are here and that fighting them has been fruitless.  Accepting is just a way of giving up the old ways of coping so that you can learn a new way that leads to freedom from the thing you hate - and will continue to hate  - so much. For full show notes on this episode visit https://theanxioustruth.com/127 My books, social media, and other links: https://theanxioustruth.com/links Music credit: "Afterglow" by Ben Drake with permission (https://facebook.com/BenDrakeMusic)
20:23
October 14, 2020
EP 126 - Learning To Sit Still And Be Alone With Yourself
Is your worst-case scenario being forced to sit quietly with your own thoughts and sensations?  Are you one of the many that declares that they are "OK" so long as they are up and about and occupied?  Learning to sit quietly with oneself is a challenge for many people, with or without anxiety.  For those recovering from an anxiety disorder, this presents a serious challenge, but a challenge that must be met on route to full recovery. (For full show notes on this episode visit https://theanxioustruth.com/126) It is well worth the time to solve this problem just like it is with all of your anxiety related problems.  First you learn that being quiet and still is NOT a catastrophe, then you learn how to use quiet/still time positively and productively. This is a hard thing to overcome and a hard thing to learn to do.  As always, you can do hard things. My social media or and other links:  https://theanxioustruth.com/links Music Credit: "Afterglow" by Ben Drake (with permission) - https://facebook.com/BenDrakeMusic
27:56
October 7, 2020
EP 125 - Surgical/Medical Procedure Anxiety w/Dr. Frank Catanzaro
For many, having to undergo a surgical or major medical procedure is "worst nightmare" territory anxiety-wise.  There are quite a few fears at play here.  Fear of being out of control.  Fear of being away from safe places and people.  Fear of sedation and anesthesia.  Fear of complication or problems cause by the procedure in question.  It can add up to an almost tragic level of avoidance in some cases, even when surgery or other medical procedures are critical to one's well being. Today I was joined by practicing anesthesiologist Dr. Frank Catanzaro. Dr. Catanzaro has been practicing for over 25 years in the Rochester, New York area and has encountered all these fears in his patients.  Frank was kind enough to take some time to share his knowledge and experience with us. Takeaways: 1. EVERYBODY has anxiety or nervousness going into surgery or other major medical procedures.  Anesthesiologists and other healthcare providers encounter this situation all the time.  They are experienced in dealing with it. 2. If you are worried or anxious because you're not sure how things are going to go, ASK.  Rather than playing the "what if" game in your head, speak your concern to your surgeon or other members of your healthcare team.  Dr. Catanzaro's team is always happy to answer patient questions to help ease anxiety and worry.  Odds are your team will be willing to do the same. 3. Pre-surgical treatment with a benzo is EXTREMELY common.  This will likely be made available to you.  Take advantage of it. Taking a benzo to lower your pre-surgery anxiety level is NOT avoidance and will not lead to addiction in any way. Dr. Catanzaro explains how refusing that option may mean a more difficult recovery post-surgery, so do your best to trust your medical team to give you good information and use the tools available to you. 4. Your anxiety and panic may change the parameters that your anesthesiologist will work within, but in the end even level 10 panic is no match for the medications used during surgery or other major medical procedures.  A common fear is being "stuck" between awake and sedated because of severe panic.  This does not happen. Thanks to Dr. Catanzaro for taking the time to discuss this with us today! For full show notes on this episode visit https://theanxioustruth.com/125 My social media, books, and other links: https://theanxioustruth.com/links Intro/Outro Music Credit: "Afterglow" by Ben Drake (https://facebook.com/BenDrakeMusic) with permission
27:33
September 30, 2020
EP 124 - You Can Recover No Matter How Long You've Suffered
I often here people saying that recovery becomes harder - or even impossible - if you've suffered too long with your anxiety problems.  This is simply not true.  In this podcast episode let's take a look at why this is a misconception that you're going to have to leave behind. There are three main reasons why you can recover no matter how long you've suffered. 1. Anxiety disorders are not progressive degenerative diseases that take away your physical or mental abilities over time.  If you're thinking of it that way, you're wrong and need to drop that notion. 2. The past does not predict or govern the future.  You are not powerless.  If you begin to make new choices and engage in new behaviors and reactions, new things can and will happen.  Just because you've done a thing for 20 years does not prevent you from doing a different thing tomorrow. 3. You have not been digging an infinitely deep hole all this time.  The hole got as deep as it was going to get early on.  Now you're just jumping in and out of it.  It's always the same hole, so your climb is no longer now than it was 10 years ago.  You just have to stop jumping back in. For full show notes on this episode go to https://theanxioustruth.com/124 My social media and other links: https://theanxioustruth.com/links My books: https://theanxioustruth.com/books Closing music: "Afterglow" by Ben Drake (https://facebook.com/BenDrakeMusic) with permission.
27:07
September 23, 2020
EP 123 - Holly's Benzodiazepine Anxiety Experience
Holly is back in this episode, sharing her long experience using benzos as part of her anxiety management strategy.  Holly shares how she started on benzos, what her doctor told her, and how she actually did use them.  We talk about "as needed" use, daily use, dependency (addiction), effectiveness, and how the use of benzos interferes with learning recovery lessons.  Holly shares her recovery story and how we gradually stopped taking benzos altogether after many years of use.  This is a topic that I know many want me to cover in greater detail. It seemed that this was a good first step in that direction. Please note that neither Holly nor I are medical professionals.  NEVER make changes to your medication without consulting your doctor(s) and NEVER just stop taking benzodiazepines on your own.  For full show notes please visit https://theanxioustruth.com/123 My social media and other links: https://theanxioustruth.com/links My books: https://theanxioustruth.com/books
49:14
September 9, 2020
EP 122- Thoughts, Memories, Sleep, Depression, Parenting and My Story - Listener Q&A Part 2
In this episode I answer listener questions about: Returning to "normal". Handling thoughts, memories and emotions. Parenting issues in recovery. Sleep anxiety. My own progress in recovery and my issues with coming off medications. For full show notes on this episode, go to https://theanxioustruth.com/122 My social media and other links:  https://theanxioustruth.com/links
41:23
September 2, 2020
EP 121 - Listener Q&A Part 1
This week and next I will take time to answer questions submitted by by Instagram friends.  I had over 130 questions sent in for this episode so lets break it into two episodes.  This is part one.  Part two will be next week in episode 122. Questions covered in this episode are: "I just started therapy, how do I make the most out of it to get the most out of it?" "What's the best way to deal with the urge to talk about feelings often and seek reassurance?" "I always think you need to go to A&E (the ER in the US) when you have a panic attack because you can't breathe.  Any tips?" "Any advice on how to deal with pain due to a medical condition triggering anxiety?" "How do I tell the difference between anxiety and an actual medical issue?" "Benzo/antidepressant withdrawal issues." "What part do other approaches like teas, oils, crystals and inner child work play in the recovery process?" "How do I prevent or deal with setback or relapse?" "Is recovery harder when OCD is involved?" For full show notes on this episode visit https://theanxioustruth.com/121 My links: https://theanxioustruth.com/links
31:15
August 26, 2020
EP 120 - An OCD Story With Shelley Hohe
Shelley Hohe has struggled with OCD for many years.  Her contamination obsession and the accompanying compulsions drove her into a very dark place.  Her faith was questioned and shaken, her life was getting smaller, her relationships were suffering, and she simply wasn't sure where to turn for answers or help.  A chance encounter with an old friend changed everything, setting Shelley on a path of renewed faith where recovery from OCD is not only a goal, but a real work in progress.  Shelley was generous enough to share her story with us in the hope that she may shine a light that others struggling with OCD can follow.  Shelley has made it her mission to educate, inspire, and advocate on behalf of the OCD community, and has even taken on the role of OCD Advocate for the International Obsessive Compulsive Disorder Foundation. Find Shelley on Instagram at https://instagram.com/theocdcafe Find the IOCDF at https://iocdf.org My Links:  https://theanxioustruth.com/links
45:03
August 19, 2020
EP 119 - Generalized Anxiety Disorder With Dr. Dave Carbonell
One of the most common topics I am asked to address is Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD).  GAD is generally categorized with other anxiety disorders such as panic disorder, agoraphobia, OCD and social anxiety.  Today I was lucky enough to spend 30 minutes with Dr. David Carbonell.  A clinical psychologist specializing in treating anxiety disorders, Dr. Carbonell is the author of "The Worry Trick" and three other books on anxiety and phobias.  We had a most excellent talk about GAD, what it is, and how it's treated. For full show notes on this episode, visit https://theanxioustruth.com/119 Find Dr. Carbonell and his books at https://anxietycoach.com My Links:  https://theanxioustruth.com/links
34:43
August 12, 2020
EP 118 - Expecting The Struggle And Making Your Bad Day Playbook
The recovery process will - unfortunately - include days where you still struggle.  This is to be expected.  In this episode I read lesson 5.5 from my book which discusses the struggles you will encounter.  I then discuss the basics of creating a "playbook" that you can turn to on the bad days when you need an easy to follow script rather than thinking on your feet. For full show notes on this episode including the full text of the book chapter I read, visit https://theanxioustruth.com/118 CREATING YOUR "BAD DAY PLAYBOOK" Bad days and period of struggle often include the onset of confusion and forgetting.  I see people declare that they can not remember what they are supposed to do when they find themselves faced with period of struggle in recovery.  This is clearly a normal situation experienced by many.  When discouraged, feeling defeated, and feeling confused and lost, having a playbook or a script that you can reference is VERY helpful. Remember that your bad day playbook is not there to make you instantly feel better.  It will not create instant sunshine and rainbows.  It might, but that's now what it's there for. It exists only to keep up connected to your humanity, and to the process.  It is designed to prop you up and get you back to the basics that will show you that struggle or not, you are still in control and capable of making change in your life. My Links: https://theanxioustruth.com/links Intro/Outro Music: "Afterglow" by Ben Drake
34:06
August 4, 2020
EP 117 - Fear Is Not A Failure - With Dr. Bridget Cooper
Recovery from an anxiety disorder gets even harder when you judge the presence of fear as an immediate failure.  Dr. B - Bridget Cooper - joined me today to talk about fear, and the misconception that the presence of fear indicates failure of some kind. For full show notes on this episode go to https://theanxioustruth.com/117 The Highlights: 1. Being afraid is NOT failure.  There are a few reasons you may be thinking this, most based on old self-limiting beliefs and what Dr. B calls "old contracts".  Being afraid during recovery does not mean you are failing or "doing it wrong". 2. The Fear - Trust - Control model.  Dr. B uses her model of fear to explain how high levels of fear and corresponding low levels of trust trigger exaggerated attempts at control. We discuss how trying to control things is expressed as our old safety, escape and avoidance behaviors. 3. Are you clinging to old self-beliefs because they are comfortable? We discuss why some people are reluctant to even try to face fear because it may mean becoming a new version of themselves.  Even when the current version is suffering to some degree, what is known is comfortable, and sometimes preferred over the discomfort and uncertainty of making changes. 4. You cannot "mantra" your way out of this situation.  We discuss Dr. B's concept of the inner critic and how attempting to convince your inner critic that it is safe to try hard things will never work.  This is directly related to my discussion of why positive self talk and attempting to simply ignore anxiety do not work.  You cannot dismiss your built-in protective mechanisms with words alone. 5. The only way to improve your fear perception and experience is to let go. Dropping all the old attempts to control (safety and comfort seeking) means passing THROUGH fear and learning through experience that you can TRUST yourself to get that job done.  These are the experiences we do desperately need as a core component of recovery. Find Dr. B online: Instagram Facebook Website Amazon Author Page My Links https://theanxioustruth.com/links Intro/Outro Music:  "Afterglow" by Ben Drake (https://facebook.com/BenDrakeMusic)
40:21
July 29, 2020
EP 116 - Ignoring Anxiety vs. Non-Reactive Acknowledgement
One of the concepts that confuses people more than any other is understanding the difference between accepting and surrendering to anxiety, learning to be nonreactive to anxiety, or ignoring anxiety. Let's talk about that today. There is a difference between ignoring anxiety and learning to become truly non-reactive to anxiety. This is subtle. It's reasonable for people to be confused especially in the early stages of the game. This is a thing that requires a fair amount of thought. It requires a bit of a change in mindset and approach. And it certainly does require practice! For full show notes on this episode go to https://theanxioustruth.com/116 Highlights of this episode: Ignoring Anxiety Is PASSIVE Ignoring Anxiety Is Like Useless "Positive Self Talk" Non-Reactive Acknowledgement - An ACTIVE, Intentional, Purposeful Process Learning The Skill of Non-Reactive Acknowledgement With Practice Acceptance.  Surrender.  Floating. My Links: https://theanxioustruth.com/links
28:45
July 22, 2020
EP 115 - Breaking Free From The Past w/Dr Bridget Cooper
Dr. Bridget Cooper is a cage rattler. Her penchant for confronting old beliefs and challenging thought patterns is helping people to break from from old negative beliefs and ideas.  Dr. B is passionate about showing you that a new way and a new life is possible. Old Contracts Many people want so desperately to recover from anxiety issues, but find themselves trapped by old beliefs and ideas that tell them that they are not capable of recovery.  The belief that one is less than, not strong enough, not smart enough, or simply not worthy of recovery can be crippling to the process of recovery. Dr. Bridget frames these old negative beliefs as "old contracts" that you were forced to sign well before you had the knowledge, maturity, or ability to understand them or even sign them.  You've been given contracts against your will, and you've been acting in accordance with those contracts. Here is news.  You are entitled to tear up those old contracts.  You didn't choose them.  You didn't understand them.  You didn't have the ability or opportunity to read them or object to them.  You can declare your old contracts null and void.  This is the first step toward shattering old beliefs and ideas that have been keeping you stuck. For full show notes on this episode visit https://theanxioustruth.com/115 Dr. Bridget Cooper (Dr. B) Website: http://drbridgetcooper.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drbridgetcooper/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/bridget.cannoncooper Amazon Author Page: https://www.amazon.com/Bridget-Cooper/e/B00LXT7R26 My Links https://theanxioustruth.com/links
39:02
July 15, 2020
EP 114 - The Paradox Of Seeking Certainty And Safety
Here is a paradox. So much of this anxiety complex revolves around a desperate attempt to find 100 percent iron clad certainty. The search for certainty in the face of irrationally perceived threats destroys your ability to handle uncertainty in the face of real challenges and threats. The search for safety undermines the very thing you seek ... For Full show notes on this episode, visit https://theanxioustruth.com/114 My Links: https://theanxioustruth.com/links
37:04
July 8, 2020
EP 113 - Sarah Doan Peace Talks Medical PTSD And Overcoming Adversity
Sarah Doan Peace is amazing.  Having been born with VATER syndrome and after 35 surgeries and years of serious medical challenges, Sarah is finding her voice as a speaker and advocate for others that share her experience.  Sarah's honesty and willingness to openly share her story and struggle are educational, enlightening, and inspiring. * For full show notes on this episode, visit https://theanxioustruth.com/113 * To find Sarah online, visit https://sarahdoanpeace.com * My links: https://theanxioustruth.com/links
32:45
July 1, 2020
EP 112 - Fearing Your Emotions And Seeing Them As Threats
Do you fear your emotions? Do you see them as threats, or indicators that you are failing in recovery, or destined for disaster? Do you attempt to escape from your emotions or avoid them?  You are not alone. For full show notes on this episode, visit https://theanxioustruth.com/112 Emotions Are A Natural Part of Being Human Every human being experiences emotions.  Some are great.  Some really suck.  But all are normal and natural.  While we may not always like our emotions, we do not have to fear them or see them as disaster.  Regardless of what you think about your emotions, if you are reading this right now, then you have handled and navigated every last thing life has ever thrown at you.  You have handled them and you are still here.  You can handle emotions and emotional waves too!  You are capable of this. Is It The Emotion, Or The Reaction To The Emotion? While all humans experience emotions, and often don't like them, not everyone FEARS emotions. Experiencing emotions is not a problem.  Being afraid of emotions is a problem.   If you see even just feeling some emotions as a failure or a disaster, you have developed this problem.    This happens when we lose sight of the emotion itself and its surrounding context.  Rather than dealing with the emotion or the situation that triggered it, we tag the emotion as a nightmare, put it aside, then write an entire additional fear-based story about the emotion. We construct elaborate tales detailing what the emotion says about you, what it means, why it proves that you are weak or broken, and how it must indicate that you are failing in recovery and doomed to wind up forever ill, depressed, or stuck. So is the problem the emotion, or your reaction to the emotion?  Are you dealing with your emotions, or are you really dealing with the judgements and stories you add to your emotions?  It's very important to see the difference and to recognize when you're adding needless additional burden (judgements, interpretations and stories) to a natural and temporary burden (emotions and emotional waves). We can address this reaction to emotions using the same tools and concepts that we use to address our physical and cognitive panic and anxiety symptoms.  Unlike our panic and anxiety symptoms, emotions are valid.  They do matter.  But that doesn't mean that they are more than they are. They are just emotions and you are capable of feeling them and handling them directly, however difficult that may be. When you pile judgements and fear-based stories on top of those emotions, you are making things harder on yourself than they need to be. My Links ----------- https://theanxioustruth.com/links
37:03
June 24, 2020
EP 111 - All Your Fears Are Only ONE Fear
You may think that you are afraid of an ever-growing list of places, tasks, people and situations.  You are not.  There is only ONE FEAR driving your anxiety disorder - fear of how you feel and what you think.  Acknowledging the one fear can clarify and simplify your recovery path so let's talk about it. For full show notes on this episode visit https://theanxioustruth.com/111 My Links: https://theanxioustruth.com/links
33:20
June 17, 2020
EP 110 - Anxiety Success Stories: From Black Friday to Sunny Skies With Nick
My friend Nick Maynard is an almost textbook example of how to recovery from panic disorder and agoraphobia.  At one point Nick was in a panic on the ground in a Costco on Black Friday.  He was then trapped in his bedroom for weeks, unable to even get a glass of water.  But Nick changed direction and started putting in the hard work.  Today he's back on his feet, excelling at work, and living a normal life again.  Thank you Nick, for taking the time to share your story today! My Comprehensive Anxiety Recovery Guide Is Here!  -------------------------------  https://theanxioustruth.com/recoveryguide My Links ------------------------------  https://theanxioustruth.com/links
29:06
June 11, 2020
EP 0109 - Relax, Breathe and Focus : A Beginner's Tutorial and Exercise
For full show notes and a link to download this tutorial as an MP3, visit https://theanxioustruth.com/109. HOW DO I RELAX, BREATHE, AND FOCUS????   I've been asked to do something like this for a while. With some extra nudging from a friend, I took 15 minutes to record this little beginner's relax, breathe, and focus tutorial. This isn't my usual thing, but hopefully, it will be of use.   This episode will take you through the basics of what it looks like and feels like when you surrender to anxiety or panic.  Instead of fighting and fleeing, this is how we relax into the fear, experience it, and let it pass.  This is how we learn that we do not have to fear our anxiety and the sensations that come along with it.  The basics are relaxing of your body, breathing into your belly, and focusing on your breath rather than on the symptoms and thoughts. This is a difficult skill to learn, and it will NOT make your anxiety go away instantly.  Please do not use is a calming tool or an escape tool to make your panic attacks end.  Use it as a LEARNING tool.  Understand that even if you did none of this, your panic attacks would end.  This is critical!  My Links https://theanxioustruth.com/links
17:44
May 27, 2020
EP 0108 - Changing Your Reaction To Anxiety, Fear and Panic - BOOK PREVIEW - Chapter 3.6
This Is Chapter/Lesson 3.6 from my book "The Anxious Truth". I wanted to release a chapter to give everyone a look at what the book is all about.  This is likely the most important chapter I wrote, so it seemed the the best choice to release as a preview. For the full written chapter preview, go to theanxioustruth.com/108 We’ve seen the three reactions that are driving that faulty brain link between fear and danger. The reaction before, the reaction during, and the reaction after. Now that we understand how they work; we can look at how to change them into something more straightforward and more effective. All by doing NOTHING. When we change our reactions to anxiety, panic, and fear before, during, and after episodes of high anxiety or panic, we set our brains on a new path. We weaken incorrect links and build new productive and positive connections. We leave wrong answers and bad cognitive habits behind while learning proper lessons and developing good brain habits. Changing our reactions is a simple idea yet challenging to put into practice. When you find your courage, get determined, and do the work, you will learn it will be well worth it. Then the day will come—maybe sooner than you think—when you suddenly find yourself not gripped by fear and worry all the time. That will be a great day. I promise it will.
31:06
May 19, 2020
EP 0107 - Forgiving Yourself And Letting Go Of The Past
For full show notes on this episode, go to https://theanxioustruth.com/107 Many people are struggling with letting go of anger, guilt and bitterness over time lost to anxiety. Learning to "forgive yourself" can be difficult.  While struggling with an anxiety disorder is certainly impactful in a big way, it is possible to learn how to change the habit of blaming yourself and revisiting guilt, anger, or regret over those struggles.  It is possible to learn how to leave the past behind us. My Links https://theanxioustruth.com/links
41:39
May 13, 2020
EP 0106 - Building A Sense of Safety and Security After Trauma or Abuse
(For full show notes on this episode, visit https://theanxioustruth.com/106) Today I was joined by my friend Monique Koven to discuss the concept of feeling safe and secure.  Many victims of past trauma or abuse find that anxiety recovery is made more difficult because they are unable to ever feel safe or secure.  This is understandable, and it absolutely adds a wrinkle to the recovery process that must be addressed for these people. While your past experiences may have taught you that were not safe or secure, this does not mean that you are doomed to forever feel vulnerable in your life.  Abuse and abandonment may have left you with nobody to turn to for support when you needed it.  You may have taken those situations and carried them forward to conclude that you are always vulnerable and never on secure footing.  You may find it difficult to ever really feel safe. For the person wrestling with an inability to ever feel safe or secure, acknowledging why this happens is important. From there, it becomes important to understand and accept that just knowing and validating is rarely enough to remedy the situation.  There are concrete steps - actions - you can take to teach yourself that the world is not inherently dangerous, that you are capable of feeling safe even on your own, and that it is possible to build nurturing relationships that provide the support you need at at times. Find Monique online at cptsdcoach.com or on Facebook and Instagram as "cptsdcoach". My Links ------------ https://theanxioustruth.com/links
28:09
May 6, 2020
EP 0105 - Highway/Freeway Driving With Anxiety and Panic
For many, the fear of driving on the freeway, highway, or motorway is a big problem.  Often I am told that this seems and impossible task.  A typical person facing this challenge will insist that driving at high speed on a congested highway, involves real danger.  They are convinces that disaster is imminent. This is not true, and represents yet another fear driven distortion, courtesy of our old friend anxiety. While highway driving is in fact more risky for every driver (regardless of anxiety), experiencing anxiety does not instantly rob you of the ability to operate a vehicle.  If you are reading this, you have survived every instance where you have experienced anxiety or panic while on a highway.  You didn't "almost crash" or "almost die" or "almost pass out".  You controlled your car, even when afraid and uncomfortable, and did what needed to be done to remain safe. What you thought was going to happen did not happen, so you must learn to stop judging the situation based on the fear driven story you have in your head about certain disaster.  Instead, judge the situation based on your actual experiences and the positive outcomes you've had. Thank you to my friend Jay for both suggesting the topic, and for recording this one with me.  This is the audio portion of a live video we did in my Facebook group, so you'll hear us discuss the topic, then take questions from group members that were watching while we chatted. My Links ----------- https://theanxioustruth.com/links Intro/Outro Music : Afterglow by Ben Drake (https://facebook.com/BenDrakeMusic)
31:40
April 29, 2020
EP 0104 - Health Anxiety and Uncertainty With Dr. Ingvard Wilhemsen
Today I was fortunate to have spent 25 minutes on a Zoom call with Dr. Ingvard Wilhemsen, a respected expert in the field of health anxiety and hypochondriasis from the University of Bergen in Norway.  We discussed the basis of health anxiety, what drives it, the underlying principles of uncertainty and safety, and some of the effective methods he uses when treating patients with health anxiety. Dr Willhemsen has been kind enough to offer to do a follow-up episode with us, so if you have questions or comments, please follow the links to any of my social media channels.  Feel free to reach out with whatever questions you might have and I'll do my best to get them answered in a coming episode. To learn more about Dr. Wilhelmsen or any of his work, you can Google him here. My Links https://theanxioustruth.com/links
31:21
April 23, 2020
EP 0103 - You Don't Have to Feel OK To Be OK
Inspired by a post I made on Instagram, here's 25 minutes or so on the difference between feeling OK and actually being OK.  The highlights: Your anxiety disorder has you in the bad habit of scanning and evaluating your state all the time Your anxiety disorder has you interpreting how you feel through a distorted lens of fear and misguided threat assessment You then make the mistake of nailing your assessment of how you FEEL, so your assessment of what you are capable of doing You do not have to feel OK, to be OK.  You must be aware of the scanning and evaluating habit, and you must be aware of the mistake of equating how you feel to what you are capable of doing.  You must ACT even when feeling less than OK. You must show yourself through experience that thinking that you are not OK is incorrect, and that you are able to manage and live a normal day even when feeling badly.  The experience of doing this repeatedly will help eliminate the mistake you have been making and break the scanning/evaluating habit you have formed. Remember, action is required.  You cannot simply choose to believe that you are OK, you must ACT to show yourself that you are really OK regardless of how you feel. Going through this process will teach you lessons about tolerating and managing the distress that are bound to impact every one of us from time to time.  These are lessons that go far beyond anxiety recovery and will serve you will forever. My Links: https://theanxioustruth.com/links Intro/Outro Music: "Afterglow" by Ben Drake (https://facebook.com/BenDrakeMusic)
27:36
April 15, 2020
EP 0102 - Fear Of Insanity Or Going Crazy
For full show notes on this episode:  https://theanxioustruth.com/102 One of the two most common fears of anxiety and panic sufferers is the fear of going insane.  Losing one's mind.  Going crazy.  Many worry that they will "lose it", or "snap" when at the height of panic or extreme anxiety.  This is a difficult fear to face, but it remains an irrational fear that never comes true. The fear of going insane or losing one's mind is no different than the fear of dying, or passing out, or vomiting, or anything else.  The fear that you may lose your mind because of anxiety and panic is just another in the long line of irrational, distorted, magnified fears that come along with anxiety disorders.  Your catastrophe (going insane) is not special and does not warrant any special approach or technique to address. Episode Topics: There Is No "Sanity Control" To Worry About Anxiety and Panic Are Not Equal To Severe Trauma You Have Not Kept Yourself Sane Let Go.  Surrender To The Worst. Fear of Underlying Mental Illness Is There A "Breaking Point"? DP/DR - It's Not Special Or More Important My Links https://theanxioustruth.com/links Facebook Group https://facebook.com/groups/TAGForum
35:52
April 1, 2020
EP 0101 - The Selfish Nature of Anxiety and Fear
For full show notes on this episode, go to https://theanxiousgroup.com/101 Anxiety disorders are selfish disorders.  Anxiety and fear are self-centered and will push their way to the front of the line at all times.  When struggling with an anxiety disorder, the selfish nature of the disorder often makes you look selfish and self-centered.  The disorder is selfish.  You are not. Anxiety and fear drive self-centered behaviors in three ways: Disruption Based on Avoidance Anxiety causes you to spend your time scanning for threats. Every situation is evaluated based on how it may make you feel.  Decisions are made based on the drive to avoid the feelings and thoughts that you hate and fear.  When your anxiety drives you to cancel engagements, avoid places and situations, and flee from discomfort, the change in your lifestyle impacts the people around you ....  Becoming The Center of The Universe Anxiety and fear will drive you focus on yourself continuously.  In any given situation, anxiety will demand the lion’s share of your attention. While those around you are focused on solving a problem, resolving a conflict, or enjoying a social gathering, you likely found yourself occupied primarily with how you are feeling.  While the world asks, “What shall we do now?”, you will ask, “How will this impact ME?!” .... Feeding The Beast On Down Low When anxiety and fear have the door slammed on them, then get creative.  You may have been told by friends and family  – or even your therapist – that talking about how you feel and seeking constant soothing and reassurance is no longer going to be tolerated.  Your anxiety disorder does not like that news.  Often it will compel you to find “sneaky” ways of making itself seen and heard .... What Can I Do About This? First, work on being aware of when anxiety is driving self-centered behavior.  Then, get to work.  You can't really fix the self-centered stuff without working on full recovery anyway, so this could be the spark you need to start moving forward!  When you're doing the work that needs to be done to solve the bigger problem, change the narrative with your friends and family ... Join The Discussion Group ——————————————– https://facebook.com/groups/TAGForum My Links (social media, podcasts, etc.) ——————————————– https://theanxioustruth.com/links Intro/Outro Music: "Afterglow" by Ben Drake (With Permission) https://facebook.com/BenDrakeMusic
29:26
March 25, 2020
EP 0100 - Learning To Believe In Yourself
My friend Kendra Beavis has an amazing story.  This is a story about making major life changes, solving life problems, and become a better version of yourself.  So much of this is based on belief.  Belief in yourself, and belief in your ability to do hard things and make changes. We can't just choose change.  We can't just decide to believe in ourselves and be instantly confident.  Often we must take action to make the changes we want in our life even before we are confident taking action.  Meaningful progress and change isn't something you may believe you are capable right now, but that's OK. You don't get to be confident, and you don't get to believe in yourself by waving a magic wand. Belief and confidence are things we learn through action and experience. Belief and confidence are earned by doing the hard or scary things you might not think you can do. When we make the choice to move ahead even though you don't feel ready, amazing things can happen. Amazing things happened for Kendra.  I'm grateful that she took the time to share it with us today. You can find Kendra and her two podcasts on her website at kendrabeavis.com. Join The Facebook Group -------------------------------- https://facebook.com/groups/TAGFourm My Links  ----------- https://theanxioustruth.com/links
35:41
March 18, 2020
EP 0099 - The Habit Of Words
For full show notes on this episode: https://theanxioustruth.com/99 We naturally develop habits with respect to the way we talk about, think about, and write about our anxiety problems. This is the habit of words, and it matters. Identifying unhealthy and counterproductive habits of words, then working to replace them with more recovery-focused habits is well worth the effort. The most common habit of words is the habit of constantly saying how you feel, what you're afraid of, and how much you hate it all.  This is the habit that most people in the grips of an anxiety disorder naturally develop.  This is a bad habit.  Constantly talking about, thinking about, and writing about what you feel is a form of safety and reassurance seeking. This is bad because it reinforces the mistaken cognitive connection between discomfort and fear.  If you are spending an inordinate amount of time telling people what you're feeling and experiencing in a passive way, you are hoping to both comforted and saved from your anxiety and its symptoms.  This sends the wrong signal to your brain.  This tells your brain that anxiety is a problem that requires evasive action and rescue.  You are inadvertently reinforcing the foundation of the disorder. You may understand why seeking safety or engaging in avoidance is a bad thing, however you may wonder why its wrong to want to be soothed or comforted when afraid.  Aside from the reinforcement of the disorder we discussed, asking other people to make you feel better is giving away the power you have to make yourself feel better over time.  YOU are capable of driving the recovery bus.  When you rely on others to comfort and soothe you all the time, you are handing the keys to them.  You are asking them to drive the bus.  They may want to, but nobody can drive your recovery bus but you.  Nobody else can drive you to recovery land. If constantly telling everyone (including yourself) how you feel  is a bad habit, then what is a good habit?  How can you change this? .... My Links ---------------- https://theanxioustruth.com/links
38:33
March 11, 2020
EP 0098 - STOP Checking In With Yourself!
Full show notes for this episode are at https://theanxioustruth.com/98 Telling someone in the grips of a raging anxiety disorder to "check in with themselves" is a TERRIBLE bit of advice.  If you are in the grips of a ranging anxiety disorder - finding it near impossible to STOP thinking about how you feel all the time - it's OK to reject this advice. While in the grips of raging disorders like OCD, health anxiety, panic disorder, and agoraphobia, specifically making time to focus inward on how one is feeling is like pouring gasoline on a fire.  A person that is desperate to STOP paying constant attention to how they feel and what they think does not need to turn inward to see what they need.  What they need is to stop focusing inward.  The inward focus is driving their problem.  Telling this person that they need to check in with themselves to see how they're feeling is like telling an inmate to escape from prison by running back into the cell block.  It's just terrible advice in this context.  Sorry, but it is. Sometimes part of the anxiety problem is compulsion to think about one's state.  Engaging in inner dialogue with fear driven distorted and disordered thoughts becomes a dysfunctional game that the sufferer is powerless to resist.  Every waking moment is spend scanning one's own body and mind for threats to sanity, life, and limb.  Inward focus and self-examination can become a literal torture chamber. This is a fact for many wrestling with anxiety problems. Website and Social Links ------------------------------------ https://theanxioustruth.com/links
27:17
March 4, 2020
EP 0097 - Anxiety and Abusive/Controlling Relationships (w/Long Island Against Domestic Violence)
Full show notes for this episode can be found at https://theanxioustruth.com/97 Being in an abusive or controlling relationship is difficult for anyone.  Struggling with an anxiety disorder complicates things, making the situation even more difficult to handle. Statistics show that 1 in 3 women, and 1 in 4 men, will be involved in an abusive relationship at one point in their lives. This is a problem in the general population.  My experience in the anxiety disorders community leads be to believe that it is even more prevalent among people suffering from anxiety problems.  Today I was joined by Colleen Merlo and Wendy Linsalata of Long Island Against Domestic Violence.  Colleen and Wendy were kind enough to give their time to discuss the problem and answer questions posed in my Facebook group. Resources: National Domestic Violence Hotline (United States): 1-800-799-7233 National Domestic Violence Hotline web site: https://thehotline.org Long Island Against Domestic Violence: 631-666-8833 Long Island Against Domestic Violence web site: https://liadv.org Join The Discussion Group ——————————————– https://facebook.com/groups/TAGForum My Links (social media, podcasts, etc.) ——————————————– https://theanxioustruth.com/links
30:11
February 26, 2020
EP 0096 - Addressing Perfectionism w/Dr Tara Sanderson
For full show notes on this episode, visit https://theanxioustruth.com/96 Perfectionism.  It's a label I hear frequently self-applied by many going through the process of recovering from an anxiety disorder.  Labeling oneself as a perfectionist results in challenges that make recovery more difficult than it has to be. Today I was able to spend time with Dr. Tara Sanderson, a licensed doctoral level psychologist practicing in Oregon.  Tara not only specializes in behaviorally oriented therapies for anxiety issues, but she has experienced the "curse" of perfectionism in her own life and has written a book on the topic. Changing and challenging perfectionism requires an understanding of why you may be labeling yourself that way and attempting to make everything right and perfect in the world.  Are you bolstering your self-image by wearing perfectionism as a badge of honor?  Are you convinced that making everything perfect will make life better or easier?  In both cases, accepting the reality of a life where neither of those motivations is serving you is the first step toward changing things. Join The Discussion Group ——————————————– https://facebook.com/groups/TAGForum My Links (social media, podcasts, etc.) ——————————————– https://theanxioustruth.com/links Find Tara On Twitter, Instagram, Facebook, and on her practice website. Find Tara's book, Too Much Not Enough on her book website.
28:30
February 19, 2020
EP 0095: Anxiety Success Story - Martine Changes Direction
For full show notes on this episode, visit https://theanxioustruth.com/95 Just six months ago, Martine was experimenting with medication, housebound most of the time, and considering hospitalization to deal with her anxiety problem.  Today she is working, participating with her family, living a normal life, and looking forward to what comes next. Today Martine took some time to chat with me about how she changed direction and took control of the situation.  Where once Martine has no direction and no plan for recovery, everything changed when she decided to start doing things she was afraid to do.  Through repetition and incremental progress, everything changed.    Her message?  “Don’t give up.  It will get better!” Truer words were never spoken.  Thanks, Martine, for taking the time so share your story. Join my Facebook group and get involved in the discussion: https://facebook.com/groups/TAGForum My website and all social links: https://theanxioustruth.com/links Intro and outro music - “Afterglow” by Ben Drake (with permission) https://facebook.com/BenDrakeMusic
21:59
February 12, 2020
EP 0094 - Anxiety and Trauma Responses Are Normal! - w/Monique Koven
For full notes on this episode, go to https://theanxioustruth.com/94 Too often, the responses that result from anxiety disorders and/or traumatic experiences are classified as mental illness.  We talk about anxiety disorders and post-traumatic stress disorder.  That word - "disorder" - leads many people to believe that they are broken, damaged, abnormal, or ill. The word "disease" is thrown around, leading to additional despair and distress. It's important to understand that the sensations, thoughts, and feelings you are experiencing, are a NORMAL part of being human!  These are learned responses resulting from your past experiences.  Feeling afraid or anxious is normal and to be expected.  Why then, do we call these illnesses and disorders?  Fear-based responses to anxiety and trauma may be driving your life in directions you do not like.  Recognizing these responses as simply learned responses can help provide the confidence you need to start to make changes. Join The Discussion Group ——————————————– https://facebook.com/groups/TAGForum My Links (social media, podcasts, etc.) ——————————————– https://theanxioustruth.com/links Find Monique Online ——————————————– https://cptsdcoach.com https://instagram.com/cptsdcoach https://facebook.com/cptsdcoach
29:55
February 5, 2020
EP 0093 - Dizziness and Unsteadiness Due To Anxiety
For the full show notes on this episode including a link to the diaphragmatic breathing video I mentioned: https://theanxioustruth.com/93 For many people, feeling dizzy or unsteady is one of the most enduring and difficult to deal with anxiety symptoms.  If you are There are two main steps in dealing with dizziness and unsteadiness: 1. Change the way you think about and talk about this sensation.  This isn't true physically debilitating dizziness that makes you literally unable to stand upright. This sensation is simply a feeling of visual and physical discomfort when moving through space.  You are uncomfortable when moving, but you are still able to move through space and function without impairment.  Being uncomfortable isn't ideal, but start to embrace the difference between incapacitated and uncomfortable.  They are not equal.  You are unsteady, which is uncomfortable for you, and you are likely reacting in fear to that discomfort.  When think about this issue, this is how you must frame it.  When you talk about it, you must change the narrative. "I'm so dizzy I cant do anything." becomes "I feel unsteady and its uncomfortable and scary, but I'm still capable of living life". 2. Change the way you react to this sensation.  Rather than stopping, retreating, avoiding, bracing and fighting, you must accept and fully surrender to the feeling of dizziness and unsteadiness. Rather than sitting down, leaving to go back to your safe zone, or "going to ground" (a term I hear all the time, you will relax your body, breathe slowly into your belly, and train your focus on your breath or some other point of your choosing rather than on the sensation and accompanying thoughts.  You can slow down and continue doing whatever it is you were doing or want to do, remaining physically relaxed, breathing properly (to avoid the over breathing/hyperventilation that makes the sensation worse), and and focused on the task at hand. Let the sensation and the thoughts come at you full force and surrender to the worst case that you can imagine.  It won't ever happen. Remember, you are trying to learn that even when uncomfortable due to unsteadiness, you are OK.  Your goal with this symptom - as usual - is to learn that you do not have to fear it.  Lose the fear and the fear driven reaction and as usual, things will improve over time. Join The Discussion Group ——————————————– https://facebook.com/groups/TAGForum My Links (social media, podcasts, etc.) ——————————————– https://theanxioustruth.com/links Intro and outro music - Afterglow by Ben Drake (with permission)
21:55
January 29, 2020
EP 0092 - Monophobia (Fear Of Being Alone)
Monophobia - the fear of being alone - is a common component of the panic, anxiety and agoraphobia complex.  When left unchecked, panic disorder leads to agoraphobia.  When this happens, monophobia often develops at the same time.   If your coping mechanisms rely heavily on a "safe" person, or safe people, then you are more likely to develop monophobia.  Monophobics expend a great deal of effort and energy in an attempt to never be alone.  This can be VERY disruptive and impactful when it comes to daily life, and relationships with those people designated as safe or rescue people.   Monophobia is not a different or special kind of problem.  It's simply your fear of anxiety and related symptoms expressed in a given context - being alone and out of reach of your safe or rescue people.  This is simply the mistaken belief that you need someone to safe you from panic and its related sensations.  When deprived of that rescuer or rescuers, the monophobic perceives an even greater danger and reacts accordingly.  This is why monophobics often say they have no safe place.  In monophobia, safe places are replaced by safe people. Overcoming monophobia is handled the same way we handle everything else we discuss here.  Moving toward the fear and exposing oneself systematically and incrementally to those fearful sensations and thoughts without reacting to them.  This can be done by working on other situations - driving, shopping, going to work, going for a walk - or by attacking the "alone" context directly via systematic and incremental periods spent alone, confronting the fear and the associated sensations and symptoms. Repeated experiences with positive outcomes - afraid but still safe and OK - will break the connection between fear and danger.  Once the monophobic person is no longer afraid of his or her own body and mind in any situation, they no longer require rescue and therefore no longer fear being alone. Show notes for this episode can be found at https://theanxioustruth.com/92 Join The Discussion Group ——————————————– https://facebook.com/groups/TAGForum My Links (social media, podcasts, etc.) ——————————————– https://theanxioustruth.com/links Intro and outro music - Afterglow by Ben Drake (with permission)
22:20
January 22, 2020
EP 0091 - Worry and Worrying
Worry and worrying are problems that many people struggle with along road to recovering from an anxiety disorder.  I'm asked to cover this topic again and again.  So ... a few words about worry and worrying. Full notes for this episode can be found at https://theanxioustruth.com/91 Worry is simply thinking.  Thinking by itself has absolutely no impact on the real world.  Worry, therefore is not protective, predictive or proactive.  Worry does not keep you safe from disaster.  It does not keep bad things from happening.  It does not prepare you for when they do.  Worry is just thinking, and its not terribly useful. Worry is related to planning.  Planning is thinking accompanied by action.  When planning, we take our thoughts and transform them into real world actions required to respond to and react to real world events.  Planning is useful.  Planning is helpful.  We all plan in some way. Worry, on the other hand, is thinking WITHOUT action. Worry is half a plan and has no worth or purpose. Worry is not a life sentence. Being  a "worrier" isn't your fate for the rest of your life.  You can change this. Being a "worrier" is often a self-applied label that we secretly wear as a badge of honor.  This is also not helpful.  Worry is not a substitute for love and caring, nor does it prove that you are loving or caring.  Worry matters only to the person worrying.  No matter how much you worry about someone, that person can never experience it because worry exists only in your head.  You can love and care for someone without engaging in worry about them. You can drop the "worrier" label and still be a kind, loving and caring person. We can get off the worry train two ways: 1. Some worries can be transformed into actual plans.  By adding action, we can convert a worry into a plan.  Once you've created a plan, you can remove this item from your worry bucket and move along.  This sometimes involve recognizing that you are simply skipping the action part, or dropping the belief that you are incapable of action. 2. Worries for which there is no plan can be dropped on the floor. This is done by learning how to not engage with worrisome thoughts.  Learning to relax and refocus away from worry is a skill that can be developed through practice and repetition.  This can be difficult because you may be confusing worry with action and safety.  Disengaging with your worry thoughts may make you feel vulnerable to disaster.  Through repetition you will learn that you are just as safe when not worrying as you are while worrying.  Learning the skills of refocus and relaxation will help you break the link between worry and safety that perpetuates the habit. ------- Get Involved In the Facebook Support Forum https://facebook.com/groups/TAGForum Find me on the web, my podcast, and all my social media accounts: https://theanxioustruth.com/links
27:20
January 15, 2020
BAD THERAPISTS - An Angry Anxiety Disorder Rant in One Act
Not really a podcast episode so much as an angry rant about a subject I feel really needed to be addressed.  If you've been seeing your "anxiety" therapist for months on end, or years on end, and your progress is kinda nowhere, you may find this helpful.  At a minimum you may be entertained.  Join The Discussion Group
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10:10
January 14, 2020
EP 0090 - What If It Comes Back? Examining The "Acceptable Bubble"
One of the common worries while recovering from an anxiety disorder is the fear that it might "come back" after recovery.  This is something I hear from many many people.  It's also pretty common in the community surrounding the podcast to see people arrive that have been through these issues before. They thought had it all solved, but find themselves back in the grips of panic, anxiety and associated nastiness. The Acceptable Bubble - What Is It? This is closely related to what I've been calling the "acceptable bubble".  This is the bubble we build when we do the "recovery things", but we engineer them to do them without anxiety.  Often this means that someone has found a panic-free way to do all the required basic life things, then kinda stopped doing the work.  The hallmark of the "acceptable bubble" is the existence of limits and limitations in one's life. What Are The Signs Of An Acceptable Bubble? If you feel like you've recovered, but you still "can't" do things that outside your normal daily experiences, you may be in an acceptable bubble. When are rely on safe people or safety mechanisms to get the bigger tasks done, there's a chance that you're in an acceptable bubble. If you are enduring your days, pushing through anxiety and trying desperately to just get through, you've built an acceptable bubble. The REAL Goal of Recovery When we build a panic free acceptable bubble, we never reach the ultimate goal of recovery.  The real end game of recovery is to learn to not be afraid of our own bodies and minds.  We must learn to experience fear and discomfort without being afraid of being afraid.  This is what recovery is all about.  Going to work, or the supermarket, or on a family vacation are the happy results of achieving this goal.  They are not the goal itself. Avoiding The Acceptable Bubble - Getting The Job Done For Good! In the end, avoiding the dreaded acceptable bubble is a personal thing. You must be able to look in the mirror and know that you are truly not afraid of panic or anxiety any longer. You don't have to love it, but you can't be afraid of it, in any circumstance.  When the day comes that you can honestly say that a level 10 panic attack while alone 200 miles from home isn't a scary thought any longer, you've achieved your goal.  When you work toward that, you never have to worry about it "coming back" again.  Reach that goal, and this recovery journey will be the last one you'll ever have to embark on. Join The Discussion Group ——————————————– https://facebook.com/groups/TAGForum My Links (social media, podcasts, etc.) ——————————————– https://theanxioustruth.com/links Intro and outro music - Afterglow by Ben Drake (with permission)
24:23
January 8, 2020
EP 0089 - Breath and Breathing Centered Anxiety
"What if I forget how to breathe?" "What if I just stop breathing?" "I can't get enough air in my lungs." "I can't take a deep breath." Breath and breathing focused anxiety is quite common among people that suffer from anxiety disorders like panic disorder and agoraphobia.  In this episode I discuss the two most common forms of this anxiety. For full show notes: https://theanxioustruth.com/89 [1:30] "I Am Afraid That I Will Forget How To Breathe" The first is an obsession with the thought that you have to actively, manually breathe, or your body will somehow forget to breathe or you will stop breathing.  This obsessive, irrational thought may grip you during every waking moment, tricking you into thinking that you must stay involved in the process of breathing to avoid some horrible fate. [12:19] "It Feels Like I Can't Breathe.  I Can't Take a Deep Breath!" This is the second common form of breath and breathing focused anxiety.  You may walk around all day suffering from "air hunger", feeling like you can't breathe or that you can't get a deep enough breath.  You may feel like there is a tight band around your chest, which causes you to attempt to expand your ribcage and "fill" your lungs to maximum capacity to relieve that sensation. Join The Discussion Group ——————————————– https://facebook.com/groups/TAGForum My Links (social media, podcasts, etc.) ——————————————– https://theanxioustruth.com/links Intro and outro music - Afterglow by Ben Drake (with permission)
30:33
January 1, 2020
EP 0088 - Anxiety Success Stories : Joyce Gets Angry ... And Gets Better!
My friend Joyce joined me to talk about her slide into severe panic disorder and agoraphobia, which was followed by an aggressive recovery and rebuilding of her life.  Listen to Joyce describe her journey from being frozen in fear on her sofa to being back at work and feeling limitless.  Of particular note is the way Joyce used anger and frustration to fuel her recovery efforts. For many, this can be an excellent strategy and I really appreciate Joyce being so open and honest about how she was feeling and how it helped to propel her forward.  As always, comments and questions are welcomed.  I will do my best to relay any questions or messages to Joyce as they are asked. My Links (website, podcast, social. mailing list, etc.) ---------------------- https://theanxioustruth.com/links
26:02
December 26, 2019
EP 0087 - Being Yourself Again : Hope and Help For Your Nerves Chapter 9
Holly and I discuss chapter 9 of Claire Weekes' "Hope And Help For Your Nerves". This chapter discusses the nature of recovery and the road to being yourself again. Some of the highlights: Your symptoms will not immediately go away, and may even worsen during recovery. You cannot simply decide to not be afraid. You must LEARN to not be afraid. We discuss the use of medication in conjunction with recovery. Keeping occupied - not being wholly consumed at all times with recovery - is essential. Quick recovery is possible and does happen for some people. A big part of recovery is understanding that what you think is keeping you stuck. Setbacks can and likely will happen, but they're not really setbacks if you frame them properly and learn from them. You can buy Hope and Help From Your Nerves by following the Amazon links from my website: https://theanxioustruth.com/shop/  Join The Discussion Group ——————————————– https://facebook.com/groups/TAGForum My Links (social media, podcasts, etc.) ——————————————– https://theanxioustruth.com/links
55:32
December 23, 2019
EP 0086 - Stop Arguing With Your Anxiety and Trauma (w/Joe Ryan)
When confronted with uncomfortable and scary feelings of anxiety, panic or emotions based on past trauma, the immediate response is to "talk yourself down".  Trying convince yourself that you are OK using words, phrases and thoughts often does not work.  When this happens, you are at a fork in the road.  You can enlist the aid of your support system to argue with your anxiety or trauma for you, or you can resign yourself to just feel everything without resistance to let it pass through you and end naturally. Spoiler alert ... you want option two.  Facing and accepting anxiety, panic, and feelings based on your past is harder, but its the path that leads to long term change and lasting recovery.  Continuing to argue, or using your support team to argue by proxy for you, may be an attractive option because it's the "easier" option and may seem like the fast path to feeling better in the moment, but there's no learning or changing to found there. Joe and I speak about this process, the need to face and feel what's in front of you, and how this leads to a deeper understanding of the reality of being capable, competent and safe. This is the direction you want to go.  Trust us. Thanks to Joe for taking the time to chat! Comments and questions are always welcomed. Join The Discussion Group ——————————————– https://facebook.com/groups/TAGForum My Links (social media, podcasts, etc.) ——————————————– https://theanxioustruth.com/links Find Joe at https://joeryan.com or on Instagram at @joeryan.
41:12
December 14, 2019
EP 0085 - Heart Anxiety Issues and Interoceptive Exposure
If you are a regular listener of the podcast, odds are that you've had anxiety, worry and fear focused on your heart at least once or twice.  This is quite common.  Heart-centered anxiety generally involves being afraid of a rapid, strong, or irregular (flutters/palpitations) heartbeat.  This is either due to an underlying fear that something is wrong with your heart or will go wrong, or due to the link between a rapid/strong heartbeat and a panic attack.  In either case, the way out, as always, is through.  We can use interoceptive exposure techniques to intentionally create the rapid or strong heartbeat we fear in order to desensitize and learn that there is no reason to fear your heartbeat.  Yes, this involves intentionally experiencing that which you fear, but this is almost always the case when solving these problems. Comments and questions always welcomed. Find this episode on my website: https://theanxioustruth.com/85 My Links: https://theanxioustruth.com/links Music - Afterglow by Ben Drake (with permission) https://facebook.com/BenDrakeMusic
34:25
December 6, 2019
EP 0084 - Anxiety and Autism/Neurodiversity Issues w/Christa Holmans
Today I chatted with Christa Holmans about some of the overlapping issues found in both anxiety disorders and autism and other neurodivesity conditions such as ADHD.  Christa had so much excellent insight on how autism influences how one may deal with anxiety issues!  I really enjoyed this discussion and I hope you will too! My Links (Website, podcast, social media, etc.) --------------------- https://theanxioustruth.com/links Find Christa Online ----------------------- https://neurodivergentrebel.com
40:32
November 26, 2019
EP 0083 - Intrusive, Unwanted, Obsessive Thoughts - w/Dr. Martin Seif
Today I was fortunate to spend about 30 minutes with Dr. Martin Seif, a psychologist and author specializing in anxiety disorders.  Dr. Seif and I talked about intrusive, obsessive and unwanted thoughts.  What are they?  How do they become so troublesome?  How should we approach this problem?  For the full notes on this episode and all links, go to https://theanxioustruth.com/83 Find all my links at https://theanxioustruth.com/links Find Dr. Martin Seif at http://drmartinseif.com Find the Anxiety And Depression Association of America at https://aada.org
36:05
November 16, 2019
EP 0082 - Stop Reading. Start Doing.
Reading, listening to podcasts, watching videos, and otherwise educating yourself about your anxiety disorder is a good idea ...until its becomes a safety and avoidance behavior  Ultimately, overcoming an anxiety disorder only happens by DOING, not by reading.  So after you've read the book for the fifth time, or you've read 10 anxiety books and want to read an 11th, you must realize that its time to actually put what you've learned into action.  There is no lasting progress without action.  There's hard, scary stuff to do here, but its so worth doing, so put down the book and lets actually do the things you've been reading about! My Links --------------- https://theanxioustruth.com/links
09:57
October 28, 2019
EP 0081 - Overcoming Anxiety: Dealing With The "Inescapable" Memory of Past Trauma (w/Monique Koven)
Today Monique and I spent some time discussing the memories of past trauma and abuse, and how the old feeling of being unable to escape can often live on.  This can represent an obstacle to recovery when it leads to viewing attempts at recovery and improvement as being futile or not worth the effort or energy. Monique shares some amazing insight about the role of compassion and how we can combine this with the tools and techniques we've discussed so often as being so effective in recovering from an anxiety disorder.  A great listen for anyone dealing with past trauma and/or abuse alongside an anxiety disorder.  Thank you Monique! Find the episode Monique and I discussed here:  https://anchor.fm/monique34/episodes/The-Underlying-Fear-In-Trauma-e5dhrj My Links https://theanxioustruth.com/links Intro/Outro Music:  "Afterglow" by The Ben Drake Collective.  Used with permission.  Find Ben Drake on Facebook or at bendrakemusic.com.
20:50
October 4, 2019
EP 0080 - Anxiety Success : How Raven Got It All Together
How my friend Raven went from homebound agoraphobic, crippled with panic and intrusive thoughts and fears, to living her life, not being afraid of anxiety, and making plans for her future.  If there was every an uplifting story from a lovely human being, it would be this one.   If you think you can't, here's 30 minutes that will show you that you CAN! Thank you Raven, for taking the time to share with us!  My Links https://theanxioustruth.com/links Intro/Outro Music:  "Afterglow" by The Ben Drake Collective.  Used with permission.  Find Ben Drake on Facebook or at bendrakemusic.com.
35:19
September 20, 2019
EP 0079 - Dealing With Emotions And Anxiety At The Same Time (w/Joe Ryan)
One of the most common issues that seems to pop up for people doing the work to overcome an anxiety disorder is emotions and how to deal with them while in the recovery.  What do I do when I feel sad, or angry, or generally upset? Is that wrong?  Is this a setback in my recovery?  Its it OK to cry or otherwise express my emotions when they come up?  My friend Joe Ryan and I talk about how its perfectly OK and normal to experience emotions, and how its healthy and productive to express them whenever and however you need to.  We answer common questions, address common concerns, and point out potential pitfalls when dealing with those emotional times. My Links https://theanxioustruth.com/links Joe's Links https://joeryan.com https://instagram.com/joeryan Intro/Outro Music:  "Afterglow" by The Ben Drake Collective.  Used with permission.  Find Ben Drake on Facebook or at bendrakemusic.com.
25:10
September 16, 2019
EP 0078 - Anxiety Recovery - What Should You Do When You "Fail"?
Recorded from YouTube Live August 19, 2019  What do you do when you “fail” at an exposure, or when you have a particularly difficult anxiety day and wind up escaping back to your “safe zone”? I can tell you what you should NOT do. You should NOT just sit home and recount the story of how horrible it was and how you failed and how upset you are. That is sending the wrong story and signals to you brain. Think objectively. Realize what you did wrong. Think about what would have been a better course of action. GET UP DO. IT. AGAIN. IMMEDIATELY. Turning a “fail” into a “win” is easier than you think. Do not miss the opportunity to turn things around because you CAN and it will matter in the overall scheme of your recovery progress. My Links https://theanxioustruth.com/links Intro/Outro Music:  "Afterglow" by The Ben Drake Collective.  Used with permission.  Find Ben Drake on Facebook or at bendrakemusic.com.
49:09
August 19, 2019
EP 0077 - Anxiety Recovery - Common Exposure Misconceptions And Mistakes
Today I'm joined by my friend Holly to talk about common misconceptions and mistakes surrounding exposure.  Many people are unaware of the true nature of exposure and how it actually works as part of the anxiety recovery process.  Lets clear up a few things. My Links https://theanxioustruth.com/links Intro/Outro Music:  "Afterglow" by The Ben Drake Collective.  Used with permission.  Find Ben Drake on Facebook or at bendrakemusic.com.
34:05
August 15, 2019
EP 0076 - I Feel OK ... And I'm Not Sure What To Do Now (w/Joe Ryan)
You've been doing the work.  You've been working the process.  You're facing your fears and learning not to be afraid of how you feel. You're no longer crippled by panic, fear and anxiety. One day you find that that familiar fear and anxiety is missing.  Is this what it feels like to feel OK?  What am I supposed to do with this?  Where's the anxiety? Should I be happy now?  What if it comes back and puts me back to square one? These are questions I hear all the time from people that have reached the point where they're having anxiety free moments.  Today my friend Joe and I discuss this issue and how he's dealing with it.  We talk about not continually scanning and assessing your state, why you can't go back to square one if you've gone THROUGH the fear, and what feeling "OK" looks like in the real world. Thanks again to Joe for taking the time. My Links https://theanxioustruth.com/links Intro/Outro Music:  "Afterglow" by The Ben Drake Collective.  Used with permission.  Find Ben Drake on Facebook or at bendrakemusic.com. Find Joe Online https://instagram.com/joeryan https://joeryan.com
33:38
August 6, 2019
EP 0075 - Issues of Competence, Confidence and Self-Esteem in Anxiety Recovery (w/Joe Ryan)
Often, issues of self-esteem, confidence and competence can get in the way when recovering from anxiety and panic issues.  If you've ever been made to feel like you're not good enough, not capable, or not competent, my old friend Joe Ryan shares how he has dealt with this on his own journey.  Thanks to Joe for spending more time with us today! My Links https://theanxioustruth.com/links Intro/Outro Music:  "Afterglow" by The Ben Drake Collective.  Used with permission.  Find Ben Drake on Facebook or at bendrakemusic.com. Find Joe Online https://instagram.com/joeryan https://joeryan.com
26:28
August 5, 2019
EP 0074 - How Trauma And Pain Do NOT Have To Ruin Your Day (w/Joe Ryan)
Its possible to work through anxiety, panic, trauma and pain without having it ruin every day.  Today I'm joined by my old friend Joe Ryan.  Joe has spent years working this process and offers some great insight on how to deal with anxiety, panic and even past trauma without being crushed by every memory, thought or sensation.  Thanks to Joe for spending time with us today! My Links https://theanxioustruth.com/links Intro/Outro Music:  "Afterglow" by The Ben Drake Collective.  Used with permission.  Find Ben Drake on Facebook or at bendrakemusic.com. Find Joe Online https://instagram.com/joeryan https://joeryan.com
29:37
July 31, 2019
EP 0073 - Sunday Night Anxiety Q&A - July 7, 2019
Q&A from my Facebook group including questions about dizziness, driving, doctor visits, airports, neck spasms, anticipatory anxiety and exposure mechanics. Thanks to Jay, Connie, Charli, Julie, Clay and Marie-Anne for calling in!  My Links https://theanxioustruth.com/links Intro/Outro Music:  "Afterglow" by The Ben Drake Collective.  Used with permission.  Find Ben Drake on Facebook or at bendrakemusic.com.
21:06
July 8, 2019
EP 0072 - Dealing With Anticipatory Anxiety
Anticipatory anxiety isn't a special or different kind of anxiety. It's not a mysterious external force over which you have no control. Let's define it, break it down, and look at ways of moving through anticipatory anxiety so you can get to the work that really needs to be done.  My Links https://theanxioustruth.com/links Intro/Outro Music:  "Afterglow" by The Ben Drake Collective.  Used with permission.  Find Ben Drake on Facebook or at bendrakemusic.com.
15:42
July 5, 2019
EP 0071 - You Do NOT Have To Follow Every Thought You Have! (w/Monique Koven)
Many people are under the false impression that they must honor, follow and engage deeply with every thought they have.  This is simply not true.  When dealing with both anxiety and trauma issues, your thoughts can often be your enemy.  Listening to everything you think and acting as if every thought is correct and valid can lead you deeper in the anxiety maze.  Monique has some excellent ways to frame this and some outstanding ways to approach this problem.  We discuss awareness of our constant thoughts, why we often give them more power and respect than they deserve, and how the nature of thoughts are to be temporary.  If you can stop the mental chatter, things will most times get much better faster than you think. Thank you again to my friend Monique for taking the time with us today! My Links https://theanxioustruth.com/links Intro/Outro Music:  "Afterglow" by The Ben Drake Collective.  Used with permission.  Find Ben Drake on Facebook or at bendrakemusic.com. Find Monique Online ------------------------------ https://moniquekovencoaching.com https://www.facebook.com/MoniqueKovenCoaching/ https://anchor.fm/monique34 https://www.instagram.com/cptsd.recovered.coach/
29:43
June 25, 2019
EP 0070 - Finding Your Power Even In The Darkest Moments (w/Monique Koven)
If you're in the grips of anxiety, panic, agoraphobia or PTSD you may feel powerless and incapable of doing what needs to be done to change things.  This isn't true.  Monique and I talk about how you have power and control even in the darkest moments. You are not stuck.  You are capable of making the changes you need.  You might just need to change direction, and you can! My Links https://theanxioustruth.com/links Intro/Outro Music:  "Afterglow" by The Ben Drake Collective.  Used with permission.  Find Ben Drake on Facebook or at bendrakemusic.com.
25:57
June 18, 2019
EP 0069 Anxiety Help - You Are NOT Responsible For The Happiness of Others (with Monique Koven)
Do you worry that your anxiety problems are going to “ruin everything” for your friends and family? Being worried about letting people down or ruining things can seriously stand in the way of taking the steps you need to take to build a better life. I’ve found this to be a common theme among anxiety sufferers, so lets talk about how the happiness of others is NOT your responsibility. You are not responsible for making people happy or sad, and you are not responsible for the positive or negative outcome of every social event, family function or other situation that involves other people in your life. In this episode Monique Koven and I discuss the origins of this distortion, how it can be an impediment to progress, and what we can do about it. Thanks to Monique for joining the discussion today! My Links https://theanxioustruth.com/links Intro/Outro Music:  "Afterglow" by The Ben Drake Collective.  Used with permission.  Find Ben Drake on Facebook or at bendrakemusic.com.
26:10
June 5, 2019
EP 0068 - Dealing With OCD and Obsessive Thoughts (w/Kimberly Quinlan (LMFT))
Today I had a chat with Kimberley Quinlan (LMFT) about OCD, obsessive/intrusive thoughts, and how to deal with them effectively. Lots of good information and resources in this one, along with a bunch of concepts you'll find very familiar if you've been following me for any length of time. Thanks to Kim for sharing her time with us! Find Kim on Instagram: @kimberleyquinlan or on her website http://cbtschool.com Find the International OCD Foundation at https://iocdf.org/ My Links https://theanxioustruth.com/links Intro/Outro Music:  "Afterglow" by The Ben Drake Collective.  Used with permission.  Find Ben Drake on Facebook or at bendrakemusic.com.
33:22
April 5, 2019
EP 0067 - How Should You Talk About Your Anxiety?
The way you talk about your anxiety matters.  More than you think. Are you always speaking passively and just describing how you feel? Are you worried about what people will think about your anxiety? Do you fear that you are boring them, alienating them, or pushing them away when you discuss your anxiety?   Are you ready to adopt a more constructive active voice that reflects ongoing recovery? This is a great question that came up in the Facebook group a few days ago, so I thought it was worth 15 minutes or so to talk about it. My Links https://theanxioustruth.com/links Intro/Outro Music:  "Afterglow" by The Ben Drake Collective.  Used with permission.  Find Ben Drake on Facebook or at bendrakemusic.com.
16:56
April 4, 2019
EP 0066 - Anxiety Success : How Sarah Overcame Her Health Anxiety
If you’re suffering with health anxiety – no matter how severe – Sarah’s story will inspire you and give you hope. Join me as we look at Sarah’s journey into completely out of control health anxiety, then back out to a place of calm and peace when it comes to her health and her state of being. Thank you so much to Sarah for taking the time to share her story! My Links https://theanxioustruth.com/links Intro/Outro Music:  "Afterglow" by The Ben Drake Collective.  Used with permission.  Find Ben Drake on Facebook or at bendrakemusic.com.
41:22
February 5, 2019
EP 0065 - Anxiety Success : How Andrew Is Taking His Life Back
My friend Andrew has gone from "contented agoraphobic" to well down the path to full recovery and was nice enough to take some time to share his story. We talk about how he got to where he is today, what the future holds, and we we answer some questions asked in our Facebook discussion group. Thank you Andrew! My Links https://theanxioustruth.com/links Intro/Outro Music:  "Afterglow" by The Ben Drake Collective.  Used with permission.  Find Ben Drake on Facebook or at bendrakemusic.com.
55:29
January 31, 2019
EP 0064 - Near Panic On-Air and More Viewer Questions (w/Billy from Anxiety United_
"Drew, are you cured?  Do you ever have panic attacks?"  I get this question all the time.  The answer is ... I can still experience a panic attack now and then.  So come listen to me experience near panic on-air in this episode.  Then Billy and I answer more  questions from the Facebook forum. My Links https://theanxioustruth.com/links Intro/Outro Music:  "Afterglow" by The Ben Drake Collective.  Used with permission.  Find Ben Drake on Facebook or at bendrakemusic.com. Anxiety United https://youtube.com/anxietyunited
1:37:47
January 27, 2019
EP 0063 - Dealing With Stress (W/Billy from Anxiety United)
Billy and I discuss the relationship between stress and anxiety and why stress doesn’t have to automatically become anxiety and fear. Afterward we answer a slew of great questions from the Facebook discussion group. This is a long one so grab your favorite beverage and make some time to listen.  :-) My Links https://theanxioustruth.com/links Intro/Outro Music:  "Afterglow" by The Ben Drake Collective.  Used with permission.  Find Ben Drake on Facebook or at bendrakemusic.com. Anxiety United https://youtube.com/anxietyunited
1:31:43
January 26, 2019
EP 0062 - Part 2 : Someone I Care About Has Anxiety Problems - How Can I Help?
If you have someone in your life that you care about that’s dealing with serious anxiety issues to the point where they can’t leave home, or be alone, or work, or attend school, etc … then this episode is aimed at you. Holly and I talk about the nature of anxiety disorders like panic disorder and agoraphobia, what they are and are not, and the general course of action required to overcome these problems.A good primer if you have a friend, partner or family member that suffers with one of these problems.  Be sure to check out part 1 too! My Links https://theanxioustruth.com/links Intro/Outro Music:  "Afterglow" by The Ben Drake Collective.  Used with permission.  Find Ben Drake on Facebook or at bendrakemusic.com.
52:45
January 16, 2019
EP 0061 - Part 1 : Someone I Care About Has Anxiety Problems. How Can I Help?
If you have someone in your life that you care about that’s dealing with serious anxiety issues to the point where they can’t leave home, or be alone, or work, or attend school, etc … then this episode is aimed at you. Holly and I talk about the nature of anxiety disorders like panic disorder and agoraphobia, what they are and are not, and the general course of action required to overcome these problems. A good primer if you have a friend, partner or family member that suffers with one of these problems. Be sure to check out part 2 for specific discussion of what you can do to help! My Links https://theanxioustruth.com/links Intro/Outro Music:  "Afterglow" by The Ben Drake Collective.  Used with permission.  Find Ben Drake on Facebook or at bendrakemusic.com.
30:47
January 15, 2019
EP 0060 - Making An Anxiety Recovery Plan (w/Billy from Anxiety United)
Overcoming anxiety problems means making a good recovery plan and executing it.  In this episode I'm joined by my friend Billy from Anxiety United. We discuss the basics of a good recovery plan including breaking things into small steps, the importance of repetition, and changing how you think and talk about your anxiety problems. We also answer questions from the Facebook group. Comments and questions always welcomed. My Links https://theanxioustruth.com/links Anxiety United https://youtube.com/AnxietyUnited Intro/Outro Music:  "Afterglow" by The Ben Drake Collective.  Used with permission.  Find Ben Drake on Facebook or at bendrakemusic.com.
1:15:03
January 5, 2019
EP 0059 - Anxiety, Sex and Relationship Issues (With Leslie Gustafson)
A discussion of how anxiety disorders can impact sex, intimacy and relationships in general with licensed therapist and certified sex therapist Leslie Gustafson.  Leslie and I talk about the general approach to this problem, some of the nuances, and  – surprise – we talk about how action oriented behavioral therapies are so effective in addressing not only the sex problem, but the anxiety disorders themselves. Thanks to Leslie for taking the time to help out! My Links https://theanxioustruth.com/links Find Leslie online here: http://authenticandtrue.com http://amazingintimacybox.com http://instagram.com/lesliegusafson1 Intro/Outro Music:  "Afterglow" by The Ben Drake Collective.  Used with permission.  Find Ben Drake on Facebook or at bendrakemusic.com.
25:13
January 4, 2019
EP 0058 - Overcoming Anxiety : Taking A Leap Of Faith
At some point in this process, you MUST take a leap of faith.  All the talking and questioning and reading and learning must give way to actually leaping off that cliff - fully surrendering to and accepting your anxiety symptoms.  Its terrifying, we know, but in this episode Holly and I talk about how we MUST leap to finally learn that we will be OK.  Without the leap of faith, real progress will be hard to come by. Comments and questions welcomed as always! My Links https://theanxioustruth.com/links Intro/Outro Music:  "Afterglow" by The Ben Drake Collective.  Used with permission.  Find Ben Drake on Facebook or at bendrakemusic.com.
36:58
December 18, 2018
EP 0057 - PTSD, Trauma and Anxiety w/Monique Koven
Often there is overlap between anxiety disorders like panic disorder and agoraphobia, past trauma and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). Monique and I discuss her path to overcoming trauma and generalized anxiety disorder and how the path is remarkably similar when dealing with all of these issues. Comments and questions welcomed as always! My Links https://theanxioustruth.com/links Intro/Outro Music:  "Afterglow" by The Ben Drake Collective.  Used with permission.  Find Ben Drake on Facebook or at bendrakemusic.com.
36:24
December 6, 2018
EP 0056 - Anxiety and Dining Out / Social Situations (w/Billy from Anxiety United)
Billy and I discuss anxiety and panic related to dining out, restaurants, bars, pubs and social situations. We talk about how to approach it, steps that can be taken to overcome this problem, and how learning cognitive techniques for thought changing can be so helpful with this problem. Comments, questions and topic suggestions are always welcomed! My Links https://theanxioustruth.com/links Intro/Outro Music:  "Afterglow" by The Ben Drake Collective.  Used with permission.  Find Ben Drake on Facebook or at bendrakemusic.com.
38:21
November 26, 2018
EP 0055 - Overcoming The Fear of Panic While Driving - With Billy from Anxiety United
In this episode Billy and I discuss driving anxiety, the fear of having a panic attack while driving, and what to do about it. We talk about specific steps that can be taken to address this fear and overcome it through exposure and cognitive restructuring. Comments and questions welcomed as always! My Links https://theanxioustruth.com/links Intro/Outro Music:  "Afterglow" by The Ben Drake Collective.  Used with permission.  Find Ben Drake on Facebook or at bendrakemusic.com.
46:57
November 24, 2018
EP 0054 - Anxiety vs Anxiety Disorders : Clarification and Different Approaches
Lets to clarify the focus of my content on anxiety disorders as opposed to just being anxious about things. A quick chat about the difference and why my approach is what it is. I briefly discuss different classes of therapies and how they apply to each situation. My Links https://theanxioustruth.com/links Intro/Outro Music:  "Afterglow" by The Ben Drake Collective.  Used with permission.  Find Ben Drake on Facebook or at bendrakemusic.com.
10:00
November 11, 2018
EP 0053 - Anxiety and Why Positive Self-Talk is Bullsh*t
One of the tools I hear people talk about often is “positive self talk”. Let me tell you why this is not a good thing when you’re dealing with high anxiety and panic. As usual, there’s no sugar coating in this one. :-) My Links https://theanxioustruth.com/links Intro/Outro Music:  "Afterglow" by The Ben Drake Collective.  Used with permission.  Find Ben Drake on Facebook or at bendrakemusic.com.
14:35
October 21, 2018
EP 0052 - Anxiety Sucess Stories : How Jackie Got Her Mojo Back
Jackie suffered from panic attacks and anxiety for years until she had a “lightbulb moment” and turned the corner. Join me as I chat with Jackie about how she went from the depths of anxiety to a normal life. Thanks for sharing, Jackie! My Links https://theanxioustruth.com/links Intro/Outro Music:  "Afterglow" by The Ben Drake Collective.  Used with permission.  Find Ben Drake on Facebook or at bendrakemusic.com.
32:30
August 20, 2018
EP 0051 - The BIGGEST Panic/Anxiety Decision You MUST Make - What Nobody Wants To Hear
This is what nobody wants to hear when it comes to overcoming anxiety and panic related problems, because its the hard part. There’s a large scale commitment/decision you MUST make before you can start making real lasting forward progress. If you can’t make this choice at the macro level, you’ll struggle with consistently making good choices day-by-day as you handle your anxiety problems. My Links https://theanxioustruth.com/links Intro/Outro Music:  "Afterglow" by The Ben Drake Collective.  Used with permission.  Find Ben Drake on Facebook or at bendrakemusic.com.
17:46
August 3, 2018
EP 0050 - Dealing With Panic : The Critical Moment of Decision
When panic strikes, we have a critical moment of decision. What will you do? How will you handle it? What is your plan? The decision we make at that moment is impactful in so many ways both short and long term.  Accept how you feel and panic productively and its over quickly so you can get on with your day and your life in general.  React in fear and the outcome will be completely different.  Which way do you want to go with your panic?   This episode was inspired by experiencing some panic while out on a bike ride this morning.  Yes, I still experience panic now and then.  I just don't care when it happens. My Links https://theanxioustruth.com/links Intro/Outro Music:  "Afterglow" by The Ben Drake Collective.  Used with permission.  Find Ben Drake on Facebook or at bendrakemusic.com.
18:28
July 31, 2018
EP 0049 - How Can I Make My Family Understand My Anxiety?
This is a topic I get asked about all the time, so lets talk about what to do when your anxiety has a negative impact on your relationships. How can you approach family members and friends to get them on board with what you’re up against? My Links https://theanxioustruth.com/links Intro/Outro Music:  "Afterglow" by The Ben Drake Collective.  Used with permission.  Find Ben Drake on Facebook or at bendrakemusic.com.
18:02
February 24, 2018
EP 0048 - Chap 8 : Hope And Help For Your Nerves (About Agoraphobia)
Holly and I discuss chapter 8 of the Claire Weekes book "Hope and Help For Your Nerves". Dr. Weekes explains agoraphobia and walks us through how to approach it for best result. Holly and I spend a while talking about how we overcame agoraphobia and what difference its made in our lives. My Links https://theanxioustruth.com/links Intro/Outro Music:  "Afterglow" by The Ben Drake Collective.  Used with permission.  Find Ben Drake on Facebook or at bendrakemusic.com.
1:11:58
January 15, 2018
EP 0047 - Chap 7 : Hope And Help For Your Nerves (Cure of Recurring Nervous Attacks)
Holly and I discuss chapter 7 of Hope and Help For Your Nerves by Dr. Claire Weekes. This chapter really focuses on understanding that you are afraid of how you feel, and that focusing on sensations and symptoms is counter productive. Rather, focus on how you react to those sensations and symptoms. Don't add what she calls "second fear" to that initial flash of "first fear". My Links https://theanxioustruth.com/links Intro/Outro Music:  "Afterglow" by The Ben Drake Collective.  Used with permission.  Find Ben Drake on Facebook or at bendrakemusic.com.
1:10:51
November 26, 2017
EP 0046 - Anxiety 101 : Social Media and the Internet
Social media and the Internet have had a major impact on those of us with anxiety disorders. In this episode Billy and I discuss different ways the Internet has influenced anxiety issues. We look at positive impacts, negative impacts, and pitfalls that should be avoided. My Links https://theanxioustruth.com/links Intro/Outro Music:  "Afterglow" by The Ben Drake Collective.  Used with permission.  Find Ben Drake on Facebook or at bendrakemusic.com.
44:41
November 21, 2017
EP 0045 - Chap 6 : Hope and Help For Your Nerves (Cure of The More Constant Symptoms)
Holly and I return for the next chapter of our series discussing "Hope and Help For Your Nerves" by Dr. Claire Weekes. In this episode we discuss chapter 6, which is probably the lynchpin around which Dr. Weekes built her work. Learning to TRULY accept your anxiety symptoms and to TRULY believe that they are not dangerous will allow you to relax into your symptoms rather than fighting against them. Learning to relax, float, and soften in the face of the onslaught is the path to long term improvement. When you no longer fear your anxiety symptoms, they will begin to fade and you will begin to get your life back. My Links https://theanxioustruth.com/links Intro/Outro Music:  "Afterglow" by The Ben Drake Collective.  Used with permission.  Find Ben Drake on Facebook or at bendrakemusic.com.
52:48
November 12, 2017
EP 0044 - Anxiety 101 : First Exposure Challenge
Lets take on our first 30 day exposure challenge. For the next 30 days, start by making a short list of activities you find challenging from an anxiety standpoint. Then, start working on those items. Feel free to talk about your progress or post pics/videos in the Facebook group. We're all there to encourage each other and cheer each other on! Billy and I talk about the nuts and bolts of breaking down your challenge tasks into very small bits and working on each bit one by one. My Links https://theanxioustruth.com/links Intro/Outro Music:  "Afterglow" by The Ben Drake Collective.  Used with permission.  Find Ben Drake on Facebook or at bendrakemusic.com.
59:51
November 8, 2017
EP 0043 - Anxiety 101 : Where Will You Find Your Spark?
"Get busy living, or get busy dying." At some point in the journey to overcome anxiety issues, concepts and techniques and tips and tricks fall by the wayside and it becomes a matter of desire and drive and courage and just wanting to improve your life. You can read and listen and learn and discuss, but at some point you have to find that spark deep in your gut and get moving. In this episode Billy and I talk about finding your spark and using it to launch you forward. My Links https://theanxioustruth.com/links Intro/Outro Music:  "Afterglow" by The Ben Drake Collective.  Used with permission.  Find Ben Drake on Facebook or at bendrakemusic.com.
59:48
October 31, 2017
EP 0042 - Yes, My Anxiety Was As Bad As Yours
I've been asked many times over the years how bad my anxiety used to be. Yes, it was probably as bad as yours. In this episode of our Anxiety 101 series, I'll tell you all about it. Everything I've been through. The symptoms I've dealt with. The issues I've had to resolve. The good news is that if I can do it, you can do it! Questions? Comments? Lets hear them. My Links https://theanxioustruth.com/links Intro/Outro Music:  "Afterglow" by The Ben Drake Collective.  Used with permission.  Find Ben Drake on Facebook or at bendrakemusic.com.
1:02:43
October 25, 2017
EP 0041 - Anxiety 101 : What Triggers Your Anxiety?
What triggers your anxiety? Billy and I discuss anxiety triggers, how to identify your triggers, and what you can do about them. As usual, we answer listener questions near the end of the episode. My Links https://theanxioustruth.com/links Intro/Outro Music:  "Afterglow" by The Ben Drake Collective.  Used with permission.  Find Ben Drake on Facebook or at bendrakemusic.com.
45:13
October 20, 2017
EP 0040 - Anxiety 101 : Exposure Therapy and the Need to Practice
Following up on our initial talk about the basics of exposure therapy, Billy and talk about how repetition and practice are so important. We discuss how practicing the small things and continually expanding your scope will make it easy to tackle larger tasks that are harder to practice (i.e. flying, or visiting the dentist). Finally, we take some comments and questions on previous episodes. My Links https://theanxioustruth.com/links Intro/Outro Music:  "Afterglow" by The Ben Drake Collective.  Used with permission.  Find Ben Drake on Facebook or at bendrakemusic.com.
47:56
October 10, 2017
EP 0039 - Anxiety 101 : Feeling Ill, Health Anxiety and Cognitive Tools
Billy and I were both a bit under the weather for this episode, so we thought a discussion of health anxiety and how illness impacts your anxiety was in order. We discuss health anxiety in general, our reactions when feeling ill, and how dealing with health anxiety is more about cognitive work than physical exposure. My Links https://theanxioustruth.com/links Intro/Outro Music:  "Afterglow" by The Ben Drake Collective.  Used with permission.  Find Ben Drake on Facebook or at bendrakemusic.com.
46:02
October 3, 2017
EP 0038 - Anxiety 101 : Exposure Therapy Basics and Expectations
Today Billy and I talk about the basics of what exposure therapy is, how it fits into the overall scope of Cognitive Behavior Therapy, and how its important to have proper expectations for what exposure can do for you. Near the end of the episode we take some time to answer questions and comments from past episodes. My Links https://theanxioustruth.com/links Intro/Outro Music:  "Afterglow" by The Ben Drake Collective.  Used with permission.  Find Ben Drake on Facebook or at bendrakemusic.com.
44:14
September 28, 2017
EP 0037 - Anxiety 101 : Panic Isn’t Always A Bad Thing
A panic attack isn't always a bad thing. In fact, when you're doing exposure work and trying to learn how not to be afraid of panic and anxiety, having a panic attack is virtually a requirement at some point. Only be experiencing panic without bracing, fighting, avoiding or fleeing can we truly learn that while our fear is real, the danger is not. This is the key to success, so welcome your panic and embrace panic attacks as chances to practice not being afraid! My Links https://theanxioustruth.com/links Intro/Outro Music:  "Afterglow" by The Ben Drake Collective.  Used with permission.  Find Ben Drake on Facebook or at bendrakemusic.com.
32:00
September 20, 2017
EP 0036 - Anxiety 101 : Viewer Questions and Answers
Today Billy and I answer some of the most common questions we've received while doing the Anxiety 101 series. Did we answer your question? Tune in to find out! My Links https://theanxioustruth.com/links Intro/Outro Music:  "Afterglow" by The Ben Drake Collective.  Used with permission.  Find Ben Drake on Facebook or at bendrakemusic.com.
1:06:16
September 13, 2017
EP 0035 - Anxiety 101 / Lesson 10 – The Impact of Lifestyle
Lifestyle choices can influence your panic disorder positively or negatively. Eating a healthy diet can go a long way toward making you feel better overall. Avoid alcohol and mind-altering substances like recreational drugs. Anything that changes your mental state can be an anxiety trigger when you’re in a hyper-sensitive state (as many in the grips of panic disorder are). Get regular exercise and expose yourself to sunlight for at least 15 minutes every day if you can (use sunscreen when needed of course). Get plenty of sleep. Learn effective time and stress management techniques. Don’t ignore your emotional and spiritual needs. Living a healthy lifestyle make you feel better physically and mentally, and can really contribute to boosting your confidence and the feeling that you are in control of your life! My Links https://theanxioustruth.com/links Intro/Outro Music:  "Afterglow" by The Ben Drake Collective.  Used with permission.  Find Ben Drake on Facebook or at bendrakemusic.com.
49:42
September 12, 2017
EP 0034 - Anxiety 101 / Lesson 9 – Therapy and Professional Help
Today Billy and I talk about the different types of therapy and professional help available for anxiety disorders both from a US and a UK perspective. Cognitive behavior therapy (CBT) is hands down the most effective current long-term treatment for panic disorder and related anxiety disorders. If you’re seeking professional help, look for a therapist that specifically specialized in CBT and anxiety disorders. Therapy focused on simply talking about your life might be helpful to a degree, but that is a very long term process and really does very little to address the immediate needs of a panic sufferer. Use CBT and related techniques to get past your panic attacks first. My Links https://theanxioustruth.com/links Intro/Outro Music:  "Afterglow" by The Ben Drake Collective.  Used with permission.  Find Ben Drake on Facebook or at bendrakemusic.com.
36:40
August 30, 2017
EP 0033 - Anxiety 101 / Lesson 8 – Finding the Root of the Problem
Finding the causes of your panic attacks is a good thing, but not by itself. Stress, negative thinking, reactions to past traumas and emotional issues are just some of many possible panic and anxiety triggers. We’re all different, our life circumstances are all different, and that means that there is no one “cause” for panic attacks. Learning to identify your triggers and deal with them is an important part of recovery, but only if you’re also facing the panic and learning not to be afraid of it. Again, there’s no way around that. Learn not to fear panic and in the long run it won’t matter what happens in your life – you’ll never spend your time worrying about having panic attacks again. My Links https://theanxioustruth.com/links Intro/Outro Music:  "Afterglow" by The Ben Drake Collective.  Used with permission.  Find Ben Drake on Facebook or at bendrakemusic.com.
20:44
August 24, 2017
EP 0032 - Anxiety 101 / Lesson 7 – Theres NO Comfortable Way
There is no comfortable way to recover from panic disorder. The very heart of recovery lies in learning not to be afraid of panic. The only way to do that is to fully experience panic without fleeing, avoiding, or adding more fear to the situation. You have to be afraid before you can not be afraid. My Links https://theanxioustruth.com/links Intro/Outro Music:  "Afterglow" by The Ben Drake Collective.  Used with permission.  Find Ben Drake on Facebook or at bendrakemusic.com.
27:13
August 15, 2017
EP 0031 - Anxiety 101 / Lesson 6 – Reacting to Symptoms
Learning to not fear how you feel is a huge part of truly overcoming your anxiety and panic issues. Its important to not react physically to the symptoms of anxiety and panic. Reacting in fear only leads to the belief that something you did somehow made you “safer”, when in reality there is no danger at hand. Lets talk about how to just let your anxiety symptoms be without engaging with them or focusing on them. We talk about using coping techniques and also taking an active approach to even welcoming your symptoms or daring them to take their best shot at you. My Links https://theanxioustruth.com/links Intro/Outro Music:  "Afterglow" by The Ben Drake Collective.  Used with permission.  Find Ben Drake on Facebook or at bendrakemusic.com.
32:23
August 9, 2017
EP 0030 - Anxiety 101 / Lesson 5 – Avoiding Avoidance
Lets talk about avoidance and safety behaviors and how they're a bad thing when it comes to dealing with anxiety and panic issues. Avoidance and safety rituals reinforce the mistaken belief that you need to be "saved" from your anxiety. We contract this with the use of positive coping techniques that help teach you that you're in no real danger to begin with. My Links https://theanxioustruth.com/links Intro/Outro Music:  "Afterglow" by The Ben Drake Collective.  Used with permission.  Find Ben Drake on Facebook or at bendrakemusic.com.
22:52
July 18, 2017
EP 0029 - Anxiety 101 / Lesson 4 – Coping Techniques
Billy and I discuss the role of coping techniques in dealing with anxiety and panic issues. We touch on breathing, muscle relaxation and meditation techniques designed to quiet the mind on demand. Coping techniques are designed to limit the duration and intensity of a panic attack, not to stop it dead it its tracks. Coping techniques must be learned and practiced all the time in order to build the skills required to use them properly. We also briefly touch on important difference between coping and safety/avoidance behaviors. My Links https://theanxioustruth.com/links Intro/Outro Music:  "Afterglow" by The Ben Drake Collective.  Used with permission.  Find Ben Drake on Facebook or at bendrakemusic.com.
25:50
July 12, 2017
EP 0028 - Anxiety 101 / Lesson 3 – The Fear Cycle – W/Anxiety United
When it comes to anxiety, fear feeds the beast! We discuss the idea that symptoms and sensations are not anxiety. Rather, your reaction - the fear you create in your own head- fuels the cycle of anxiety. My Links https://theanxioustruth.com/links Intro/Outro Music:  "Afterglow" by The Ben Drake Collective.  Used with permission.  Find Ben Drake on Facebook or at bendrakemusic.com.
22:21
June 27, 2017
EP 0027 - Anxiety 101 /Lesson 2 – No Real Danger w/Anxiety United
Today Billy and I discuss the fact that the fear we feel when dealing with panic and anxiety is real, but the danger is not. There's no real danger underneath that fear. Understanding that this is false danger is a key toward making forward progress in recovery. We discuss false danger during periods of high anxiety and "future perceived danger" that drives the lifestyle changes which can become the hallmark of an actual anxiety disorder like agoraphobia. My Links https://theanxioustruth.com/links Intro/Outro Music:  "Afterglow" by The Ben Drake Collective.  Used with permission.  Find Ben Drake on Facebook or at bendrakemusic.com.
23:45
June 20, 2017
EP 0026 - Anxiety 101 / Lesson 1 – An Introduction w/Billy from Anxiety United
Lets look at the basics of recovering from anxiety, panic and agoraphobia related issues. First in a series. Billy (from Anxiety United) and I talk about the need to accept that the recovery process will include feeling afraid and uncomfortable, and about building a recovery plan based on acceptance, courage, persistence and patience. My Links https://theanxioustruth.com/links Intro/Outro Music:  "Afterglow" by The Ben Drake Collective.  Used with permission.  Find Ben Drake on Facebook or at bendrakemusic.com.
34:21
June 16, 2017
EP 0025 - Why Does Exercise Make My Anxiety Worse? - Part 2
Once you understand that exercise isn't really making things "worse", you can work on solving this common problem.  Lets review what's really going on, and look at how to re-introduce exercise into your life in a step-by-step way.  As with everything we walk about, this isn't necessarily easy, but its absolutely worth the effort! My Links https://theanxioustruth.com/links Intro/Outro Music:  "Afterglow" by The Ben Drake Collective.  Used with permission.  Find Ben Drake on Facebook or at bendrakemusic.com.
22:58
May 20, 2017
EP 0024 - Chap 5: Hope and Help For Your Nerves (Cure For The Commonest Type of Nervous Illness )
Holly and I discuss chapter 5 of Hope and Help For Your Nerves. The cornerstone principles of Facing, Accepting, Floating and Letting Time Pass are covered in detail. My Links https://theanxioustruth.com/links Intro/Outro Music:  "Afterglow" by The Ben Drake Collective.  Used with permission.  Find Ben Drake on Facebook or at bendrakemusic.com.
32:20
August 17, 2016
EP 0023 - Chap 4: Hope And Help For Your Nerves (The Commonest Simplest Forms Of Nervous Illness)
Holly and I go through chapter 4 of the Claire Weekes Hope and Help For Your Nerves book. This chapter is entitled "The Commonest Simplest Forms of Nervous Illness". We discuss common anxiety symptoms and triggers, the role of fear, why knowledge and understanding is so important, and why fighting is not really the best approach. My Links https://theanxioustruth.com/links Intro/Outro Music:  "Afterglow" by The Ben Drake Collective.  Used with permission.  Find Ben Drake on Facebook or at bendrakemusic.com.
46:25
August 8, 2016
EP 0022 - Chap 3: Hope and Help For Your Nerves (What Is Nervous Breakdown)
In this episode Holly and I go through chapter 3 of the Claire Weekes Hope and Help For Your Nerves book. This chapter is entitled "What Is Nervous Breakdown". We discuss what defines anxiety disorders, two types of "breakdowns" and some basic strategies for dealing with the issue. My Links https://theanxioustruth.com/links Intro/Outro Music:  "Afterglow" by The Ben Drake Collective.  Used with permission.  Find Ben Drake on Facebook or at bendrakemusic.com.
26:56
July 31, 2016
EP 0021 - Chap 2: Hope And Help For Your Nerves (How Your Nervous System Works)
In this episode, Holly and I review chapter 2 of Claire Weekes' Hope and Help For Your Nerves. We discuss the fight or flight response, its involuntary nature, and the idea that your panic and anxiety symptoms are normal, natural, not dangerous, and not to be feared. You cannot stop your body from doing what it's designed to do, but that you can change the way you interpret and react to your panic and anxiety symptoms. My Links https://theanxioustruth.com/links Intro/Outro Music:  "Afterglow" by The Ben Drake Collective.  Used with permission.  Find Ben Drake on Facebook or at bendrakemusic.com.
22:52
July 6, 2016
EP 0020 - Chap 1: Hope And Help For Your Nerves (The Power Within)
Holly and I review chapter 1 of Hope and Help For Your Nerves by Dr Claire Weekes.  This book is what I consider to be the gold standard when it comes to self help for anxiety, panic, agoraphobia and other anxiety disorders.  If you don't have a copy, get one and follow along with us. Its very inexpensive and WELL worth it! My Links https://theanxioustruth.com/links Intro/Outro Music:  "Afterglow" by The Ben Drake Collective.  Used with permission.  Find Ben Drake on Facebook or at bendrakemusic.com.
25:31
June 26, 2016
EP 0019 - Why Does Exercise Make My Anxiety Worse? - Part 1
For many dealing with anxiety and panic issues, exercise can be a real struggle because it may lead to INCREASED anxiety or even full-blown panic. Lets take a look at this problem, what causes it, and why its so worth taking the time to solve. My Links https://theanxioustruth.com/links Intro/Outro Music:  "Afterglow" by The Ben Drake Collective.  Used with permission.  Find Ben Drake on Facebook or at bendrakemusic.com.
19:17
November 9, 2015
EP 0018 - Anxiety and Depersonalization
Depersonalization is one of the most disturbing and hard to grasp anxiety symptoms. If you're dealing with panic disorder, generalized anxiety disorder or agoraphobia it really is just another anxiety symptom and we should deal with it like we deal with every other symptom. Let's look at what it is, why it happens, and how to engage in "active nothingness" to deal with it effectively. My Links https://theanxioustruth.com/links Intro/Outro Music:  "Afterglow" by The Ben Drake Collective.  Used with permission.  Find Ben Drake on Facebook or at bendrakemusic.com.
19:42
July 16, 2015
EP 0017 - Anxiety and Derealization
The dissociative states - derealization and depersonalization - are possibly the most common yet misunderstood and under-discussed anxiety symptoms. For many, they’re the most difficult symptoms to fully accept and not fear. My Links https://theanxioustruth.com/links Intro/Outro Music:  "Afterglow" by The Ben Drake Collective.  Used with permission.  Find Ben Drake on Facebook or at bendrakemusic.com.
20:53
May 16, 2015
EP 0016 - Overcoming Anxiety: Don’t Be A Paper Tiger
Confidence is essential when overcoming anxiety disorders but false confidence doesn't really help. Learn to walk the walk if you're gonna talk the talk! My Links https://theanxioustruth.com/links Intro/Outro Music:  "Afterglow" by The Ben Drake Collective.  Used with permission.  Find Ben Drake on Facebook or at bendrakemusic.com.
13:53
May 10, 2015
EP 0015 - Overcoming Anxiety: Do The Opposite
Overcoming anxiety disorders often means doing the opposite of what your instincts are telling you to do. This is a challenge, but you can do it if you try. My Links https://theanxioustruth.com/links Intro/Outro Music:  "Afterglow" by The Ben Drake Collective.  Used with permission.  Find Ben Drake on Facebook or at bendrakemusic.com.
18:10
May 3, 2015
EP 0014 - Overcoming Anxiety Disorders – The Long And Winding Road
The path to overcoming anxiety disorders can be winding and unpredictable. Knowing what to expect and how to judge progress makes the process a bit easier. My Links https://theanxioustruth.com/links Intro/Outro Music:  "Afterglow" by The Ben Drake Collective.  Used with permission.  Find Ben Drake on Facebook or at bendrakemusic.com.
18:35
April 26, 2015
EP 0013 - Common Exposure Therapy Mistakes and Misconceptions
While many dealing with panic and anxiety have had success with exposure therapy, some call it ineffective. Often this is due to simple mistakes and misconceptions. My Links https://theanxioustruth.com/links Intro/Outro Music:  "Afterglow" by The Ben Drake Collective.  Used with permission.  Find Ben Drake on Facebook or at bendrakemusic.com.
19:41
April 19, 2015
EP 0012 - Why Is EVERYTHING A Panic Trigger?
For people dealing with panic disorder and agoraphobia, a common complaint is that virtually anything can be a panic trigger. There's a reason for that. My Links https://theanxioustruth.com/links Intro/Outro Music:  "Afterglow" by The Ben Drake Collective.  Used with permission.  Find Ben Drake on Facebook or at bendrakemusic.com.
17:43
April 12, 2015
EP 0011 - Overcoming Anxiety: The ACTIVE Process
Recovery from anxiety, panic and agoraphobia is an ACTIVE process. Nothing will improve if you just wait passively, so lets go! My Links https://theanxioustruth.com/links Intro/Outro Music:  "Afterglow" by The Ben Drake Collective.  Used with permission.  Find Ben Drake on Facebook or at bendrakemusic.com.
17:12
April 3, 2015
EP 0010 - Anxiety Disorders and Relationships
Understanding how our anxiety disorders impact our relationships and knowing what steps we can take to address that can help improve our situation. My Links https://theanxioustruth.com/links Intro/Outro Music:  "Afterglow" by The Ben Drake Collective.  Used with permission.  Find Ben Drake on Facebook or at bendrakemusic.com.
23:01
March 22, 2015
EP 0009 - Just The Facts Please
Facing your fear without fighting or fleeing is a skill that requires practice. Before we get started, we have to get into an objective frame of mind. Learning to assess your physical and mental state objectively - sticking only to the facts without adding judgement, interpretation, inference or prediction - is vital to the success of your recovery efforts. Lets look at what this means. My Links https://theanxioustruth.com/links Intro/Outro Music:  "Afterglow" by The Ben Drake Collective.  Used with permission.  Find Ben Drake on Facebook or at bendrakemusic.com.
18:47
March 15, 2015
EP 0008 - Anxiety & Panic - Check Your Body Language
Your body language is a very strong indicator of how you're reacting to your anxiety symptoms.  Since our goal is to learn to be non-reactive and not fuel the fear cycle, its really helpful to be aware of your body language.  Knowing your rituals and tics and physical habits can help you see how you're adding fuel to the fire.  Once you become aware of your anxiety-related body language, you can start the work of extinguishing all these little things so your brain can learn that they've never been needed to keep you safe. I talk about the use of video as a tool here.  I suggest that everyone video themselves at least a few times during periods of high anxiety and panic, even if nobody ever sees the video but you.  The value as a self-teaching tool is enormous. My Links https://theanxioustruth.com/links Intro/Outro Music:  "Afterglow" by The Ben Drake Collective.  Used with permission.  Find Ben Drake on Facebook or at bendrakemusic.com.
16:59
March 15, 2015
EP 0007 - Lets Make An Anxiety Recovery Plan
Lets make an anxiety, panic and agoraphobia recovery plan. We'll lay out five general strategy points, then we'll put a broad action plan in place. My Links https://theanxioustruth.com/links Intro/Outro Music:  "Afterglow" by The Ben Drake Collective.  Used with permission.  Find Ben Drake on Facebook or at bendrakemusic.com.
21:56
March 8, 2015
EP 0006 - How Panic Attacks Become Panic Disorder
Panic disorder and panic attacks are related but different. How do panic attacks become panic disorder? Here's a hint: Its more cognitive than physical! My Links https://theanxioustruth.com/links Intro/Outro Music:  "Afterglow" by The Ben Drake Collective.  Used with permission.  Find Ben Drake on Facebook or at bendrakemusic.com.
17:21
March 1, 2015
EP 0005 – Tips on Therapy for Anxiety Disorders
Therapy for anxiety disorders is a not a generic thing. There are different types of therapies and not all are equal when it comes to anxiety disorders. There's a difference between a psychiatrist and a psychologist. Understand this before choosing a therapist. There are several common types of therapy. Each is different, and not all are effective therapies for anxiety disorders. Behavioral therapy is shown by a large body of research to be the most effective therapy for anxiety disorders. When looking for a therapist, there are some key things to look for and important questions to ask. Get to know a potential therapist before hiring him or her. My Links https://theanxioustruth.com/links Intro/Outro Music:  "Afterglow" by The Ben Drake Collective.  Used with permission.  Find Ben Drake on Facebook or at bendrakemusic.com.
14:49
February 23, 2015
EP 0004 – The Power of Memory
Memory has the power to trigger anxiety symptoms and sensations. Understanding this powerful process can go a long way toward helping you make forward progress even when you think you’re going backward.  Lets talk about how to recognize when your memory is triggering anxiety issues and what to do when that happens. My Links https://theanxioustruth.com/links Intro/Outro Music:  "Afterglow" by The Ben Drake Collective.  Used with permission.  Find Ben Drake on Facebook or at bendrakemusic.com.   Intro/Ending Music Credit: Title Autumn Day (Kevin MacLeod – incompetech.com) Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 3.0 
14:47
February 20, 2015
EP 0003 – Courage
Overcoming anxiety, panic and agoraphobia starts with the courage to face your fears. In this episode we talk about courage, why its so important, and how you can find it inside you.  You were born with all the courage you need to overcome your anxiety issues.  Lets talk about it! My Links https://theanxioustruth.com/links Intro/Outro Music:  "Afterglow" by The Ben Drake Collective.  Used with permission.  Find Ben Drake on Facebook or at bendrakemusic.com. Intro/Ending Music Credit: Title Autumn Day (Kevin MacLeod – incompetech.com) Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 3.0 
09:02
March 3, 2014
EP 0002 – Its Really NOT Okay
Overcoming anxiety, panic and agoraphobia requires the motivation to be active in your recovery. In this episode we’ll look at how the motivation to begin your recovery derives from personal responsibility and accepting that giving in to your fears is really not okay. A bit of a controversial view on things, but worth checking out, so give it a listen. My Links https://theanxioustruth.com/links Intro/Outro Music:  "Afterglow" by The Ben Drake Collective.  Used with permission.  Find Ben Drake on Facebook or at bendrakemusic.com. Intro/Ending Music Credit: Title Autumn Day (Kevin MacLeod – incompetech.com) Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 3.0 
10:07
February 28, 2014
EP 0001 – Anxiety Is Physical. Anxiety Disorders Are Cognitive.
In this episode we’ll look at the difference between the physical nature of anxiety and the mental/cognitive nature of anxiety disorders. Understanding this concept and incorporating it into your approach to anxiety is an important step toward improvement. Suggestions are given on how to change your focus and how to start identifying the reactions to anxiety that are the true problem. My Links https://theanxioustruth.com/links Intro/Outro Music:  "Afterglow" by The Ben Drake Collective.  Used with permission.  Find Ben Drake on Facebook or at bendrakemusic.com. Intro/Ending Music Credit: Title Autumn Day (Kevin MacLeod – incompetech.com) Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 3.0 
11:14
February 27, 2014