The Boss Bitch Show Podcast

Kirsten & Rachel talk to retired pro-dominatrix, now aesthetician & comedian, Madame Namio. She opens up about overcoming abuse and sexual assault through a healing domination performance art piece that led her to become a professional dominatrix. They discuss the possible dangers but also the healing capabilities of BDSM. Namio shares how her foundation of boundaries, communication, and consent from sex work has informed her practice as an aesthetician specializing in sugar waxing. She also shares the horrors of being a server at a high-end NYC hotel and how it led her to stand-up comedy career.

Rachel and Kirsten talk to adult film GODDESS, Arabelle Raphael. She shares about the Boss Bitch life she created for herself through a myriad of sex work and breaking into the industry as a heavily-tattooed, curvy, mixed-race Middle Eastern Jew (aka SUPER HOT). They dissect the umbrella term of sex work, and what boundaries mean for the safety and risks of sex workers. Of course, they ask about Arabelle's funniest stories from set, what kind of porn she likes to watch (think The Little Mermaid Rated XXX), and about playing MILFS (and loving it)! The juicy conversation continues as they discuss the silliness of sex, sex with young men, Arabelle's experiences with some of Rachel's favorite stars, romantic relationships while working in the industry, and the pleasures of being a SLUT. 

Rachel and Kirsten talk to Ian Goldstein, musical comedian and producer of The Autoimmune Saloon, a comedy variety show about chronic illness. Ian opens up about his Crohn's disease and the batsh*t things people say to him. They discuss the dangers of TikTok doctors, and the joys/horrors of colonoscopies, LEEP procedures, and colonics. Ian shares about his split from keeping Kosher and Orthodox Judaism, and Rachel shares about her Birthright trip and almost choice to be Orthodox. The three also discuss holistic medicine, the mind-body connection and the possible links between intergenerational trauma and chronic illness, and have a good laugh about the bs of ancestry tests. Ian tells us about his apartment show meet-cute with his literal clown girlfriend. 

The OG Boss Bitrches dish on dating - from Facebook Dating, XXX GIFs, sexting and equal opportunity f*ckers to guys that love to tell you how much they love Dave Chappelle (and probably Joe Rogan). Kirsten implores men to dismantle their internalized misogyny and white supremacy, and she admits to some of her own binary thinking after a friend she thought only dated men, posted a hard launch of their girlfriend. Kirsten reminisces about her "feral" days, and they both make plans to grill self-proclaimed doms about their aftercare game. Other topics include Rachel getting oral on her balcony from "The Serbian'' and the "Flossing Fairy" in German Schools. Enjoy the chaos!

Kirsten and Rachel talk to Rev. Wendy Van Allen -- priestess, counselor, and author of her new book, "Relighting the Cauldron: Embracing Nature Spirituality in Our Modern World." Wendy talks about her lifelong practice of witchcraft and how self-healing contributes to the healing of our planet. She shares her interfaith approach to counseling and the different indigenous and pagan traditions that have influenced her practice. In a new segment, "Bitch or Boss Bitch" Rachel and Kirsten ask Wendy's thoughts on fellow spiritual teacher and 2024 presidential candidate, Marianne Williamson. They go down the rabbit hole of politics discussing anti-LGBTQIA+ legislation, book banning, abortion laws, the f*$&ing state of Florida, and the dangers of proximity to power. Kirsten fangirls over TikTok AGAIN, and the three share their hope in the next generation and the true Age of Aquarius. 

The Boss Bitch Show talks to Maggie Lalley, standup & musical comedy star of Sex Witch The Musical, and its upcoming run at Soho Playhouse! They also discuss therapy (duh), spiritual advisors, and Maggie's fond memory of getting railed in a park by the Harlem Sex Ghost?? The three talk about their writing processes, and all the times they thought they were going to "make it", like when Maggie got recognized on the street for playing a Dutch sex slave. Rachel counts how many people she has peed on and reveals a sexy CityMD story, and Kirsten reminisces about the lovers whose names she forgot. 

In this episode, Kirsten & Rachel attempt to go live on Instagram during the recording (and fail). They discuss everything from dating app disasters, men thinking they're funny (when they're not), the importance of a mental connection and how going to therapy is hot. Current events like the Silicon Valley Bank crash, Angela Bassett at the Oscars, and Rihanna's Super Bowl performance are discussed along with the patriarchy's deep need to control women. Kirsten shares about her latest Tik Tok rabbit hole and her beaver's hibernation until further notice, and they both share about dramatic breakups and their favorite board games!

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Alt titles: "Don't get finger banged in the hot tub at Spa Castle" and "Getting railed up the butt by a strap-on (for a cis white man) is the ultimate act of feminism." Rachel and Kirsten talk to Reid Mihalko -- internationally known sex and relationship geek who helps adults create more self-esteem, self-confidence, and greater health and accountability in their relationships and sex lives. Rachel and Reid talk about their 20-year friendship (and sometimes sex), and how their outlooks on sexual health have been impacted by play parties and the poly community. The three extensively discuss the destigmatization of / how to have safer sex conversations -- Reid and Kirsten even practice having one right on the show! Reid shares his experience and process of being held accountable for causing harm. Rachel and Kirsten commiserate over their struggles with dating app culture and their boundaries around sexual conversations (even though they tell a million sex jokes on stage). And lastly, of note, Kirsten has her ankles in the air for most of the episode.

Rachel and Kirsten chat with Yokasta -- Holistic Health Practitioner, Licensed Massage Therapist, Reiki Practitioner, Interspiritual Minister, and founder of NYC's Kasa Healing. Right out the gate, they take a deep dive into boss bitch terminology and how it can be reclaimed for good or co-opted by capitalism. The three discuss energy, intention and projecting intuition -- through spirituality, shared vibrational experience, sacred geometry, various modalities, and Dr. Emoto's studies on water consciousness. Yokasta presents the inquiries - how do we empower ourselves without disempowering others, and how do we state our needs and boundaries while detaching from the results? The conversation flows into gender expression, the multitudes we embody, not dimming your light, Caroline Myss, nature's higher intelligence... of course Madonna! 

Rachel and Kirsten talk with musical composer, NY Times best-selling author, and mental chiropractor, Daniel Maté. The conversation spans diverse topics including the power of aligning with your intention, the pros and the cons of psychedelics for psychological use, and loving everything you do as an expression of your purpose. Daniel speaks about the importance of who we become in the face of catastrophe, how we create and reflect our inner life (including our wounds) within our relationships, and the gifts and challenges of working and writing books (The Myth of Normal, Hello Again) with his renowned psychologist father Dr. Gabor Maté. They also share a surprising conversation about the ethics and culture around sex work.

Plan B anyone? Sarah Hartshorne - comedian, writer, abortion activist and former model (ANTM Cycle 9), chats with the BBs about her experiences working with Abortion Access Front, new motherhood, and how people (from Evangelicals to mendicants - look it up, I learned something new) treat you differently when you're pregnant / with your newborn. They discuss having a child when you're ready and willing, versus being forced to (by family, spouse, society, etc.). Also mentioned - how Boss Bitches don't always feel like a boss, but acknowledging it is the key, dealing with grief, making amends, having compassion (for ourselves and for those who cause trauma), and how you have to deal with the crap before you get to the gold... aka comedy. TW: sexual assault. 

Rachel and Kirsten talk to Walter Masterson -- comedian, political satirist, and not-journalist about how he infiltrated MAGA rallies, the psychology of creating rapport with indoctrinated right-wingers and how his interviews inadvertently provided damning evidence for the January 6th hearings. They discuss the idea of body counts and why anyone would want to be with a partner who is bad at sex. Walter makes a compelling argument for broke dick and they all ponder the existential question about former partners - were they good in bed or just hot/hung? The three also discuss the tragic followers of misogynistic influencers, the pros/cons of dating app culture vs. meeting people irl, and the modern phenomenon of getting your news from comedians. TW: SA.

Rachel and Kirsten talk to Bridgett Biagi Garratt and Colleen Rosenblum of Hot Flashes & Cool Topics: The voice for women in midlife and beyond, about their monumental podcast that tackles the complex and often ignored conversations around menopause. They discuss the lack of research on women's health and pleasure in a deeply patriarchal medical industry. Bridgett and Colleen share their personal experiences with menopause -- its freedoms, their renewed exploration of purpose, and how sex gets better! Spanning late Gen-X to Millennial, the four connect over their mothers' expectations, and the fallacy that marriage and kids determine your worth and security. They mutually blow each other's minds over vaginal dilators, pussy Fit Bits, gender terminology, sex work, and NAMS (North American Menopause Society) Certified doctors.

Kirsten and Rachel talk to Megan Ixim, aka Ms. Gigggles, about the human right to pleasure, especially through sex, food and self-expression -- no matter who you are or what you look like. Rachel shares about Megan's posing class, the joy of absurdity and spectacle, and the idea that flattering angles are a fallacy. They talk about the misuse of the terms "grooming" and "indoctrination", and the unwillingness to make room for BIPOC spaces. Kirsten shares some cringe memories as a professional dancer, and Rachel shares about playing disturbing characters in musical theater. The conversation moves to current events regarding abortion restrictions, the violence that permeates American culture, and the brave parents and educators that are trying to help the next generation. TW: SA/abortion. 

The BBs talk to the artist formerly known as Jacq The Stripper about reinventing herself, making friends with her darkness, and her one-woman show, “Divorced in Paradise.” Rachel and Jacq reminisce about their former comedy show The Venus Fly Trap, and the three exchange war stories from touring. Jacq shares her thoughts on going from a workaholic to a nomadic monastic phase, fitting her whole life in her car, and her humbling sobriety experiment. Fresh off her trip to LA, Rachel muses on the differences between East and West coast comics and audiences. They also discuss dismantling internalized capitalism, committing to bad ideas, respective inherited beliefs on making money from art, their fantasy day off, simple pleasures, and allowing others to worship you... for money.

Fresh off their White House speaking engagement & Ted Talk, Diana Adams, founder of the Chosen Family Law Center, Inc., discusses their queer activism journey, and how and why they founded their own boutique LGBTQ family law and mediation firm. Diana shares how their personal experience in the polyamorous community helped them create boundaries and have frank conversations to create a healthy work culture.  They also discuss the transformational capacities of comedy, sex work, and law, finding true happiness, and tapping into our witchy ancient ancestry and origins.

Writer, fat activist, and founder of Fat Girls Dance, Cathleen Meredith talks to Kirsten and Rachel about tearing down the stereotypes of fat bodies through the joy of dance, attaching our worth to productivity, Cathleen's strategy for dealing with internet trolls, and inherited conversations around our bodies. They then dive into barriers of classism in art, decolonizing dance, the stories we want to tell today, and the science behind body positivity (psychoneuroimmunology). Why should you buy her upcoming book? This episode will absolutely answer that!

Creator of the Shooters Gotta Shoot Podcast, Erica Spera knows what she wants and goes for it. She chats with us about how being direct doesn't mean being aggressive, how sparks aren't totally necessary, and how "The Rules" are garbage. Erica discusses the importance of stating your needs, (and accepting the response), while Rachel and Kirsten admit they've stayed on bad dates for comedy's sake. Erica talks about love and basketball (aka her dating tactics) and why it's important to remember to just have fun.

Canadian comic and beloved TikTok creator, Sam Sferrazza talks to Kirsten and Rachel about boss bitches vs. boss babes, "guruizing" in the wellness industry, the American halo effect towards Canada, Sam's disdain for crowd work, and Kirsten's weird gig life. Sam also reveals the secret to his ten-year relationship and blesses us with an introduction to his cat, award-winning actress Kirsten Dunst.

We're celebrating episode 10 of the Boss Bitch Show Podcast with a bonus chat with the OG Boss Bitches themselves! Rachel and Kirsten catch up on their recent dating experiences and discuss their first MMF threesomes, kink origins, how the patriarchy can hurt men too, consent, emotional intelligence, and how restraint and restraints ;) make them WET.

TW: SA. The BBs chat with comedian and creator of How Cum Podcast Remy Kassimir about her first orgasm at 28, our "cumming of age" stories, 90s songs about boners, sex education and the female pleasure gap, clit suckers from Target, witchery and manifesturbation, and more!

TW: Sexual Assault. NYC comedian and musician Dylan Adler, chats about reclaiming slurs, the perils of backflips on stage, gendering musical instruments, bombing, rice queens/potato queens/sticky rice, and transmuting trauma into comedy with his show, "Rape Victims Are Horny Too."

Comedian and host of the Oh, Oscar! podcast, Oscar Aydin discusses confidence, staying ageless, GayDHD, VPL (visible penis lines), the semantics of being PC, and an in-depth description of his a$$hole.

NYC burlesque artist extraordinaire, Darlina Just Darlina chats about her path to becoming a performance artist, the gift of mistakes and interruptions, the “sacred clown”, her soon-to-be husband and the exploration of gender and queerness.

Comedian and native New Yorker Calvin S. Cato shares about his long-awaited journey to not having roommates (except for mice), his experience of Pride celebrations in America’s smaller towns, how not to drink sake and the surprising dangers of Gun Oil lube.

Matthew Curiano and Brandon Contreras of queer-themed sketch comedy duo The Homo Sapien Experience discuss the joy of laughing at ourselves, the chaos of being content creators, being besties and business partners, Emotional Freedom Technique (E.F.T.), internalized misogyny, and the two eternal questions: What is success? and Are you even gay if you've never been to Fire Island?

OG queen of comedy podcasting, Chemda of Keith & The Girl opens up about open heart surgery, the self-care of interrupting your mind one minute at a time, swiping through dating apps on acid, animal chiropractics, and both the community and exclusion that religion can provide.

Standup comedian and host of the Manwhore podcast, Billy Procida explores his divine feminine energy, reminisces about sex parties past, and discusses his dream job of coordinating and executing people’s wildest sexual fantasies.

Comedian and host of Hot Mess Comedy Hour Podcast, Andrea Allan laments the woes of having a high-maintenance vagina and opens up about her sobriety, the intersection of feminism and generational trauma, and why we have to stop dating “broke dick.”