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What’s good fam! This week Brandan & Ciandra sit down and discuss the importance of having an airfryer girlfriend and explore some of the initial frustrations of being engaged and planning a wedding. Y'all know what time it is, pull up a seat and let's eat!

What’s good fam! This week we keep it light with talks about potential, the importance of hygiene, and growing and collaborating with your partner through time. Y’all know what time it is. Pull up a seat and let's eat!

What’s good fam! This week Brandan discusses the idea of “push gifts” and other such new milestone celebrations. If women get a “Push” gift, then what are men supposed to get? Brandan discusses a topic from one of their long-time listeners and introduces the idea of a “Seed” gift. An overall pretty cathartic episode. Y’all know what time it is. Pull up a seat and let's eat!

Happy New year fam! Welcome back. We hope y’all had a great holiday with the people you care about. This week Brandan & Ciandra discuss the potential income increase that comes with being married. Additionally, we discuss how expectations impact relationship satisfaction. Y’all know what time it is, pull up a seat and let's eat!

What’s good fam! Welcome back. This week Brandan & Ciandra discuss communication and what constitutes “good” communication. Is your definition the same as your partners? Pull up a seat and let's eat!

What’s good fam! Welcome back for another serving ready to go. This week Brandan & Ciandra discuss navigating opposite gendered friends after getting into a relationship as well as exploring the psychology of men & women when it comes to dating high status people. Let’s get into it so pull up a seat and let's eat!

What’s good everybody, Welcome back for another serving of The Buffet Pod. This week Brandan & Ciandra sit down and talk about family, meeting family after relationship status changes, talking about their expectations about the roles they will play in each other's families and general family dynamic growing up within your family of origin and extended family as well. Y’all know what time it is, pull up a seat and let's eat. 

What’s good fam! We’re glad you came back for another serving of The Buffet Podcast. This week, Brandan & Ciandra discuss relationship maintenance and what relationships past the honeymoon stage look like. What are you willing to put into the maintenance of your relationship to keep it running smoothly? Pull up a seat and let’s eat!

There’s been a lot of talk about first dates, lots of who, what, where, when questions but perhaps we have forgotten the why. What’s your purpose in going out on a date? Y’all know what time it is, pull up a seat and let's eat!

What’s good y’all. Welcome back for another serving of the Buffet Podcast. This Week Brandan & Ciandra drop a surprising development in their relationship. Additionally, they discuss creating a relationship dynamic where we admire and appreciate our partners strengths as well as tolerate our partners weaknesses. We also discuss Ebony K. Williams latest viral clip. It was a great episode so pull up a seat and let's eat!

What’s good everybody. I hope y’all had a good week. This week Brandan & Ciandra discuss episode one of season 5 of “Love is Blind.” Are we allowed to make mistakes and grow from them or should our mistakes determine our lives & the relationships we build? Pull up a seat and let's eat!

What’s good fam! Brandan & Ciandra are back with another serving ready to go. This week they discuss the ideas of forgetting vs forgiveness, bringing old s**t up after it's been resolved, and exploring the relationship attachment model. Interesting stuff. Pull up a seat and let's eat!

What’s good fam! We hope y’all are enjoying the long weekend. This week Brandan & Ciandra discuss what you said vs what was heard, they aren’t always the same things and can cause miscommunication and conflict if not addressed. Pull up a seat and lets eat!

What’s good fam! Welcome back for another serving. This week Brandan & Ciandra discuss birth order vs astrology signs and some things guys should ask before committing to a serious relationship. Y’all know what time it is, Pull up a seat and let's eat!

What’s good everybody. Welcome back to another episode of The Buffet Podcast. This week Brandan & Ciandra discuss friendship and whether we treat our partners like a best friend. How would you define a best friend? What are the characteristics of a best friend for you and does your partner meet them? Y’all know what time it is. Pull up a seat and let's eat!

Welcome back fam! We are back and Ciandra is a year older, feel free to send your well wishes. That being said, can being too nice hurt your chances in dating? Brandan & Ciandra sit down and discuss this as well as celebrating our 100th episode. Y’all know what time it is, pull up a seat and let's eat!

What’s good fam! We got another one for you, ready to go. This week Brandan & Ciandra discuss The pressures to perform (sexually) on men and also explore reasons why communication can be difficult if one or both of you have difficulties expressing frustrations effectively. Y'all know what time it is, pull up a seat and let's eat!

What’s good fam! Another week and another episode ready to go. This week Brandan & Ciandra discuss women shooting their shot at the men they are interested in and also the difficulties in “Boss Women” have in dating and relationships. Y'all know what time it is, pull up a seat and let's eat!

What it do Fam! Another week and another serving ready to go. This week Brandan & Ciandra discuss the fear of losing your partner as well as thoughts on pick-me’s. There’s some other stuff in there too so pull up a seat and let's eat!

What’s good fam! This week Brandan & Ciandra discuss how easy it is to make your partner the enemy with the stories we tell ourselves. Also, there’s some laughs and giggles too. Welcome to The Buffet, let's eat!

What’s good fam. Welcome back, we got another serving ready to go. This week Brandan & Ciandra discuss the idea of 50-50 in relationships. Does it work or even make sense anymore? Additionally, they explore ways to look within and explore our own emotions to better be able to identify, conceptualize, and communicate our thoughts and feelings. Let us know what strategies y’all use to understand how you’re feeling and thinking in the moment. Pull up a seat, let's eat!

What’s good fam. It’s been a couple weeks and we back with another episode for the people. This week Brandan & Ciandra discuss the misconceptions behind transactional relationships and explore the ways we frequently ruminate. Pull up a seat and let's eat!

What’s good everybody. Another episode ready to go. This week Brandan & Ciandra talk about whether believing in soulmates reduces your chances of meeting them as well as whether or not there’s such a thing as “too clingy.” Y’all know what it is, pull up a seat and let's eat!

What’s good everybody. Thanks for pulling up for another serving. This week Brandan & Ciandra discuss the importance of handling your partner's vulnerability as well as the difference between being honest, transparent, and vulnerable. I know! I thought it was kinda the same thing too, but it's not. Pull up a seat and let's eat!

What’s good everybody. Another week and another fix’n from The Buffet. This week Brandan & Ciandra sit down and discuss the health dangers of loneliness and as well as how a man lost his woman because he didn’t want to talk to her for 10-15 min a day.  Pull up a seat and let's eat!

What’s good fam. Welcome back to another week with another serving ready to go for you. This week Brandan & Ciandra discuss the idea of soulmates as well as the difference between spontaneous vs responsive desire. Let us know where yall fall on these topics, do you believe in soulmates? Are you more responsive or spontaneous with your desire? Pull up a seat and let's eat!

What’s good fam! We got another one ready for yall as Brandan & Ciandra discuss how easily we identify our partners' habits as the issue instead of exploring how our own expectations have shaped our responses. Y'all know the deal by now. Pull up a seat and let's eat!

What's good fam, this week Brandan & Ciandra discuss the importance of clapping cheeks and maintaining a healthy cheek clapping routine because it helps maintain intimacy. Also, We reiterate how important it is to choose wisely your life partner. Why? Because the numbers will astound you with how much of your life they will influence. Pull up a seat and let's eat!

What’s good Fam! Another week with the 87th serving of that HOT FIRE! This week we discussed several topics such as the difficulty in men showing vulnerability, women's expectations, and the heavy influence social programming has on building our beliefs and expectations about love and relationships. Pull up a seat and let's eat!

What’s good fam! Another week and another serving.This week we discuss both identifying and resolving problems in a relationship as well as whether or not women are out here acting like men in skirts. Pull up a seat and let's eat!

What’s good fam, this week we get right into it with talking about bare minimums and body counts. It's an interesting conversation to say the least. Pull up a seat and let's eat!

What’s good everybody. This week's serving is about “The soft life.” You may or may not have heard of it but it's trending and we thought we would discuss a little bit about it as there appears to be multiple different versions of the movement that while similar are distinct. Pull up a seat and let's eat!

What’s good everybody. Another week brings another serving at The Buffet. This week Brandan & Ciandra discuss the need we may feel to make changes in our partner. We also talk about how hard it is for men to get an apology out of our women. It’s that time so pull up a seat and let's eat!

What's good everybody, hope ya'll having a good Black History Month. This week Brandan & Ciandra discuss dating for potential. There's been a lot of talk about whether or not you should be dating someone based on their potential. What comes to mind when you think "potential?" What does it mean? what does it look like? It's an interesting topic so lets get into it. Let's eat!

What's good fam, another week and another serving. This week we discuss elders' advice and the importance of taking personal accountability. That latter seems to be harder to take than the former though. Y'all know what time it is, pull up a seat and let's eat!

What’s good fam! Another week and another serving ready to go. This week we talk about the changes and challenges of moving in with your boo. It’s different and can require the development of new skills within the relationship. Y’all know what time it is, pull up a seat and let's eat!

Welcome back everybody, we got another serving ready to go. This week we talk about our FLOTUS Mrs. Michelle Obama and her worry that we all give up too soon when it comes to relationships. Does it seem like nobody is trynna do the work? Are they just in it for the easy times? What do y'all think? Pull up a seat and let's eat!

What’s good family! Happy New Year and  long time no see. We been gone for a while but we back with another serving of the buffet. This week we discuss the giving and receiving of affection. Are you a giver or receiver? It's been a lil while but I’m sure y’all remember how it goes. Pull up a seat and let's eat!

What’s good Fam, We back after a lil break with another serving. This week Brandan & Ciandra discuss some ways that you can handle conflict in a relationship. There's managing conflict and there's resolving conflict and how you navigate this process can make or break a relationship. Conflict is Inevitable, but it doesn’t have to be life or death. Y’all know what time it is, pull up a seat and let's eat!

What’s good fam, welcome back for another serving. This week Brandan & Ciandra have a whole convo based on the statement: “50/50 (in a relationship) is a roommate.” This leads to discussions on the meaning of “provide and protect” and how the emphasis on toxicity as well as the under-appreciation for the “solid” and “boring” man will lead to a Darwin moment for relationships. Y’all know what time it is, pull up a seat and let's eat!

What’s good y'all, we're back at it again for another serving. This week Brandan & Ciandra sit down and discuss the ways in which our family of origin can impact our beliefs and actions in dating & relationships. Can you identify any habits or behaviors you picked up while growing up with your family? Does it serve you and the relationship you want to have? You know what time it is, grab a plate and let's eat!

What’s poppin fam! Thanks for pulling up to The Buffet for another serving. This week Brandan & Ciandra discuss common issues in communicating needs in relationships and some of our rules when participating in the yearly Cuffin Season Games.  Y'all know what time it is, pull up a seat and let's eat.

What’s good fam, welcome back to another serving of the Buffet Podcast. This week Brandan & Ciandra discuss gender roles. Do you subscribe to gender roles? What do they look like? Is it the same for everyone? Are they useful or are we just making things more complicated than they need to be? Grab a plate and let's eat!

What’s good fam, welcome back to another serving of the Buffet Podcast. This week Brandan & Ciandra discuss romance: What does it mean? What does it look like? Does it look the same for everyone? Grab a plate and let's eat!

Quiz link: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/tests/relationships/hopeless-romantic-test

What’s good Fam, welcome back for another serving. There’s been a lot of talk in the ether about Men’s vulnerability, so this week Brandan & Ciandra discuss the importance of emotional vulnerability, specifically a man's ability and willingness to be vulnerable with his partner. You already know what it is, grab a plate and let's eat!

What’s good fam! If you broke just say that! It’s kinda funny but also a lot true. This week Brandan & Ciandra sit down and discuss how, when, and why it's important to discuss finances in a relationship. Pull up a seat and let's eat.

Welcome back fam! We got another serving ready for you this week. Brandan & Ciandra discuss defining a relationship and the ways our difficulty doing so gets us hurt, angry, and confused. There have been many ways to describe a relationship but only ONE way to really define it. Let’s eat!

Article: https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/types-of-relationships

What’s good fam. We back at it in the kitchen cooking up again. This week Brandan & Ciandra discuss a clip from WeNeedToTalk about divestment and interracial dating. Are there benefits to it? Is it all bad? WTF is the divestment movement? These questions and more on this week's episode. Y'all already know what time it is, Let’s eat!