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Is this Love?

Is this Love?

By Joanne Wilson

Join Relationships Specialist and Neuropsychotherapist as we proactively approach relationships for they are a quintessential and unavoidable part of life. Join me in gaining researched strategies on enjoying great ones! They’re proven to provide you greater, health, happiness and even longevity! It’s worth it....
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Episode 52. When you can't confide in your partner and trust is lost

Is this Love? Mar 17, 2021

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 Episode 74: Boundaries breached, hearts shattered: #10 of the Top 10 Worst Relationship Mistakes

Episode 74: Boundaries breached, hearts shattered: #10 of the Top 10 Worst Relationship Mistakes

Crossing the boundaries into infidelity is like tiptoeing over a minefield, as it can detonate a relationship's foundation and unleash a cascade of harmful effects that not only impact both people’s health but adversely affects generations. Sadly, I observe the profound effects each day in the counselling room.
Here's the ultimate chapter in my ongoing series on the Top 10 Relationship Blunders I've been crafting over recent years.. I’ve tapped fingers to keyboard on this topic a few times before, particularly at this time of year as we’re about to head into the silly season and it deserves a big mention in this series.
People are worn down, stressed out and let their guard down. I always receive plenty of grim feedback that it’s all too relevant and timely. So, I’m here to remind us that in a world of the “quick fix”, and as thrilling as these clandestine transgressions seem at the time, infidelity is a mistake fraught with consequences, and the harmful effects on both you and your partner's health can be profound and long-lasting.
Why do people still tread amongst these minefields still today?  Listen to the three main reasons I observe most often. Reach out to a professional therapist if you're struggling in this area. You can read more on my previous articles on this topic 
HERE.
Joanne Wilson is the Relationship Rejuvenator and author of Renovate Your Relationship – All The DIY Tools For Your Most Important Project ($29.99). She is a neuropsychotherapist inspiring the community for thriving and dynamic relationships that impact generations for mental well-being. Find out more about her online courses at www.relationshiprejuvenator.com 
Stuck for ideas? Purchase Jo's  Intimacy Inspirations Card Deck on sale for Spring.
Help me decode the mystery of your inner desires and take my survey for free.
Read this entire Top 10 Worst Relationship Mistakes series here.


Oct 24, 202306:34
Episode 73: #9 of the Top 10 Worst Relationship mistakes: When Intimacy Takes the Backseat

Episode 73: #9 of the Top 10 Worst Relationship mistakes: When Intimacy Takes the Backseat

Physical intimacy - the source of so much joy and frustration for many couples. Will you relate as I highlight the common experiences as noticed in the counselling room? Listen all the way through for helpful tips on what you can do.
Sep 24, 202305:36
Episode 72: #8 of the Top 10 Worst Relationship Mistakes: An alcohol or porn addiction is undermining your connection
Mar 21, 202306:58
Episode 71: #7 of the Top 10 Worst Relationship Mistakes: You've overlooked the pandemic's psychological scars
Feb 08, 202303:29
Episode 70: #6 of the Top 10 Worst Relationship Mistakes: Your relationship is at the bottom of your list
May 23, 202203:53
Episode 69: How's your Valentine's Year going?
Mar 23, 202208:31
Episode 68: #5 of the Top 10 Worst Relationship Mistakes: The common denominator in conflict
Dec 20, 202107:23
Episode 67: #4 of the Top 10 Worst Relationship Mistakes: Jealousy is a curse
Oct 25, 202104:24
Episode 66: Your communication lacks meaning #3 of the Top 10 Worst Relationship Mistakes
Aug 30, 202107:02
Episode 65: When you allow your partner’s past to be your present #2 of the Top 10 Worst Relationship Mistakes
Aug 16, 202106:51
Episode 64: #1 of the Top 10 Worst Relationship Mistakes

Episode 64: #1 of the Top 10 Worst Relationship Mistakes

Welcome to the “Top 10 Worst Relationship Mistakes” series as noticed in the counselling room. You are welcome to enjoy this also from personal experience as a married relationship therapist who is living and breathing the wondrous relationship reality!

Check out this series on my Instagram TV channel and on Facebook Live.

Joanne Wilson is the Relationship Rejuvenator and author of Renovate Your Relationship – All The DIY Tools For Your Most Important Project ($29.99). She is a neuropsychotherapist inspiring the community for thriving and dynamic relationships that impact generations for mental well-being. Find out more at 
www.relationshiprejuvenator.com

Jul 30, 202104:02
Episode 22. Found yourself caught in the twin vanities and the QPL? with Dr Hugh Mackay

Episode 22. Found yourself caught in the twin vanities and the QPL? with Dr Hugh Mackay

Our interview with the incredible Dr Hugh Mackay and his fascinating acronym of the QPL! What an honour to share his insight and I know you'll note his findings make perfect sense!


Hugh Mackay is a social researcher and bestselling author of 19 books, including

The Good Life, The Art of Belonging and his latest: Australia Reimagined.

He has had a 60-year career in social research, and was also a weekly newspaper

columnist for over 25 years. Among many honorary appointments, he has been

deputy chairman of the Australia Council for the Arts, chairman of trustees of Sydney

Grammar School, the inaugural chairman of the ACT government’s Community

Inclusion Board and an honorary professor at Macquarie, Wollongong and Charles

Sturt universities. He is currently a patron of the Asylum Seekers Centre

Hugh is a Fellow of the Australian Psychological Society and of the Royal Society of

NSW. In recognition of his pioneering work in social research, he has been awarded

honorary doctorates by Charles Sturt, Macquarie, NSW, Western Sydney and

Wollongong universities. He was appointed an Officer of the Order of Australia in

2015.

Jul 02, 202122:13
Episode 30. What does a Leap Year have to do with Intimacy?

Episode 30. What does a Leap Year have to do with Intimacy?

As it turns out - quite a lot! 

Find out why in this article as part of my "Inhibitors to Intimacy" series.

- Check out my weekly column in the @sunshinecoastdaily Weekend Mag or on my Blog https://www.theconfidantecounselling.com/blog.

- Tune in to radio Salt 106.5 https://salt1065.com/ each Friday morning for my co-host with Kristian on the morning Wakeup

- Enjoy FREE relationship resources at www.relationshiprejuvenator.com

Jul 02, 202104:17
Episode 31. Naked to the soul

Episode 31. Naked to the soul

It's a wrap for my Inhibitors to Intimacy series with this beautiful term, Naked to the Soul". It blends beautifully with explaining one of those main blocks to the love your crave and deserve.

With special thanks to Peter Janetzki for his expertise on this.

Read this article as part of my "Inhibitors to Intimacy" series HERE.

- Check out my weekly column in the @sunshinecoastdaily Weekend Mag or this areas on my Blog https://www.theconfidantecounselling.com/blog.

- Tune in to radio Salt 106.5 https://salt1065.com/ each Friday morning for my co-host with Kristian on the morning Wakeup

- Enjoy FREE relationship resources at www.relationshiprejuvenator.com

Jul 02, 202104:21
Episode 32. Signs you’ve lost yourself in your relationship

Episode 32. Signs you’ve lost yourself in your relationship

In these unprecedented times of a pandemic with terrifying updates bombarded so easily accessible to our hand-held devices at lightning speed. More than ever do we need to count on others for a sense of safety - especially for those in a relationship who want the safety their connection can bring.

There's been no better time to evaluate the health of your relationship as we practise social distancing is encouraged social isolation for some.

Great relationships feature a healthy sense of self, independence and interdependence. This means you have flexibility, reciprocity without controlling behaviours. It can be a delicate balance that may have you relying on or conforming to your partner too much, leaving you without purpose or direction. Alternatively, too much independence can leave you living like flatmates, with little support and no chance of attaining joint goals. Listen in to find out the signs you're losing yourself in your relationships.

- Check out my weekly column in the @sunshinecoastdaily Weekend Mag or this areas on my Blog https://www.theconfidantecounselling.com/blog.

- Tune in to radio Salt 106.5 https://salt1065.com/ each Friday morning for my co-host with Kristian on the morning Wakeup

- Enjoy FREE relationship resources at www.relationshiprejuvenator.com

Jul 02, 202105:52
Episode 33. Stockpiling Relationship Solutions during a Pandemic - Part One

Episode 33. Stockpiling Relationship Solutions during a Pandemic - Part One

Tune in to the first of my new series, "Stockpiling Relationship Solutions".

How do you cope with the unknown? What behaviours do those of you in a relationship find your partner exhibit when fearful? Do you have a child who surprises you with bizarre and unsettling responses to change or feeling scared?

In these unprecedented times of a pandemic with terrifying updates bombarded so easily accessible to our hand-held devices at lightning speed, we can be shocked by other’s response to fear. 

DOWNLOAD MY NEW FREE WORKBOOK from www.relationshiprejuvenator.com GREAT IDEAS TO STOCKPILE SOLUTIONS FOR SUPER MENTAL HEALTH
How to protect your mental and physical health during the pandemic + awesome activities to stay sane!

Your sensible and simple guide to support you and anyone in your household throughout recommended physical distancing.  It is completely FREE and my gift to you featuring:
- a personalised go-to guide to contemplate the best approach for you - just fill in the blanks!
- the importance of a sensible approach for the best advantage for a healthy immune system
- 13 key concepts to consider when physically distanced from others
- ways to inspire yourself to connect and thrive
- an array of activities to ensure you continue to feel hopeful and well.

Jul 02, 202105:50
Episode 34. Stockpiling Relationship Solutions During the Pandemic Part Two - How To Cope with My Partner and Family during Social Distancing

Episode 34. Stockpiling Relationship Solutions During the Pandemic Part Two - How To Cope with My Partner and Family during Social Distancing

The majority of everything has been cancelled. Many people are so unwell, there's anxiousness from worry and we've been instructed to isolate ourselves - the only way to stop the spread. You've therefore been relieved of the hectic child taxi service. You can't go to the gym, footy club or whatever your “thing”, is closed until further notice - there’s nothing on and finances might be tight. The sound of crickets are chirping except for the tap of your keyboard or phone, working from home.

You turn around to see someone who seems rather nice working nearby on their PC at your kitchen bench who says their you’re spouse! How about that? It’s involuntary reconnection time.  Enjoy this episode with simple tips and strategies to keep you sane!

DOWNLOAD MY NEW FREE WORKBOOK from www.relationshiprejuvenator.com
GREAT IDEAS TO STOCKPILE SOLUTIONS FOR SUPER MENTAL HEALTH How to protect your mental and physical health during the pandemic + awesome activities to stay sane!
Your sensible and simple guide to support you and anyone in your household throughout recommended physical distancing.  It is completely FREE and my gift to you featuring: - a personalised go-to guide to contemplate the best approach for you - just fill in the blanks! - the importance of a sensible approach for the best advantage for a healthy immune system - 13 key concepts to consider when physically distanced from others - ways to inspire yourself to connect and thrive - an array of activities to ensure you continue to feel hopeful and well.
Jul 02, 202107:09
Episode 35. Stockpiling Relationship Resources Part 3 - The Power of Touch, Fur and Feathers
Jul 02, 202106:28
Episode 36. Physical Distancing and Cyber Boundaries
Jul 02, 202104:59
Episode 37. Physical Distancing and Pornography
Jul 02, 202104:29
Episode 38. The one word that can save relationships.

Episode 38. The one word that can save relationships.

"I haven't spoken to the mother-in-law for six months now ... apparently, it's rude to interrupt.” chuckled one of my clients recently.

The focus is mothers-in-law as we contemplate Mother’s Day on 10 May in case you need to prepare!

Not just the outlaws but extended family and friends, too and  I’m quite sure there are a few relieved people that have found social distancing quite beneficial? Starry-eyed romantics are often caught unaware after slipping into the love vortex. Clarity is skewed, thanks to oxytocin: the love neurochemical that helps us pair up. Many seal their commitment with a kiss and a ring, only to realise down the marital track there's a whole new group of influencers behind their beloved. Let’s assume that any one unlike yourself is just well, weird. Those people who may stray from your ideals, values and behaviours are aliens. Your in-laws will often fall into this category. Your partner’s nuances and behaviours are super cute at the start. When a few of those start to grind on you, there’s that shocking revelation! With utter dismay, you realise there’s a couple on a planet where they learnt them from who are frighteningly way too similar. You exclaimed, “You’re just like your mother (or father)!” How did that go down? I know. Not so well.

Joanne Wilson is a neuropsychotherapist, relationship specialist, workshop facilitator and guest speaker. Tune into radio Salt106.5 each Friday morning for her co-host of the Morning Wakeup discussing her weekly newspaper column in the Sunshine Coast Daily.  Download your FREE relationship resources at www.relationshiprejuvenator.com

Jul 02, 202107:20
Episode 39. Winter Intimacy Revival Techniques
Jul 02, 202106:32
Episode 63: When intimacy wanes - Part 2
Jul 01, 202108:24
Episode 62: When intimacy wanes - Part One
Jun 17, 202104:20
Episode 61: How can I ever trust my partner again?
May 31, 202108:22
Episode 60: The torment when you and your partner have a vastly different work ethic

Episode 60: The torment when you and your partner have a vastly different work ethic

Are you married to “Lazy bones, “Good-for-nothing Gladys” or “Layabout Larry”?

These are just a few of the terms (I’ve omitted the worse ones) often to describe spouses in the counselling room.

On one hand, it is so great to have that friend who is so laid back, you need a spot fire to to rouse them into action.  They are just so chilled out, so mellow, it is enviable. 

On the other hand, being married to that person can be a different thing. This person could be termed as “enough oriented”. That’s right. They are living in the moment doing just enough to get by and often, less than enough.

Compare this with your frenzied lover who is frantically hurtling themselves through every day, planning this, over-achieving that and find it abhorrent to sit down. These people could be termed “more-oriented”. They don’t just live in the moment but continually planning for the future - and beyond!

How about some in between? Tune in as I discuss Jill and John's challenge on this topic and how they went from diverse orientations to thriving and connection!

Join me in my next Relationship 10 Day Challenge to commence re-engineering your approach to communication and conflict. It doesn’t require two people - so watch this space!

Don’t forget to diarise my 
Facebook Lives each Therapeutic Thursday morning for Thriving Relationships to inject some relational inspirations into your weekend!

Joanne Wilson is the Relationship Rejuvenator and author of Renovate Your Relationship – All The DIY Tools For Your Most Important Project ($29.99). She is a neuropsychotherapist inspiring the community for thriving and dynamic relationships that impact generations for mental well-being. Find out more at www.relationshiprejuvenator.com

May 26, 202107:02
Episode 59: When your partner undermines you with friends or family

Episode 59: When your partner undermines you with friends or family

When your partner undermines you with friends and family. Listen in for examples of when this common snag occurs and what you can do about it.

Don’t forget to diarise my Facebook Lives each Therapeutic Thursday morning for Thriving Relationships to inject some relational inspirations into your weekend!    

Joanne Wilson is the Relationship Rejuvenator and author of Renovate Your Relationship – All The DIY Tools For Your Most Important Project ($29.99). She is a neuropsychotherapist inspiring the community for thriving and dynamic relationships that impact generations for mental well-being. Waitlist for the next intake of her  Relationship Rejuvenator Online Mini-Courses at  www.relationshiprejuvenator.com ​

May 13, 202104:50
Episode 58: The humiliation when your partner puts you down in front of others
May 07, 202107:02
Episode 57: A lonely relationship features the inability to share our fears and faults

Episode 57: A lonely relationship features the inability to share our fears and faults

Listen in to how Leonie and Bruce came to enjoying transparency and lifting the burden of hiding aspects of themselves for true intimacy. Hear about the common topics we hide in our relationship and one major point not to overlook at the end!

Don’t forget to diarise my Facebook Lives each Therapeutic Thursday morning for Thriving Relationships to inject some relational inspirations into your weekend!

Joanne Wilson is the Relationship Rejuvenator and author of Renovate Your Relationship – All The DIY Tools For Your Most Important Project ($29.99). She is a neuropsychotherapist inspiring the community for thriving and dynamic relationships that impact generations for mental well-being. Find out more at www.relationshiprejuvenator.com ​

Apr 28, 202106:04
Episode 56: Why won't my partner cuddle me?

Episode 56: Why won't my partner cuddle me?

Deep love is when your spouse expresses affection how you long for it and not what they need - Joanne Wilson

Freida would arrive each fortnight for her relationship counselling session with Fred and repeatedly complain how much longed for him to welcome her home with a warm embrace. He repeatedly seemed to ignore these requests.


She had given up on seeking affection in the way she truly longed for it.


In fact, Freida would appreciate ANY gentle caress of her hair and long for him to initiate cosy snuggles on the couch after dinner in the evening.


As it turns out, Fred was super uncomfortable with this because he never experienced this from his parents. They were the supportive kind, attended all his sporting events, would encourage him and applaud his academic achievements - but just not the touchy feely type of folk.


Understandably, the whole touchy feely stuff outside the bedroom was a foreign and weird concept he just didnt' get. Fred would rather get busy supporting Freida around the yard and helping with the kid's sporting events.


Listen in to what was really going on and what we did....


Don’t forget to diarise my Facebook Lives each Therapeutic Thursday morning for Thriving Relationships to inject some relational inspirations into your weekend!

Joanne Wilson is the Relationship Rejuvenator and author of Renovate Your Relationship – All The DIY Tools For Your Most Important Project ($29.99). She is a neuropsychotherapist inspiring the community for thriving and dynamic relationships that impact generations for mental well-being. Find out more at www.relationshiprejuvenator.com

Apr 21, 202106:14
Episode 55: Where to start when your conflict results in days of silence and isolation

Episode 55: Where to start when your conflict results in days of silence and isolation

Feeling trapped in isolation and loneliness from days of conflict is exhausting. Here's where to start...

Don’t forget to diarise my Facebook Lives each Therapeutic Thursday morning for Thriving Relationships to inject some relational inspirations into your weekend!

Joanne Wilson is the Relationship Rejuvenator and author of Renovate Your Relationship – All The DIY Tools For Your Most Important Project ($29.99). She is a neuropsychotherapist inspiring the community for thriving and dynamic relationships that impact generations for mental well-being. Find out more at www.relationshiprejuvenator.com

Apr 15, 202106:56
Episode 54: Lack of united goals and dreams = lack of emotional security

Episode 54: Lack of united goals and dreams = lack of emotional security

One of those main things that fuels disconnection and loneliness in relationships is the lack of continual alignment and checking in where you're headed. There is no emotional safety when you don't have united goals or dreams.

Join me as I discuss Jan and Phil and what we did about their situation to haul them rapidly back toward a loving, intimate connection. 

Don’t forget to diarise my Facebook Lives each Therapeutic Thursday morning for Thriving Relationships to inject some relational inspirations into your weekend!

Joanne Wilson is the Relationship Rejuvenator and author of Renovate Your Relationship – All The DIY Tools For Your Most Important Project ($29.99). She is a neuropsychotherapist inspiring the community for thriving and dynamic relationships that impact generations for mental well-being. Find out more at www.relationshiprejuvenator.com

Apr 07, 202108:34
Episode 53: Your relationship is not right when you can't enjoy being accepted as your true self.

Episode 53: Your relationship is not right when you can't enjoy being accepted as your true self.

What to do when your relationship makes you feel a lot less than the best version of you.

Don’t forget to diarise my Facebook Lives each Therapeutic Thursday morning for Thriving Relationships to inject some relational inspirations into your weekend!

Joanne Wilson is the Relationship Rejuvenator and author of Renovate Your Relationship – All The DIY Tools For Your Most Important Project ($29.99). She is a neuropsychotherapist inspiring the community for thriving and dynamic relationships that impact generations for mental well-being. Find out more at www.relationshiprejuvenator.com


Mar 24, 202106:03
Episode 52. When you can't confide in your partner and trust is lost

Episode 52. When you can't confide in your partner and trust is lost

Don’t forget to diarise my Facebook Lives each Therapeutic Thursday morning for Thriving Relationships to inject some relational inspirations into your weekend!

Joanne Wilson is the Relationship Rejuvenator and author of Renovate Your Relationship – All The DIY Tools For Your Most Important Project ($29.99). She is a neuropsychotherapist inspiring the community for thriving and dynamic relationships that impact generations for mental well-being. Find out more at www.relationshiprejuvenator.com

Mar 17, 202104:06
Episode 51. When you don't receive the support you need in your relationship....

Episode 51. When you don't receive the support you need in your relationship....

Remember when you and your partner spent hours talking into the wee hours with adoring eye contact?  You started out strong!   Fast forward>>> a few years later and you become passing ships in the night. Add children in between those ships and those noisy, demanding little foghorns become the priority as you navigate parenthood and the rest of life’s big dippers. Enjoy my ideas on how to receive the meaningful support you need in your relationship. Don’t forget to diarise my Facebook Lives each Therapeutic Thursday morning for Thriving Relationships to inject some relational inspirations into your weekend! Joanne Wilson is the Relationship Rejuvenator and author of Renovate Your Relationship – All The DIY Tools For Your Most Important Project ($29.99). She is a neuropsychotherapist inspiring the community for thriving and dynamic relationships that impact generations for mental well-being. Find out more at www.relationshiprejuvenator.com
Mar 17, 202104:51
Episode 50. When your relationship has you feeling emotionally unsafe.
Mar 17, 202103:47
Episode 49. Three relationship boredom busters
Mar 17, 202105:24
Episode 48. You’re not alone if you feel alone in your relationship.
Feb 22, 202105:48
Episode 47. Relationship Myth Busters

Episode 47. Relationship Myth Busters

February is LOVE month for many, except for those disappointed by unrealistic expectations or if you're single! As featured in Australian magazine, Woman's Day magazine, listen in as I bust a few myths about relationships and take a different perspective on how to level up your relationship skills.

Feb 11, 202107:58
Episode 46. 12 Days of Christmas Relationship Revivers
Dec 21, 202009:29
Episode 45. 5 Top money derailers for relationships
Nov 23, 202007:18
Episode 44. The 80/20 Rule Reigns In The Counselling Room
Oct 19, 202006:52
Episode 43. Four Things I’ve Learnt As a Marriage Therapist in 2020
Jul 30, 202005:37
Episode 42. A Touch Of Sadness
Jun 29, 202005:02
Episode 41. Celebrating men!
Jun 22, 202004:00
Episode 40. How do you rate on the change scale?
Jun 16, 202004:56
Episode 29. 9 Mind Management strategies for FEAR

Episode 29. 9 Mind Management strategies for FEAR

Fear of rejection is our one greatest fear (according to me!) as part of my first series for 2020 - "Intimacy Inhibitors". Listen to my 9 Hot Tips for mind managing fear. With repetition and consistency, anyone can do this.

Don’t forget to:

- Check out my weekly column in the @sunshinecoastdaily Weekend Mag or on my Blog https://www.theconfidantecounselling.com/blog.

- Tune in to radio Salt 106.5 https://salt1065.com/ each Friday morning for my co-host with Kristian on the morning Wakeup

- Enjoy FREE relationship resources at www.relationshiprejuvenator.com

Feb 24, 202004:58
Episode 28. Our one biggest fear...

Episode 28. Our one biggest fear...

So many things frighten the heck out of us. Join me for my take on the biggie! Our one greatest fear as part of my first series for 2020 - "Intimacy Inhibitors".

Don’t forget to:

- Check out my weekly column in the @sunshinecoastdaily Weekend Mag or on my Blog https://www.theconfidantecounselling.com/blog.  

- Tune in to radio Salt 106.5 https://salt1065.com/ each Friday morning for my co-host with Kristian on the morning Wakeup 

- Enjoy FREE relationship resources at www.relationshiprejuvenator.com

Feb 17, 202005:15
Episode 27. The one word that undoes not just Valentine’s Day.

Episode 27. The one word that undoes not just Valentine’s Day.

Tune in to hear that one word that all too often unravels couples in my Intimacy Inhibitors Series from my weekly relationships column in the Sunshine Coast Daily.

For access to your free resources, head to: www.relationshiprejuvenator.com


Feb 10, 202004:30
Episode 26. Are you an anxious or avoidant partner?
Feb 03, 202004:48