Confident Women Glow

At the time I'm recording this episode the Great North American Eclipse of April 8, 2024 is a few days away.

I remember vividly what I was doing during the last eclipse in 2017, I was standing in the middle of a parking lot in front of my friend's boutique looking up at the sky through my phone.

Nobody welcomes a critic - but what if we could hold space for the critics in our lives to support our growth??

The four-word phrase that is now the title of this episode came to me randomly, and after two announcements from two high-profile women in the days afterward, the conversation became clearer.

I believe that confident women can grow through giving credit to their critics, and this episode gets into it.

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I realized recently that I'm in a season of wandering....I'm in a season that is intimate & personal where I'm rejecting responsibilities and standing tall in my purpose.

In this episode I'm sharing a handful of takeaways from my season of wandering, if this topic resonates with you, I hope this conversation is helpful.

Grab your copy of The Inner Strength Journal here --- www.innerstrengthjournal.com

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Let's talk about laundry... but not the kind you're thinking of. 

If you're a person who tends to carry around a lot of thoughts in your mind and you struggle with sorting through those thoughts, I want to talk about doing thought laundry to help you create some clarity & peace of mind in your life and make room for your confidence to bloom. 

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Self-discovery isn't a one-time deal—it's a journey. That's why I created the Inner Strength Journal: to help you recognize that sneaky voice of fear so you can choose authenticity and courage. Because you deserve to live a life that's truly YOU.

www.innerstrengthjournal.com

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“Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don't resist them; that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like." - Lao Tzu

I didn't plan for the extended break between my last podcast episode and this one. Life has been doing the most and much of my energy has been responding to the natural and spontanueous changes as they've been happening. Looking back on things now I can see the alignment, but when I was going through, all I wanted was to have some clarity and relief from the shenanigans.

It hasn't all been unwanted detours though, I'm talking about it in this episode.

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If you're tired of feeling stuck, invisible, and wondering if you have what it takes to create the life you desire? I get it. That's why I've created The Inner Strength Journal. It's your DIY Confidence Coach wrapped up in pages that help you tap into your inner warrior and trust your own wisdom. Grab your Inner Strength Journal today and start living the life you deserve. 

www.innerstrengthjournal.com 

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Question, do you recognize the difference between someone saying, "How are you?" versus someone asking" How are you doing?"

We've been conditioned and trained to treat these two questions as the same, and they're not. When we use these questions interchangeably it's almost like we expect a certain kind of answer, one that usually includes activity....and that's a setup for feeling unworthy and like we don't measure up.

I'm gonna break it all down, let's get into it.

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Imagine a life where you no longer allow fear to dictate your decisions. Picture yourself stepping into your true worth and embracing the opportunities that come your way.
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If you're finding yourself in an "in-between" season right now - maybe you've had some endings and you're not quite seeing the beginnings yet, you might have some doubt rising up, maybe you're wondering if you should've made different decisions, you might even be thinking about going back to what you released because the familiarity of that seems like it would be easier to deal with.

I get it...and I want to encourage you to hold this one word in your heart, your mind, your soul as you navigate the in between: ALLOW.

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Listen to "Showing Up" on Spotify —- https://open.spotify.com/episode/25YSa2fVZAksInUzc8Ybv7?si=W5ICT-pSQRupNggeWyI-Ew

I think we spend a lot of time agonizing over who isn't supporting us so much so that we forget that we are not supporting us. I think we've been socially conditioned to read other people supporting us as a statement of our value and worth, and so when we don't get the support from people in our lives, it becomes a message in our own minds that we are unworthy. 

As women, we have been socially conditioned to prioritize showing up for other people, and being the "good girl". This is why this convo matters. Showing up starts with you. 

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Show Notes: 

This episode is dedicated to those of you who've been looking for the "permission" to step into your alignment & be who you are boldly.

I see you & I honor you. Let's talk.

It doesn't matter how much personal growth work you've done, sometimes a behavior can be so ingrained after years of being replayed that it still shows up in moments where the previous version of you would've acted on auto-pilot. In this episode I've sharing a recent experience where this happened to me, and how I handled it. 

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I'm excited to tell you about my Confidently Me Digital Self-Discovery cards.

This episode was inspired by The Woman King, but don't be scared to listen if you haven't seen it yet. I'm not sharing any details of the movie...

I left the army in 2007 and I still identify as a soldier so it is not a stretch to anybody who knows me to believe that I would identify with the women in this movie who were fighters, fierce and feminine in their own ways. In this episode I'm sharing the lesson I took away from one tiny scene in the movie, all about how the guidelines we follow can help us succeed in the things we set out to do. 

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I'm excited to tell you about my 'Confidently Me' Digital Self-Discovery cards.

"What does evolving look like? What should I expect?"

A podcast listener asked me this question after the previous episode and I'm excited to continue the conversation with an answer in this episode!!! 

Maybe you're listening & wondering if the way you're feeling is an indication that you might be in a season of evolution, I'm gonna share some steps to help you determine for yourself if you're in an evolving season.

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I'm excited to tell you about my 'Confidently Me' Digital Self-Discovery cards.

In case you haven't listened to the previous 3 episodes, I'm in a transition season right now....wondering if you are too.

With any transition there are periods of "I don't know" & constantly asking questions - sometimes those questions being asked prompt us to notice how we can start showing up differently in our lives as we recognize invitations when they show up at our doorstep.

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The Create Your Confident Vision Lifeclass will support you in creating a vision for your life that speaks to your soul and have the confidence to bring it to life - even if you've made vision boards before.

Use the code cvl50off and save $50 on your enrollment — confidentvisionlifeclass.com

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In the last episode I asked if the time of transition you may be in right now is going to be an opportunity to reset or re-set with the intentions & goals you decided on during your new year season. That episode sparked some convos about what the transition can look/feel like & I decided to go into the crates to find a talk that I did years ago about the similarities between the life of the butterfly and the journey of evolution that women go through.

Let's get into it.

Show Notes:

The Create Your Confident Vision Lifeclass will support you in creating a vision for your life that speaks to your soul and have the confidence to bring it to life - even if you've made vision boards before.

Enroll here for instant access — confidentvisionlifeclass.com

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At the time that I'm recording this episode it is the last day of July. You might be feeling anxious, frustrated, panic, or you might just be numb. In this episode I want to remind you that even in the midst of all of those feelings you can choose how to respond. 

You can choose to respond to this time with this season that you're in from a place of self trust and confidence, you'll just have to decide if you're going to reset or re-set. 

Show Notes:

The Create Your Confident Vision Lifeclass will support you in creating a vision for your life that speaks to your soul and have the confidence to bring it to life - even if you've made vision boards before.

Enroll here for instant access — confidentvisionlifeclass.com

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Welcome to Season 3 of Confident Women Glow!!!! 

This episode was inspired by a question that client asked me during a 1:1 session. While I was answering her I realized that this was something that I haven't talked about publicly. If you're a member the Woman Evolve delegation and you watched the confidence video series I did then you'll recognize some of what I'm sharing in this episode.

Here's the question - what does it mean to trust yourself?? (and what does that have to do with confidence?)

My answer is in this episode. 

Show Notes

If you're looking for a resource to help you think about some questions you could ask yourself to start learning how to trust yourself more, check out the Confidently Me Digital Self-Discovery cards.

As I run down all of the tomfoolery and mess that has been happening in the world over the last 2-3 weeks, I see a pattern of intentional, malicious, calculated disempowerment. These antics work to sabotage our confidence & self-trust, which means we have to be intentional about the levels we dedicate to our own nurturing.

I'd love to hear your thoughts on this episode, it took me two weeks to find the words and flesh out my thoughts.

Resources Mentioned & Show Notes

Ep. 111, Confidence Requires Courage -- https://open.spotify.com/episode/4Z3NyUgwnK7QmuK8TN8Tmj?si=tLxY2nfUTai1ObbUHM5f4A

Ep. 112, COURAGE -- https://open.spotify.com/episode/1sF0OlRictVAF9B3yvHYuz?si=5uNNozgASmGbmXz7q_Z5wg

Ep. 218, Thermostat Behavior -- https://open.spotify.com/episode/2V5iF87LbFiz5crrSy1wH3?si=GNw_rQ_9TH2BUiK6nY8ODw

This is a tiny and mighty episode about the people in your life who have appointed themselves as having the opinion and conclusion that "should" matter. I call them Journey Judges and I'm talking about them, plus how you can deal with them. 

Resources Mentioned & Show Notes

Listen to the 'Encanto' episode (and read the blog post) -- https://theconfetticollective.com/performer-prover-perfect-one-confidence/

In the previous episode I talked about Windows and Mirrors, a concept that I first learned about in the book 'Good to Great" by Jim Collins. I believe that if we take this concept and we apply it to our confidence growth journey we are able to recognize that it's okay to have support and that life will present us with opportunities  to look at ourselves instead of pointing the finger toward other people.

We get to be the thermostat in our lives. 

Resources Mentioned & Show Notes

Listen to episode 217: "Wounds and Triggers" -- https://open.spotify.com/episode/3gQNileTLmHlGN6d0jv51q?si=yXAZ51P2Q_GPt_Sd1ArCjg

"Good to Great" by Jim Collins -- https://open.spotify.com/episode/3gQNileTLmHlGN6d0jv51q?si=yXAZ51P2Q_GPt_Sd1ArCjg

"Sometimes this journey is a lot and I just wish I could be unaware and wreak havoc like everybody else." 

This is SO honest and relatable. I talk about the confidence growth journey being one of self-discovery and in order to discover ourselves we actually have to take a look at ourselves. We have to look at how we show up in the world in our habits and the decisions that we make & all of these things we have to look through a different lens at our lives as a whole in order to figure out what we want to unlearn or peel off and what we want to include.

When we start to become aware we will start to see the areas in our lives that are still wounded or unfinished, and we'll be able to make the connection to our triggers.

Related episodes:

Are You Willing to Autopsy Your Experiences -- https://open.spotify.com/episode/7uT9t2B8l3dj75KXex3f3N?si=FwsDnzS2QPeiM53Cb2b1jw

Confidence is a Dirty, Ugly Journey -- https://open.spotify.com/episode/7siDvhSv4OfkUVhR8MWpWC?si=bDIyx7BaTJiddoIA-ESCxA

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There are seeds of prioritizing likability & niceness that are planted in little girls and reconfirmed over and over again & they teach us that our value is based on what other people think of us

We learn how to make external validation the most important thing. In our adulthood it manifests as these inner limits that we operate our lives by. We don't recognize that we operate by these limits until we start to push against the limits that have been there the whole time, and we get to choose if we're going to move forward through the pushback or not. That's where this phenomenon called “the crime of outshining” comes into play, and that’s what we’re gonna talk about in this episode.

Resources Mentioned & Show Notes

The Create Your Confident Vision Lifeclass will support you in creating a vision for your life that speaks to your soul and have the confidence to bring it to life. - www.confidentvisionlifeclass.com

When was the last time you willingly put yourself in a position to be hurt?

When I think about this question, other than getting tattoos and having a kid, never....until I began my confidence growth journey.

In this episode I'm sharing a recent experience of mine that illustrates that meme we see floating all over social media that says, "Sometimes the healing hurts worse".

I'm looking forward to the takeaways you'll have from this episode, let me know what you think on social.

Resources Mentioned & Show Notes

Create Your Confident Vision Lifeclass — confidentvisionlifeclass.com

Our vision boards teach us how to do - what if we learned how to BE first so that our do and have would be taken care of?

In this episode I'm going into the coaching model that underscores my approach for expanding the vision board workshops that I've taught for five years so we can be supported through the journey of honoring our visions and bringing them to life.

Resources Mentioned & Show Notes

Create Your Confident Vision Lifeclass -- www.confidencelifeclass.com

I launched this podcast in May 2021 after doing everything I could to avoid doing something like this.

Deep down I knew that taking the conversations that I'd been having with our audience in a live broadcast and delivering them in a way that they could connect with differently was going to become something that would feel like it was too big for me, and so I ran from it for a long time.

I was afraid of the potential so I avoided the responsibility.

And that's what I wanna talk about in this episode. 

Resources Mentioned & Show Notes

The Create Your Confident Vision Lifeclass was created to support you in creating a vision for your life that speaks to your soul and help you call up  the confidence to bring it to life - you don't have to be afraid of your potential; you have what it takes to bring it forth.

Register today -- www.confidencelifeclass.com

Janet. Jackson. 

The Ms. Jackson, legend, icon, world-changing creative artist debuted her four-part documentary on Lifetime and A&E last weekend and I have thoughts...more like a key takeaway that can serve and support those of us who are on our confidence growth journeys.

Sometimes we get into situations that are out of our control, but as confident women we have the choice to take ownership and responsibility going forward. From this point on we can say that Janet taught us.

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Believe it or not, even the movie 'Encanto" can teach us about confidence - more specifically, how the learned behaviors from our familial relationships can cause us through our confidence growth journeys. 

I've been working on this episode since first watching the movie when it came out on Disney+ on Christmas Eve 2021. I knew there was some "there there" for us to talk about but I needed to process it so we could have a productive conversation. In this episode I'm identifying the experiences of 3 characters and what we can observe from their evolution. 

Resources Mentioned & Show Notes

Create Your Confident Vision Lifeclass – confidencelifeclass.com

Think about a vehicle that needs an alignment - you're turning the steering wheel with a plan of going in one direction but you find yourself drifting into a direction that you don't wanting to go in. Life happens like that sometimes too.

Being in alignment means to be "in the correct or appropriate position", and when we find ourselves in a space that we didn't plan to be in, we have the power to change our situation.

There's a lot of conversation about setting goals and redesigning our lives right now, and what I know about goal-setting and goal achieving is that success requires a different level of intention, discipline and alignment.

In this episode I'm giving you some steps that you can follow to help you find you way back to the goals you've set for yourself

Resources Mentioned & Show Notes

Create Your Confident Vision Lifeclass -- confidencelifeclass.com 

Happy New Year!

This is the time of year when many people are into setting goals, defining decisions, planning and making vision boards. The energy of a new year often feels like a call or a push to do something different, ppl talk about feeling a burst of ideas and inspiration. I think that’s fantastic.

But it's important to be careful that we don't put all of our focus on our doing, without paying attention to our being. I believe that there are two gateways to achieving our goals: our confidence and about values.

In this episode I'm talking about how it all connects.

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After years of teaching vision board workshops I realized that we put more focus on the actual board than on becoming the person who can live the life that is represented on our boards. I wanted to create a teaching that would remind women what the real key is to unlocking their dream life – themselves. Register for instant access to the Create Your Confident Vision Lifeclass here -- confidencelifeclass.com 

It’s the end of 2021, and you may be doing your version of looking back on your year, what you experienced because you want to enter into the new year with a greater intention. I get it. I this episode I'm sharing my perspective on that self-examination process. I’m identifying 3 lenses that I believe are helpful whenever we go through a season where we want to discover the answers that will help us evolve and grow in confidence.

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This is the time of year where most people are talking about making vision boards and creating resolutions for the new year. But what if you’ve been doing these things already for years and it feels like nothing in your life has really changed? Your vision board is a great accessory for your vision, I want to do is support you with getting out of your own way and becoming the woman who thrives in the life you desire for yourself.

Create Your Confident Vision Lifeclass -- confidencelifeclass.com

There are a lot of unspoken expectations that come with this time of year - one of the most prevalent is to be filled with happiness and joy. There isn’t much room to be and feel anything else. 

But what if joy is scary right now? What if you feel like you're being pressured to perform something that doesn't feel authentic? This conversation is for you. 

Resources Mentioned & Show Notes

Brene Brown's new book, ‘Atlas of the Heart’ -- https://amzn.to/3ebkkLl

Confidently Me Digital Self-Discovery cards – theconfetticollective.com/sdc

In the last podcast episode I talked about choosing for ourselves whether alone time is incubation or isolation, and in this episode I want to talk about one of the biggest revelations for me whenever I’m in that “by myself season”. I'm always challenged to acknowledge and admit whether the situations, relationships or circumstances that I’ve been in have been a garden or if it’s been a grave.

Resources Mentioned & Show Notes

Who's Watering Your Seeds? https://www.facebook.com/confetticollective/videos/whos-watering-your-seeds/496621611386520/

Confidently Me Digital Self-Discovery cards – theconfetticollective.com/sdc

Whenever we decide to change our lives in any way, we'll find ourselves spending more time by ourselves. When we start looking at people, places and things around us and feeling a growing dis-ease because we're questioning if that's the way we want to keep being, it's going to create a bit of friction and we'll want to be by ourselves to process.

In this episode I'm talking about the power we have to decide how we'll approach that season of being by ourselves, we get to choose if it'll be isolation or incubation. 

Confidently Me Digital Self-Discovery cards – theconfetticollective.com/sdc

Hey yall! I'm back after a while and I'm excited for you to listen to this episode! If there's one thing I know about the confidence journey, it's that it's lifelong. We'll go through seasons of peaks and valleys and while we don't have control over what happens, we do have control over how we respond. In this episode I'm announcing the most recent response to what's been happening inmy own journey and how it affects the brand, this podcast and everything we do. 

If you're wondering what it looks like to evolve, I encourage you to take a listen. 

Confidently Me Digital Self-Discovery cards – theconfetticollective.com/sdc

This time of grief and reflection has changed me in ways that I could have never expected, and in this episode I'm sharing one of my lessons from this season I'm in where I'm learning how to balance grief and growth.   

As we are multifaceted humans I believe we can hold space for a variety of emotions, and that might look like mourning and joy at the same time.   

Give yourself all the space you need to acknowledge and honor both in your life. You have the capacity. 

The French/Latin origin of the word confidence means “to have full trust or reliance”, but what happens when you're in a season of grief?

When you're grieving feels like the rug has been pulled out from under you, but it's possible to have a sense of grounding that you can depend on even while feeling like your world had been turned upside down.

I know because I've been grieving for four months. I hope this episode helps you. 

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Confidently Me Digital Self-Discovery cards – theconfetticollective.com/sdc

I don’t need to tell you how much chaos is going on in the world right now. If you’re not watching the news you’re probably looking out the window and seeing the foolishness happening.

It’s just disrespectful….

In this episode I'm sharing how these tragic, traumatic and trying times might have us riding around with balding tires and low oil...it's time for an emotional wellness tune-up. 

Resources Mentioned & Show Notes

Generally speaking, we tend to think of the confidence journey as only positive, painted with Instagram-worthy quotes and images of us luxuriating on a beach being #unbothered. We have a superficial perception that confidence is something we see, something that is 'candy-coated" and only looks the way we see it portrayed on TV and social media. We don't acknowledge the challenges that are necessary in order to become confident women, and this episode sets the record straight. 

Resources Mentioned & Show Notes

Butterfly Behavior: What Every Woman Needs to Know -- https://theconfetticollective.com/butterfly-behavior/

So I'm still on the courage thing....I've been thinking about courage a lot lately as a pillar of confidence, partly because we're seeing women on global stages call up their courage & make moves that are aligned with the quality of life THEY desire to live.

Becoming confident will require our courage, and in this episode I'm sharing two questions that you can ask yourself when it's time to activate your courage. 

Resources Mentioned & Show Notes

Confidently Me Digital Self-Discovery cards – theconfetticollective.com/sdc

In this mini episode I want to talk about courage, because folks tend to think of confidence as a feeling of accomplishment or boost of self-esteem and I know differently. I know that confidence is not possible without courage, courage is a necessary ingredient.

You won't get through your journey without it, so let's chat. 

Resources Mentioned & Show Notes

Confidently Me Digital Self-Discovery cards – theconfetticollective.com/sdc

Have you ever heard the phrase, "casting your pearls before swine"? It's from Bible, Jesus is speaking about wasting our gems with people who won't appreciate or honor it for what it is. In this episode I’m talking about how we have a choice to treat our vulnerability like our pearls, and the importance of being careful where we share it.

Let’s get into it.

Resources Mentioned & Show Notes: 

Daring Greatly by Brene Brown -- https://amzn.to/2UNxPuv

The summer months bring transitions. The temperature gets warmer, the days get longer and students of all ages turn their tassels at graduations.

But what about those of us who aren't in school? What does "graduation season" look like for us? 

In this episode I'm challenging us to take a look at ourselves and ask if we're designing our lives in a way that prepares for new chapters, or are we fascinated by our shadows and running away from our growth? 

Resources Mentioned & Show Notes: 

Until Today!: Daily Devotionals for Spiritual Growth and Peace of Mind -- https://amzn.to/2S4hgsX

"If we're not careful, our self-talk will become the voice of our ego."

In this episode you'll hear some of the conversation we had on the May 17 edition of Mondays w/Mo, all about ego and our self-talk. Our ego is always looking for a reason to show up, and I want us to become more aware of what "she" is saying so we can choose to release her when we're ready to grow.

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Our confidence is able to grow when we decide to practice saying "Yes" to new ways of thinking and being; we get to activate the confidence loop that keeps us moving in the direction of the woman we're becoming.

And if confidence manifests in a loop, so can self-doubt. Let's discuss. 

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Life is always trying to teach us things – if we’re open to learning the lessons. As we move through our journeys of nurturing our confidence so we're able to glow, I believe we'll have to discipline ourselves to look for the lessons from every experience.

In order to get to the lessons and takeaways, we’ll have to be willing to do an autopsy. 

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How did you know that it was time to grow? I look back and recognize that there were patterns of discomfort that showed up in my life prior to me taking some of the biggest leaps in my life. I don't think I would've made some of the decisions I did if I wasn't already uncomfortable at the time. In this episode I’m talking about how discomfort can be deliberate, very much like the fairy tale The Princess and the Pea.

Resources Mentioned & Show Notes

The Princess and the Pea -- https://amzn.to/3BI8iDF

I don't believe there is anything we can buy that will give us the confidence to create the lives we desire. Sure, a dress or some BOMB shoes will help us feel extra saucy for a moment, but once we take those things off, the feeling goes with it. Even though we can't buy confidence, I believe we can borrow it. In this episode I'm sharing how being shoved into an uncomfortable position while I was a soldier gave me the opportunity to borrow the confidence that sustains me today. 

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