The Confident Woman Podcast

The Confident Woman Podcast

By Rachel Brooks & Erin Klein
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Welcome to The Confident Woman Podcast! We're here to keep it real, raw and what it means to be The Confident Woman.

Rachel and Erin vow to show up as their true authentic, transparent, and vulnerable selves and talk about everything including confidence, body image, relationships, business, finances, fitness, freedom, travel and fun, all rolled into one!

So who is The Confident Woman? YOU!
If you’re looking to become your best and most confident self, this podcast is for you!
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Welcome to The Confident Woman Podcast! We're here to keep it real, raw and what it means to be The Confident Woman.

Rachel and Erin vow to show up as their true authentic, transparent, and vulnerable selves and talk about everything including confidence, body image, relationships, business, finances, fitness, freedom, travel and fun, all rolled into one!

So who is The Confident Woman? YOU!
If you’re looking to become your best and most confident self, this podcast is for you!
www.theconfidentwomanpodcast.com

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28: Finding Friends is Like Dating
In this episode, Erin and Rachel discuss how finding friends as an adult is kind of like dating. It is hard to find friends as a woman today. They talk about the ease of making friends as kids, but even when going to college it started to become harder to find friends. Erin went knocking on other dorm rooms to see if anyone wanted to hang out and Rachel actually pledged a sorority at a different school because of a friend. The girls realize that everyone is looking for support and someone they can relate to and connect too. And that a lot of times our friends come from our work, through other friends or by default. They are not genuine, deep connections. Rachel also talks about trying to make friends by looking at how she can serve the other person versus what is in it for her. Erin agrees that adding value to the other person is necessary, but that you may not be the right fit for everyone. They discuss how some friendships can run their course and you don’t have to stay friends with that person. If the friendship is no longer serving you or the other person then it’s time to let go of it with no hard feelings. And finally, the girls talk about some good places to meet other like-minded women who are also looking for friendship. Here are some highlights: Finding friends is hard as an adult Serving the other person vs. what is in it for me Add value to the other person but not for everyone Finding friends is like dating and actually jiving with the other person You don’t have to stay friends Where to find and meet friends Let’s take a listen! Resources: Erin’s Instagram: @erin_travelsforlife Rachel’s Instagram: @iamrachelbrooks The Confident Woman Podcast Instagram: @theconfidentwomanpodcast Quotes: “ We want to find people that we can relate and connect with.” Rachel “Sometimes you’re making friends by default, by commonality instead of a deeper connection.” Erin “I’m looking at it from a serving standpoint versus what’s in it for me.” Rachel “You’re not going to connect with every single person.” Erin
16:04
November 6, 2019
27: The Power of Vulnerability
Is vulnerability is a weakness and something we can exploit? Or is it actually a superpower and shield of honor we can wear? In this week’s episode, Erin and Rachel discuss the power of vulnerability. Most people associate vulnerability with being a sign of weakness and something that will make us less than perfect. In reality, vulnerability is actually a strength. It allows us to attract people into our lives and to empower and connect with them on a deeper level. Rachel and Erin also talk about showing up as yourself instead of putting on masks to be something you are not or think you need to be. This is to include social media and how people don’t actually want to see highlight reels of others. They want to see the failures and struggles of others because it is what makes them relatable and humanizes them. Let’s take a listen! Vulnerability: weakness or strength? Power of going deep and not having superficial connections with others What causes our vulnerabilities? Can they self-inflicted or fear-based? Putting people on pedestals when they are only showing highlight reels Showing up and connecting with others through our vulnerabilities Resources: Erin’s Instagram: @erin_travelsforlife Rachel’s Instagram: @iamrachelbrooks The Confident Woman Podcast Instagram: @theconfidentwomanpodcast Facebook: The Confident Woman Podcast Quotes: “Own the suck” Rachel “We see the highlight reels of people and we put them on pedestals and they’re just not even relatable.” Rachel “You don’t have to glamorize everything” Erin “Anything we’re self-conscious of or feel vulnerable with anyways isn’t going to go away unless you do talk to someone about it.”  Erin
16:52
October 30, 2019
26: What Does Perfection Even Mean?
In this episode, Rachel and Erin are talking about Perfection. Chasing perfection can happen to any of us. It can happen to us at any stage of our lives, even from a young age. We are constantly bombarded with what life is “suppose” to look and feel like. But we need to ask ourselves, is this truly what we want and desire? Instead of trying to achieve perfection, we need to be realistic and give it our best. By doing this, we can set realistic expectations and results from what we are doing. And when we are being realistic, we can be vulnerable and connect with others. One of the most powerful things we can do to stop the chase for perfection is to let go. This will allow us to truly discover what makes us happy and how to attract it into our lives! Here are some highlights: The chase for perfection and what leads us down the rabbit hole of perfection How many people aim for perfection because they fear failure How perfection sucks and is boring! The strive for perfection can actually hinder us from achieving the goals and dreams we have Reevaluating our wants and priorities and discovering what we truly want and desire Enjoy the show! Resources: Erin’s Instagram: @erin_travelsforlife Rachel’s Instagram: @iamrachelbrooks The Confident Woman Podcast Instagram: @theconfidentwomanpodcast Facebook: The Confident Woman Podcast Quotes: “Once you take off the mask of perfection, you start to see things with a whole new lens.” Rachel “Perfect sucks!” Erin “Take the shot.” Erin “The antidote of perfection is letting go.” Rachel
14:27
October 23, 2019
25: Is FEAR Holding You Back?
In this episode, Rachel and Erin are talking about the fears we all have about starting something new. Doing something new is scary; people sometimes fear success. If we are successful, there will be more pressure not to fail. Sometimes we cannot rationalize through our fears. One thing you can do to overcome your fears is to focus on other people’s successes. Pay attention to the people who have succeeded in what you are trying to accomplish. Don’t focus on the people who have failed. Another thing to consider is, what is the worst thing that could possibly happen in a particular scenario? If you think the worst-case scenario is still worth pursuing, then do it! Remember, we are all going to fail. Be vulnerable and ask for help. Make sure to surround yourself with people who are going to be encouraging and buy into your vision. Eventually, we will just get to the point where we do things without looking for validation from other people. “Do the thing you fear most and the death of fear is certain.” – Mark Twain. Enjoy the show! Timestamps: [02:40] Our mindsets are holding us back [04:30] Rationalizing our fears [07:45] We are all going to fail [10:50] Start with one step [13:45] Overcoming our fears Resources: Erin’s Instagram: @erin_travelsforlife Rachel’s Instagram: @iamrachelbrooks The Confident Woman Podcast Instagram: @theconfidentwomanpodcast Facebook: The Confident Woman Podcast Quotes: “Once you break through the fear wall, the other side is exhilarating.” -Rachel “I think it’s fun to be scared sometimes.” -Erin “Face your fear, and just do it.” -Rachel “Think about the absolute worst possible thing that could happen.” -Erin
16:49
October 16, 2019
24: How to Control What You Can’t Control.
In this episode, Rachel and Erin are talking about the things we can control versus the things we cannot control. Well, we can always control ourselves! We need to start controlling how we react and respond to situations. Things happen for us (not to us), and we can get through 100% of the things that are thrown at us. Choice is a powerful word; we have the decision on how to react. Another way to control situations is by reevaluating who we are spending our time with. Are these people making the situation worse, or are they helping look for the best solution? Focus on the solution instead of getting hung up on the problem. Also, it’s essential to think about what you can learn from a scenario. If the situation keeps happening over and over again, think about what you are not learning. Enjoy the show! Timestamps: [00:20] We can only control ourselves [02:20] Responding positively to situations [06:30] Consider who you are surrounding yourself with [08:00] Think about what you are learning (or not learning) [10:00] Our identities can always change [14:30] What’s the silver lining? Resources: Erin’s Instagram: @erin_travelsforlife Rachel’s Instagram: @iamrachelbrooks The Confident Woman Podcast Instagram: @theconfidentwomanpodcast Facebook: The Confident Woman Podcast Quotes: “Things don’t happen to us; they happen for us.” -Rachel “We have a 100% track record of getting through everything that has ever happened to us.” -Erin “Problems become so magnified because we are focusing on them.” -Rachel “Think of one thing you can do to fix a situation.” -Erin
16:04
October 9, 2019
23: Are You Putting Too Much Pressure On Yourself?
Rachel and Erin are talking about their struggles with aging and the expectations that society often puts on women. They tell stories about how when they were growing up, they didn’t feel on par with their peers. Erin didn’t get married until later in life, and Rachel never got her white picket fence. We only see things in the perspective of the people we are around. In a small town, getting married at a young age may be completely normal. If you get out into the world, you’ll see that women are waiting to become established before creating a family. Sam Walton didn’t start Walmart until the age of 57. Many people think when you’re 50 that your life is over, but Sam Walton didn’t buy into that story and we don’t have to either. Instead of waiting for the perfect opportunity, just do it. Enjoy the show! Timestamps: [01:40] Erin and Rachel didn’t stick with the status quo [05:10] How traveling can open your eyes [06:50] Why we need to stop comparing ourselves to others [08:45] Now is the perfect time to start [12:50] The social norms are already set for us Resources: Erin’s Instagram: @erin_travelsforlife Rachel’s Instagram: @iamrachelbrooks The Confident Woman Podcast Instagram: @theconfidentwomanpodcast Facebook: The Confident Woman Podcast Quotes: “I don’t have a white picket fence; it’s not a one size fits all.” -Rachel “I couldn’t imagine being married to anyone else.” -Erin “Do we want to follow the norm, or do we want to pave our own way?” -Rachel “We all have different purposes.” -Erin
16:01
October 2, 2019
22: Are Your Daily Habits Serving You?
In this episode, Rachel and Erin are talking about routines, affirmations, and habits. Erin admittedly does not have the best morning routine, but she’s working on that. There is so much media out there claiming that the key to success is our morning routine. Rachel realized it was more about her daily routine, habits, and behaviors. Erin is not much of a morning person, so at nighttime, she writes everything down that she needs to do the next day. This way, she won’t be thinking about it while trying to sleep. Then, the two talk about to-do lists; sometimes they can be very overwhelming. Rachel recommends permitting ourselves to get a few big things done instead of the massive lists we think we need to do. Later, the two talk about needing downtime, why we should listen to our thoughts, and how to quiet the noise. Enjoy the show! Timestamps: • [00:50] Is the key to success your morning routine? • [03:40] Erin’s nightly routine • [05:30] To-do lists can be so overwhelming • [10:00] Take time to enjoy yourself • [12:30] Learn to quiet the noise Resources: Erin’s Instagram: @erin_travelsforlife Rachel’s Instagram: @iamrachelbrooks The Confident Woman Podcast Instagram: @theconfidentwomanpodcast Facebook: The Confident Woman Podcast Quotes: ¨ “I give myself permission to accomplish 2-3 larger tasks instead of the 100 that need to be done.” -Rachel ¨ “Mornings are very slow-moving for me.” -Erin ¨ “Your soul knows what you’re supposed to do, so listen to it.” -Rachel ¨ “Look at the big picture.” -Erin
14:29
September 25, 2019
21: How to Set Expectations for Yourself & Others.
In this episode, Rachel and Erin discuss the expectations we place on ourselves, on others, and that others set on us. Rachel says we like to put expectations on people, places, and things. However, we have no power over things that are out of control like the weather and our friends. Rachel has learned to go into a situation from a place of openness with no expectations. Setting expectations for ourselves and how we will react in a scenario will have a positive impact on our day. Rachel points out that we need to have the courage to ask another person what happened instead of filling in the rest of the story in our heads. Then, Erin explains how to set realistic expectations for ourselves: they need to be achievable, and we need to accept what we can’t do. Tune in to hear why we need to embody self-love, and how to find yourself and your “why.” Enjoy the show! Timestamps: • [01:45] Expectations can be a good thing • [04:00] Why we create stories in our minds • [05:35] Setting realistic expectations for ourselves • [07:40] Embodying self-love • [10:30] How do you find yourself? Resources: Erin’s Instagram: @erin_travelsforlife Rachel’s Instagram: @iamrachelbrooks The Confident Woman Podcast Instagram: @theconfidentwomanpodcast Facebook: The Confident Woman Podcast Find Your Why: A Practical Guide for Discovering Purpose for You and Your Team Start with Why: How Great Leaders Inspire Everyone to Take Action Quotes: ¨ “Have an expectation for self; that was a huge game-changer for me.” -Rachel ¨ “We are never going to be enough if we give our power to other people.” -Erin ¨ “When we are looking externally for other people to accept us, we will never be enough.” -Rachel ¨ “We make things a bigger deal in our heads than they really are.” -Erin
16:47
September 18, 2019
20: What Are You Looking For In a Relationship?
In this episode, Rachel and Erin discuss their experience with dating and what we should be looking for in a relationship. Rachel is currently celebrating her tenth anniversary with her partner. Their relationship has not been perfect because there will always be ups and downs; two people can make things complicated. However, if you know your partner has the best intentions in mind, you can work on bringing your best self to the relationship. Erin points out many people think that if they are not happy, they should not be in the relationship; it’s bullshit! We are the only person who is going to make us happy, not our partners. Then, Erin explains how she and her partner went on a marriage retreat together to create expectations for their relationship, which was integral in preparing them for the future. Plus, Rachel and Erin reveal stories from their single life, how we can grow with our partners, and why we can get tunnel vision in a relationship. Enjoy the show! Timestamps: • [01:45] Rachel’s tenth anniversary • [05:15] Embarking on a weekend marriage retreat • [08:20] Stories from the single life • [13:10] Find a partner that brings out the best in you • [15:00] Tunnel vision in a relationship Resources: Erin’s Instagram: @erin_travelsforlife Rachel’s Instagram: @iamrachelbrooks The Confident Woman Podcast Instagram: @theconfidentwomanpodcast Facebook: The Confident Woman Podcast Quotes: ¨ “Take the time to gather your thoughts and cool down in an argument.” -Rachel ¨ “The dating world today is a little insane.” -Erin ¨ “We overlook all the negatives that our friends and families point out to us.” -Rachel ¨ “If you are out looking for the perfect person, you’re going to be single forever.” -Erin
16:57
September 11, 2019
19: The Top 5 Most Influential Books.
In this episode, Rachel and Erin reveal which books made an impactful impression on their lives. First, they uncover which books were most helpful in getting their businesses up and running. Rachel says The Four Agreements had such a profound impact on her. The agreements are to be impeccable with your words, don’t take anything personally, don’t make assumptions, and always do your best. Erin believes Think and Grow Rich is the number one all-time best business book. Another great read by Napoleon Hill is Outwitting the Devil. Erin was astonished by the number of people who are drifters – people who cannot think for themselves and react to what is given to them. Stay tuned to hear the rest of the best reads from Erin and Rachel.  Enjoy the show! Timestamps:  • [01:10] The Four Agreements had a profound impact on Rachel • [07:15] If you can’t own you, no one else will   • [10:00] Wasting time will make you a drifter  • [12:45] Our habits will have long-lasting impacts  Books: The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom The Mastery of Self: A Toltec Guide to Personal Freedom Think and Grow Rich Outwitting the Devil: The Secret to Freedom and Success The Slight Edge: Turning Simple Disciplines into Massive Success and Happiness Resources: Erin’s Instagram: @erin_travelsforlife Rachel’s Instagram: @iamrachelbrooks The Confident Woman Podcast Instagram: @theconfidentwomanpodcast Facebook: The Confident Woman Podcast Quotes: ¨ “If we use the same language toward others as we do to ourselves, then we are filling ourselves with the same words of encouragement.” -Rachel ¨ “My journey started when I fueled into myself instead of pouring into others.” -Erin ¨ “Dig deep into different levels of where your beliefs came from.” -Rachel ¨ “Be consistent over time.” -Erin
16:35
September 4, 2019
18: Why Do We Self-Sabotage?
Rachel and Erin explain why you could be your own worst enemy in today’s episode. Sometimes we can get stuck, freeze, and shut down. Back in 2014, Erin worked her butt off; she never went on a vacation and strictly worked. However, Erin was at a higher level and made more money than she ever did before. Instead of using that momentum and continuing, she sabotaged herself. Her friends were always going out and drinking, so Erin went along for the ride. This was their happy place, and there was no motivation to keep going. Gradually, Erin knew she needed to find people who were going to lift her up instead. Rachel says she never has a set plan because she never knows what direction or what steps will apply to her until she tries it out. Check out this episode to find out what analysis paralysis is, how to notice the small wins, and why we sometimes rationalize our dreams away. Enjoy the show! Timestamps:  • [01:45] Avoiding complacency   • [05:15] Are the people you surround yourself with lifting you up?   • [07:00] Analysis paralysis • [10:15] Notice the small wins • [12:00] Rationalizing why we don’t want our dreams Resources: Erin’s Instagram: @erin_travelsforlife Rachel’s Instagram: @iamrachelbrooks The Confident Woman Podcast Instagram: @theconfidentwomanpodcast Facebook: The Confident Woman Podcast Quotes: ¨ “We have a whole bunch of lies and beliefs we will tell ourselves.” -Rachel ¨ “The unknowns and uncertainty will always be scary and daunting.” -Erin ¨ “When you stay in your comfort zone, you become complacent.” -Rachel ¨ “Recognize the small successes along the way and notice how they make you feel.” -Erin
16:12
August 28, 2019
17: The Lies That We Tell Ourselves.
In this episode, Rachel and Erin talk about the lies that we tell ourselves, which are usually the worst ones; we lie to ourselves more than we lie to other people. Erin remembers when she first was going to school, she told herself over and over again that she could never have the lives of some of her classmates. If we compare our lives to others out there, and we don’t meet that criteria, then we think we must not be good enough. Rachel says that if the lies you told yourself were told back to you by another person, then your beliefs will be challenged. We buy our justifications, but they are lies that we are telling ourselves. If you think you cannot start your own business because you don’t know how, it’s not true. We are all able to find resources and the people who are able to help us. Stay tuned to find out how to reframe your negative self-talk and how to start achieving what our minds are conceiving. Enjoy the show! Timestamps:  • [00:35] Feeding the voice inside our head  • [04:15] Hearing our lies from another perspective  • [07:20] Finding the resources   • [11:30] Asking the right questions  • [14:00] Reframing our negative self-talk • [16:10] The mind can achieve what the mind can conceive  Resources: I am Athletics Tees and Tanks: I am Athletics Erin’s Instagram: @erin_travelsforlife Rachel’s Instagram: @iamrachelbrooks The Confident Woman Podcast Instagram: @theconfidentwomanpodcast Facebook: The Confident Woman Podcast Quotes: ¨ “We look for proof to feed our lies.” -Rachel ¨ “We buy our own justifications.” -Erin ¨ “Everything is at your fingertips.” -Rachel ¨ “I would always tell myself that we do not have the right connections.” -Erin ¨ "“I am” The two most important words we speak to ourselves. For what we say after them shapes our reality." -Rachel
18:59
August 21, 2019
16: Are You Saying "Yes" to Everything?
Do you ever feel super overwhelmed and it’s your fault because you say yes to everything that’s asked of you? Rachel and Erin are still strategizing and trying to figure it out. Erin is a yes person because she genuinely wants to do everything. Now, she writes everything down and makes a priority list. Things at the bottom of the list Erin may not get to because it was taking time away from pursuing her goals. Rachel does something similar and categorizes her list sections as urgent, necessary, and distractions. Urgent are things you must do like paying bills. Necessary are things that have to be done but are not critical. Distractions are all the things we want to say yes to, but may need to say no to. Then, the two talk about JOMO - Joy of Missing Out. Maybe if something isn’t fitting in your diet or budget that day, do what you want to do instead!   Enjoy the show! Timestamps:  [03:00] What doesn’t align with the bigger picture?  [08:30] Reschedule to do more productive things   [11:00] What is JOMO?  [15:00] Cutting out social activities  Resources: Erin’s Instagram: @erin_travelsforlife Rachel’s Instagram: @iamrachelbrooks The Confident Woman Podcast Instagram: @theconfidentwomanpodcast Facebook: The Confident Woman Podcast Quotes: “At the end of the week, I would ask where my time went.” -Rachel “Time is the most important thing we have.” -Erin “You should never wish time away because you will never get it back.” -Rachel “I spent so much time focusing on things I didn’t want to do anyway.” -Erin
17:20
August 14, 2019
15: Fitness and Finding Ourselves.
Today Rachel and Erin talk fitness and how to find yourself. So much of our physical appearance is tied to our worth and our value. Fitness is a way to transform our body. Rachel used fitness to have a better appearance solely because she thought that was what she was supposed to do. Physical fitness improves the body, but it also works on our mental fitness, emotional fitness, and spiritual fitness. If you are fit from the inside, your physical appearance will be a reflection of that as well. Then, Erin explains why she doesn’t like listening to music when she runs. Her husband works out every single day – he’s in great shape and super healthy. However, he doesn’t spend two hours at the gym; for him, it’s all mental. Find something you love, move your body in a way that is best suited for you and gets you fit from within. Enjoy the show! Timestamps:  [02:00] What fitness does to our insides.  [04:00] Seeking external validation for how we look.  [05:45] Fitness is a form of therapy. [07:50] Using fitness for the wrong thing. [09:55] Find something you enjoy doing.  Resources: Erin’s Instagram: @erin_travelsforlife Rachel’s Instagram: @iamrachelbrooks The Confident Woman Podcast Instagram: @theconfidentwomanpodcast Facebook: The Confident Woman Podcast Quotes: “When we are using fitness to change our appearance, we are using it in the wrong aspect.” -Rachel “When I run, I don’t like to listen to anything.” -Erin “I am a big advocate of balance.” -Rachel “Find something you love and enjoy the progress.” -Erin
15:18
August 7, 2019
14: Finding Food Freedom. Q&A
In this episode, Erin has some questions for Rachel around food struggles – Rachel has found food freedom, looks great, is consistent, and even eats snacks! Food addiction is a real thing; it comes from some emotional triggers within us. Erin says she sometimes eats an entire pizza even though she knows it will upset her later on. When you are on a restrictive diet, and you can’t have something, then that is all you’re going to think about having. Rachel explains how you can still eat doughnuts while staying under your caloric intake for the day. If you want to perform at your best, however, you have to look at what you are eating. Later, Rachel and Erin discuss how to stay healthy while traveling, doing tradeoffs, and changing our food mindsets. If you eat one brownie, you do not need to eat the whole pan!  Enjoy the show! Timestamps:  [01:15] Yo-yo dieting.   [02:25] Do you think that food addiction is a real thing? [06:00] You need self-awareness.   [10:40] How to eat healthy while traveling.  Resources: Erin’s Instagram: @erin_travelsforlife Rachel’s Instagram: @iamrachelbrooks The Confident Woman Podcast Instagram: @theconfidentwomanpodcast Facebook: The Confident Woman Podcast Quotes: “Addiction comes from emotional triggers.” -Rachel “If you are already in a caloric deficit, then, by all means, eat the doughnut.” -Rachel “People do diets where they are eating cheese and bacon all day long, and they lose weight.” -Erin “Focus on creating a healthy and balanced lifestyle.” - Rachel “Just because [food] it’s there, doesn’t mean you have to eat it all.” - Rachel
18:46
July 31, 2019
13: Asking for Help Is Not a Sign of Weakness.
A lot of the time, we can struggle with opening up. Rachel previously thought that doing so and asking for help were signs of weakness, but now knows that we’re not meant to do life alone. Just having a friend who you can go to when you need help can allow you to grasp your thoughts, because being alone in your mind can be overwhelming. It’s also good to remember that if somebody comes to you for help, they might just want to vent their feelings and not receive any advice. What we’re holding in can be a negative toxin, so we need to release it and make way for the positive things in our lives. We all suffer, so no matter how perfect and awesome someone is on the outside, you never know what they’re going through on the inside. You’d be surprised how many people are happy to help you if you simply ask for it. Seek someone who has achieved the result that you are working towards. Enjoy the show! Timestamps:  [02:02] Specifically defining what you need help with [05:49] Venting [10:40] Being open to receiving help Resources: Erin’s Instagram: @erin_travelsforlife Rachel’s Instagram: @iamrachelbrooks The Confident Woman Podcast: @theconfidentwomanpodcast Facebook: The Confident Woman Podcast Quotes: “I feel so overwhelmed that I just need to kind of vent and talk it through to a friend who provides a safe place.” -Rachel “Sometimes, people just need to vent for a minute.” -Erin “Asking for help is not a sign of weakness. It’s courage.” -Rachel
16:34
July 24, 2019
12: The Endless Chase of Perfection.
Rachel sees this all too often, not only in her personal life, but with women in general. There is an expectation that we need to have perfection in some area of our lives. She had chased it for far too long before realizing that perfection does not exist. Finally coming to this conclusion, Rachel learned to embrace what she does have in a loving way. Chasing perfection can be used in a healthy way, too, as Erin describes. The ladies also see many women searching for the perfect guy when online dating, but their expectations are much too high. You have to be confident in who you are. The antidote for chasing perfection is letting go of expectations and allowing yourself to just be, and that’s when we see growth in all aspects of our lives. The progress you achieve in life will make you just as happy as perfection, especially if you were chasing perfection in something you’re not passionate about. Enjoy the show! Timestamps:  [01:04] Rachel’s pursuit of perfection [04:34] Perfection versus progress [09:55] Life is always hard Resources: Erin’s Instagram: @erin_travelsforlife Rachel’s Instagram: @iamrachelbrooks The Confident Woman Podcast: @theconfidentwomanpodcast Facebook: The Confident Woman Podcast Quotes: “We’re not ever going to be enough when we compare to somebody else’s life.” -Rachel “If you’re broken, why do you want somebody to come complete you? You should come already complete.” -Rachel  “I used to think, ‘once I hit this, this, this, and this, I can just stroll through life easily.’ Wrong.” -Erin
15:00
July 17, 2019
11: Keeping Your Self-Worth in Check.
Rachel and Erin are talking today about realizing your self-worth outside of your physical body. They saw this topic being asked about on Facebook, and it’s something that they have both personally dealt with. Rachel believes that your self-identity has nothing to do with your physical attributes. We all know that we’re going to age over time, but when we’re tied to knowing who we are, then self-worth comes from within. Erin explains that we should focus on being healthy because we care about ourselves, not because we want to fit into a certain size. We are the most critical of our own being. Even though you could see someone with a seemingly perfect body, you have no idea how much pain that person may be carrying. The more in-tune we are with ourselves, the easier it is to find our identity and purpose. We need to ask ourselves, “why?” When we love ourselves whole-heartedly, what other people say won’t matter. Enjoy the show! Timestamps:  [03:08] How Rachel and Erin have changed the way they view themselves [07:01] Comparing yourself to physically fit people [11:14] Finding your identity Resources: Erin’s Instagram: @erin_travelsforlife Rachel’s Instagram: @iamrachelbrooks The Confident Woman Podcast Instagram: @theconfidentwomanpodcast Facebook: The Confident Woman Podcast Quotes: “Look at yourself for who you are, and that comes from inside.” -Rachel “We measure success based on what we see, and seeing is believing. But if we have faith within ourselves, that’s believing without seeing.” -Rachel “Is it because you care about yourself and you’re healthy and you want to reflect that? Or is it just because you want to look good and take cool bikini pictures for Instagram?” -Erin 
15:55
July 10, 2019
10: Are You Making Time For Self-Care?
In this episode, Rachel and Erin discuss how to make time for self-care. Setting yourself as a priority is a must. Every day, Rachel schedules time for herself. She moves her body, feeds her mind, and nourishes her soul. If Rachel is not at her optimal peak, then she cannot be her best self to serve her business, marriage, or friends. One suggestion is to incorporate getting up thirty minutes before you usually go into your routine. Tap into the passions that you would like to do. If you have downtime, then you can fulfill some of your needs by writing or taking a moment to breathe. For Erin, fun is her number one priority. She worked so hard for six years, her life was never fun. Then, she started traveling and barely worked hard at all. Erin learned she needs to be present where she is. If she’s with family, then think about being present with them. If you’re in business mode, then be present and work hard.  Enjoy the show! Timestamps:  [01:00] Rachel’s self-care [04:55] Erin’s self-care [09:15] Having boundaries  Resources: Erin’s Instagram: @erin_travelsforlife Rachel’s Instagram: @iamrachelbrooks The Confident Woman Podcast Instagram: @theconfidentwomanpodcast Facebook: The Confident Woman Podcast Quotes: “Each morning, I find a way to nourish my soul.” -Rachel “Fun is my number one priority.” -Erin “I make time by waking up earlier, or shifting things to accommodate for later.” -Rachel “No matter what I’m doing, be present in that.” -Erin
13:46
July 3, 2019
9: What's the Quality of Your Inner Circle?
In this episode, Rachel and Erin discuss the people in your inner circle and how they affect you. Are the people you spend time with adding value to your life and vice versa? You cannot really help who your immediate family may be, or who your coworkers may be, but remember that you are the average of the five people you spend most of your time with. Be open to change and grow when meeting others to bring you to the next level. We all have the same simple problems, but if we sit around and complain about them, nothing will happen. To find solutions, you’ll have to look externally with an open heart. You do not have to completely cut ties with others. Start by trimming down the time you spend with them and evaluate if they are adding value to your day or not. Enjoy the show! Timestamps:  [01:30] Surround yourself with like-minded people  [05:10] Broaden your spectrum with an open mind  [08:30] You need to find new friends   [10:20] Trim back on time with negative people [12:30] Find people to inspire you  Resources: Erin’s Instagram: @erin_travelsforlife Rachel’s Instagram: @iamrachelbrooks The Confident Woman Podcast Instagram: @theconfidentwomanpodcast Facebook: The Confident Woman Podcast Quotes: “You become who you surround yourself with.” -Rachel “Be around those people that force you to level-up.” -Erin “We all have problems; we have to look externally for a solution.” -Rachel “I want to be around people who are talking about ideas, goals, and solutions.” -Erin
18:12
June 26, 2019
8: Is Self-Doubt Killing Your Dreams?
In this episode, Rachel and Erin discuss something that can either kill or propel you forward: self-doubt. When we are on a path of self-doubt, it becomes lonely and daunting. Questions will start to fill our head and ultimately stunt our growth. Instead of letting obstacles throw you off your path, keep your eyes on the big prize and move forward! When something takes a long time, more self-doubt creeps in. If you have a driving passion, it will propel you forward to the lofty goal. Have faith in your purpose, calling, and know that it will always work out. Having setbacks is never the end-all-be-all when you hit rock bottom. The only way you can go is up!  Enjoy the show! Timestamps:  [00:30] Self-doubt will kill your dreams [05:20] Setting long-term goals  [07:20] Rachel is in the process of getting her book published [10:15] The fear of starting [12:40] Finding the lesson in the blessing  Resources: Erin’s Instagram: @erin_travelsforlife Rachel’s Instagram: @iamrachelbrooks The Confident Woman Podcast Instagram: @theconfidentwomanpodcast Facebook: The Confident Woman Podcast Quotes: “We have to set small, measurable, actionable steps to reach our goals.” -Rachel “You might need to correct course.” -Erin “Stay on your path, and your why.” -Rachel “I give myself five minutes to be mad at something.” -Erin
16:15
June 19, 2019
7: What It Means to Be Your Best Self.
In this episode, Rachel and Erin discuss what it actually means to be your best self. Becoming your best self is a work in progress, and everything that we work on comes together to create that life balance. It is so easy to focus on your weaknesses; however, the majority of your focus should be on your strengths. Self-awareness is essential for this, and inner work is necessary before doing the external work. The first step is figuring out what it means to be your best self; find clarity to dictate the actions you will take to accomplish your goals. This past year, Erin has been wondering if her life fulfills her purpose and what her true mission is. Stay focused on doing the best you can with what is natural and authentic to you.  Enjoy the show! Timestamps:  [01:00] YOUR best self, not someone else’s best self [03:55] Focusing on strengths and having self-awareness  [07:30] The clarity factor: think about what your best self means [09:40] Erin is still working on being her best self [11:35] Isn’t it funny how day-by-day nothing changes?  Resources: Erin’s Instagram: @erin_travelsforlife Rachel’s Instagram: @iamrachelbrooks The Confident Woman Podcast Instagram: @theconfidentwomanpodcast Facebook: The Confident Woman Podcast Quotes: “Stay in our lane; focus on what we can do and what suits us.” -Rachel “When you show up as your best self, it inspires others to be their best self too.” -Erin “Focus on what you do best, and outsource the rest.” -Rachel “Becoming your best self is a lifelong journey.” -Erin
14:26
June 12, 2019
6: Whatever You Do, Just Keep Moving Forward.
In this episode, Rachel and Erin discuss headlines we see daily telling us the must-dos, must-sees, and tips on living our best lives. If we have not done those things or are not doing those things, self-doubt is created and the thoughts that we are not enough. However, Rachel and Erin want to remind us that as long as we are being true to ourselves, we are doing exactly what we need to be doing. If you do not know where you are going, but you are moving in some sort of direction, that is a lot better than being stuck. Honestly, you do not understand something for sure unless you try it. Make the consistent decision to keep moving forward and stay grateful for those times where you may have been confused. When we rush everything, we forget to take in the moments of what we really are trying to do.   Enjoy the show! Timestamps:  [00:50] Creating self-doubt because we are not enough  [04:50] Not having clarity on where you are going is okay  [07:00] Keep setting goals to find that clarity  [09:30] Celebrating and being excited about the minor goals  [11:45] Purpose and awareness; wanting more through growth and expansion  [13:20] Miley Cyrus “The Climb”   [16:30] One size does not fit all; we all do not need to make it to the top  Resources: Erin’s Instagram: @erin_travelsforlife Rachel’s Instagram: @iamrachelbrooks The Confident Woman Podcast Instagram: @theconfidentwomanpodcast Facebook: The Confident Woman Podcast Quotes: “When you show up and do you, that is the one thing.” -Rachel “Do you ever notice motivational speakers always talk about their worst moments?” -Erin “If I didn’t have a purpose of achieving, there was no worth of me staying in that position.” -Rachel “I am grateful for where I am, but I want more.” -Erin
21:59
June 5, 2019
5: How to Set Boundaries to Respect Yourself.
In this episode, Rachel and Erin discuss how to set boundaries to respect yourself and others. Rachel has no problem talking to anybody, but she needs to respect herself and know she cannot always afford to have a forty-five-minute conversation. The people that are closest to us are the ones that tend to test our boundaries the most. For example, Erin’s mom was not supportive of a business she was involved with. Erin had to tell her that they did not need to talk about it any further even though she thinks highly of her mother. Consistency is vital with boundary setting. Understand that it may cause conflict at first, but ultimately, clear communication, respect, and appreciation will occur. Also, consider who you are spending your time with. People change and relationships will dwindle, how far are you willing to hold yourself back to maintain those relationships? Either your friends will catch up, or they will fall off.  Enjoy the show! Timestamps:  [02:20] How far are you willing to let yourself go at the expense of others? [05:30] Be consistent with your boundary setting [09:20] Who are you willing to spend your time with?  [12:15] Force yourself to spend time with people who make you uncomfortable [15:00] Differentiating between what you want to hear and the cold hard truth Resources: Erin’s Instagram: @erin_travelsforlife Rachel’s Instagram: @iamrachelbrooks The Confident Woman Podcast Instagram: @theconfidentwomanpodcast Facebook: The Confident Woman Podcast Quotes: “I didn’t have a clear and loving boundary set for myself.” -Rachel “The people that are closest to us are the ones that test our boundaries the most.” -Erin “As you grow, you’ll outgrow.” -Rachel “Sometimes, you grow out of relationships.” -Erin
17:47
May 29, 2019
4: The Dirty “C” Word. And It's Not What You Think.
In this episode, Rachel and Erin discuss the “C” word?!  Comparison literally sucks the joy out of you. Previously, Rachel and Erin explained how toxic it can be to compare your life to the lives of others on social media; however, comparison can still rear its ugly head in real life too! Erin points out that our joy should not be found by being better than those around us, our happiness should be found by being the best possible version of ourselves. Rachel and Erin have completely different strengths, but they both bring a lot to the table and strive off of each other. Understanding what you may not be the best at is the first step in a successful collaboration. Use other people’s strengths to help you both move forward toward a common goal. Later, we learn how to ask for help and why we need to be supporting each other.  Enjoy the show! Timestamps:  • [02:20] Our joy should not be found in being better than others • [04:00] Using others for inspiration rather than copying their content • [05:30] Comparison versus collaboration  • [10:55] Ask yourself how you can support others  • [13:10] Competition can be healthy  Resources: Erin’s Instagram: @erin_travelsforlife Rachel’s Instagram: @iamrachelbrooks The Confident Woman Podcast Instagram: @theconfidentwomanpodcast Facebook: The Confident Woman Podcast Quotes: • “Comparison stunts us from what we are actually able to do with our lives.” -Rachel • “I need to compare myself to who I was before and where I want to go.” -Erin • “We have to collaborate because we are not going to be the best at everything.” -Rachel • “Competition pushes you to be better.” -Erin 
15:02
May 22, 2019
3: Fakers Faking It vs. Makers Making It.
In this episode, Rachel and Erin discuss the difference between fakers faking it and makers making it. Often you will hear people telling you to fake it until you make it, but really you should be making it until you make it! If you are continually faking it, people will start to question your integrity. Instead of faking it, try VAT: vulnerability, authenticity, and transparency. You will actually connect more with people when you are keeping it real. At the end of the day, if you are faking your own personality, you will eventually lose yourself along the way. Then, Rachel and Erin explain why no one is faultless when they first start trying something new and why you should not have to hide that fact. Enjoy the show! Timestamps:  [00:30] Do not fake it until you make it [03:40] Vulnerability, authenticity, and transparency [06:10] Imposter syndrome happens when you start doubting yourself   [07:30] Flip the script on the perspective society has taught us  [09:10] Not being perfect when you first start a new venture  [13:50] You do not have to be flawless to share your story with others Resources: Erin’s Instagram: @erin_travelsforlife Rachel’s Instagram: @iamrachelbrooks The Confident Woman Podcast Instagram: @theconfidentwomanpodcast Facebook: The Confident Woman Podcast Quotes: “Keep doing one thing at a time, over time, and you’ll make it!” -Rachel “No one expects you to have a high level of success when you first start doing something.” -Erin “You just need to be a few steps ahead of the person behind you.” -Rachel “Your ego is not your amigo.” -Erin
17:22
May 22, 2019
2: The Difference Between Confidence, Arrogance & Humility.
In this episode, Rachel and Erin discuss confidence, arrogance, humility, and the difference between them. Their goal with this episode is to promote confidence and humility, not so much arrogance. Confidence is owning yourself whereas arrogance is the feeling of being better than others. Often people with arrogance will show off on their Instagram and lower other people’s confidence who are looking at these pictures. Whereas people with confidence do not need to spend a lot of money to prove that they make a lot of money. Owning who you are means showing up as you naturally present and knowing that you bring enough to the table. Then, the two talk about why success has no correlation with the money you make and how clarity is essential for feeling fulfillment. Clarity is knowing what you are driven to do and how you are going to get there. Later, Erin and Rachel explain how to learn from others rather than copying their moves. Enjoy the show! Timestamps:  [00:30] The difference between confidence, arrogance, and humility [03:30] Striving to be humbly successful  [05:50] Success is doing anything you want to do [07:30] The first step in gaining clarity   [12:55] Honing-in on success principles  Resources: The Millionaire Next Door: The Surprising Secrets of America's Wealthy Erin’s Instagram: @erin_travelsforlife Rachel’s Instagram: @iamrachelbrooks The Confident Woman Podcast Instagram: @theconfidentwomanpodcast Facebook: The Confident Woman Podcast Quotes: “Confidence comes from owning where you’re at and trusting that you’re living life with a purpose.” -Rachel “Success is doing anything you want to do because you want to do it.” -Erin “Clarity is staying focused on what you’re good at.” -Rachel
16:27
May 22, 2019
1: Welcome to The Confident Woman Podcast.
In this episode, Rachel Brooks and Erin Klein introduce themselves; they met at an event a couple of years ago and really hit it off. They are both entrepreneurs who work with their spouses, now their relationship is watching one another grow into the confident woman. This podcast is about their journeys and travels, they want to own their stories. Rachel has taken a love of fitness and health and transitioned it into writing. She is currently publishing her first book, a fitness memoir. Erin went to a small college in Columbus, Ohio and changed her major every semester. Erin realized confidence comes from repeating the same steps and building it over time. The two women vow to be their true authentic, transparent, and vulnerable selves in each episode. Future episodes will include topics on confidence, body image, relationships, business, finances, fitness, freedom, and travel. Their number one passion is their entrepreneurial background followed by their love for seeing the world.  Enjoy the show! Timestamps:  [00:40] How Rachel and Erin met  [02:15] About Rachel Brooks [04:20] About Erin Klein [06:55] Being confident enough to make mistakes [09:00] Chasing perfection, but it doesn’t exist  Resources: Erin’s Instagram: @erin_travelsforlife Rachel’s Instagram: @iamrachelbrooks The Confident Woman Podcast Instagram: @theconfidentwomanpodcast Facebook: The Confident Woman Podcast Quotes: “We are all looking for people to encourage us to be better versions of ourselves.” -Erin “If I am not failing every single day then something is wrong.” -Rachel “Authenticity and transparency are my top two values.” -Erin “It’s okay to be perfectly imperfect.” -Rachel
12:11
May 22, 2019
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