The Dare to Dream Podcast
By Vincent Van Patten & Gregory Benedikt
Our dreams are often put on hold because society rewards being realistic and reasonable. Only after we achieve traditional success metrics such as a secure job can we afford to think about what makes us feel alive. Sadly, many of us die having never really lived. Some of us, however, refuse to settle for an ordinary life. We Dare to Dream of living a life we truly love while striving to put a dent in the universe by living most irregularly. Join Vincent Van Patten and Gregory Russell Benedikt, as they embark on a grand adventure to find what lights their souls on fire.
DTD #45: Listening To Your Inner Voice Will Make Life a Whole Lot Better
Your inner voice; it's probably talking to you right now. The angel and the devil on your shoulders. We often give our inner voice a negative connotation as it can manifest as the inner critic. But what about when it whispers of our dreams and deepest desires. Do we heed the call when it tells us to follow our hearts and take a risk? When it tells us to go out of our way to lend a hand. Why don't we listen to it? It's scary. It tells us to do what's unconventional, what goes against the norm, what we've always done. We are seeking happiness and success but often ignore the advice coming from the source that knows us best: our consciousness. In the words of Viktor Frankl, "Listen to what your conscience commands you to do and go on to carry it out to the best of your knowledge. Then you will live to see that in the long run—in the long run, I say!—success will follow you precisely because you had forgotten to think of it."
October 23, 2021
DTD #44: Building Dreams in the Digital Space, with Tech-Focused Entrepreneur Tallulah Daly
Entrepreneur and business owner Tallulah Daly is one cool, composed, tech-savvy woman. Tallulah grew up in Malibu, CA, yet defied the odds when she decided to move across the country to study computer engineering and business technology at the NYU School of Engineering. Her professors told her she wouldn't pass; however Tallulah wasn't just another student waiting to crumble. She used this ostensible discouragement as fuel for her fire. While in New York, she spent what free time she had studying for school, but also exploring her interests in tech and software. Once New York could no longer handle her heat, Tallulah returned to her beloved Malibu to create her own company, Bluewater Road Tech and Design, where she helps her community and all those seeking the path to technological nirvana achieve their dreams. Tallulah never took the conventional route; at a young age she's paving her own way and may serve as a shining example of what's possible when we listen to ourselves over the doubters, the haters, and all those who try to keep us from reaching higher. Show notes: Bluewater Road Tech and Design Tallulah's Instagram Tallulah's LinkedIn Join Gregory's Weekly Wonderings Join Vincent's Weekly Insights Order Vincent's book Arrows of Youth
October 15, 2021
DTD #43: You're on Your Path. Enjoy Every Second of It
We don’t know what we’re doing, but we’re having a hell of a lot of fun along the way. Join us for a comical dialogue on philosophy, vulnerability, love, and the modern dating culture. We include personal strategies on how we plan for the future while staying fully in the present. We ask some big questions and, as always, act as if we have the answers. Much of this conversation revolves around the following quote by Aubrey Marcus: “I spent so much of my life worried about what I was going to become, and whether I was going to be right here right now. God, how much time did I waste afraid that I wasn’t going to be right here right now? If I could change, the only thing I’d change about my whole life would be fearing less that I weren’t going to get here, the place that I was going anyway. I wouldn’t change all the mistakes and mishaps, I needed those, but all the constant worry that I wasn’t going to make it that took me out of the moment. It took me out of enjoying the experiences, smiling or eating my lunch or doing whatever I was doing. Know your mission, have faith you’re going to get there, wherever you go, it’s going to be alright. Just find ways to get out of your head.” Tune in to learn how we attempt to let go of the stress in life to enjoy the twists and turns of this beautiful journey. Show Notes: Aubrey Marcus on the Modern Wisdom Podcast The Jordan B. Peterson Podcast, Sex and Dating Apps The Greatest Empire: A Life of Seneca, by Emily Wilson To Have or to Be, by Erich Fromm Join Vincent's Weekly Insights Join Gregory's Weekly Wonderings Order Vincent's book Arrows of Youth
September 30, 2021
DTD #42: How to Find Your Way When the World Keeps Telling You No, With Vincent Van Patten Sr.
Vincent Van Patten Sr. has paved his way in the world through perseverance, love, and grit. On this episode of The Dare to Dream Podcast, we had the pleasure of sitting down with Vinny’s dad, Vincent, to discuss his continual search to find his edge in life. It was never easy. No heartbreaking defeat could hold him back on his journey to becoming a top twenty-five professional tennis player in the world. From there, Vincent’s story takes various twists and turns that have made him who he is today. The only thing that remained consistent through it all is his ability to keep going when the world told him no. We discuss: — Transitioning from a child actor to Rookie of the Year on the professional tennis circuit. — Creating the biggest home poker game in the world. — How he came back stronger from every setback. — His creative process, and passion for writing and filmmaking. This episode is full of hilarious and inspiring stories you don’t want to miss.
September 24, 2021
DTD #41: Raising The Bar of Happiness With Entrepreneur and Spiritual Sage, Matt Winkley
At age 26, with a broken heart and a burning desire to be his own boss, our guest Matt Winkley moved across the country and started asking these big questions: What would it be like to not answer to anyone? What would it be like to wake up and create my own time? What would it be like to chart my own path? These questions led to Matt starting a multi-million dollar company out of his apartment, which has helped thousands of kids on the autism spectrum get the therapy they need. Throughout his extraordinary life, Matt has realized that the key to being ridiculously and unbelievably happy is to know exactly what you want and why you want it. What would a 10/10 look like in your health, your finances, your relationships, and your spirituality? We hope this episode helps you consider these questions sincerely and honestly. Join us as we discuss Matt's formula for raising the bar of happiness and why you need to put your dreams back on the table. We also explore Matt's deep spiritual journey into Sufism. He explains how taking off your armor can allow you to experience life in a new way. Matt taught us that dreams aren't easy to achieve--but we are all capable of reaching them. _ Show Notes: Matt's Instagram The Art of Happiness Wayne Dyer Join Gregory's Weekly Wonderings Join Vincent's Weekly Insights Order Vincent's book Arrows of Youth
September 16, 2021
DTD #40: Open Your Eyes and Strengthen Your Heart With Content Creator & Holistic Nutritionist, Isa De Burgh
It’s never too early to take full control of your health and overall wellbeing. In fact, if you’re young like us, it’s about time you do. Perhaps you want to—you know you should make some changes, but you don’t know where to start. This is the episode for you. This insightful conversation with content creator and holistic nutritionist Isa De Burgh opened up our eyes and strengthened our hearts, not just as we laughed with Isa, but because of the healthful practices we explored. We discuss nutrition, sleeping, hormones (guys, you need to hear this), movement, and most of all, what makes us truly come alive. This conversation was an absolute treasure trove of practical knowledge. Isa is making waves in the wellness industry through her platform, The Social Tale. She’s a plant food connoisseur, specializing in creating plant-based alternatives to favorite recipes. Isa regularly shares her knowledge of nutrition for mental health, as well as helping eco-friendly & non-toxic brands gain awareness through social media strategy and promotion. This episode felt like a breath of fresh air; we hope you feel as inspired as we do! Show Notes: Isa De Burgh on Instagram IsaTales.com Eat Smarter, by Shawn Stevenson Maddie Miles on Instagram Why We Sleep, by Matthew Walker Huberman Lab Podcast Alisa Vitti - floliving.com Join Gregory's Weekly Wonderings Join Vincent's Weekly Insights Order Vincent's book Arrows of Youth
September 10, 2021
DTD #39: Overcoming Fear & Finding Yourself with Digital Nomad Tom Kuegler
This is a very special episode, and evidence of what is possible when we Dare to Dream! Tom Kuegler is a business owner, a vlogger, and top writer on Medium.com where he created the publication The Post Grad Survival Guide, which sports more than a half a million page views per month. Ever since stumbling upon Tom’s digital nomad lifestyle in college, Vinny has dreamed of connecting with him and asking meaningful questions about his journey. Fast forward a few years and Vinny’s dream came true when we brought Tom onto The Dare to Dream Podcast. Join us for a conversation with Tom that was hilarious and vulnerable. We discuss overcoming the fear of being our authentic self, comparing ourselves to others—especially on social media—and getting closer to discovering who we truly are. Tom tells us about his years spent living in the Philippines and what it’s like finding his place in his new home, Mexico City. Show Notes: Findingtom.com Tom on Medium Tom on YouTube Join Gregory's Weekly Wonderings Join Vincent's Weekly Insights Order Vincent's book Arrows of Youth
September 2, 2021
DTD #38: The Stellar Life of Rad Dad and Fitness Legend, Dan Miller
From the snowy mountains of Colorado to the beaches of Australia; from a restaurant founder and owner of eleven years to being a lead on the soul-crushing, character-testing SealFit program, our guest, Dan Miller, has led a stellar life. Join us as we discuss what Danny is currently pursuing and developing in the world of fitness, the importance of solitary travel regardless of what stage of life you’re in, how your world changes when you start a family, and much more. Danny is a husband and girl dad of two daughters. He was a rad 80-90’s neon wearing mogul skier, a successful restaurant owner, and an OG CrossFit level two coach and box owner. Danny was the first civilian lead on the SealFit Kokoro coaching staff, and continues to push the boundaries of what is possible personally, and in relation to helping others recognize their potential. He currently owns 2120 Fitness in Del Mar, CA. Show Notes: The 4 Hr-Workweek, by Tim Ferris The Comfort Crisis, by Michael Easter Join Vincent's Weekly Insights Join Gregory's Weekly Wonderings Order Vincent's book Arrows of Youth
August 27, 2021
DTD #37: Forget About Success and Listen to Your Intuition
Success. Money. Happiness. Love. These are all targets that many of us are aiming at. Yet what if the best way to attain these outcomes was to forget about them entirely? Austrian psychiatrist and Holocaust survivor Viktor Frankl says: "success, like happiness, cannot be pursued; it must ensue, and it only does so as the unintended side-effect of one's personal dedication to a cause greater than oneself or as the by-product of one's surrender to a person other than oneself. Happiness must happen, and the same holds for success: you have to let it happen by not caring about it." In this episode, we dive deep into multiple perspectives on success and suffering, ranging from Frankl to Buddha to Jordan Peterson. We explore why we agree that following our natural curiosity and intuition is the right choice while acknowledging that it's damn hard to know we are aiming at the right thing. Join us for another episode of self-inquiry, deep discovery, and big questions you don't want to ask yourself right before bed! Show Notes Man's Search for Meaning - Viktor Frankl The Four Noble Truths Jordan Peterson Sadhguru Join Vincent's Weekly Insights Join Gregory's Weekly Wonderings Order Vincent's book Arrows of Youth
August 23, 2021
DTD #36: Mastery Means Treating Everything With a Light Touch
There will always be moments in life that weigh heavy on our shoulders. But what if we could handle all of life, even these weighty experiences, with a light touch? This, according to renowned psychologist Jordan Peterson, is true mastery—to move through life with a light spirit and tread lightly on this Earth. Life deserves our respect, but that doesn’t mean any situation is too important to be handled with humor, grace, and authenticity. In this episode, we also discuss: — You can’t lose if you’re giving everything you have. — Writing and sharing who you want to be, to inspire you to walk the walk. — Tips and tricks to make your morning routine a glorious one. — Not being afraid to share who you are, and what you’re working on. Show Notes: Huberman Lab Jordan Peterson Biblical Series XV: Joseph and the Coat of Many Colors The Secrets of Taoism: Aubrey Marcus interviews Daniele Bolelli Join Vincent's Weekly Insights Join Gregory's Weekly Wonderings Order Vincent's book Arrows of Youth
August 15, 2021
DTD #35: Your Problems Are Making You Grow—Why You Shouldn't Wish They Were Different
The Dare to Dream Podcast is our way to share what we’re learning, how we’re growing through challenges, and what’s inspiring us to think differently. In this episode, we share our thoughts following a day of incredible wellness practices. Through breathwork, cold and heat exposure, and Qigong, we shook up the body and inspired the mind. Yes, we were those guys in the park doing Qigong. We also discuss what it’s like for people to doubt your dreams, and why you shouldn’t wish your problems were different. This was a fun episode based on new and personal experiences; onward and upward friends. Show Notes: How To Make Your Life HEAVEN w/ Ben Greenfield | Aubrey Marcus Podcast Wim Hof Method What Is Qigong? Jay Shetty Light Watkins Join Gregory's Weekly Wonderings Join Vincent's Weekly Insights Order Vincent's book: Arrows of Youth
August 3, 2021
DTD #34: Lessons from the Tao Te Ching to Help Us Ease Into the Flow of Life
In life, there is a time for doing, often by pushing towards a goal with determination. There is also time for stepping back, reflecting, and letting our path naturally unfold. Like the forces of nature, they are both necessary for our growth. The Tao Te Ching is the ancient Chinese text of Taoism and the forces of Yin and Yang, a philosophical concept that has become increasingly alluring as we seek guidance to help us find the flow between extremes. As two young lads in the pursuit of meaning, we’ve found that there are incredible lessons to be gleaned from this text. What we find captivating about Taoism is its positive nature, its reliance on reconnecting with the source and flow of life, the Tao, and its sheer simplicity. Anybody can pick up the Tao Te Ching and have their life changed profoundly. We hope this podcast gives you an entertaining introduction! We also discuss: —Looking at our challenges from a different perspective —Cultivating patience when life doesn’t unfold on our timetable —Shining a positive spin on the question, “what if?” —Greg’s experience at Toastmasters! —It’s okay, even necessary, to be the outlier in a crazy world Show Notes: The Aubrey Marcus Podcast with guest Daniele Bolelli The Model Health Show with guest Dr. Michael Beckwith Join Vincent's Weekly Insights Join Gregory's Weekly Wonderings Order Vincent's book Arrows of Youth
July 23, 2021
DTD #33: Don't Give Up On Your Dreams, Ever.
On episode #33 of the Dare to Dream Podcast, we had the pleasure of hosting actress and life coach Betsy Russell. Betsy has led an exciting life of going for her dreams, leaving home to pursue acting at seventeen years old. We dive into the process of getting to know ourselves, focusing more on being and less on doing, and learning how to understand our thoughts. Betsy is also Vinny's mom, perhaps the bravest endeavor of all. :) Other discussion topics include: — Ways to get to know yourself, so you can move through life as the truest version of you. — Loving all of life and seeing the beauty wherever you can. — How our moods act as the filter through which we see the world. — Why removing yourself from the room is sometimes the best strategy. — How it takes bravery to even admit you have a dream you’d like to pursue. — The Three Principles of thought, mind, and consciousness. — How to build relationships with people we admire without overcomplicating it. And most importantly, how we are all exactly where we are supposed to be. Show Notes: - The Three Principles - Wherever You Go, There You Are - John Kabat-Zinn
July 15, 2021
DTD #32: Being In the Trenches of Your Own Heart and Soul
Daring to dream is a daily commitment of believing that there is something more to go for; it’s realizing we can get more from ourselves, that this life is worth giving everything we have. Yet more doesn’t mean accumulating things on the surface. Perhaps more is grappling with a worthwhile problem, getting down and dirty in the trenches of our own heart and soul. Should we derive value from the things, the relationships, the job we have? Or, should we derive self-worth from what’s inside of us—the experiences we’ve had and what we’ve overcome; how we’ve let go of the past, and who we were? On this episode we also discuss: — Anthony Bourdain, and how our own expectations can cause us to see our accomplishments as meaningless if not up to our own personal standards. — Can one be happy knowing there’s always more to strive for? — Fostering joy and being a light throughout the vicissitudes of life. — A couple of comical stories from Greg and Vinny's travels! Show Notes: Order Vincent’s book: Arrows of Youth Kitchen Confidential Deluxe Edition, by Anthony Bourdain Knowing Where to Look, by Light Watkins Maps of Meaning, by Jordan Peterson
July 7, 2021
DTD #31: Stop Waiting For Permission to Change Your Life
It’s been a year since the two of us joined forces, jumped into the void of uncertainty, and began living the lives we were born to live. While we certainly don’t have it all figured out—nothing, really—we have learned a great deal about what we love, what provides us with joy and meaning, and the change in ourselves we want to continue cultivating. On this episode, we discuss what it means to tread our own path, which seems to unfold with every step we take. We don’t need to have every step of the way laid out. When we worry about the future, we often lose sight of the fact that this step we are on, wherever we are on our journey, is a gift. With patience and gratitude, every step of the journey will unfold as it’s intended to. Act, do what needs to be done, but appreciate where you are. Show Notes: Order Arrows of Youth: A Young Man's Inspiring Journey to Find What Lights His Soul on Fire, by Vincent Van Patten Join Gregory’s Weekly Wonderings Join Vincent’s Weekly Insights Maps of Meaning, by Jordan Peterson The Hero With a Thousand Faces, by Joseph Campbell Pick yourself, by Seth Godin
June 30, 2021
DTD #30: Focus On Today and the Future Will Take Care of Itself
When we give our absolute attention to the moment, it feels like time fades away and becomes nonexistent. We’re not focused on the future or the past—we’re too engaged with what’s right in front of us. It seems like we have to plan for the future or our world will crumble; it can feel impossible to let the past remain in the past. But what if all that worry, angst, and fear meant nothing? What if we saw each and every day as a blank slate, where our only aim is to give it everything we have? Every conversation would possess life-changing potential, for us or the other person in the conversation. The experience of daily life would be an adventure, as it should be. When we focus on nothing but the day and the task at hand, the future will take care of itself. On this episode of The Dare to Dream Podcast, we also discuss: —Being the fool, as the fool is the apprentice eager to learn. —Showing up as often as we can, and just seeing how it goes. —What sacrifice means, and if it’s worth sacrificing for a future we aren’t enamored by. —Breaking down the barriers with strangers; how to stray away from the shallow end into deep conversations. Show Notes - Beyond Order - Jordan Peterson - Knowing Where to Look - Light Watkins - The Ed Mylett Show
June 19, 2021
DTD #29: Dare to Dream Goes Pro
Last week we turned the page—now we’re starting a new chapter. With new mics and summer upon us, we’re excited. As we both seek guidance and wisdom from others who have been in our shoes before, we’re discovering that nobody knows the right path we should embark on, what we should pursue, or how we should live. Only we know what feels right to us, which is perhaps a blend of the different perspectives we’ve garnered. As we question the next steps we’ll be taking as individuals, we’ve found that there’s tremendous joy, peace, and meaning found in the stillness and the unknown. It may be unnerving not knowing what the future holds. Yet it’s also a time full of limitless possibilities when we see each day as a chance for the extraordinary to unfold. In this episode we also discuss: — Vinny's book Arrows of Youth, coming out in just a couple of weeks! Join his Weekly Insights for early access! — Adding a celebration clause to every goal — Viewing life through a storytelling lens — Our working definition of anxiety Show notes: How To DESTROY NEGATIVE THOUGHTS & Master Self-Discipline! | Light Watkins & Shawn Stevenson Knowing Where to Look, by Light Watkins Arrowsofyouthbook.com LIFE LESSONS That Will Change EVERYTHING with Satsang | Aubrey Marcus Podcast Homework for Life | Matthew Dicks | TEDxBerkshires
June 13, 2021
DTD #28: We're Turning A Page
We’re turning a page—perhaps you feel it too. The tides are shifting and a new story is ready to be written. On this episode of the Dare to Dream Podcast, we throw it back to episode one by returning to Zoom by necessity; but don’t let this deter you! This episode is powerful, as Vincent reads a story from The More Beautiful World Our Hearts Know Is Possible, a book by writer, public speaker, and social philosopher Charles Eisenstein that has drastically changed his perspective about the world and our current situation. We laugh hard and have a heck of a lot of fun—join us as we turn the page into a new story and discuss the future of The Dare to Dream Podcast. We can’t wait to share this time with you. Show Notes Aubrey Marcus Podcast - Charles Eisenstein The More Beautiful World Our Hearts Know Is Possible - Charles Eisenstein
June 6, 2021
DTD #27: Gratitude, Leadership, & Breathing Deeply
If you focus on what you lack, you'll lose what you have. If you focus on what you have, you'll gain what you lack. Greg McKeown, the author of Essentialism, describes this as one of his key life principles. His recent appearance on the Modern Wisdom podcast as well as Aubrey Marcus's latest podcast with leadership expert Simon Sinek gave us an abundance of interesting ideas to discuss. Some of our favorites we explore in the episode are: Are you rushing through your life? Why taking six deep breaths before dinner is a good idea How gratitude is the key to unlocking a better life Why it's impossible to feel fear, anger, guilt, or shame while in a grateful state How gratitude changes your brain (enter reticular activating system) Saying one thing you are grateful for after every time you complain The 1,000 mistake rule And much more! Join us for an upbeat episode full of laughter and learning. Show Notes: Modern Wisdom - Greg McKweon Essentialism - Greg McKweon Aubrey Marcus Podcast - Simon Sinek Jordan Peterson
May 22, 2021
DTD #26: How to Feel Grounded and Move Forward Through Seasons of Uncertainty
Perhaps you’re not exactly where you want to be. You are somewhere, of course; but often it’s easier or less frightening, not to stop and look around, not to ask questions, in fear of what the answer might be. Are you happy with your career, your relationships, your path? You may not know exactly what you want; very few people do. But do you feel like you are standing on solid ground? Or do you feel ungrounded, lost, and unsure of what next steps to take? To get to where we want to go, we first must recognize where we are. This can be disheartening, as it makes us face reality. We can no longer wish and hope that things will work themselves out. We can’t hide issues, adverse situations, and character flaws in the fog. We must honestly assess where we are and face our situation if we wish to ground ourselves. It is only from this solid foundation that we can begin to move forward. Join us as we discuss personal strategies on how we re-ground ourselves when we feel like we have wandered off course. If you are facing uncertainty in your life, whether career or relationship-related, we hope this episode will inspire you to start thinking deeply about your life. Your future should excite you; but to get to that dream, you must first face the music of your current reality. If it’s not what it should be, it’s time to make a change. Show Notes Jordan Peterson - The Psychology of The Flood David Epstein - Why Specializing Early Doesn't Always Mean Career Success Join Gregory's Weekly Wonderings Join Vincent's Weekly Insights
May 7, 2021
DTD #25: How Thinking Deeply Will Shape Your Habits
When was the last time that you set aside time for some meaningful introspection? Put another way, how often do you let yourself sit in your own thoughts guilt-free with no distractions, no multi-tasking, and no technology? We often talk about making time to journal as a way to reflect. But in this episode, we discuss why we must make time to do nothing but contemplate who we currently are, who we want to become, and if we’re happy with how our actions are moving us closer or further away from that ideal future self. In today’s fast-paced society, we often only consider these deeper questions during times of turmoil and struggle. We think about our relationships once one is going up in flames, or we decide to change our fitness habits only when we are no longer willing to accept the number that blinks back at us on the scale. We don’t have to wait to hit rock bottom to make a change. That’s one way to take action, but there’s a better way. From making technology-free daily walks a routine to exploring the benefits (and social costs) of doing sober months, we get specific on how our lives are being shaped by our goals and aspirations. If we’re proactive, we may start living the life of our dreams before life tells us to change by taking back our time and savoring every second. On a recent episode of Chris Williamson’s Modern Wisdom podcast, Williamson claims that sobriety is both a productivity tool and the best competitive advantage currently available. This claim definitely got our wheels turning and inspired much of this episode. Join us for personal anecdotes, deep questions, and a lot of laughter! Show notes: Honored to have our good buddy Thatcher craft up our official intro/outro. Find his SoundCloud below: https://soundcloud.com/thatcha Modern Wisdom Episode #313 - Cancel Culture, Sobriety & Identity Change Sadhguru - Inner Engineering Join Gregory's Weekly Wonderings Join Vincent's Weekly Insights
April 30, 2021
DTD #24: How Meditating On Our Mortality Gives Life Profound Meaning
Memento Mori is a Latin phrase that means “Remember that you must die.” The phrase has its origins in ancient Rome, where it is believed that slaves would accompany generals on victory parades and whisper these words to remind the generals of their mortality. It was a measure to prevent the successful war heroes from being consumed by hubris (excessive pride and self-confidence). In this episode, we discuss how thinking about our own death on a daily basis truly leads to a more meaningful way of life; pondering the fact that any day could be our last makes us cherish what time we have. Imagine a world in which everyone treated each interaction as if it could be their last. In this scenario, what would you say to a loved one? A stranger? A best friend? What are you waiting for? Instead of dismissing the fact, the truth is, today could be your last day. What, then, will you do with it? Who will you tell you love them? What dream will you embark on? What will you do to foster a sense of peace and joy, no matter what it is you’re doing? This episode is full of love and made both of us entirely grateful for every second we have on this planet. We sincerely hope it can do the same for you. “Think of yourself as dead. You have lived your life. Now, take what’s left, and live it properly.” - Marcus Aurelius Show Notes On Purpose with Jay Shetty - Featuring Will Smith Night - Elie Weisel Ryan Holiday Marcus Aurelius About Time (Movie) Join Gregory's Weekly Wanderings Join Vincent's Weekly Insights
April 23, 2021
DTD #23: Untangling Life's Preconceived Expectations
In this episode, we explore the concept of a "life ultimatum," the demand we put on ourselves to be a certain person or have specific things (like a family or house) at a defined time in our lives. There's a tremendous amount of external pressure to hit these life milestones—but when was the last time you stopped to think whether your goals actually align with what is being expected of you? Without careful introspection, we can feel burdened by the weight of "shoulds" and "musts." But what do you truly want? Is it a family by the time you're thirty, or a house, or progress in the career you're in? Or, perhaps you're after something else entirely? Join us as we untangle the webs of meaning that have created these often daunting life ultimatums. We discuss how to look within ourselves to focus on becoming somebody we genuinely want to be, as opposed to what society deems appropriate. This is a topic constantly impeding on our overall wellbeing; we hope this episode can provide some understanding and peace of mind as you discover what makes you come alive in a way that only you can. Show Notes: Jordan Peterson - Modern Wisdom Podcast Steven Covey - 7 Habits of Highly Effective People Jay Shetty - Think Like a Monk Yuval Noah Harari - Homo Deus Vincent Van Patten - Find What Makes You Come Alive Before Thinking About Success
April 16, 2021
DTD #22: Create Boundaries So You Can Break Them
In a world with seemingly endless possibilities, it's easy to get overwhelmed. The plethora of options and choices we face every day can lead to decision fatigue and hours spent wondering what to do next. The good news is that there's a well-documented antidote. Call it routine, structure, or discipline, the antidote to aimless wandering is having a preconceived game plan. Whether it's for the upcoming day or the rest of our life, we need to create boundaries to orient ourselves properly. Then, we may surrender to what life presents to us. Because to push against the boundaries, we must first create them. On this episode of the Dare to Dream Podcast, we dive deep into our beliefs, as well as the modern wisdom on the need for discipline and structure. We explore how having structure, a practice, and daily rituals actually create the room to be creative and pave new ways. We also give an update on our 90-day fitness, nutrition, and discipline challenge: Men of Discomfort. Show Notes: - Valley Mentality (AKA the sweet hoodies we're rocking) - Jordan Peterson - Beyond Order - Seth Godin - The Practice - Matthew McConaughey - Greenlights - Ryan Holiday on Impact Theory Podcast - Join Vincent's Weekly Insights - Join Gregory's Weekly Wanderings
April 9, 2021
DTD #21: Surrendering To Life: Our Favorite Lessons From Michael Singer's Life Changing Books
Michael Singer is a bestselling author, meditation center founder, and former software programmer. Two of his books, The Untethered Soul and The Surrender Experiment have had a profound impact on us and have fundamentally changed the way we live our lives. From learning how to live with the incessant voice in your head (your inner roommate) to learning how to keep your heart open no matter what happens to you, these books are practical guides to living your best life. In our personal opinion, they should be required reading for all human beings. Join us as we discuss our favorite lessons and takeaways as we strive to never let our hearts close.
April 1, 2021
DTD #20: Don't Die With Your Music Still In You
We all have a special gift to give to the world, a song to sing. Whether it's through our art, our humor, or our sparkling personalities, we all possess a gift to make this world a better place. Many of us, however, face resistance when searching for our gifts. Finding what lights our souls on fire is an iterative process and it often takes trying and failing at many different things. We have to be willing to suck (at least initially) when we start a new job, a new project, or a new lifestyle. We are going to stumble and we are going to fall down. This is all part of the learning process; you will look back at those difficult times as the defining moments you'll always cherish. The alternative is to never try at all. It's being so concerned with what other people think that you never reach your full potential. If you don't have the courage to take the first step, you will never discover your hidden talents and passions. And when you are laying on your deathbed, you will have the sad and soul-crushing realization that you still have more to give. But it will be too late. The world needs to hear what you have to give. Be fearless, Dare to Dream. Don't let the fear of failure stop you from trying something new. Please, for our sake, don't die with your music still in you. Gregory's Weekly Wonderings: http://gregoryrussellbenedikt.com/newsletter/ Vincent's Weekly Insights: https://vincentvanpatten.com/newsletter/
March 26, 2021
DTD #19: Don't Let Technology Get in The Way of Your Dream
We live in the most technologically connected time in history, yet, we're the loneliest we've ever been. Depression, anxiety, and suicide rates are at historical highs. We are constantly comparing ourselves to someone we don't even know. We assume they've "made it," and we get down on ourselves if we feel like we haven't. Something has to change. Technology can undoubtedly be a beautiful tool to help us aim high and achieve our dreams, but it can also be a hindrance and a distraction. In some cases, it can cause us to give up on our dreams and give up on ourselves. In this episode, we discuss how technology can be a double-edged sword and why we need to approach it with caution and intention. We talk about the lifestyle shifts that we've implemented to create space for stillness and genuine human connection. It's in these moments when the magic happens. Insights appear, relationships are formed, and we discover who we truly are. Life becomes more meaningful when we decide to lift our eyes from the screen. Show notes: Think Like a Monk, by Jay Shetty https://www.amazon.com/Think-Like-Monk-Train-Purpose/dp/1982134488 Yuval Harari: ON Why Boredom is Good For You https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/yuval-harari-on-why-boredom-is-good-for-you/id1450994021?i=1000439443857 This Is Why You Don't Succeed | Simon Sinek on The Millennial Generation https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9prG2GF45-s Gregory's Weekly Wonderings: http://gregoryrussellbenedikt.com/newsletter/ Vincent's Weekly Insights: https://vincentvanpatten.com/newsletter/
March 17, 2021
DTD #18: It's Not About You
There's someone out there who needs you. Often we get in our own heads and tell ourselves that we’re not good enough, that what we’ve been through doesn’t matter, that we don’t have a voice. But your voice is more powerful than you may ever know. Your words are exactly what somebody else needs to hear. Your journey is the inspiration that somebody out there needs; your light can bring another soul out of the darkness. When you look at your journey and your everyday actions from the perspective of helping others, everything will change. You’ll find more purpose than if you went at it alone. You’ll find greater meaning by changing somebody else's day. You’ll realize why you’re on this earth. Think bigger. It’s not about you. On a lighter note, we also discuss how to get the biggest smiles out of strangers, how to make friends with the workers at your local grocery store's fish counter, and we talk way too much about monks. Show Notes: Join Vinny's Weekly Insights Join Greg's Weekly Wonderings Tim Ferris Episode #366 With Neil Gaiman Think Like a Monk - Jay Shetty Eat Smarter - Shawn Stevenson Whole Foods Atlantic Salmon
March 10, 2021
DTD #17: The Small Steps That Have Led to This Surreal Moment
The journey has only just begun. Still, it feels surreal to be where we are now compared to a year ago. In this episode, we break down what it means to Dare to Dream, not only through following your passions, but by becoming the best version of you -- somebody your past self never could have imagined. We discuss how we have arrived at where we are today, and how our current reality would have been impossible to predict a year ago. It all began by taking a leap of faith. Fear can be our greatest hindrance. But it also can, and should, serve as a compass to show us where we need to go. It takes stepping from order (known) into chaos (unknown) to realize our full potential. This land of beautiful chaos is where we must voyage to discover what we're truly made of. "Fear does not prevent death. It prevents life." -- Buddha Show Notes: 12 Rules for Life by Jordan Peterson
March 4, 2021
DTD #16 From the Road: Did You Enjoy Your Life?
We are zippin’ down the I15 and feeling inspired. We both had a bit of an existential crisis this week and came out the other side stronger. We go over the two questions Greg will begin to ask himself in any situation for the rest of his life. Also, we discuss how to cultivate inner joy to make life an expression of your joyfulness. The episode begins with a mantra that has radically changed our overall well-being. This was a lot of fun to record; we think y’all will love it!
February 26, 2021
Episode 15: The Power of Gratitude
The search for happiness is one of the most essential of human experiences. We search, scour, and seek the experiences and things in life that will bring us feelings of joy and fulfillment. Sometimes it seems the harder we look for happiness the more it eludes us. But what if the answer to what we are desperately searching for has been right in front of us the whole time? What if the answer was simple, free, and required nothing outside yourself? In this episode, we dive into the life-changing power of gratitude. We discuss why gratitude is so effective and how we can use this beautiful emotion to radically reframe the way we think about our lives. We share our personal gratitude practices as well as insights we've gleaned from our favorite books, spiritual teachers, and lives. Show Notes: Think Like a Monk - Jay Shetty Eat Smarter - Shawn Stevenson Inner Engineering - Sadhguru The Magic - Rhonda Byrne Vishen Lakhiani's 6-Phase Meditation
February 19, 2021
Episode 14: You Can’t Fail If You Dream Big Enough
Success means taking that first step toward your dream. Everything else that comes up along the way is part of the beautiful journey. There’s no such thing as failure, just experience. In this episode, we dive deep into wholeheartedly pursuing what makes you come alive. We discuss what it means to find your dharma, how to tell what lights you up, and why you must never settle. Warning: This episode may be the first domino to you radically changing your life. Show Notes: Think Like a Monk - Jay Shetty 12 Rules for Life - Jordan Peterson
February 12, 2021
Episode 13: Self Love is The Answer
Self love; why does it feel so difficult? On this episode of The Dare to Dream Podcast, we discuss how to make amends with our inner voice to genuinely love ourselves for who we are. This may just mean letting go of our mistakes, taking joy in the little things that we do, and seeing life from a perspective of serving others. This talk is full of introspection and laughs.
February 5, 2021
Episode 12: The Greatest Lessons We've Learned In Life
This is an episode that we’ve been wanting to do for a long time. It encompasses many of the insights, lessons, musings, and thoughts that have brought us to this point in our journey. We touch on a handful of our favorites along with quotes and stories that had us howling in laughter. Enjoy the episode! Show notes: Shibumi, by Trevanian Eat Smarter, by Shawn Stevenson Jay Shetty, Think Like a Monk
January 29, 2021
Episode 11: Start The Day in The Best Way Possible
The morning routine is a time-tested way to begin the day in a positive mindset. In this episode, we dive deep on the Miracle Morning, based on the book Miracle Morning by author and success coach Hal Elrod. We bring you the essential practices that have changed our mornings, such as journaling, meditation, practicing gratitude, and reading! These routines have changed our lives and we know they can change yours as well. Show Notes: - Check out our first sponsor at https://www.valleymentality.org/ and use the code "malibu influencers" for a discount! - Secrets To A Successful Morning Routine & Taking Back Control Of Your Time - With Hal Elrod https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-model-health-show/id640246578?i=1000501551617 - Dr. Joe Dispenza - The Formula To Choose Your Destiny https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/amp-286-dr-joe-dispenza-the-formula-to-choose-your-destiny/id521945322?i=1000501813028 - Ecstasy In Life And Death with Dr. Zach Bush MD https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/amp-285-ecstasy-in-life-and-death-with-dr-zach-bush-md/id521945322?i=1000501103824
January 15, 2021
Episode 10: Your soul isn't here to achieve; your soul is here to grow
In The Dare to Dream Podcast season one finale, Greg and Vincent discuss Vincent's recent road trip through the Pacific Northwest and how getting out and talking to people made him see that people are truly good. 2020 was a year of ups and downs, yet it was undoubtedly a year of incredible growth. Vincent and Greg discuss how growth is the only thing that matters. Everything else is just a vehicle for growth. They discuss the difference between the vehicle and the destination. The destination is a dream so big others may doubt it. Destination goals are the experiences that make life worth living, such as being full of joy, peace, happiness. Vehicle goals are just the means to get there. They also discuss how, when you focus on the why and the what, the universe will present the how.
January 7, 2021
Episode 9: When optimizing our lives goes too far
In episode 9 of The Dare to Dream Podcast, Gregory and Vincent discuss how "optimizing" our lives can lead us to focus too heavily on accomplishments and checking off a to-do list. Gregory tells how he's shifted his mindset from optimizing life to slowing down and focusing on what's truly important. Other topics include: - Thinking about our lives in three years. What kind of person do you see yourself becoming, both professionally and personally? - Making generosity a priority in every aspect of our lives. - Treating everyday tasks such as errands as an adventure by talking to strangers to see what happens.
December 9, 2020
Episode 8: Why we must hold on tightly to our dreams, but remain open to how they may come about
In episode 8 of The Dare to Dream Podcast, Vincent and Gregory speak vulnerably and from the heart on what they're experiencing during this changing season. Topics discussed include: Setting goals that only we have the power to control: I will always love myself, I will remain at rest, I will maintain my joy. Confronting the question: would you rather follow your dream and potentially fail, or die knowing you never gave an honest shot? Why we must hold on tightly to our dream, but be open to how it may come about. The importance of going through the valleys, the lows in life, to fully appreciate the highs, the mountains, the peaks of what we can accomplish.
November 30, 2020
Episode 7: What will 2020 mean to you?
In episode 7 of the Dare to Dream Podcast, Gregory and Vincent discuss the importance of solitude and scheduling time to be by yourself. As we near the end of the year, they reflect on their journey through 2020 and encourage all listeners to do the same. It may have felt like a wasted year, but there is undoubtedly much to take away. This week's challenge is to reflect on your own year and if you've been acting in alignment with who you truly are. Other topics to note: - Vincent's upcoming Pacific North West trip. - Matthew McConaughey's new book, Greenlights. - Combining our passion with our career. - Don't let busy be your excuse for not living.
November 20, 2020
Episode 6: Greg's foray into the carnivore diet, Vinny's November writing challenge, & becoming valuable before your valued
In episode 6, Gregory and Vincent discuss what it's like to eat nothing but meat for a month, Vinny's approach to daily writing and his November writing challenge, and what has inspired them to become valuable. They end the episode by introducing a new segment: what you can do this week!
November 10, 2020
Episode 5: Overcoming resistance, the voice in your head that tells you you're not good enough
In episode 5, Gregory and Vincent discuss the ways they overcome resistance, the incessant voice in our heads which tells us we're not good enough. They explore how the power of the human imagination is often scarier than anything reality throws our way, and break down a few lines from Steven Pressfield's inspirational book, The War of Art.
September 27, 2020
Episode 4: Sitting down with performing artist, storyteller, and social entrepreneur - Timothy John
In this episode, Vincent and Greg sit down with their first guest Timothy John, a leader, dreamer, and master storyteller. We discuss the benefits and potential pitfalls of technology, unplugging to make time for yourself, and how being authentic and trying your best matter more than outcomes. Additionally, Timothy gives us an off the cuff live performance of his newest spoken word. Find Timothy on social media: Instagram: Timothy_John_ Soundcloud: Timothyjohn Linkedin: timothyjohnharrison
September 14, 2020
Episode 3: Embracing change & letting go of our past identity
In this episode, Vincent and Greg discuss embracing change and how a seemingly negative event is often a blessing in disguise. They dive into the difficult process of letting go of who we think we are in order to become all we're meant to be. Lastly, they explain how questioning everything, from societal norms to how our parents raised us, is the crucial first step when Daring to Dream.
August 16, 2020
Episode 2: Discussing the inner dialogue, becoming comfortable with being uncomfortable, & measuring life based on achievements
In this in-person episode 2, Greg and Vincent discuss several topics, including the inner human dialogue, and how we speak to ourselves throughout the day. Second is the mindset shift that comes from being comfortable with getting uncomfortable and moving towards discomfort instead of shying away from it. Lastly, they pose the question: is it better to live an achievement-oriented life based on accomplishments? Or is the more fulfilling life based on how much one savors every moment, and how much inner peace they have?
August 5, 2020
Episode 1: Adapting to a New Lifestyle and Mindset
In episode 1, Vinny and Greg discuss the lifestyle and mindset changes they have implemented since departing from their corporate jobs to face the great unknown. Join them as they detail their initial feelings, small wins and challenging days, in pursuit of going after what they love.
July 9, 2020