Hey everybody, it’s Garrett.
Today’s episode of The Dudecast is a very special one. A couple of months ago, I put together my list of the best podcasts for men, and The Modern Manhood podcast showed up. I reached out to them via email, chatted a bit, and found myself becoming friends with the host, German Villegas, who you’ll note, I absolutely butcher his name the first time I say it on the show.
What’s great about German, and his show is that he features a wide variety of great people talking about all sorts of things revolving around masculinity which is why it was such an honor for him to be a part of my Dudefluencer Summit a couple of months ago.
If you didn’t get a chance to watch it, don’t worry, I’ve got you covered here with this episode. We talk about modern masculinity, what it means to be a man, and conversations around toxic masculinity. It was super enlightening and I love every chance I get to chat with German, this time being no different.
Hello and welcome back to the Dudecast, my name is Garrett, and I am the CEO and Founder of Dudefluencer.com.
A couple of years ago, my wife and I started pre-marital counseling, obviously something went right, we got married still. But during a session, she mentioned this Ted Talk, she said you just need to see this couple, Jonathan and Andrea Taylor Cummings. They’re amazing. So I went online a couple of days later, I googled their names and found their Ted Talk about the 4 Habits. Needless to say, their advice, their Ted Talk was incredible. When I started preparing for my Dudefluencer summit, I just knew I needed to talk to them.
Thankfully, they are as kind and welcoming in person as they are on their website so I’m so lucky to share our conversation about improving your relationships today on the Dudecast. It was really eye opening, so if I were you, I’d get out a pen and paper and start jotting down some notes.
And without further adieu, let’s get onto the show.
For more information, visit The4Habits.com
One of the best parts of writing about men’s friendship and community is when you meet other dudes with similar beliefs and goals. There’s a pretty tight-knit group of folks involved in this space who believe in positive masculinity, who believe in change. I’m one of them, and today’s guest is one too.
Martin Fretwell is the founder of Don’t Fret, a men’s community founded on changing the discussion around masculinity. The website for his Emotional Freedom Summit reads: Discussions within the Emotional Freedom Virtual Summit evolve around the core objective of reframing belief systems that hold us back from healing, recovery, self-empowerment and connection towards ourselves and the people around us. During the course of our conversation, Fretwell opens up about his personal struggles, reflections, and new-beliefs that has led him to be one of the leaders in positive masculinity.
For more information on Don't Fret, visit DontFretSummit.com.
Kerstin Gerst Emerson, an assistant professor at the University of Georgia’s Institute of Gerontology. “In public health, we talk all the time about obesity and smoking and have all these interventions, but not about people who are lonely and socially isolated. There are really tangible, terrible outcomes. Lonely people are dying, they’re less healthy, and they are costing our society more.”
As someone who’s suffered from loneliness, and difficulty in building male friendships, I found myself searching for articles, videos, anything that could help me feel like I was part of a community. Enter Billy Baker, writer and author at The Boston Globe. His 2017 article on male loneliness was life-changing not only to me, but Dudefluencer as a whole.
And that’s why I’m so happy to share my chat with Baker with you today. We talk about his upcoming book We Need to Hang Out: A Memoir on Making Friends, male friendship, and Joey McIntyre meditating in silence. Don’t worry it will all make sense.
Click the title to purchase Billy Baker's book, We Need to Hang Out: A Memoir on Making Friendships.
This weekend, I found my new favorite show: Ted Lasso. Never before has a television show displayed so much heart, so much positivity that it inspired me to be a better person. Or in this case, a better person with a mustache.
So for this week’s episode, I reached out to my friend, "Coach Dave," a baseball manager who certainly knows a thing or two about good coaching and leadership. I wanted to chat with him about memorable coaching experiences, and how we can turn those moments into something bigger as role models. I’m excited for you to listen to today’s episode, so without further adieu, let’s get onto the show.
When I first started Dudefluencer, I searched and searched for men and websites that shared my beliefs in masculinity, and life. One of the first I came across was Justin Birckbichler's A Ballsy Sense of Tumor.
In addition to his work through ABSOT, Justin’s has written over 160 articles, appearing in Cure Magazine, I Had Cancer, The Mighty, The Good Men Project, Stupid Cancer, and more. His work with men’s health awareness has been featured by over 60 different companies and organizations, including British GQ, Livestrong, Healthline, The Mayo Clinic, The Movember Foundation, National Foundation for Cancer Research, and various other groups.
Over the course of our 40 minute chat, there's a lot of laughs, but more importantly, insights into men's health, masculinity, and testicular cancer.
For more information about Justin, visit his website: https://aballsysenseoftumor.com/
Happy New Year and welcome to the first Dudecast of 2021.
Today's interview brings us Anthony Orisses, of Rare Cut. If you've ever owned a pocket square that refused to stay up, or keep its fold, then you need to check out Rare Cut's pocket squares engineered to stay up all night. Over the course of the next 40 minutes or so, we talk about starting his pocket square business, what it's like being a man in the fashion industry, and of course, the latest trends for 2021. So, let's get onto the show.
For more information about Rare Cut, visit RareCut.com.
And make sure to check out our updated 2021 edition of the Men's Fashion Guide.
Welcome everyone to another episode of the Dudecast. My name is Garrett Carlson and I hope you’re doing well. With the new year upon us, I’ve been thinking about my goals, and my plans for 2021. Obviously goal #1 is get through the end of this quarantine, and with vaccines coming out earlier this week, it looks like we might be on that path.
But one of my other goals is to be more conscious of how I’m personally affecting the environment. That includes fashion.
More than 60 percent of fabric fibers are now synthetics, derived from fossil fuels.” If those synthetic clothing items are thrown away and dumped into a landfill, they will not decay and instead release methane gas into the environment. Synthetic clothes not dumped into a landfill are thrown into the incinerator, causing more CO2 to be released into the atmosphere.
Fabric dyeing is the second largest polluter of clean water, and the fashion industry as a whole produces 20% of the Earth’s wastewater.
Enter Janson and Drac Wigo, founders of the eco-friendly clothing brand Opok. I reached out to them to chat about the benefits of sustainable clothing, what we can do to help the environment, and why men’s underwear fashion matters.
I learned a lot over these 30 or so minutes about just how dangerous and toxic clothing can be and it’s made me reflect on what clothes I want to put on my body. And maybe it will for you too.
For more information about Opok, visit their website Opok.com
Today's episode features Alec Grawe and Colton Ropson of Luxee, a luxury men's self-care box. Over the course of our conversation, we chat about morning routines, the best men's grooming products on the market, and how masculinity has changed men's views on self-care.
Sometimes fate just brings like minded people together. Today’s guest is Ronak, the creator of Serendip, an awesome platform designed to bring people together and crush loneliness. Obviously our messages are deeply aligned, so it was an absolute pleasure chatting with him about community building, friendship, and vulnerability.
Visit Serendip.co for more information, and download their app on iOS and the Google Play Store now.
If you're interested in the Become a Dudefluencer project, head over to our waitlist page and sign up now!
About a year ago, I started researching everything I could about masculinity. There’s a ton of information out there, but if there’s one man, one dude, who’s been studying this stuff for 40 years and his name is Dr. Ronald Levant. There is no one who has done more work for helping men break past the ideals of masculinity. He, and his co-author, Shana Pryor, released their latest book, The Tough Standard: The Hard Truths About Masculinity and Violence a couple of weeks ago, and Levant was nice enough to sit down and chat about the book as well as go through his fascinating journey through studying all things masculinity.
Buy The Tough Standard: The Hard Truths about Masculinity and Violence
Make sure you sign up for The Dude Alliance!
I’ve been doing a lot of work around men’s support groups, and building communities which is how I got into contact with Today’s guests: Todd Adams and Frank Naugo. Together, they are the co-founders of Tribe Men’s Group, one of the best men’s groups around. We talk about a whole variety of things involving the creation of the group, masculinity as a whole, and how they’ve managed to pivot due to COVID-19.
Make sure to check out their work at TribeMensGroup.org
About a year ago, I left my teaching job to pursue Dudefluencer. Nearly 25,000 page views, 94 published articles, and over 150,000 words later, I reached out to today’s guest, Milena Regos, creator of Unhustle, to understand what causes workplace burnout and how we can prevent it. She also just released an awesome class, The Unhustle Morning Course. Definitely check it out when you get a chance.
Let’s do this.
In today's episode, Garrett and Nick discuss fashion: good fashion, bad fashion, teenage fashion. Whether it's Jncos, soap shoes, or pirate earrings, we're talking about it. And our shared love of Home Improvement.
In today's episode, Garrett and Nick discuss what it's like moving away from your hometown, and the difficulty in making friends as an adult.
Make sure to check out Dudefluencer's corresponding article: The Importance of Male Friendship
Garrett takes Nick on a tour of The 1975's catalog. For the full experience of today's episode, please follow the links below to the tracks so you can listen alongside Garrett and Nick.
5:50 - "Sex"
9:14 - "The City"
13:44 - "Love Me"
18:22 - "The Sound"
26:31 - "It's Not Living (If It's Not With You)"
30:00 - "I Like America and America Likes Me"
31:53 - "Love It If We Made It"
36:00 - "People"
38:00 - "Me and You Together Song"