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The Journey with Jared

The Journey with Jared

By Jared Salekin

Starting with a quarter life crisis and ending with hitting the reset button on my life, I found myself questioning everything that I thought I knew. Documenting this quest for answers through a podcast I explore topics on mental health, self improvement, and much more.
I do this through talking to others about their journeys (Journeys), deep dives into specific topics (Pit Stops), and sharing other conversations that I’m a part of.
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Staying Motivated and being Accountable to Yourself | Pit Stop 19

The Journey with JaredNov 30, 2020

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Finding your Niche and Achieving your Goals | Journey 41 w/ Aleyna Dogan
Sep 19, 202231:23
The Different Ways Grief Shows Up | Journey 40 w/Vivian Nunez

The Different Ways Grief Shows Up | Journey 40 w/Vivian Nunez

On this episode I’m joined by Vivian Nunez, a writer and content creator. We begin by discussing Vivian’s platform and what led her to start it, talking about grief and the difference between grieving at ten versus twenty-one. Continuing on grief, we talk about how grief for every person is different and shows up differently for every loss. I then ask Vivian what she would recommend to someone supporting someone else who is grieving. Afterwards we talk about how accomplishment varies for each person on a daily basis – for some, it’s just getting out of bed, for others it can look much different. The next subject of our conversation is balance; how balance can look different, and be more flexible than simply “everything is equal” at all times. We then discuss the practice of taking care of ourselves, and how difficult it can be when you’re accustomed to taking care of others instead. We also talk about social media and how it’s actually helped the conversation around mental health grow. Vivian also recounts this impactful quote from one of her friends; “I can’t turn on the light, but I can sit with you in the dark.”

Links to Vivian’s Instagram, TikTok, and Website!

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vivnunez/

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@vivnunez

Website: https://vivnunez.com

For more content follow my Instagram or listen to full episodes wherever you get your podcasts!

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jaredsalekin/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCmkVemKYcq1zdHlXjNN5YkQ

Sep 16, 202250:57
A Conversation on Mental Health and Toxic Masculinity | Journey 39 w/ Ryan Forsyth
Sep 12, 202201:10:03
The Mental Link to Physical Movement | Journey 38 w/Sara Raymond
Sep 09, 202247:24
Balancing Mental Health with being an Influencer | Journey 37 w/ Steven Sharpe Jr
Sep 05, 202245:45
Finding Yourself and Enjoying the Journey | Journey 36 w/Justin Peters
Sep 02, 202257:24
Finding the common ground between all of us | Journey 35 w/ Mike Joseph
Aug 29, 202248:01
How Men think about Love, Belonging, and Connection | Journey 34 w/ Alex Holmes
Feb 14, 202255:23
Working Through Shame with The Unashamed Alcoholic | Journey 33 w/ Becca Atkinson

Working Through Shame with The Unashamed Alcoholic | Journey 33 w/ Becca Atkinson

Jan 17, 202252:15
Art Therapy and How it Translates to Life | Journey 32 w/ Jenn Seniuk
Jan 11, 202246:58
Why Understanding Your Past Allows you to Build your Future | Journey 31 w/ Furkhan Dandia

Why Understanding Your Past Allows you to Build your Future | Journey 31 w/ Furkhan Dandia

On this episode of the podcast I'm joined by Furkhan Dandia (@eunoiazen) to discuss how going through a divorce started him on his mental health journey. Through seeing a therapist, Furkhan started to dive into his childhood and how it had shaped the man he had become. Working through his own challenges inspired him to share his journey with others by talking about mental health and helping other men find self love. 


You can connect with Furkhan here: 

Instagram - @eunoiazen

Website - www.eunoiazen.com


Follow me on IG for more content @jaredsalekin or you can email me jared@jaredsalekin.com with any feedback or questions!

Sep 23, 202158:33
Finding Balance and Normalizing the Dark Thoughts | Journey 30 w/ Kathryn Burmeister

Finding Balance and Normalizing the Dark Thoughts | Journey 30 w/ Kathryn Burmeister

Lawyer, coach and author, Kathryn Burmeister joins me on the podcast this week to share her story. 

While working as a personal injury lawyer in Georgia, the managing partner of Kathryn's firm committed suicide. Not wanting to give up on her clients, Kathryn joined a few others in taking on their caseload. Working on these cases without the support that she needed led Kathryn to overworking, not taking care of herself and eventually hitting her rock bottom. She shared with me how she came back from that dark place, why it inspired her to help others, and the importance of being proactive as opposed to reactive with your mental health.


Kathryn's book "Overcoming Addiction to the Status Quo" can be found on Amazon here: 

https://www.amazon.com/Overcoming-Addiction-Status-Kathryn-Burmeister/dp/1736080806/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2LD38LLE9XZAA&dchild=1&keywords=overcoming+addiction+to+the+status+quo&qid=1617031361&sprefix=overcoming+addiction+%2Caps%2C161&sr=8-1#customerReviews


You can also find Kathryn at:

IG: @kfburmeister

https://kathrynfburmeister.com/


Follow me on IG for more content @jaredsalekin or you can email me jared@jaredsalekin.com with any feedback or questions! 

Jul 26, 202154:43
Refusing to be a Footnote in Other People Stories | Journey 29 w/ Dakshima Haputhanthri
Jul 07, 202143:48
Nordic Biohacking and Finding Happiness | Journey 28 w/ Mads Friis
Jun 22, 202147:43
The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly of Entrepreneurship | Journey 27 w/ Randy McRae

The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly of Entrepreneurship | Journey 27 w/ Randy McRae

On this episode of the podcast I'm joined by Randy McRae. We discuss his journey of going from working at a large corporation, to starting his own accounting firm, and then back to working at a large corporation. We also discuss the differences between how entrepreneurship is portrayed on social media and the reality of it, as well as what to do if you find yourself in a rut. 

I hope you enjoy! 

You can find Randy on LinkedIn here https://www.linkedin.com/in/randallmcrae/

Follow me on IG @jaredsalekin for more content or you can send any feedback you may have to jared@jaredsalekin.com

May 18, 202149:47
The Struggle of Getting out of my own Head | My Experiences so Far

The Struggle of Getting out of my own Head | My Experiences so Far

I have always lived in my head, over analyzing everything, trying to game-plan for every possible outcome. Trying to get out of my head and actually be present in the moment I'm in, being less in my head and more in body. Although it has proven to be a difficult task and I am far from mastering it, I wanted to share my experiences so far. I hope you find some value in it! 


You can follow me on IG for more content!

@jaredsalekin

Or email me with any feedback or questions

jared@jaredsalekin.com

May 11, 202106:40
Changing the Definitions around Forgiveness

Changing the Definitions around Forgiveness

I wanted to share my thoughts around looking at forgiveness differently, the idea that forgiving someone or "making peace" with a situation doesn't mean that whatever happened was okay, but it is important to be able to move on from and accept it as a part of our life. 


Follow me on IG for more content! 

@jaredsalekin

Or email me with any feedback or questions

jared@jaredsalekin.com 

May 11, 202103:38
Taking off the Mask with Modern Maskulinity | Journey 26

Taking off the Mask with Modern Maskulinity | Journey 26

On this episode I'm joined by Coach Kyle and Anwar from the Modern Maskulinity podcast. The conversation centres around challenging what it means to be a man and how it has been presented by society. We chat different leadership styles, tapping into and showing different emotions, vulnerability, and what the word strength means to us. 


You can find Kyle, Anwar, and the Modern Maskulinity podcast on Instagram:

@modernmaskulinity

@coachkylerushton

@anwarahmed4

May 03, 202101:07:05
Embracing and Acknowledging our Differences | Journey 25 w/ Ian Brooks

Embracing and Acknowledging our Differences | Journey 25 w/ Ian Brooks

On this episode of the podcast I'm joined by Dr. Ian Brooks, psychologist and corporate consultant to talk about his new book, Intention. We talk about his experiences working with people on a locked down ward, and then at high profile corporations. How they were different and the common themes that he experienced in both. We also discuss embracing the fact that we all have unique experiences, thoughts, and goals, and why it's important to take these into consideration in everything that we do. 

You can find Ian here:

www.RhodesSmith.com
Twitter: DrB_Intention
Instagram: DrB_Intention


Follow me on IG for more content @jaredsalekin or send me an email at jared@jaredsalekin.com 

Apr 26, 202152:59
Inner Critic vs Inherited Critic

Inner Critic vs Inherited Critic

In this episode I talk about the idea of our inner critic actually being an inherited critic, that it is not our voice that we're hearing and that it was put there by someone else. I also go into my experiences with self talk, how I've navigated and improved it. Hope you enjoy!
Apr 19, 202111:29
The Press Release vs the Messy Middle | Journey 24 w/ Ashoka Rajendra
Apr 12, 202101:21:45
Video Games and Mental Health | Journey 23 w/ Spencer Boyle
Apr 06, 202101:07:15
Romantic vs Therapeutic Relationships

Romantic vs Therapeutic Relationships

On this episode I talk about distinguishing between romantic and therapeutic relationships. How they're different and why it's important to be able to tell the difference.
Mar 30, 202105:40
The 3 Ways to Hold your Heart

The 3 Ways to Hold your Heart

On this episode I share my thoughts on the three ways to hold your heart. Holding it close to your chest and not letting anyone see it, shoving it in people's faces and forcing them to see it, or safely presenting it in front of you. I hope you enjoy!
Mar 23, 202107:05
Dating, Comedy, and Entrepreneurship | Journey 22 w/ Harrison Forman

Dating, Comedy, and Entrepreneurship | Journey 22 w/ Harrison Forman

On this episode of the podcast I'm joined by Harrison Forman, one of the co-creators of the live show UpDating. He tells the story of how he went from working at Facebook, to live streaming his dates, to selling out venues and co-hosting live shows in New York. 

We also touch on the role that comedy plays in our lives, the fronts people put on while on dates, and walking the non traditional path. 


You can follow Harrison here:

IG: @updatingshow @htforman

https://www.updatingshow.com/


Follow me on IG for more content! @jaredsalekin

Mar 16, 202159:47
How to Create Change in your Life | YCLC Talk

How to Create Change in your Life | YCLC Talk

This episode of the podcast is a recording of the talk I did for the Young Construction Leaders of Calgary. I went in depth on the cause of my quarter life crisis, gaining perspective on my life, removing the "should's" in our lives, and why we need to live for ourselves and not others. 


For more content you can follow me here: 

IG: @jaredsalekin

Twitter: @jaredsalekin

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jared-salekin/

Mar 11, 202125:25
Positivity and Living an Authentic Life | Journey 21 w/ Germaine Cookson

Positivity and Living an Authentic Life | Journey 21 w/ Germaine Cookson

On this episode of the podcast I'm joined by the Believer Junkie, Germaine Cookson. She shares her story of coming to Canada and why she was called to help other people believe in themselves. We also touch on living your life outside of the box, the power of positivity, how to find clarity in your life, and the importance of authenticity.


You can find Germaine here: 

Website: https://www.believerjunkie.com/

IG @believerjunkie

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/germainecookson/


Follow Jared on IG for more content @jaredsalekin

Mar 08, 202157:13
No One Will Pursue Your Dreams for You | Journey 20 w/ Vernon Foster II

No One Will Pursue Your Dreams for You | Journey 20 w/ Vernon Foster II

On this episode of the podcast I'm joined by Vernon Foster II to learn more about his journey and how seemingly unrelated experiences shaped the path that he is on today. We also touch on breaking free from the constraints that are placed on us by those around us, and the idea of being a generalist in a world that rewards specialization. 


I hope you enjoy! 


You can find Vernon here: 

IG: @famousvernon

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/VernonMashwell

https://vernontfoster.com/


Follow us on Instagram for more content! 

@jaredsalekin

Mar 01, 202154:04
The Power of Intuition | Journey 19 w/ Sunil Godse
Feb 23, 202101:08:53
Mental Health and Modern Masculinity | The Kings of Hearts Podcast

Mental Health and Modern Masculinity | The Kings of Hearts Podcast

This episode is a recording of when I was a guest on the Kings of Hearts Podcast. Nuke and Andy are two people that played major roles in the start of my journey exploring modern masculinity, community, and personal development. 

I was honoured to be asked to be a guest on their podcast and was thankful for the amazing conversation that we had. 

I hope you enjoy it! 


You can find The Kings of Hearts here:

Podcast - https://anchor.fm/kingsofhearts

IG:

KOH - @thekingsof.hearts

Nuke - @yjkking

Andy - @andy.ngvyen

Feb 18, 202101:01:17
Learning to Trust Again | Pit Stop 21 w/ Rebecca Reinhart

Learning to Trust Again | Pit Stop 21 w/ Rebecca Reinhart

I'm joined by Rebecca Reinhart from the Unintentional Pornstar Podcast again for this episode where we discuss our experiences with trusting others. We also discuss feminism, humanism, and modern masculinity, how they're connected and the roles they play in our lives. 


I hope you enjoy! 


You can find Rebecca on IG @rebeccareinhart

For more content follow Jared on IG @jaredsalekin

Feb 15, 202101:05:36
Not Letting Trauma Get in the Way of Success | Journey 18 w/ Colin Crossman
Feb 09, 202101:16:12
Taking Back Your Power with The Unintentional Porn Star | Journey 17

Taking Back Your Power with The Unintentional Porn Star | Journey 17

This week I'm joined by dance choreographer and host of "The Unintentional Porn Star" podcast, Rebecca Reinhart. The Unintentional Porn Star comes from the experience of Rebecca having a private sex tape released on the internet without her permission. 

We discuss how it affected the relationships around her, how she is able to show empathy towards people who shame her for it, and how she has started to take back her power. 

I hope you enjoy!  


You can find Rebecca on IG @rebeccareinhart

For more content follow Jared on IG @jaredsalekin

Feb 02, 202101:00:07
Seeing People for Who They are Instead of Who I Want Them to Be

Seeing People for Who They are Instead of Who I Want Them to Be

With some reflection I have realized that I have a problem seeing people for who they actually are, instead I build them up into an unrealistic, perfect version of themselves. On this episode I share what I've discovered. 


For more content follow Jared on IG @jaredsalekin

Jan 31, 202107:10
How the Thoughts of the Child Influence the Life of the Man

How the Thoughts of the Child Influence the Life of the Man

On this episode I reflect on ages 12-14, my experiences and how they affect me in my life now. 


For more content follow Jared on IG @jaredsalekin

Jan 25, 202112:39
Beer, Bands and Body Image | Journey 16 with Trevor Jay

Beer, Bands and Body Image | Journey 16 with Trevor Jay

On this episode I'm joined by Trevor Jay who is currently a beer rep for Blindman brewing. We chat about his journey with craft beer, his love for music, and the experiences from his weight loss leading to people treating him differently. 

Enjoy! 

Trevor's IG: @trevorwjay


For more content follow Jared on IG @jaredsalekin

Jan 19, 202150:06
A Discussion on Men's Mental Health | Eye of the Wheel Podcast

A Discussion on Men's Mental Health | Eye of the Wheel Podcast

This is a recording from a couple of weeks ago when I was on the Eye of the Wheel podcast with my friend Laura Aitken

We talked Men's Mental Health and Modern Masculinity. 


You can connect with Laura on Instagram @eyeofthewheel


For more content follow Jared on IG @jaredsalekin

Jan 12, 202146:04
Living in "and" instead of "or" Culture | Journey 15 w/ Keith Belliveau

Living in "and" instead of "or" Culture | Journey 15 w/ Keith Belliveau

On this episode I'm joined by Dr. Keith Belliveau where we discuss gaining respect as a young professional, what he learned from studying abroad, taking a holistic view on health, and what modern masculinity means to us. 

Enjoy! 


For more content follow Jared on IG @jaredsalekin

Jan 04, 202101:06:22
Perseverance and Passion | Journey 14 w/ Luciano D'lorio

Perseverance and Passion | Journey 14 w/ Luciano D'lorio

On this episode I'm joined by Luciano D'lorio, the managing director of Cushman & Wakefield in Quebec. We discuss what makes people successful and how to deal with rejection. The actions and mindset you need when first starting out, and how to maintain that success. 

We also talk about mentorship, the role that it plays and what Luciano looks for in people that he is mentoring. 

Enjoy!


For more content follow Jared on IG @jaredsalekin

Dec 29, 202001:02:57
My Interview on The Curious One Podcast | What We Have Learned From Creating A Podcast

My Interview on The Curious One Podcast | What We Have Learned From Creating A Podcast

This episode of the podcast is a recording from The Curious One Podcast where I was a guest for episode 33. 

I have had Emma on the podcast a couple of times and was excited when she invited me to be a guest on hers. The episode focusses around my journey, our relationships with competition, my experiences with therapy, and some of our biggest takeaways that have come from creating podcasts. 

Enjoy! 


For more content follow Jared on IG @jaredsalekin

Dec 21, 202001:23:49
Masculine vs Feminine Traits and How They Show Up | Pit Stop 20

Masculine vs Feminine Traits and How They Show Up | Pit Stop 20

On this episode of the podcast I'm joined again by Brandon Archer to discuss Masculine and Feminine traits and energy's. How they're not gender specific and why it's important to be able to tap into both of them. We also discuss how they show up in romantic relationships and why it can be dangerous to go too far into one or the other. 

Enjoy!


For more content follow Jared on IG @jaredsalekin

Dec 14, 202053:27
Using Athletics to Fit In | Journey 13 w/ Hafeez Sumani

Using Athletics to Fit In | Journey 13 w/ Hafeez Sumani

On this episode of the podcast I'm joined by Hafeez Sumani to talk about his journey. We discuss the "athletic mask" attaching your self worth to your performance in athletics, and how focussing on the outcome instead of the process can lead to unhealthy practices. We also touch on the culture shock of him moving to Canada from the Middle East, and the importance of finding communities of people that you can open up with and lean on for support. 

You can connect with Hafeez on Instagram here:

@urban_lightworkers

@hafeez_alchemist


For more content follow Jared on IG @jaredsalekin

Dec 07, 202055:38
Staying Motivated and being Accountable to Yourself | Pit Stop 19

Staying Motivated and being Accountable to Yourself | Pit Stop 19

On this episode Emma Krebs joins me again to talk staying motivated when walking the non traditional path. 

We discuss when people around you don't understand or doubt the direction you're taking, and when you aren't accountable to anyone but yourself, how do you keep going? As well as why we got into podcasting and where we want to see them go. 

Enjoy!


For more content follow Jared on IG @jaredsalekin

Nov 30, 202055:56
Reflecting on 2020 | Vulnerability and What Comes Next

Reflecting on 2020 | Vulnerability and What Comes Next

I have been doing a lot of reflecting on this past year and the journey that I have been on. One word has stood out more than any, Vulnerability, unknowingly I have been focussing on vulnerability and it has lead to enormous amounts of growth for me. 

However I feel that it is time for a new focus, I'm not 100% sure what that is yet, but I am excited to share it with all of you.


For more content follow Jared on IG @jaredsalekin

Nov 23, 202013:15
Don't Wait for a Heart Attack to Start Working on Yourself | Journey 12 w/ Brandon Archer

Don't Wait for a Heart Attack to Start Working on Yourself | Journey 12 w/ Brandon Archer

On today's episode I'm joined by Brandon Archer (@brandon.s.archer), a men's work leader and coach who's journey of self discovery started with a sudden heart attack while riding his bike in 2016. We discuss how his life changed after that, joining a men's group and challenging the narratives that we tell ourselves. We also talk about creating loving and honest environments where the people around us feel safe enough to point out our blindspots, and how instead of fighting against our "old brain" we can meet it with compassion and work with it to propel us forward. 

You can connect with Brandon here 


For more content follow Jared on IG @jaredsalekin

Nov 16, 202056:01
Healing Yourself to Better Help Others | Journey 11 w/ Hannah Powley

Healing Yourself to Better Help Others | Journey 11 w/ Hannah Powley

On this episode of the podcast I'm joined by Hannah Powley (@liftwithhannah) where we discuss how her journey of becoming a coach started with working on herself. We talk about the relationship we have between our masculine and feminine sides, how we stand in our own way, and how by working on these mental blocks we can improve our mental and physical well being. 

We also discuss tapping into your creative side, and the amazing changes choosing happiness over money can lead to.


Hope you enjoy! 

Nov 09, 202001:04:41
Using Psychedelics and Plant Medicine with Purpose | Pit Stop 18

Using Psychedelics and Plant Medicine with Purpose | Pit Stop 18

On this episode of the podcast I'm joined by Andy (@andy.ngvyen) to learn more about his experiences with psychedelics and plant medicine. We discuss approaching these substances not for recreation, but with intention, in a safe setting, and integrating the experience after it is over. 


Although Psychedelics are not something that I plan on trying, it is a topic that I have had a lot of curiosity around as several people I know have recently spoken to me about the positive experiences that they have had. 

Nov 02, 202058:56
Why Pursuing Perfection Actually Holds us Back | Pit Stop 17

Why Pursuing Perfection Actually Holds us Back | Pit Stop 17

On this episode of the podcast I'm joined by Benji (@bsmitss) again to talk about the idea of perfection. How it relates to our self worth, how it can stop us from putting ourselves out there, and how it's tied to the pursuit of seeking positive affirmation from others. 


I hope you enjoy!

Oct 26, 202001:02:52
The Mental Side of Physical Training | Journey 10 w/Anthony Huynh

The Mental Side of Physical Training | Journey 10 w/Anthony Huynh

On this episode of the podcast I'm joined by Anthony Huynh (@huynh_anthony), a personal trainer who has also competed in physique and power lifting competitions. However instead of focussing on the physical side of things, we focus on the mental side of physical training, talking about things like body image issues and our relationships with food. 


I hope you enjoy and if there is anyone who you think would enjoy the JWJ podcast please share! 

Oct 19, 202055:38
Getting out of your Head and Taking Action | Pit Stop 16
Oct 12, 202059:35