The Leadership Gap

It's impossible to "regulate" others' emotions but it is possible to influence them with the right knowledge, skillsets and attitudes. And the ones that will save the day are all around communication.

This is part 3 of a series on Emotional Intelligence. The topic: other management.

In this episode, we cover:

- The 3 areas of communication
- Why each area of communication is important to master
- Easy, actionable ideas on how to begin one's path to mastery

Managing your own emotions is one thing, but managing others' emotions is a whole different ball game. To do that, leaders need to develop empathy. And to develop empathy, leaders need to develop an ability to listen deeply.

This is part 3 of a series on Emotional Intelligence. The topic: social awareness.

In this episode, we cover:

- What it means to "listen deeply"
- The three levels of listening
- The mindsets needed to become an extraordinary listener
- How and when to access each level of listening

In this episode, Jonathan interviews Dr. Marcia Reynolds, a world-renowned expert on how leaders inspire change through conversations. 

She has spoken at conferences and taught workshops in 41 countries on leadership and transformational coaching. Her books include Wander Woman; Outsmart Your Brain; The Discomfort Zone; and her latest, Coach the Person, Not the Problem. 

In this episode, we talk about what makes a coaching conversation unique, the process of inquiry vs. a series of questions, the pitfalls of rationalization, the costs of giving advice rather than coaching, and much more.

Many of us tend to see emotions as things "getting in the way", however they are core and central to being a human being. So instead of trying to push emotions away or "deal with them" as quickly as possible, it's critical to know how to self-regulate.

This is part 2 of a series on Emotional Intelligence. The topic: emotional self-regulation.

In this episode, we cover:

- What self-regulation is
- What self-regulation is NOT
- What is co-regulation?
- How to self-regulate (lots of different ways to do it!)

Did you know there are two kinds of self-awareness? You're probably familiar with the kind of self-awareness that has you identify your strengths and weaknesses, likes and dislikes. There is also a 2nd kind of self-awareness that often goes ignored. This other kind of self-awareness has you experience the nuances of your body so that you can react in situations more skillfully - a key skill for any leader (and, frankly, human being).

This is part 1 of a series on Emotional Intelligence. The topic: Self-awareness.

In this episode, we cover:
- What is emotional intelligence (EQ)?
- Why is EQ important?
- What (exactly) is self-awareness?
- Why is self-awareness foundational to developing EQ?
- The two kinds of self-awareness
- How to go about building BOTH kinds of self-awareness

We've been thinking a lot about habits lately. One of the most important areas of our lives to focus on creating highly intentional, healthy habits is in the morning. This is an easy--and critical--way to set yourself up for success for the rest of the day.

In this episode, we cover:
- Why intentional morning rituals are so important
- Morning rituals of some of the most famous people in the world
- A framework for developing your own morning "Hour of Power"
- Our step-by-step morning ritual

Being a great boss is both an art and a science. How do you stay relatable while being firm with boundaries? How do you remain loyal to your people while remaining loyal to the organization's goals and objectives? How do you take charge and allow others to step up?

In this episode, we cover:
- What it takes to be a great, relatable boss
- How to have a conversation to set boundaries and stay influential
- A belief that is (probably) holding you back from showing up authentically as a boss

As leaders, it's important to consistently get feedback about how we're performing. Sometimes it can be difficult to hear more "critical feedback". To boot, sometimes the feedback you get isn't really that relevant. So how do you know what to integrate and what to ignore?

In this episode, we cover:
- 3 questions to validate and clarify feedback
- Tips to make sure your own feedback is clear
- How to more easily integrate hard-to-hear feedback

We all hit rough patches from time to time. And we all have experiences where, in different situations, we manage ourselves better than in others. So, is there a way one can get better and more consistent at "keeping it together" despite the circumstances? Believe it or not, there is!

In this episode, we cover:
- What exactly resilience is
- The common thread in EVERY difficult situation
- The consequences of NOT keeping it together
- A simple practice to get better at keeping it together (aka build resilience)

Seeing a situation from another point of view is both immensely beneficial and (sometimes) incredibly hard. That's why we've come up with this hack to guarantee to shift your perspective when things get sticky. 

In this episode, we cover:

- The benefits of perspective-shifting in business and in life

- The costs of holding onto a fixed perspective

- The sneaky reason why it's so hard to shift our perspective

- Our favourite tool to help loosen our grip on a perspective that isn't serving us. 

We've all felt demotivated before, but why exactly is that? What is REALLY going on in the background that is stopping us from taking the actions that we so often know we need to take? What can we do to stay motivated, regardless of the circumstances?

In this episode, we cover:
- What exactly motivation is
- 6 reasons why you might be demotivated around a task (or life in general)
- Clear examples of how this might look in your business and in your life
- How to get motivated again when these factors are present

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What if all problems, no matter how big or small, had the same underlying feature that, if you could grasp it, would unlock your ability to move past it with more ease and grace than ever before? It might be a bold claim, but this episode is doing just that.

In this episode, we cover:
- What exactly a problem is
- Key distinctions that will help you better understand how to approach any and all problems
- A gauge you can use to see if you're tackling your problems effectively
- Actionable, practical tips to bring this mindset into your business and life

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A common trap that leaders fall into is that they serve serve serve until they drop, forgetting to take care of themselves. Despite "knowing" that one should take care of themself, why do leaders continue to fall into this pattern?

In this episode, we cover:
- What's REALLY getting in the way of self care
- Common beliefs holding us back from taking care of ourselves
- New beliefs to take on that empower and care for oneself and others
- Actionable, practical tips for instilling new beliefs around self care

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For our first episode, we want to dive right into what we think is the most practical, important question around leadership - what does it take to be a great leader?

In this episode, we cover:
- What is "leadership"
- What is "a leader"
- What is the defining factor of a great leader
- Actionable, practical tips for being a great leader

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