It isn't hyper focus or passion for things that interest us that is the true SUPERPOWER of living with ADHD. I believe its something else, and I discuss it at length in this episode. It's a power we're often discouraged from using but one you must reclaim to make your full contribution to this world.
Take back this power and you can change lives.
Below is an overview of what I share in this episode. Of course when the recording started I had a lot more to say. Enjoy!
Context: Mom (client), texted Coach (me) because young child was throwing a tantrum and kicking seats in the car because she didn't feel heard.
Phone handed to child so they could text me. I asked strategic questions to get to the bottom of what the trigger was (not feeling heard).
I offered the following strategy to the child,
Think about making suggestions or sharing your thoughts like a game of go fish (the card game). The whole point is to see if they have what you’re looking for.
Let’s say one of your ideas for lunch is McDonald’s. So your goal isn’t to make them want McDonald’s, your goal is to see whether they want to go to McDonald’s or not. Do they have the same interest/same card as the one you want, with me on this?
All you want from them is a yes or no answer.
If it’s yes, GREAT! That’s what you want to, if it’s NO you have to go fish. Fish for another option until you find one they have an interest in too.
Make sense? Great! The child loved it to.
It's one thing when the world excludes people with disabilities because we aren't considered when building structures, passing laws etc.
What's even worse is the willful ignorance of those with ADHD when it comes to accessing the education and accomodation(s) needed to share their gifts fully with the world.
Listen as I share my thoughts on this and please join the conversation.
Here's where you can check out the work of my friend Laura Mzhickteno
I can't think of any life experience that isn't made worse by anxiety.
When it comes to adulting, anxiety can often rob you of more resourcefulness and focus than anything else.
The point is that anxiety is more manageable than you may believe and today I received inspiration and education from Iron Man himself, Robert Downey Jr. Listen and learn with me. Then share this with others.
There's no end to the number of people who want to give you advice on parenting. Unfortunately, there's more poor advice in the world than helpful.
Just this morning I spoke with a mother who quoted a sign she saw in a therapists's office, "Be the parent you wish you'd had."
That phrase became the source of a deeper conversation about what it means to be a parent. I shared a more powerful approach to parenting with her that I'll share with you now. Enjoy :-)