Turn off the morning news and tune into an episode of The Morning Light Show for inspiration, insights & practices to free your spirit, open your heart and start your day off LIGHT and BRIGHT! Topics focused on self-mastery and bringing out the best in others.
On today's episode with badass intimacy expert Allana Pratt, learn how to stop looking for the ONE and BECOME the ONE in your own life. Take yourself by the hand, embody truth and be courageous and bold to live the life that's aligned with your highest purpose.
Intimacy Expert, Allana Pratt is a global media personality who awakens open-hearted, unapologetic living after heartbreak. Her vulnerability and courage landed her a featured weekly column on the GoodMenProject, featured as an Icon of Influence, and as Guest Expert on Huffington Post, People Magazine, Forbes, The Jenny McCarthy Show among other national media. This Ivy League grad is the Author of 4 top selling books, has interviewed Whoopi Goldberg, Alanis Morissette and Dr. Bernie Seigel and Hosts the edgy Podcast “Intimate Conversations” where listeners learn how to find the relationship they deserve. A certified coach, Allana was asked by Leeza Gibbons to coach her during Dancing with the Stars. With over 4.5 million viewers on YouTube, Allana is the go-to authority when struggling to trust again after heartbreak. She offers private coaching and retreats to support her clients have thriving intimate relationships with themselves first, which naturally attracts their ideal partnership
Even when you're at your lowest low, you can manifest something incredibly beautiful and life-changing. This is a benevolent Universe and today's story of surrender about my client Sarah meeting a special soul when she was in a slump will forever change the way you think about how much you're loved!
What if you so deeply trusted that the Universe has your back and is orchestrating the perfect series of events for your life to unfold exactly as it should? Well, that's exactly what's happening, yet we mostly don't trust that. Instead, we judge what's showing up and condemn ourselves for fucking it all up. On today's episode, I share lessons learned from Michael Singer's book The Surrender Experiment and invite you to shift your perspective to see that everything is happening FOR you and your most benevolent unfolding.
The Surrender Experiment by Michael Singer
I recently listened to Neale Donald Walsh's book Conversations with God Book 4: Awaken the Species and gained insight and wisdom into how to live more in alignment with our souls. When you can tune into a deeper truth that's seeking to emerge in your life, and align with your highest calling, your soul feels fulfilled on its journey of awakening. On today's show, I share the 5 practices and ways of being that assist the awakening process and a handful of questions the author recommends to ask yourself when you're feeling incongruent.
Neale Donald Walsh's "Magic Inquiry:"
And what does this have to do with the agenda of my soul?
4 Fundamental Questions of Life
Who am I?
Where am I?
Why am I where I am?
What do I intend to do with that?
Kelly's mission is to positively impact the lives of women by providing the tools and knowledge to think and respond differently, reduce suffering and increase joy, and become their true authentic self. On today's episode, we talk about shifting your mindset and energy and making time for YOU to become the YOU you're meant to be in this life.
Learn more about Kelly Resendez @ bigvoicesrise.com
I know you! I feel you!
You FEEL your own and other's emotions deeply. While it is the superpower of all superpowers to have this level of psychic intuitiveness, it can also take you to places of great discomfort all because you choose to sometimes take responsibility for emotions and thoughts that have nothing to do with you. On today's episode, I offer insights and practices to help you manage the ups and downs taking on other people's shit.
“Don't ask yourself what the world needs. Ask yourself what makes you come alive, and go do that, because what the world needs is people who have come alive.” -Howard Thurman
On today's episode, explore how you can feel more alive in your own life and spread the good energy of that to others!
What makes you happy? This was the question my client was recently asked that she felt like she couldn't answer. How about you? Can you answer that question? And take it a step further, are you truly happy in your life right now? On today's episode, learn how to attract more magic and prime your brain with joyful anticipation without getting caught up in expectations and disappointment.
Now more than ever in this noisy, confused world, people want to feel seen, heard and validated. If you're interested in creating deep, meaningful connections with others, there are a few practices you can use to master holding space for others. On today's episode, learn how you can make people feel fully loved and accepted in your presence.
Have you ever heard the quote, "Life is what happens when you're busy making other plans?" Sometimes unexpected things happen on our path - we have a eureka moment, a loved one dies, we get a scary diagnosis, we definitively realize we're in the wrong job - and we have a choice as to how we respond. On today's episode, learn how to move through difficult times and lessons in the most awake, aware, conscious way possible.
On today's episode, guest Jesse Harless shares his passion to disrupt the addiction and recovery space, discusses how we're all addicted to something (and what we can do about it) and gives us ideas for new healthy 'addictions' we can use to replace our bad ones.
Because we're human, we're emotional creatures, and sometimes those emotions get the best of us. On today's episode, learn 3 simple practices to diffuse difficult emotions as they arise so you don't go down a rabbit hole of negativity.
Letting Go by David Hawkins
When's the last time you or someone you know complained about "corporate America?" It's as if there's a corporate identity that we're all sick and tired of, yet we're mired in the problem, and waiting on the business owners and leaders to come up with the solution. As a result, organizations define their values, determine their why and spend billions on leadership development, combatting the problem with the same thinking that led us here. There is a better way based on Quantum Mechanics, and on today's show, I (attempt to) go Quantum again to talk about how each of us can contribute to re-shaping the corporate America we've love to hate.
"Confusion is our salvation. For the confused, there is still hope. Hang on to your confusion. In the end it is your best friend, your best defense against the dealthliness of others' answers, against being raped by their ideas. If you are confused, you are still free." Dr. David R Hawkins, Letting Go
You long for clarity, certainty, a path forward that gives you relief from your confusion. Yet as soon as you get there, there's something else to confuse you, propel your growth, open you to new possibilities. Instead of resisting confusion and demanding clarity, what if your best path forward is to practice acceptance of whatever is right now? On today's episode, we explore some of those practices and help you find peace on your journey to clarity.
What do you want to break free from? What thought, story, situation, relationship is holding you back? I know that you can feel it, yet the fear of loss is greater than the potential gain on the other side. On today's episode, I invite you to reflect on the gift of freedom and how freeing yourself from your past story will propel you into the bright future that you're seeking and that's seeking you.
Are you trying to do everything in your business (and life) to the point where you have no energy to do what you love and what you're best at? On today's show, learn how to harness the power of 'who not how' to build a business and life around what you do best.
Do you remember the old model of the atom that showed a nucleus surrounded by concentric rings with dots representing the protons, neutrons and electrons? It was so precise and suited our need for absolute certainty in how this physical world is constructed. The problem is, that's not actually what's happening inside an atom. Instead, an atom is a cloud of energy, vibration and uncertainty. Electrons disappear when no one is observing them, and there are vast spaces of potentiality in terms of where the wave can collapse into a particle. On today's episode, learn how these factors play a huge role in creating a life that we love and how you can focus more on the unified field where everything is connected to accelerate your progress towards the life you love.
Becoming Supernatural by Joe Dispenza
In my morning quiet time, I was drawn to read from one of my favorite books, Becoming Supernatural by Dr. Joe Dispenza, and was reminded of how we can create more of what we desire. There's a physical element to creating what we want but there's also a quantum elements that's way more powerful. On today's episode, I dive into a light, easy-to-understand description of how to move from creating from the five sensory world to creating from the 5th dimension of no time and space. And this is only the beginning of my attempt to get all quantum up in here on The Morning Light Show.
When there's chaos, confusion, discontent and uncertainty in your outer world, when you tune into your inner conversation it's often filled with fear, judgement, anxiety and angst. In the simplest of terms, you separate from yourself, and your inner critic takes over letting your true self have it. Instead of choosing this path, what if you decided to be your biggest ally, your best friend and work through whatever 'it' is that's causing so much grief? On today's episode, hear how loving your own heart is the most healing thing you can do for yourself to calm the outer chaos.
Matt Kahn Quotes
Do you ever feel like you're too much for people or that people might now understand your level of energy and zest for life? If so, today's episode is for YOU!
When you're at your best, you're unconsciously giving others (even the ones who think you're too much!) permission to step into their best. On today's episode, we talk about the Marianne Williamson quote "Our deepest fear..." and mirror neurons to explain why your flourishing is a selfless act of service.
Mirror Flourishing in Organizations article
Marianne Williamson quote
Are you the type of person who believes that there are no accidents and that everything affects everything else? Or are you the type of person who thinks that things are random and unrelated, no matter how 'coincidental' they are? After today's show about what's poppin' in my fish tank, you may no longer look at the seeming coincidences in your life as unrelated.
Cathy Christen is a spirited boss babe, serial entrepreneur, keynote speaker, life + business strategist, and best-selling author dedicated to helping others live a life they love. She brings profound awareness to the extraordinary possibilities within everyone she meets, and provides business and personal coaching tools to help individuals and organizations elevate to their highest potential. She's a dear friend of mine and someone who always inspires and energizes me. On today's episode, hear more about her seven steps to live a life you love and get some practice steps to take to get clear about your why and get moving on your goals.
Book - Life As A Masterpiece
You're asked to set goals at work and perhaps even set goals for your life too. You use the SMART format, fill out the forms, yet why don't you achieve what you want to? It has to do with the state you're in when you set the goals. On today's episode, learn how I teach effective goal setting inside of organizations that gets people excited and makes their goals feel more possible than they ever have before.
Questions to Explore:
PURPOSE: What is it about being your best self at work and in life that gives you a deep sense of purpose, meaning or fulfillment?
STRENGTHS: Reflect on 2-3 moments of excellence from the last 12 months (or as far back as you want to go), times when you were at your very best and fully alive.
What happened? Share a story of two with me…
What did you bring to these moments?
What qualities have you seen show up, when you were at your best?
Are there any strengths that maybe you’ve never fully appreciated or are under-ultilized?
What strengths might you be able to better leverage moving forward
GRATITUDE: Reflect on the people, the opportunities, the gifts that are all around you…
What do you value and appreciate most about your life right now? Share as many things as you’d like….
What do you appreciate and value about yourself, your family, your community, your work?
FUTURE: Imagine...a year from now, you’ve not only lived your best life but you’ve done it in a way that gives you a sense of pride, meaning, fulfillment…
If you could wave a magic wand, and make 3 wishes come true in the next 12 months, what would happen?
As you reflect on your wishes, hopes and aspirations for the next year, which one matters most and why?
Imagine every single wish came true...describe how that feels?
FUTURE SELF: Imagine...you’ve not only surpassed your highest hopes for the next year, but you’ve evolved into the person you’ve always known you could be, your true self…
How would you like to see yourself evolving as a person in the next 12 months?
What are the qualities, values, ways of being...that your highest future is calling you to embody, to become, to fully live out?
In order to create the bright and beautiful future that you desire, you must practice the art of living it now. Last week when I facilitated the mastermind in Orlando, the pervasive theme with the group was the power of living into our future narrative. On today's episode, I recall a couple of powerful past visualizations that came true for me, and offer you ways to embody your future self to bring your future into your current reality.
Are you tired of hearing the same old 'rules and regulations' about writing your personal purpose statement and setting SMART goals? Have tried some of these methodologies, yet feel like you're still not where you want to be in your life? On today's episode with my coach, mentor and friend Jon Bergoff, you'll not only gain a new perspective on your why and your goals, you'll get practical ways to shift your thinking and re-define them in a way that facilitates your growth and creates more fulfillment in your day-to-day life.
Under Jon's leadership, the Flourishing Leadership Institute team has designed and facilitated whole-system change efforts through large group collaborative summits for organizations that include BMW, Fathom, Boeing Corporation, Vitamix Corporation, Fortec Medical, and Fairmount Santrol. Jon previously served as the head of sales for the direct sales team at Vitamix Corporation, where revenue grew by 400% in less than 4 years, as their team grew from 175 to over 600 members. His work in Appreciative Leadership, Emotionally Intelligent Negotiations, and Influence has brought him to Australia, Japan, the UK, and South America. Jon is in high demand, known for his authenticity and highly engaging style of creating powerful learning experiences for participants.
How often do you immediately assume that something or someone just "is what it is?" Our brains love to predict outcomes, and therefore naturally go to the certainty of coming to a conclusion v. staying open to the infinite possibilities that are available to us. On today's episode, hear a few fun stories of my own experience of jumping to conclusions and learn how to spend more time in awareness to create more of what you want in your life.
You're having conversations all day - both inside and outside your head. Are you making them worth having? Are they giving you and others life or sucking the life out of you? On today's episode, we continue the conversation about conversations and learn how to flip a problem to have a meaningful dialogue and what ratio of positive to negative interactions lead to toxic relationships at work and even divorce.
Conversations Worth Having
Today's guest, Gina Brelesky, is a fellow leadership expert and coach who is not only knowledgeable, but very passionate about resilience because of her own personal childhood story. Today we talk brain-based leadership and the courage to bounce back.
Rodney Makes a Friend Book
Have you ever had a conversation with someone that ruined your day? Have you ever had a conversation with someone that made your day brighter? On today's episode, learn about the four types of conversations from the book Conversations Worth Having by Jackie Stavros and Cheri Torres and see where you spend most of your time.
I interview Michael about his new book Changes: The Busy Professionals Guide to Reducing Stress, Accomplishing Goals and Mastering Adaptability, and he turns the tables and interviews me with his cool card deck.
When you look at your life and what you want to create, are you spending too much time looking at what's in the way? When your energy is focused on the boulder on your path between here and there, you will continually stop yourself from being the greatness of you and going for it; however, when you focus more energy and attention on what you want and act boldly, sometimes that boulder just blows up. On today's episode, learn how to make bolder decisions and leapfrog towards a life that you truly desire.
What would your life look like if you were wildly centered in enthusiasm and fully committed to being, do and having the life YOU choose for you? On today's episode, learn to embrace your full energy and zest, and create a new reality from the totality of possibility.
Is being a problem solver is a badge of honor you wear? Perhaps you tout it as a skill on your resume, and maybe you even love the idea of fixing broken people, places and things. What if there were an infinitely more expansive way to live your life, where you didn't feel so bogged down by problems and the past, and instead felt uplifted and empowered to create from the possibility of your brightest future? On today's show, compare notes on problem v. possibility thinking, see where you spend most of your time and learn to shift into creating from a much more expansive place.
What are you waiting to use or holding onto for dear life because you don't want to mess it up? After buying myself some new clothes last week, I realized I didn't want to wear them because I didn't want to 'mess them up.' How silly is that? This feels like the equivalent putting plastic on your sofa and having it stick annoyingly and uncomfortably to your legs every time you use it for the sake of preserving it. What are you trying to preserve that you should just use NOW? In today's episode, contemplate what you're putting off for future use and consider the implications of continuing to do that.
After facilitating my first official Appreciative Inquiry experience post-training, it's clearer than ever that we are officially in the Connection Economy. I first read about this concept in Seth Godin's book The Icarus Deception, which I highly recommend. We're tired of standard, conformity and same-old, same-old. We long for different, meaningful and engaging. On today's episode, learn how to bring more of the Connection Economy into your day-to-day interactions to BE your best and bring out the best in others.
Einstein said the most important question you can ask yourself is if this is a friendly or unfriendly universe. On today's episode, explore why loving yourself as a soul and being your own BFF is the beginning befriending the universe, engaging in meaningful, vibrant relationships and leading the life you love.
You were born believing in yourself and trusting that YOU know the way to BE you like nobody else. Over years of listening to all the trusted adults in your life, you likely got sideways on this, and may not even know what to believe or who you really are. On today's episode, get clear on why believing in yourself is the most important part of stepping into the fullness of who you are, and hear practices and tips for shifting your internal dialogue and amplifying self-belief.
The Summer School of You
When is the last time you felt like you could be FULLY you AND FULLY accepted? The journey of self-mastery can feel lonely at times, yet since you're wired for connection it's important to find and be with 'your people.' On today's episode, learn how to create space for belonging, find your tribe and open yourself to receive so you can feel nurtured and loved.
When you're interested in constant growth and evolution, life is a magical (and sometimes confusing) dance between BEING and BECOMING. On today's episode, learn how to be more like the Velveteen Rabbit and embrace being 'the weird one' to BECOME the greatest version of YOU.
You have a picture of who you are in your mind's eye and everything in your world aligns with whatever that picture is. If you want your world to be different, YOU have to be different. In today's episode, learn how to shift your inner dialogue, cultivate self-love and see yourself in new light as a way to create and lead the life you love.
It truly scares the shit out of me to share this episode. I'm more vulnerable than I ever have been before, totally cracked open as I share why now is the time for YOU (and I) to come out of hiding. On this journey of becoming, as Anais Nin says, the day comes when the risk to remain tight in a bud is more painful than the risk it takes to blossom. The world needs what you have to offer and this episode is your permission slip to come out from hiding.
Are you the type of person who lights up a room when you walk in or when you walk out? Just like flowers following the sun, we grow towards that which gives us life. On today's episode, learn about the Heliotropic Effect and how to be and receive the light to be more like the sun.
Jon Bergoff on JP Sear's Podcast
Have you ever had an experience, day, event, vacation, moment in time that moved you and resonated so deeply, that you were changed by it forever? This was my experience last week after being in a room of high-vibe people who are changing the world one conversation at a time. When you experience this, it can feel disappointing to go back to the 'real world' and re-integrate into your family and routine. On today's episode, learn how to reintegrate more smoothly and reinvigorate the good energy of what was into your day-to-day life to continue the good vibes of the experience.
Have you ever felt like a complete fraud, like someone is about to shine a big, bright light on your incompetence? If so, you've experienced imposter syndrome. On today's episode, I talk about my recent experience with imposter syndrome, share the 5 types of imposter syndrome and give you tips, tools and an empowering questions to ponder to get out of your own way and step into the greatness that you are.
Amy Cuddy's TED talk
Dr. Valerie Young Article
After spending a week with some of the most conscious, high-minded, wholehearted people I've ever met, I was reminded of the importance of who we surround ourselves with. You've probably heard you're the average of the five people you spend the most time with, but have you checked in with that lately to see if the people you're around are inspiring you or sucking the life out of you? If you're feeling less than good about the energy you're absorbing from your comrades, don't worry. On today's episode, you'll learn how you can choose your energy to align with who you want to be and attract the people who will lift you up and inspire you.
What if you spent 80% of your energy focusing on your strengths, what's working and what inspires you and only 20% on your weaknesses? What would you life look like if you committed to be, do and have what comes most naturally to you? On today's episode, explore more principles of appreciative inquiry and learn to apply them to your life to be the best you can be and to bring out the best in others.
When you're disengaged from work, you're disengaged from life. You spend the majority of your waking hours at work so when you're not doing work that's aligned with the call of your soul, you'll feel empty and 'flat' and long for something more. On today's episode, learn the 3 reasons why people start a business or take a role and tune into your inner wisdom to see if you're living your calling.
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In today's second conversation with leadership and employee experience expert Kevin Monroe, learn what to do if you don't like your job and hear about what he does for his morning routine that might surprise you.
Kevin Monroe is gifted as a compassionate connector, communicator, facilitator, growth guide, and trusted advisor. He operates at the intersection of faith, business, and purpose, and serves his clients by:
Working with leaders and CEOs (both one-on-one and in small group cohorts)
Developing teams as leaders and cultures
Helping companies embrace and express purpose
He's the host of the Higher Purpose podcast and is committed to helping organizations THRIVE by bringing out the best in people.
Get ready for a lively, meaningful conversation that was so fun I had to split it into 2 parts.
I am off to Cleveland next week to become a LEAF certified facilitator. As I was reading my prep articles, I got teary-eyed because the words resonated so much with me. On today's episode, I give you a brief overview of appreciative inquiry and offer a new perspective to 'solving problems' that's way more effective than our typical deficit-based thinking.
It's been one of those weeks around here - lots going on, feeling scattered and fully noticing the effects of pushing myself out of my comfort zone. On today's episode, learn some tips, tricks and practices that have helped me find clarity in the chaos.
Designing Your Life
This is my second ever interview with a dear friend and leadership expert Michael Detrich-Chastain. We're talking about his upcoming book Changes and giving you some tips, ideas and practices you can implement to reduce stress, accomplish goals and master adaptability.
Are you familiar with Joseph Campbell's Hero's Journey?
You're likely familiar with the pattern of the Hero's Journey, even if you don't know you are, as it's the plot line of many beloved films: Star Wars, Tron, The Goonies, The Lord of the Rings and Harry Potter, to name a few. If you're curious, read more here.
Did you know that there's also a Heroine's Journey that's quite different from the male character's journey? The movie that best portrays this is The Wizard of Oz, where Dorothy experiences a call to adventure that leads her back to the magic within her own heart.
While there are many differences between the Hero's and Heroine's journey, the key difference is that as women we mistakenly dis-identify with our feminine power and attempt to 'take on the world' and 'get shit done' with a more masculine way of being. (For more about balancing your masculine and feminine sides listen to podcast episodes 144-147). Though women may find outer success doing this, we won't feel complete or fulfilled until we fully embrace the power of our feminine nature.
Joseph Campbell said, "Women don’t need to make the journey. In the whole mythological journey, the woman is there. All she has to do is realize that she’s the place that people are trying to get to.”
Embracing your feminine magic, will lead you to create from a space of the totality of possibility, the place people are 'trying' so hard to get to. How does it get any better than that? What if you could use the principles of releasing and receiving to be, do and have everything you've ever wanted? What if you could use your intuition and fully know the energy of what you want to create and solely focus your energy there?
Welcoming my first ever guest to the show, Karen Briscoe! She is the creator of the 5 Minute Success concept. She regularly speaks on a national and local level on the best of 5 Minute Success. Further she is the host of the weekly 5 Minute Success podcast which has an amazing array of guests who achieve success at a high level in business and life. She has completed the John Maxwell Team Certification Program for Coaching, Speaking and Training. Karen is a frequent guest on other podcasts that focus on entrepreneurial, success and motivation, as well as real estate related topics. Further, she is a contributing author to real estate media outlets INMAN and Real Trends.
If there were no limitations, what would you like your life to look like? When you think about the 'goals' you want to achieve, what FEELING are you looking for as you strive for that? When you want your like to look different than it does now, you must get into the energy and frequency of what that FEELS like in order to bring like energy into your life, and get the results you're looking to achieve. On today's show, learn an activity to use to get clearer about the feeling behind your goals and bring more of it into your reality.
What would your like look like if you abolished all limited thinking? How would you feel if you busted through your limits or need to control everything into the expansive person that you are? When you limit yourself with a thought, story or belief that keeps you small, you miss out on the expansive opportunity that your life can be. On today's episode, learn how to tell if you're living in a limitation or in possibility and get some questions you can ask yourself to generate a new way of being in the world.
Resources & Questions:
Right Riches for You
-If there were no limitations, and you could do what you truly love to do, what would you choose?
-What kind of impact would you like to have in the world?
-What starting income would you like to have?
-What emotion or energetic feeling would you like your life to have?
-What else is possible here?
-What must you be, do, have, generate, or create that will allow you to show up as the greatest version of you?
What would be different in your life if you received everything with ease, joy and glory? Compliments, help, money, joy, love, growth etc etc etc. Imagine what that would look and feel like. We're immersed in a world of total and complete abundance, yet unwilling to receive the fullness of that and of who we are. Are you a willing receiver? Are you willing to receive more of whatever it takes for you to be the greatness of YOU? On today's episode, immerse yourself in the mindset of receiving and get clear about what else is possible for you.
Money Isn't the Problem, You Are
Busy is a drug that many people are addicted to. Are you? I've recently realized that with the newfound time in my schedule I'm suffering from withdrawals from the busy drug. Busy is a cheap drug and makes us feel valued, valuable and validated; however, when you look to your schedule and others needing you as a sign that you're worthy, what are you when you're not busy? On today's episode, hear more about my struggle and learn the insights I've gained from being in this space.
It sucks to be in the midst of a shame spiral, to be grappling with worthiness and self-doubt. We all go through it, but when we're in it, we feel so isolated and alone. In today's episode, I "tell all" about my recent shame spiral and grappling with self-doubt and offer you some strategies to move through them with more ease.
What do you feel when you're feeling stuck? How tolerant are you of the discomfort of not knowing what to do next or not knowing if what you're doing is 'the right thing.?' On today's episode, learn two simple practices to get you unstuck and feeling like the fullness of YOU again.
Book - Money Isn't the Problem, You Are
In an article about marketing, I recently read to BE AUTHENTIC & CONSISTENT. It seems so simple, yet in a world of comparing ourselves to others, seeing what everyone else is doing on social media and feeling the pressure to find our niche market, it can be THE most difficult thing. You're told to think about your brand and your story, but in the end you feel like a robotic, carbon-copied version of yourself or your business. On today's episode, hear about some of my favorite people who are authentic and consistent and be inspired to find your way to be more authentic and consistent.
How good are you at showing up for yourself?
How about for others?
You're likely better at one than the other, and on today's episode, you'll learn why both are important and how to be more mindful of showing up and being present during ordinary, tough and joyful moments.
Are you the kind of person who easily takes others' advice or do you do the opposite of whatever someone tells you to do (especially your parents : ) )? There is actually a scientific reason why other peoples advice feels so bad. On today's show, you'll learn why the brain hates advice, how you can avoid the temptation to give other people advice and what to do instead.
Do you look around to see what everyone else is doing on social media and feel 'green with envy?' Comparing yourself to others is one of the most harmful ways to sabotage your journey to self-mastery. In order to be your best self and inspire and empower others to be their best self, you must stop the comparison game. On today's episode, learn how to compare less and be yourself more, and get some simple tips and tricks for how to turn jealousy into fuel for your fire instead of accelerator for your shame.
Jay Shetty You Tube
On this journey to grow and be the best version of you, you're going to have to do things you don't feel like doing; however, sometimes you push yourself to doing things that are misaligned because you see someone else doing them and think that you should too. How do you know when something uncomfortable is truly worth enduring and will lead you to be who you want to be OR if you're just following someone else's path too closely? The answer to that question on today's show!
What are you willing to bust through any obstacle for? When you're committed and passionate about something, you're willing to do what it takes to create it. As Marcus Aurelius said, "Our actions may be impeded, but there can be no impeding our intentions or dispositions. Because we can accommodate and adapt. The mind adapts and converts to its own purposes the obstacle to our acting. The impediment to action advances action. What stands in the way becomes the way." In today's episode, hear about some of the obstacles in my life, contemplate what's in your way that you're willing to push through and better understand why the obstacle IS the way.
Bob Goff Love Does
What distractions are getting in the way of you living your dreams? After reading a post on Facebook (one of my distractions, BTW) about dieting being a distraction for many women, I started thinking of all the things, both obvious and not, that were designed to keep us from achieving our dreams. In today's episode, identify your distractions and learn how to distinguish between something that's fun and something that's keeping you from being all you're meant to be.
Susan Hyatt's New Book Bare
After yesterday's episode, I realized there was so much more I could say about LUCK, so here you have it - Luck 2.0. In today's episode, learn the 3 simple practices you can implement today to become luckier.
Luck is In Your Control Article
The Science of Luck Article
Do you consider yourself a lucky person? Who is the luckiest person that you know? What makes them different from others? According to research by Richard Wiseman, luck is not something that you either have or don't have, it's something that you practice. On today's show, learn the four practices of lucky people and be inspired to change your fortune.
Richard Wiseman Research
If you don't know what you want, how can you create it? Often times, the first step in living intentionally is defining what we want for ourselves. This is not always an easy step considering you've likely been listening to others and comparing your journey way too much (blame social media); however, even more challenging than knowing what you want is being OK with the uncertainty that you have to be comfortable with in order to create a new future. You see, it's impossible to know how your desired future will manifest because you've never done it before, so whether you like it or not, uncertainty is part of this journey of conscious creation. On today's episode, get comfortable with the discomfort of going for what you want and doing things out of your comfort zone to create and lead the life you love.
Do you spend more of your time thinking about the past, living in the present or planning for the future? Chances are you're spending more time out of the present moment than in it; however, on the journey to be your best self, you also know that in order to create the future you desire, you absolutely must spend time intentionally visualizing and setting goals for it. In today's episode, learn how our brain interprets future events, why visualizing is important and why you also much be mindful and in the now if you want to harness your full manifestation powers.
Imagination is more important than knowledge. -Albert Einstein
Past and future are in the mind only - I am now. Sri Nisargadatta Maharaj
I don't know about you, but I grew up believing that I could think (or learn) my way out of any situation. During that time, it was thought that IQ was THE most important factor in success, and while EQ research was emerging, it hadn't permeated the education system enough to impact my belief that the brain was the superior organ. This was not all bad because it led me to learn, stay curious and get a college degree (and then 2 Masters); however, as soon I couldn't actually think my way out of situations, I felt anxious and stuck. Then I learned about the role of EQ in our lives and about the connection between the brain and the heart. Now I know that there's no either/or when it comes to the head and the heart. When we leverage both, we harness the best we have to offer and can give that to others. In today's episode, explore the heart-brain connection and learn an easy way to be at your very best energy.
Quick Coherence Technique
Article: Accessing the Wisdom of the Heart
Have you ever heard the quote "If you're not growing, you're dying?" Well, truth is, we have phases of growth and death in our lives whether we like it or not, and chances are, you like one of those phases better than the other. For those of you who are achievers and hedonists, you love the excitement and energy of newness and expansion. For those of you who prefer to stay comfortable and are reluctant to change, you may be OK with the passivity of letting things go and deteriorate. Either way, in the self-help world, we get mixed messages about what's good and not good about both. After today's episode, you'll understand why you need expansion and contraction and hear how to best manage whichever phase you find yourself in.
Chris Cates album Passion & Purpose
On this journey of awakening and self-mastery, it can be confusing as to which 'truths' are actually true. In fact, many times, the teachings can directly conflict with each other. On today's episode, learn the difference between healthy striving v. perfectionism AND moving forward v. appreciating what is.
Healthy Striving v. Perfectionism Article
Matt Kahn video
Have you ever been a part of a team where you felt like you couldn't fully be yourself AND be accepted? If so, it's highly likely that you didn't have psychological safety, an environment where you feel safe to ask questions, express ideas, acknowledge mistakes, honor shortcomings and raise concerns. Because it requires vulnerability and flexibility, it is a more feminine than masculine dynamic. As a leader and a team member, it's your responsibility to foster an environment where people can thrive, and psychological safety is the foundation for that thriving. On today's episode, learn what it is, why it matters and how you can foster more of it on your teams.
Article: Create Your Own Psychological Safety at Work
Article: The Five Keys to a Successful Google Team
As an American woman, chances are you're some degree of a self-sufficient, independent, no-nonsense alpha female. There are exceptions to this, but they're just that, exceptions. With the overplay of masculine energy put into your work, sometimes that same energy follows you home and leads to a striving, stressful and unfavorable environment with your partner and kids. On today's episode, determine for yourself if you're bringing too much masculine energy to your home and learn four strategies to bring out more feminine energy to find peace, joy and harmony in your home life.
Do you feel emotions (both yours and others') deeply?
Do you find yourself taking on other peoples' feelings way to easily?
Do you need a lot of alone time to re-charge your batteries?
If so, you may be a sensitive soul. If you have feminine energy as your leading energy, you may be extra sensitive and intuitive. On today's episode, learn how to know if you're a sensitive soul, how to embrace it and how to protect yourself from energy vampires.
Dr. Judith Orloff
Are you feeling cranky, rigid, stuck in a rut or victimized by life? If so, you may need more PLAY in your life. As a child, PLAY was your natural state of being, growing and learning; however, as an over-scheduled, working, stressed-out adult, you may have forgotten to prioritize play in your life. When you make crafts, work a puzzle, read a book, paint a canvas, play a round of golf or take a swim in the lake you lose track of time, feel fully present and engage in carefree timelessness, which benefits your well-being WAY more than we give it credit for. After today's episode, you'll understand the importance of prioritizing play and doing things for the sake of enjoyment.
Kelly Clements website
Why Goofing Off Is Important
Regardless of your gender, you have both masculine and feminine energies inside of you. While one is likely your leading energy (very few people have an exact balance of both), finding harmony between the two creates well-being and wholeness. In today's episodes, decide what your leading energy is and get tips for how you can bring out the dormant masculine or feminine energy that longs to reveal itself.
How to Balance Masculine & Feminine Energies
Masculine & Feminine Energy Quiz
Ever since you were a kid you had a vision for who you aspired to be, not just in a sense of your occupation, but also related to the characteristics you wanted to exude. Are you being that person today? What aspirations do you have for your future? Often times, what inspires us can lead us to what we aspire to achieve and who we aspire to be. On today's episode, heard how inspiration fuels aspiration and gain clarity on who you want to be.
You've heard things like "The truth will set you free" and "Truth is beauty" all your life, but are you willing to take a U-turn if you know that the road you're currently on is not taking you to your place of TRUTH? In other words, how uncomfortable are you willing to get to stay aligned with your values? In today's episode, learn how the body knows if you've living truth or not, and hear about a recent painful experience I had with being duped.
Muscle Testing Article/Video
"The years wrinkle our skin, but the lack of enthusiasm wrinkles our soul." -Socrates
Are you inspiring others with your passion for life? Do you share infectious energy with others about the things you love? In today's episode, learn how to positively impact others with your energy and enthusiasm for life.
Who is someone when you're with them you literally feel your blood pressure drop? Where is a place where you find great peace effortlessly? Living peacefully gives others a giant dose of inspiration, and reminds us of who we truly are. Energy is contagious and the energy of peace makes us feel in touch with our true self and our Creator; it inspires us to be present and fully aligned with the here and now. On today's show, explore PEACE as a way of being, and get some ideas on how to practice more peace in your life so you can inspire others more.
Heart Coherence Meditation
When you hold the space presently and silently as someone speaks, they feel honored, cared for and heard. In this world full of loudness and distractions, there's nothing that fuels human connection more than the empathy of deep listening. In fact, when you make someone feel heard, they feel connected to the Source of all because deep listening emulates prayer. In today's episode, reflect on the good listeners in your life, be inspired to be a better listener and hear about the spiritual side of deep listening.
Empathy Video - Brene Brown
"Even after all this time, the Sun never looks at the Earth and says 'You owe me.' Look what happens with a love like that, it lights up the whole sky." -Hafiz
God, Krishna, Atman, Allah, Universal Mind - whatever you want to call the Source of All That Is, supplies abundantly, and depending on your own level of generosity, you will either live abundantly or not. If you want to LIVE BIG, you have to GIVE BIG. In today's episode, learn how your generosity inspires others, and hear about a practice I've been engaged in for the last 5 months (that I'm really uncomfortable talking about!) that's helped me truly KNOW that generosity increases all good in life.
Are you actively practicing gratitude and sharing it with others? What you appreciate appreciates, and when you radiate the energy of gratitude, not only will others notice your 'radical humility,' they will feel good in your presence. On today's episode, go deeper with gratitude, learn how it inspires others and hear an embarrassing fact about my gratitude practice.
We can all agree that doing something kind for someone spreads positive energy and creates a ripple effect of kindness; however, there is one situation where it's actually harmful to 'be kind' and that is in conversations where we're avoiding the TRUTH because it's so uncomfortable. In today's episode, you're challenged with spreading kindness as much as possible by not only doing acts of service, but also by having tough conversations.
Clear is Kind by Brene Brown
29 Gifts by Cami Walker
"Leadership is communicating others' worth and potential so clearly that they're inspired to see it in themselves." -Steven Covey
That's one of the most inspiring quotes I've heard in awhile : ) What are you doing to communicate others' worth and potential to INSPIRE them to be at their best? We often think of inspiration coming from a thoughtful quote, a beautiful work of art or a jaw-dropping sunset, but have you thought about how YOU can be a well of inspiration for others? In today's episode, gain clarity on how you can be an inspiring leader and get introduced to the six ways to inspire others that we'll be talking about over the next 6 episodes.
When we're inspired we're living 'in-Spirit,' connected with the all-knowing, all-present Source that connects everything and everyone. From that inspired place, we create with effortless ease, notice uncanny synchronicities and feel the magic of being alive. In today's episode, learn a simple way to know if you're living an inspired life or not, and hear the six principles that are at the foundation of inspired living.
Happy for No Reason by Marci Shimoff
Inspiration by Wayne Dyer
Affirmation (from Wayne Dyer's inspiration):
"What I desire is on its way. It will arrive precisely on God's timetable, not on mine. Everything that I'm experiencing now is disguised as a problem, but I know that it's a blessing. What I desire is on its way, and it's coming to me in amounts even greater than I can imagine. This is my vision, and I'll hold on to it in a state of gratitude, no matter what."
Radical acceptance is the ultimate form of non-resistance. When we resist our circumstances and suffer because we long for things or people to be other than they are, we are miserable. Radical acceptance means loving whatever you're experiencing whether you like it out not. It also means accepting and forgiving other people and yourself when a mistake is made or a personality flaw gets in the way. In our final episode on Abundance Mindset, explore how to be more OK with the moment and suffer less from other people's and your own shortcomings.
Article on Radical Acceptance
The Work by Byron Katie
What does abundant love for yourself feel like? How about abundant love for others? You may find it easier to love others first, but if you don't start within, you're not only shortchanging yourself, you're shortchanging others because you can only give love to others to the extent you give it to yourself. Maybe you're willing to give love to others only if they give it to you. This tit-for-tat mentality will keep you from feeling and sharing the abundant flow of love that's always present. In today's episode, explore how to be more abundantly loving intrapersonally and interpersonally.
Quote from the Beginning of the Show:
“Wouldn’t it be powerful if you fell in love with yourself so deeply that you would do just about anything if you knew it would make you happy? This is precisely how much life loves you and wants you to nurture yourself. The deeper you love yourself, the more the universe will affirm your worth. Then you can enjoy a lifelong love affair that brings you the richest fulfillment from inside out”– Alan Cohen
How you come across to others aligns with either abundance or scarcity. If you're fully in the here & now, inspiring confidence in others and standing tall, you're aligned with abundance and thus inspiring abundance mindset in others. If you're giving your divided attention to people and tasks, creating doubt and slouching, you're not only not being your best self, but you also not bringing out the best in others. In today's episode, hear how you can communicate clear confidence and be an inspiring presence by giving your full attention to this moment, tuning into your highest frequency and having your best possible posture.
Amy Cuddy TED Talk
Presence by Amy Cuddy
What do you think of when you hear the term radical inclusivity? For me, it's opposite is the visual of the outsider kid sitting alone in the cafeteria while the other kids laugh and make fun of him. We are wired for survival, tribalism and separation, but we know in our heart of hearts that is NOT how we were intended to live. We are meant to be inclusive, abundant and connected, so when we are, we feel whole. In today's episode we explore the Burning Man principle of Radical Inclusivity, and talk about different ways we can be more radically inclusive in our lives.
Article: What I Learned From Being Radically Inclusive for 30 Days
The term 'abundance mindset' came from the Steven Covey book The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, where Habit #4 is Create a Win-Win. Though this book has been widely read, and the concept of abundance mindset stands the test of time, scarcity mindset is still pervasive in our culture. Our advertising is based on scarcity. Sports competitions are based on scarcity. Our minds likely go first to scarcity even if we have a mostly abundant mindset. In today's episode, explore the definition of abundance mindset and learn some new strategies to cultivate it.
10 Steps to Develop And Abundance Mindset
The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People - Habit 4 Explained
This 20 minute self-hypnosis/meditation will help you relax deeply and let go of stress, worry and anxiety. Listen to it in the morning when you first awaken and at night right before bed, every day for at least 30 days and see how it helps.
How do you start your day?
Do you immediately wake up and give your energy away to someone or something else (perhaps by diving straight into mommy duty or checking your email)?
Or do you take some time to connect with yourself and the Divine to more deliberately mold the clay?
For me, being an early riser and morning routine devotee helps me be my best and most productive self at work. In today's episode, I'll discuss how and why I started my morning ritual, explain the pieces and parts I incorporate and do best to convert you to a morning lover too.
After a recent bout of anxiety and some helpful therapy and practices to relieve and release it, I've realized that there is no limit to how much we can practice mindfulness and presence. Yet, no matter how much you practice, there will always be opportunities to bring your mind back into this moment. In today's episode, through my recent experience learn the essence of presence and how to practice it more naturally and easily.
Dr. Jim Colton
Dr. David Yeager
Being mindful of all the noise that comes your way at work, managing your schedule to work when you're at your best, choosing when and what to speak and learning to pause at the peak of overwhelment ARE your competitive advantages in the noise and busy-ness of work. Whether you're a quiet introvert or an out-loud extravert, in today's episode you'll learn how to use the power of silence to be at your best at work.
Every word you think and speak has power. Being mindful about what you say at the workplace, both silently and out loud, is more important now than ever. In today's episode, learn about the power words to praise and recognize others, how many words are enough and whether or not cursing is a good idea at the office.
There's someone you work with that you simply don't like. Just the thought of them irritates you and you could make quite the list of reasons why you just can't get along.
Most likely you are that person for someone else you work with, and you might not even know it. It's easy to complain about someone you don't like, but it's tough to be on the receiving end of that dislike.
On today's episode, learn four ways to improve your relationship with someone who doesn't like you at work, three of which require no interaction with the other person.
You are an emotional being somewhere on the scale between uber-sensitive and highly emotional (10) to insensitive and stoic (0), depending on your personality and your upbringing. What number are you on that scale? Guarding your emotions at work makes you seem robotic and demonstrates a lack of empathy; however, crying crocodile tears so much that you can't get your work done is equally as paralyzing. On today's episode, learn how much emotion is enough at work, and how to manage yourself (or help a fellow sensitive teammate) when you feel the emotions coming on stong.
You're likely working with or have worked with a slacker who doesn't pull their weight at work. This can be a painful and draining dilemma, and since fixing it likely requires a tough conversation, it may be something you or your boss don't want to confront. If pulling this person's weight is no longer an option and you see your boss isn't hep on fixing it either, today's episode will teach you what you need to stop and start doing to re-energize and engage a slacker on your team.
Are you the type of person who is PASSIONATE about your job or are you simply collecting a paycheck? Because everyone is different, you may be OK with not being happy at the place where you spend at least one third of your life, but for me, that's just not an option. Because of this, I am personally invested in the work I do, the clients I serve and the value I add to others' lives. While being personally invested means you get to do what you love and love what you do, it can lead you to put too much energy into this one area of your life and miss out on others. In today's episode, learn how to care deeply about your work without becoming a burnt-out workaholic.
As I transition from working part-time to full-time in my home office, I've been doing a lot of decluttering and tidying up. Marie Kondo and her Netflix show are partly to blame for this transition, which I am very grateful to have made. How does your office make you feel? How does your home make you feel? As Marie says, if it doesn't 'spark joy' you shouldn't keep it. I had a lot of items in my office that didn't spark joy, in fact, they sparked pure irritation. How about you? On today's episode, we talk about cleaning up, decluttering and picking the right items to add energy to your workspace and home.
In this final episode on building spiritual capital, learn how you as an individual team member or leader can practice and encourage compassion, diversity, field independence, asking why, reframing, spontaneity, a sense of vocation and humility to create deeper meaning, purpose and shared values in your work.
It's time to move from a corporate culture of fear to a culture of love; a culture of die-hard focus on profit to a heart-centered focus on people; a culture of competition to a culture of connection. This is the only way businesses will sustain and continue to thrive for years to come. No matter if you're an employee of a company or a leader, a solopreneur or a leader of your own enterprise, if you're not building Spiritual Intelligence and Capital as a foundation to your culture, you can shift your culture with the way you show up. In today's episode, learn the specific behaviors that people and organizations with a high spiritual intelligence practice.
People with a high spiritual intelligence have a sense that they are here to fulfill a greater purpose, to do something that makes the world a better place. How about you? Do you feel like you want to make a difference? Do you feel called upon to bless others in the same ways you've been blessed? In today's episode, we wrap up our series on building Spiritual Intelligence by talking about having a deep sense of vocation. Whether you get paid for your purpose or not doesn't matter; it's the tenacity and dedication to what you believe you're called to do at all costs that matters.
Are you happy to recognize that you are but one player in a larger drama?
If you make a mistake, can you admit it gracefully?
Do you think that your importance comes from something larger than yourself? That you owe your gifts to a deeper or higher source? (From Spiritual Capital)
If you answered 'yes' to any or all of those, you likely have a healthy sense of humility; however, don't take that too far because if you do, you'll forget your own worth and hide your innate and unique gifts and talents. In today's episode, learn how to balance humility and self-promotion and hear the story of the least humble boss I've worked for.
Harvard Review Story Level 5 Leadership
"Tell your heart that the fear of suffering is worse than the suffering itself. And no heart has ever suffered when it goes in search of its dream." -Paulo Coelho
The ability to take something 'bad' and turn it into your greatest blessing is the hallmark of a mature, spiritually awake, self-aware individual. What difficult things have you faced and overcome that built a fortitude of character that would have otherwise never happened? I'm sure you have more than one example. Today on the show, I share a couple of my most difficult moments and how they've shaped me and offer you tips on how to dig deep spiritually when things aren't going your way.
When 'bad' things happen to us in past, one of the most mature and healthy things we can do is reframe the situation. Ask yourself what you learned, how you grew and who you became as a result, and chances are, you'll see that the 'bad' thing that happened wasn't so bad at all. It's also a good idea to reframe how you're seeing the future because if you're like most people, you're likely carrying your past forward or playing out a worst case scenario. In today's episode, hear how to reframe your past, present and future in a way that uplifts and inspires you to feel hopeful and positive and to create a new perspective on your life.
As a child, you were naturally curious and didn't stop asking questions until you got the answer you were looking for. As you grew, you likely stopped asking so many questions because you learned that the adults in your life didn't like you as much when you did that. In today's episode, I encourage you to dig in and rediscover your natural curiosity and get to the bottom of why things are the way they are.
Last year I gave one of my coaching clients a magnet that says "Stand Your Ground. It's Sacred" to hang in her office as a reminder that it's OK to believe in and defend your own convictions. According to the book Spiritual Capital, standing our ground, also known as 'field independence' is having your own firm convictions that you live by, even if they isolate you or make you unpopular. In today's episode we'll explore how to stand your sacred ground without being left out on an island of isolation.
If you listen to this show, you're someone who appreciates different viewpoints, opinions and backgrounds; however, are you truly accepting of people who are different from you or are you simply tolerating them? And can you accept the people who are not accepting of diversity because that in and of itself is exclusive? In today's episode, learn what it truly means to celebrate and honor diversity and question your own ability to fully accept ALL.
Do you feel the feelings of others? Their pain? Their joy?
Can you empathize with the pain, suffering or anger of people who radically disagree with you, or who may even be a threat to you?
Compassion means 'feeling with' and we tend to be OK with that if it's someone we love or who is in an equal or lesser than life-circumstance than us. In today's episode, I challenge you to take your compassion to new depths by being radically tender and inclusive of even your most despised people.
The whole is greater than the sum of its parts.
A rising tide lifts all ships.
Everything and everyone is connected.
We hear the term holistic in terms of our health, but have you thought about it in your own life or in your workplace?
In today's episode, learn how the interconnectedness of all things requires us to be more systems focused and become aware of the #1 quality of a person who is truly holistic in nature.
Knowing what matters most to you and inspiring the world with whatever that is is your highest form of being true to your purpose and calling. What gets you out of bed? What are you willing to fight to the end for? Freedom, justice, equality? Goodness, truth, beauty?
Knowing what your 3-5 values are helps you create a vision that not only inspires you, but inspires others as well. In today's episode, learn more about this 3rd characteristic of spiritually intelligence, start the process of identifying your values and creating your vision.
Spiritual Capital Book
Brene Brown Values
Dare to Lead Book
Article and Resources - Operationalize Your Values by Brene Brown
What do you think of when you think of being spontaneous? Are you comfortable with going with the flow or do you prefer to be planful? Being spontaneous means fully trusting yourself in the moment to know how to respond to whatever life gives you even if it doesn't go as expected. In today's episode, we talk about the 2nd principle of building spiritual capital and give you practices to build your 'on the fly' muscle.
Questions for Reflection from Spiritual Capital pg. 87
Do you follow your gut instinct, even if it means taking risks?
Do you allow yourself to be open and vulnerable with others?
Do you enjoy talking to and playing with young children?
Do you ever feel an ecstatic sense that the whole of reality or existence is present for you now, "in this moment?"
Do you feel that an underlying sense of direction or inner compass guides you?
As you embark on this journey to build your spiritual intelligence, you start where everyone else does - with self-awareness. Self-awareness is very different from being self-obsessed, egotistical or narcissistic. Instead, knowing yourself on a deeper level and constantly checking in to see how you're showing up is the most loving, service-oriented practice of all. In today's episode, learn the #1 practice of self-aware people and start building yours right in the episode.
Emotional Intelligence 2.0 book
Questions for Reflection (from Spiritual Capital, pg. 85)
Do you have much sense of an inner life?
At the end of the day, do you reflect on the day's events and experiences?
Do you have any sense of a deeper presence within you?
Are you comfortable with silence?
Can you confront uncomfortable truths about yourself?
If you listen to this show, there's a longing in you to see positive change in the world. In order to see that change, as Gandhi said, you have to BE that change. This requires you to spend time in quiet reflection, meditation, and prayer to contemplate who you are, how you show up in the world and the contribution you want to make. In today's episode, learn about the scale of motivations and consider what motivates you on a day-to-day basis and learn about the characteristics of people with high spiritual intelligence.
Article that includes Ian Marshall's Scale of Motivations
Much of your value and worth as a human was consciously and subconsciously attached to your IQ as a child. Because of that, as an adult, you continue with a limited belief about your inherent value based on how much material wealth you have and what degrees you've obtained.
These false idols have led you to live a shallow existence based on how much money you have in the bank and what kind of car you drive. Innately, however, we KNOW that we are SO much more than the material and intellectual aspects of ourselves.
There's a deeper way to measure our experience and spiritual intelligence and capital are attempts at helping us better understand how deeper meaning and values and higher motivations (like servant leadership and selfless service) are more aligned with the TRUTH of who we are as HUMAN BEINGS.
In today's episode, we will explore the concept of spiritual capital and discuss how shifting our focus here can improve and expand out life experience.
As I was reviewing 2018 this week by looking through my photos, I found a picture of a poem from the Dominique Wilkins statue that sits outside of State Farm Arena here in Atlanta called "Don't Quit" by Edgar Guest. It encourages you to stick with it even when times get tough because often we get our biggest trials right before our biggest successes. In today's episode, we talk about what's worth sticking with and what we should quit on the path to self-mastery.
Don't Quit by Edgar Guest
If you're a Type A personality, you may love the concept of self-control and feel completely comfortable with today's episode; however, if you're free-spirited and not a big fan of monotony, this episode may get under your skin. Either way, on the path of self-mastery, you must exhibit self-control and do things that you don't 'feel' like doing. In today's episode, learn spiritual and practical ways do what needs to be done even when you don't feel like it.
The 5 Second Rule
As you raise your glass, eat your New Year's greens and black-eyed peas and say 'Happy New Year' to friends, family and strangers alike, see that as an invitation to be happier than you've ever been in 2019. As cliche as it sounds, happiness IS a choice; an inside job, yet we rarely allow ourselves to choose to be authentically happy. As Mary Ann Williamson says in A Return to Love, "We need support and permission to feel our love, to feel our satisfaction and to feel our happiness." This is your permission slip. Feel it, radiate it and BE it as often as you can this year.
Does your family have quirky habits? You've probably got a love-hate relationship with them, but I'm certain there are one or two that may inspire others in some way. In today's episode, I share four quirky habits from my family that may just inspire you on this last day of 2018.
Once you have clarity on what your vision is for 2019, it's time to think of the habits, goals and rituals that support that vision. This ensures that you create goals that are meaningful and easier to achieve versus new year's resolutions that you give up on by January 30. In today's episode, learn how to write goals that mean something to you AND hear about the foundational element that all goals must rest on for them to come to pass.
Resources: FREE Vision Tool - https://www.firstleadyou.com/2019-vision-tool.html
The holidays are (mostly) behind us, and it's time to think about what you want to create in 2019. Before you blindly write your new year's resolutions, there's a great question to reflect on (that I've used recently with my coaching clients) to create a vision for your year ahead. In today's episode, hear the question to ask yourself before you start 2019 and learn a different way to approach resolutions and new habits in the new year.
It's a year from now and we're popping the cork to celebrate your year. What are we celebrating?
As you're wrapping up your year, have you reflected on what this year has been for you? For me, it's been a rollercoaster of high-highs and low-lows, and interestingly enough, the lowest points catapulted me into the highest ones. In today's episode, learn a quick & easy method to reflect on the year and hear the skinny on my lowest and highest moments of 2018.
What were your highest points in 2018 - the moments you felt most alive, connected and inspired?
What were your lowest points in 2018 - the moments you felt lost, afraid and alone?
What did you feel when you were at your best?
What did you learn from when you were not at your best?
Of all the lessons learned, what do you want to carry forward into 2019?
My husband had been telling me about hearing his favorite artist, Trey Anastasio of Phish, interviewed on the Sirius XM jam band station. Just so happens, the interview came on while we were driving home from dinner the other night. It left both of us with warm hearts and crying tears of joy. In today's show, I describe his pre-show ritual, and inspire you to come up with new rituals to create more spiritual connection in your life.
Prayer of St Francis: https://bit.ly/2SbSBO9
Trey Anastasio Interview: https://bit.ly/2ClpW3K
As someone who is hungry for experiences, it feels really good to escape my day to day life with travel, events, new people and experiences; however, it can feel equally as deflating to come back home to the same problems and hum-drum routines after being away. You can't always escape or change your circumstances, but you can change how you perceive them. And sometimes the best way to shift your perspective is to extend love to your fellow humans like you never have before. This episode was inspired by my recent travels & let down experience when I returned and shares lessons from Og Mandino and Mr. Rogers.
Og Mandino The Greatest Salesman in the World https://www.amazon.com/Greatest-Salesman-World-Og-Mandino/dp/055327757X
Mr Rogers documentary https://www.imdb.com/title/tt7681902/
You know how good you feel when you help someone? Do you feel equally as good when you ask for help? Probably not, but when you ask for help, you give someone the opportunity to help, which gives them the same warm feeling you get when you give. In today's episode, be reminded of the power of asking for what you need and the gift of allowing someone to give it to you.
Last week, I spent a few days with some of the most talented, inspiring, bright women I've ever met, yet in our discussions realized that most of us still struggle with feeling enough. The next morning in my quiet time, I opened A Course in Miracles to a passage called Littleness v. Magnitude that spoke right to my heart and had me in tears. I shared it with some of the women in the mastermind and thought it may interest you as well. In today's episode, hear some of that teaching and learn how to recognize when you're aligning with the truth of who you are v. the lie your ego is fooling you with.
A Course in Miracles International https://acimi.com/
Throughout your childhood you were asked, "What do you want to be when you grow up?" How did you answer that question? Did the answer change over time? In two recent books I've read the authors talked about how confused we can feel when we feel like we need one final answer to that question. In today's episode, learn some better questions to ask and find comfort in NOT knowing what you want to be when you grow up.
Playing the Matrix by Mike Dooley https://amzn.to/2S6mHmc
Sarah Boyd Resilient Little Hearts https://www.resilientlittlehearts.com/
I've recently picked "A Course In Miracles" back up and am seeing it in a whole new light this time. If you're not familiar with the text, the premise of the book is that everything is either love or a call for love (aka fear). Many times love and fear show up as more subtle emotions in your daily life, and the calls for love (aka negative emotions) act as blocks to the truth of reality, which is everything is LOVE. In today's episode, we talk about entropy and the ego, love as the only renewable resource and the spirit of the Christmas season.
If you wrestle with overthinking, overanalyzing or feel anxious on the regular, perhaps you're putting too much emphasis on your own agenda and ego. In today's episode, we talk about why it's not easy to move from controlling and cajoling into trusting and allowing and what to do to make it a smoother process.
Matt Kahn video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HkfzOk74r5I
You're called to bring the light of positive energy into the world, no matter what the situation. How do I know this? Simply because being kind and compassionate feels right and good, and because being an asshole feels bad (except to your ego, but that's a whole other podcast!). In today's episode, we further explore the concept of entropy and putting positive energy back into systems by talking about how energy affects water (the work of Japanese scientist Masuru Emoto) and how treating yourself and others with compassion creates real changes in your biology and your life.
As we learned in Episode 86, over time, life tends towards chaos (also known as Murphy's Law!). If we spend too much of our time focused on our goals & visions, we not only forget to enjoy the journey, we actually change the outcome to be less favorable. In other words, how we approach our goals drastically impacts how our goals turn out. In today's episode, learn a better way to be future-facing and present-focused as we continue exploring how the law of entropy affects our lives.
Betsy Pake's podcast: https://apple.co/2Qyiv0F
I recently came across a FB post about how marriages are inherently designed to fail due to the concept of entropy and went into a frenzy to learn more about this Law of Physics that rules our lives. The law states that over time, things tend to move from order to chaos and disintegration. Before you think you're totally screwed, in today's episode we'll talk about how infusing positive energy and attention back into the system works against entropy and how you can be more intentional about what you focus on.
Entropy: Why Life Always Seems to Get More Complicated: https://jamesclear.com/entropy
Now that you're letting go of to-do list guilt and releasing the hustle for your worthiness, what next? Since you can't sit around all day meditating and waiting for the answers to come because you've got obligations and mouths to feed, how can you find peace and prosperity in healthy achievement? In today's episode, learn the two things you must practice as you're working towards goals and dreams and how to discern between motivated v. inspired action.
There's a goal you're striving to achieve that you've already achieved but you might not know it yet. It's the one goal that when you realize you've got it already, and if you embrace it fully, it will change you life in immeasurable ways. In today's episode learn the 3 reasons why you hustle for your worthiness by looking to the future, to others and to your achievements to think that we are enough.
Are you the type of person who doesn't feel at peace unless you have a plan? I was recently working with a client who felt stuck and overwhelmed all at the same time, but she said "I know what I need to do. I have a plan of action." My response was, "What's your plan of inaction?" In other words, what's your 'plan' for sitting quietly, meditating, putting your phone away, praying and being still? As Blaise Pascal said, "All of humanity's problems stem from man's inability to sit quietly in a room alone." Are you making time to sit quietly in a room alone and hear the call of your soul? Find out why that's important in today's episode.
How do you feel when you check everything off of your to-do list? How do you feel when you don't? You tend to base your sense of satisfaction on what you accomplish, so when you don't get things done, you feel like you're not enough and perpetuate a lack mindset. In today's episode, you will learn how to stop feeling bad when you don't get it all done and how to find satisfaction in things other than achievement.
Sometimes between my clients' coaching sessions they reach out with an SOS call, text or email, and I often find myself offering the same three choices to them. Feeling overwhelmed, confused and all-consumed by whatever has their attention, they can't see that they have the opportunity to decide. In today's episode, hear the 3 choices I offer my clients and better know what to do when you're feeling overwhelmed or confused.
When you look outside of yourself for advice, and become attached to the results that others are getting, you often follow someone else's path. When you do this, you miss our on your unique purpose for being, feel an inner sense of lack and burn yourself out wondering why nothing is going your way. In today's episode, learn how to know whether or not you're on your path (or someone else's) and what to do to ensure you stay true to your unique purpose.
The Life You Were Born to Live by Dan Millman: https://amzn.to/2DLUHzW
Are you the jealous type? Up until recently, I would have answered this with an emphatic NO; however, I've noticed a subtle, pervasive envy in myself lately and I'm going to tell you all about it on today's show. During this holiday season, a time of high-consumerism, jealousy can creep in and rob us of our joy and dilute the purpose of this season of light entirely. In today's episode, I invite you to notice how comparison and "keeping up with the Jones" is making you feel like shit and how to not stop comparing (because our brains naturally do that without effort) BUT how to feel better as you do it.
SCARF model by David Rock: https://bit.ly/2r4MP7t
MLK Jr said, "Darkness cannot drive our darkness, only light can do that." The world needs your light during these dark times, and during this holiday season of light it's a good to check in with yourself and see if your lightbulb is screwed in tightly and your dimmer turned all the way up. In today's episode, you'll learn some simple ways to amplify your light and a good holiday mantra to keep it shining brightly.
Have you ever felt like something was about the shift, but you had no idea what, how or when? Maybe it was a time when you said to yourself, "I can't live like this anymore!" or felt so uncomfortable with the status quo that change was the only option. In today's episode, I invite you to reflect on a past change that was life-altering and share the story of how my husband and I focused on what we loved to bring about a massive change in our lives. Stay tuned at the end for a song by my husband Chris - The Square Root of Joy - from his Life is a Love Song album.
Link to song: https://apple.co/2PYhuzw
Have you ever felt your mind get blurred or your world get rocked so fast that you don't even know what happened? Sometimes this occurs in an interaction with someone on the microlevel, and others times it feels like our whole world has been turned upside down. The analogy I explore in today's episode is a jar with water and glitter getting shaken up and clouding our perspective, impeding our thinking and agitating our expectations. In today's episode, you will learn what to do when your jar gets shaken and how to respond when it feels like your whole world turned upside down.
SuperSoul Sunday Short: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ImeSVdKojPM
In exploring gratitude on a deeper level this week, I had the good fortune of having some pretty cool 'downloads' from the Universe and cool synchronicities that I will share. One of them involved a podcast called The Grace of Gratitude by Matt Kahn popping up on my phone at the exact time I was going for a walk and looking for something to listen to. On that show, he talks about expressing genuine gratitude for the things and people in our life that we're not so crazy about. Can you do that? In today's episode, I invite you to take your gratitude where it's never been before, with full trust that it will only lead you to the truest, lightest version of YOU.
The Grace of Gratitude Podcast by Matt Kahn: https://apple.co/2TmZg9h
There are people in your family that you admire and love with all of your heart; and then there's that one family member that drives you freaking crazy. In today's episode, I share the love of a family member who I admire and invite you to do the same AND encourage you to release all judgement and forgive that one person in your family who has caused you so much grief and taken your energy. You don't have to even say anything to them out loud either.
You were here to serve a unique purpose and to fill an ultimate calling that only you can fill. If you're feeling misaligned with your work, that's a tell-tale sign that you haven't stepped into the Universe's greater plan for you. You're here to add value to the lives of others and to be the greatest version of you. Even if you don't love your job, there's still hope. By being grateful for your current role, recognizing the self-betrayal of doing misaligned work and contemplating a higher purpose for your life, you move into work that's meaningful.
Caroline Myss on Oprah's SuperSoul Conversations: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=im6ukUMZX0c
You've been trained to look for deficiencies when there's abundance all around you. Are you seeing it? Or better yet, are you feeling full in your heart, mind and spirit with the abundance that's already here just for you? In today's episode, you learn to see and acknowledge the source of all supply, bless all the money you have (and even your bills) with no attachment to the outcome. Being grateful for abundance is not about receiving more; it's about giving glory back to the Divine.
To kick off this week of Thanksgiving, take the time to be thankful that you were even born because the odds are pretty slim. In today's episode, learn about the actual odds that you would be born as you and be encouraged to go out and live as the miracle that you are.
Ali Binazir Infographic 'What Are the Odds': https://read.bi/2PVm9Si
Mel Robbin's Ted Talk: https://bit.ly/2MIhw8b
Once you've learned to recognize negativity, be present in the moment and allow the light in, you're ready to let go and let God. No matter what your religion or spiritual beliefs, if you believe there's something bigger than you orchestrating the order of the Universe, you can release the agenda of your ego that leads to negativity and allow the abundant flow of love to show you the way. In today's episode, learn about my experiences with surrender and hear about me going back to church after 20ish years.
Letting Go by David Hawkins: https://amzn.to/2SYDqZr
Recognizing negativity and being acutely aware of its presence is the first step to inviting the light back in. Though it has actually never left, you've closed the curtains on it, and depending on whether they're light-blocking velvet curtains or lightweight sheers, you're experiencing differing levels of light. In today's episode, learn 3 ways to invite the light back in and see which one resonates most with your journey.
According to Eckhart Tolle, the pain body is the culmination of the negative, untruthful thoughts and emotions we've been exposed to over the course of our lives. Because we get most of them when we are children (and even through out DNA!), we don't have the ability to question and re-write them. Now is your chance to do that by recognizing the pain body as it arises. You know it's there because it feels like a heavy dark energy that you just can't shake. But you actually CAN shake it. In this episode, you learn how to recognize and talk to the pain body as it arises and how to not let it take control of your life.
A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle - amzn.to/2JXeYn4
The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle - amzn.to/2qOq45f
You have been taught that you can think your way into and out of any situation in your life. You've been taught that your power is in your thinking, and that is not 100% accurate. Because of this, you suffer greatly when your thinking is not pleasant. This incessant, automatic thinking leads you to feel emotions in your body, real or imagined, that are aligned with those thoughts. In today's episode, explore the foundation of Eckhart Tolle's concept of the Pain Body and learn how to stop thinking that you are your thoughts.
A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle - https://amzn.to/2JXeYn4
The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle - https://amzn.to/2qOq45f
If you've been feeling like life is generally heavy lately and/or if there's one area of your life that feels particularly negative, you're not alone! With all the negativity in the news you may feel like you're in a black hole that you can't escape. In today's episode, learn one of the major causes of negativity and how to combat it with 3 simple practices.
"What the mind can conceive and BELIEVE it can achieve." -Napoleon Hill. In this final episode on habit change and formation, you will learn the one key element of sustaining habits even when times get tough.
Your life is made up of a series of habits, and your cravings drive you to do things without even thinking. When you can identify the craving behind the habit, you can make more conscious choices that lead you to better habits, and thus a life that makes you feel proud. In today's episode, you'll learn how to satisfy your cravings more favorably, get off the negative thought habit loop and jump start a new habit or two.
The Power of Habit https://charlesduhigg.com/the-power-of-habit/
Do you ever feel like your life is Groundhog day? Most of your life is made up of a series of habits - ways of thinking and being that dictate who you are and who you become. You have the power to create these habits AND to break them whenever you choose. The cumulative effect of our habits are the patterns we fall into, mostly without even thinking about it. In today's episode, learn about the habit loop, how to get your life off autopilot and hear a story about a client of mine who's seen dramatic results from simply shifting the first hour of her day.
The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg https://tinyurl.com/ya4hummz
With the shootings in Pittsburgh, plane crash in Indonesia, bombs being sent to politicians & leaders, and the polarity of this election season, you may feel like you've lost faith in humanity, especially if you're a sensitive soul. If you're anything like me, you may be feeling an urge to crawl in a hole until all this bullshit passes, but because we have little ones to care for, jobs to do, bills to pay and most importantly LIGHT and LOVE and HEALING to offer others, we have to find a way through. In today's episode, you will learn what to do when you've lost faith in humanity and how to survive the doom and gloom.
InfiniteWellnessforYou.com - The energy healing I've been doing lately
You Can Heal Your Life by Louise Hay - https://www.amazon.com/You-Can-Heal-Your-Life/dp/0937611018/ref=sr_1_1_sspa?ie=UTF8&qid=1540910344&sr=8-1-spons&keywords=you+can+heal+your+life+by+louise+hay&psc=1
"Peace begins when expectations end." -Sri Chinmoy
Much of our modern day suffering comes from feeling like we can predict the future and placing expectations on what's to come. While being optimistic and hopeful is a good thing, expecting things to turn out exactly as we expect leads us to suffer. In this episode, you will hear about recent great expectations that led to my suffering, and the new realizations I had about how we can handle life when things don't go as planned.
Expect Good Things: https://www.amazon.com/Expect-Good-Things-Lynne-Gerard/dp/0837846374
When you’re self-aware and understand that you’re a deliberate creator of your life, sometimes you fall into judgement and self-criticism when things don't go the way you think they should. Lately through my driving anxiety and my daughter being in the hospital, I've been asking myself the wrong reflection question and beating myself up instead of practicing what I know to be true. In today's episode, learn the new reflection questions I used to shift my thinking and hear about one of my coaching client's 'one sentence epiphany' that helped her feel like a new person at work!
Are you the type of person that will go to the ends of the Earth for others, yet not fully commit or show up for yourself? In today's episode, you will learn what stops us from accepting guidance and help along our path and what you can do to be a better receiver of help, love, prosperity and all the good that's already available to you.
Do you ever feel like you're fighting with life? I've had this sensation of late and decided it was time to call myself back home, to the place of innate goodness and innocence that I was born into (and so were you!). My practice for doing this is using a mirror and telling myself "I love you and I forgive you." As simple as it sounds, it makes a profound impact and heals the inner self of the wounds of guilt and unworthiness that hold us back. In today's episode you'll learn why we stray from our innate goodness and worthiness and be offered a healing affirmation to remind yourself that LIFE LOVES YOU.
Life Loves You book - https://www.amazon.com/Life-Loves-You-Spiritual-Practices/dp/B00WW67800
I am loveable and life loves me
I forgive myself for all the times I've been afraid I am not loveable
I am loveable and life loves me
I forgive myself for judging myself and not believing in my goodness
I am loveable and life loves me
I forgive myself for feeling unworthy and for believing I don't deserve love
I am loveable and life loves me
I forgive myself for all the times I've criticized and attacked myself
I am loveable and life loves me
I forgive myself for rejecting and giving up on myself
I am loveable and life loves me
I forgive myself for doubting myself and for not trusting in me
I am loveable and life loves me
I forgive my mistakes
I am loveable and life loves me
I ask for forgiveness so I can learn
I accept forgiveness so I can grow
I am loveable and life loves me
Have you ever been in the situation where life is going really well, yet you have this looming feeling that something bad is about to go down? In today's listener-requested episode, I talk about why we catastrophize and avoid the vulnerability of positive emotions and what to do about it.
"The journey of a 1000 miles starts with a single step."
Are you taking that step or waiting to be ready to take it? In this episode, we dive into the Ready, FIRE, Aim mentality of creating and leading the life you love. Taking small actions, routinizing the steps and then tweaking as you go is a great way to get moving. Listen at the end of today's episode for a special musical treat from my husband, Chris Cates. Available on his website for download chriscates.com
On this journey of self-mastery, we forget, remember and re-learn who we are and how to consciously create our lives as we re-wire ourselves from a lifetime of unproductive programming. I've recently reconnected with what I consider to be the two most critical aspects of deliberately leading the lives we love: SATISFACTION in the NOW. In today's episode, I break down those two aspects and give you practical ways to ensure you're energy and attention are there as often as possible.
After experiencing heavier fear and anxiety than I have in a long time, I've re-learned that fear gets locked in our bodies through repeated thoughts and patterns and that if we aren't conscious of the layer of awareness beyond fear, it can run (and ruin!) our life. In today's episode, I talk about my experience releasing fear with the help of an amazing practitioner and give you tips and strategies to release fear when it arises in the moment.
Much like me, my Mom has positive quotes and affirmations all over her house. While visiting her recently, I noticed one of my favorite quotes - live with intention by mary ann radmacher - on her office shelf. In today's episode, I break down each line of that quote and talk about how we can use it's wisdom as a guidepost for living our best life.
live with intention.
walk to the edge.
play with abandon.
choose with no regret.
continue to learn.
appreciate your friends.
do what you love.
live as if this is all there is.
-mary anne radmacher
As Dr. Steve Maraboli says, "It's a lack of clarity that creates chaos and frustration." No words are more true. When we are clearer with ourselves internally, and with others externally, we open the door to infinite possibilities and solid, trusting relationships. In today's episode, we discuss being clear why you're here, the power of clarity for our goals, and touch on a nugget of wisdom from Brene Brown that will change the way you think about being crystal clear with yourself and others.
At least once a year, I come to the conclusion that I need to loosen up, stop taking life so seriously and just have FUN. Between having that realization recently and an energy healing session I participated in, I've realized (once again) that life is to be enjoyed and that not everything I do has to have a purpose. In today's episode, we talk about re-connecting with the childlike side of you that likes to have fun and I offer some ideas on how to do that if you're more on the serious side like I am.
Because of the way our brains work, it's not easy to think about or envision something that seems so far in the future; however, if we get quiet enough and calm our limbic brain, we can hear answers that may surprise us. In today's episode, we talk about what to do if you don't know who you want to be when you grow up, and how to cultivate the emotions of your future self to draw yourself closer to the answer.
Danielle LaPorte The Desire Map: http://www.daniellelaporte.com/thedesiremap/
You know those people in your life who, no matter what dream or goal you share with them, are the first to say 'that's not realistic' or 'come back down to planet Earth.' Those are the dream squashers, and let me tell you something - you don't want to be one of those. It's said that it takes 2 people believing in us for us to truly believe in ourselves, so instead, be THAT person - a Dream Supporter. In today's episode, I tell a story about a dream squasher and a dream supporter in my life and discuss how to handle the naysayers, who often times are the people that we love the most.
Scrapbook from my Dream Supporters: https://www.firstleadyou.com/uploads/9/0/3/5/9035940/episode49.pdf
Link to GT Talk Where I Talk About Dream Squashers and Supporters:
In episode 44 we talked about self-mastery and what that entails. Afterwards I got a message from a listener who wanted to know how to make decisions that are best for her AND for her family/kids because this is one of the most challenging things to do as a parent. In today's episode, we unwind the parent conundrum of doing what's best for self and what's best for their family/kids. If you stay true to your values and maintain good boundaries, you can get it right most of the time.
All great leadership starts on the inside, and as I read Brene Brown's new book Dare to Lead I'm reminded of this. We tend to think that leadership is more about what we know than how much we care; however, research out of Harvard University shows the opposite it true. In today's episode, we explore knowing and managing ourselves to be the best leaders we can be and learn the two things we must juggle as we dare to lead.
Connect, Then Lead: https://hbr.org/2013/07/connect-then-lead
Infographic for Warmth v. Competence: https://tinyurl.com/yd9dx2sq
Brene Brown's Dare to Lead: https://daretolead.brenebrown.com/
Because we are all imperfect humans who overreact sometimes under stress and pressure, we will all, at some point, lose it with our kids, partners, co-workers, family members etc. In order to do this less, there are certain practices you can use as your go-tos to proactively prepare for these situations. When you get caught in the moment, and start to lose it, there are also practices you can apply to soften the blow, and when you lose it and it's over, there are ways to ease the shame and embarrassment you feel. In today's episode, we explore how to gracefully combat 'losing it' and what to do if you slip up.
At a women's career networking event that I was hostessing recently (Sharpheels.com), I was asked the question, "What leader made a great impact on your life and why?" My response was my 11th grade high school teacher Mrs. Mulwee, not only because she influenced me to be a writer, but also because she was a person of substance and gave me a mantra that I still reference today "Don't be like cotton candy." In today's episode, I talk about how to be a person of impact in both short and longer interactions, and give you tools, questions and tips on how to go beyond the surface to create deeper, more meaningful interactions with others.
Giftology by John Ruhlin: https://tinyurl.com/yb8og9j4
As we aim to be the greatest version of ourselves, to craft our lives intentionally and master our own destinies, we are on a journey of self-mastery. This journey has no destination; instead, it's a continuous exploration of who we are, what we want and what we practice every single day to get there. In today's episode, we talk about the formula to self-mastery, what it requires and what leads us astray.
Know Thyself Resources:
Emotional Intelligence 2.0: https://tinyurl.com/ybq55zce
The Answer: https://tinyurl.com/yb4rbo4a
Article on Self-Mastery: https://tinyurl.com/y8f4mwax
Often times on this journey to self-mastery, we get conflicting messages, like BE BOLD and BE HUMBLE. Which do you choose and when? There's a difference between being bold from ego and being bold from heart, and in today's episode, we unravel boldness to better integrate the right dose of it in your life.
Because of the upcoming holidays, cooling weather, shorter days etc etc etc, it's tempting at this time of year to put off goals and new habits until January. In this episode, I urge you to finish out your 2018 goals strong and implement new habits that you want to start in 2019 NOW to set yourself up for massive success in 2019.
Use this document to reflect on your year and set goals for 2019:
Striking a balance between action and allowing on our path to lead the life we love can be tricky. First off, because balance is bogus and depending on our natural way of being and where we are in our lives, we may need more of one than the other. In this episode, we unravel the mystery of doing v. being and leave you with tips to know when to GO and when to FLOW.
If you'd like to schedule a FREE Discovery call with me, go here: https://www.firstleadyou.com/schedule.html
Today you get the treat of a Future Self Meditation led by my dear friend and co-retreat facilitator Lauren Taylor. Find a quiet place, relax and enjoy this time for inner reflection and peace. Be sure to have a journal and pen handy to write down any insights you have.
We all have our thermostats set to a level that's within our comfort zones, and as soon as we endeavor to do something beyond that zone, we enter upper-limit land. While practicing a new habit may feel fun & exciting at first, we inevitably cross over to the discomfort of illness, injury, small disasters, laziness, excuses, blaming etc etc etc which is nothing more than our upper limit trying desperately to keep us safe and small. In today's episode, learn how to recognize your upper limit, break through to the other side and make this a process of learning and continuous improvement.
A listener reached out and said she has a client who always seems to have a dark cloud of energy over her head. She wanted to know how to help her shift this mindset because she felt like she was actually addicted to it. In this episode, we explore the biochemical responses of our emotions, what they do to our bodies and how we can rewire our thoughts to shift out of what is no longer serving us.
Figure 5.1 from Becoming Supernatural by Joe Dispenza: https://www.dropbox.com/s/a4p236ra7wbvk4z/IMG_2883.jpg?dl=0
We see the term "Good Vibes" everywhere these days, but have you actually stopped to think about your own vibes? What kind of energy do you exude? And is it the kind of energy that aligns with the greatest version of you? In this episode, we dissect the power of our vibe and discuss how we can uplevel our energy to bring good vibes and light to the world for the well-being of all.
Our brains think in pictures and one of the best ways to create something new in our lives is to use mental rehearsal as a tool to get there. When we imagine what we want to be, do and have in our minds, we open the filter of our brain to experiencing reality in a new way. In this episode, I tell a story of how a mental rehearsal I did years ago played out and changed my life and talk about how to incorporate images and visualization of what we want in our lives on a daily basis.
When we stay in our familiar routines every day, there is no room for the unknown. Since most of us don't like the unknown, this feels like a good plan; however, if there's something in our life we want to shift, it's impossible to create something new from our habitual thinking and feeling selves. In today's episode we will talk about two ways to get ourselves into the unknown to stop re-creating our past and start living our life intentionally.
It's officially Fall and a great time of year to let go of the thoughts, beliefs and habits that no longer serve us. In this episode, we will talk about how you know a belief is ready to be let go of and what to do once you're ready to let it go.
Anytime we want to create a new habit in our life we have to FULLY commit by practicing every day. What we dabble in or do every once in awhile will not become part of who we are. To accelerate the uncomfortable phases of getting out of our comfort zones, we have to commit to the change every day. What new habit do you want to create? How and when will you commit to it every day?
Difficult conversations as just that...difficult; however, between here and everything we want is at least one (but probably more like 3-5) difficult conversations. After being brave and speaking my own truth this week, and seeing others do the same around me, I gained clarity on what's important to keep in mind when we finally decide to share how we really feel. In this episode, learn four practices to assist you while speaking your truth and how to leave fear behind to feel lighter, freer and more aligned for choosing to speak your truth.
We are 100% responsible for whatever happens in our life because we have thoughts, speak words, make decisions and take actions every day that mold our realities. This can be a tough pill to swallow when something (or someone) shows up that we're not thrilled with; however, this is the exact time for us to take full ownership of our results - to recognize that we created this AND can also un-create it. In today's episode, learn how to hear the voice of victimhood in yourself and what to do to let it go.
How to Take 100% Responsibility For Your Life - https://tinyurl.com/ycolmdon
Reflection Questions from the show are at the end of this article -
I've mentioned my dear friend and fellow podcaster Betsy Pake several times on the show and am excited to bring you a guided meditation/self-hypnosis to install magic into your subconscious. Give yourself the gift of 12 minutes of uninterrupted quiet time for this most magical experience and then watch the magic unfold in your life.
People remember how you start things and how you finish, and really, because of how our minds work, they only remember how you finish. How you do anything is how you do everything. In this episode, learn how to leave anything (a job, relationship etc) better than you found it by leaving ego out of the equation and focusing on service and gratitude.
While at a conference in Seattle, I had the privilege of seeing former Starbuck's executive Howard Behar speak. He offered two pieces of wisdom in particular that will assist us in being the greatest versions of ourself, which I share in today's episode.
It's Not About the Coffee by Howard Behar: https://tinyurl.com/y8mlxkx4
After a particularly rough and sleepless night, and waking up feeling crummy on a travel day, I asked for guidance from my intuition about how to move forward with my turbulent start to the day. Following that guidance step by step and staying present with the pain, got me to a much better place and allowed me to hear more tips and ideas on how to get back to a neutral place during a rough patch. In this episode, learn how to move through the rough patches of your life, restore your energy and be of most benefit to others when things aren't so sunny.
If you're looking to grow yourself or your business, connecting with other people is key. Networking comes easily for some of us, and is not so natural for others. Either way, there are a few tips you can leverage to get the most out of every networking interaction. In this episode, I will talk about a networking goal I set for myself for 2018 and how that has helped me grow in ways I didn't expect, and offer you tips on how to make genuine connections when you meet new people.
What would you do if you knew you couldn't fail? While that's a great question to ponder to hear what your soul longs for, failure is part of the process. We can't expect to create something new and outside of our comfort zones without messing up at some point. Leading the life you love is a big science experiment. It's about trying different elements and hypotheses to see what your magic formula is. In today's episode, we talk about making failure your friend and acknowledge that you weren't born for the sidelines!
When do you have your best ideas? Maybe in the shower, when you're on a run or while you're driving. Whenever it may be, you probably don't get your best solutions when you're "thinking" about it. In today's episode, we'll talk about the science behind getting quiet and curious to get unstuck and discuss why it's never a good idea to take someone else's advice.
When we get quiet and tune into our thoughts and emotions, we sometimes think we will hear something that's scary or get a message that we have to change everything about our life. Likewise, we wrongly believe that if we have a negative thought, something bad is going to happen to us. In this episode, we debunk fear and negativity, promote the truth of universal benevolence being the overwhelming force guiding the universe and share how to move through any fear or negativity with more ease.
Did you know that we have 60,000 thoughts per day and that for the average person 50,000 of them are negative? If we continue talking to ourselves the way we always have, the quality of our life experience will remain what it is now. Our inner world creates our outer world, and what we say to ourselves all day long is the foundation of our life experience. Instead of focusing on letting go of the negative, how can we flood our minds intentionally with gratitude, positivity and love so that our life experience is what we want it to be? In today's episode, learn some tips to shift your self-talk to improve the quality of your life and be the greatest version of you.
Einstein said, "There are two ways to live; one is as if everything is a miracle and another is as if nothing is." I believe that everything is here to help us be the best version of ourselves, and that the Universe is guiding us in the direction of our highest purpose one sign at a time. Sometimes challenging things happen (like the two trips to the ER my husband and I have had over the last two weeks!) that wake us up and ask us to reflect on our lives and are a sign that we're are not in alignment. Other times, we get signs (often from nature) that all is well and we're moving in a favorable direction. In today's episode, learn how to tune into your intuition and read the signs that show up in your life. There are no accidents and everything is here to help you.
In Episode 3 I talked about practicing gratitude as a daily habit to not only feel better and shift your energy, but to change your life for the better. In today's episode, learn about the evolution of practicing gratitude and how this new 3.0 version of practicing can shift your energy much quicker and more authentically.
Matt Kahn The Alchemy of Transformation: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OyE6ZZ6e3Q4
Accepting who we are, who others are and circumstances and events out of our control is the only way to feel prolonged inner peace. The amount of energy we spend in resistance causes us debilitating anxiety and walls us off from all the love and goodness around us. In today's episode, we discuss three areas of acceptance in our lives and offer tools to let go of resistance.
We don't have a positive word for healthy self-promotion or bragging in the English language. Because of that, we hold ourselves back and keep ourselves small so we're not too much or too successful, ensuring that we fly right under the radar of our comfort zones . We've been taught that we shouldn't toot our own horns because we'll get "too big for our britches" and people won't like us. All of this nonsense leads us astray of our fullest and best selves, especially in the workplace. In today's episode, we talk about four tips to be a better bragger and how to better support and encourage others in their proud moments.
You Should Be Bragging More:
Brag: How to Toot Your Own Horn Without Blowing It: https://tinyurl.com/y7yhjevz
We waste a lot of energy playing roles, pleasing others and trying to be someone we're not. When we let go of all of that, we can feel in full alignment with our thoughts, emotions and actions being congruent. In this age of Facebook Live and Instagram stories, now more than ever, we have a permission slip to BE OURSELVES. People LOVE authenticity and genuine human connections and crave imperfection. In this episode, I talk about what to do when you feel misaligned and how to stay in alignment more of your life.
Everyone has something they do easily and naturally (that they probably take for granted) that is their unique offering to the world. Maybe it's your famous banana pudding, the way you connect easily with children, the comfort you bring to loved ones with your kind words and empathy, or your ability to eyeball measurements with amazing precision. In today's economy where authentic connection is a scarce resource, and people are rising up and questioning the daily grind to find their true calling, it's becoming more and more important for us to make art and serve others. In today's episode, we'll talk about 3 ways to better understand and create your art to be the truest, greatest version of YOU!
Resources: Leap First, Seth Godin's audio book https://tinyurl.com/y6twygup
Mornings are the most magical time of day, and if you're not leveraging the quiet, peace and clarity of the morning time, you're missing out. In this episode, I talk about how to ease into becoming a morning person and creating a morning ritual that suits your needs, even if mornings are not your jam.
Recently, after accidentally focusing on something I hadn't thought about in a long time, I set my brain's filter to notice all kinds of things that were aligned with that filter. It was a good reminder to be intentional about where I put my energy and focus. In today's episode, we explore the Reticular Activating System (RAS) and talk about what's in the way of us getting what we want.
RTT - Rapid Transformation Therapy
We tend to move forward into new experiences with the expectations that things will be the same as they were in the past. Then when things don't go as we planned, we resist the present moment and tell ourselves stories about the wrong-ness of it all. In this episode, we will talk about 3 strategies to let go of expectations, embrace whatever is in front of you and stay curious when things don't go as planned.
We often toil over making decisions when we desire to make a change, but we continue going about it the same way we always have expecting different results. In today's episode, I talk about how confusion can be your ally, making decisions without having enough information is dangerous and share a counter-intuitive approach I used back in 2010 (and still rely on now!) to make massive life changes.
https://followthefeeling.wordpress.com/2009/12/ - My first ever BLOG!
"Courage is not the lack of fear, but rather the judgement that something else is more important than fear." -Ambrose Redmon
We're taught that fear is something to push aside as we hustle our way to get what we want, when in fact, feeling fear is part of the process. In today's episode, we'll talk about how to counter fear with courage to create more of what you want in your life.
Today's question: Where can you feel fear today and move through it with courage?
We're taught that in order to be successful we have to fight hard and hustle to make it happen. In fact, we tend to completely dismiss the things that come easily to us. In today's episode, I'm busting up the myth that it has to be hard to be, do and have what you want by offering you strategies for how to step into more ease and flow in your life.
You are living your story and by intentionally writing every day, you connect more deeply with your soul and manifest the heartfelt life you desire. In this episode, I talk about the 'what' and 'why' behind my personal practice and tell a story of a Spanish woman who inspired me to alter the course of my life with her teachings.
We walk, run, bike and do all kinds of exercise to keep our hearts at optimal health, yet we generally don't take great care of our precious hearts the rest of the day. In this episode, learn some practices you can immediately apply to love your heart, yourself and others even more.
People often say they don't feel valued or recognized at work. When this information gets shared, employees and leaders give kudos and pats on the back that often come across as inauthentic and shallow. What people really want is something else - a deeper, human connection and empathy. In this episode we talk about how you can truly recognize others (and yourself) to be fully engaged in your work and life.
We often get so serious and forget to have fun! After an unexpected fun night out, I realized that a release is just what I needed. In this episode, I offer you questions to ponder to take life less seriously and lighten your load.
We have all overcomplicated one area of our life or another. Hear about my latest a-ha moment and how I'm unraveling the complication to simplify my life and listen to the small, still voice inside that's wise and all-knowing.
When we tune into feeling satisfied, no matter what's going on in our lives, we open up to the ease and flow of the Universe. In this episode, learn how to feel more aligned and at ease with the truth of who you are!
You've heard A LOT about how gratitude can shift your energy to be more open and positive, but are you actually intentionally PRACTICING it every day? This episode will inspire you to start your practice to improve your life.