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The Perfect Mess w/Ray Molina

The Perfect Mess w/Ray Molina

By Ray Molina

A man who lost it all, divorced, broken and nearly gave up. Instead, I grew from it…used my pain as motivation to become a better man and better father than I ever dreamed. My life is simple now, but it wasn’t always. A former graffiti artist, turned graphic designer, turned national touring hip hop artist, turned baseball coach, turned podcast host and more recently; furniture restoration dude. I’ve been through the ringer but I’m still here and I’m happy to share my story….hope it helps someone along the way. My life isn’t perfect, often times it’s a mess…but for me; it’s The Perfect Mess.
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Ep. #84 - “Motivate the Motivator”

The Perfect Mess w/Ray MolinaNov 09, 2022

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Ep. #149 - Absolute Shit Show

Ep. #149 - Absolute Shit Show

I am done addressing this everytime I see or hear from someone after this. I will now refer all of you here...haha. This coaching job has been an absolute shit show from the beginning and it progressively got worse and all I can do is vent here and be calm in person. It is what it is...let's talk about it.


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Mar 25, 202401:18:06
Ep. #148 - Self Mastery

Ep. #148 - Self Mastery

I always seem to be reading the right book at the right time. Yesterday was a testament to that and the work I’ve done to become a better man. This is a short one but I’m sure it will hit home for some of you…
Mar 22, 202411:31
Ep. #147 - Would you change?

Ep. #147 - Would you change?

Damn it man...sometimes when you least expect it, a memory gets un lodged in the brain and reminds you of something you may have forgotten over the years. The other day this happened and I guess today, I just needed to get this off my chest so I didn't carry it around anymore. I hope you enjoy and if someone you know needs to hear it, please share...thanks!


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Mar 20, 202420:34
Ep. #146 - Don't tweak who you are

Ep. #146 - Don't tweak who you are

Let me be straight with you for a minute...if you are at a point in your life, where you finally love who you've become; don't start tweaking things to make others happy or "comfortable" around you. Be authentically YOU. Let's talk about this...if you feel it, please share it, thanks!


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Mar 18, 202442:06
90 Seconds of Inspiration • Don’t let life live you!

90 Seconds of Inspiration • Don’t let life live you!

Share it if it hits home and someone you know needs to hear it!!!
Mar 13, 202401:31
3 From Me - Don’t Apologize

3 From Me - Don’t Apologize

Once you’ve done the work to become the man that you know you were capable of becoming don’t apologize to those who haven’t done the same work and who feel intimidated by your lifestyle.
Mar 13, 202404:01
Ep. #145 - What's Your Calling?

Ep. #145 - What's Your Calling?

They say the thing that comes easiest to you is your calling. I also believe that at different stages in your life you have different callings. I just so happen to believe my current calling is baseball and has been for quite some time. God just needed to get a few things in order for me first then...he blessed me with the right opportunity. Let's talk about this today...


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Mar 11, 202439:53
Ep. #144 - Lock In

Ep. #144 - Lock In

Staying locked in with friends through the years gets really tough. Today at the gun range I was reminded that it's something I need to put more focus on. If you're like me, you get comfortable being alone...but let's be honest, that's not good for us. It's a habit I need to break and maybe you do too...let's talk about it! Web: www.raymolina.com IG/TikTok: @theperfectmesspod @itsraymolina @itsbeastorfamine Youtube: www.youtube.com/theperfectmesspod (Subscribe) Donations: Cashapp - $itsraymolina Venmo - @itsraymolina Find me on: X, Snapchat, Threads & Rumble also.

Mar 04, 202425:10
Ep. #143 - Clarity

Ep. #143 - Clarity

This part of my life is called, "Clarity". Today I know why I was training for the last 7 years. Today I know there was always a bigger plan. And, today I realized...I am right where I am supposed to be. Let's talk about it...


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Mar 01, 202438:56
Ep. #142 - Today was a good day...

Ep. #142 - Today was a good day...

Sometimes it turns back around...and today it did. We don't always get what we want, when we want or how we want. But today, I got what I wanted (in a way) and it wasn't how or when I wanted it...but that's ok. No time for nitpicking, just time to be thankful and get to work. Let's talk about this today...please share if it hits home!


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Feb 28, 202423:23
3 From Me - Just Talk

3 From Me - Just Talk

Sometimes you just need to sit down and talk to somebody and get to know them and you realize so much that what you thought was so wrong. I hope this three minutes makes an impact on you. Have a great day.
Feb 26, 202404:02
Ep. #141 - I Couldn't Make It

Ep. #141 - I Couldn't Make It

Is your bitch voice winning again? Is it making excuses for you that you're buying into? STOP...I have those issues too, but let me share with you something so simple to help you beat it. I hope you enjoy and this helps a bit...if you do, please share it!


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Feb 23, 202430:12
Ep. #140 - "You Need..."

Ep. #140 - "You Need..."

Listen, someone is always going to tell you what they think "You Need..." to do etc. But if you know and believe in what it is you are doing. You need...yes, YOU NEED to stay the course and see it through. Let's talk about it and how I am dealing with it....Thanks for listening!


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Feb 21, 202456:08
Ep. #139 - Free Will

Ep. #139 - Free Will

What do you say to someone who says things like, "if your God is real then why does he let (insert bad/evil thing here) happen?". This was the topic of todays home church with my sons. Let's talk about Free Will on today's episode. I hope you enjoy and if you do, please share it! Thanks.


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Feb 19, 202426:32
Ep. #138 - Coleman

Ep. #138 - Coleman

3 years...let's revisit this shit hole predicament I was in and this pos bed I had to sleep on. Today is the 3 year anniversary of Episode #26 "Rock Bottom" where I talk about being homeless and how I pulled myself out of it. That episode is not on Youtube but it is on Spotify and Apple. Links below...

Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/episode/6h6L4qoskqGynlQd1c83hv?si=62122a4eeed74e38

Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-perfect-mess-w-ray-molina/id1510997755?i=1000509157507


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Feb 16, 202444:36
3 From Me - Integrity

3 From Me - Integrity

How you do one thing is how you’ll do everything… Let’s talk about it.
Feb 14, 202404:01
Ep. #137 - Thanks Coach

Ep. #137 - Thanks Coach

Lost another one recently, a coach that is and it got me to reflecting on other coaches and the impact it had on my life. Short and sweet...let's talk about it. Thanks!


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Feb 12, 202438:23
Ep. #136 - The Middle Ground

Ep. #136 - The Middle Ground

If your kids are like mine, driven by passion and goals...then you're going to want to listen to this one. My sons have dreams and goals larger than I ever imagined and I talk about my approach regarding these dreams and goals. Also, why it's important to give them encouragement, have faith in them and mix in some "Real Talk". It's important to be somewhere in the middle on these talks and I will explain why. I hope you enjoy...thanks for listening! Web: www.raymolina.com IG/TikTok: @theperfectmesspod @itsraymolina @itsbeastorfamine YT: www.youtube.com/theperfectmesspod Donate: Cashapp $itsraymolina Venmo @itsraymolina

Feb 09, 202444:16
Ep. #135 - A Glimpse

Ep. #135 - A Glimpse

After that talk with my son Jayden...I couldn't help but feel like I needed to share a few instances where my Father showed a glimpse of what he could've been as a Father and Grandfather. I felt I needed to let people know, that there were moments (although very far and in-between) where I looked at him and said, "there it is...he's in there...I see it". Unfortunately they didn't last and we were never able to build on them. I hope you enjoy this episode, let's talk about it. Thanks!


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Feb 07, 202439:35
Ep. #134 - Tough Questions

Ep. #134 - Tough Questions

Listen, when these kids get older they have REAL questions. This ain't for the faint at heart. My son Jayden and I had a real talk for our first Father Son date in a while. It was DEEP. Let's talk about it and then touch on how I channeled my inner Pastor Ray this weekend. Hope you enjoy and if you do, please share it!


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Feb 05, 202447:05
Ep. #133 - Book Review: Curtis "50 Cent" Jackson's - Hustle Harder, Hustle Smarter
Feb 02, 202452:13
Ep. #132 - The Longer Road...

Ep. #132 - The Longer Road...

I know damn good and well that I am choosing the longer road by not having guests on my podcast thus far. I get it, trust me. But I don't do this to grow off another man's story...I do it to share mine. But when I do have guests, they will be along similar lines and have fantastic stories of how they regained their lives back and it will be to encourage all of you who've been listening. I hope you enjoy this episode, thank you for listening.

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Jan 31, 202432:43
Ep. #131 - Embracing Growth

Ep. #131 - Embracing Growth

Man I have been on such a growth journey for so long that I just now really embracing everything that comes with it. I hope this hits home for someone and if it does, please share it. Let's talk about it...Web: www.raymolina.comIG/TikTok: @theperfectmesspod @itsraymolina @itsbeastorfamineYT: www.youtube.com/theperfectmesspodDonate: Cashapp $itsraymolina Venmo @itsraymolina

Jan 29, 202432:40
Ep. #130 - Battling...

Ep. #130 - Battling...

I been battling a lot lately, anybody else with me? Are you battling things left and right these past few weeks? Let's talk about some of the things I been sparring with and maybe it can help the both of us out. If you like this episode, please share it with someone thanks!


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Jan 26, 202440:24
3 From Me - Walks…

3 From Me - Walks…

You’ll notice a theme in my life of taking walks with the people that I love… I hope this short episode hits home and if it does, please share it with somebody you love.
Jan 24, 202403:31
Ep. #129 - Use Me
Jan 22, 202448:60
Ep. #128 - What's Hard?
Jan 19, 202459:59
Ep. #127 - GOYO

Ep. #127 - GOYO

It's two years since his passing and man do I miss him. So, I thought this would be a great opportunity to tell a few cool stories about my Grandfather. Maybe it will give you some more insight as to why I am the man I am today and how close me and this man were. I hope you enjoy, if you do...please share it with someone thanks!


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Jan 17, 202447:42
Ep. #126 - Fix Your Triggers

Ep. #126 - Fix Your Triggers

We're human, we all have triggers...this includes me. I hate admitting this, it makes me feel weak. And to be honest, it should. Triggers ARE weaknesses. I had a trigger I didn't realize I had until this past weekend. It infuriated me and took me out of my situation for about an hour and even that was too long in my eyes. So, let's talk about it and break down how triggers can affect us and what we need to do moving fwd. I hope this hits home and if it does, please share it! Thanks for listening.


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Jan 15, 202431:17
Ep. #125 - Time to Roll
Jan 12, 202417:27
Ep. #124 - Controlled Intimacy
Jan 10, 202441:28
Ep. #123 - It's Not Your Business

Ep. #123 - It's Not Your Business

Once you've locked in on your new life and new journey, one lesson you're going to have to learn is...what other people think about it or you is not your business. This includes (if you are a believer) GOD's plan for you. You can pray on things but how you get them or get there is his plan not yours and straight up, it is not your business. Let's talk about focusing on the present and what's important. I hope this message helps someone and if it does, please share it thanks!


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Jan 08, 202431:54
Ep. #122 - Whatcha Drinkin'?

Ep. #122 - Whatcha Drinkin'?

I get asked often, why or how I've changed. Recently, I was asked this on IG when I updated my profile pic to me in a black and white photo wearing a cowboy hat. I understand some have left since I quit music years ago and periodically come back shocked with who they now see...but let's talk about how this came about and the trips around the country that help contribute to growth, understanding and ultimately change. Thanks for listening and as always if you like this episode please share it with someone.


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Jan 05, 202452:54
Ep. 121 - Pour Into Them
Jan 03, 202433:47
Ep. #120 - Year End Wrap

Ep. #120 - Year End Wrap

What a year. Ever had a year where you almost didn't realize how much you got accomplished? That was me this past year. Let's catch up and talk about my year and what I want to do moving fwd. I hope you had a great and safe NYE and a blessed 2024. If you like this or any other episode, please share, review, comment or rate! Thanks!


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Jan 01, 202452:59
3 From Me • Kids are Resilient

3 From Me • Kids are Resilient

Let’s talk about how resilient our children can be. If this hits home, please share with somebody. Thanks for listening.
Dec 29, 202303:30
Ep. #119 - He Had It All

Ep. #119 - He Had It All

I was deep in conversation today about kids, age and fear of being alone in our latter years...then I rolled up on my own neighborhood where we had a house on the hill as a kid and lost it all. Then it all came out and I needed to spill that here...let's talk about family and 2nd chances...I hope you enjoy and if you do, please share this one.


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Dec 13, 202327:49
Ep. #118 - You Will Bounce Back...

Ep. #118 - You Will Bounce Back...

Casual conversation on this one...talking to all the men/fathers going through a divorce, break up or separation. It's dark, I know. You probably look at yourself and think, who's gonna want me like this? I thought the same thing...out of shape, broken, single with kids, stuggling financially...trust me I know. But let me encourage you so you know that it doesn't have to stay that way...you can become the man you dream of. You can turn it around and become the catch for a women in search of her partner. It takes work...but don't throw in the towel, let's talk...I'll share my journey and let's see if that connects with you.


Thanks for listening, please share if it hits home.


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Dec 08, 202349:37
Ep. #117 - You Made That

Ep. #117 - You Made That

Let's talk about baseball in Las Vegas and how this trip showed me my teenager is growing up before my very eyes. Man...it does not slow down, not one bit. Fathers, you need to hear this one if your son plays travel ball...you'll appreciate it. Thanks for listening, and if you hear something you think someone you know needs to hear...please share this episode!


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Nov 29, 202351:04
Ep. #116 - Not So Lil'

Ep. #116 - Not So Lil'

Well...I thought I only had to deal with my high schooler growing up too fast. But, I was wrong because me lil man is moving faster and I am trying to keep it together over here. Let me tell you a little bit about it today. I hope you enjoy, and if you do...please share it with someone, thanks!


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Nov 01, 202337:12
Ep. #115 - We're Tired

Ep. #115 - We're Tired

"Where have all the good men gone?" - We're tired...listen, and follow me on this. This is such a hot topic right now and I have my own experience with this I would like to share. I hope you enjoy and as always if it hits home...SHARE IT! Thanks!


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Oct 21, 202344:36
Ep. #114 - Better Off

Ep. #114 - Better Off

Ever wonder if you are better off being single? At 49 I wonder that often...I often say "I miss the noise". Meaning, the family...kids, partner, animal...all of it. But what is it going to take to get back there and is it even possible after being single for so long? Let's talk about that on this episode.


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Oct 16, 202354:07
Ep. #113 - Do Whatever It Takes

Ep. #113 - Do Whatever It Takes

I know we've talked about this exact topic I think back in May of 2023...but it needs to be said once more. I hope you find that hustle in you when your businesses or trades are slowing down and things start to pile up on you financially. This has been my story recently and I am sharing with you how I am working through it...I hope it helps you. If so, please share it!


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Oct 13, 202350:58
Ep. #112 - Your "Friend", The Lobbyist

Ep. #112 - Your "Friend", The Lobbyist

We all have at least one. A "friend" who does things out of the "kindness of their heart" only to unleash them on you when you least expect it. It's usually when you've told them something they needed to hear that may jeopardize your friendship moving forward. This episode is direct, to the point and a bit vulgar...(sorry about it) but sometimes it calls for it. Hope it helps anyone with these people in their lives on how to hold their ground and stay true to themselves. Like it, please share it.


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Sep 22, 202339:32
Ep. #111 - The Perfect Ten

Ep. #111 - The Perfect Ten

Does the perfect ten even exist? Let's talk about it and I will give you my thoughts and if you feel so inclined once you are done listening...I would love to hear your input. Let's talk...


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Sep 06, 202348:31
Ep. 110 - It's Always Us

Ep. 110 - It's Always Us

Tough episode...but necessary. Let's talk about how we always muck up the message and make decisions on our own and use the word to defend it. This will hit different depending on where you are in your walk with Christ...but if it hits home, please share it...thanks!


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Aug 30, 202301:01:00
90 Seconds of Inspiration - It’s on me…
Aug 28, 202301:32
90 Seconds of Inspiration - “Help Someone”

90 Seconds of Inspiration - “Help Someone”

I hope this story I’m sharing with you today inspires you to help somebody.
Aug 17, 202301:31
90 Seconds of Inspiration - It’s all Perspective
Aug 06, 202301:32
Ep. #109 - "Be That Guy"

Ep. #109 - "Be That Guy"

We spend a lot of our lives being afraid to be the guy who says, "naw...I don't think I'll be there" or "it depends on who's going...I may or may not come". We or I for that matter never wanted to be that guy, but as I've gotten older it's more important than ever to "Be That Guy" because it's putting you first and looking out for you. That is important especially if you have made some major changes in life. Anyway, I talk about that here on this short episode which I hope you enjoy...thanks for listening!


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Aug 01, 202330:46