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The Perfect Mess w/Ray Molina

The Perfect Mess w/Ray Molina

By Ray Molina
Ever feel like your life is so crazy, chaotic and to be honest a complete mess; but for some reason you’ve got it all under control? It’s a mess, but it’s your mess, the perfect mess. I’ll share how I went from a pit of absolute hopelessness to regaining a life of inspiration and leadership. Along the way, I’ll introduce you to some other wonderful people who’ve done the same.
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Ep. #65 - “Another Shooting, What Now?” (LTAI)
Here we are again. Another school shooting and politicians are back at it politicizing. Gun advocates and those against are at war and we still can’t find common ground on where to go from here. I don’t have all the answers but here’s my take (not that you needed another one) but here it is. I hope you get something from this and if you do, please share it with someone. Thanks!
39:20
May 26, 2022
Ep. #64 - Kevin Samuels (LTAI)
This may be a triggering podcast for some people, fair warning. Although I didn’t agree with everything Kevin Samuels stood for, I did respect the man. And I did value a lot of what he brought to the world, and unlike most I appreciated his delivery as blunt as it was. I think Kevin Samuels was needed and he was very necessary not just to people of color but people in general. I hope you enjoy this episode, and rest in peace Kevin Samuels. Web: www.raymolina.com IG: @itsraymolina @theperfectmesspod TKTK: @itsraymolina YT: The Perfect Mess Podcast Donate via Cashapp: (Click Here)
53:36
May 14, 2022
Ep: #63 - “Passion”
So much of my life revolves around “Passion”. When you live life with Passion…it can be a bit more of a roller coaster. I share my ups and downs in recent days and why I refuse to change living the way I do. I hope this hits home for some of you and if so, please share it! Thanks! Web: www.raymolina.com IG: @itsraymolina @theperfectmesspod TKTK: @itsraymolina YT: The Perfect Mess Podcast Donate via Cashapp: (Click Here)
41:45
May 02, 2022
90 Seconds of Inspiration • Get through the mud 🥾
Some days weeks or months feel like we’re stuck in the mud… But if you feel like that, like I have over the last few weeks… Why would you stop while you’re stuck in the mud? Continue to push through those tough days and the mud will disappear.
01:31
April 13, 2022
90 Seconds of Inspiration - “Shoot Straight…”🦁
Dating is so much easier when you shoot straight. The minute you start hiding, lying even little white Lies; it becomes difficult. Especially if you’re grown, shoot straight your dating life will be so much easier.
01:31
April 04, 2022
Ep. #62 - "Present, Not Perfect"
"It's easier to build strong children than to heal broken men..." - Fredrick Douglas It's hard being a father, let alone a single father. I have so much input on this topic and I really want you fathers to tune in because I think you need to hear this. I catch you up on all the things I have been up to over the last month, but what's more important is this topic. Please check it out and share it if it hits home for you. Thanks! Web: www.raymolina.com IG: @itsraymolina @theperfectmesspod TKTK: @itsraymolina YT: The Perfect Mess Podcast Donate via Cashapp: (Click Here)
01:25:58
April 01, 2022
90 Seconds of Inspiration • Stop This, it’s detrimental…🦁
We really have to stop being so damn difficult for the sake of being difficult… I hope this short word helps somebody…
01:31
March 10, 2022
Ep. #61 - 3 Kings Edition (Molina Boys)
"First you take the graham. You stick the chocolate on the graham. Then you roast the Mallow. When the mallows flaming, you stick it on the chocolate and cover it with the other end. Then, you scarf!" - HAM (The Sandlot) Hey y'all, the boys are back with their podcast and this time they talk about their President's Week Vacation where they went to Great Wolf Lodge and Camping at Uvas Canyon. Hope you enjoy! Web: www.raymolina.com IG: @itsraymolina @theperfectmesspod TKTK: @itsraymolina YT: The Perfect Mess Podcast Donate via Cashapp: (Click Here)
42:57
March 07, 2022
Ep. #60 - "Where You Left Me"
"Some grief never dies...you just learn to live with it...but, you will never find me where it or you left me..." I'm all about fwd progress by now you know that. On this episode I talk about how things or people leave us feeling a certain way once they happen or once they decide to leave our lives. You can choose to curl up and remain broken or you can choose to take it on the chin and get back up. I hope you enjoy this episode and like always if you do...please subscribe, follow, review, comment and share! Web: www.raymolina.com IG: @itsraymolina @theperfectmesspod TKTK: @itsraymolina YT: The Perfect Mess Podcast Donate via Cashapp: (Click Here)
01:10:25
March 05, 2022
90 Seconds of Inspiration - Cut The Sh#t…🦁
Everybody’s got an excuse, what’s yours? And seriously honest question… When are you going to cut the shit?
01:31
February 23, 2022
90 Seconds of Inspiration • Stand By It All…🦁
Who cares what they think… Stand behind everything you are… 🦁
01:30
February 23, 2022
90 Seconds of Inspiration • Sometimes, just do it…🦁
Sometimes the answer is… Just go, just do it… Figure it out later 🦁
01:31
February 23, 2022
90 Seconds of Inspiration • Stay Dangerous…🦁
Yea, I want to be healthy…but I also want to Stay Dangerous. 💪🏼
01:30
February 23, 2022
Ep. #59 - “Burst Your Bubble” (LTAI)
So apparently one of my 90 Seconds of Inspirations rubbed a few people the wrong way. That’s okay…sometimes that happens when you drop some hard truths. But let’s talk about that a bit here…like always please like, share, comment, subscribe, review! Web: www.raymolina.com IG: @itsraymolina @theperfectmesspod TKTK: @itsraymolina YT: The Perfect Mess Podcast Donate via Cashapp: (Click Here)
22:26
February 17, 2022
Ep. #58 - "Happy Wife, Happy Life" - LTAI
This phrase has been embedded into our brains for so long that it's actually destroyed more marriages than it has helped. I truly believe that. Today, I had to touch on this a bit and I hope you listen with an open mind and understand where I am coming from. If you don't understand, you may be part of the problem. I have no issues saying that...I hope you enjoy and like always, if you think it's of value...please like, comment, share, subscribe! Web: www.raymolina.com IG: @itsraymolina @theperfectmesspod TKTK: @itsraymolina YT: The Perfect Mess Podcast Donate via Cashapp: (Click Here)
25:41
February 08, 2022
90 Seconds of Inspiration • Glasshouse 🦁
Don’t get too caught up and cancel culture, this is just a friendly reminder that we all live in a glass house and all it takes is one person who’s been sitting back waiting for us to falter.
01:30
February 07, 2022
90 Seconds of Inspiration • Visualize…🦁
I started doing this every morning for 10 minutes since I’ve started live hard which is phase 1 after you complete 75HARD by Andy Frisella. It is easily one of the most powerful things I’ve now implemented into my day and I highly suggest it for all of you.
01:31
February 04, 2022
Ep. #57 - “Legacy” (otg)
“CARVE YOUR NAME ON HEARTS, NOT TOMBSTONES. A LEGACY IS ETCHED INTO THE MINDS OF OTHERS AND THE STORIES THEY SHARE ABOUT YOU…” - Shannon Adler I got to thinking about all the things that were said about my grandfather and his life once he passed and it made me reflect on his legacy. That lead me to start thinking about my own and if I were to pass today, what would my legacy be? What would people say about me as a man and how I lived my life? Have you thought about yours? This episode I touch on this after I give you a few updates on other things going on in my life as well. I hope you enjoy! Please subscribe, review, like, share and follow! Web: www.raymolina.com IG: @itsraymolina @theperfectmesspod TKTK: @itsraymolina YT: The Perfect Mess Podcast Donate via Cashapp: (Click Here)
01:03:17
February 03, 2022
90 Seconds of Inspiration • …Even when you’re down, take pride 🦁
This morning I saw something while I was on the way to take my kids to school that I wanted to share with you. I thought it was important to share for perspective for those who struggle with not having everything they feel that they need right now… Trust me we’ve all been there, but listen closely to this please.
01:31
February 02, 2022
90 Seconds of Inspiration • Take a Minute…🦁
…take a minute 🦁 Sometimes emotions hit us when we least expect it after we’ve lost somebody to a death, a break up, a divorce or moving away. When that happens make sure you give yourself a minute, sometimes you deserve it. #raymolina #theperfectmesspod #podcast #90soi #inspiration
01:31
January 31, 2022
90 Seconds of Inspiration • Those pennies add up! 🦁
Let’s talk about investing briefly… If you’ve got pennies you can invest and I’ll show you how… Enjoy your day God bless.
01:31
January 28, 2022
90 Seconds of Inspiration • Put yourself first for once…🦁
For some reason some of us get soft when it comes to protecting our peace. We still continuously pick up the phone answer text messages reply to emails from people we know we should be cutting ties with. We do this because we still have a soft spot, but a soft spot it’s not going to help you get to where you need to be in your life… Are you putting yourself first?
01:31
January 27, 2022
90 Seconds of Inspiration - … if your light is bright enough, they will ask 💡
I’ve never been a big fan of Bible thumpers, and I’ll explain to you why here. What are your thoughts on this? And if you feel similar, please share.
01:32
January 26, 2022
Ep. #56 - 3 Kings Edition (Molina Boys)
"Giving your son a skill is better than giving him one thousand pieces of gold." - Chinese Proverb The boys are back! We're starting new monthly series with my sons called 3 Kings Edition. Each month we'll just catch up with them to see what's going on in their world. On this episode we cover school (restrictions), books, sports, travel baseball, gaming, tiktok stop motion, Pokemon cards and the passing of their grandfather. We hope you enjoy this first one and remember, they're 10-12 and learning this whole podcast thing but they'll be pro's before we know it! Please subscribe, review, like, share and follow! Web: www.raymolina.com IG: @itsraymolina @theperfectmesspod TKTK: @itsraymolina YT: The Perfect Mess Podcast Donate via Cashapp: (Click Here)
01:05:31
January 26, 2022
90 Seconds of Inspiration - What will your funeral say about you?
People say, a man’s funeral says a lot about him and how he lived his life. I thought about this recently since my Grandfather passed and I’m curious…what will yours say about you?
01:31
January 25, 2022
90 Seconds of Inspiration - “Why do the unnecessary…?”
Life isn’t always roses. Sometimes we are called to do things we never thought we had to do. I choose to do things that will prepare me for those moments. But what if they never happen? I usually reply with, but what if they do?
01:31
January 22, 2022
90 Seconds of Inspiration • What are your socials like…? 🦁
My kids are of the age where they are starting to get on social media now and they are seeing things that I am doing and they want to try them. Now because I post 99% positive I’m not too worried about that but it got me to thinking… What are most adults posting on their socials? Are we posting negative stuff and is it affecting our kids? Just a thought…
01:32
January 21, 2022
90 Seconds of Inspiration - What’s your 2nd half look like? 🦁
My grandfather always talked about the 2nd half. He said one you hit 40 you are going into the 2nd half. As he lays to rest, I have thought about this so much these last few days. So, I wanted to ask you…what does your 2nd half look like?
01:31
January 20, 2022
Ep. #55 - "Last Words w/a Marine"
"Some people spend an entire lifetime wondering if they made a difference in the world. But, Marines don't have that problem." - Ronald Reagan "Marines die, that's what we're here for. But, the Marine Corps live forever. And that means YOU will live forever." - Gunnery SGT. Hartma This episode is dedicated to the legacy of my Grandfather; Gregorio "Rocky" Molina. I hope you enjoy...Rest In Peace Grandpa...(OORAH!) Web: www.raymolina.com IG: @itsraymolina @theperfectmesspod TKTK: @itsraymolina YT: The Perfect Mess Podcast Donate via Cashapp: (Click Here)
01:06:29
January 19, 2022
90 Seconds of Inspiration - “Are You Living or Just Existing?”
A lot of us are content with just existing playing it safe. We don’t realize that we’re not actually living and by the time we realize that… It’s too late. So my question to you is are you living or are you just existing?
01:32
January 16, 2022
90 Seconds of Inspiration - “Why All of a Sudden”
Why the patriotism all of a sudden? I don’t remember you being like this….what happened?
01:31
January 15, 2022
Ep. #54 - "Shut It or Show It" - LTAI Series
Yea I know...he's only doing it for clout, to show off or get attention. Yet everyday people share the most toxic shit to get likes, views and comments all in the name of "going viral". BUT! They have all sorts of things to say when you share yourself or someone else doing a good deed. Listen...and listen close. I am going to give it to you straight here, this is where you decide; should I shut it or show it? You'll know my stance right off top! Like always, thanks for tuning in...please subscribe, follow, comment, review and share if you appreciate the episode! Web: www.raymolina.com IG: @itsraymolina @theperfectmesspod TKTK: @itsraymolina YT: The Perfect Mess Podcast Donate via Cashapp: (Click Here)
27:59
January 14, 2022
90 Seconds of Inspiration - “Choose Your Hard”
Life is about choices, we can choose to make our life harder than it typically is or we can choose to make the right decisions and make our hard less difficult and more manageable. In the end it’s a choice.
01:31
January 14, 2022
90 Seconds of Inspiration - “Wishbone vs. Backbone”
Your wishbone is the dreams you hope and pray for. You backbone is the work you do to get them. Which one of yours is strongest?
01:31
January 12, 2022
Ep. #53 - "Penitentia"
"We begin life as a raindrop on the mountainside, then follow a winding path along the river of life, until we reach the sea, the ocean of consciousness, our home." - Peter Shepherd My Grandfather (My Hero) is officially on hospice. This episode I reflect on his life and the park where it all started for he and I that has now blossomed to the park I now share with my children. The memories; happy, sad and then some. My life is so deeply rooted into this park and the creek that runs through it. I share that with you here as I reflect and prepare myself for the transition of my Grandfather, Gregorio Molina aka Rocky Molina (OORAH!) Web: www.raymolina.com IG: @itsraymolina @theperfectmesspod TKTK: @itsraymolina YT: The Perfect Mess Podcast Donate via Cashapp: (Click Here)
01:07:28
January 11, 2022
90 Seconds of Inspiration - “Walk Peacefully”
Not every ending to a relationship in our lives has to end with a fight or argument. That goes for friendships, dating or even family. You can easily choose to walk away peacefully and outgrow or just slowly fade to the back. It happens…listen closely…
01:30
January 08, 2022
90 Seconds of Inspiration - “Boxes aka Safe Zones”
It’s ok to move on if we no longer fit the boxes people put us in. We all grow, or outgrow I should say. Sometimes the Safe Zones change and in turn change our relationships to some people.
01:31
January 08, 2022
90 Seconds of Inspiration - “Proud Outlier”
If you’re a believer the pressure is on…hold tight. Faith Up, Fear Down.
01:31
January 07, 2022
Ep. #52 - "Move Accordingly" - LTAI Series
We change, people change...but figuring out who we are and being ok with that is powerful. Sometimes we are the ones who change and grow...then we lose people. Other times, we are the ones walking away from someone we loved, supported or stood by who isn't the same person anymore. It's ok, it happens...but let's talk about it! Like always, thanks for tuning in...please subscribe, follow, comment, review and share if you appreciate the episode! Web: www.raymolina.com IG: @itsraymolina @theperfectmesspod TKTK: @itsraymolina YT: The Perfect Mess Podcast Donate via Cashapp: (Click Here)
30:46
January 05, 2022
Ep. #51 - "Beyond Blessed"
“The unthankful heart… discovers no mercies; but let the thankful heart sweep through the day and, as the magnet finds the iron, so it will find, in every hour, some heavenly blessings!” – Henry Ward Beecher It's been a minute, holidays and life you know the drill. But, let's catch up. I cover quite a few things...back on 75hard, more books I've finished including one controversial one I will not be recommending (that's a first)....along with updates on my kids and I during this holiday vacation. We've also lost a few people I mention here...life's moving fast, trying to slow it down. Ultimately I reflect on my last Christmas to where I am today and this current Christmas and how dramatic my life has changed. Today, I am beyond blessed and these are the reasons why...maybe this will help remind you on how you are too. Like always, thanks for tuning in...please subscribe, follow, comment, review and share if you appreciate the episode! Web: www.raymolina.com IG: @itsraymolina @theperfectmesspod TKTK: @itsraymolina YT: The Perfect Mess Podcast Donate via Cashapp: (Click Here)
01:16:57
December 29, 2021
90 Seconds of Inspiration - Always Pay It FWD
Always pay it fwd…🦁 #90soi #raymolina #theperfectmesspod #inspiration #podcast #payitforward
01:31
December 21, 2021
90 Seconds of Inspiration - Get Different
90 Seconds of Inspiration - Get Different 🦁 #raymolina #theperfectmesspod #podcast #90soi #inspiration
01:31
December 15, 2021
90 Seconds of Inspiration - Don’t Be That Guy
You never want to be the richest man in the graveyard…
01:31
December 09, 2021
90 Seconds of Inspiration - From Parent to Parent
Let’s get comfortable complimenting other parents on the great job they’re doing raising their kids.
01:30
December 05, 2021
90 Seconds of Inspiration - Quit, go ahead…you should
Quit, you should…go ahead…90 Seconds of Inspiration.
01:31
December 03, 2021
90 Seconds of Inspiration - That’s a good life…
You want your good life? Gotta go get it….
01:31
December 02, 2021
90 Seconds of Inspiration - You're Inspiring Someone...
Keep Going, you are inspiring someone and you don't even know it...
01:31
December 01, 2021
Ep. #50 - "A Chance & A Choice"
"Two things we get everyday, that's a Chance and a Choice...let's put more value on the choices we make, because our choices are what determines our destination" - J.Prince Lot's to catch up. I re-cap my last few weeks: 75Hard, Current Book, Hiking Trips, The Holiday and my sons. Then finally I break down the concept of a chance and a choice and why it should be important for us to live like this. I hope you enjoy this episode and as always, a subscribe, follow, share, comment or review is always appreciated! Web: www.raymolina.com IG: @itsraymolina @theperfectmesspod TKTK: @itsraymolina YT: The Perfect Mess Podcast Donate via Cashapp: (Click Here)
01:04:52
November 30, 2021
Ep. #49 - "Silence Won't Fix This"
"Develop enough courage so that you can stand up for yourself and then stand up for somebody else." - Maya Angelou Welp, today I participated in my first official walk out for the kids w/regards to the vax mandates here in CA. I want to share that with you, so this will shift gears a bit but I think it was important that I share this part of my life with you all as well. This directly affects me so it is relevant. I hope you enjoy this episode and as always, a subscribe, follow, share, comment or review is always appreciated! Web: www.raymolina.com IG: @itsraymolina @theperfectmesspod TKTK: @itsraymolina YT: The Perfect Mess Podcast Donate via Cashapp: (Click Here)
33:25
November 05, 2021
Ep. #48 - "Time Is A Gift"
"The key is in not spending time, but in investing it." - Stephen R. Covey // "Lost time is never found again." - Benjamin Franklin It's all about time. This episode I share my time with my Mother after 3 years of not seeing her due to all the lock downs. I cover so much about life and how precious our time is with loved ones. We had 4 days to make it great and we did that.......I hope you enjoy this episode and as always, a subscribe, follow, share, comment or review is always appreciated! Web: www.raymolina.com IG: @itsraymolina @theperfectmesspod TKTK: @itsraymolina YT: The Perfect Mess Podcast Donate via Cashapp: (Click Here)
01:23:52
November 01, 2021
Ep. #47 - "Fear & Growth" (otg)
"One can choose to go back toward safety or forward toward growth. Growth must be chosen again and again; fear must be overcome again and again." - Abraham Maslow I use to run toward fear because it was easy for me. Then I realized fear was doing nothing for me and it was growth that I lacked. I wasn't growing in life and in the things that mattered that could ultimately change my outlook on life. They say men mature at a slower pace than women, I don't know if that is true but I definitely needed to learn how to change or I was gonna fail......I hope you enjoy this episode and as always, a subscribe, follow, share, comment or review is always appreciated! Web: www.raymolina.com IG: @itsraymolina @theperfectmesspod TKTK: @itsraymolina YT: The Perfect Mess Podcast Donate via Cashapp: (Click Here)
50:58
October 21, 2021
Ep. #46 - "A Simple, Thank You..."
"Let us rise up and be thankful, for if we didn't learn a lot today, at least we learned a little, and if we didn't learn a little, at least we didn't get sick, and if we got sick, at least we didn't die; so, let us all be thankful." - Buddha They're cracking the whip and cornering all of us...at least if feels like it huh? Seems we can't even make our own decisions these days, the gov't seems to think they need to help us do that as well. Like we haven't already been through enough. Boy has shit hit the fan out here in California...I mean really. So, as always.....let's talk about it and I'll go first......I hope you enjoy this episode and as always, a subscribe, follow, share, comment or review is always appreciated! Web: www.raymolina.com IG: @itsraymolina @theperfectmesspod TKTK: @itsraymolina YT: The Perfect Mess Podcast Donate via Cashapp: (Click Here)
40:52
October 04, 2021
Ep. #45 - "How Dare You"
"Security is mostly a superstition. It does not exist in nature, nor do the children of men as a whole experience it. Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure. Life is either a daring adventure, or nothing." - Helen Keller How dare you be unapologetically you. The nerve of you to have an opinion, a voice or thought that goes against mine. Yea...I know, it's happening all over the place these days. Let's talk about it and I'll go first......I hope you enjoy this episode and as always, a subscribe, follow, share, comment or review is always appreciated! Web: www.raymolina.com IG: @itsraymolina @theperfectmesspod TKTK: @itsraymolina YT: The Perfect Mess Podcast Donate via Cashapp: (Click Here)
53:27
September 27, 2021
Ep. #44 - "Figure It Out"
I had an incident happen last night that could've gone wrong in so many ways at a gas station. I want to share that with you and how me taking care of myself, my health, my fitness may have helped deter that situation. Fellas, please listen to this episode I feel like it's an important one for us especially as the times have changed and people have gotten much more desperate. I hope you enjoy this episode and as always, a subscribe, follow, share, comment or review is always appreciated! Web: www.raymolina.com IG: @itsraymolina @theperfectmesspod TKTK: @itsraymolina YT: The Perfect Mess Podcast Donate via Cashapp: (Click Here)
52:32
September 21, 2021
Ep. #43 - "Self Seclusion Helps Clear Confusion"
"The mind is sharper and keener in seclusion and uninterrupted solitude. Originality thrives in seclusion free of outside influences beating up on us to cripple the creative mind. Be alone, that is the secret of invention: Be alone, that is when ideas are born." - Nikola Tesla There is so much noise going on right now right? On this episode I share some things I do to self-seclude myself and disconnect so I can clear the confusion and find some peace and clarity. I hope this helps some of you and if so, please share it, comment, rate, subscribe...you know the drill. Thanks! Web: www.raymolina.com IG: @itsraymolina @theperfectmesspod TKTK: @itsraymolina YT: The Perfect Mess Podcast Donate via Cashapp: (Click Here)
01:01:24
September 17, 2021
Ep. #42 - "Chin Up, Chest Out...Stand Proud"
"The world will not be destroyed by those who do evil, but by those who watch them without doing anything" - Albert Einstein Our lives are difficult as it is right? Especially if you are raising kids. There is so much going on today that is adding more and more to our plates. When will our world get back to "normal"? Who knows...but I do know this. Being quiet about current events and how they are affecting you is not the answer. And somehow, we're going to have to remember what this country stands for and find it in our souls to stand up and be heard. Today's the 20th anniversary of 9/11...never forget it. Web: www.raymolina.com IG: @itsraymolina @theperfectmesspod TKTK: @itsraymolina YT: The Perfect Mess Podcast Donate via Cashapp: (Click Here)
01:04:03
September 12, 2021
EP. #41 - "Strength in Power Over The Mind"
"You have power over your mind - not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength" - Marcus Aurelius 6 weeks of chaos...almost broke me. Car loss, head injury, family trauma, illness and so much more...yes, my mind tried to convince me I was a failure. That was so far from the truth but it nearly convinced me. I hope you enjoy this episode as I start to bounce back. Web: www.raymolina.com IG: @itsraymolina @theperfectmesspod FB: The Perfect Mess Podcast YT: The Perfect Mess Podcast Donate via Cashapp: (Click Here)
51:04
August 24, 2021
Ep. #40 - “Earn Your Crown”
Fellas, I needed to drop this one for you. I was mid workout for #75HARD and got inspired to do this episode while in the process. A lot of us men go through self doubt, confidence problems after a divorce. Or even while we’re still married, we’re a shell of who we could be and are on the verge of losing everything. I know I struggled and there were things I needed to learn if I was gonna move fwd successfully. I talk about that here because if I can help anyone of you fix it before it’s broken for good…I’d like to. It’s never too late. I hope this episode speaks to you. And as always, if you like it please share, subscribe, follow, comment, review…thanks! Web: www.raymolina.com IG: @itsraymolina @theperfectmesspod FB: The Perfect Mess Podcast YT: The Perfect Mess Podcast Donate via Cashapp: (Click Here)
26:57
July 20, 2021
Ep. #39 - “Your Life & It’s Lessons”
On this episode I share a few stories from some very random people while Uber/Lyft driving. Stories I think were inspiring and I learned a bit from. I also discuss how the the way we live our life is the lesson we teach. How we can subconsciously be teaching lessons that are of value or lessons that can perpetuate struggles we’ve gone through in our past. I share how living my life as if there are cameras on me filming a documentary on my life helps me try and be my best at all times not just for me, but my children too. Anyway, as always, if you like it please share, subscribe, follow, comment, review…thanks! Web: www.raymolina.com IG: @itsraymolina @theperfectmesspod FB: The Perfect Mess Podcast YT: The Perfect Mess Podcast Donate via Cashapp: (Click Here)
58:47
July 14, 2021
Ep. #38 - "Just Walk..."
It’s hard when we get in a funk right? When we don’t get the answers fast enough, we don’t see the results fast enough or just can’t seem to get what we want when we want it. I know trust me, I do. There are days I want to stay in bed and not get it going. I find excuses to avoid life for that day. But life ends happening regardless. These are days I have to remind myself to continue to move fwd even when I can’t run just walk…walk and move fwd. as long as we’re moving well eventually get the answers, results we are looking for it just takes a bit more time. I hope me sharing this with you on the episode helps. And as always, if you like it please share, subscribe, follow, comment, review…thanks! Web: www.raymolina.com IG: @itsraymolina @theperfectmesspod FB: The Perfect Mess Podcast YT: The Perfect Mess Podcast Donate via Cashapp: (Click Here)
01:08:39
June 24, 2021
Ep. #37 - "Surviving You"
Indian-American author and alternative medicine advocate Deepak Chopra once said...“The best way to get rid of the pain is to feel the pain. And when you feel the pain and go beyond it, you’ll see there’s a very intense love that is wanting to awaken itself.” Often times we think we're out of the woods when it comes to past traumas or failed relationships etc. but we never truly know if that is true until we are presented with something great or good for that matter. Do we accept it? Do we run from it? Do we question if we deserve it? Or do we purposely sabotage it because it can't be good...it's too good to be true? I think for a lot of us, we struggle surviving ourselves and realize we're not fully healed yet...in fact we're still damaged and have become our own worst enemy. I discuss that on this episode as well as catch you up on a few other things going on in my life as well. Thanks for listening and as always please like, share, comment, review, follow and subscribe! Web: www.raymolina.com IG: @itsraymolina @theperfectmesspod FB: The Perfect Mess Podcast YT: The Perfect Mess Podcast Donate via Cashapp: (Click Here)
01:12:05
May 31, 2021
Ep. #36 - "What Have We Won?"
Kobe Bryant responded to a reporter in 2009 after going up 2-0 against the Orlando Magic in the Finals...after being asked, "Still waiting on a smile from you; you're up 2-0....what's the story? Are you not happy or you just half happy?" he responded w/"What's there to be happy about? The jobs not finished...job finished? I don't think so." I think often in life we pat ourselves on the back before the work is even done. Social media doesn't help as we get thumbs up's and heart likes for sharing us doing "the minimum". I hope you enjoy this short episode and as always if you like it please share, comment, review, subscribe and follow! Web: www.raymolina.com IG: @itsraymolina @theperfectmesspod FB: The Perfect Mess Podcast YT: The Perfect Mess Podcast Donate via Cashapp: (Click Here)
35:34
May 25, 2021
Ep. #35 - “Searching for the Key”
I'm back from Arizona and ready to pod! Yea, man...weddings are awesome right? I always thought I would be bitter after my divorce, but I'm not...I still enjoy weddings especially for people I love. This episode I share with you the "Key" my grandmother (Beatrice) shared with me before she passed. It's something I never forgot and I wanted to share it here with you. And...well here goes, I talk about giving love another shot. Yea, you read right. But enough of that...you just need to listen to understand. I hope you enjoy and as always if you enjoy it and want someone to hear it please share it. Reviews, Comments, Follows and Subscribes help a lot so please do! Web: www.raymolina.com IG: @itsraymolina @theperfectmesspod FB: The Perfect Mess Podcast YT: The Perfect Mess Podcast Donate via Cashapp: (Click Here)
01:19:32
May 17, 2021
Ep. #34 - "Leaders Lead"
Often times we're going through so much of our own stuff we can't possibly see how we could be called to lead or help someone other than ourselves. But that is precisely the time to do it. Odd right? Yea, I know. But in the midst of our storms and struggles we have a story, lessons we are learning that we can pass along. And on the flip side, taking the focus off our issues and leading others through theirs has a very different effect than one would think. You typically find out you've worked through your own stuff simply by putting it aside and putting someone else in front of you. I hope you enjoy this episode...like always, Like, Comment, Rate, Subscribe, Follow & Share! Web: www.raymolina.com IG: @itsraymolina @theperfectmesspod FB: The Perfect Mess Podcast YT: The Perfect Mess Podcast Donate via Cashapp: (Click Here)
53:34
May 05, 2021
Ep. #33 - "Impeccable" - (on the go)
I was recently asked for book recommendations from a friend of mine and after talking a bit, I felt like "The Four Agreements" by Don Miguel Ruiz would be the best fit. While working out today, I started thinking about this book and one of the Agreements. That Agreement was "Be Impeccable with your Word". I thought back to being an 8-9 year old kid when twice that I can remember someone let me down and didn't keep their promise or commitment to me and how that affected me. Obviously more than I thought, after all I am pushing 47 this year and nearly 40 years later here I am podcasting about it. Anyway, I discuss this and how it is imperative that we do our best to keep our word and if we cannot to have a decent reason why we cannot. Communicating that is important. It's a brief "On The Go" episode so I hope you enjoy. Not in the studio on this one! Thanks for listening and please continue to share, like, review, comment & subscribe! Web: www.raymolina.com IG: @itsraymolina @theperfectmesspod FB: The Perfect Mess Podcast YT: The Perfect Mess Podcast Donate via Cashapp: (Click Here)
26:54
May 01, 2021
Ep. #32 - "New Love, Old Pain"
This episode is simple. I heard a phrase on a podcast I listen to called: The Sean & Sax Show and boy did it resonate. "I am not afraid of new love, I am afraid of old pain". Boom! Yes...that is what this episode is about as I talk about my personal struggles with that. Outside of that, I send condolences to Shock G's family (RIP), talk about a run in w/a podcast listener, sharing investment awareness w/others and how things get harder as you continue on your journey to changing the narrative of your life. I hope you enjoy...thanks for listening and please continue to Like, Review, Subscribe, Share & Follow! Web: www.raymolina.com IG: @itsraymolina @theperfectmesspod FB: The Perfect Mess Podcast YT: The Perfect Mess Podcast Donate via Cashapp: (Click Here)
50:58
April 25, 2021
Ep. #31 - In The Moment
I know. I know. It's been a minute. But, I am back with a full episode. We've got a lot to catch up on and this episode will do just that. I talk about the passing of DMX & Black Rob briefly. Also, on a lot...yes a lot of family stuff this episode. For instance, we went on a hike recently (my boys and I) and their Mom joined us...first time we've ever done that. Deep conversation about that. Not something you'd think would happen after a divorce...but it did. I also share with you our 3 year anniversary (my boys and I) of our baptism, our return to church and how that went. We also did a great road trip in yet another #MolinaBoysPlaycation lots to share with you all there! It was a great trip...Finally I wrap it up with some talk about investing and teaching my boys to do so as well and them making their first official investment into the crypto currency world! Yep, my kids officially own DOGECOIN! Yea, a lot...so let's dive in....I hope you enjoy. Please Like, Share, Review, Follow, Subscribe! Web: www.raymolina.com IG: @itsraymolina @theperfectmesspod FB: The Perfect Mess Podcast YT: The Perfect Mess Podcast Donate via Cashapp: (Click Here)
01:30:42
April 19, 2021
Ep. #30 - "Highlight Reel Isn't REAL"
We often fall victim to other people's "Highlight Reel" on social media, thinking life is super peachy for them. Then looking at our lives in disappointment because we aren't where we feel we should have been. I get it, trust me...I did the same thing. In this episode I share how I've learned to combat that a bit on the platforms I use...I hope you get a little something out of this one as well. And I briefly touch on how my co-parenting is going with my ex-wife (kids mother) these days and I think you'll be pleasantly surprised. Enjoy and thanks for listening...please share, follow, subscribe and leave a review! Web: www.raymolina.com IG: @itsraymolina @theperfectmesspod FB: The Perfect Mess Podcast YT: The Perfect Mess Podcast Donate via Cashapp: (Click Here)
47:33
March 25, 2021
Ep. #29 - "Keep It Simple"
Is your life complicated, stressful and cluttered like mine was 4 years ago? Do you spend all your money on buying things you really don't need or use? Or maybe you just can't seem to get yourself to get rid of things you really never let see the light of day? I have some tips for you that may help you de-clutter your life and simplify your bills and more. In this episode I tell you how Minimalism changed my life and helped me get a good grasp of my home and my finances. I hope this short episode helps you like it did me. Like always please like, share, review and subscribe if you enjoy the podcast. The book I discuss is Minimalism by Joshua Fields Millburn & Ryan Nicodemus also known as The Minimalists and here is the purchase link to that book. (Click Here) They also have a documentary on Netflix you should watch if you do not enjoy reading. (I did both) Web: www.raymolina.com IG: @itsraymolina @theperfectmesspod FB: The Perfect Mess Podcast YT: The Perfect Mess Podcast Donate via Cashapp: (Click Here)
32:06
March 15, 2021
Ep. #28 - "Step Aside, Let Him Work"
It's normal for things to get stressful and for us to at times lose our cool. But when it begins to happen more frequent and it starts to really mess with your peace and get you off course, it's a problem. Those are times I have to be reminded of what got me to where I am and that I am not the same man I was before. In fact, I am much different because I have made it my mission to be better and do better. Here's a little story from the other day where I had to step aside and be reminded. I hope it helps you too....Thank you! Website: www.raymolina.com (Merch, Blog & More) IG: @itsraymolina - @theperfectmesspod FB: The Perfect Mess Podcast YT: The Perfect Mess Podcast Donations Via Cashapp: $itsraymolina
25:38
March 01, 2021
Ep. #27 - Growth Often Means Outgrow
Usually when we begin to show some growth in our lives, its followed by outgrowing somethings or even someone. This is where I am at today and it's a lonely road. But, one that needs to be travelled if you are ever to truly become who you've always envisioned. To be honest, a lot of what I am experiencing now is long overdue. I feel like the milk has been sitting in my refrigerator for years and I just never threw it out. Well, I've got to it and its been a learning experience. I hope you enjoy this episode and like always, please share, like, follow, subscribe and leave a review for me. It's always appreciated. Thank you! Website: www.raymolina.com (Merch, Blog & More) IG: @itsraymolna - @theperfectmesspod FB: The Perfect Mess Podcast YT: The Perfect Mess Podcast Donations Via Cashapp: $itsraymolina
01:03:10
February 24, 2021
Ep.#26 - Rock Bottom
Often times we think we've hit rock bottom and think, well this ain't too bad...I can do this. Then, rock bottom actually hits and we're faced with a cross road of giving up or powering through. Last year when Covid hit, I was faced with a very tough situation that I thought for sure would break me. It didn't. It made me...this is my story. I promise, you will survive even your darkest time if you do not give up, keep your faith and continue to push forward. If this story speaks to you, please share with someone who needs the message. Thank you... Episode brought to you by: 3 Kings EP (purchase here) To Donate via Cashapp: $itsraymolina Website: www.raymolina.com (blog, merch & more) IG: @itsraymolina @theperfectmesspod YouTube: The Perfect Mess Podcast Facebook: The Perfect Mess Podcast
01:22:06
February 15, 2021
Ep# 25 - Struggle Conflict
Ever feared you'd lose your hunger? Your drive? The very thing that pushed you to change who you are because you have finally hit that turning point in your life where things seem to be getting better? Yea, I know...me too. That is where I am right now and to be quite honest, I am terrified. I am trying to make sure I remember what got tme here at the same time as I "let go" of the past. It's not an easy thing, but I discuss that here. I hope you enjoy and if it hits home or you feel someone should hear this, please share it! Thanks! Donate - CashApp: $itsraymolina IG: @itsraymolina IG: @theperfectmesspod WEB: www.raymolina.com (Merch and More) We're also on FB & Youtube.
01:01:37
January 23, 2021
Ep. #24 - Yea, Santa Is Still Real To Us...
I know as adults we are super jaded with the world especially today. So many people are deciding to stray from the old story we grew up on as kids with regards to Santa Claus and I am here to tell ya...I won't be one of them. I am allowing my kids to be kids for as long as I can. I know there will come a day when it no longer works, but parents; we only get them as babies and little kids for so long...don't you think we should embrace it and let their imagination fly? I do and I share that with you here...I hope you enjoy. IG: @itsraymolina IG: @theperfectmesspod WEB: www.raymolina.com
16:36
December 25, 2020
Ep. #23 - Music Story: Respect The Prince of The South
Well, after the Joe Rogan podcast recently with J.Prince...I was inspired to share my story of my encounter with the prince of the south and Rap-A-Lot some 15-16 years ago as I was on a promotional tour for a project I put out called "Filthy". My tour took me through beautiful Houston, TX which is a place that heavily influenced my musical upbringing. While out there I was filming for my dvd to be released with my next cd and attended a party for an artist I was a huge fan of and that is when I learned about J and the respect his name garners. I hope you enjoy.... IG: @itsraymolina IG: @theperfectmesspod Web: www.raymolina.com
29:47
December 25, 2020
Ep. #22 - Permission to Have a Moment
Holidays are tough already right? Having to do them in separate homes is even tougher. Add in a bit of them good old memories of when that wasn't a thing and you've got yourself a recipe for hard feelings. I had that very thing happen to me tonight and instead of running from it, I allowed myself permission to embrace it and have a moment. Then once I was done, I got back to the strong me I have become. I think we owe it to ourselves to allow these things but not to live there because they can be dangerous and take us down a path we've already been through. I hope you enjoy this episode and if it hits home, please share it with someone and leave a review. IG: @itsraymolina • @theperfectmesspod WEB: www.raymolina.com
23:26
December 21, 2020
Ep. #21 - The Introduction 2 (The @MolinaBoys)
Well, I hit the 20 episode mark and as promised I brought in my first guests. Who better to bring in than the two people I talk about the most; my children. So, today I invited my two sons; Jordan (11) & Jayden (9) to join me for a little one on one to introduce themselves and talk a bit. I hope you enjoy this episode as much as I did. It was very cool listening to them speak and to realize how much they have grown into great young boys. Makes me feel pretty damn proud. So, parents, soon to be parents or aspiring parents...I hope you enjoy this episode. As always, I would love to hear from all of you with feedback. Please continue to like, share, subscribe etc. Web: www.raymolina.com IG: @itsraymolina • @theperfectmesspod • @molinaboys FB: The Perfect Mess Podcast
59:01
December 17, 2020
Ep. #20 - It's A lot, But Do It Anyway...
There was a lot to catch up on for this episode...so please take it all in. Lot's to do with parenting, lessons I am sharing with you I am teaching them on down to dealing with folks who just can't understand your bond with your children and compare yours to theirs. It can get tricky. It's a lot being everything to your children including a provider..some excel some don't. Regardless, we must do the work anyway. I also dip into a small area of me and the new world of "potential" dating and my struggles with that. I hope you enjoy...Thanks for tuning in! Don't forget, NEW MERCH is available at http://www.raymolina.com IG: www.instagram.com/theperfectmesspod PERSONAL IG: www.instagram.com/itsraymolina FB: www.facebook.com/theperfectmesspod
01:36:45
December 12, 2020
Ep. #19 - It Starts w/You
I know there is a lot to be down for these days. It feels more divided than ever and we are all still stuck dealing with this pandemic. But, let me give you some very simple advice in this episode. You have the control to change your immediate surroundings and the way life is for you. Simple small gestures everyday can help turn things around, not only for you...but for those who witness them when they are done. Please listen and share if you feel someone needs to hear this. Thank you... IG: http://www.instagram.com/theperfectmesspod PERSONAL IG: http://www.instagram.com/itsraymolina FB: http://www.facebook.com/theperfectmesspod
24:16
November 14, 2020
Ep. #18 - Unified Division
This is the first episode I recorded on the go, I hope you enjoy it. Today is election day and with tensions being so high and division being at an all time I felt it was important to at least touch on something that hopefully will give you some food for thought going into tonight and moving forward. If you enjoy this episode and it hits home for you and you feel like someone should hear it, please share it via text message or on any of your social media platforms. Thanks again! Sponsor: Concrete Gainz - IG @concrete_gainz PERSONAL IG: http://www.instagram.com/itsraymolina FB: http://www.facebook.com/theperfectmesspod
29:25
November 03, 2020
Ep. #17 - Not Here, Not Now, Not Like This...
Energy hasn't been the greatest? Yea, mine either...and I am about to share with you why. It's very important that we clean our space (physically and socially) meaning online as well as in real life. Our energy is important. Life has been like trudging through mud the last few weeks, but I am getting through it. But, are we being honest? I hope so...because I almost didn't make it through and you'll find out why here.... The Perfect Mess.  Sponsor: Doterra Essential Oils - Deep Blue Rub • Grace Dancel (Rep) @gracefulpurpose - http://www.gracefulpurpose.com IG: http://www.instagram.com/theperfectmesspod   PERSONAL IG: http://www.instagram.com/itsraymolina  FB: http://www.facebook.com/theperfectmesspod   Patreon: http://www.patreon.com/theperfectmesspodcast
01:28:49
October 17, 2020
Ep. #16 - Meet You Halfway
This episode we catch up after my 46th Birthday, yes...I said 46th. We talk about life being 46 and the aches I am going through now during my 75Hard program. On top of that, I talk about the struggle of being your kids friend and father and teaching them the difference. I struggle and my heart gets to tugging at me when I have to discipline my kids, but I know the other side of that if I don't. I share a story that happened this past week where my youngest had a meltdown, said some things he regret immediately but had to learn a hard lesson. I share the details of teaching both my kids how to think down the line of being parents themselves and how they'd handle situations such as these? And, after the lesson...I meet my son halfway to end the day....put a smile on his face and tell him I am proud of him. I hope you enjoy another episode of my life... The Perfect Mess. IG: http://www.instagram.com/theperfectmesspod PERSONAL IG: http://www.instagram.com/itsraymolina FB: http://www.facebook.com/theperfectmesspod Patreon: http://www.patreon.com/theperfectmesspodcast
01:16:11
September 27, 2020
Ep. #15 - If It Doesn’t, It Should
It’s been interesting to see how divided Covid has all of us. As if we need one more thing to divide us these days. But it’s true and I’m not exempt from that at all. I’ve caught my own heat for my stance on it and we’ll discuss that here on episode 15. Here is my Instacart referral I spoke about: https://shoppers.instacart.com/?referral=RMJAB771B9&utm_medium=copy&utm_source=instacart_referral&utm_campaign=supply_referral  The Perfect Mess. IG: http://www.instagram.com/theperfectmesspod PERSONAL IG: http://www.instagram.com/itsraymolina FB: http://www.facebook.com/theperfectmesspod Patreon: http://www.patreon.com/theperfectmesspodcast
01:18:06
September 21, 2020
Ep. #14 - Do Hard Things
Today's episode is a short one, but it's simply about tackling the hard things in life, things we don't necessarily want to do and often avoid or put off for another time. It's difficult, it's hard convincing yourself to do them especially if they come with stress, pain, or heartache. But here's the thing...that's when we know we have to do them and do them first before anything else. Why? Because they aren't going to go anywhere until you face them. And in my own journey that I share here with all of you on The Perfect Mess, I have learned the only way to get better and grow is to do Hard Things. I hope this episode helps you do the same.  The Perfect Mess. IG: http://www.instagram.com/theperfectmesspod PERSONAL IG: http://www.instagram.com/itsraymolina FB: http://www.facebook.com/theperfectmesspod Patreon: http://www.patreon.com/theperfectmesspodcast
21:00
September 20, 2020
Ep. #13 - Better Together
In the spirit of 9/11, I touch on the memory and my trip to NYC 4-5 years after 9/11. I also discuss the feeling of the country after those events and how it brought us all together as one; as Americans...and how we could use that today in this current climate. Aside from that, I talk about Football's return, how sports is so different from the fans perspective. Also, we've had more fires to deal with, which led to some creative dad moves to keep my boys busy and active. Yes, they learned how to drive! WHAT?! Yes...tune in. I also talk about my current #75HARD journey and give tips on how to make yours a bit more tolerable should you choose to venture off into the world of #75HARD. Then finally, I talk about my 3 new book purchases and the one controversial author I chose to read about...tune in and find out who that might be???  The Perfect Mess. IG: http://www.instagram.com/theperfectmesspod PERSONAL IG: http://www.instagram.com/itsraymolina FB: http://www.facebook.com/theperfectmesspod Patreon: http://www.patreon.com/theperfectmesspodcast
01:21:50
September 11, 2020
Ep. #12 - Victimhood
I've sat and watched recently how a great majority of the world embraces being a victim. In fact people encourage those to use it as an excuse as to why life is so hard and why they are the way they are. You had no choice, look at where you came from...this is the hand you were dealt! WRONG! I don't buy into that, and neither should you. I am here to share 10 different stories of how people chose to not play the victim card (they rightfully could have) and chose to get busy living instead of getting busy dying. We all have excuses, some greater than others...but trust me when I say this; you will reach a point in life where you being the victim is a flat out CHOICE. I hope this episode sheds some light for you and you choose otherwise.  The Perfect Mess. IG: http://www.instagram.com/theperfectmesspod PERSONAL IG: http://www.instagram.com/itsraymolina FB: http://www.facebook.com/theperfectmesspod Patreon: http://www.patreon.com/theperfectmesspodcast
01:08:04
September 04, 2020
Ep. #11 - Compliments & Approach
I was given a compliment recently and was taken a back for a bit. Something like that hasn’t happened in so long and I had no idea how to respond. It got me thinking about a few things. 1.) why don’t women do that more often? 2.) how do we compliment and approach women these days without looking or sounding like a creep? So much to talk about and I would love to hear from you all. Here’s my IG’s: @theperfectmesspod @itsplayarae and don’t forget to subscribe, review and share! The Perfect Mess. IG: http://www.instagram.com/theperfectmesspod PERSONAL IG: http://www.instagram.com/itsraymolina FB: http://www.facebook.com/theperfectmesspod Patreon: http://www.patreon.com/theperfectmesspodcast
53:23
September 01, 2020
Ep. #10 - Fall In Line
This episode we open with a little of what I’ve been up to the last week and how some funny things happened with regards to my last podcast “Stand By Me”. Then we jump on in to “Fall In Line” which is a deep discussion on accepting people for their differences of opinion on life and all its different aspects. Learning that it’s ok to disagree and not feel the need to cancel someone or be angry and end a friendship or disown a family member. That having a “you’re either with us or your against us” mentality can in slot of ways hurt you in the long run. Please listen openly and I hope you enjoy. The Perfect Mess. IG: http://www.instagram.com/theperfectmesspod PERSONAL IG: http://www.instagram.com/itsraymolina FB: http://www.facebook.com/theperfectmesspod Patreon: http://www.patreon.com/theperfectmesspodcast
01:22:00
August 07, 2020
Ep. #9 - Stand By Me
It’s kind of amazing to realize that our kids these days don’t experience “outside” like we use to. From having friends knocking on our doors asking if we can come outside and play, to riding bikes miles and miles away from our homes with our friends just to “hang out”. Digital runs everything now and I’ve taken it upon myself to dig back into my childhood to share things with my kids to help them grow and experience life outside the confines of a computer screen. Stand By Me was a life changer for me as a kid and I’ll explain how it has a special place for my kids and I on this episode. Moms, Dads...if you’re trying to figure out how to keep the kids busy during this pandemic, this may help ya! Enjoy.... The Perfect Mess. IG: http://www.instagram.com/theperfectmesspod PERSONAL IG: http://www.instagram.com/itsraymolina FB: http://www.facebook.com/theperfectmesspod Patreon: http://www.patreon.com/theperfectmesspodcast
53:31
July 31, 2020
Ep. #8 - Don’t Lose You, While Looking for Love
In this episode it’s story time. Some of you may be in a situation right now where you are in love with someone and they are giving you every sign or telling you direct that they are not into you anymore or just aren’t feeling you anymore...and you keep trying; forcing in fact. When we do this we lose a small piece of ourselves each time. It’s important to love and respect ourselves more and to learn to leave and walk away knowing at some point we’ll be ok. I take you back to when I was 19 and had to learn that lesson for myself. Thank God I had good friends and a cousin who loved me enough to show me tough love. I hope you enjoy the episode and like always please share it and review it if you do. Thanks! The Perfect Mess. IG: http://www.instagram.com/theperfectmesspod PERSONAL IG: http://www.instagram.com/itsraymolina FB: http://www.facebook.com/theperfectmesspod Patreon: http://www.patreon.com/theperfectmesspodcast
38:40
July 27, 2020
Ep. #7 - 30 Day Recap & 200lb Dip!
In this episode we recap the last 30 days since the previous podcast. I discuss taking my kids to their first protest, my 1st & 2nd mtn. bike trip, crushing #75Hard, starting my own program #448Refined, books I’m reading and my first time under 200lbs in over 20 years! Here are some links to check out per the episode: http://www.andyfrisella.com (created of #75hard), http://www.lionsnotsheep.com (brand created by Sean Whalen and the hat I am wearing in the YouTube of this episode). My personal site is: http://www.raymolina.com for merchandise etc. The Perfect Mess. IG: http://www.instagram.com/theperfectmesspod PERSONAL IG: http://www.instagram.com/itsraymolina FB: http://www.facebook.com/theperfectmesspod Patreon: http://www.patreon.com/theperfectmesspodcast
01:09:18
July 17, 2020
Ep. #6 - What Is Learned Can Be Un-Learned
We are living in some unique times. Times when things we thought were done with are coming back to haunt us all. We went from a global pandemic over Covid-19 to protests and riots over police brutality and racial in-equality. Things have boiled over and as tempers rise we are having to process where we stand in all of this. It's taking a lot of reflection on ourselves, our families, our friends and our homes. Acknowledging that there are in fact problems there and that it is no longer acceptable to remain quiet about it. These times require us to realize things are learned and although it can be extremely hard, they can also be un-learned. If we are going to change things, it takes all of us to clean up our own homes first...then we can conquer the world. The Perfect Mess. IG: http://www.instagram.com/theperfectmesspod PERSONAL IG: http://www.instagram.com/itsraymolina FB: http://www.facebook.com/theperfectmesspod Patreon: http://www.patreon.com/theperfectmesspodcast
51:06
June 06, 2020
Ep. #5 - Fathering During A Crisis
Today, I had no plans to do an podcast. But, not only are we dealing with a pandemic and Covid-19 but we are now once again dealing with Police Brutality and Racial Tension. Our country is in bad shape right now and truth be told, being a Father trying to teach your children how to navigate through all of this is not an easy task. I went into tonights POD with no script, just turned the mic on and got to recording because of a conversation I had with my children today after home schooling. I hope this message helps some of you, and if it does...please share it with someone. Thank you  The Perfect Mess. IG: http://www.instagram.com/theperfectmesspod PERSONAL IG: http://www.instagram.com/itsraymolina FB: http://www.facebook.com/theperfectmesspod Patreon: http://www.patreon.com/theperfectmesspodcast
54:25
May 30, 2020
Ep. #4 - Alone, Not Lonely.
Learning to be alone and not be lonely is tough. Most people think being alone means you’re lonely and that can be true, but not in all cases. Your alone time should be cherished, it’s time to get to know yourself and what you expect out of life. Most of us had to hit rock bottom to learn how to be alone and not be lonely... The Perfect Mess. IG: http://www.instagram.com/theperfectmesspod PERSONAL IG: http://www.instagram.com/itsraymolina FB: http://www.facebook.com/theperfectmesspod Patreon: http://www.patreon.com/theperfectmesspodcast
51:52
May 09, 2020
Ep. #3 - Embracing Failure
I’ve spent a good portion of my life failing. But I’ve also spent a good portion learning from those failures. I’ve learned to overcome the obstacles in my own head and the fear of judgement for failing. And in turn, I’ve learned to use failure to catapult me to a more positive and fulfilling life. I wanted to share how I’ve done this and how you can too if you’re currently struggling with failure in your life. The Perfect Mess. IG: http://www.instagram.com/theperfectmesspod PERSONAL IG: http://www.instagram.com/itsraymolina FB: http://www.facebook.com/theperfectmesspod Patreon: http://www.patreon.com/theperfectmesspodcast
49:01
April 27, 2020
Ep. #2 - Roles & Crutches
Everyone plays a role in our lives. Some are for the good and some are for the bad. But ultimately, everyone has a roll. It’s up to us what we use the lessons for. Our past can be a crutch. One we lean on or pull out conveniently when things get hard for us in life. That can be detrimental to our present as well as our future. It’s up to us to identify it and make sure we put that crutch away and acknowledge that we have the power to change our circumstance and it starts with us. The Perfect Mess. IG: http://www.instagram.com/theperfectmesspod PERSONAL IG: http://www.instagram.com/itsraymolina FB: http://www.facebook.com/theperfectmesspod Patreon: http://www.patreon.com/theperfectmesspodcast
42:08
April 15, 2020
Ep #1 - The Introduction
This is the in depth introduction to myself, my life and how this podcast came to be. It’s long, but it had to be...there’s a lot to say so you fully understand the magnitude of what’s going here. So, grab a cup of coffee, some tea or some whiskey (my drink of choice) and find a quiet spot so you can soak all of this up. The Perfect Mess. IG: http://www.instagram.com/theperfectmesspod PERSONAL IG: http://www.instagram.com/itsraymolina FB: http://www.facebook.com/theperfectmesspod Patreon: http://www.patreon.com/theperfectmesspodcast
01:57:58
April 07, 2020