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Becoming Boundaried

Becoming Boundaried

By Master Life Coach-Krista Resnick

Welcome to Becoming Boundaried, the podcast that teaches you how to say YES to the space you need and the connection you crave.

Here’s the truth: You were created to live a purposeFULL life, But somewhere along the way, you got caught up in saying YES to everyone BUT you. The purpose and confidence you crave in life starts with mastering the art of boundaries and speaking your truth.

This show is all about learning to live free, speak your truth and enjoy the relationships around you. All of that comes from mastering the art of boundaries and speaking your truth.


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117: Boundaries & The Holidays
117: Boundaries & The Holidays
What do you want your holidays to look like, feel like this year? Ultimately how we do anything is how we do everything-so if you don't love how your holidays feel, we have to ask-"where else is that showing up in your life?"  Where have you given your power away and ultimately believe that you don't have choice. When we forget that we have the power of choice-we live our lives un-intentionally.  And days becomes weeks, weeks become years and years become our whole entire life!  I believe we've got to get serious about this!  So while this episode is using the holiday season as an opportunity to get clear on what actually matters to you, we can use what I'm sharing here and apply it to our entire life.   Are you choices of what you are giving your time, energy and resources to made consciously? When you say YES to something, is that actually what you want? When you say NO to something, it that actually what you want?  Are you giving your life force to things that make you feel alive?  This episode is one that you will want to come back to again and again as I am sharing basic principles and ideas about how to create a life by design.   We get caught up in believing it's the big flashy moments that we grow, but it's everything in between-it's the small daily choices, habits, decisions and conversations that produce the most fruit.   I too am reminding myself that much of what I (we) do is wildly unimportant.  Using our discernment to align to what makes us feel alive is powerful and places us right back at the helm of our leadership.   Listen to Learn: The 3 mindsets you need to ditch in order to empower yourself and feel alive this holiday season and beyond.  Two powerful questions you can sit with to create a holiday season that feels aligned for you.   "I was standing in the toy aisle at Target, crying, because ultimately I felt as if I didn't have the power of choice." ~Krista Resnick "We have to start getting serious about the fact that our entire life will pass us by if we are not intentional about it." ~Krista Resnick "We cannot do everything." ~Krista Resnick "Most people have this invisible obligation to things, situations, and people, pushing us to believe that ultimately, we don't have a choice." ~Krista Resnick LINKS MENTIONED Healthy Holidays Workshop Healthy Holidays Workbook REPLAY-Holiday Triggers & Trip Ups
42:29
November 23, 2022
116: Breaking the cycle of avoiding conflict with Katie
116: Breaking the cycle of avoiding conflict with Katie
What happens when you try to set a boundary with someone but old stories and programming are driving you to feel guilty and say yes. Guilt can be a helpful feeling when we have actually done something wrong.  It allows us the opportunity to re-route our behavior, clean up our mess, make amends and move on.  When looked at this way-guilt can be a beautiful feeling. However, guilt can often be used in an unhealthy manner.  Many times we want to be seen as a good person, so we use guilt to beat ourselves up-to make ourselves suffer for a choice we made so that we still can be seen as a good mom, good friend, good daughter, good wife. Today’s caller Katie has butted heads with her daughter since she was born.  When Katie and her ex divorced, she  admits she would give in to her daughter’s every whim in fear of losing her to her ex-husband. Katie is finding herself in a new season of life, excited about her future as she is soon to be an empty nester.  However, she is concerned that she will slip into old patterns with her daughter of over giving when it's not even necessarily asked.  Katie feels driven by guilt and old the programming that sounds like I will be a “bad mom” if I don’t chip in and help. Katie and I spend a lot of time unpacking how she feels in her body when she is triggered at the idea of setting a boundary with her daughter.  Setting boundaries is a lot more than saying NO.  For many of us who grew up with wounding around being seen and valued, we learned to give our power away to being in other people’s good graces.  The  thought that someone was upset with us, literally felt like death. So while I could give Katie every boundary script to advocate for her needs, the real work here is to get the body on board.  The real work in boundary setting is learning how to focus on boundaries from two perspectives: somatic (or physical, bodily) experiences and verbal (or spoken) boundaries. When we are dysregulated in our bodies, our boundaries will always be set from that place of scarcity, lack and limitation which is never good for us or for nurturing our relationships. Consider: Do you feel guilt or shame when asking for what you need? Are you always putting others first? Do you resent other people for crossing invisible lines you’re too scared to communicate? What sort of modeling did you see in regard to boundary setting when you were growing up? Does conflict scare you? Would you rather shove everything under the rug rather than deal with the issues at hand? Katie’s Question:My daughter is going through a divorce, and needs more financial and time support. And I'm afraid that I'm not going to be able to set clear boundaries with her about how much I can give. Listen to learn: How to tap into the wisdom of the body What it looks like to create a pause button before you acquiesce or potentially say yes to something that you’re not quite certain about. What it means to set boundaries from an empowered place How to stop avoiding conflict and speak up for yourself in a way that is still compassionate and kind Why conflict is a beautiful thing How you can move forward in your relationships if there has been a rupture “Boundaries require a level of somatic work.  Because when we know how to regulate ourselves, only then can we actually set a boundary  from our place of truth.” ~Krista Resnick “Conflict is an opportunity to call us forward and claim what matters to us.” ~Krista Resnick LINKS: HEALTHY HOLIDAY BOUNDARIES WORKSHOP
57:02
November 16, 2022
115: Getting your Needs Met this Holiday Season
115: Getting your Needs Met this Holiday Season
How do you feel about the holidays that seem to be approaching so quickly? I spent years like a mixed bag of emotions-excited for the nostalgia and memories to be made-yet immediate exhaustion and angst would quickly approach when I would think about everything that 'needed' to be done.   I said yes to every opportunity-striving and grasping for what I thought would make the holidays perfect.  Yet I left myself and my own personal well being out of the equation.  I was tired from showing up at gathering and parties that I only said yes to out of obligation, I was tired of feeling the pressure to make purchases for people that I barely knew, and I was exhausted from believing that in order to have a successful and magical holiday season everything has to be to the extreme.    Personal needs was a concept that I was unfamiliar with, yet it is one of the most basic and foundational aspects of our human experience.  And that's what today's episode is all about-needs.   I had needs of connection, to matter, to be seen and belonging-but how I was trying to fill those needs wasn't working.   Now I approach the holidays with a different perspective.  I choose to fill my own cup, ask for the support I need and prioritize what is essential and what might need to take a back seat.   Understanding your needs (especially around the holiday season when stress and overwhelm is high) is an essential understanding to your personal joy.    Listen to Learn:  Why human needs are universal.    The human needs we all share Personal client stories of 'ditching the idea of the most magical holiday ever" and stepping into more joy and ease.    The connection between feelings and needs  Why needs is a foundation concept to acknowledge in our personal relationships  How to create a bridge between you and your partner.   "What I want in my life is compassion, a flow between myself and others based on a mutual giving from the heart" ~Dr Marshall Rosenberg, Founder of Nonviolent Communication  "Our feelings and needs guide our behavior." ~Krista Resnick  "Human needs are universal." ~Krista Resnick  "Nonviolent communication allow us to connect with our own feelings and needs, and the feelings and needs of others. " ~Krista Resnick  "The invitation within non-violent communication is first connect with yourself so you understand your own feelings and needs before making requests of another." ~Krista Resnick  "When we blame, criticize, judge, or demean others, we're actually speaking violently.  We are shutting down the rich connection and nourishment that we crave." ~Krista Resnick  "When you aren't feeling the way you want to feel, ask yourself-what might be your unmet need?" ~Krista Resnick  LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE  Healthy Holidays Workshop  Episode #106: Dangerous Assumptions with Non-Violent Communication Trainer Kathy Ziola  Episode # 99: Non-Violent Communication with Marianne van Dijk
41:57
November 09, 2022
114:  Are you always thinking about helping others?
114: Are you always thinking about helping others?
Today I wanted to share with you all an email I received from a follower.   Beth wrote to me because she was so tired, overwhelmed and stressed from trying to hold so much on her plate.  She was struggling because she believed that there was literally no space for her.  However, while this may have felt true, it's often these paradigms that sound like...." I HAVE to give, serve, fix and manage," which are really keeping us stuck in overwhelm and anxiety.   Beth isn't alone in her question.  So many of us get our roles confused with our true identity.  We believe that we don't have value if we aren't fixing and managing.  We believe we don't matter if we aren't playing the role of good girl, peacekeeper and caretaker. Let me remind you that YOU are not your ROLE.  Your worth comes from you simply just being YOU.  I want to encourage you to let HER lead.  Who is HER?  Your core essence, your Soul, your highest Self, your favorite Self-whatever you want to call her.  It's that woman that we desire to BE.  However, if we keep believing that we are our role (s), we will never really be able to allow our highest Self to lead.  We will always be victim to the temptations of world and and who it says we need to be.   Boundary work is self worth worth-it's discovering who you really are in a world that often tells you who it thinks you SHOULD be.   Having CLEAR boundaries and standard protects who we say we are and who we are evolving into.   Boundary work is some of the most rich and nuanced work we can enter into.   Listen to this episode to discover: The problem with 'roles' What boundary work really is How we begin to heal from our roles and who we think we need to be. Before listening consider: Do you believe that it is your job to fix, manage and caretake everyone else? Do you often feel overwhelmed, over-worked and resentful in your relationships? Do you struggle with self worth? "Learning who we are BEYOND the roles we play is a beautiful and rich part of boundary work." ~Krista Resnick "God wants us to serve, give and connect with others.  We simply want to be able to draw the line for our own well-being.  We don't want to get swallowed up by the roles we play." ~Krista Resnick "We are so much more than any role we play." ~Krista Resnick LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE: Holiday Triggers & Trip Ups Apply for Stay True to You
20:12
November 02, 2022
113:  Creating a life that nourishes your mind, body and spirit with Ashley Holmes
113: Creating a life that nourishes your mind, body and spirit with Ashley Holmes
You all know I am a huge fan of nourishing yourself, practicing meditation and getting in tune with the body-today’s show is all about these things. You’re going to love this episode with Ashley  Holmes who is the CEO & Founder of Holistic Fertility Coach Inc. and international bestselling author. We talk about how to slow down, nourish yourself from the inside out and speak your truth. Ashley’s work focuses on women struggling with infertility by supporting them to conceive with ease using holistic practices. Her customized 1:1 program works with women’s cycles to give them the energy medicine they need to come back into balance and alignment. Living a life that nourishes your mind, body and spirit is at the heart and soul of the transformation you receive. Ashley is an expert on the platform ViBLY where you can participate in yoga classes, meditations and her coaching program. In this amazing episode-Ashley shares her personal and painful story of infertility and how her own personal  journey set her on a path of deep self discovery.  She unpacks for us what exactly chakras are and how to heal these beautiful energy centers. Our chakras impact everything in our life from how we feel on a daily basis to major medical issues. Listen to Learn: How to create a meditation practice that works for you The 7 Chakras How healing and working with your chakras can help you nourish yourself and speak your truth How to know when your chakras are out of balance One great way to nourish your solar plexus chakra-the seat of self love your truth How we can start to work with and heal our throat chakra Before listening to this episode, consider…. Do you struggle to speak your truth? Is nourishing yourself from the inside out a challenge for you? Are you someone who gives your power away easily to those you deem as having more power or knowledge than you? Have you struggled to create a consistent meditation practice, yet still wanting to give it a try? Are you struggling with infertility? Do you silence yourself?  Do you find yourself constantly self-censoring? “Meditation GIVES me time.  It doesn’t take time.” ~Ashley Holmes “When I feel better, my energy is better. And when I am in alignment and balance, then everything flows better. Instead of pushing, forcing, and creating restrictions and barriers it's a way to move and work with yourself instead of against yourself.” ~Ashley Holmes “Taking a conscious breath and bringing yourself into the present moment is not only helpful. But impactful. It's the one biological function that we often are not paying attention to that can impact us in a really profound way.” ~Ashley Holmes “We need to not be afraid to own our truth and speak our truth.  It matters that we do not hold our words and our power back. Because when we do….we are not honoring ourselves.” ~Ashley Holmes “Speaking your truth often will not be comfortable.” ~Krista Resnick “Vulnerability is strength”~ Krista Resnick “To be seen and heard is what we are all truly seeking.” ~Ashley Holmes Krista Resnick Holiday Triggers & Trip ups Website Ashley Holmes Website
01:01:38
October 26, 2022
112: How to set boundaries when friends and family don't like them with Jenel
112: How to set boundaries when friends and family don't like them with Jenel
This episode is about setting boundaries with friends when you are making a choice that they may not agree with.  Today’s caller Jenel grew up in a chaotic environment with a fair share of trauma.  She has such a high tolerance for toxicity and recently found herself in a relationship that carries out the same pattern from her childhood. It can be difficult to see the level of toxicity in a relationship when we have a high tolerance for abusive and unhealthy behavior.  Jenel learned that her job as a small child was to take responsibility by playing the role of counselor to her parents and trying to keep a level of peace within the home.  It makes sense that she would find herself straight in the eye of a similar relationship now as an adult.  We often seek out relationships in our adult life that feel similar to the unfinished business we had with a parent or parents.  Another way to say that is we seek out what often feels familiar. Jenel came into this session, not so much concerned with the issues in her relationship, but more concerned with how her friends and family will respond to her trying to make this relationship work.  Sometimes we confuse love with what feels familiar and call it safety.   We can also become easily confused and get caught up in the fantasy of what we want a relationship to look like.   However, her partner feels truly broken and craves change for HIMSELF-which is a great sign.  However, when there has been a history of trauma, it’s important to move slowly and tread lightly. Before listening to this episode consider: Do you always try to play the role of peacekeeper? Do you believe it is your job to fix other people’s problems? Do you find that you often walk on eggshells? Are you often the one in your relationships trying to keep the peace? Did you have a tumultuous childhood and are you repeating those patterns in your adult life? Do you crumble and fall apart when it’s time to set a boundary? Jenel’s Question: How do I set boundaries with friends and family members around this topic of getting back into a relationship that previously has been unhealthy? Boundaries will feel like death when your approval and safety has been built upon what other people think of you.  This is why nervous system regulation is essential when it comes to boundary setting.  Most of us know when we need to set a boundary.  However we don’t really know how to DO boundaries.  Nervous system regulation shows your system that you are safe in the present moment-allowing yourself to relax  and connect with your internal truth. Safety is your system’s top priority, therefore, anything that might threaten your safety (in this case, setting a boundary) is met with fear and activates your nervous system, triggering your self-protective mechanisms (fight/flight/freeze/fawn). Healing occurs when, in a state of regulation, we connect to our truth and learn to tolerate the discomfort of communicating our truth. The ability to complete on setting a boundary begins to reshape our nervous system to feel more safe the next time we set a boundary. “When you approve of you-you don’t put so much energy into what others think of you.” ~Krista Resnick “When you don’t have a caregiver or parent tending to your needs, you will seek outside of yourself to feel worth and enough.” ~Krista “We seek out that which often feels familiar.” ~Krista Resnick Krista Resnick-WEBSITE | INSTAGRAM | FACEBOOK
01:08:26
October 19, 2022
111:  Boundaries from a Nervous System Perspective with Lisa Dion
111: Boundaries from a Nervous System Perspective with Lisa Dion
Have you known that you needed to set a boundary and just struggled to do it? Do you sometimes beat yourself up for knowing that you need to say no but you find yourself once again subordinating and appeasing?   This episode is about understanding boundaries from an internal/nervous system perspective.   I believe that understanding the nervous system is essential in any sort of healing work.   When you begin to understand the nervous system, suddenly-everyone makes sense.  What's so awesome about that is we can begin to move through the world with more compassion-not only toward ourselves, but also toward others.   Author, therapist, and podcaster Lisa Dion joins me on the show today to dive into understanding what's happening internally when we are dysregulated.  This is essential to boundary work because if we don't know how to come back home to ourselves -we can't regulate and we can't set a boundary from an empowered place.  The alternative is setting boundaries from a place of control and fear which isn't helpful to deepening our relationships.   Lisa shares with us powerful yet simple practices to help us come back home to ourselves so we can speak our truth and not get swept away by our emotions.   Listen to Learn: Why boundaries are not rules What it means to stay connected to yourself Why calm and regulated are not the same things and what regulated actually means The #1 thing that must happen in order to speak your truth Why nervous system work is essential to boundary work What empathy can do for us in boundary setting "I can either stay connected to me-but that might mean I lose other. Or I can try to stay connected to other, which almost definitely means I'm going to lose me." -Lisa Dion "My own internal sense of okay-ness is not dependent upon whether or not someone likes me, or doesn't like me. Because in those moments, I'm putting my internal boundary in someone else's hands."-Lisa Dion "We don't know where the boundary is, unless we can feel where the boundary is. So if we're not in our bodies we aren't able to listen to the body cues and we're going to have a hard time listening to that moment where we are about to disconnect or lose ourselves." -Lisa Dion "When you are connected to yourself,  you have the opportunity play with and be more fluid with your boundaries." -Krista Resnick "If we're so used to rigid boundary setting, right or wrong boundary setting, or rule based boundary setting, you don't have to learn anything about your body in that. You just have to follow the script."- Lisa Dion "Boundary work is self discovery work.  It's doing that deep worth work to really fall in love with ourselves." -Krista Resnick LINKS Krista Resnick | WEBSITE | INSTAGRAM |FACEBOOK |  FACEBOOK COMMUNITY LISA DION | WEBSITE | SYNERGETIC PLAY THERAPY
01:00:58
October 12, 2022
110: Glimmers-How to come back home to yourself
110: Glimmers-How to come back home to yourself
Have you ever wondered why you sometimes react to situations the way that you do? Do you tend to lash out at those you love? Do you self-censor and try not to upset the apple cart? Do you bury yourself in work? Do you scrolling for hours on facebook and instagram? Or do you drown your feelings in a gallon of Cherry Garcia ice cream while watching re-runs of Grace and Frankie for an entire weekend? One of the things that we want to recognize, is that we all have circumstances or relationships in our life that cause us to be triggered.  Triggers cause us to move out of this state of that warm, present cozy, state of connection to ourselves and push us into our safety patterns such as fight, flight and freeze.   When we are triggered, we are in our survival brain-literally trying to survive whatever is happening outside of ourselves that we deem as potentially dangerous.  Our rational thinking brain is turned 'off line' making it really challenging for us to respond in a way that is connecting and healthy.  Often, we respond by shutting down, walking on egg shells, criticizing, demanding, or simply avoiding.   Triggers can actually be a beautiful thing-because they show us where some of our deepest work lies.  They can be a pretty awesome invitation to go inward and  heal old wounds, untrue thoughts and unmet needs.  The triggers you experience hold so much incredible feedback.  They're really your key to understanding your healing. In this episode I talk about understanding your triggers and your glimmers-those things that bring you back home to yourself.  I share with you plenty of ideas to get you started creating your own glimmer list, but I invite you to create your own so that you can learn exactly what glimmers or resources help you regulate your nervous system and come back home to you. Before listening consider: Do you snap easily at people? Do you find yourself sometimes questioning why you behave or react in the way that you do? Are you craving healthier more intimate connection with others? Do you often run from one activity to the next? Do you sometimes isolate for days or weeks? Do you sometimes feel resentful in your relationships? These can all be signs of triggers.  And while triggers are not fun-I can honestly say that they are a gift.   "Glimmers help you come back home to yourself.  They create a sense of safety and connection to yourself."~Krista Resnick "When we don't know how to move through conflict, and be in the discomfort of our dysregulation. It's almost impossible to have rich relationship." ~Krista Resnick "There's a lot of important information in our triggers, I want you to start thinking about triggers being your new invitation to go inward."~ Krista Resnick "The triggers you experience hold so much  feedback. They're really your key to understanding your healing."~Krista Resnick LINKS FROM EPISODE FAWN to FIERCE Krista Resnick
43:14
October 05, 2022
109: Boundaries in Entrepreneurship with Afton Brazzoni
109: Boundaries in Entrepreneurship with Afton Brazzoni
Afton Brazzoni is the founder of Scribe National, where she and her team have the pleasure of helping billion-dollar companies and solopreneurs alike with their marketing. After 10 years working in marketing and communications roles, Afton launched Scribe National in 2019. Since then, they've helped over 50 clients worldwide unleash their brilliance through the written word. Afton knows the struggle of boundaries in business.  She  considers herself  to be a  bit of a people pleaser -which is common for many of us-we want to be liked, we don’t necessarily want to upset anyone.  When Afton was building her business, there was a time period where she felt she needed to be  a bit more fluid with her boundaries.  However, she also understood what she was building and that she had no desire to make this a long term situation.  She believes that establishing boundaries with yourself, clients, and team members as well as  setting expectations and communicating those expectations are all essential skills that one must learn to really master entrepreneurship. Before listening to this episode consider.... Do you struggle with boundaries in your life and business? Do you believe that boundaries are selfish, mean and cold-hearted? Do you feel like something is ‘off’ if you don’t feel overwhelmed? Are you constantly filling your calendar space with busyness? Do you want your life to appear outwardly as if you’ve got it all together? At a certain point Afton said enough is enough!  She recognized that what she needed to do was  actually address boundaries in all areas of her  life. It wasn’t easy-and even a bit messy, but Afton mentioned in the interview how incredibly rewarding it was. I can attest that there hasn’t been too many things that have pushed my edges out quite like entrepreneurship (well, of course motherhood).  It can be easy to lose yourself in client demands, expectations and wanting to serve with a heart of excellence.  Its easy to sometimes blur boundary lines. At a certain point Afton said enough is enough!  She recognized that what she needed to do was  actually address boundaries in all areas of her  life. It wasn’t easy-and even a bit messy, but Afton mentioned in the interview how incredibly rewarding it was. Boundaries are one of the best things we can do to protect our peace, our energy, our lifeforce.  But you have to trust yourself in order to set them-if you’re solid in yourself-your boundaries become clear and honest. “Setting a boundary feels uncomfortable, but not setting one actually also causes a great deal of discomfort as well” ~  Afton Brazzoni “I don't believe that anybody is a people pleaser. I believe that there's a part of them that uses people pleasing as a protective strategy to feel approved of, to perhaps have some control so that they in essence, stay safe.” ~Krista Resnick “Boundary work is worth doing the work.” ~Afton Brazzoni “When you're doing boundary work what you're really doing is self worth work.  You're cleaning out patterns that look like people pleasing, codependency, subordinating, appeasing and placating So, when you begin healing  those things is when you can start standing in your truth and lead.” ~Krista Resnick “Appreciate yourself for doing the work.” ~Afton Brazzoni FAWN TO FIERCE AFTON BRAZZONI
52:55
September 28, 2022
108:  LIVE COACHING~Living your Truth with Laura
108: LIVE COACHING~Living your Truth with Laura
This live coaching session is about owning and expressing our truth.  Today's caller Laura, has an old childhood pattern coming up of 'going along to get along.'  Laura has a big decision to make and is really fearful of what other's may think of her choice and the potential impact it could have.  As you will hear in this show,  Laura refers to herself as an 'oops baby.'  The youngest of four siblings, Laura was constantly drug to her older sisters event and activities.  By the time Laura came along-her parents were tired.  She believed she was an inconvenience to her family and as a result she felt a lot of shame and as if she was a a burden to others.   Guilt and shame prevent us from being able to honor our truth, needs and feelings.  We wind up being in-authentic and hiding our truth, which can leave us feeling resentful.   Needs are not a weak thing to have.  But because Laura was so accustomed to playing small and not wanting to be a burden, it almost felt wrong for her to rise up and express what she needed.  Please hear me say...it is OK to choose something that may feel selfish but is self-honoring and in the best interest of those involved.   When it comes to relationships, it can be hard and messy to not let guilt get involved when it comes to our decision making.  Most of us don't like that thought of hurting those we care about but when we allow guilt and obligation to make our decisions for us-we aren't making choices that in the highest good of everyone involved.  Our needs extend much beyond things like survival.  We need human connection, adventure, play just to name a few.  It doesn't make you weak to have these needs.  It makes you human.  Part of Laura's work will be to acknowledge and express her needs.  It doesn't make her wrong-it doesn't even mean that the other person will agree to her needs, but owning and acknowledging what it is that we need is our truth.  And our truth cannot be denied.   Consider: Do you struggle to know what you want and need? Is asking for help a challenge for you? Do you dim your light or play small to make it more convenient for others. Does your mind spin out in what if’s? Do you overtake responsibility for other people and their happiness? Do you treat people like they are fragile? Where are you going along to get along? Laura's question :  Laura is faced with a decision to relocate but at the cost of not being near her mother which she has spent the past two years building a beautiful and healthy relationship with.  She feels selfish for wanting this, she feels guilty for taking her son far from her mother. Laura's a-ha's: Being authentically who I am is not doing anything wrong The difference between a healthy responsibility VS and OVER-TAKING of responsibility. When my mind spins out in what if's answer them It's not her responsibility to manage other people's feelings.   Where in your life are you not expressing yourself?  Where do you feel selfish for simply having a human need?  Look at where certain needs in your life aren't being met and make yourself accountable for having a clarifying conversation LINKS FROM EPISODE: From Fawn to Fierce
01:09:08
September 21, 2022
107: The Sacred Work of Boundaries ( & saying YES to YOU)!
107: The Sacred Work of Boundaries ( & saying YES to YOU)!
This time of year always brings up such conflicting feelings for me. There is the part of me that much like the leaves dying and falling from the trees, longs to surrender and let go of old patterns, behaviors and habits that are no longer serving me. And then, there are the parts of me that want to dive into the harvest and move quickly.  To say YES to opportunities and experiences, and give and serve.   What I have learned about boundary work is that it is deeply sacred.  It is the art of learning how to truly say YES to yourself.  Many of us were raised believing that boundaries and saying yes to yourself was selfish.  I'm here to say that it's not.  While I know this can rattle a lot of feathers and kick up a lot of dust, it is truth that you were made to claim the life that God has for you and it begins by paying attention to the parts of yourself that are worn out, exhausted, overwhelmed and resentful.   Fall is a perfect reminder that it is good and healthy to let go of meeting the constant demands and requests of others and slowly and gently begin to place the focus on ourselves and our needs, dreams, desires and wishes.  Yes we were made to be in community and connection with others, which does present the confusion around how do I know when I've gone too far?  But it is when we start asking that very question-how do I know that i've gone too far, that we've probably gone too far.  Shame is often what drives us to put our feet on the gas pedal and keep going, placate, subordinate and people please.   But before the world dumped it's shame on you-God said you were good.  He said you were designed in HIS image.  You are not broken, you are HIS and HE SAYS you are GOOD.  You are worth your best yes!   Listen to Learn: Why boundary work is sacred work Why saying NO isn't always the way to set boundaries Some powerful questions you can ask yourself to get clarity in this season of life.  One of the beliefs that holds so many women back from saying YES to themselves and setting healthy boundaries. "Saying yes to yourself is just as important to saying yes to everyone around you." ~Krista Resnick "Saying yes to your own needs, desires, and ambitions is not selfish." ~Krista Resnick "Boundary work is sacred work because we are saying yes to the deep desires of our heart."  ~Krista Resnick "Saying yes to yourself is about staying connected to yourself." ~Krista Resnick "Boundary work is not always about saying NO.  Often it is about what we are saying YES to.  It's about getting clear on saying yes to our values, our truth and our needs." ~Krista Resnick LINKS FROM THE EPISODE Free to Be Workshop Krista Resnick-Website
32:46
September 14, 2022
106 Dangerous Assumptions with Kathy Ziola
106 Dangerous Assumptions with Kathy Ziola
Have you even been involved in a conversation where you walked away feeling more disconnected than when you started? Have you been a part of a conversation where you felt as if your needs and feelings didn't matter? If so, there is hope.  Non-violent communication takes all the mystery out of HOW to have difficult conversations and gives you some tangible tools to put to use.  Non-violent communication allows us to determine what is going on within us and what might be alive in another person so we can determine how can we share that in a way that we want to give and receive from one another. Today's guest, Kathy Ziola has presented training events and retreats in Nonviolent Communication (NVC), relationships, healing, personal growth, and stress management over the past forty years. She has been teaching NVC since 2005, certified in 2009.  Kathy introduces us to something called Dangerous Assumptions which are thoughts and interpretations that we think are true.  When we are so convinced we are right-it gives no choice but to assume the other person is 'wrong.'  This type of thinking and communicating only sets us up for failure.  It disconnects us from others Listen to Learn: What assumptions are and WHY they are dangerous to our relationships. How we set ourselves up for conflict without even realizing it. The Four Key Assumptions that keep us trapped in conflict and disconnection How to communicate with truth and honestly, while still hearing the other person and acknowledging their needs simultaneously.   How we shift these assumptions to communicate in a way that is clear and honest.  I am so passionate about healthy communication.  When we can understand that we all have universal needs and that at the crux-everyone is simply trying to get their needs met, it opens us up to a compassion and gentleness that sometimes can be hard to reach, because of all our assumptions. You will love this episode as Kathy's passion to support others in creating relationships and systems that thrive through living with compassion, empathy, honesty and authentic presence is so prevalent.   “I like to think of  NVC is a tool that helps us create safety in our relationships.“ ~Krista Resnick “In NVC, we can express and share our deep needs and do that in ways that will pull out from other people their natural desire to give.” ~Kathy Ziola “Assumptions are thoughts and interpretations that we think are true.“~ Kathy Ziola “The dangerous thing about assumptions is that we believe they are truth…” ~Kathy Ziola “When we make assumptions, we are asking for problems.”~ Kathy Ziola "What does it mean about me if I wasn’t right?  What would it mean about me if I were?  What am I actually attached to here?" ~ Kathy Ziola “When you aren’t living your truth, being authentic-your relationship can only go so deep.” ~ Krista Resnick “Needs are qualities of life that feed us-they are universal.  Needs are what motivate people.” ~Kathy Ziola Krista Resnick-Website Free to Be Workshop Kathy Ziola-Website
01:13:58
September 07, 2022
105: The Fawn Response-The Real Reason Behind People Pleasing Behavior
105: The Fawn Response-The Real Reason Behind People Pleasing Behavior
When there is any level of conflict in your relationships, what is your reaction?  Do you try to quickly make the situation okay, do you please others by placating and stepping over your own boundary lines?  Do you find that you walk on egg shells in certain relationships?  Do you have a hard time knowing and expressing what you need? When I first started doing this work,  I noticed that I could have every boundary script ready to go, but still fail to set the boundary.  I began to piece together that certain people triggered me in a way  where I suddenly found myself trading in what I stood for because I was scared to share my truth.   I self censored when I wanted to express myself and even though I was practicing  my affirmations, I continued to give my power away to those that I thought were more experienced and smarter than me.  I came to the conclusion that boundaries were much more nuanced and complicated than saying no.   Conceptually, I understood boundaries, but I knew there was a missing piece.  What I discovered through my own personal  journey, research and work is that healing people pleasing and codependency are a lot deeper and more complex than “just say no and set a boundary.”  You might be familiar with flight, fight and freeze trauma responses, but there is an additional trauma response that doesn’t get as much publicity.  That response is called FAWN and it’s often the root of what people pleasing and codependency are  all about.   And  believe that if you really want to heal your boundaries,  we have to go to the root.   LISTEN TO LEARN What the fawning pattern is Why the fawning pattern is KEY to healing boundaries Symptoms of the fawning pattern How the fawning pattern might be showing up in your life Tools to help you stop fawning and start living FREE Understanding this stress response, changed my life.  Once I figured out that I was having a stress response, I could start showing compassion for myself and begin to do the deeper work of healing this pattern.   "When conflict arose, I went into my people pleasing strategy.  I acquiesced, I traded in my values for the sake of someone else’s and I often tripped over my own personal boundary for the sake of another’s approval."~Krista Resnick "If you  want to heal your boundaries,  you have to go to the root."~Krista Resnick "People pleasers and codependents despise conflict." ~ Krista Resnick "Fawning strategies at the root, are nervous attempts to deflect attention." ~Krista Resnick LINKS Free to BE Workshop Krista Resnick-Website Instagram Facebook Facebook Community
39:08
August 31, 2022
104: Summer Series-Walking through Anger with Dr. Christian Conte
104: Summer Series-Walking through Anger with Dr. Christian Conte
I love all things emotions but it wasn't always that way.  I used to be so cut off from feeling my feelings and anger was especially hard for me access.  I deemed it wrong, hurtful, extreme and ugly.  Today, I love anger because I understand that this powerful emotion is simply feedback.  It is information that I can use and work through to process pain, shame, or a boundary violation.   Emotions can feel so uncomfortable because of how they modeled for us or because we simply don't know how to sit with the discomfort of our emotions. These simply aren't things we are taught as children.  Our guest today, Dr. Christian Conte, is one of the world's leading experts on emotions and anger management.  Dr. Conte has worked with some of the world's most violent criminals, MMA fighters as well as top athletes and some of the toughest people in maximum security prisons to help them integrate  their emotions, specifically their anger.   In this episode Dr. Conte walks us through a bit of his work called "Yield Theory" and helps us learn how to manage our emotions (as well as explaining what it even means to manage your emotions).   LISTEN TO LEARN: The skill one must master in order to really build amazing relationships with others. How to begin moving away from judgment and become more accepting of others. How to manage your emotions.   The number one tool you can use today to start de-escalating YOURSELf and others. The two key pieces you need to implement when it comes to listening What empathy actually is and why it matters so much in our relationships. How to begin feeling our anger if we are terrified of it. What to do if you are really stuck in an emotion. Anger can be healthy or unhealthy.  We all feel it, we all experience it.  But one thing is certain-we cannot simply allow it to run rampant in our lives and it is dangerous to suppress it on the other extreme.  So how do we work with our anger?  Listen to this episode with Dr. Conte to find out. “There are two kinds of people in the world.  People with issues and dead people.” Dr. Christian Conte “I saw a need for people to master their emotions.”  Dr. Christian Conte “Knowing a concept doesn’t mean you're working on a concept.”  Dr. Christian Conte “People see your actions, NOT your intentions.” Christian Conte “We minimize the pain we cause others and we amplify the pain they cause us.”  Dr. Christian Conte “Be accurate in your language.” Dr. Christian Conte “At some point you have to sit in the discomfort and understand that others are stuck in their own stuff and it doesn’t have to mean anything about you. “ Krista Resnick LINKS & RESOURCES Dr. Christian Conte - YOUTUBE | WEBSITE | FACEBOOK | BOOK  Krista Resnick -WEBSITE | INSTAGRAM | FACEBOOK | FACEBOOK COMMUNITY
01:09:57
August 24, 2022
103: Exploring Emotional Addiction (and 6 ways to begin healing from it)
103: Exploring Emotional Addiction (and 6 ways to begin healing from it)
Have you ever wondered, why do I feel the way I do?  Why am I always so tired, so angry, so resentful?  Why do I feel guilty about everything?  Why can’t I just be more confident and have better self-esteem?  Why are my relationships so toxic?  Why do I struggle to get anything done?  Why do I never just feel good enough? Codependency is based in and LOVES fear.   Along with that fear comes a lack of self love.  The feelings that come along with codependency can become addictive-YES we actually can become addicted to feeling the constant states of overwhelm, resentment, anxiety and lack.  Our cells literally get used to feeling this lack of self love. When we feel this emotion, there’s a cellular change in the body. Neurotransmitters are released and the physiology of the body shifts. As our physiology shifts, the neural pathways in the brain fire and wire in response.  Feeling and reacting habitually strengthens neural pathways which will make us subconsciously seek the same emotion. So our body becomes dependent on our own chemical responses.  Yes even if the emotion makes us miserable, the rush of neurotransmitters are a reward. In this episode I dive deep into bridging the gap between codependency and emotional addiction and provide 6 ways to help you feel from the same old miserable emotions that keep you stuck with the same old results.   Listen to Learn: What codependency is The connection between codependency and emotional addiction What emotional addiction actually is Why you might be engaging in the same patterns and habits that get you the same results Why you feel stuck How codependent patterns and behaviors can look like in our life 6 tools to help you overcome emotional addiction "Few people understand the chemical cocktail of human emotion." ~Krista Resnick Codependency loves fear and when we get scared, the rational thinking part of the brain, becomes overwhelmed and shuts down." ~Krista Resnick "Codependency is this form of addiction because your cells literally get used to feeling a lack of self love." ~Krista Resnick   "With emotional addiction we are living and breathing the emotional experience so closely it literally is beyond our scope of awareness-we don't even recognize we are addicted." ~Krista Resnick "In order to break emotional addiction you have to become conscious to your own patterns-patterns that look like perfectionism, people pleasing, self censoring, overthinking and overworking." ~Krista Resnick LINKS Krista Resnick -WEBSITE- INSTAGRAM -FACEBOOK- FACEBOOK COMMUNITY- 3 WAYS TO CULTIVATE SELF-TRUST EPISODE
01:02:57
August 17, 2022
102:  How to Cultivate Self Trust
102: How to Cultivate Self Trust
Do you struggle to make a decision?  Are you terrified that you are going to choose the wrong thing or upset someone if they don't agree with your choice? Do you live life by an opinion poll, always collecting and taking note of what other people need and want? Oh man do I know this pattern WELL.  One of the ways codependency manifested for me was my inability to trust myself.  As annoying as it was, for me and for everyone around me, I couldn’t seem to stand firm in my decisions.  I longed to be more confident and stand firm in my decisions, but couldn’t understand why it was so hard for me. Does that resonate with you too? If so, this episode provides you with  3 ways to begin to trust yourself.   Listen to Learn: Where codependency begins Why making decisions might be so hard for you Why codependency isn't your fault How to reparent yourself and what reparenting actually is How to show yourself a bit of self love on the daily How to get to know yourself "One of the best ways to begin to build self trust and heal from codependency is to begin feeling your feelings once again."~Krista Resnick "When you’re reliant on other people’s opinions and guidance, you’re much like a feather in the wind-susceptible to any small or big gust that comes along.  You aren’t in control of your life and you give others way too much power over how you feel." ~Krista Resnick "Feelings and emotions were not welcome in my world, so my only way through was to disconnect from feeling at all." ~Krista Resnick "If you experienced any amount of neglect, or had emotionally unavailable parents you may have learned to suppress your feelings in order to survive." ~Krista Resnick LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE Coming Home to You Workshop Krista Resnick-WEBSITE | INSTAGRAM | FACEBOOK  FACING CODEPENDENCE by Pia Mellody
40:07
August 10, 2022
101: REAL Self Love with Dr. Andrea Pennington
101: REAL Self Love with Dr. Andrea Pennington
If you struggle with perfectionism, striving, hustle and believing that if you just achieved X,Y or Z then you would feel happy, this is ONE EPISODE YOU DON'T WANT TO MISS! Today's guest, Dr. Andrea Pennington has been a sought-after media personality for over twenty years, She has shared her empowering wellness advice on the Oprah Winfrey Show,  the Dr. Oz Show, CNN, the Today Show, and as a news anchor for Discovery Health Channel. She is also a featured teacher on the Insight Timer app. Dr. Andrea is also leader of The #RealSelfLove Movement, a comprehensive online community offering free resources designed to empower you to heal the inner child, reprogram your subconscious mind, transform from victim to hero and rewrite your life story. Dr. Andrea brings her unique nerdy blend of medical science, positive psychology and mindfulness meditation to empower you to show up authentically, love passionately and live orgasmically. She facilitates a variety of workshops around the world which promote holistic healing, resilience, trauma recovery and self-love using trauma-informed positive psychology. In this episode we go deep into Dr. Andrea's 5 step REAL selflove process and she shares candidly about her own healing journey and what she had to go through in order to start loving the woman in the mirror.   This work can often feel heavy, as so much of it is about grieving the childhood's many of us never got to have.  Our parents are not perfect. They often wound us.  And that can be a hard notion to accept because what happens when we are faced with that truth?  Dr. Andrea shares with us some insightful tips to navigate the grief that often arises as a result of our relationship with our parents.   Listen to Learn: The definition of REAL self love Some of the best boundaries you can set for yourself while working on your self love The five steps to REAL self love The difference between spiritual bypassing (toxic positivity) and allowing ourselves to ride the wave of a feeling How to not get swept away by your emotions AND SO MUCH MORE..... “Lack of self love is what drove my perfectionism and compulsive need to prove myself.” ~Andrea Pennington “Even when I had the big successful career, the car, the expense account and the fame, I was still feeling inadequate.” ~Andrea Pennington “I had a fundamental belief that I am not worthy of love or attention unless I’m doing, performing or achieving.” ~Andrea Pennington LINKS: COMING HOME TO YOU WORKSHOP Dr. Andrea Pennington-WEBSITE Real Self Love How to escape victim mentality Instagram 3 Keys to Become the Hero in Your Life Guided Meditation Series
01:09:32
August 03, 2022
100: Summer Series-Codependency & Anger with Michelle Farris
100: Summer Series-Codependency & Anger with Michelle Farris
Does this sound familiar? Your relationships are not where you want them to be?  You're saying yes a lot to things you don’t really want to do? You feel resentful a lot of the time You find yourself irritated, frustrated and impatient often? There could be a chance that you have suppressed your anger and it's leaking out which slowly erodes our happiness our authentic expression and our joy.   On the show today, I have anger management specialist and psychotherapist Michelle Farris explaining the connection between codependency and anger. Michelle was a former pro at stuffing her anger.  Through examining her own relationships, she noticed that she wasn't being fully honest-she was stuffing her truth and not sharing the things that hurt her.  She became aware that  eventually old resentments and hurts would leak out  only causing more damage to the relationship.   Now Michelle helps others to move through anger and heal codependency so they can create healthy relationships without sacrificing their big hearts. Listen to Learn: What codependency looks like How we identify who is a safe person for us to express and have honest relationships with How we build the internal alarm bells that this might not be a safe person. How codependency begins Why anger is deemed as such a taboo, negative emotion What happens if we don’t deal with our anger Tips for beginning to access and release our anger “When you grow up with someone who rages, you typically don’t see anger as healthy-you see it as full blown rage.”~Michelle Farris “Stuffing was making me dishonest in my relationships.”~Michelle Farris “Boundaries are about being honest.” ~Krista Resnick “Boundaries are what I choose to participate in and when I choose to leave.” ~Michelle Farris “If I don’t claim the part of me that is codependent I miss the whole side of me that needs healing.” ~Michelle Farris "Lack of self trust is a major component of codependency-it’s what sets us up to see other people as our answer.”  ~ Michelle Farris “Just because something’s normal, doesn’t mean it’s healthy.” ~Krista Resnick LINKS:  Krista Resnick  Website  INSTAGRAM COMING HOME TO YOU WORKSHOP Michelle Farris Website | Instagram | YouTube | Linkedin Calming Your Anger Zoom Class 5 Day Email Course on Anger
56:10
July 27, 2022
99: Non-Violent Communication with Marianne van Dijk
99: Non-Violent Communication with Marianne van Dijk
Do you struggle to communicate with others in a way that you feel seen and heard?  Or perhaps you find that you get stuck in conflict, often going round and round the same issue time and time again.  Maybe you even put off having conversations that you know need to be had in order to keep the peace and eliminate tension. Today's episode is dedicated to learning how to speak in a way that is more connective, compassionate and honest (while still getting your needs met).   Communication is hard-most of us were not taught how to properly taught to resolve conflict, share our feelings and ask for what we need.  Conversely, what comes natural to most of us is criticism, defensiveness, judgment and demands.  This sets us up for a major communication fail and lots of hurt, arguing and frustration. Today's guest, Marianne van Dijk is a nonviolent communication trainer and a conflict mediator. Through her work, Marianne guides people to be more true to themselves and work through potential conflict arising from that.  Marianne shares her story of burnout, unhappiness and the inability to stand up for herself.  When she was introduced to NVC, it changed her life.  NVC was the missing link to help her express herself in a way that helps her get her needs met WHILE connecting with the other person. Maybe you too have read all the communication and confidence books but you still don’t know how to DO boundaries. NVC is a beautiful tool that helps us DO differently. Listen to learn: What causes so much disconnection and conflict in relationships. The gamechanger to being able to effectively communicate and connect with someone. The ways in which we speak that are extraordinarily violent The four exact steps of NVC A demonstration using my own personal example of how NVC works “Our need for choice is everything.”  Marianne Van Dijk “Before nonviolent communication, I had no idea what was going on with me.  I carried so many have to’s which was so draining to my energy.“ Marianne van Dijk “When you approach conflict with connection in mind, that’s the game changer.”  Krista Resnick “Violent communication is all the ways we speak that are disconnecting.  It’s the should’s, the have to's, the comparison’s, the analyzing.” Marianne van Dijk Links from episode: KRISTA RESNICK WEBSITE COMING HOME TO YOU WORKSHOP MARIANNE van DIJK NON-VIOLENT COMMUNICATION BOOK
01:16:58
July 20, 2022
98: People pleasing & kind are not the same
98: People pleasing & kind are not the same
I believe that everyone has an inner leader-that place within that is connected, curious, confident, creative and wise.  However, when we are blocked by old stories and childhood conditioning we stop ourselves from standing at the helm of our leadership and allowing our inner leader to LEAD.  One of the common ways we block ourselves from activating our inner leader is people pleasing. What I have found however, is that many people don’t always understand what people pleasing is.  Yes we want to be kind.  Yes we want to support others, but people pleasing and kind simply are not the same. People pleasing is one of the key traits of the survival response, fawning.  In a nutshell, “fawning” is the use of people-pleasing to diffuse conflict, feel more secure in relationships, and earn the approval of others. And when we live our life focused on and dancing to appease OTHERS, we lose ourselves. In this episode, I  unpack what some of the fawning traits are as well as ‘types’ of fawners so you might be able to recognize it in yourself. If you find yourself fawning, don't worry and please don't beat yourself up. You are not alone and this is a common response to complex trauma. You didn't do anything wrong, you're not bad or silly or dumb for developing this response. You started fawning as a way to cope with a very unstable situation. You did what you needed to do to cope. And now that you know what you're doing, you can start making choices that will help you feel better. Boundaries are a beautiful way to begin healing from the fawn response-I would love for you to join me at The BUILD BETTER BOUNDARIES workshop happening July 18th LINKS FROM EPISODE BUILD BETTER BOUNDARIES EPISODE 62: Let's talk about trauma EPISODE 63: What trauma actually is INSTAGRAM FACEBOOK JOIN THE EMPOWERED BOUNDARIES FACEBOOK COMMUNITY
43:30
July 13, 2022
97.  Narcissism, Codependency & Self Love Deficit Disorder with Ross Rosenberg
97. Narcissism, Codependency & Self Love Deficit Disorder with Ross Rosenberg
Today on the show, Ross Rosenberg joins us to talk about narcissism and codependence. The concepts are tied so deeply together and in this episode you will begin to understand why.  Ross spends much of his work helping others understand the term codependency at much deeper level by sharing his concept of what he has coined “self-love deficit disorder.”  Ross explains the “dance” of codependency and narcissism, exploring how codependency often forms from narcissistic abuse in childhood and why codependents and narcissists are like magnets for each other. We tend to be attracted to what feels familiar to us, which is why codependents often experience such an intense chemistry with a narcissistic partner.  Eventually however, the codependents awakes from their slumber and discovers that his or her “soulmate” has become their “cellmate.”  It’s not until we learn to fill our own self-love tanks (as I like to say),  that we can break the cycle of abuse and start forming relationships with partners who love and respect our whole selves. Ross Rosenberg is the CEO and primary contributor of Self-Love Recovery Institute. He's an expert psychotherapist, educator, best-selling author, and expert witness. In addition, he's a global thought leader and renowned expert in codependency, trauma, pathological narcissism, and addictions. His pioneering codependency, narcissistic abuse, and trauma contributions are responsible for much-needed theoretical and treatment-specific updates. Exemplifying his global impact are his 22 million video views/240K subscriber YouTube channel and his 150 copies sold/12 languages Human Magnet Syndrome book. Listen to discover: Why narcissism and codependency go hand in hand Attachment wounds and the origins of codependency What codependency actually is Setting boundaries with a narcissist (and why it often doesn’t work) “Codependency is a unequal distribution of LOVE, CARE and RESPECT”-Ross Rosenberg “All codependents has a severe deficit of self love.”-Ross Rosenberg “Codependents always fall in love with narcissists because of chemistry.” -Ross Rosenberg LINKS FROM THE SHOW: BUILD BETTER BOUNDARIES KRISTA RESNICK INSTAGRAM EMPOWERED BOUNDARIES FACEBOOK COMMUNITY FACEBOOK ROSS ROSENBERG ROSS ROSENBERG YOU TUBE THE HUMAN MAGNET SYNDROME BOOK
01:07:07
July 06, 2022
96. Boundaries Meditation
96. Boundaries Meditation
Boundaries can be so challenging for many of us.  This meditation will help you remember who you are, regain your inner strength and to own your space.  This meditation will help you teach others how you would like to be treated.  ENJOY!!! LINKS: BUILD BETTER BOUNDARIES WORKSHOP STAY CONNECTED: INSTAGRAM EMPOWERED BOUNDARIES FACEBOOK COMMUNITY FACEBOOK
17:09
June 29, 2022
95: Summer Series-Befriending your Anger with Anchen Texter
95: Summer Series-Befriending your Anger with Anchen Texter
We have been conditioned to believe that anger is a negative emotion-especially for us women who have learned to be 'nice."  However, in today's episode, I want to help you understand that anger is a survival mechanism, rooted in passion. If you have a strong desire needing to be expressed that is thwarted, you will have anger.  Just think about the messaging we receive as children around our emotions: Don’t cry. Don’t be scared. Don’t be angry-it doesn’t look good on you. Smile, it makes you look better… But anger is about understanding what is important to you.  It's about identifying what your values are  What you stand up for.  What the essential aspects of your life are that you hold dear to your heart. My guest today Anchen Texter is a licensed Dynamic Emotional Integration® Trainer and Consultant and instructor at Empathy Academy. She specializes in teaching about anger and boundaries, emotion-regulation, and self-care and preventing empathic burnout. She's the author of five courses; Befriending Anger, Befriending Sadness, Befriending Shame, and Befriending Fear, and the workshop Awakening to Your Emotions. Anchen teaches us in this episode that emotions are at the core of who we are and how we operate. She explains that when you know what you're feeling, then you have a whole lot more power in your life to decide how to act, what kind of relationships you want to have, where you want to spend your time, and the kind of memories you will create. Emotions literally affect everything. When you can listen to what your emotions are telling you, then you are making your emotions into your allies. "Emotions have important messages for you.   You can trust them."~Anchen Texter "Everyday is a huge options of choices, and all of those choices are based on your values.  When you know your values and what matters to you, life becomes a lot easier." ~Anchen Texter "Your emotions are there to support you in being who you are." ~Anchen Texter "Conflict is feedback and it can be a beautiful gift to bring us closer together."~Krista Resnick "Boundaries are about going within, feeling your way through it and trusting yourself." ~Krista Resnick LINKS:  BUILD BETTER BOUNDARIES INSTAGRAM FACEBOOK  EMPOWERED BOUNDARIES FACEBOOK COMMUNITY EMOTIONAL ALLIANCE EMPATHY ACADEMY YOU TUBE CHANNEL THE LANGUAGE OF EMOTIONS BOOK ADDITIONAL RESOURCES: THE DANCE OF ANGER
01:07:47
June 22, 2022
94. Boundary Q& A-How do I 'appropriately' communicate my boundary?
94. Boundary Q& A-How do I 'appropriately' communicate my boundary?
Today's podcast comes from a listener-thank you Shelby! Her question came from wanting to know how to communicate her boundary while letting the other person know when they are being crossed, Shelby was curious as to how we can show that our boundaries have been crossed and let the other person know that it’s not okay, while at the same time let it go, and stand in acceptance.   I love this question, and it's one that many people get hung up on.   This podcast breaks down my thoughts and answer into some simple digestible action steps. LINKS: BUILD BETTER BOUNDARIES Instagram Empowered Boundaries Facebook Community Facebook
24:12
June 15, 2022
93. Self Love Meditation
93. Self Love Meditation
So much of the love, the safety, the validation that we crave, we look for externally.   We want another person or situation or achieving some goal to make us feel a certain way-but as you know self love is an inside job and as a reminder, self love isn’t something you have to learn.  This doesn’t have to be hard.     Love is who you are-so it really is a process of remembering, of letting go of all those judgments and limiting beliefs about who you are that keep you out of the energy of love and more in the energy of fear. So the intention of this meditation is to just let go of the fears and the judgments and connect with the truest purest part of you which is love. LINKS Build Better Boundaries Workshop Stay Connected: Instagram Empowered Boundaries Facebook Group Facebook
20:56
June 08, 2022
92. Codependency, Shame & Narcissism with Darlene Lancer
92. Codependency, Shame & Narcissism with Darlene Lancer
Codependency is one of my favorite topics   I know firsthand what it’s like to live on the other side of the street and lose all sense of myself.  I think so many people suffer from codependency and aren’t even aware.  That is why I am committed to talking about it and sharing information about it on this podcast. Setting boundaries for a codependent person is a terrifying thing-almost impossible because a person who has codependent tendencies puts their value and wholeness in the hands of others.  Therefore, boundaries = major risk!!! My guest today, Darlene Lancer, is a licensed marriage and family therapist, author and expert on codependency and relationships. She has worked with couples and individuals for 30 years, and she shares SO much valuable information in today’s show about what codependency looks like, how to begin recovery, the connection between shame and codependency, the connection between codependency and narcissism and practical steps to becoming a healthy, whole you. Listen to Discover Definition of Codependency The 5 Core Symptoms of Codependency How we become codependent Why codependents struggle with authenticity and vulnerability The 4 steps we can take toward codependency recovery “Codependency is a person who’s thinking and behavior revolves around something or something else rather than coming from their innate self. Your thinking and behavior revolves around something outside of you.”  -Darlene Lancer “The more we look outside of ourselves for our worth, the emptier and emptier we become inside.”   In the later stages of codependency we can turn into an empty shell of ourselves.” -Darlene Lancer “Codependents lose themselves in relationship.” -Darlene Lancer “Parents are to mirror back to us our worth and enough-ness and when that doesn’t happen there’s a rift in the development of who we are.” -Krista Resnick “Shame is a core sentiment of codependency.”- Darlene Lancer “It’s not enough to say I love you….it’s about valuing you for WHO you are…your authentic self.”  -Darlene Lancer LINKS FROM THE EPISODE: Darlene Lancer Website Krista Resnick Instagram Facebook Empowered Boundaries Facebook Community
01:13:12
June 01, 2022
91. Do you abandon yourself?
91. Do you abandon yourself?
Do you have a hard time trusting yourself? Do you hide parts of yourself – your feelings, beliefs, and ideas – in order to fit in or please others? Do you diminish or discount your feelings because you think they don’t matter? Friends this is self-abandonment. We abandon ourselves when we don’t value ourselves, when we don’t act in our own best interest, and when we don’t encourage and comfort ourselves.  At the root is a lack of self love.  And when we lack self love, we often use coping strategies like codependency, people pleasing, numbing, avoiding and distracting to over compensate.   Self-abandonment begins in childhood. It’s likely that your parents or other influential adults didn’t meet your emotional and/or physical needs in childhood – they abandoned you emotionally or physically — causing you to feel unworthy and unlovable. As adults, we tend to repeat these types of patterns from childhood because they’re familiar; we repeatedly choose partners and friends who mistreat, take advantage of, or don’t support us. And we do the same to ourselves. We don’t know how to be there for ourselves because no one was truly there for us as children. The good news is that we can heal.  We can take responsibility for our growth and our lives and start building self-esteem and confidence to create whatever it is that we want. Listen to discover: What self abandonment is Why we self abandon 4 ways to stop self abandoning The powerhouse of tools that many of us missing when it comes to personal growth Powerful journaling questions you can ask yourself to break the pattern of self abandonment "Self-abandonment is a learned behavior, a way you tried to cope with unhealthy or dysfunctional family dynamics." ~Krista Resnick "When you live in an unpredictable, chaotic, or abusive family, you learn to hide your true self. You act like a chameleon, morphing into whatever role will keep the peace and help you avoid ridicule, put-downs, physical and emotional pain." ~ Krista Resnick "Abandoning yourself may have been a necessity during childhood, but it isn’t helpful anymore." ~Krista Resnick "Everyone has feelings and needs. You may not have been allowed to express them as a child (or even in some of your adult relationships), but you can now be a safe haven for your own feelings and needs." ~Krista Resnick "If you listen, your feelings will tell you what you need and when you meet your needs, you’ll be happier and healthier." ~Krista Resnick LINKS & RESOURCES: COMING HOME TO YOU WORKSHOP INSTAGRAM FACEBOOK  EMPOWERED BOUNDARIES FACEBOOK COMMUNITY COMPASSIONATE BOUNDARIES MEDITATION & JOURNAL PROMPTS
50:53
May 25, 2022
90.  Understanding Attachment Trauma
90. Understanding Attachment Trauma
What is attachment trauma and how does it correlate with boundaries? Attachment trauma is “a consistent disruption of physical and emotional safety" in the family system.  Our nervous system's are constantly learning how to be in connection with people. And the biggest question we are often asking internally and subconsciously is -"is it safe to be in connection or not?"  ARE YOU A SAFE PERSON?   When an infant experiences consistent care where his/her needs are met, he/she internalizes three things: I am safe I am heard I am valuable If we don't experience these things are children, it builds the relationship template that we carry through our adult lives into our adult relationships.   When a child understands that they are safe, heard and valuable he or she can then develop other healthy relationships. Without this as a secure foundation, as adults we try to get the unmet needs of our inner child met which is what create so much chaos in our adult lives.   Listen to discover: What exactly is attachment trauma? The difference between overt and covert causes of trauma Why understanding your childhood is so important when it comes to patterns in adult relationships. The four attachment styles you need to know about How attachment trauma is directly link to creating SLDD or Codependency "The initial relationship between self and others serves as a blueprint for all future relationships.”-Krista Resnick "Our nervous system is constantly learning how to be in connection with people. And the biggest thing around that is, is the question...is it safe to be in connection or not? There’s all these overt ways that it can feel not safe, but also really covert ways that it can start feeling unsafe and shutting us down or revving us up." -Krista Resnick "The unmet needs of our inner child are what create chaos in our adult life." -Krista Resnick LINKS & RESOURCES COMING HOME TO YOU WORKSHOP Krista Resnick-Instagram Empowered Boundaries Facebook Community Facebook Website Attached by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller Wired for Love by Stan Tatkin
38:57
May 18, 2022
 89: Redefining Codependency
89: Redefining Codependency
When you hear the word codependent what comes up for you?  Do you feel contempt or shame?  Does the term make you curious?  Have you heard it before but not really sure what it is. In this episode I unpack with you what codependency actually is-not necessarily what the symptoms are but the core root of codependency.  I believe that this is incredibly important and often overlooked because we cannot treat it and step into recovery unless we really get at the root of what's causing it and solve it there.   Listen to discover: Why codependency” is an outdated term. Why so many codependents find themselves chronically in unhealthy, unbalanced relationships. What codependency REALLY is What causes codependency. The one emotion that people with codependent tendencies are terrified to feel. The 8 characteristics that make up our Self energy-the traits that we were born with. A couple of tips to begin recovery from codependency This is such a great episode to help you really understand all things codependency  because again, we cannot treat it, if we don't really understand the root cause.   "God created us in HIS image.  He is GOOD.  Therefore WE are GOOD."  ~Krista Resnick "Our childhood attachment trauma causes us core shame and core shame is a belief that you are fundamentally bad or flawed."~Krista Resnick "Each of us has a relationship template from childhood.   It is this template that then sets us up for our adult relationships."  ~Krista Resnick "Loving someone while remaining invisible in the relationship creates pathological loneliness." ~Krista Resnick "Codependents behave with OTHERS in mind and  habitually controls others into loving them." ~Krista Resnick "We have to go back and do the work around our childhood wounds-our trauma’s.  We have to allow ourselves to grieve the parents that maybe we never had."~Krista Resnick "The unmet needs of your inner child are what create chaos in your adult life." ~Krista Resnick LINKS & RESOURCES BUILD BETTER BOUNDARIES INSTAGRAM FACEBOOK EMPOWERED FACEBOOK COMMUNITY THE HUMAN MAGNET BOOK
48:41
May 11, 2022
88.  Restoring Relationship with Molly Lacroix
88. Restoring Relationship with Molly Lacroix
If you've been around Becoming Boundaried for a minute you know that I am crazy about relationship.  Both relationship with SELF and relationship with others (because you can't have one without the other). When our boundaries are rigid, we are so often coming from a place of fear and judgment, which leads us to feeling isolated and lonely.  The reality is, we are relational beings.  But judgment breaks our relationships because we are saying my way is right therefore you are wrong-therefore there is no ability to connect.  We dodge vulnerability and we often find ourselves in relationships where we are working to fix, control and manage others.  These over-functioning parts can often block the true intimacy and connection that deep down we desire.   My guest today, Molly LaCroix is also passionate about relationship.  In this interview, Molly talks about her own childhood adversity  and the pain it caused her, which created a rift in her system.  She explains how when we are left to process something that we don’t have the inner capacity to process on our own, it gets stuck and it shapes the choices moving forward that we make.  So many of us wonder why we make the choices we do-we feel stuck and confused yet when Molly explains how childhood adversity and trauma get stuck in our system-it makes the 'stuckness' we experience make so much sense! In this episode, we discuss healing from trauma using Internal Family Systems, how easily beliefs can get stuck in our system, and why we use fear and judgment to block us from experiencing true connection in our relationship as well as the pain that it can cause. Listen to discover: What over-functioning really is and why we do it. What is the difference between judgment and discernment? How a U-TURN can help us stay on our side of the street and lead us to deeper connection with others. The skill we already have within to create beautiful and meaningful relationships. Why we opt for rules over relationship. What it means to have an experience stuck in our system. Why we hold onto negative things more easily than positive experiences. Why the missing link of relationships is emotions. I love Molly's gentle and loving approach because safety and connection truly are what help us heal.  God's design for us friends is to heal.  And this conversation will help you understand why.  Lastly we also touch on the topic of anger-one of my favorite emotions.  Molly helps us recognize where to start if you are terrified of your anger but realize you've got it buried deep down within and need to slowly let it go.   "We can get curious about why a part of me is having this reaction to another person.-tell me more…" Molly LaCroix "Uncertainty frightens us," Molly LaCroix "Fear of vulnerability is always the underbelly of resisting connection with others." Molly LaCroix "Our parts need to be heard and welcomed just as they are." Molly LaCroix "I was raised in the church of ONE RIGHT WAY." Krista Resnick LINKS & RESOURCES Molly LaCroix Instagram Molly LaCroix's Book  BUILD BETTER BOUNDARIES WORKSHOP
01:14:32
May 04, 2022
87: How to fully accept and express yourself with Andrea Tessier
87: How to fully accept and express yourself with Andrea Tessier
Do you often feel like you are building someone else's life?  You've done all the things you're supposed to do, your life looks good on paper and yet there is something off?   Friends, happiness, joy, freedom and peace come from within.  My guest today, Andrea Tessier discovered this truth when she started to look inward and unlearn everyone else's expectations.  Andrea's journey began with feeling insecure and working to overcompensate by being wrapped up in the hustle and self sacrifice.  After recognizing that she was the problem and therefore the solution, she started on her journey of re-remembering who she really was.   In this episode Andrea shares her personal story and how she went from self sacrifice and insecure to being able to freely express and trust herself in every moment.   Listen to discover: How we can recognize that it's time to go deeper and do the internal work Why acceptance is the KEY to personal transformation. How we own who we are. The most powerful question we can ask ourselves to begin to KNOW ourselves. How to recognize when you are in your patterns of protection and coping Why sometimes self honoring choices don’t always feel good. Andrea’s favorite emotional release tools and why they are so important. Why feelings are such a big component in honoring our boundaries. Why feelings are such a powerful guidance system. The difference between speaking FROM anger versus ON BEHALF of our anger. What speaking your truth actually is. We've all chased something in our lives that we believe will make us feel like we've arrived.  The house, the relationship, the kids, the right friend group, the perfect body size, the right job, the right degree but even after all that chasing-I believe that many of us still feel those pangs.  Those little nudges along the way that remind us- "HEY.....get back to YOU.  You are enough, You are OK, You are worthy just as you are!!!" Using the practices in this episode, you can turn up the self acceptance and self expression in your life, which will help you feel aligned and free no matter your circumstances. “When we don’t know what we feel, we aren’t in tune with what we need.” Andrea Tessier "I had to teach myself HOW to be self expressed.  For decades I shoved everything down and in."  Andrea Tessier "If I’m not in my own personal truth and expression, how can I invite the other person forward to be in theirs?" Andrea Tessier "Owning who you are is a choice in every single moment"-Andrea Tessier "This idea of confusion is a myth.  We are listening to so many things around us that it drowns out our knowing."  -Andrea Tessier "Too often we take responsibility for other people’s feelings."-Krista Resnick "Words can destroy or words can build a bridge." -Krista Resnick "We have to take ourselves out of autopilot." -Krista Resnick LINKS & RESOURCES Andrea Tessier Website Freedom Starter Kit Safe to Rise Instagram STAY CONNECTED: EMPOWERED BOUNDARIES COMMUNITY INSTAGRAM BUILD BETTER BOUNDARIES
01:02:16
April 27, 2022
86. Gaslighting 101
86. Gaslighting 101
Gaslighting, has become a popular term that is thrown around often.  But what is it?   Do you often leave conversations feeling confused in your relationship?   Do you sometimes ask yourself, am I just too sensitive? Do you find yourself apologizing often in your relationship? Do you make excuses for your partner's behavior and often second guess yourself? You might be in a relationship with a gaslighter. Gaslighting is a term that is thrown around often, but it's far more than someone simply questioning our thoughts or our feelings Gaslighting is psychological manipulation.  It is typically intentional (although I do unpack in the episode how sometimes it can be an unconscious tactic) manipulative and designed to whittle away someone’s self-confidence.  Gaslighting is emotional abuse.  And it's sneaky because it can be covert and subtle.  The subtly can slowly erode and chip away at that gaslightee's. confidence and self worth. Gaslighting typically takes place in romantic relationships, but it can take place in any relationships-friendships and family relationships.   In this episode, I’m sharing what gaslighting is, what it looks like in real life and ways to tell if you’re being gaslighted. Listen to discover What gaslighting is Why do people gaslight How you spot gaslighting in your relationship What gaslighting might sound like 7 Signs your being Gaslight and what you can do about it.   Tips for how to begin to trust yourself "Gaslighters NEED control and power" -Krista Resnick "Gaslighting is an unhealthy form of control arising from a need to dominate others." -Krista Resnick  "The difference with gaslighting is that there is another person or group that’s actively engaged in trying to make you second-guess what you know is true. If you don’t typically experience these feelings with other people but do with one particular individual, then you might be a victim of gaslighting."- Krista Resnick "Gaslighting is a particularly sneaky and damaging form of abuse because it alienates us from our own internal compass. “It is hard to spot because, most of the times, it comes from people we love and trust." -Krista Resnick "When words and actions don’t match, you will save yourself additional pain and disappointment by paying more attention to the person’s actions and behavior, rather than their words." -Krista Resnick Learning about your emotions and tracking your patterns, allowing you to learn what triggers your feelings and gives helpful strategies to shift your moods." -Krista Resnick "Part of what makes it painful and challenging to leave a gaslight relationship is that the gaslighter may be the one “someone” you have committed to, such as your best friend, your mom, your sister or brother. It’s okay to walk away from toxicity, regardless of the source."- Krista Resnick LINKS & RESOURCES: EMPOWERED BOUNDARIES FACEBOOK COMMUNITY HOW TO TAKE A RELATIONAL TIME OUT IN 6 STEPS BUILD BETTER BOUNDARIES WORKSHOP STAY CONNECTED:  INSTAGRAM EMPOWERED BOUNDARIES FACEBOOK COMMUNITY FACEBOOK
55:04
April 20, 2022
84. Tolerations Detox
84. Tolerations Detox
We all have unpleasant conditions in our lives that cause us stress.   We may try to ignore these situations, but they still affect us.  If the condition could be eliminated, it is called a toleration. You cannot change what you tolerate, but for those of us who struggle with codependency, we tolerate A LOT (and for much too long).   We often have relationships with people who gaslight and have narcissistic type traits because at the core, we attract people who LOVE our focus on them.  Codependents are OTHERS focused.  And because we get our self worth from OTHERS, what they think, fixing them, helping them, serving them, managing them-we push our own needs and desires to the side and just tolerate things that we shouldn't.    Part of our recovery is to learn how to set the boundaries required, to eliminate these tolerations from our life.  These could be internal boundaries or external boundaries-both apply here.   In this episode I'm helping you understand what you might be tolerating in your life that is causing you to not stand for yourself and how you can start to become aware of some of things in your life that might be required to do a bit of a spring clean and detox them out.  Maybe a relationship that has long expired,  a friendship who is critical and dismissive of you, missed workouts and excuses, a closet full of clothes you never wear that is overwhelming to you, a pantry full of sugar laden items that take you off course from your diet, or mistreatment from your teenager.    Listen to this episode to discover:  What tolerations are  The reasons why you might be tolerating (aka-it's not your fault, it's your programming)  How to build awareness around what you might be tolerating  How to start eliminating tolerations The 7 D's of how to detox from your current list of tolerations.    Through the art of healthy boundary setting, we can learn to step into our sovereignty and speak our truth so we can have our needs met and live FULL LIVES.  I hope the strategies and tips I provide in this episode will help you step into your inner leader and begin to not realize that there are just things in life that need to go.    “A toleration is something that is put up with or endured; it is a burden and eats up time, money, and mental space.” -Krista Resnick  "It’s a toleration for you if it creates frustration, drains your energy, or distracts you from what is really important."-Krista  Resnick  "People who clear up tolerations often find that it opens up space for their creativity and intuition."-Krista Resnick  "In order to start eliminating tolerations you first need to know what they are. Ask yourself: What am I putting up with right now?” -Krista Resnick Links & Resources:  Build Better Boundaries Workshop  Tolerations Detox Workbook  Krista Resnick Website  Instagram  Empowered Boundaries Facebook Community
55:03
April 17, 2022
85: The Science of Stuck with Britt Frank
85: The Science of Stuck with Britt Frank
Britt Frank is my guest today.  Friends-you are going to love her.  Britt's vibrant energy and enthusiasm for this healing work just oozes through our conversation. Britt Frank, MSW, LSCSW, SEP is a clinician, educator and trauma specialist. She speaks and writes widely about the mental health myths that keep us stuck and stressed. Britt received her BA from Duke University and her MSW from the University of Kansas, where she later became an award-winning adjunct professor. She is a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner and Level 3 trained in the Internal Family Systems therapeutic model. Britt was a primary therapist at a drug and alcohol treatment center, an inpatient therapist at a children’s psychiatric hospital, and now owns a private practice. Britt and I cover A LOT of ground in this episode beginning with the beauty we can find in rigidity.  We often deem rigidity as a 'bad thing,' but rigid recovery as she calls it, can be the very thing we need to call upon at times when we are first setting out in this healing work.  Britt unpacks why the word AND has so much potency in healing and growth work and helps us decipher when black and white thinking can be helpful, and when we need to call upon adding more 'grey' to our lives.  In this episode we also talk about the definition of trauma, how we must incorporate thought work into our healing and how we can't rely on thought work alone.   Listen to discover: The definition of trauma Why "change your thoughts, change your life" can’t stand alone.   How to create a powerful affirmation versus an affirmation that feels phony and fake. The two enemies of trauma healing One of the best healing medicines for trauma What is happening in our bodies when we our boundaries are violated or when we are scared to set a boundary Why Britt believes healing work can be more simple than people often make it out to be.   I love Britt's approach to healing work because it allows me to remember that I am whole, complete, good and enough, JUST as a I am.  It's grounded in simplicity and science, authenticity and real-life experiences of overcoming trauma and failure in order to show that anything is possible.   “Trauma is the absence of boundaries.  Trauma is the complete absence of the ability to choose.” ~Britt Frank "One of the healing medicines for trauma is boundaries." ~Britt Frank "Shame does nothing for anyone."~Britt Frank "No one can make you feel anything actually isn’t true." ~Britt Frank "Trauma is not a fact or a permanent state." ~Britt Frank "When you’re in  survival mode-none of the thinking stuff will work." ~Britt Frank LINK  & RESOURCES BRITT FRANK BRITT FRANK INSTAGRAM Order Britt's Book-THE SCIENCE OF STUCK KRISTA RESNICK KRISTA RESNICK INSTAGRAM KRISTA RESNICK FACEBOOK  EMPOWERED BOUNDARIES FACEBOOK COMMUNITY
49:04
April 13, 2022
83. Boundaries ARE Love
83. Boundaries ARE Love
Do you tend to think of boundaries as selfish, mean, aggressive in nature?  Do you think they are simply about having arguments with other people?  Do you think boundaries are ONLY about saying NO? Friends this episode is all about expanding your boundary knowledge and paradigm.  This episode is dedicated to help you see boundaries as an act of love.  I know I sure didn't see them this way at one point in my life, however-boundaries were absolutely necessary to help me in my healing journey of overcoming codependent, perfectionism, people pleasing thinking.  Boundaries are a game changer! Listen to this episode to learn how boundaries can help you in your healing journey too to having authentic, honest relationships and love in your life.   Don't forget to save your seat in the Build Better Boundaries Workshop happening April 12 at 5pm CST BUILD BETTER BOUNDARIES WORKSHOP
40:01
March 30, 2022
 82: Cultivating Confidence with Jen Walter
82: Cultivating Confidence with Jen Walter
Jen Walters is a confidence coach for professional women.  After 25 years in corporate, she finally found the tools to overcome her personal confidence challenges.  She grew from an insecure people-pleasing perfectionist with social anxiety, into a confident woman who goes after what she wants.  Jen loves helping her clients get out of their own way, step into their awesomeness, and create the career and life they dream of. In this power packed episode Jen goes deep explaining what confidence is. She breaks down confidence down into 3 digestible pieces: self regard, self trust and the willingness to feel ANY emotion. We also dive into what stops us from living in our truth, our authentic, favorite confident self.  This is a really important episode to listen to if confidence is something you have lost on your way. Learn more about Jen and her work here:  | FACEBOOK | INSTAGRAM | LINKEDIN And don't forget to click on THIS LINK to get Jen's 3 Secrets to Building Self-Confidence Krista Resnick | Build Better Boundaries Workshop | INSTAGRAM | FACEBOOK 
44:03
March 16, 2022
81. Boundary Q & A-Dealing with Conflict and Guilt
81. Boundary Q & A-Dealing with Conflict and Guilt
In today's episode I answer two listener's beautiful boundary questions in regard to guilt and conflict.   Before listening to this episode consider: Are you afraid of conflict and letting others down? Are you exhausted from trying to do it all  So you sometimes get sick from trying to make everyone happy all the time?   Do you feel like EVERYONE depends on you? Are you STRESSED ALL THE TIME?   Do you feel guilty whenever you try and set a boundary? If you’ve ever struggled with feeling guilty, or exhausted from holding everyone's stuff then this episode is for you.   Save your seat at THE BUILD BETTER BOUNDARIES MASTERCLASS
27:21
March 09, 2022
80. 3 Things you need to know about setting boundaries
80. 3 Things you need to know about setting boundaries
Boundaries are an essential tool when it comes to speaking your truth and living free.  And yet, so many people don't know what boundaries are.  If we don't know what they are, we certainly don't understand the power of them or why we need to implement them in our lives. In this episode I unpack the power of boundaries and how they set you free and empower you to speak your truth.  Anything else is a one stop train ticket to resentment ranch. BUILD BETTER BOUNDARIES MASTERCLASS | EMPOWERED BOUNDARIES FB COMMUNITY | INSTAGRAM | FACEBOOK
28:44
March 02, 2022
79. Self love & Boundaries-live coaching with Franda
79. Self love & Boundaries-live coaching with Franda
When we are uncomfortable setting boundaries, it becomes easy to step into patterns like people pleasing to make sure everyone else is happy.  However, this only sets us up for resentment and anger in our lives. Unmet needs of your inner child is what creates chaos in your adult life. Today’s caller, Franda, has trouble setting boundaries in her personal and work life. Many of us think people-pleasing is a way to get love and find validation. We think if people see the real us, they may not like us.  However, this creates a life of self-abandon and resentment. When we know how to meet our own needs and meet ourselves with compassion, we begin to feel empowered to set boundaries that protect our space and our relationships.  It’s great to make other people happy but it’s more important to please ourselves first by making self-honoring choices. Drop the people-pleasing, up your self-esteem by making self-honoring choices. Before listening to this episode consider: Do you have a hard time keeping your boundaries in check? Are you exhausted trying to keep up with all the demands in your life? Do you spend more of your time worrying about others happiness rather than meeting your own needs? As a child, did you have to take on more responsibility than you should have? ***Don't forget to save your spot in my upcoming Masterclass-Build Better Boundaries happening on March 10th*** KRISTA RESNICK | INSTAGRAM | EMPOWERED BOUNDARIES FACEBOOK COMMUNITY | BUILD BETTER BOUNDARIES MASTERCLASS
45:27
February 23, 2022
78. External Boundaries Pt. 2
78. External Boundaries Pt. 2
In today's episode I walk you though 7 Types of boundaries so you can begin to identify what types of boundaries you can begin setting in your relationships and life.   Setting boundaries is not about saying no to everything. They’re about setting parameters, limits, guidelines for our life.   Boundaries are about creating safety.  Essentially healthy boundaries do 3 things- Keep people from coming into our space and abusing us. Keep us from going into the space of others and abusing them. Give each of us a way to embody our sense of “who we are.” Boundaries are not static.  They’re dynamic – meaning they constantly change depending on the contexts we find ourselves in during the day.  And they are constantly at play across all of those life areas I named. As you can see, boundaries are a complex issue with many different facets. By listening to these Boundary 101 episodes, my hope is that you will have a foundational understanding of what healthy boundaries are and where you can start setting them in your own life.   Links from the Show KRISTA RESNICK |INSTAGRAM| EMPOWERED BOUNDARIES FACEBOOK COMMUNITY | THE SECRET TO EMPOWERED BOUNDARIES
30:13
February 09, 2022
77. External Boundaries Part 1
77. External Boundaries Part 1
When it comes to healthy relationships, boundaries are ESSENTIAL!!! Boundaries are limits that protect and promote our integrity, our wellbeing, our sense of healthy functioning.  They protect our sacred inner space. They are what allows us to have uniqueness and authenticity. Without healthy boundaries, we start to blur and blend in with other people and  start to lose touch with having a separate sense of self in a healthy way Without boundaries, you are signing up for a life or anger, resentment, overwhelm and burn out. Lack of boundaries will destroy your relationships because they simply won’t be able to thrive. In this episode I talk about what exactly external boundaries are as well as why they are so crucial to our relationships.  I also provide a couple of practical examples to help you understand what a healthy boundary may in fact look like. Before listening to this episode consider: In relationships, do I tend to be more aware of my own needs, wants, and feelings or aware of the needs, wants , and feelings of others When it comes to setting boundaries, do I find it easy/difficult to set boundaries? When it comes to hearing someone else’s boundary, do I find it easy/difficult to accept it? Do I have a hard time expressing my needs and boundaries? What does it feel like when other people set boundaries with me? LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE Krista Resnick | Instagram | Empowered Boundaries Facebook Community |The Secret to Empowered Boundaries
45:10
January 26, 2022
76: Internal Boundaries-the BEST place to start.
76: Internal Boundaries-the BEST place to start.
Often when people are referring to boundaries they are talking about external boundaries.  These are the boundaries that we set with other's, to let them know our limitations, our preferences and our needs. However in order to first set external boundaries, you have to be able to set internal boundaries.  This means that you can set a boundary with yourself.  FASCINATING RIGHT?   Boundaries are not all about what you do with other people-they have a lot to do with how we engage with ourselves. Tune into this episode and then join the EMPOWERED BOUNDARIES facebook community to share with us what two internal boundaries you have settled on to implement in your life.   Links from this episode KRISTA RESNICK | FACEBOOK COMMUNITY | INSTAGRAM | LIVE COACHING & SUPPORT | THE 'SECRET' TO EMPOWERED BOUNDARIES
33:34
January 12, 2022
75: Live Coaching: Setting Boundaries with Roshi
75: Live Coaching: Setting Boundaries with Roshi
The topic of boundaries bring up a lot of big feelings for many of us.  We want to be seen as kind and loving.  It feels hard to tell people no and deal with their upset and anger.  Many of us have spent decades, stuffing our truth and not speaking on behalf of our needs and prioritizing what matters to us.  Boundaries can feel so uncomfortable at first, it's almost as if we are doing something wrong.  So much so, that often it even stops us from setting the boundary in the first place. However, it is yours and my responsibility to own what is true for us and speak in a way that helps us get our needs met.  It is our obligation to ourselves to set healthy boundaries.  We don't have to be everything to everyone.  It's not possible.  We were put on this earth for such a time as this to fulfill our purpose, to shine.  To live free and true.  But if you don't set boundaries, you are signing up for resentment, depression and loads of overwhelm and anxiety.   This week on the podcast I spoke to Roshi who is wanting to set boundaries with her family to get started.   We talked about how to release some of the resentment that she is already battling from years of taking on so much and ways that she can move forward to begin to carve our space for herself.   Before you listen to this episode consider: Do you struggle to set boundaries? Are you overwhelmed ALL THE TIME? Do you often feel angry and resentful? Do you often say YES when everything in your body is begging you to say NO? Do you tell yourself the story, if I don’t do it, no one else will? Do you struggle to let go of control? Do you think if you set a boundary you will be perceived as mean, unkind and unloving? Listen to this episode if you want support around setting loving boundaries to get the space you need AND the connection you crave.   Krista Resnick | Instagram | Facebook |Empowered Boundaries FB Community | Permission Granted Podcast Application The Secret of Setting Empowered Boundaries Workbook
55:54
December 29, 2021
74: Boundaries 101
74: Boundaries 101
I am dedicating this show to my favorite topic-BOUNDARIES!!! Boundaries are one of the key ways that we have better, more fulfilling relationships with other people.  They are what truly help us to be successful with one another.   In this episode I break down what boundaries are, the benefits to knowing your boundaries and four KEY things I want you to know about setting healthy boundaries. If you are ready to create more space and connection in your life-than this is the episode for you.     Krista Resnick | Instagram |Facebook | Empowered Boundaries Facebook Community
38:54
December 15, 2021
73: Permission Granted: Feel ALL your Emotions with Karla McLaren
73: Permission Granted: Feel ALL your Emotions with Karla McLaren
Most of us have been taught since early childhood that emotions are bad.  And when we think our emotions are bad, we will do ANYTHING to avoid them. Anything we want in life, healthy relationships, boundaries around our time and energy, a stronger intuition, a better relationship with ourself starts and ends with our emotions. And yet, we will do anything to avoid feeling them.  We work with healthy diets and exercise, we manage our reactions, we work as professionals at our jobs and yet we ignore the richest source of information-our emotions! Our culture today reinforces us to not get bogged down by our feelings and emotions.  Just consider for a moment some of the names that men and women are called when they act on behalf of their anger or their sadness. When we believe that our emotions are bad, we begin to put masks on our emotions and vulnerability to cover up from being cast out of the tribe.  We lean into our patterns of co-dependence, people-pleasing, perfectionism, and automatic programming.  Eventually this creates a really in-authentic life. This is what I talk about with Karla on this episode and SO MUCH MORE. Remember, you were created to be an expression of your purpose, to set healthy boundaries and forge fulfilling relationships.  And you cannot do that without honoring your emotions. If you struggle to connect with your emotions, listen to this episode to find out how to make changes and feel a sense of freedom along the way. Krista Resnick | INSTAGRAM | FACEBOOK KARLA MCLAREN | FACEBOOK | INSTAGRAM  THE LANGUAGE OF EMOTIONS | THE ART OF EMPATHY
01:13:27
December 01, 2021
72. Permission Granted: Creating Honest Relationships
72. Permission Granted: Creating Honest Relationships
To create real and authentic conversations, we have to be willing to be honest.  Most of us weren't taught how to do this.  We were taught how to live in our patterns of people pleasing, approval seeking, perfectionism and "work harder" modes.  Often these patterns are like we are wearing a mask, blocking us from our true and honest selves.   Lately, I have been thinking about radical honesty.  It's not always easy to live a life that feels true.  It's not always easy to speak our truth.  It can feel difficult to take off the mask that we have used for so long to keep us safe.  However the alternative is living a life that doesn't reflect what God has called us toward and who He has called us to BE.   The more we are willing to explore what stands in our way of honesty, we more we can start to work toward taking off the mask and allowing ourselves to be seen for who we are.  I think that is the greatest freedom in the world-Freedom to be honest, freedom to live in a way and speak in a way that represents who we were created to be. Listen to today's episode and give yourself permission to try the mindful practice so that you can start showing up honestly in your most important relationships.   Krista Resnick | Instagram | Facebook  FREE~How to stop over-reacting and live with more peace and purpose instead. NonViolent Communication
32:29
November 17, 2021
71.  Permission Granted: How to overcome your limiting story with Dr. DelRae
71. Permission Granted: How to overcome your limiting story with Dr. DelRae
My guest today, Dr. DelRae grew up in a somewhat idyllic situation.  She was raised in a small town on a farm with only 34 students in her graduating class. She was taught strong values, morals and had a work ethic that was solid.  However, as a young adult, DelRae was forced to unravel some of her own limiting beliefs due to some really challenging situations. Outwardly, she appeared as though she had it all together.  However, inside she was struggling. DelRae found herself working harder and harder to escape her emotions and some of what was going on in her life.  Slowly she began to play what she refers to as the when….then game. When I reach this (level of income, meet this person, fill in the blank), then I will be happy.  Perhaps you know this game well too? When DelRae found herself at rock bottom, she finally looked in the mirror and took responsibility for her choices and life. DelRae’s desire is to give women permission to believe that they can design their life through their authenticity and who they are.  She empowers them to believe that they have the power to overcome every limiting belief that has been interwoven into their system.  Dr. DelRae Messer, DC is CEO of WellSpoken Lifestyle, a global health, well-being and beauty company that believes everyone deserves to experience a healthy, joyful and abundant life. She graduated magna cum laude from Northwestern Health Sciences University in 2007. Her passion for solving the health care crisis started as a young athlete in a rural farming community in North Dakota.  After creating a sustainable lifestyle weight loss program in her Chiropractic office, she moved her business online, partnering with Isagenix International, a global holistic nutrition and well-being company. Before listening to this episode, consider: Do you have ways in which you cope with big emotions? When a big emotion surfaces, what action do you typically take?  (eating, shopping, over-working, over drinking, numbing on social media just to name a few). How has your childhood, no matter how healthy or unhealthy, impacted some of the ways in which you cope? Do you fully accept who you are?  Or do you spend a lot of time being who you think you need to be in order to be accepted? Do you have someone in your life who can hold your story and help you grow?  Do you have the support of people who see your highest potential or are you hanging around people who only see you for your worst day? Are you currently going through a season that is stretching you?  If you are, who are you becoming as you go through the process of learning something new and being stretched? What step will you take to begin to unravel the story of who you think you need to be so that you can actually begin accepting who you are. KRISTA RESNICK | INSTAGRAM | FACEBOOK  FREE~How to stop over-reacting and live with more peace and purpose.   DR. DELRAE | INSTAGRAM| FACEBOOK 
58:50
November 03, 2021
70- Permission Granted: Learn The Art of Listening with Lyn Lindberg
70- Permission Granted: Learn The Art of Listening with Lyn Lindberg
"Listening with an open heart is the ultimate spiritual act.  It is the greatest gift you can give to another person and ultimately yourself." ~Harriet Lerner Have you ever been in a relationship where you have been truly listened to?  Have you ever been with someone who you truly felt that all of you was welcome?   The art of listening can do just that.  True listening creates a space where your loved ones feel see and heard.  Where they feel safe enough to let their guard down and be who they truly are.  What a gift! However-so much of what have been taught in our Western culture is how to do the talking!  We interrupt and think while the other person is talking of everything that we want to say.   Lyn Lindberg, my guest today, shares that we haven’t been taught the skills of listening.  Quite frankly, our culture doesn’t value it.  Our society values being in the limelight.  It values the ones who are shouting-"look at me, I'm spectacular!"  And yet, listening is the gateway to healthy and rich relationships.   If you want a more intricate way to improve your relationships, listen to this episode where Lyn walks us through 8 key listening skills that we can practice to benefit from the gift of being truly connected with the people who matter to us.   Krista Resnick | INSTAGRAM |FACEBOOK|
01:04:26
October 20, 2021
69-Permission Granted: Understanding little 't' trauma with Nicole-Lewis Keeber
69-Permission Granted: Understanding little 't' trauma with Nicole-Lewis Keeber
Big T Trauma EXPLODES, little 't' trauma ERODES-Nicole Lewis Keeber Have you ever felt like this world wasn't safe to live in?  I don't mean our current circumstances per se (although those do apply here as well).  But as a child, did you ever feel like you grew up in a system that wasn't built for you? My guest today felt that way herself.  Nicole Lewis Keeber has a passion for making this world a safer place to live in for those who don't feel safe.  Growing up in a conservative community and Southern Baptist home, she struggled to see the world the way the systems and institutions around her taught.  On top of that Nicole also struggled with school.  All of this resulted in what is called little 't' trauma. Nicole has used her little 't' trauma experiences to drive her passion of helping people understand what trauma really is.  When you understand what trauma actually is, you can then begin to understand why you might feel stuck, overwhelmed, having the same argument over and over or not moving forward in your career or business.   Nicole uses her expertise as a therapist to help business owners and entrepreneurs understand  the impact of small t trauma on businesses. Her biggest, more important work is in combining therapeutic processes with business coaching to help entrepreneurs build emotionally sustainable & financially successful businesses. This is such an essential episode to listen to.  Understanding how little 't' trauma can impact you will change your life.  It opens you up to choosing a healing path that feels good for you so you can grow and begin to really live out your God given potential.  Krista Resnick | Instagram | Facebook | Free~How to stop over-reacting and live with peace and purpose instead. Nicole Lewis Keeber | Instagram | Facebook | Nicole's free trauma assessment | Nicole's book
50:11
October 06, 2021
68. Permission Granted: I Owe Me..The Power of Guilt Free Self Care with Becky Lauridsen
68. Permission Granted: I Owe Me..The Power of Guilt Free Self Care with Becky Lauridsen
"You deserve the best because your loved ones deserve the best of you, not what's left of you." - Becky  What do you think about when you hear self care? In today's world we have motivation and inspiration all around to push us to keep going. But I want to remind you that pushing yourself to keep going often leads to burnout and many times it’s mandatory to STOP and remember how massively important it is to practice TRUE SELF CARE. Self Care is not a waste of time, it is an INVESTMENT in a healthier, more productive time in the future. It is an investment in your relationship with YOU. Perhaps you, my listener, have bought into the "GO CRUSH IT" hype and you are feeling exhausted, burned out and drained. It appears we talk about self care once we reach that point of exhaustion. And often, it's only when we wear ourselves out mentally, emotionally and physically that it somehow justifies taking a break so we don’t feel guilty. But because we are so depleted and empty, it just barely gets us back to baseline. In today’s episode, my Guest Becky Lauridsen and I talk about what self care really is, why it matters, what stops you from practicing it and a whole lot more.  Becky is a Licensed Professional Counselor and crazy passionate about increasing self care and decreasing the mental health stigma. She is the Founder and Lead Supporter of IOME. It's an I Owe Me instead of an I Owe You offering Guilt Free Self Care by partnering with local businesses to offer discounted self care services and products to individuals, groups, and employers. IOME is one of the first to take a preventative approach to our mental health and wellness by providing simple and convenient access to mental wellness. Becky is also the proud wife to her cowboy husband, Tyler, and mother to two beautiful girls, Bryer and Brystol. She believes that similar to our physical health, we can take a preventative approach to our mental health too. Becky shares with us the difference between self-indulgence and true self care and how to make guilt free self care a daily practice. Intentional self care doesn’t have to be for hours a day, and certainly does not require a spa or weekend in Bali.  It is an investment in your well-being. If you’re a mama wondering how you will ever find the time to practice self care, then this episode is for you.  A small dose  of true self care is essential because you will be more emotionally, mentally and physically equipped to deal with your responsibilities and show up for the ones you love in an intentional and epic way. Krista Resnick|  | INSTAGRAM | FACEBOOK  FREE-HOW TO STOP OVERREACTING AND LIVE WITH MORE PEACE AND PURPOSE BECKY LAURIDSEN | INSTAGRAM |FACEBOOK
54:48
September 22, 2021
67. Permission Granted: Ditch the number one thing that blocks us from intimacy, depth and connection
67. Permission Granted: Ditch the number one thing that blocks us from intimacy, depth and connection
The past year and a half has been a has been a huge challenge when it comes to my sense of peace and inner freedom.  For me, I understood that it was time to look deeper as to what was going on and release myself from whatever was happening internally. I was tired of feeling lonely and isolate.  I was tired of always being triggered by someone.  I was tired of trying to control.  Judgment was one of my own personal strategies that was so familiar and addictive to my feeling uncomfortable.  Judgment was something I learned early on, made me feel better for a brief moment, but eventually I crashed with a hangover that felt at time almost unbearable.   We are hard wired for connection.  But my judgment kept me blocked from the very thing God created us to experience.  Depth, connection, and intimacy are spiritual ways of being.  They add so much richness to our lives.  Without them, life is meaningless and loses it's sense of purpose.   If you struggle with feeling connected and experiencing deeper intimacy in your life, I am inviting you to consider ways in which you have used the shield of judgment to protect your tender heart. Listen in to this podcast where I unpack my own personal struggle and healing with judgment and what you can do to take some next steps in your own life if you battle with this too.   Krista Resnick | Instagram | Facebook
21:28
September 08, 2021
66. Permission Granted: Let go of the biggest barrier to your success with Spencer Snakard
66. Permission Granted: Let go of the biggest barrier to your success with Spencer Snakard
"Alignment trumps everything.  Stay off the subject that disturbs your alignment, and everything that you are about will come into alignment." ~Esther Hicks Alignment-it's a buzz word today, but what actually is it and why does it matter when it comes to living your best life? My guest today Spencer Snakard is an Executive Transformation Coach, Trainer, and Speaker. She works with Visionary Entrepreneurs & Transformational Leaders who are on a mission to make major impact, helping them to break through barriers to their next level of success while loving life every step of the way ... and without giving up what matters most to them. Spencer and I break down why alignment is so vital to your success and life and the reasons why women are so afraid of getting clear around what they want.  Spencer shares why ignorance is not bliss as well as providing you with some powerful questions to help you get clarity around the direction you are headed in life.  Before listening to this episode consider: Are you spending the most time on the things you love the least? Do you feel like you are just hanging on by the skin of your teeth and just getting by? Are you trying to squeeze your life into what you think it should be? Links for Resources SURVIVING TO THRIVING WORKBOOK Krista Resnick | Instagram | Facebook | LinkedIn  Spencer Snakard | Facebook | Facebook group
40:07
August 25, 2021
65. Permission Granted: Let go of blocked emotions in order to experience connection and intimacy in your marriage with Jennifer
65. Permission Granted: Let go of blocked emotions in order to experience connection and intimacy in your marriage with Jennifer
When we spend all of our time caring for others, it’s easy to feel  resentful, disappointed, and maybe even depressed. It’s impossible to give and give and give and expect that we can have the energy to show up in our marriages feeling connected, present and satisfied. This call is about being the change you want to see in a relationship. Today’s caller, Jennifer, would like more intimacy and connection in her marriage. We work through how much energy she is putting out and not allowing herself to process the big emotions and bandwidth that comes along with having kids, (one being special needs who requires care around the clock), a career and the recent passing of her mother. We often navigate through life from one thing to the next just continuing to press on.  Of course it’s great to be efficient and effective in life.  What’s not so great is to continue to stuff and avoid feelings that are begging to be released and processed.  In order to avoid these feelings, we stay busy, work harder, lose ourselves in our passions, eat, drink, and binge on social media.  These coping strategies come with a high price tag-disconnection in our relationships, lack of peace, exhaustion, anxiety, resentment, burn out and mostly disconnection from ourselves.  Moving those big feelings is key to creating space in your life for a healthy marriage. Jennifer’s question-After raising kids and being on the verge of an empty nest, do I still like my husband? Question to reflect on before listening to this episode: What do you really want in your marriage that you might not be giving yourself? Do you seldom acknowledge yourself for everything you are doing well in life? Are you someone that holds a lot of space for others yet slim to none for yourself? Do you avoid sharing your feelings and asking for your needs to be met? If this resonates with you-give yourself permission to feel your feelings and allow yourself to celebrate all parts of YOU! If you want to be coached on the podcast please fill out this quick and simple form HERE Resources: Krista Resnick-Website | Instagram | Facebook 
01:04:51
August 11, 2021
64. Permission Granted: Stop Surviving, Start Thriving
64. Permission Granted: Stop Surviving, Start Thriving
Do you find that you react easily?  Do you find yourself having an almost out of body experience that lashes out at other when you feel hurt? Do you feel anxious or like you walk on egg shells a lot?   How many times have you had a partner just say something that they believed-”well what’s the big deal….all I said was no.”   But here's the deal....for you it was SO much more than NO-it was the tone, the look, the dismissive nature, the critical undertone.   Our nervous system is wired way before we ever get to these moments.  It is wired in childhood and if we don't learn how to bring ourselves out of survival mode, we continue to live in these states of dysregulation.  We are easily triggered and find ourselves wrapped up in behaviors that are not healthy to us or the relationship.   It's important to remember that these behaviors are not voluntary.  They are automatic responses based on our desire to survive.  However-not always conducive to the creation of healthy relationships and the life that we actually desire.  Learning to regulate is essential to our healing.  It is so important as midlife women that we awaken to the power of this work.  We don't have to spend our second act being a victim to old patterns and ways of being.  We get to create a magical midlife and learn how to reparent ourselves by learning how to step out of survival mode and THRIVE. From Surviving to Thriving Workbook-How to put the MAGIC back in Midlife Krista Resnick | Instagram |Facebook |LinkedIn  Peter Levine's Waking the Tiger  You tube Video
47:12
July 28, 2021
63. Permission Granted: Let's look at what is trauma actually is...
63. Permission Granted: Let's look at what is trauma actually is...
The essence of trauma is the disconnection of the self “— Peter Levine Today's podcast is dedicated to unpacking the three kinds of trauma.  Join me in this episode as explain why I believe everyone has some sort of trauma.  If you've ever wondered why you can't seem to move on from a certain issue or make progress in an area of your life, there is a strong possibility that it is because of the trauma that you carry.   You cannot mindset your way through trauma.  Too many of us have been trying to "think" our way through life. This can often cause us to question why we aren't making progress and wondering what is wrong with us.   I can promise you, there is NOTHING wrong with you.  Listen in to learn more. Krista Resnick | Instagram 
35:03
July 14, 2021
62. Permission Granted 2.0-Let's talk about Trauma!
62. Permission Granted 2.0-Let's talk about Trauma!
Welcome to Permission Granted 2.0! In this episode, I share why I deemed it necessary to share with you the direction that this podcast is moving toward. I hope you'll enjoy the new season of the podcast show and everything that I'm going to bring to you here. I'm excited to take you to a deeper level and talk about all things trauma and trauma related.   If you're a midlife mama looking for more purpose, peace and pleasure in your life, click HERE to sign up for a free discovery call with me.  Follow me on Instagram HERE Want to be coached by me for free in an upcoming episode?  Please fill out this form HERE
25:36
July 07, 2021
61.  Permission Granted: Create more purpose, peace and pleasure in your life with Solara Amun Ra
61. Permission Granted: Create more purpose, peace and pleasure in your life with Solara Amun Ra
Have you ever asked the question, who am I? I know I certainly have and my guess is that you have too.   My guest today...Solara Amun Ra formerly known as Raquel Vasallo, literally shed her old paradigm and ways of being to embrace her new identity. It took Solara a near death experience to realize that the fast pace, high achieving lifestyle she was trying to uphold, was literally breaking her down. After this experience she took life into her hands, quit her job and move across the globe Within less than a year Solara was stepping into her truth and creating peace, pleasure and purpose in her life.   She began working with top companies such as Fox Films, Paramount Pictures, Sony, Orange Telecom, McDonalds, Westin Palace and major advertising agencies like McCann Erickson and BBDO, helping employees and CEOs radically amplify their creativity, innovation and greater vision.   Through that work she found her true calling as an elite mentor to powerhouse visionary women, who are ready to catapult to the next level of success. This time it’s not just about financial success, but radical freedom. Ten years later, her life shifted again when she became physically and mentally incapacitated due to severe mercury poisoning. Not being able to read or write, Solara started channeling teachings and paintings that became powerful healing and activation portals. Before listening to this episode you may want to consider, Do you struggle to feel attracted to your partner? Are you pushing hard to get to your goals but can’t figure out why you don’t ever really quite make it there?  Are you resistant to the word purpose? Do you crave more peace and space in your life, but can’t quite seem to figure out how to make it happen? Are you tired or running on empty? Do you crave space and peace in your life, but have no idea how to get there? Solara is the #1 Best Selling Author of “Spiritual Seductress, The High-Powered Women’s Guide to Devour the World through Spiritual Guidance.” She is the pre-eminent Spiritual Advisor to female Visionaries and Thought Leaders. She is an International Speaker, Mystic Artist and Feminine Leadership Trendsetter. LINKS YOU WILL WANT TO EXPLORE:  KRISTA RESNICK | INSTAGRAM | FACEBOOK | THE SCHOOL OF SELF-MASTERY SOLARA AMUN RA | SACRED POWER CIRCLE | FACEBOOK | INSTAGRAM | LINKEDIN
50:00
June 07, 2021
60. Permission Granted: Stop fearing other's opinions and set healthy boundaries with Cappie
60. Permission Granted: Stop fearing other's opinions and set healthy boundaries with Cappie
Do you know that you were born with a calling?  Perhaps you do, but like my caller today, you are so wrapped up in pleasing others that you aren't able to prioritize your own needs.  Do you struggle with boundaries?  Do you know you are a leader, yet you lead with hesitation and timidity?  Do you lead with one foot in and one foot out?  Do you find that people often put expectations on you as a leader that make you uncomfortable? Friends if this is you, you will learn so much from my beautiful caller Cappie.   Cappie is a leader, but sometimes the title of the word leader feels heavy and makes her want to run the other way.    She knows she was created for a purpose, but she often finds that time slips through her fingers because she struggles to set boundaries and prioritize the things she needs to get done to BE the embodied leader she is meant to be.   I hope you enjoy my coaching call with Cappie. If you would like to be coached on an upcoming episode please fill out the form HERE
01:08:51
May 17, 2021
59. Permission Granted : 5 Ways to be Kinder to Yourself
59. Permission Granted : 5 Ways to be Kinder to Yourself
“Your self-talk is the channel of behavior change”― Gino Norris Do you struggle to talk kindly to yourself?  If you answered yes, you're not alone.  Most women do. In todays podcast I will share with you 5 Ways to be Kinder to Yourself Key Topics: How we shut ourselves down from growth when we are unkind to ourselves The power of choice and how we can use it to reach our goals 3 steps to learn how to be more gentle with yourself The 7 Secrets of Sustainable Success
20:16
May 03, 2021
58. What to do when you are faced with uncertainty
58. What to do when you are faced with uncertainty
Do you struggle to sit in the unknown?  Are you paralyzed by what your next step 'should' be? You are not alone. So many of us struggle with these thingsToday's podcast focus's on how to sit in the uncertainty and show yourself some massive love in the process. Key Topics in this Episode: The secret missing ingredient to meeting resistance and uncertainty How to make your next move toward clarity and your dreams The #1 thing you can do to reach your goals The 7 Secrets to Sustainable Success
27:15
April 19, 2021
57. What's actually blocking you from your fullest expression
57. What's actually blocking you from your fullest expression
Pain pushes until vision pulls...Michael Beckwith Do you often think that there is something wrong with you because you can't seem to make the necessary habits required to reach your potential? I promise you, there is nothing wrong with you, but like the majority of us, somewhere along your journey, you experienced trauma or pain that caused you to feel unworthy, unsafe, unlovable or broken.  As a response and a protection to that pain, your ego created something called a compensatory strategy.  That strategy is used as a way to compensate for our feelings of insecurity, lack or fear.   We all want to feel safe in the world.  We want to feel loved and know that we have value-so we create these strategies as a means to earn or hustle for our place in the world.   But these strategies will only cause you to feel overwhelmed, sad, angry, resentful and burned out.   Tune into this podcast to learn how some of these strategies might show up in your life and what you can do about them. Key Topics: How high achievement isn't necessarily a good thing. The real reason that you're a people pleaser. The truth of why you might be burned out. What's underneath your loneliness, sadness and blocks.  7 Secrets to Sustainable Success
34:40
April 12, 2021
56. Does 'feeling' scare you?
56. Does 'feeling' scare you?
Are you afraid to be still?  If you do slow down for a moment, what are you afraid of?   For some of you,  being still might feel relatively traumatic.  You may even find yourself bracing, just waiting for the other shoe to drop.   My 'compensatory strategy' in life was to stay busy.  When I was busy, it meant I didn't have to feel.   I was afraid to sit with my feeling because I didn't know how to sit with my feelings.  I didn't even really know what I was feeling.   Today's podcast is all about the compensatory strategies we fall into to feel safe, loved and worthy.  I share in this episode my strategy and share a couple additional ones to help you think about and identify yours.  We all have them-so know that you're not alone.  Key Topics: Why compensatory strategies are what we use to feel seen and worthy in the world. Why so many people are afraid to be still. What compensatory strategies might hold us back from. Further questions for contemplation and reflection to take this podcast deeper. LINKS 7 Secrets of Sustainable Success
21:06
April 05, 2021
55. Why "knowing it all" can block you from your highest potential
55. Why "knowing it all" can block you from your highest potential
Have you ever thought that you’ve done “all the work” or know everything you need to know, but the truth of it deep down is, things still aren’t shifting? I want you to consider a few of these questions: Do you get overwhelmed easily yet have trouble asking for help? Are you hard on yourself? Do you have a fierce inner critic? Do you internalize your feelings? Is it difficult for you to ask for support? Are you in a marriage or relationship where you feel isolated? Do you feel like you are dependent on your partner or you are living according to their dreams and desires more than your own? Are you a people-pleaser? Do you have a hard time making your needs a priority? We can bury ourselves in books, podcasts, workshops and seminars all day, but you aren't embodying and experiencing the work?  You will not ever reach your highest potential.   Until you have an experiential transformation, until we feel it somatically in our body?   IT DOESN'T MEAN ANYTHING!!! This Episodes Key Topics: The David Principle-How the real work is actually about chipping away at what no longer serves you.  Why living in our heads is so dangerous. The Key to true transformation and growth. The #1 most unselfish thing you can do for those you love.  LINKS The 7 Secrets to Sustainable Success
27:03
April 01, 2021
54. What to do when the Inner Critic Strikes
54. What to do when the Inner Critic Strikes
In this episode, I ask you to truly consider allowing the inner critic's voice to be heard, but to meet it with compassion.   What we resist persists so if we judge the critic or ignore it, it will only DEMAND our attention by getting louder.   We all struggle with that internal voice from time to time. This episode will encourage you on days when you find yourself comparing frequently to others, feeling like you come up short, failing at your own expectations,  or just sitting in a pit of pity, to simply take heart. Those are moments of suffering.  Are you being compassionate with yourself?  Or are you allowing the critic to  create a lot of self-beating, guilt and shame in your life.   This episode will encourage you to RINSE your thoughts and feelings, and meet yourself with grace and compassion.   LINKS THE HEALTHY SELFISH FACEBOOK COMMUNITY | FACEBOOK | INSTAGRAM
14:47
March 29, 2021
53. Create a Life You Love with Chantal Cox
53. Create a Life You Love with Chantal Cox
Transformation Coach Chantal Cox joins me on today's episode.   Going through  anxiety and depression at 12 years old, Chantal is now on a mission to  empower motivated professional women who are ready to break free from the bondage of daily stress and anxiety so that they can step into their full potential and Create a Life they Love. Chantal knows what it means to be a high achiever, but struggled with patterns in her relationships.  Eventually this led to her being in an abusive relationship.  Isolated and alone, on her 30th birthday, Chantal decided that it was time for her to create a life she loved.  She didn’t know what that would look like, but she did it one step at a time. You don’t believe the first step she chose and how it shook her right out of her comfort zone.  Chantal wants you to know that it all starts with one step.  It doesn't matter how big or small, if you feel that pull, it's time to take the step. CHANTAL COX | PODCAST | CREATE A LIFE YOU LOVE BOOK | FACEBOOK COMMUNITY | WEBSITE KRISTA RESNICK | WEBSITE | PRIVATE FACEBOOK COMMUNITY |FACEBOOK PAGE | INSTAGRAM
53:30
March 25, 2021
52: 3 Ways to Ditch People Pleasing
52: 3 Ways to Ditch People Pleasing
“Honesty is better than sugar-coated bullshit.” ~  Unknown To all my people pleasers out there, this one is for you.  You will always fail at trying to be everything to everyone. Not only is people pleasing a waste of your precious energy, it also costs you authentic relationships.  Mostly the relationship you have with yourself. Key Topic in this Episode: Two reasons why people pleasing will keep you from living an authentic life. Why re-parenting is the answer to ditching people pleasing. Three really simple and game changing ways to return to who you are so you can leave people pleasing behind and begin to live an authentic life.   Krista Resnick | The Healthy Selfish Private Community | Instagram | Facebook 
31:53
March 22, 2021
51: The Female Fat Solution with Dr. Beth Westie
51: The Female Fat Solution with Dr. Beth Westie
Join me in this episode as I talk to Dr. Beth Westie about all things female health. Dr. Beth Westie is Doctor of Chiropractic, Author, Speaker, Women’s Health & Nutrition Expert. She is the author of the Best Selling book, The Female Fat Solution, the creator of the 12 Week Female Fat Solution Challenge, and the host of The Female Health Solution Podcast. She is on a mission to educate and empower women to learn more about their bodies and uses nutrition to help women work with the natural cycle of their bodies to achieve lasting weight loss results. I love how when Dr. Westie describes the female body, she refers to the fact that each week we are literally a different woman from the week before (due to hormones and how we are wired). This requires us to approach each week differently as we navigate life and fuel our bodies with foods that regulate and flush out hormones that otherwise might be locked into our system. Listen to her podcast to earn more and check out her NEW book “The Female Menopause Solution” at http://www.drbethwestie.com/ Krista Resnick | Healthy Selfish Facebook Community | Instagram |Facebook
57:34
March 18, 2021
 50: Three powerful truths I learned through my rebrand
50: Three powerful truths I learned through my rebrand
We repeat what we don't repair..." Anonymous Before you listen to this episode, you might want to grab a pen and a piece of paper because it if FULL of amazing truTHs. On the surface this episode might appear as though it is all about some little gems I learned through my recent rebrand.  But friends, please lean in..... it is actually so much deeper! What is standing in the way of you truly living your divine assignment?  What is in the way of you making your impact and legacy while you are here on this earth? From my point of view, it is your responsibility to live your best life while you are here on this earth.  However, there are some things blocking you.  In this episode I am going to get really honest about 3 things that were holding me back from moving forward in my business, (and in my life because how we do ANYTHING IS HOW WE DO EVERYTHING) and I have a suspicion, they could be holding you back too. KEY TOPICS: If you're outsourcing your worth, you are not standing in confidence and authenticity Why not being aligned will deplete your energy when it comes to hitting an intention or goal The new paradigm on failing The #1 thing that is keeping you stuck, isolated and lonely. What stops us from doing our own healing work. KRISTA RESNICK | THE SCHOOL OF BADASSERY | PRIVATE FACEBOOK COMMUNITY | INSTAGRAM | LINKEDIN
39:27
March 15, 2021
🎧{TSBA 49}-Are you Selfish?
🎧{TSBA 49}-Are you Selfish?
Are you constantly in a state of pressure and overwhelm?  Tired of the anxiety that keeps you up at night? Friends-it just might be that you need a lesson in prioritizing YOU-I call it the Art of Healthy Selfish. In this episode, you will learn 8 things that it it not selfish to do for yourself and your own wellbeing (and others wellbeing too). Key Topics: Why practicing Healthy Selfish can drastically improve your relationships. How to start paying attention to what drains you. Why packing your calendar with obligation after obligation is NOT a good thing. What really stops us from focusing on our needs. Krista Resnick WEBSITE | INSTAGRAM | FACEBOOK | PRIVATE FACEBOOK COMMUNITY | LINKEDIN  THE SCHOOL OF BADASSERY
22:01
March 08, 2021
🎧{TSBA-48} Rising from the Ashes with Whytli Rogers
🎧{TSBA-48} Rising from the Ashes with Whytli Rogers
Whytli Rogers is a life coach, mental health advocate and survivor or sexual and mental abuse.  She is the podcast host of In the Wake with Whytli and the Co-Founder of End the Stigma foundation.   In this episode, Whytli shares about the trauma she experienced as being a survivor of mental and sexual abuse.  Despite her anxiety,  severe panic attacks, depression and even attempted suicide, Whytli managed to find the resilience, strength and fresh eyes to open her mind and show herself that more was possible for her life.   Through her trauma, Whytli has learned to love herself and truly understand and meet her own needs.  Her experience has awakened her to a passion for speaking up for injustice.  As a coach and mental health advocate, Whytli wants others to know they are not alone.  Her mission is to  help others wake up to self love and healing their own shame and trauma.  You can learn more about Whytli here:  WEBSITE | INSTAGRAM | In the Wake Podcast KRISTA RESNICK WEBSITE | INSTAGRAM | 7 SECRETS CHALLENGE | FACEBOOK
55:02
March 01, 2021
🎧{TSBA 47}-Radical Acceptance
🎧{TSBA 47}-Radical Acceptance
This is an elevated conversation about what real self love looks like. Everything you want comes out of you.  Everything. The career you want, the relationships you crave, the health you desire, the income you want to increase, the social connections you want, comes from you-so the relationship that you have with you better be a good one. In this episode, we are going to take a look at what it means to really honor yourself and honor your worth.  Because it is one of the most misunderstood mis-used terms in personal growth and healing.   Why? Because truly, actively, loving yourself is your super-power. Krista Resnick | WEBSITE | INSTAGRAM | FACEBOOK | PRIVATE FACEBOOK COMMUNITY THE SELFISH BADASS ASSESSMENT
32:19
February 22, 2021
🎧 {TSBA 46} Rising From The Ashes With Wendy Holloway
🎧 {TSBA 46} Rising From The Ashes With Wendy Holloway
Have you ever felt like you were grinding out a 9-5 that "wasn't quite you?" Do you struggle to know what you want to DO with your life? Can you really DO anything you want, anytime in your life????  My guest today Wendy Holloway believes you can. Wendy was a vice president for a major American bank.  One might say, "she had it ALL." However, there was something bigger inside her that she was dying to share.    Listen to this episode as Wendy shares her highs and her lows of her life  journey and what brought her to begin to follow the "energetic breadcrumbs" of her greater vision in life.  Her interview will inspire you and leave you encouraged to find your way out of the dark as we all can be there sometimes.  KEY TOPICS: How the dark blessings of your past can give you key wisdom to bring into your future. Why being patient with ourselves is so important during growth and transitions. How we can rely on one another in times of need The best thing you can do to get out of a funk.  Why following the energetic breadcrumbs will always take you down the "right path." Featured Links THE SCHOOL OF BADASSERY Wendy Holloway | WEBSITE | FACEBOOK | INSTAGRAM | THE FLAVOR OF ITALY PODCAST | LINKEDIN Krista Resnick | WEBSITE | FACEBOOK | PRIVATE FACEBOOK COMMUNITY | INSTAGRAM | LINKEDIN
48:41
February 15, 2021
🎧{TSBA 45}-Understanding your Intuition With Victoria Shaw
🎧{TSBA 45}-Understanding your Intuition With Victoria Shaw
"Intuition is your communication with your higher self."   Victoria Shaw is Licensed Professional Counselor and Spiritual Coach who combines her background and training in psychology and counseling with her intuitive gifts to help clients heal, grow and realize their spiritual and full personal potential. She has always been incredibly intuitive, but lost her intense connection to it when she lived in the busy and hustle of  NYC.  In this show, Victoria talks about how she reconnects with her intuition and will help you  do the same. You are intuitive whether you believe you are or not.  We are all spiritual beings living in a physical body and that means-YOU ARE INTUITIVE! KEY TOPICS The difference between intuition and mind. How to use your intuition to make a decision. How trauma can affect being connected with our intuition. Easy tips to get you started connected with your intuition LINKS FROM SHOW: THE SELFISH BADASS ASSESSMENT VICTORIA SHAW | WEBSITE | FACEBOOK |INSTAGRAM | LINKEDIN KRISTA RESNICK | WEBSITE |FACEBOOK |INSTAGRAM |LINKEDIN |PRIVATE FACEBOOK COMMUNITY
52:01
February 08, 2021
🎧 { TSBA 44}-Knowing you're enough with Tiffany
🎧 { TSBA 44}-Knowing you're enough with Tiffany
Insecurity and low self worth can be extremely painful and blinds us from seeing who we truly are. Believe it or not we are not born insecure, we become that way.  We live in a world where we believe that we must people please, perfect and perform in order to be seen and loved.  This is a pattern developed in childhood based on the beliefs we accumulate when people are critical of us or we feel judged in some way. We live in a world, where most people are pretty hard on themselves and it leaks into people being hard on other people.   People who have judged or criticized you aren’t bad people, they probably are extremely critical and judgmental of themselves.  The bottom line of all this is that when we commit to doing the internal work and get the help and support we need to grow our ‘insides’ we begin to act differently on the outside. Confidence doesn’t always come from adding more things to our ever growing to do list and taking more action.  It often comes from dropping into massive self acceptance and compassion by dropping our internal negative chatter, and learning to really love ourselves just as we are RIGHT NOW. There is no such thing as perfect.  You can totally release yourself from even trying to reach it from today forward.    You can accept yourself right now, as you are today.  You don’t have to make your love for yourself conditional anymore.  You are with yourself all day everyday-so the relationship you have with yourself matters. Today’s caller Tiffany is taking a huge step toward building her confidence.  So much of this came from her childhood years and her relationship with her father.  Tiffany’s father chose to give up his rights to her when she was just a child.  This caused her to buy into the belief that “Hey, if my own Dad doesn’t want me, obviously I’m not enough.”  Tiffany started to believe that she was in some way defective and that altering herself in some way (her pattern was proving), would somehow allow her to feel seen, heard and loved. When we don’t receive the love and acceptance we need as children from our childhood, it can leave wounds that run deep. But Tiffany is learning that building confidence is as much about what you stop doing rather than always what you start doing. Get curious about your life.  Look around and ask yourself…”what am I attracting into my life?” without self blame or criticism.  Only notice.  What is currently in your environment is there to serve you and teach you. Listen to my session with Tiffany as she learns to build her confidence and security in herself and her choices. If you want to be coached on The Selfish Badass Podcast, please fill out the following form HERE Links mentioned in the show The School of Badassery Let's Get Social  |  INSTAGRAM | FACEBOOK | LINKEDIN | PRIVATE FACEBOOK COMMUNITY WEBSITE
51:11
January 25, 2021
🎧{TSBA 43}-Rising from the Ashes with Lynn Lambrecht
🎧{TSBA 43}-Rising from the Ashes with Lynn Lambrecht
Lynn Lambrecht is a fun loving and vibrant soul who squeezes what she can out of everyday life.   At age 37, she noticed that her eyes “felt funny” when I was living and working in China  Lynn came back to the US, and scheduled an appointment with her  childhood ophthalmologist. He discovered extremely high eye pressure in both eyes and told me I had glaucoma and worried she had acute glaucoma that would lead to blindness.  Lynn's immediate reaction was that she wanted to see a sunrise and sunset in each of the 7 continents by age 55.  Did she do it?  You'll have to tune in to find out. Key Topics: The strengths that Lynn relied on to get her through that challenging time What this "dark blessing" revealed to Lynn. Why what you focus on matters. How you need to be an advocate for yourself.   LYNN'S LAMBRECHT | WEBSITE| INSTAGRAM | FACEBOOK | LINKEDIN  KRISTA RESNICK | WEBSITE | INSTAGRAM | FACEBOOK | LINKEDIN  THE SELFISH BADASS ASSESSMENT |  THE SELFISH BADASS PRIVATE FACEBOOK COMMUNITY-JOIN US!
49:37
January 18, 2021
🎧{TSBA 42}-Overcoming Imposter Syndrome
🎧{TSBA 42}-Overcoming Imposter Syndrome
I have written 11 books but each time I think ‘Uh-oh, they’re going to find out now. I’ve run a game on everybody, and they’re going to find me out.’ —Maya Angelou Laura Honeycutt is a sought-after speaker, teacher and leadership expert on a mission to put more women in the powerful leadership positions they deserve by unleashing their power.  She excelled in a 25-year career in the cutthroat world of elite advertising agencies, despite navigating a system of bias against women while carrying a fierce case of imposter syndrome. Stressed out and burned out, she knew there was something more, and so she turned to a transformational coach to finally break through the thoughts and behaviors that kept her from everything she wanted. Now, Laura helps the world’s badasses fiercely believe in themselves, define success on their own terms, and kick ass in their careers and lives. And....she's my business bestie-so I know personally, she kicks ass! Laura and I talk about what exactly imposter syndrome is and how it can show up for you.   She gets real and lets you have a peak into her own battle with imposter syndrome that started at a very young age.  Raised as a pastor's daughter, Laura found herself changing schools often trying to fit in with her classmates.  She battled a constant sense of needing to change who she was and became dependent on others to define her worth.   Laura and I discuss the impact that imposter syndrome can have on your life-the suffering that it creates and how it plagues many successful driven leaders.   What you'll learn from this episode: Clues to evaluate whether or not you have imposter syndrome You are the biggest 'thing' in your way-Your mindset and what you believe about yourself is the only thing blocking you from success. Laura’s number one tip to start to build your self worth and begin to celebrate yourself. Links mentioned in the Episode  Laura Honeycutt | WEBSITE | Instagram | Facebook | LinkedIn | Facebook group Krista Resnick | Website | Instagram | Facebook|  Join my private free community-The Selfish Badass Movement Made for This Group Coaching Program
47:03
January 11, 2021
🎧{TSBA 41}-6 Reasons Women Lose Touch With Their Dreams
🎧{TSBA 41}-6 Reasons Women Lose Touch With Their Dreams
"Dreams are as an inspiring picture of the future that energizes your mind, will, and emotions, empowering you to do everything you can to achieve it."~ John C. Maxwell It’s that time of year once again….a fresh calendar, new beginnings, and an open heart ready to flush out some new dreams for the new year. I believe that everyone has a dream.  Some people are thrilled to be able to share theirs openly and honestly, while others seem to shy away.  It’s almost as if they are terrified or embarrassed to talk about their dream. After working with hundreds of clients and students, I have noticed there are certain themes that run between those who have lost touch with their dreams.  If you’ve lost touch with your dream, given up hope or never really connected with it, perhaps it will help you to learn about the top five reasons that people have trouble identifying their dreams. KEY TOPICS COVERED: GIVING YOURSELF PERMISSION TO DREAM HOW DISAPPOINTMENT CAN BLOCK YOU WHAT FAILURE REALLY MEANS WHY MEDIOCRITY WILL KILL ALL DREAMS LINKS IN SHOW: Clear & Kind Vision Planning Party
25:49
January 08, 2021
🎧{TSBA 40} -Believing Big with Tracy Litt
🎧{TSBA 40} -Believing Big with Tracy Litt
Tracy is a spiritual advisor and mindset teacher to women leaders and entrepreneurs, a  highly sought after keynote speaker, and international best-selling author. She teaches visionary women leaders and entrepreneurs to rise in all aspects of themselves. Tracy's work is guided by the core principle that we are the root cause of everything we experience and therefore we are only ever one choice away from altering our life and results. She is the creator of Choice Work, a powerful and practical methodology that dramatically elevates prosperity, happiness, and fulfillment - one choice at a time. Tracy and I dive deep into what is really required to believe big and achieve all your dreams. KEY TOPICS: Tracy’s biggest wake up moment why are we so hesitant to believe big? What it actually looks like to give yourself permission to dream The truth behind why community is VITAL to your growth and expansion. What you can't want different and stay the same. 3 things you can do immediately to start loving yourself well and manifesting your dreams. LINKS FACEBOOK | INSTAGRAM | YOU TUBE | LINKEDIN | TRACY'S NEWSLETTER TRACY'S BOOK -WORTHY HUMAN Want clarity around your dreams?  Download my FREE Assessment HERE Hang with me in my private free facebook community FACEBOOK | INSTAGRAM | LINKEDIN  TOLERATIONS PODCAST  EPISODE ONE EPISODE TWO EPISODE THREE EPISODE FOUR EPISODE FIVE Bronnie Ware~Five Regrets of the Dying
01:01:24
December 28, 2020
🎧{TSBA 39}-BONUS POD-7 Steps for RADICAL Self Care Through the Holidays
🎧{TSBA 39}-BONUS POD-7 Steps for RADICAL Self Care Through the Holidays
We’ve all heard it a million times ...It's the most wonderful time of the year.   But with to-do lists 3 miles long, a calendar packed with making merry, holiday programs and all the traditions we “HAVE” to keep, it can often feel like anything BUT the most wonderful time of the year. The holidays are intended for connection and magical moments.  For time to gather together and celebrate.  However, we find ourselves hustling and bustling, buying and consuming, and throwing our sleep and exercise to the curb in order to squeeze it all in. It’s a recipe for burnout, stress and anxiety!!! This episode provides 7 really powerful tips to help you stay on point not only during the holidays, but really in life all the time.   KEY TOPICS Tips to get clarity around what you actually want during the holiday season. The dangers of not getting your proper sleep. How to really feel your feelings. What not being present to life will really cost you. LINKS: MADE FOR THIS-my 10 week Group Coaching Program
36:58
December 18, 2020
🎧{TSBA 38} Unlearning Success & Communication With Cachet Prescott
🎧{TSBA 38} Unlearning Success & Communication With Cachet Prescott
Unlearning isn't easy and takes a lot of courage in today's world.   We are taught that success is supposed to look like a certain way,  or feel a certain way  or sound a certain way.    Society is really good at telling us who we should be, how we should operate in life, and what success is supposed to look like as a woman. Because of this faulty idea of success, my guest today Cachet Prescott went on a journey to over-achieve and prove herself.   She checked every box she could in an attempt to be seen.  Cachet was in her mid thirties, feeling lost and as though she didn't have her own identity.   Cachet overly identified with her work and when her work didn’t work out-her identity was challenged.  With three degrees, she found herself in a place where she felt unhappy and unsatisfied. Our cultures glamorizes the idea of busy and achievement.  This learning of...success ONLY looks like this, can keep us stuck at breakneck speed, missing all the moments and opportunities that really matter.  It can keep us in a cycle of overwhelm, exhaustion and burn out.   Cachet Prescott is a shift talker whose superpower lies in helping others be intentional, responsible and accountable for how they show up and move in the world. A social scientist by training and a part-time faculty member in Psychology, she founded Shift Matters, a space dedicated to making shift happen: shifting thoughts, perspectives, actions, words and habits to move others from where they are to where they want to be. Listen in today as Cachet and I talk about UnLearning Success and UnLearning Communication-two extraordinary concepts that can hold us back from deeper connection, presence and our true dreams.   Now matter where you're at right now in life,  you can create a major turnaround by downloading The Selfish Badass Assessment.  This is a powerful tool designed to help you gain clarity around what's holding you back from creating a life you love.  If you're looking for more profit, productivity or passion in 2021 then this assessment is for you.   What you'll learn from this episode" Cachet's definition of success  How you can follow the energetic breadcrumbs in your life to uncover your passion. How you can incorporate IRA into your life-INTENTIONAL. RESPONSIBLE.  ACCOUNTABLE. Several awesome questions you can ask yourself to create your own definition of success.   How to not live with regret.  Why unlearning the way we were taught to communicate is so important.  The greatest tool you can use to be a better communicator-and it's free! How to be a more assertive communicator. Tips for recognizing what your "crazy cycle" looks like when communicating. Featured on the Show: Want more passion, productivity and profit in 2021?  Download The Selfish Badass Assessment HERE CACHET PRESCOTT~ UnLearning Podcast  Let's get social!  INSTAGRAM Join my Facebook Community for High Achieving Leaders/Professionals here The School of Badassery
01:09:54
December 14, 2020
🎧{TSBA 37}-5 Ways to make Healthy Selfish a Spiritual Practice PT.2
🎧{TSBA 37}-5 Ways to make Healthy Selfish a Spiritual Practice PT.2
The constant striving to achieve goals created by our current corporate culture, family demands, and overwhelming school and beauty standards have depleted our spark and vitality. Because running toward someone else’s goals makes us forget our own. And even when we achieve what we “should” want, it’s never satisfying because it wasn’t what we truly desired in the first place. It’s time for us to become the exquisite caretakers of our own desires. And that means getting selfish. Today's show is all about the top 5 ways you can make selfishness a spiritual practice What you'll learn from this episode: Understanding the Power of Visualization The Power in using the word NO. Why support is such an massive component to putting healthy selfish into practice. The easiest and fastest way to tune into what your soul needs. Let's connect! THE SELFISH BADASS PRIVATE COMMUNITY THE 7 SECRETS OF SUSTAINABLE SUCCESS FACEBOOK INSTAGRAM WEBSITE Got a question or want to share a takeaway from the show-please reach out to kristaresnickcoaching@gmail.com
20:59
December 07, 2020
🎧{TSBA 36}-The Art of Healthy Selfish-learning to prioritize YOU!  PT. 1
🎧{TSBA 36}-The Art of Healthy Selfish-learning to prioritize YOU! PT. 1
In today's episode, we are going to unpack what it really means to become healthy-selfish.  Everyone is selfish (yes, even you). But selfishness can be either unhealthy or healthy. "Healthy selfish," as I like to call it, can be thought of also as self-love. Most of us have been taught to think selfishness is a bad quality — and it certainly can be.  But what is also NOT acceptable or  admirable is to neglect mental, emotional and physical well-being, and to live in the world with stress, resentment and a lack of joy.  It is nothing short of unacceptable to contort yourself into a pretzel-you know, when you’re trying to be all things to all people. What you'll learn from this episode: The two types of selfishness and how you can practice healthy selfish to establish real self care and keep from burning out. The dangers of people pleasing Why healthy selfish can be an integral part of your spiritual practice. The real reason why women are afraid to stop people pleasing. Links mentioned in the show: THE 7 SECRETS TO SUSTAINABLE SUCCESS THE SELFISH BADASS COMMUNITY FACEBOOK INSTAGRAM WEBSITE Got a question or want to share a takeaway from the show?  Feel free to reach out at kristaresnickcoaching@gmail.com
29:40
December 01, 2020
 🎧 {TSBA 35}-For the love of money.... a conversation with Tamar Hermes about wealth, success and healing your money story.
🎧 {TSBA 35}-For the love of money.... a conversation with Tamar Hermes about wealth, success and healing your money story.
"Being in your power as a woman means honoring your right to have money."~ Tamar Hermes Money is such a beautiful thing.  It affords us the right to be free, the right to serve yourself, your family, and contribute to others. Yet so many women have limiting stories and narratives when it comes to believing that they themselves deserve to have wealth.   Before you dive into today's episode consider: Why don't women believe they deserve more? Why is money is seen as evil? Why can women fall into a trap that people with money are bad and spend their lives struggling over having enough? Why don't women honor creating wealth as sacred and powerful? You are going to love my guest today Tamar Hermes, full-time Real Estate Investor, educator, and money coach.  She is the CEO of Wealth Warrior Woman, where she guides women to become financially free through Real Estate Investing and creating an empowering relationship to money.   Tamar grew up poor as the child of a Holocaust survivor and believes your past does not define your future.  She wants all women to realize their potential for wealth and is passionate about supporting women to release the ties that bind them over money. Join me and Tamar to get advice on how to get ahead with it comes to your financial IQ and start making choices about what your relationship with money is going to be. Connect with Tamar  WEBSITE | FACEBOOK | INSTAGRAM Connect with Krista WEBSITE | INSTAGRAM | THE SELFISH BADASS COMMUNITY | FACEBOOK THE SCHOOL OF BADASSERY Are you looking to smash your goals in 2021?  Check out my new Assessment to gain clarity on  what's holding you back HERE Two books I love about money The Soul of Money by Lynne Twist The Illusion of Money by Kyle Cease Money, A love story by Kate Northrup
46:13
November 16, 2020
🎧{TSBA 34}- Releasing energetic & emotional blocks through BreathWork with Vaughn Pierro
🎧{TSBA 34}- Releasing energetic & emotional blocks through BreathWork with Vaughn Pierro
"Oxygen is medicine moving through the body." ~Vaughn Pierro Vaughn Pierro was brought into this world as an empathic soul.  She felt a lot of emotion, and everyone's emotion.  It was normal for Vaughn to cry at a McDonald's commercial.  Because of that, people didn't always understand her and she was made fun of.  As a result, Vaughn began to tuck parts of her away that she deemed unacceptable.  She stuffed and shoved her emotions and the very thing that was her gift. Suppressing emotion can lead to a whole slew of health problems which is exactly what Vaughn experienced.  When she found herself at a personal development retreat, she took her very first breathwork session and was blown away by what she experienced.  She felt her body, her energy, her emotions for the first time in years.   tune in this week at Vaughn and I discuss the power of the breath and how crucial and medicinal it can be to aligning with your highest self.   If you want to claim your seat in The School of Badassery, (where yes, you will receive a free 90 breathwork session with Vaughn), you can claim you spot HERE.  This month we are also discussing the topic of Mindfulness and Presence-imagine going into the holidays feeling peace and calm instead of frazzl