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The Sober Gay

The Sober Gay

By Dillan Gay
Two friends, Dillan and Aubrey, sit down and talk about their sober lives. Hopefully this podcast can give you some insight to the wonderful world of sobriety in the LGBT+ community.
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Emotion
Dillan and Aubrey discuss ever changing emotions in sobriety.
22:22
June 03, 2022
Forget Me Not
Dillan and Aubrey discuss replacing our addictions.  This episode is brought to you by MoodyBootyApparel.com ; use code SOBERGAY10 at checkout to save 10% off your purchase!
26:27
April 19, 2022
Jealousy VS Envy
Dillan and Aubrey discuss jealousy VS envy and how it applies to sobriety. This episode is brought to you by MoodyBootyApparel.com ; use code SOBERGAY10 at checkout to save 10% off your purchase!
25:16
April 10, 2022
Not Like Other Sober Girls
Dillan and Aubrey discuss being "terminally unique" and what that means in sobriety. This episode is brought to you by MoodyBootyApparel.com ; use code SOBERGAY10 at checkout to save 10% off your purchase!
23:38
March 15, 2022
Sober Cat's Meow
Dillan and Aubrey catch up and chat about kittens, school, and getting angry at work.
22:11
February 24, 2022
Drunk Ego
Dillan and Aubrey discuss narcissism and alcoholism.
21:41
February 07, 2022
Family Portrait
Dillan and Aubrey discuss family relationships in sobriety.  Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast; Visit BetterHelp.com/thesobergay for 10% off your first month!  thesobergay.com 
23:43
January 14, 2022
Gay Anon with Steve Bennet-Martin
Dillan talks to the host of gA.y A. Steve Bennet-Martin. Listen to gA.y A.  thesobergay.com 
18:28
December 21, 2021
Higher Power
Dillan and Aubrey discuss the idea of a higher power in sobriety.  thesobergay.com 
24:47
December 14, 2021
Don't Ask, We Tell: Part 2
Dillan and Aubrey continue last weeks conversation and ask each other more questions. Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast; Visit BetterHelp.com/thesobergay for 10% off your first month! thesobergay.com
30:27
December 06, 2021
Don't Ask, We Tell
Dillan and Aubrey catch up and ask each other random questions.
32:40
November 28, 2021
Cancel Culture Vulture
Dillan and Aubrey discuss cancel culture and its relation to sobriety.   This podcast is sponsored by BetterHelp. Visit betterhelp.com/thesobergay to save 10% off your first month!   thesobergay.com  
25:10
November 14, 2021
Don't You Know That You're Toxic
Dillan and Aubrey discuss poisoning the mind and body.   thesobergay.com  
28:22
November 08, 2021
Word Salad
Dillan and Aubrey catch up.  thesobergay.com 
22:13
October 24, 2021
Sex: Shaken Not Slurred
Dillan and Aubrey talk about their sex drives in sobriety.  thesobergay.com 
23:34
October 17, 2021
We're Gonna Be Alright
Dillan and Aubrey discuss the different stages and phases of sobriety.
19:40
October 10, 2021
Sobriety Is The New Pink
Dillan and Aubrey discuss sobriety getting popular in the mainstream.  thesobergay.com 
18:51
October 03, 2021
Hitting Rock Middle with Maurice
Dillan introduces and talks to Maurice about his drinking past.  @more_reace on instagram  thesobergay.com 
26:05
September 26, 2021
Death Becomes Us
Dillan and Aubrey discuss the fear of death and how it ties to sobriety.   thesobergay.com
19:46
September 19, 2021
Free Your Mind
Dillan and Aubrey discuss meditation in sobriety. thesobergay.com
20:25
September 12, 2021
Healing The Inner Child
Dillan and Aubrey discuss a listener submission about being transgender in recovery and healing the inner child.
27:30
September 05, 2021
Sober Holiday
Dillan and Aubrey discuss traveling and read a heartfelt letter from a listener.
23:41
August 29, 2021
Something To Talk About
Dillan and Aubrey catch up and read listener submissions.
22:36
August 14, 2021
Capitalism, Media, and THC
Dillan and Aubrey discuss some of sobriety's controversial topics.
25:40
July 30, 2021
Power of Self
Dillan and Aubrey discuss self love and inner work.
20:14
July 11, 2021
A Sober Gay's Guide with Jessica Jeboult
Dillan talks to Jessica Jeboult from A Sober Girls Guide. asobergirlsguide.com thesobergay.com
44:18
June 25, 2021
Good Grief!
Dillan and Aubrey discuss grieving. 
16:50
June 17, 2021
Wedding Season
Dillan and Aubrey discuss Dillan's week of multiple weddings.
20:57
May 28, 2021
Talk That Sober Talk
Dillan and Aubrey chat and read listener submissions.
22:02
May 11, 2021
Who Is The Imposter?
Dillan and Aubrey discuss imposter syndrome.
20:02
April 28, 2021
It's Not Just The Alcohol
Dillan and Aubrey discuss why they drank.
22:37
April 08, 2021
Speak It, Don't Drink It
Dillan and Aubrey discuss manifesting in sobriety.
18:02
March 23, 2021
Sobriety Shaming
Dillan and Aubrey discuss people shaming people in sobriety.
17:40
March 07, 2021
I Keep On Fallin'
Dillan and Aubrey discuss falling into old ways.
25:10
February 26, 2021
Part 2: Healthy VS Unhealthy Sober Outlets
Dillan and Aubrey discuss healthy and unhealthy sober outlets. Part two of two.
22:22
February 19, 2021
Part 1: Healthy VS Unhealthy Sober Outlets
Dillan and Aubrey discuss and rate different sober outlets. Part one of two.
22:47
February 12, 2021
Sober VS 'Never Had A Drink'
Dillan and Aubrey discuss getting sober versus never having drank at all. 
18:01
January 31, 2021
Dreaming Of You Tonight
Dillan and Aubrey discuss drinking/using in dreams.
18:02
January 14, 2021
Sober VS Drunk
Dillan and Aubrey create and play a new game of sober facts VS drunk questions! 
31:34
January 01, 2021
Sober Is Sexy with Tawny Lara
Dillan and Tawny talk about sex, mocktails, and early sobriety. Check out Tawny Lara: instagram @tawnymlara Blog: SobrieTeaParty.com Podcast: Recovery Rocks
20:24
December 21, 2020
Sweet Little Lies
Dillan and Aubrey discuss all the lies associated with drinking.
18:25
December 16, 2020
Wild Thoughts
Dillan and Aubrey discuss intrusive thoughts.
22:33
December 06, 2020
Honest Tea
Dillan and Aubrey read some listener submissions.
22:30
November 29, 2020
S E X
Dillan and Aubrey talk about sober and drunk sex.
17:46
November 18, 2020
In The Closet
Dillan and Aubrey discuss all the times they hid their drinking.
19:54
November 07, 2020
White (Rainbow) Flag
Dillan and Aubrey discuss asking for HELP!
20:34
October 31, 2020
Halloween Special: Spooky Drunk Stories
Dillan and Aubrey talk about some dark times. Trigger warning for discussions of sexual assault.
26:42
October 15, 2020
Last Call, Girl!
Dillan and Aubrey discuss their last time getting drunk.
18:17
October 04, 2020
FOMO Homo
Dillan and Aubrey discuss FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out) and events they are scared to be left out of.
21:28
September 26, 2020
Labor Day Weekend Blowout Sale!
Dillan and Aubrey catch up and talk about Labor Day and other drinking holidays.
27:16
September 09, 2020
Scared Sober
Dillan and Aubrey discuss FEAR.
22:02
August 12, 2020
This Is The Part Where We Break Free
Dillan and Aubrey talk about routines in our lives before and after drinking.
21:40
August 06, 2020
Oops! You Think I'm In Love
Dillan and Aubrey discuss relationships
17:57
July 20, 2020
Fame, Fortune, and Sobriety
Dillan and Aubrey discuss sober celebs!
29:03
July 08, 2020
Spendin' All Ya Money On Me
Dillan and Aubrey sit down to talk about sober versus drunk finances. 
20:03
June 25, 2020
Hungry. Angry. Lonely. Tired.
Dillan and Aubrey discuss all their temptations and triggers being sober. 
24:30
May 25, 2020
Blackout
Most alcoholics have experienced the dreaded blackout. We don't remember anything from the night before. Why does it happen? 
09:59
May 24, 2020
Not Your Father's AA
Dillan sits down with his friend Aubrey to discuss mock-tails and modern sobriety.
21:44
May 19, 2020
The Resourceful Episode
In this episode, I discuss some of my favorite sober resources. From Podcasts to books, I name my tops.
08:04
May 18, 2020
Hello
Get to know your host, Dillan, in this introductory episode.
11:47
May 17, 2020