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The Value of Wrinkles

The Value of Wrinkles

By Isabel
A light-hearted podcast hosted by Isabel Tom, author, speaker, and forever grandchild. This podcast is an offshoot of Isabel's book The Value of Wrinkle: A Young Perspective on How Loving the Old Will Change Your Life.

Come explore how to love the older generation (and ourselves more).
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Ep 19: Dick Miller, 86, Friendship Through Running

The Value of Wrinkles

Ep 19: Dick Miller, 86, Friendship Through Running

The Value of Wrinkles

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Ep 22: Kay Lam, 78, + My 5-yr-old, A New Friend Through Sign Language
A full transcript is included for today's podcast episode at isabeltom.com/listen. Click on Episode 22 to get the full transcript. A special thanks to Kay Lam for sharing her story with The Value of Wrinkles podcast.  In today’s episode you’ll get to meet Kay Lam, who is an Asian American 78-year-old who is also deaf. She has become a source of courage for this mom and my little guy. In fact because of sign language, my son has made friends with Kay. Sign language brought us together and I am so thankful! . Enroll in my Prepare to Care digital course at isabeltom.com/course.  Website: Isabeltom.com Book: The Value of Wrinkles: A Young Perspective on How Loving the Old Will Change Your Life! Available wherever books are sold. 
13:52
May 25, 2022
Ep 21 - Betty Mills, 79, Clean During Commercials
In today’s episode: You get to meet Betty Mills and learn about the things she enjoys doing Betty tell us she doesn’t really care about housekeeping anymore. Hear how Betty’s family ended up getting a TV (it has to do with royalty!) Get two practical tips about cleaning (1. Clean during the commercials + 2. Learn to clean thoroughly.) Resources mentioned: Prepare to Care Digital Course (Introductory Rate still available) The Value of Wrinkles episode 2 - How to Amplify the Voice of an Older Person in Your Life What you can do: Ask your parents and grandparents questions. Jog their memories. When you hear their story, you give them a voice! Check out Episode 2 for more on how to amplify the voice of an older person. Website: isabeltom.com Instagram: @isabelctom
13:28
March 31, 2022
Ep 20 - How to Ensure Your Aging Parent Gets The Best
You're noticing that things are not as easy as they once were for your parent or older loved one. Are you starting to think about how you will care for them as they age? This episode is short and sweet and shares two ways you can ensure your loved one gets the best.  How can you ensure your aging parents gets the best?  1.  Don’t leave it for last minute – When you leave anything to last minute, it doesn’t usually turn out well. 2.  Don’t depend on a service - Sending your loved one to an assisted living facility is not the answer to everything. If you want to learn more about how you can prepare to care for your older loved one, then check out my NEW digital course called Prepare to Care: What to Do While Your Older Loved One is Still Healthy. Check it out HERE.  *If you are an employer or part of a faith community, I am offering this course to our group at a discounted price, so reach out so that you can offer this to more people!  Book: https://www.amazon.com/Value-Wrinkles-Perspective-Loving-Change/dp/0802419534 Website: isabeltom.com
10:54
March 08, 2022
Ep 19: Dick Miller, 86, Friendship Through Running
Today, I'm announcing a practical resources. This online course for caregivers is something I'll be launching in the coming month! Sign up for my email list at isabeltom.com to find out RIGHT when it comes out!  For this first episode of 2022, it's all about running. And if you've read my book... at least up to Chapter 8, Old is Healthy, you know, you know that I tell running stories and I love running stories. Sharing Dick Miller and his presidential race story on today's episode in hopes of inspiring you to develop a habit of exercise this year!  Book: https://www.amazon.com/Value-Wrinkles-Perspective-Loving-Change/dp/0802419534 Website: isabeltom.com
11:40
January 07, 2022
Ep 18 - Loving our grandparents and parents with FOOD
Just say FOOD and the people will come. I think we all know that there are actually SIX love languages out there and the 6th one…it cannot be forgotten. If perhaps your parent or grandparent isn’t fazed by the gifts or the compliments you’ve been giving.. well, then I’m glad you’re here because today you may have found your secret weapon. FOOD my friends is the way to warm your grandparent or parent up.. it will be the way to reach their heart and get the message through that you CARE. OKAY.. episode 18 is one to remember. Highlights: Today I'm featuring some of the members from WinterGrowth Adult Day Program! Check out Episode 12 - The Five Love Languages + Receiving Gifts when they were also featured! How we can use food as a great topic for conversation How we can bless with food Resources mentioned: WinterGrowth Adult Day Program (located in Columbia and Olney, MD). Adult Daycare is a service that engages and provides rich social connections for those who may need assistance or supervision during the day. To find out more about adult day centers, visit https://eldercare.acl.gov/public/resources/factsheets/adult_day_care.aspx. The Silver Post (a product I'm now an affiliate for!). Buy a year subscription for $45 and check out what I think they're awesome. Read The Value of Wrinkles by Isabel Tom - https://www.isabeltom.com/the-value-of-wrinkles-3/ Isabeltom.com/listen @isabelctom
18:22
December 09, 2021
Ep 17 (Thanksgiving edition) - How to Find Gratitude When You're Not Feeling It
You may know you have many things you should be grateful for, but inside you may not be feeling. Today’s episode includes FOUR tips to get out of that space. Check out the full episode show notes at isabeltom.com/listen. Also, this CYBER MONDAY, The Value of Wrinkles will be 50% at Moody Publishers. Get the deal at https://bit.ly/32qj0BN. 
10:46
November 24, 2021
Ep 16 - The Five Love Languages + Physical Touch
An apple a day they say keeps the doctor away… could a hug do the same? According to The Greater Good Science Center at the University of California, Berkeley, hugs can help improve sleep, our reactivity to stress, increases our physical and emotional well-being, and it can even help us fight off infections. Yes, physical touch is another unique and powerful way that we can value the older people in our lives. And that is exactly what we’ll talk about today in episode 16. For show notes, go to isabeltom.com/listen. 
13:24
November 10, 2021
Ep 15 - Cecille Valoria, 60, Filipino Greetings and Flowers
Today's episode covers: How does Asian culture pass down the value of respecting the elderly? How can you pass that value on even if you're not Asian? Listen to Cecille Valoria's story to how she learned to respect the elderly. Hear about the organization that Cecille started called Flowers for Elders. Info about today's guest, Cecille Valoria: Buy her book: Slaying Your Fear Giants: Moving from a Jungle of Terror to a Garden of Peace  Connect with Cecille at https://cecillevaloria.com/ Need guidance on how to love your grandparent or aging parent? Grab a copy of my book, The Value of Wrinkles: A Young Perspective on How Loving the Old Will Change Your Life. ** Note that there are affiliate links on this page. This means I may receive a small compensation if you make a purchase.
14:29
October 21, 2021
Ep 14 - The 5 Love Languages + Acts of Service
Today's episode I talk about Yeye, my paternal grandpa, and what I learned about acts of service. In today's episode, I discuss: The word "burden" and how it affects how we love someone through acts of service. How grandchildren and those who are NOT primary caregivers are in a position to show the older person how valuable they are. Why one woman was sad when her adult children came over and she always had a list for them. a plethora of ways you can serve the older person in your life. How Lucy (@lucygoesadventuring) who I met on Instagram serves her grandparents (LOVE this idea and how she still serves her grandparents from a distance). For the list of 20+ ideas on how to love your grandparent/older friend, go to isabeltom.com/listen and click on episode 14. 
17:20
October 04, 2021
Ep 13 - Jon Arensen, 76, Both Hyenas + Parkinson's
Today's featured guest is someone who has a life FULL adventure. Though he and his wife now live with Parkinson's disease, he is using his gift of storytelling to give hope to those who have Parkinson's disease. His book, Lions on the Prowl: Living with Parkinson's is not simply a story to educate, but one that encourages as well. I hearing Jon tell a story. His gift of storytelling and his passion for Africa and wildlife shines through. Listen to episode and you will know what I mean! What is Parkinson's disease? "Parkinson’s disease (PD) is a type of movement disorder that can affect the ability to perform common, daily activities. It is a chronic and progressive disease, meaning that the symptoms become worse over time. It is characterized by its most common of motor symptoms—tremors (a form of rhythmic shaking), stiffness or rigidity of the muscles, and slowness of movement (called bradykinesia), but also manifests in non-motor symptoms including sleep problems, constipation, anxiety, depression, and fatigue, among others, " (taken from https://www.apdaparkinson.org). Get Lions on the Prowl: Living with Parkinson's Buy Lions on the Prowl: Living with Parkinson's disease HERE. Read the book already? Write an Amazon review to support Jon. The more reviews a book has, the more people it can reach (that's with all the Amazon algorithms. Yes! Follow Jon on Facebook at https://www.facebook.com/JonArensenAuthor/. Want to send Jon a message? Listen to the episode to learn how or contact me on my contact page. I want you to have my book. And on sale! If you want to bless your grandparents or even your aging parents, grab a copy of my book, The Value of Wrinkles: A Young Perspective on How Loving the Old Will Change Your Life. Visit isabeltom.com and scroll to the bottom to sign up to receive 7 Questions to Spark Conversations with an Older Person!
15:56
September 17, 2021
Ep 12 - The 5 Love Languages + Receiving Gifts
"What is one gift you will never forget? A special thanks to the attendees at WinterGrowth Adult Day Program sent in some great responses. Today we chat about gifts and how they can be a powerful way to love an older person. Gifts can be especially helpful in four situations: When you have a difficult relationship/baggage When you don't know the older person that well  When you're not in a good spot emotionally or mentally to have meaningful conversations (medical school, motherhood, health issues of your own) When you don't speak the same language (maybe our grandparent speaks Chinese and you don't speak a lick) In this episode, Isabel also shares 5 gifts ideas for an older family member or friend.  Resources: Find out about WinterGrowth Adult Day Program and WinterGrowth Assisted Living/Memory Care at https://www.wintergrowthinc.org.  *Special thanks to WinterGrowth for sending in these great responses!
15:26
September 02, 2021
Ep 11 - BreAna, 28, Alzheimer’s + Grandma Zelma
BreAna Moss graciously shares a memory she had years ago with her Grandma Zelma. Grandma Zelma had Alzheimer’s and was one of the two powerful forces that influenced BreAna to study Gerontology in college. Whether you have a loved one who has Alzheimer’s or are just curious to learn more, stay tuned. Today, I want to give you a peek into BreAna Moss’s story. Organizations and Educational Institutions: Erickson School of Aging, Management of Aging Services program, https://erickson.umbc.edu Leading Age, https://leadingage.org Resources/books: Alzheimer’s Association, https://www.alz.org/alzheimers-dementia/what-is-alzheimers Enough About Me by Richard Lui Keeping Love Alive While Memory Fades by Dr. Gary Chapman, Dr. Edward Shaw, and Deborah Barr Check out The Value of Wrinkles to hear my story of how I found a career path in the aging services/senior care field. Amazon, and wherever you find books. Or request at your local library! Isabeltom.com for more. 
14:00
August 19, 2021
Ep 10 - The 5 Love Languages + Quality Time
Have you ever hung out with someone and gotten annoyed because they weren’t really paying attention? Sometimes, we can spend time with someone without giving them your attention. We can love our older family and friends on a low budget and even from a distance. Listen to today's episode for more insightt. 3 Ways to spend quality time with a grandparent/aging parent: Do an activity together (listen to the story I share about Grandma Joy and Brad)  Listen intently - Don't give advice. Let them vent. Engage in quality conversation - When you ask them you honor them. If you are a grandchild and perhaps not the primary caregiver, one HUGE way you can improve the older person's health is to fill their emotional love tank THROUGH quality time. Listen to the rest of the episode to find out how. Grab a copy of my book, The Value of Wrinkles: A Young Perspective on How Loving the Old Will Change Your Life. Learn how to submit an audio clip of your older friend/family member by visiting https://www.isabeltom.com/2021/05/04/podcastsubmission/, ** Note that there are affiliate links on this page. This means I may receive compensation if someone purchases these items.
14:27
August 07, 2021
Ep 9 - Sarah, 32, Weddings + Grandparents
How do you involve grandparents in special occasions like weddings? July is the month of weddings, so listen in for a fun and sweet story of how one grandchild, Sarah Nord, included her grandparents on her special day. In today's episode: Meet Sarah Nord, who is 32, is an occupational therapist, a world traveler, a hiker. She has a cat and loves tiny houses! Hear about how she included her grandparents on her most special day. Learn how I failed as a flower girl. I'll share whether I think intergenerational living is really the best way to care for our seniors. I'll share with you one resource that I recently found that allows us to involve our older loved on special occasions. Connect with Sarah: Website: Sensoryfordementia.com Instagram: @sensoryfordementia FB: @ sensoryfordementia Check out the educational programs Sarah programs nationwide. Wondering how you can bless older people in your life or community? Grab a copy of my book, The Value of Wrinkles: A Young Perspective on How Loving the Old Will Change Your Life. Learn about EVENTLIVE, a userfriendly streaming service I found super helpful. Check it out here. ** Note that there are affiliate links on this page. This means I may receive compensation if someone purchases these items. Find out more about today's episode at isabeltom.com/listen  Submit an audio clip of your older family member or friend - https://www.isabeltom.com/2021/05/04/podcastsubmission/.
16:44
July 28, 2021
Ep 8 - The 5 Love Languages + Words of Affirmation
Want to love the older generation but just don't know how? In today's episode we'll give you plenty of ways that you can encourage an older person. In today's episode: Why older people need more words Ask when was the last time they received a compliment? Learn the one phrase reminds older people of their true value. "I'm so glad to see you!" Shared a story on the podcast. Ask your grandparent/aging parent this question - What do you wish younger people knew about aging? Consider submitting an audio clip to be featured on the show! Submission info at https://www.isabeltom.com/2021/05/04/podcastsubmission/.  For more info about today's episode visit isabeltom.com/listen.
18:22
July 13, 2021
Ep 7 - Annie, 31, Sister Power
In today's episode, we get to hear from Annie and the impact that two sisters have had on her life. Dot + Ellie as some special ladies. In today's episode: Meet Annie MacIntyre, who is 31, loves gardening and fostering dogs! Hear about the impact that two sisters had on her life. Dot + Ellie were 2 of 7 kids, so hear what Annie shares about that. I'll also share how sibling conflict is something to think about when you care for aging parents. Annie has started a senior companion service called Dot + Ellie in Maynard, Massachusetts. www.dotandellie.com. Learn more about today's episode at isabeltom.com/listen and find out how to feature your older loved one on the show!
12:24
June 30, 2021
Episode 6 - 5 Ways to Love Older Family + Friends
Have you seen an older person struggling with life and wanted so bad to help? What can I do to help? Well, in the next few episodes, I’m going so practical and going to give you a framework to help you figure out how you can bless an older friends, family member or neighbor. I'm using Dr. Gary Chapman's book called The Five Love Languages as a framework. You'll be able to use this in the future anytime you want to bless an older family or friend. In today's episode: Hear about what Dr. Chapman said directly to me when I was a guest on his show. Find out what COVID has done to improve the way we relate to older family & friends. What we forget when it comes to relationships. Info about Dr. Gary Chapman: Read The Five Love Languages at 5lovelanguages.com.  Listen to Building Relationships with Dr. Gary Chapman and my recent guest interview from June 2021.  Wondering how you can bless older people in your life or community? Grab a copy of my book, The Value of Wrinkles: A Young Perspective on How Loving the Old Will Change Your Life.
08:53
June 16, 2021
Ep 5 - Jane, 65, When You Feel Small
Today I want you to hear from someone who is older. While friends my age are a must-have, having friends who are older, is something that I believe is healthy for us. Healthy? Like quinoa, squash, and fish? YES having older people in your life is a healthy habit. Listen in today as we hear from my friend Jane Daly who gives us a thought that you won’t just jot down, but that you’ll want to print out and remember forever. In today's episode, find out... Find out what someone told Jane Daly when she felt small compared to her older brothers. Hear about TWO types of people I've observed and which type of person I want to be as I get older. Learn about Jane's first piece of fiction that is coming out June 21st, 2021. Congrats! Info about Jane: Visit her site at https://janesdaly.com/about-the-author/. Read Jane's book about caring for aging parents called The Caregiving Season. Find it HERE. Read Jane's new fiction book that is coming out JUNE 2021, The Girl in the Cardboard Box. Find it HERE. Wondering how you can bless older people in your life or community? Grab a copy of my book, The Value of Wrinkles: A Young Perspective on How Loving the Old Will Change Your Life. Learn how a senior you know could be featured on The Value of Wrinkles podcast HERE. 
07:37
June 11, 2021
Ep 4 - Your Next Birthday
Do you dread getting older? Maybe you feel behind in life. Maybe you feel you’ve lost your adventurous side. Maybe you feel like life is getting more boring or you’re slowing down. Or life is veering in a direction you really don’t’ want it to go. If so, today’s episode is for you! What my mom told me on my 16th birthday Celebrate your LIFE, the chance to grow, meet new people, try new things, etc.  How I decided to be a life giver on my bday Gift yourself a copy of The Value of Wrinkles for your next birthday. Find out more at https://www.isabeltom.com/the-value-of-wrinkles-3/.  Calling for your submissions - Record an insight from your grandparent/parent/older friend that could be featured on a future episode. Find out more 
10:27
June 02, 2021
Ep 3 - Linda. 30s, Asian Grandmas
In light of Asian American Heritage Month and in memory of Grandma and all her friends, I'm sharing lessons learned from an Asian grandma. Linda, who is in her mid-30s, sheds light on how not all grandmas are the same.  Today's episode will cover things my friend has learned from her grandma: dealing with bullies thoughts on marriage  red envelopes Submit your story: Submit a story on why you love the older generation by recording a 3 minute audio clip and emailing me at thevalueofwrinkles@gmail.com. Let your story be proof that the older generation matters.  Engage your grandparent/aging parent: Record a piece of advice or insight about life when they were younger. Then share it with me. For more info, click here.  Want to show an older person you care? Grab the book The Value of Wrinkles: A Young Perspective on How Loving the Old Will Change Your Life.
07:45
May 24, 2021
Ep 2 - How to amplify the voice of an older person
How can you value the older people around you more? Listen to today's episode to learn how. Use this episode that will give you a practical way to honor an older friend/family member or senior living community.  What happens when we ask older people questions?  1. We empower them to share their expertise  2. We show them that there are people who really care and want to listen to their thoughts. 3. We get them talking and hear stories you probably never heard. Ask your grandparent/aging parent/older friend a question. And submit an audio clip to be featured on this podcast! Submission Guidelines  - https://www.isabeltom.com/2021/05/04/podcastsubmission/ DM me on Instagram @isabelctom Follow me on FB www.facebook.com/thevalueofwrinkles 
12:24
May 21, 2021
Ep 1 - What is there to celebrate?
Welcome to EPISODE 1 of The Value of Wrinkles podcast. Talking holidays/celebrations and how Older Americans Months has some issues! Listen in!
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