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Thoughts on Thoughts

Thoughts on Thoughts

By Kristjana Reid, Taylor Thomas, Jessica Miller
Thoughts on Thoughts is a podcast for people looking to be more self aware, have healthier relationships and to be more fulfilled in life. The podcast is hosted by three therapists who want to share things that they have taught their clients and also things they have put to use themselves that have enriched their lives and made them healthier people. They also hope to have a little fun along the way so if that's what you're looking for, this is the place for you.
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Physical Intimacy in Relationships with Chelsea Petersen, LMFT
Is sex ever just about sex? We find out in this episode when we talk with Chelsea Petersen about physical intimacy in relationships. Chelsea is a licensed marriage and family therapist and the founder of Cache Valley Counseling. She has worked extensively with couples for over a decade, helping them navigate disconnection and intimacy issues. Chelsea is definitely an expert on this topic and we hope you enjoy listening to our conversation with her! Don't forget to check out our romantic relationships course: Follow along on social media for more free tips! Instagram- Facebook- Twitter-
March 29, 2021
Q&A- Setting Boundaries With In-Laws, How To Become A Therapist & What To Do When Your Kids Make You Go #$*&%!!
Alright, here is another round of Q&A where we answer your submitted questions! We cover some boundary setting, how we became therapists and answer some questions about what to do after you yell at your kids & how to cope with parenting woes. This one is hopefully packed with helpful information for you. Enjoy! Don't forget to check out our romantic relationships course: Follow along on social media for more free tips! Instagram- Facebook- Twitter-
March 22, 2021
Caregiver Fatigue
Caregivers are an often overlooked group of people but a group we feel like needs a lot of support, especially where mental health is concerned. In our conversation we discuss how caregiver fatigue is different than burnout and how we can best support the caregivers that we know. If you are a caregiver yourself, tune in to hear some thoughts on how you can take care of yourself and navigate dealing with mixed emotions (like experiencing relief and grief at the same time).  Don't forget to check out our romantic relationships course: Follow along on social media for more free tips! Instagram- Facebook- Twitter-
March 15, 2021
For Those Who Want To Be In A Relationship But Aren't
In this episode we talk about a subject that many of our clients are deal with and that we have also dealt with personally- wanting to be in a relationship but you just aren't right now. We talk about how to navigate this time and how a shift in perspective may bring some relief. This topic is close to our hearts and we hope you resonate with our conversation about it! Don't forget to check out our romantic relationships course: Follow along on social media for more free tips! Instagram- Facebook- Twitter-
March 8, 2021
The Pandemic Traumaversary
Traumaversaries, anniversaries of trauma, can be difficult to navigate. We are coming up on a traumaversary that we all collectively share with the anniversary of the pandemic and the start of quarantine that we experienced last year. In this episode, we discuss what you may notice in the upcoming weeks as far as an increase in symptoms. Our bodies remember how things felt for us even if our minds have numbed us to some things. It's a fascinating (and difficult) thing to experience so we want you to know what to look out for! Don't forget to check out our romantic relationships course: Follow along on social media for more free tips! Instagram- Facebook- Twitter-
March 1, 2021
Q&A- How to Find a Therapist, Shame Cycles, Dealing with Narcissists & Broken Trust in Relationships
In this episode we answer some questions submitted by listeners and they are great questions! We talk about how you can go about finding a therapist, how to break out of shaming your kids, dealing with narcissists and more. If you ever have questions you want answered you can write us at  Don't forget to check out our romantic relationships course: Follow along on social media for more free tips! Instagram- Facebook- Twitter-
February 22, 2021
The Connection Between Money & Mental Health with Matt Erickson
Join us in this conversation with Matt Erickson, a licensed therapist and finance hobbyist, as we talk about mental health and money! Just in time for tax season right? We discuss how family of origin can greatly impact spending habits, how to navigate money issues in relationships and how to keep your approach to finances (and life) simple. We love hearing some of Matt's financial tips throughout the episode and feel like everyone has something they can learn from him!  You can learn more from Matt on his Podcast "Simple Money, Simple Life": Apple Podcasts: Spotify: IG:
February 15, 2021
The Psychology of True Crime
Let's be honest...many of us enjoy dabbling in a good true crime podcast or documentary. Or maybe you're past dabbling and you are a full on enthusiast. Well we are about to help you level up to being an expert in the psychology of true crime! In this episode you'll hear us talk about the mental health diagnoses of a number of serial killers, how their diagnoses manifested in their crimes, and the difference between a psychopath and sociopath. Enjoy!
February 8, 2021
Our Favorite Coping Strategies
In our first episode of the year we are sharing all of our favorite coping strategies! These are our tried and true methods for coping ahead and coping with big emotions in the moment. We talk everything from reality TV to time blocking and Jessica really embraces her running joke about microwaved water. Tune in to get all of the tea on how the three of us have coped over the last year!  Don't forget to check out our romantic relationships course: Follow along on social media for more free tips! Instagram- Facebook- Twitter-
February 1, 2021
The 2020 Edition Of What To Do When The Holidays Are Hard
In this episode we answer your questions about how to navigate some difficult situations this holiday season. We talk about boundary setting with family members, the comparison trap, the stress of creating magic for the kids when we don't feel the magic this holiday season and so much more! We hope this episode helps you in your situation and that you find comfort in knowing that you are not alone if this holiday season has felt particularly difficult.  In other news... we created a relationship course! This course is perfect for anyone wanting their romantic relationship to be more resilient and is a great gift for family or friends- especially engaged couples! We cover everything from attachment to emotional labor to physical and emotional intimacy and so much more. We packed this course full of everything we wish we (and our clients) had known in our dating lives, early marriage and beyond. Save 40% on the course from now until January 1st with code SAVE40 at checkout.  Check out the course through this link:
December 21, 2020
Mental Health Real Talk with Madi Murphy of The Bad Broadcast
In this week's episode we talk about very important topics like marriage therapy, toxic positivity and the most underrated Disney movie. Our guest, Madi Murphy, is so endearing and open about mental health topics and we know you will love her as much as we do! We definitely recommend checking out Madi's podcast, The Bad Broadcast, as well as her social media (all linked below) if you are looking for some comedic content, feel good content and the best comfy clothing recommendations out there. Thanks for joining us Madi! Madi's Podcast: Madi's IG:
December 10, 2020
A Quick Tip for Changing Your Thoughts
In this episode Jessica explains a quick cognitive behavioral therapy technique that can help you change your thoughts. This can be a powerful tool for getting you out of negative thinking patterns and moving towards a healthy mindset shift. Give it a try!  Follow along on social media for more free tips! Instagram- Facebook- Twitter-
December 4, 2020
A Minimalist Approach to Holiday Gift Giving
If you're feeling a bit overwhelmed with gift giving this season tune in to hear all our tips for keeping things minimal and stress free! We like to keep things simple for the holidays because it helps eliminate decision fatigue and keep us focusing on connection rather than consumerism. If you aren't minimal about the holidays NO WORRIES! Live your best life- we all know we need to just do what makes us feel great this holiday season! Enjoy! Follow along on social media for more free tips! Instagram- Facebook- Twitter-
November 26, 2020
Answering Your ?'s About Panic Attacks, Parenting, Sex & Welding?
We've taken a two month hiatus from recording new episodes to work on an exciting project we hope to have finished soon. But in the words of Jessica, "We are back and better than ever!" In this episode we answer some questions you sent to us about difficult parenting situations, managing panic attacks, issues with marital sex and more. We even learned something new about Taylor that was quite intriguing. Enjoy! Follow along on social media for more free tips! Instagram- Facebook- Twitter-
November 12, 2020
Navigating Tragedy Through Therapy with Jordin Seamons
Tragedy struck Jordin's life just 18 months ago when her husband was killed when they were in a car crash. Jordin talks with us about how she has navigated all of the trauma, dark days and heartbreak that has come as a result of losing her husband and now raising their daughter as a single parent. You can tell from listening to Jordin that she truly owns her story and has done so much hard work in therapy. She is honestly incredible and we want to thank her so much for sharing her insight with us. We hope you will resonate with Jordin as she shares her message about how therapy has played a big roll in her healing. *Disclaimer: We apologize for the sound issue in this episode. It happens sometimes and we did not want to record this again because the authenticity and vulnerability that Jordin brought to the table with this is so powerful even with the sound problems. Thank you for understanding. Follow along on social media for more free tips! Instagram- Facebook- Twitter-
September 2, 2020
Understanding the Anxious-Avoidant Relationship Trap
What happens if you struggle with avoidant attachment and your partner has anxious attachment (or vice versa)? We see this type of relationship often and it does not have to keep you trapped. In this episode we talk about the difficulties of navigating this type of relationship dynamic, how to work on this with your partner and ultimately how you can heal! Tune in to hear some insight on what to do if you have found yourself in this kind of relationship.  Follow along on social media for more free tips! Instagram- Facebook- Twitter-
August 17, 2020
How to Heal an Avoidant Attachment
We are continuing our series on attachment styles with this episode! We discuss how to identify if you have an avoidant attachment style, how that may manifest in your relationships and ultimately how to heal this insecure attachment style. Avoidant attachment can cause disconnection in relationships but if individuals with this style can lean into the discomfort they feel about needing other people, they can hopefully heal and be more connected to those they love. Follow along on social media for more free tips! Instagram- Facebook- Twitter-
August 4, 2020
What You Need to Know About Human Trafficking with Rachel Curtis Vinck
Human trafficking is not a new problem but this massive issue that is affecting the lives of so many in the world is finally getting more attention. In this episode we talk with Rachel Curtis Vinck to gain some insight on what we need to know about human trafficking, what we can do to stay safe and manage our anxiety and how to help fight against trafficking. Rachel has worked in anti-human trafficking with the International Rescue Committee and has helped many victims of labor and sex trafficking. Rachel is very knowledgable on this topic and her insight is very helpful. We hope you find our conversation with her as enlightening as we did!  Follow along on social media for more free tips! Instagram- Facebook- Twitter-
July 30, 2020
How to Heal an Anxious Attachment Style
In this episode we talk about what it looks like to have an anxious attachment style. Many of us may lean towards this attachment style if we have had attachment "injuries" in the past. We talk about what this can look like in a relationship and what you can specifically do to heal this insecure attachment style. The great thing about attachment styles is that they can shift so don't give up!    Follow along on social media for more free tips! Instagram- Facebook- Twitter-
July 21, 2020
How to Have Secure Attachment in Your Relationships
Attachment theory suggests that a secure attachment style is formed through genetics, parenting and life experiences. If you currently struggle with insecure attachment in your relationships, fear not! The beauty of attachment is that your style can shift over time- we can heal insecure attachment styles and become more secure. Tune in to this episode to learn about what you can do to become more securely attached to those you love!   Follow along on social media for more free tips! Instagram- Facebook- Twitter-
June 29, 2020
What You Need to Know About Antidepressants with Dr. Kyle Smith
Have you ever wanted to understand the science behind antidepressants and anti anxiety medications? Tune in and learn from our guest Dr. Kyle Smith. Kyle Smith, MD is a Family Medicine Physician in Sacramento California. He completed medical school at the University of California in Irvine and Residency at Sutter Sacramento. He has a special interest in psychopharmacology and commonly cares for patients with anxiety, depression and other mental health disorders. He provides a detailed description of what you can expect when you go into your primary care providers office inquiring about medications.  From what medications are available to what side effects you can expect, he offers a compassionate and informative interview.
June 23, 2020
The Power of the Word "And": Holding Conflicting Emotions Together
Have you ever felt conflicting emotions and felt shame around that? An example would be feeling immense grief and yet also feeling relief when a loved one passes on after a long battle with cancer. In this episode we break down how we can shift our thinking and give space to multiple emotions at once. We can feel mixed emotions about our life circumstances- it's okay! Tune in as we break this concept down and talk about the power of using the word "and" as we navigate our emotions. 
June 8, 2020
Coping with Anxiety Post Quarantine
Things are slowly starting to open up in some places so what does that mean for managing anxiety that may come with that? In this episode we discuss how to cope with the changes that are happening, how to have boundaries and how to cope with the actions of other people who may not have the same views on things as you do. Taylor also shares about a rough encounter she had in public recently and we talk about how she dealt with the situation. We hope her sharing her experience and our dialogue around it will be a helpful final quarantine chat for you!
June 1, 2020
What it's Like Being Married to a Therapist
In this episode we turn our microphones over to our husbands! While this may have been a questionable decision, we feel like they did a great job talking about what it's like being married to us (therapists), their marriage tips and what it has been like for each of them with making the transition into fatherhood. We hope you enjoy this quarantine chat!   Follow us on social media for more free tips: Instagram- Facebook- Twitter-
May 19, 2020
Connecting with Your Child Through Play with Cristi Dame
On this episode we talk with Cristi Dame, a licensed professional counselor, about how parents can connect with their children through play. Cristi talks with us about some of the challenges parents face when it comes to playing with their children and shares tips on what parents can do to interact with their children during play in a way that can strengthen the relationship. She shares how to conduct special play sessions that can foster a deeper relationship between parents and their children. We know you will learn so much from Cristi because she presents these concepts in a way that is not overwhelming and is very doable!  If you would like to learn more from Cristi after listening to this episode, she has created a 30 minute course, "Purposeful Play" that goes more in depth into the basics of play therapy so that you can conduct special play sessions with your children. The course can be found through the link below and you can use the code FREE to get it at no cost. We highly recommend this resource that Cristi has put together for parents!  Free Mini Course You can also find more helpful information from Cristi on her Instagram, The Playful Nest. Cristi's mini course is based on the Child-Parent Relationship Training course through the Center for Play Therapy that was established by Dr. Garry Landreth. More information on that can be found through the link below.
May 12, 2020
Coping with Anxiety Through Goal Setting with Miriem Boss
In this episode we chat with Miriem Boss about her philosophy on goal setting and how it can ultimately help with managing anxiety. Miriem coaches real estate agents on goal setting and has now branched out to helping other people through teaching classes on goal setting and journaling as she has found her process to be very helpful for herself and others. Tune into this episode if you are feeling a bit out of touch with the goals you have set for the year and if you would like to learn how goal setting can actually help you manage some anxiety. Thank you Miriem! You can find out more about Miriem and her goal setting classes here: Miriem Boss
May 4, 2020
Meal Planning and Intuitive Eating with Danielle Billat
In this quarantine chat, we are joined by Danielle Billlat who is a registered dietitian nutritionist with a master's in dietetic administration. Danielle gives us a roadmap for a low maintenance approach to meal planning. We also discuss how to avoid shame surrounding food at this time when things seem a bit off from the norm and we may not be eating as we typically would if we could go to the store on a more frequent basis. We love this chat with Danielle and hope you will as well! 
April 24, 2020
A Deep Dive Into the Psyches of "Frozen" Characters
Has Disney's new hit "Frozen 2" been playing in your house on repeat during quarantine? In this quarantine chat we talk about the characters in the movie and how the movie is full of psychological food for thought. We discuss the movie's themes of attachment, trauma and healing and what we can learn from each of the characters. We hope that this conversation will help you talk to your kids about some lessons that can be learned from the movie or just help you make some connections to your own life experiences.    Follow us on social media for more free tips: Instagram- Facebook- Twitter-
April 20, 2020
How to Win the Morning with Justin Reid
In this Quarantine Chat we talk with Justin Reid about his morning routine. Justin has worked hard the past few years to create structure at the beginning of his day by gearing his routine to support his physical, mental and spiritual health. We talk about how during this time in quarantine it may be especially beneficial to start off the day with structure to help us feel more in control since so much feels out of our control currently. We really enjoyed learning from Justin and feel motivated after speaking to him to make a conscious effort to #winthemorning !  You can find Justin's podcast "Morning Thoughts" through this link:
April 16, 2020
My Experience with Having Coronavirus with Chad Arnett
We're kicking off our series of "Quarantine Chats" by talking with Chad Arnett who was recently diagnosed with Coronavirus. Chad talks with us about his experience and how the virus has impacted his physical and mental well-being. Chad shares amazing insight as to how he has managed his anxiety throughout his experience and shares some very helpful strategies for how you can do this as well if you are currently struggling with everything going on. We found this chat to be very enlightening and hope you will as well! 
April 14, 2020
Coping With A Worldwide Pandemic?!
Welcome back to season 2 of the podcast! In this episode we discuss some coping strategies you can implement to help navigate anxiety that may be stemming from what is currently going on in the world with COVID-19. We know this is an uncertain and anxiety ridden time for many and we want to give you the support that we can. We share how to do an Emotional Check-In with others so that you can support those around you and also get the support you need. We also answer some questions that some of you recently submitted in regards to how to cope with what is currently going on.  In the episode we mention KJ's recent IGTV on bilateral stiumlation as a way to help cope with anxiety. You can find that video on her IG account- @kjlreid Follow us on social media for more free tips: Instagram- Facebook- Twitter-
April 2, 2020
Coping with a Loved One Having a Chronic Illness with KJ
In KJ’s home growing up, she was the only child. The favorite-unless you are including the cats. As a result of being the only kid around, she has a close relationship with both of her parents. In this episode, KJ shares what it was like growing up as an only child in a home with a sick parent. KJ’s dad was diagnosed with MS when she was a young girl, and it shaped her family in many ways. This pushed KJ to grow in new ways and develop coping skills that weren’t always healthy. She shares how she is now moving towards connection as a way of healing.
February 24, 2020
Finding Connection in Grief with Taylor
Taylor’s family changed in life-altering ways when she was a young child, a teen and as an adult. In this episode, Taylor shares how these traumas impacted her childhood, her transition to adulthood and how she handles her life now. Taylor has grown and allowed her trauma to bring her closer to others and increase her trust and attachment to the people who mean the most to her. Taylor has experienced significant pain in this life but has allowed it to change her for the better. You’ll learn so much from the things she learned and discovered while going through difficult things.
February 17, 2020
A Middle Child's Journey to Self-Awareness with Jessica
We decided to do a mini series where we interviewed each other to give a little behind the scenes of who we are as people and as therapists! Hopefully this can give some insight into what led us to becoming therapists and why we are so passionate about creating and sharing this podcast. In this episode we talked with Jessica about her family dynamics, how her birth order and attachment style led to the development of characteristics she has, and her path to being more self aware. We also interviewed Jessica in episode 13 about her experience with infertility and IVF so make sure to give that a listen as well (linked below).  Infertility Episode:
February 6, 2020
Why It's Good To Have Hobbies
Gear up for a chat about why we think it's important to have hobbies for the sake of having them- not for making money or to be the "best" at them! Having a creative outlet for our minds is so important to our mental health and we take a look at why that is. We also find out some of Taylor's hidden talents in this episode and it is truly a delight. Enjoy! 
January 24, 2020
Maintaining a Sense of Self in Motherhood with Megan Tammaro
We are so excited to have Megan join us on the podcast this week! She is a certified life coach who works specifically with moms who have lost themselves in motherhood and with moms who are struggling in postpartum life. In this episode, she talks about her own experience with a difficult transition into motherhood, her postpartum depression and anxiety and how she worked through the struggle to figure out how to still be true to herself while also being a mom. We hope you enjoy hearing our discussion with Megan and are so grateful for her willingness to share her experience with us.  Megan can be found on the internet here:  Instagram:
January 16, 2020
Navigating Relationships With People Who Play The Victim
We've likely all come across people who play the victim, whether they are coworkers, friends, relatives or maybe even ourselves. People who portray themselves as victims manipulate to get a desired outcome, specifically, to get attention or get some sort of gain from being viewed in this way. Maybe they view the world as being against them to avoid taking responsibility for their own actions. Whatever the case, navigating how to handle relationships with these people can be difficult, so in this episode we suggest some ways that you can go about it. Please note that we are not talking about people who are victims of trauma or tragic events- that is different than living your life with a victim mindset that the world is against you.   Follow us on social media for more free tips: Instagram- Facebook- Twitter-
January 3, 2020
Are you Codependent?
It's time to do a little self-evaluation on your relationships with this episode! In this episode we talk about how to know if you are codependent in any of your relationships or not. Codependency is when someone is excessively reliant on another person for their emotional well-being. This can cause a myriad of problems in relationships and sometimes we don't even know when we are being codependent. Tune into this episode if you want to hear how to identify if you are struggling with this and what to then do if you are!   Follow us on social media for more free tips: Instagram- Facebook- Twitter-
December 13, 2019
Living With Bipolar II Disorder With Genny Hyde
People like Genny Hyde are truly a blessing in the mental health world! Genny is a wife, mother, blogger and mental health advocate (and a true warrior) who gives us an open look at her life of living with Bipolar II Disorder. Bipolar Disorder is a highly stigmatized mental illness that can be hard to truly understand but Genny explains so well what the struggle can really look like. She discusses her experience with being hospitalized, shares about the safety plan, and how she has found a passion for spreading awareness on these topics all while fighting daily for the well-being of herself and her family. We as therapists have been treating people who have Bipolar Disorder for years but Genny truly clarified things for us as well and we did not make it through listening to her speak without shedding some tears and feeling very uplifted. Please tune in and share this episode with those you feel may benefit!  You can find Genny on the internet here: Blog: Instagram:
December 6, 2019
What To Do When The Holidays Are Hard
The holiday season has arrived in all its glory and with it comes great food, family gatherings, gift giving, fun decorations, etc. But sometimes the holidays also bring added stress, comparison, the feelings of grief, stark reminders of loss and the added pressure of needing to live up to the expectations of others. In this episode, we dig into the hard side of the holidays- the side that you won't see often see depicted in movies and the topics not typically  talked about because it's uncomfortable. We decided to talk about these things and share ways you can help yourself cope with some of the painful things that the holidays may bring. We hope this conversation helps you in some way and we here at Thoughts on Thoughts are wishing you all the best this holiday season.    Follow us on social media for more free tips: Instagram- Facebook- Twitter-
November 21, 2019
How to Support Loved Ones Who Struggle With Mental Illness
In this episode we share about what you can do to support the ones you love who are struggling with mental illness. We discuss the importance of making your own mental health a priority and how to approach supporting those who are struggling. We hope you hear something that will help you navigate these situations and we want to thank you for being there for the people in your life who are going through these difficult experiences- it really makes a huge difference.    Follow us on social media for more free tips: Instagram- Facebook- Twitter-
November 4, 2019
Interview With a 9 Year Old: What is Therapy Like For Kids?
In this episode you will be introduced to Laura, a 9-year-old girl who has recently been to therapy to address her anxiety. Laura was struggling with many of the anxious behaviors we talked about in episode 32 on anxiety in children. She was irritable, negative, emotionally sensitive, and was struggling in her family relationships. Through therapy, Laura was able to learn to understand and express her needs and use calming techniques to handle her emotions. Laura will tell you about those things she did and learned in therapy-from the playroom to sandtray to neurofeedback! Tune in for a child’s perspective on going to therapy. It will be helpful for all you parents who are considering therapy for your children, or for kids who are feeling nervous to start therapy!
October 28, 2019
Shifting Our View of Self Care
In this episode we decided to take a deep dive into the topic of self care. It can be easy to get caught up in the commercialization of self care and you probably see it everywhere: "Buy this makeup #selfcare", "Treat yo self", "Time for some retail therapy"! We decided to take a step back from that to discuss how self care really can be doing the things in life that are hard for us. This helps us create a life we don't need to escape from by buying or engaging in activities that help us cope for just a short period of time. We want our self care to help us level up so we can live our best lives! We hope you enjoy this discussion and that you hear some things that you can apply to your own life!    Follow us on social media for more free tips: Instagram- Facebook- Twitter-
October 21, 2019
SAD Meets Hygge- the Art of Celebrating Life & Coziness
The seasons are changing and that means the nights are getting longer and it’s beginning to get cold. This change in seasons can bring with it a change in mood. In this episode we discuss SAD (Seasonal Affective Disorder) and how to treat it. One of the ways we delve into deeply is the Danish concept of Hygge (pronounced hoo-gah). This concept of coziness will bring warmth and light into the bleak winter days ahead. So grab a blanket, get cozy and be prepared to get excited for the upcoming fall and winter seasons!
September 25, 2019
Guided Imagery: Inner Calm
Listen to this guided imagery to help slow down your mind and connect with your body. This relaxation process can help you discover how to ground your body and relax your mind in a way that will allow you to let go of the outside world and find your inner calm. 
September 9, 2019
Parenting Adult Children
When your children leave the nest, as they say, a natural shift in the parent-child dynamic occurs. Some parents struggle with this shift and some embrace it. The parent moves from a role of supporting financially, physically and protecting the child to one of supporting and guiding from afar. In this episode we discuss how you can navigate this shift in a way that will foster connection with your child but will also allow your child to have a newfound independence. If you find this episode helpful please share with those you feel may benefit. Maybe you have a parent or have a child that needs some helpful hints about healthy boundaries...enjoy!
September 3, 2019
Anxiety in Children
This week we are helping you become an expert in childhood anxiety. Anxiety presents differently in children than you might expect. In this episode, we are going to help you understand what anxiety can look like in a child because your child who seems to be angry all the time or struggles to focus may just have anxiety! We then go over some tips and tricks for teaching your child about anxiety and we share how to help them cope with it in a positive way. All kids have some level of anxiety, but if it feels like it is getting out of control then this episode is for you!
August 28, 2019
What's Really Going on with Anxiety
Anxiety is one of the most common mental health disorders and 1 in 3 people will experience anxiety at some point in their lives. We felt it was important to discuss this so that if you or someone you love is experiencing anxiety there can be more understanding of how that may manifest and what you can do about it. In this episode we discuss the diagnostic criteria for being diagnosed with anxiety, it's causes as well as the features of panic attacks and phobias. We also talk about how to get help for anxiety. If you are currently experiencing anxiety, you are not alone! Many people will or are going through this so we hope you find this episode to be helpful!
August 20, 2019
Parenting Adopted Children & Adoption Trauma with Candice Mortensen
Candice Mortensen joins us this week to discuss her family and how they came to be. Prior to adopting her five children, Candice worked as a trauma specialist for children who were adopted! As a result, Candice has had such a unique experience becoming a mother. She has been able to use the knowledge and skills she learned as a therapist to help her children heal from their trauma. Each of the Mortensen’s children came in unique and special ways, but each had their own traumatic history. This trauma effects so much in each of her children’s lives-even a family meal is impacted by this trauma. Through it all, the Mortensens have learned how to love their children more deeply and parent with better intent.  Tune in to learn about parenting adoptive children who have experienced trauma and hear how this family is healing together.
August 15, 2019
Sibling Rivalry
Since the dawn of time, siblings have fought. And compared. And teased. And scratched. And all sorts of other things. We are here to remind you that if your children are struggling to get along-you aren’t alone! This is a common problem and we have several ideas for decreasing the tension in the home and fostering healthy relationships between siblings. We also go over some of the signs that sibling bullying is happening and what you can do to address this problem as well. Siblings can be the best of friends and the worst of enemies but hopefully with these tips they’ll be friends a little more often!
July 18, 2019
Setting Boundaries with Family Members
If you are in a family, chances are you have been in a situation where you felt like you needed to set some boundaries. It's a very common thing but sometimes we can make it scary for ourselves! When it comes to setting boundaries with family members, things can sometimes start to feel a bit complicated and uncomfortable. In this episode we give you some pointers on how to navigate those situations. We talk about how to set boundaries with immediate family and in-laws, what assertive communication looks like and how to know when boundaries do need to be set. 
July 9, 2019
My Adoption Story with JaNae Goodrich
This week we have a special guest-JaNae Goodrich! JaNae was adopted at birth and shares her experiences growing up in a family with six adopted children and how her adoption has shaped her life. She originally had a closed adoption and has recently been on a journey to find her birth parents. This journey has been unbelievable with a few twists! We appreciate JaNae joining us and hope you learn something new about the beauty and love of adoption.
July 3, 2019
Making the Transition from One Child to Two
Adding new children to your family can be difficult on everyone. You lose sleep, your new child is adjusting to the world and your older children's lives change too. They lose time with you, they have to deal with the stress of a new person in their space and they need your help adjusting! In this episode we review ways to help your child adjust from being the only child to adding a sibling. These tips apply to all family changes whether it is adding a newborn or another child through adoption or whether you are going from 1-2 or 6-7! We wish you the best on this part of your parenting journey and know the things in this episode can help! 
June 26, 2019
Part 1: Surviving the Columbine School Shooting, PTSD & Recovery with Laura Hall & Sarah Bush
The Columbine High School Shooting took place in Littleton, Colorado on April 20, 1999. Two of the school's seniors opened fire and killed 12 students and one teacher and left many others wounded. The two students later killed themselves in the high school library where they had taken many lives earlier.  Sarah and Laura, sisters, were students at Columbine High School and survived the shooting. The events of that day left them traumatized. They graciously shared their story with us and in this interview you will hear what they each experienced during the shooting, their experiences with PTSD and their road to recovery.  The sisters are sharing their story to spread awareness about trauma and its effects. They, with other Columbine alumni, have started an organization to help support those who are victims of trauma and to help educate communities on how to respond effectively to traumatic events. You can find out more information about their organization, Rebels for Change, and how you can help by following the link below.  Website: Social Media: @rebelsforchangegroup
June 18, 2019
Part 2: Surviving the Columbine School Shooting, PTSD & Recovery with Laura Hall & Sarah Bush
This is part 2 of the interview with Sarah and Laura about their experience in the Columbine High School Shooting. To find out how you can help support them in their efforts to educate communities about trauma visit the Rebels for Change website.
June 18, 2019
Screens Part 2: Parenting Around Screens
A challenge for parents in recent years has been knowing how to navigate parenting around smart phones, media & electronics. In this episode we break down some important things to be aware of such as apps kids are using, the rating system, and other important parenting pitfalls around media to be aware of. We share some important boundaries that parents can set if their kids have phones and talk about why it is important that we ourselves have boundaries around screens. Our kids are constantly watching and mimicking our behaviors so it is important to set a healthy example. Tune in if you want some practical, straightforward advice on how to parent around screens! 
June 3, 2019
Screens Part 1: A Non-Doomsday Look at Screen Time
Gone are the days of ringing the dinner bell to alert your kids that it's time for you can just have Alexa tell them for you! Things have changed rapidly with the internet becoming mainstream, cell phones replacing landlines and the ability to find the answer to almost anything with a google search bar. So how do we navigate it all? What are the positives of this new world of screens and what are the dangers? This episode is part 1 of our discussion on screens and we talk about how to capitalize on technology to create connection and foster creativity. Screen time is given quite a bad rap in the media these days but we don't feel it has to be so all or nothing. Tune in if you want hear some thoughts on how to get the most benefit possible out of technology for you and your family. 
May 17, 2019
Betrayal Trauma with Ashlynn & Coby Mitchell
Betrayal is when someone close to you violates your trust which can be internalized by your mind and your body as a trauma. We wanted to learn more about betrayal trauma so we asked Ashlynn and Coby Mitchell to join us on the podcast to teach us more about it! We learned so much from them as they talked with us about their personal experiences in their marriage with betrayal trauma, how they have worked towards recovery and what they have learned in the process. They are so easy to relate to and we hope you will appreciate how much they seem to genuinely want to help others by sharing their story. Tune in if you would like to learn more about betrayal trauma, how it manifests and how you can seek help. Please share this episode with anyone you feel may benefit from hearing from this insightful couple!  Resources mentioned in this episode: Ashlynn and Coby's Podcast "The Betrayed, The Addicted and The Expert": Find their website here: Find their social media here for daily insights: I Thought it was Just Me by Brene Brown Facing Heartbreak: Steps to Recovery for Partners of Sex Addicts by Stefanie Carnes Search for a CSAT therapist for specialized help. 
May 9, 2019
Ditch Trash Talking Your Body & other Thoughts on Body Image
The weather is getting warmer so social media is starting to buzz again about how we need to start working on our "summer bods". So it's time to combat that with a discussion on body image! The important thing to remember is that you are in total control of how healthy your body image is because it is directly impacted by your thoughts and actions. In this episode we discuss how to work on getting to a place of respect and acceptance of our bodies and why that is so essential to overall health. Enjoy!
April 26, 2019
EMDR Therapy Explained
EMDR therapy has become more and more common in the therapy world as millions of individuals have experienced relief and healing from it. This episode will give you a closer look at how this type of therapy accesses the brain's natural ability to heal and why it works to help reprocess traumatic events and disturbing memories. EMDR therapy can be a unique, challenging and relieving experience for many and we hope this episode will help you gain a better understanding of it.
April 18, 2019
Boundaries 101
We'll be the first to say that setting healthy boundaries can be really hard and it takes practice! In this episode we discuss how to know when boundaries are needed in a relationship, how to set them, and what to do if the reaction to a boundary being set is not what you were hoping for. Healthy relationships require healthy boundaries so it is important to learn how to do this and we hope our discussion gives you some tips!
April 12, 2019
A Look into Depression
This episode is for anyone who wants to better understand depression-whether you have experienced (or are experiencing) it yourself or know someone who has. We discuss what clinical depression is, and what it isn’t and how to help treat it. We also delve into some ideas for how to support those around you who are struggling with it. While depression can mean so many different things, this episode will help you understand the basics of this diagnosis.
April 5, 2019
Resiliency with Jen Castillo Hurst
In this episode we interview Jen Castillo Hurst, a fellow therapist, about her cancer journey. Jen was diagnosed with Stage 4 Hodgkin’s Lymphoma two years ago just after getting married. She shares her experiences in treatment and how she learned to be resilient through a difficult and scary time in her life. Listen to hear about how to develop resilience in yourself so that you can handle the difficult things that may come in your life.
March 28, 2019
Finding a Therapist & Different Types of Therapy
Finding the right therapist can be a difficult process. In this episode, we give you tips for finding the right fit in your therapist. We will review how to search for a therapist, what qualifications you should be on the lookout for and how to make a change if you don’t feel connected to the therapist you choose. We will also go over some common types of therapy, including some of our favorites that we have seen bring our clients success. Tune in to become an expert on picking the right counselor for you
March 7, 2019
Emotional Labor in Relationships
If you are feeling worn down in some of your relationships it could be because there is an imbalance of emotional labor. Not sure what that is? Listen to this episode as we dig into what it is, how to recognize if there is an imbalance that is causing disconnection in your relationships and then we discuss what you can do about it!
February 21, 2019
Can "decluttering" your mind and your space impact your mental health? We dive into that in this episode as we discuss how minimalism can impact your life and well-being. Enjoy!
February 14, 2019
Infertility & IVF
Join us as we get the chance to hear all the details of someone who used in vitro fertilization to get pregnant. Jessica and her husband Elliott share an honest account of their struggles with infertility, the experience of IVF and how they were each affected by the process. We hope this will help you if you are currently struggling with infertility, know someone who is or just want to know more about it.
February 7, 2019
Debunking the Love Languages & the Anxious-Avoidant Trap
Are you a master at knowing what the love languages are but still struggle with giving and receiving love? Are you still experiencing some disconnect between you and your partner and can't figure out why? Give this episode a listen and maybe it will help you discover what the underlying issues could be!
January 31, 2019
Healthy Habits for the New Year
Join us as we talk about the habits that we have that benefit our mental health! We hope this will give you some ideas of things you could try in your own life to feel a little more grounded. 'Tis the season to make some new habits!
January 9, 2019
Parenting: Your Window of Tolerance
In this episode, we discuss how to handle difficult situations with your kids that may cause you to escalate. We all struggle sometimes to not overreact when we have reached our limit so we discuss how it can be beneficial for children to see their parents experiencing emotions as well.
January 2, 2019
Overcoming Gridlock in Relationships
In this episode we will discuss how to solve unsolvable problems in relationships. Getting past gridlock is possible and we will teach you some techniques to use so that you can do just that!
December 19, 2018
Shame can be a truly painful emotion but it can only have as much power over us as we give it. In this episode we break down shame- what it is, how it differs from other emotions and how we can combat it. If you are looking to be resilient towards shame, give this episode a listen!
December 5, 2018
Parenting: Time-ins & Time-outs
We all need a little support as we help children deal with difficult emotions and behaviors and we hope this episode will help make disciplining your child a more loving experience.
November 28, 2018
In this episode we are discussing the importance of being vulnerable with ourselves and the people in our lives. Join us as we delve into this topic that has enriched our lives and relationships.
November 14, 2018
Parenting: Positive Discipline
Parenting...we all know it can bring a lot of good times, but it can also bring a lot of challenging times. Often the challenging times can come when we are trying to discipline our kids. In this episode we talk about a different approach to parenting that can actually help you attach and connect with your child.
November 7, 2018
Communication Basics
In this episode you'll learn about the basics of active listening, expressing empathy, and how to share your feelings in a vulnerable way.
October 30, 2018
Emotional Awareness
Becoming connected to others requires first becoming connected to ourselves. One of the best ways we can understand our self is through our emotions. In this episode, we will guide you through how to become more emotionally intelligent and self-aware. We will give you tips on how to observe your feelings, feel them fully (rather than distracting ourselves with chocolate and Instagram!) and then use those feelings to connect to the world around you. We’ll help you feel it all!
October 24, 2018
Connection & Attachment: Romantic Relationships Edition
Our attachment style can either make or break our romantic relationships. In this episode, we are discussing what an avoidant, anxious or secure attachment style looks like when we fall in love. The things we discuss here can be applied to dating relationships, marriages and even in close friendships. If you find yourself on the avoidant or anxious end of the spectrum, we will go over some ways that you can move towards that relationship we all want...a secure one!
October 18, 2018
Connection & Attachment: Childhood Edition
A healthy attachment style is a protective factor that allows us to have healthy relationships throughout our lives. Our attachment style begins to develop in childhood through our relationships with our primary caregivers and continues throughout life. In this episode, we explain three different attachment styles: anxious, avoidant and secure. We will teach you the difference between these styles, how to identify them in childhood, and share ideas of how attachment styles can be repaired.
October 8, 2018
Introducing: Thoughts on Thoughts
Welcome! We are your hosts, three therapists who want to tell you the things you really need to know to help you have a healthy relationship with yourself and with those around you. In this mini introduction episode we are going to tell you a bit about us, why we are putting together this podcast and what you can look forward to hearing in our future episodes. If you stick with us through it, you may just found out if we have a blooper reel (full disclosure...we definitely have a blooper reel). Enjoy!
September 29, 2018