Welcome to where amazing things happen. Thriving In Chaos: The Podcast, designed to inspire you to expand your understanding of what it means to truly live your very best authentic life, no matter what. Host Paulette helps women leave behind the turmoil, confusion, and chaos of relationships and divorce. She introduces you to experts in their fields of relationships, marriage, parenting, mind-body wellness, healing and transformation. Each podcast episode focuses on sharing forward-thinking ideas from real life situations. Isn't it time you thrived?
Paulette and Anne go way back. Anne was instrumental in allowing her to access that part of her that had the courage to dig deep, ask the right questions and change her life for the better.
Anne is the creator of Grace Path and Grace Notes. She was a life coach before life coaching was cool.
Anne Barry Jolles is a renowned life coach, award-winning author, TEDx speaker, and creator of Grace TrailⓇ. Blending life experiences and research, Jolles created the Grace Trail and has shared it with tens of thousands as it evolved for over a decade.
The trail has many forms, including an actual trail in Plymouth, MA, virtual trails, workshops, webinars, retreats, and products, and has been featured by Good Housekeeping, NPR, Boston Globe and more. Jolles thrives on helping courageous people take five steps to their best lives through her message of joy, hope, and resiliency.
The Grace Trail is a simple five-step process that starts with gratitude and ends with hope.
By asking and reflecting on the five Grace Trail questions…
Gratitude: What am I grateful for?
Release: What do I need to release to move forward with my life?
Acceptance: What is calling out for acceptance?
Challenge: What is the next challenge of my own choosing?
Embrace: What can I embrace as possible?
You will find that you are walking off your worries and accessing hope and possibility.
Anne explains her personal terrifying journey of despair before she goes on creating the actual, now-famous Grace Trail in Nelson Park in Plymouth, MA by gathering the beach stones, writing the words and questions on them and placing them along a 1-mile trail that thousands have discovered and walked. Now, the Grace Trail has become a global movement, with trails popping up all over the world, including an indigenous reservation in British Columbia and Egypt!
But...hold on, You don’t have to come to Plymouth to walk Grace Trail! You can create your own Trail at your home, work, office, church, hospital, school, senior center, college, recovery center, park, convention center, workshop, backyard or kitchen windowsill. The wonderful thing about the Grace Trail is that it can be adapted to meet the needs and objectives of any group. It can as big or small as it needs to be. As a result, Grace Trails are showing up in the most amazing ways.
A wide range of services are available, including Grace Trail products, keynote speeches, Grace Trail workshops, webinars, fundraising, retreats, installation of permanent Grace Trails, and much more. Grace Trail has been featured by Good Housekeeping, Boston Globe, and NPR. Large-scale Grace Trails (picture hundreds to thousands walking the Grace Trail at the same time) have been run through the Massachusetts Conference for Women, Rose Kennedy Greenway / FIGMENT Festival, Gloria Gemma Breast Cancer Foundation Passport to Survivorship and more. Anne gave a TEDx Talk entitled “Cracking the Grace Code”, which has been viewed over 6,000 times.
Every week, Anne sends out weekly, free messages of hope and possibility to subscribers that are very popular and shareable. Inspirational, fun images are accompanied by relevant messages – hope in 100 words or less! Key takeaway - By asking and reflecting on key questions about the five components of GRACE - Gratitude, Release, Acceptance, Challenge, and Embrace - you will find that you are walking off your worries and accessing hope. A good question can be the beginning of a great adventure. All you have to do is just show up and start walking.
You can find Anne at www.gracetrail.com She will be happy to help you find GRACE in your life towards healing and transformation
Dr. Melanie is a graduate of Life University where she received her Doctorate of Chiropractic degree in 2017. She is an advocate for a natural, holistic approach to patient care. Dr. Melanie emphasizes patient education, giving her patients the confidence to take an active role in their personal journeys to health and wellness. She stresses the importance of whole-body wellness, which includes a properly functioning musculoskeletal, immune and nervous system to achieve optimal health and wellbeing. She is a member of the International Chiropractic Pediatric Association and is Webster Certified. She is a firm believer in promoting wellness in pediatric patients from the very beginning of their lives.
The fact that Melanie trained with Paulette's Chiropractor Martin Rosen in Boston made her feel all that much more at home at her new home here in Georgia. The first thing Paulette did was research to find a chiropractor and made an appointment immediately. She was lucky enough to meet Sam of the Brainery who just opened a location in Serenbe. In no time she felt aches and pains disappear, the tightness in her muscles relieved and lack of range of motion improve. Sam and Melanie confirmed Paulette's firm belief in the healing qualities of chiropractic.
Since 1990 Paulette has been a patient of MD Martin Rosen in Wellesley MA. Marty, as he is affectionately called by his patients, is a master of his practice and Paulette is living proof that healing is more than possible. After a lifetime of dancing and teaching, she had abused her joints, ligaments, and tendons and her back, hips, knees, and feet were constantly aching and painful. Many dancers at the end of class would come to her and comment about the pain they were in or lack of mobility and weakness and she immediately recommended seeing Marty. Marty and his brillance recovered all of them.
But it wasn't until the birth of her first child where 18 hours of labor gave Paulette a severe temporal headache and numbness in her hips. Marty was able to relieve her headache and free her hip joints in just 3 visits. Later she came down with a debilitating case of tinnitus and after visits to numerous eye, ear, nose and throat specialists, it was sacral cranial SOT therapy that allowed the noise and pain to subside enough to alleviate the depression and anxiety the tinnitus produced.
Paulette has first hand witnessed miracle after miracle but you know what? The skeptics are everywhere and the disbelievers and rampant.
Melanie and Paulette discuss the disbelief and the science behind the healing results of chiropractic. If you are a believer you will gain insight and if you are a skeptic you will learn just how the practice heals and works.
Melanie is a native of Ohio and a wife and mother of daughter Sage. If you would like more information about Serene check out www.serenbe.com and her practice The Brainery www.thebraineryATL.com
Paulette and Vicky met last March in Florida at the launch conference of The NADP and it changed everything about how she views the divorce process holistically. Join in this candid conversation to clearly understand how The NADP and coaches like Paulette are changing the stigma and overwhelm involved in the difficult decision-making journey resulting in creating your best life ahead of you.
Vicky Townsend is the co-founder and CEO of National Association of Divorce Professionals, NADP.
Vicky is a former radio executive and CEO of Inspiration University. Vicky, along with her partner Liz Becker designed a company that is dedicated to assist the licensed and certified professionals that help couples through the divorce process, provide better service to their clients. The NADP’s tag line is “because it takes a village” because it takes a village to help clients through this difficult transition.
Vicky and Liz wanted to create an environment so that members can connect with other professionals, and grow their businesses through education, networking and team-building opportunities, and business development. Vicky’s experience in producing high level and highly attended events, as well as creating specialized networking groups, has been instrumental in the development and success of National Association of Divorce Professionals.
Vicky is determined to make lemonade out of the lemons of her own divorce has led her to a path that will change the face of divorce in this country, creating an organization that informs and empowers the professionals that touch on the divorce process to make it a kinder and gentler process for families. Vicky is dedicated to helping those that have a calling to serve divorcing clientele learn more about the process from a holistic point of view so that they can work collaboratively with other professionals to get those clients on their way to a new life with as little collateral damage as possible.
Vicky and the entire team at NADP believe that families can be changed and don’t have to be destroyed. If you feel the same way, the NADP may be for you! There are many legs to the divorce process and the real estate transaction is a very big part of this process. It is her pleasure to work with committed realtors to build their business and their brand in the divorce industry, as the real estate transaction will always need a human touch as families go through this difficult transition.
This industry will not be overcome by the impersonal web, but will need the in-person, wise and educated specialist that this process deserves. Because it takes a village...
CEO National Association of Divorce Professionals
Find out about the benefits of being a member
"criminal law is bad people on good behavior
family law is good people on bad behavior"
Let's change that!
Post Partum Depression is a deep difficult topic and one Kara is well versed in.
Paulette and Kara share the common myths about motherhood, postpartum anxiety and depression and the recovery process.
Kara bravely shares her story and give hope to all women who battle the darkness a way out to experience the joy of motherhood they deserve.
Kara thought at 6 weeks she was well past the time frame of being diagnosed with postpartum anxiety and depression and could not understand why at the 6 month birthday of her son the darkness began...so much so leaving her bed was an enormous undertaking.
She silently uttered "Im pretty sure something wrong with me" but didn't know what to do or where to turn.
She was afraid of being stigmatized and branded a bad or incompetant mother so she tried to be brave and tough it out. She took the advise of her dad and went for walks in nature, she took the advice of her sister and went to yoga, she took the advice of her friends and went out for wine and girls weekends away....but nothing worked.
Join Paulette and Kara for this scary, beautiful and moving of recovery and motherhood.
Kara shares her favorite quote she learned from this experience.
"Just because you don’t see the reason does not mean it’s not there!"
Kara sponsors "Climbing Out Of The Darkness" events annually at www.serembe.com where she lives and can help with more information about hosting one in your area.
IF you or someone you know is struggling with Postpartum anxiety or depression please go to:
Postpartum Support International is an amazing organization that can help!!
Lori Rourk: 7 surgeries of reconstruction Breast Cancer Survivor makes an impact
Lori is a southern bell in every possible angle.
Hostest with the mostest
Successful Interior Designer
And one damn strong firecracker.
Don’t let her perfect hair, nails, makeup, clothing and home fool you for one second. She is a fighter and one strong determined diva.
Join Paulette and Lori for this funny, powerful and inspirational story that is so needed.
So many women feel ashamed of their bodies after breast cancer and they commonly feel as if their body has failed them. Instead Lori took the bull by the horns and changed her perspective.
Lori is shining example of what positivity and courage can do as we embrace adversity in all its forms.
You can find Lori Rourk for support and as a resource for Breast Cancer or her passion of Interior Design at www.lorirourkinteriors.com
Marjorie Scriven AKA Margie Pargie: The Aerial Yoga Goddess Content Magician!!
Margie and Paulette chat real, raw and honest about polyamory, delaying marriage and relationship, nomad life, living in the "far out" land of Maui, being an online social media presence and the
Margie originally from Sarasota FL found yoga after a marathon injury. She later manifested a scholarship for an aerial yoga training and never looked back. She soon opened her own aerial yoga studio and began her social media journey.
But Margie longed to find her independence and yearned to seek a different community. Kundalini yoga resonated with Margie and her brand is growing stronger now that she has landed in the slow chill vortex of "far out" Maui.
Maui is a community of healers but "if you are not Okay being alone, it's not the place for you."
She shares the tools to develop an online presence by sharing from your heart, excavating childhood beliefs and showing up fully, how to cope with putting yourself out there and the haters that come along with the territory, waiting to get involved in a relationship and delaying the societal need to get married and knowing that being together is enough.
Margie is now launching her own TV show and preparing for the WBFF (World Beauty Fitness and Fashion) competition held this November in Miami
You will love her 3 tips to success on line:
Stop prostituting yourself (selling what isn't in alignment with your values)
Get past fear blocks
Dismiss self sabotage
You will find Margie on Instagram: Aerial Yoga Goddess
Christina Caputo Fenton: Addiction is Everywhere!
Addiction does not come in a nice neat package.
To Lead by Example is the best cure for addiction for children.
Yoga was the cherry on top.
Meet Tina: a Boston girl who is significantly making a difference in the lives of so many suffering from addiction.
Tina and Paulette don’t believe in accidents.
They met on a terrible day for Tina in the Scituate Harbor parking lot that changed both of their lives for the better. Tina was standing with her brother with her head buried in her brothers arms still grieving the loss of her sister and now her father too
2014 after the death of her dear father “the rock of the family”
Tina found herself at 27 a single mother having to raise a little boy on her own.
She had to grind it out and work long hours to support herself and her young son and quickly grew a loyal clientele. Tina became a master stylist and colorist and grew the confidence to open her own salon and spa that she named Marilexei hairsalan and spa.
Tina found fitness as a way of dealing with her grief and become a Spinning and fitness instructor.
Tina at the age of 27 knew she had developed an alcohol problem
Needed to make a change
Tina joined a 12 step program and changed her life
Tina continued to attend AA meetings and doing the right thing
She then found the courage to open her own the salon
But it wasn’t until the tragic death of her sister in 2011
Began the "Nicola Maria Foundation" in her dedication to create education, awareness and opportunities to combat opioid addiction that significantly shifted her work and living her life purpose.
So many people crave spirituality and enlightenment.
So many people crave feeling accepted loved.
So many people want to experience moving into the conscious mind.
People will often ask me: “How do I get there?” “How do I find peace?”
Sobriety is a Journey
Yoga is a Journey
Yoga made the 12 steps deeper.
The parallels between them are immeasurable.
Yoga and The Four Desires process forced me to ask the questions, the deep questions, the dark questions of who and what I am and made me dig deep, deeper than I had ever wanted to go.
Tina is changing the stigma of addictions so many suffer in silence.
As a resource for the community please Follow the Nicola Maria Foundation August 18th “Comics for a Cause” on Social Media.
To contact Tina you can find her: www.marilexei.com and www.believeinchange.life
Rosalind Sedacca, CDC
The Voice of Child-Centered Divorce
Divorce & Co-Parenting Coach
Paulette and Rosalind met in March at the NADP conference where Rosalind was a guest panel expert on child centered divorce and parenting.
Rosalinds words of wisdom and clarity hit a soft spot in Paulette as they connected immediately when we shared their stories of divorce.
Rosalind is the Author of: How Do I Tell the Kids About the Divorce?
She created her book to answer that difficult question, How do I break the divorce news to him?
It’s creative, helpful and hopeful templates and scripts allow for the personalization of copy and photos to allow each child to walk through this new challenging chapter in their life.
You will find her website and network incredibly useful and practical.
Founder, Child-Centered Divorce Network
Every decision we make impacts the children. Even if we are struggling with the other parent it’s always vital to remember that they will always be a part of their lives.
Would I be making the same decision if we were still married? We find it easy to use “bad cop, good cop” with each other. But when the ego is involved or one spouse is trying to hurt the other the children suffer.
Roselind and Paulette discuss
What are the most common and dreadful mistakes parents make in the divorce process?
Fighting in front or earshot of the children
Asking them to take sides
Being a messenger/spy or intruding
Lying or manipulating
Bad mouthing the other parent
Creating child as confidant
Rosalind expertly defines and describes the extreme cases of Parent Alienation and reminds us that despite it all we are
role models for our children 24/7.
Surprise fact! Rosalind is also and expert on dating after divorce.
Check out her show!
Divorce, Dating & Empowered Living Radio Show/Podcast:
Dating In Mid-Life Mentor
Author: 99 Things Women Wish They Knew Before Dating After 40, 50 & Yes, 60!
No. 1 Blog: Best Resources for Divorced Parents and Separated Families List
National 1st Place Winner: Victorious Woman Award!
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Parenting After Divorce: www.childcentereddivorce.com/parenting-divorce
You don't want to miss this episode that breaks down the 4 options for the divorce process and clears away the confusion. As a divorce and travel expert Debbie shares her story (like some many others) of divorce and opportunity. Her credentials are impressive but her energy is infectious.
Debbie Martinez is the founder and president of Transformation thru Divorce where she provides divorce, post-divorce and co-parenting coaching. She is a certified mindful life coach, Florida Supreme Court Certified Family Mediator and Florida Supreme Court Qualified Arbitrator. Trained in collaborative divorce in Florida and South Carolina, Debbie currently serves on the board of the South Carolina Academy of Collaborative Professionals.
She has her MA from the University of South Florida in education and was a behavior specialist in the school system for five years before becoming a consultant in private practice. Media outlets of all sizes, including The New York Times, have recognized her expertise and professionalism. She gives workshops and lectures on various topics pertaining to divorce, self re-discovery, women’s issues and relationships. Debbie also writes a monthly divorce column for The Florida Villager Magazine and was a regular contributor to HuffPost.
Debbie brings her life experience and formal training into her coaching practice to empower and educate clients on their divorce journey and their new beginnings. More information, archived articles and interviews from her morning television segment, “Debbie Does Divorce,” can be found on transformationthrudivorce.com
email@example.com or call 305-984-5121
Join Stacie and Paulette as they walk down the path of divorce recovery after the pain and overwhelm of divorce. Divorce can be the catalyst for transformation and that was the case for both Stacie and Paulette. They met in Boston at an event for Mastin Kipp and again six months later in Bali where they went to join Mastin and his team of experts to write and five years later Stacie has not looked back. You will benefit from her experience and wisdom in this fun and insightful conversation.
Stacie McCoy has more than 25 years of experience directing and supporting early childhood education and non-profit family service programs in New England. For more than three years, she was fortunate to oversee her county’s Community Action Partnership Child and Family Services programs, including Head Start, Early Head Start, and Early Head Start Child Care Partnership programs, as well as CAPSC’s Healthy Families America and Comprehensive Family Support Services home visiting programs. She has supported adult education and parent journeys towards self-sufficiency, both as a program facilitator for the New Hampshire Employment Program’s Workplace Success Program and as a Learning and Development Specialist for Kaplan Higher Education.
As New Hampshire team Lead in Washington DC, Stacie worked with the National Head Start Association and state lawmakers, advocating for Head Start families. She was later honored with an invitation from the National Center on Early Childhood Health and Wellness and the American Academy of Pediatrics to be a panelist at the “Understanding How the Opioid Crisis and Substance Use Disorders Impact Head Start Children, Families, and Staff: Creating a Path Forward” Workshop in Washington, D.C. Her passion for healing the victims of, and her community as a whole from, the impact of substance misuse lead her to her most recent position as executive director of a recovery meeting house that provides meetings and support groups for people in New Hampshire and southern Maine 365 days of the year.
Professional and personal experience drives Stacie’s belief that individuals and families are best able to heal, transform, and shine brightly when met with a compassionate, strength-based approach. Continuing on her mission to help others on that path, she is in the process of building a practice focusing on guiding couples, parents, and businesses through the complicated layers of friction and conflict toward healing, resolution, and wellness.
Stacie lives in Rollinsford, New Hampshire, with her two amazing children and her guinea pig, Nan. She is an audiophile, an INFJ (Myers-Briggs says so), and is very much behind in editing the completed draft of her first book -- because she would much rather be on the sidelines and in the stands cheering wildly for her son and daughter. She can be reached at firstname.lastname@example.org and found sharing very occasional, pithy blog posts at thedatingrookie.blogspot.com.
Join Belinda and Paulette as they explore all possibilities and the spark of magic.
Belinda has been rescued by a turtle, learn to swim with a dolphins, played with a momma whale and her baby and even swam with sharks.
Belinda has overcome major life challenges—the suicide of her son, complete financial loss, and healing a degenerated spine without surgery. But all was not lost. By using ancient Hawaiian techniques and accepting responsibility for every aspect of her life, she was able to rise from the ashes, find her friggin’ joy, and now she’s sharing this invaluable information with others in her book,
Find Your Friggin’ Joy.
“This is a no-nonsense book for those who are willing to take an active part in their healing,” explains Farrell. “Chapter 2 is entitled ‘Sissies Turn Back’ because this book is going to challenge you at the core level to face what one must face in order to be free.
I had to do some deep soul searching which might be considered scary. A sissy would run away from something scary. This book is not for sissies.
I invite you to take a peek within these pages. I promise, as you do the inner work, and use the tools described within the chapters, you will not only discover what holds you back in life, but also find that friggin’ joy that’s been locked away for so long.”
In Find Your Friggin’ Joy, Farrell takes readers on a journey using ancient Hawaiian teachings that invite the reader to forgive themselves and others, unplug from their old non-productive stories, and step into the frequencies of their Higher Self. Connecting with these frequencies can heal your physical body, bring you back into balance, lighten your load, and fulfill your soul’s purpose.
Bio: Belinda Farrell, author of the book Find Your Friggin’ Joy, graduated with a BA in Spanish and English from the University of California at Berkeley and is trained in hypnotherapy, past life regression, NLP, Hawaiian chanting, and ancient Hawaiian healing (Huna). Belinda trained with Anthony Robbins (author of Unlimited Power) and has effectively used these skills in her own life. She has completed 18 firewalks.
When Belinda was forty-eight, she collapsed with herniated discs and spinal nerve damage. Threatened with paralysis by her medical doctors if she didn’t have surgery, Belinda instead chose to apply the ancient Hawaiian healing practices she had been learning the previous three years, which are covered in this book. Her back completely healed, including childhood scoliosis. For fifteen years she has been sharing these healing practices with others, offering Reconnective Healing and Huna classes and taking clients to Hawaii to teach Huna and swim with wild spinner dolphins.
You can find Belinda on her Website: www.HunaHealing.com
You don't want to miss this candid conversation with Author Suzanna Quintana and Paulette as they discuss the devastating and confusing experience of being in a relationship with a Narcissistic Abuser.
Suzanna's personal experience and insight will open your eyes into the "inappropriate behavior" of an abusive marriage and why so many stay in relationships of control and abuse on average of 7 years.
What are the warning signs that are so easy to overlook?
How does it feel to be in an emotional coma?
How does the silent treatment play a role in a relationship?
What is gaslighting?
What are the stages of Narcissistic abuse?
Suzanna Quintana is a writer, abuse survivor, feminist, divine rebel, and single mom of three sons. After escaping nearly two decades of abuse at the hands of a diagnosed Narcissist, she now helps other women recover, heal, and leave the pain behind them for good. Suzanna is the bestselling author of the new book, “You’re Still That Girl: Get Over Your Abusive Ex for Good!” Find her on Facebook and Instagram and on her website at www.suzannaquintana.com
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Join Paulette and Tammy Alvarez for this candid, light hearted yet powerful discussion about Women in Business!!
Tammy Alvarez is the CEO and founder of Coral Consulting Group, a business performance and leadership development firm that helps people grow and become strong transformational leaders.
Recognized globally as an award winning and patent holding transformation expert, Tammy has spent over twenty years as a senior executive leading complex global businesses for some of the worlds biggest companies in the technology and finance industries.
She was often the youngest and only woman at the leadership table which gave her a unique perspective and enables her to bring a pragmatic approach to coaching and leadership development.
Her passion for empowering women to lead authentically and reach their fullest potential inspired her to create Own Your Power!, a leadership development program serving women business leaders and entrepreneurs globally.
“I’ve seen too many talented women fail to meet their fullest potential and become increasingly disenfranchised. It doesn’t have to be that way. When strong women are at the leadership table, companies are more successful and everyone wins. I founded this company to help more women accelerate their careers on their own terms.”
~Tammy Alvarez Website links
Coral Consulting Group: www.coralconsultinggroup.com
CCG Women in Leadership: https://www.coralconsultinggroup.com/women-in-leadership
Social media links
Own Your Power! links
Free Webinar (Pre-registration link) https://www.tammyalvarez.com/pages/pre-register-webinar
Own Your Power! Program Link https://www.tammyalvarez.com/pages/own-your-power-masterclass
Are you struggling with your finances?
Do you feel like money is a Mafia Lord or a Comforting Advisor?
Join Paulette and Adina Laver as they discuss money, curiosity and authenticity.
Adina Laver is a brilliant educator and coach. With her MBA, Master’s in Education, former Principal, a Certified Professional Coach and Neuroscience Junkie she has the skills and insight to get you unstuck. Paulette and Adina chat about the current flawed divorce landscape and how they both are determined to help others get through the process with was little damage as possible, emotionally, mentally, physically and yes…financially.
Even though Adina was an experienced educator who taught internationally, a non-profit leader, a change manager and a leader to navigate change she was always contenting to grow and increase her skills and education. Her life all changed when she enrolled in a course in coaching and the instructor asked the question….List 3 things that make you HAPPY??
Well, this question sent her into a sweat!! Sad to say she confesses she had no idea that made me happy! I did hard work, obligation and commitment I didn’t do happy. She was terrified and couldn’t answer the question. Adina began to ask more thought provoking questions. How am I going to figure that out? If my life has not been centered around being happy what was it entered around? What has been the common theme surrounding all her decisions.
What do I need to do to seek approval? What do I need to do to win approval? How do I gain the most approval? I can relate MAN OH MAN!! Courage to be Curious was born. Money Mindset was created. Free women from old stories with learning to ask bold questions. If I can’t work through my stuff how can I help others? Adina and Paulette both share how Divorce shouldn’t just be a legal matter. Give then them the tools to become more authentic in and with themselves.
We start to ask our selves… Whats wrong with me? OR Blame the other person. Rejection is a real fear we all face. Judgement is real fear we all face. Question: What is the worst case scenario? Could you handle it and what would you do? Our subconscious can’t handle it so we avoid it. We learn to know what is a priority in living authentically. Dealing with old world ideologies and paradigms. Are you willing to accept the outcome? How do you cultivate the courage to ask those questions? We all have an Innate curiosity when we are younger and the diminishes as we age because we seek security and comfort.
Habituation causes it to be harder to create change as we get older. Curiosity as a skill but it is teachable. Like going to the gym. Courage and curiosity More you do it the easier it gets and the more success you have. And we all have curiosity with money too. It gives us a certain kind of freedom and yet it is one of those things we struggle with the most due to our relationship with money. How do we treat money?
We … Disrespect, Disengage, Surrender our power, Abuse, Hoard, Control, Fear, Paralysis...with money.
How do you suggest people start getting curious about their money mindset?
Adina gives us a few techniques and exercises. If money were a person what would they be? A loving advisor confidant father Mafia lord What’s your person? You can’t change it if you don’t own it.
Write down the last 5 interactions you had with money. Note emotions and thoughts in each of these. Shifts we need to make are subconscious!
You will find Adina Laver on her Facebook and Instagram page Courage to be Curious, and on Linkedin Adina Laver. For her free PDF downloads and webinars you will find her on: www.couragetobecurious.com Or you can email her directly at: Adina@couragetobecurious.com
Paulette and "Cat" both natives from Boston met by chance at the National Association of Divorce Professionals annual conference in Fort Lauderdale Florida last March 2019. It was instant hugs before chats and a business card exchange. They had so much in common besides experiencing endless traffic on Route 128.
Daughters who love and play ice hockey, difficult and expensive divorces, and authoring memoirs that pushed a few buttons.
Catharine is a true expert in her field and a tiny dynamo who shoots from the hip with clarity and conviction.
She is a:
Certified Divorce Coach
LICSW degree with Boston University
University of New Hampshire Certificate in Life Coaching
Assistant Director of National Association of Divorce Professionals Boston Chapter
Speaker and Author
Single mom for a vibrant 13 year old daughter who loves hockey
Cat shares her insight and expertise in mental health, coping with abuse and tips to get unstuck and move forward.
As a LICSW she just couldn't wrap her around around the client models where clients could get all of their needs met under one roof in mental health but they couldn't find that same holistic mindset in the divorce professional world.
Can you really get all your needs met in one location?
Where all services are addressed in a streamlined approach.
Where all professionals work together as a team.
Knowing at the heart of the matter it is in helping the children of divorce that matters.
Paulette and Cat discuss how they themselves had zero idea what they were doing and in surviving the hard way searched to learn to find a better solution to help others.
We all know the statistics. 50 percent of marriages end in divorce.
Cat believes that unless we slow down and journal and write our story we can’t heal.
This lack of healing also make us feel crazy. It makes us question everything.
Or experiences just don't seem real.
We walk around with sense of shame and regret.
We are left to feel isolated and alone.
Writing creates a sense of not feeling alone anymore and building a community as well as being able to serve others who are struggling.
We discuss how vital it is to let go so we don't have to carry it around with us anymore.
How does writing and sharing allow us to define ourselves and our story on our terms.
Neither Cat nor Paulette believe that writers write to throw people under the bus.
They don't want anyone reading their books and come out feeling like a victim.
The author and reader choose not to stay in the victim mode.
We ask the question: How do you survive haters, judgement and blame?
It's all about community and friends who supported you. You need community to heal and feel heard and understood.
We all start to question: Was my perspective valid?
This is my story. I am strong enough to tell it. Heal from it and move into a new better, healthier life.
Of course we are going to disagree
It’s my story.
It’s nobody else's.
There are 20 different ways to tell a story.
Anytime we tell out story it is triggering to someone else and our own vulnerabilities show up.
Therapy is about healing the past.
Writing the book is healing.
Coaching moving forward
Being emotionally free is the answer.
We can help you find your way.
You can find Catharine Blake at:
This episode is dedicated to those who strive to research and know what they buy, why they buy it and what they put it on their skin.
Julie Levin of Aspen Colorado shares her education, her commitment and her passion to organic plant based skin care, Owner and curator of "Leaf People" Certified Organic Plant Based skin care brand hand made in Aspen Colorado.
Julie Grew up in a very rural area of Alaska Worked in an organic bakery as a teen that sparks her curiosity in organics Dependent on the environment for food Wild Foraging for food and watching the populations of wildlife She then went to college and had an epiphany that she needed to travel Her trip around the world backpacking and hitchhiking around the world. First stop in Australia with a Friend who studied naturopath medicine in a professional setting. This is something I can actually do??
This experience Inspired me to seek out indigenous medicines, healers that ted her to South America, Andes and Eurpose. European studies were the beginning of naturopathic practices. This led her to land on a boat and found herself in Hong Kong studying Traditional Chines Medicine (TCM) She found herself meditating in the trees and blending both types of studies.
Julie then continued her schooling formally where she studied back in the states and met her herbalist mentor of now 20 plus years. How does someone who traveled the world learning all about different cultures view point of medicine cope with adjusting to the western view? Difficulty in adjusting to CVS mentality. Julie discusses her ability to agree to disagree mentality when she ran into the abrasive edge of judgement. Even Julie’s traditional MD friend working in Women’s Health and General Medicine is prescribing turmeric for anti inflammatory!! We discuss the difference between the training in cosmetic chemistry lab based based verses botanically based training. Julie shares a story about a skin oil that evaporates as soon as it hits your skin and how toxic that is.
Organic plant based products are primarily concerned about the environment and our awareness of doing as little harm as possible to humans and the earth. Julie educates us about the phenomenon of Greenwashing. How can we combat greenwashing? Companies will pretend to be organic . Know the person behind your company. More care in a small company Finding companies that have the priority to be transparent Julie Levin is all that.
You can find Julie Levin by emailing her: email@example.com www.leafpeople.com And of course Facebook, Instagram at Leafpeople
HAPPY AND AMAZED Joanne Johnson joins Paulette for this compassionate and inspirational hour of awareness. Joanne has always seen the world a little differently and because of that she has experienced some AMAZING things.
She will remind people of their true inner power and to use all of the spiritual knowledge and life experiences to make peace with their sorrows and embrace the life they were meant to live. She was never excited about life until he learned how to focus on the power of purpose and truly change her inner world just by thinking and feeling.
The possibilities are endless and She cannot wait to share the empowerment that comes from understanding your worth, your goodness and your ability to have what you want! She knows there are millions out there looking for the missing piece, wanting so much to understand why they aren’t getting what they want in life and She cannot wait to impact their lives in a meaningful way! Joanne is a gorgeous gift and inspirers all who have found the courage to leave abusive marriages.
Call it what you will! Vegan, Compassionate Eating, Plant Based, Whole Foods, Organic etc etc etc...
This is with out a doubt the number one curiosity Paulette and Elizabeth are asked about on a daily basis.
Both of us share our journey to finding this growing "diet" and lifestyle years and we do mean years before it became cool, chic or mainstream,
If you are playing with the idea OR as we like to say "flirting" with the concept of letting go of animal foods you will not want to miss this episode!!
In this episode, we talk about the definition of cheating in a relationship.
Elizabeth and Paulette share their own vulnerable and personal experience with the temptations outside of a relationship.
There appears to be a lot of confusion with the popularity of online communication, texting, email and social media.
Join us as we explore how this new age of communication has changed so many peoples definition of infidelity and how to survive the current confusion.
Join Elizabeth and Paulette as they give you specific tips to simplify and clarify your gratitude process.
We have to choose to be grateful, what are you choosing today?
Please share this episode with anyone who may need this message!
See you next week!
A first hand preview! Elizabeth Ann Stanley and Paulette Gloria Harwood
Dishing the Dirt together on Dating After Divorce. Our first studio video podcast. We would love to hear from you...firstname.lastname@example.org
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Welcome to Thriving in Chaos.
We strive to bring you the best in wellness, nutrition and creating a diet that sustains you. Today we bring to you
Michale Hartte: Certified Herbalist, Personal Trainer, Nutrition Expert and Wellness Expert as she shares she struggles with eating, diet and living a healthy authentic life.
17 years of yoga practice
Met Paulette in Belize
Took Paulette’s Aerial yoga class.
It was Michale’s first experience!
She shares her experience and immediate connection with Paulette and Steven.
Her Wellness Journey!
Michale shared her story growing up and dealing with weight issues
Struggling with messages she received
“I got really good at not eating” Oh my what a confession.
At the age of 14 her aunt’s comments began to effect her
Anorexia battles …although not diagnosed
Embarrassed by MD comments
You have the body of an 80 old
You are on your way to death
Afraid of dying
I ate what ever was out there
I was afraid of food!
Stopped having menstrual cycle
Osteoporosis at age 32
Medication was the answer according to the experts
Started to look at what to do
Naturopath view point
Eat only real food
Read my body
Infatuated learning about natural health
51 she is the vision of strength, wisdom and confidence.
Degree in nutrition
Edison institute of applied science
Unblocks the body to detoxify
Certified Personal Trainer
Helping others is her purpose
Food is nutrition
Find out what is best for their bodies
Sleep is essential
Quantum physics studies
Have to be outside to make our bodies burn fat
dopamine made while you are outside
White fat to keep you warm
Brown fat tissue is insulating
Cold verses warmth
Eating all the time is unhealthy
Take breaks from food
Women 14 hours fast is essential
Learn when to eat?
Blueprint is key to knowing your unique bodies chemistry and needs
Eat in midday when digestion is highest.
Our bodies have the highest concentration of hydrochloric acid.
4 steps to creating a healthy meal.
Need to balance blood sugar
1. Where’s your protein…too many carbohydrates in AM
2. Plants are medicine and fiber
3. Don’t eat fruit that isn’t grown in your environment
4. Eliminate grains first month of diet change
5. Fats in diet…fatty liver issue… …one teaspoon per meal
Use a variety of fats
Olive Oil …super fuel
Herbs and spices
You can’t go wrong with real food
One liter of water immediately in the AM
Allows body to burn fat
Eat when we are hungry
Stop when we are 80% full
We think we are hungry but we are actually dehydrated
Michale suggestions for meals
it’s all about planning and doing the work.
You can find her on Social Media and her website
Let's Welcome Joan Barry to The Podcast!
She has given approximately 70 speeches to educate women about the dangers of human trafficking.
We talk about the devastation of Human Trafficking and it’s effect of exploitation of women has a society as a whole.
2.5 Million people per year
40-50% are children
80% are women
ACCORDING TO INTERNATIONAL DEFINITION, HUMAN TRAFFICKING MEANS: “THE RECRUITMENT, TRANSPORTATION, TRANSFER, HARBOURING OR PURCHASE OF PERSONS FOR THE SOLE PURPOSE OF EXPLOITATION.”
Typically, human beings are being disposed of, as if they were goods or objects which can be bought or sold irrationally. Trafficking exploits human beings for income, whether through sex, forced labour or human organs.
Traffickers take advantage of poverty, lack of prospects, and hope for a better future, by tricking and luring their victims into other countries.
Whether they emigrate legally or illegally, they then go with false promises of work or prospective marriages.
Upon their arrival, the victims are coerced into dependence through debt bondage, violence or drugs, therefore becoming “exploited” goods.
They are deprived of their personal rights, freedom of speech, independence and self-respect.
People who are looking for:
• A better future
• Money and opportunity
Those who are most vulnerable
• Deceitful advertisements
• Agreements with trusted family members or friends
• False lovers (loverboys) ….take time to interview them/grooming
• Kidnapping ..force is involved
150 Billion Industry
To get involved, please Contact Joan at:
With so much love and compassion,
Join Elizabeth and Paulette as they discuss...
Rebuilding the self before we venture into any new relationship
Loss of the familiar
Loss of the comfortable
Getting in touch with the self
Sitting in silence
Step ONE- accepting the grief as being an essential part of the process
allowing ourselves to "feel" the feelings of grief in order to assimilate and process them
Consider a few simple tasks at hand
It doesn’t happen over night
One drawer at a time
One shelf at a time
One minute at time
Reclaiming who we are
Building relationships with people who lift us up
Love us unconditionally
Find the beauty in life
Read…self help books/“shelf help” books
Connecting to God or Universal Power
Join a support group
Find other women going through a similar transition
Practice Extreme Self Care
Important here to remind ourselves and everyone that LIFE change in all areas is difficult
When we are faced with change of any kind is a loss
All require a shift in thinking and action.
After we get done with the finger pointing and blame…
Its all their fault…it’s all my fault
Mercury is retrograde
If I only took better care of myself
I should have known better
What the hell was I thinking
Go through an array of emotions
Need to create a self care plan
Have to do the work
Transformation and change is only possible if you can let go…do the work…heal, rebirth and rebuild.
The only way to get through the pain is to feel it first.
One has to embrace it and walk through the fire
Examine what, if anything is currently working and serving us
And not until that time and healing has occurred
When to consider making changes
When you are safe
When you are strong
When you are healing
When you are free to do so
When the "old you" is ready for a "new you"
When you can handle the game and possible rejection
When you are ready to play again
What needs to change?
First ask yourself and write down your answers
Can I move on?
Do I want to move on?
How can I move on?
If the hint of an answer is YES…
Next ask yourself 3 questions and write down your answers
What’s one thing you’re doing right now not because it’s true for you, but because you feel it’s expected of you.
What’s one courageous change you’d like to make to be more true to yourself.
What’s the first action step you can take now?
Finding ourself and healing after loss of any kind is not a quick fix but a beautiful journey into a new unimaginable life
It’s a long careful detailed approach to deciding our next best step…
My journey into healing started by cleaning up my diet…
Paulette jokes that she lived on Snickers bars and Diet Coke…but It’s true..
Her idea of a healthy meal was a greek salad from a pizza joint
I had to clean up my diet
I had to clean up my buying habits
I had to clean up my relationships
I had to clean up my wor
Sit back and enjoy this candid and uplifting interview with one of the most inspiring and knowledgable women promoting eco-friendly, sustainable and gorgeous jewelry, soaps, candles and handcrafted artistry. She shares with us how Island Organics and KiCo Jewelry was created. We discuss the environment, female entrepreneurship and her vision for the future.
The Divorce Deluge: Is anyone happily married anymore?
Let’s love our gentleman. We don’t want to neglect them.
There are good ones and highly evolved ones.
When we learn to keep our heart open and continue to try in our personal love, we reap amazing benefits.
Check out our new episode where we dive deep into these topics! You can find me and @healthygirlholisticlifestyle on the podcast every Wednesday at 8am CST! The link is in my bio!
I mean come on...
What are the current statistics of Divorce?
50% for the first marriage...
67% for the second,
and 73% third...
YIKES! They aren’t good!!
We must discern that our partner is a good mate and then work to make it a success.
We have a pretty hard-wired belief system engrained in us as children….
At 23, I felt intense pressure to get married and fit in.
I felt like I had to do what was expected of me...
-Dressed up as a bride
-Dreamt about the wedding
-My Goal was to find a husband, first and foremost
The right person, the right time, the right connection.
THEN the midlife crisis really is a crying out for wanting to feel alive again.
You can’t fight for something that doesn’t exist.
If something is harming our spirit, we must let it go.
Why are Millennials not marrying?
Their spiritual standpoint.
Don’t need a piece of paper.
They are there because they choose to be there not because they have to.
They have seen their parents struggle: lie, cheat, and disrespect each other.
The staying together for the children epidemic (ages 30-50)
Because it is only a piece of paper.
Getting a divorce was the best decision I ever made …
Marrying the wrong person doesn’t make them a bad person.
We all deserve to be happy.
We are taught we are sinners if we leave so we stay.
What does a happy marriage look like?
Marriage is not an obligation but a genuine connection.
Your partner makes you the best version of you you can be.
They bring out the best in you and you do the same for them.
That is all I want for everyone, is to be happy. To support you in your decision to work on the marriage, to divorce gracefully and to find a happy life, no matter what. If you are not sure about your next steps, I have a FREE 30 minute Audio Training to help you decide what is next for you.
Download it at www.paulettegloriaharwood.com/gracefully-divorce
All you need is LESS,
We love you,
Paulette & Elizabeth
Latest episode of Thriving In Chaos: with Paulette Gloria Harwood and Elizabeth Ann Stanley
Fear of change is our obstacle
What is Uncomfortable?
Need to feel comfortable at all times
It’s all we know
Creatures of habit
Moments where I need to create chaos
As we contemplate?
Am I worthy of this?
Am in ready for this?
Like an “addiction”
What does that do to our behaviour and our habits?
NEED to create conflict
It dictates our behaviour and habits
Kids are outside less time then people in prison
70 minutes a day ..it’s the LAW
Why are we afraid of change?
Abhinevesa (fear of death that prevents us from living fully)
Why do you want to fit in so badly?
Others opinions are paramount
Bombardment of Advertisements
Community of similar people
Validation from masses
If you think differently watch out
Free thinking women were branded witches
Who creates the popular paradigm
Keeping up with the Jones!!
What will the neighbors think?
Worry about ruining the image of perfection
Didn’t want to bust the bubble
Fake it til you make it ….pretending all is well
Become real and raw and passionate about living an authentic life
Create a connection and community
Allow for insight and different POV
Creating a different paradigm
Start to watch your thoughts
Ask yourself what fits
What do you need to change?
I wanted so badly to fit in and conform as a kids
Fur coat to school
Sequins in the toilet
Lipstick stain from dance recitals
We did that!
To download your FREE PDF Journaling prompts and receive a One Hour Strategy session, go to www.paulettegloriaharwood.com/gracefully-divorce.
In addition it will give you a link to join my private closed confidential Facebook group and sign up for a FREE strategy call!
I am looking forward to speaking with you and guiding you through this journey wisely!
Nothing but the best,
Latest episode of Thriving In Chaos: with Paulette Gloria Harwood and Elizabeth Ann Stanley shownotes.
We share what is our fly in your chardonnay.
BOOK patience: such a long process
building a launch team
Surrender has a connotation of allowing the universe to hold you and nurture you and take care of everything
but in reality
letting go is releasing our attachment to the outcome
letting the process of healing begin when we stop forcing and stop trying to control every blink of our eye, every conversation, every act
Mentor Cheryl Richardson
Grace Cards AMAZING
when we release our attachment to the outcome we allow the power of grace to work its magic!
We want to control everything
and stay comfortable
it can change
busy doesn’t allow us to get to know someone completely
How do we release the constant desire to stay busy?
We have to take the "bull" by the horns
We spoke last time
of our constant need to stay busy to DO something
we are human beings not human doings….
The opposite of addiction isn’t sobriety …it’s connection.
False sense of connection.
a lack of connection to self, to others and to community
and a feeling of being controlled by others and situations
“busy” Is the new popular
allowing situations to unfold slowly, naturally and dare I say organically
slowing down and simplification is key…
finding what’s really essential
The concept of minimalism.
Cottage bed sink one pair shoes but that’s not it…
Toxic people minimalizing stuff, and distractions
weeding out the things in m life
The concept of essentialism verses minimalism.
Important to you
what adds value and allows you to share your gifts with the world
contribution is KEY
Tuning into self.
Awarefulness (I know I know it’s not a word)
Elizabeth and Paulette share their particular moment in time that woke them UP??
purge and prune
dump and dwindle
Write down all that you want to accomplish in 6-18 months
Loose things off your list
Keep peeling away
ask yourself 3 things
What is the pay off for making this happen? Impact
How well this project ultimately benefit others?
Who will I have to become in order to make this goal or project a reality. What qualities do I need to embody to be my best self?
carrying the weight of the world
blame and shame
scar and burden
like a tattoo
exfoliate the soul
15 years is a long time to carry anything.
we are not perfect
we are speaking from experience
walked out of the fire
anyway spending with us
real women with a purpose
awake with the possibility
shine the light
idea in their head
deeply grateful for this opportunity
It’s never too late to be the best possible version of ourselves.
Less is More
See you next